How to Be a Lady. Hmmm…Sensuous through behavior? Absolutely.

Something that made dievca think…

dievca was looking up the word ladylike and ran into a “wikihow” article written for young adults and socialites.

Master’s submissive, dievca, never wants to embarrass her Master with poor manners, poor dress, or poor behavior.  So, she decided to review the article and make sure that her behavior is up to snuff.

Manners, attitudes, and styles of dress change over time, so has the conventional understanding of what it means to be a “lady.” The term may seem outdated, there are certain aspects of ladylike behavior that are undying: elegance, courteousness, and a sense of respect toward oneself and others. Read this article to learn how to be a true modern-day lady.

Part 1 of 3: Behaving Like a Lady

  1. Make introductions. If you are talking to one person and another person approaches, introduce the person you were initially talking to the person who has just arrived.
  2. Say please and thank you. While this may sound like an etiquette cliché, forgetting to say these things (even on accident) will not go unnoticed, and comes across as very rude
  3. Know when to say no. Being polite doesn’t mean being passive and letting others take advantage of you. It is important to learn how to politely tell people no.
  4. Educate yourself. A lady is eloquent and can carry a conversation. This requires being well-read and staying up-to-date on the current events of the world. While this doesn’t necessarily require formal education, attaining the highest possible level of education that you can will be to your benefit
  5. Have good posture. Standing and sitting up straight are signs of a true lady. As an added bonus, having good posture is better for your back, and will help strengthen up your core! It will take some training to get used to this, especially if you are accustomed to slouching.
  6. Be respectful toward others. Being a lady isn’t just about looking or behaving properly on the outside; it involves being a good person on the inside.
  7. Be charming. A true lady doesn’t just sit there quietly and let the world pass her by. She engages with other people, carries stimulating conversations, and is a subtle flirt.
  8. Don’t use profanity, overeat or drink excessively. Being a lady requires having self-control and will power, and each of these activities is an example of overindulgence.
  9. Be respectful when visiting others’ homes. When you are a guest in somebody else’s home, allow the host/hostess to tell you where to sit, where to leave your purse, whether or not to take off your shoes, and so on.
  10. Hold the door open for others. It doesn’t matter whether you are a man or a woman, offering to hold the door open for other people is respectful and friendly.
  11. Stay calm, cool, and collected. Avoiding lashing out at others if you are annoyed, angry, or upset. Remain poised, and handle the situation rationally and calmly. This will prevent you from doing or saying things in the heat of the moment that you will regret later.

Part 2 of 3: Dressing Like a Lady

  1. Maintain your personal hygiene. This will keep you looking and smelling your best, and more importantly, prevent infections and other illnesses. 

  2. Dress elegantly. This means dressing appropriately for the occasion, your body type, and your age. Use your best judgment to determine what clothes are most appropriate for you.
  3. Keep your clothing clean and pressed. Iron your clothes to remove any wrinkles, and be sure to wash your clothes if they are stained.
  4. Don’t wear excessive makeup or revealing clothing. Elegance requires minimalism; wear makeup to accentuate your beauty, not to cover it up.

Part 3 of 3: Proper Table Etiquette

  1. Don’t start eating before the meal has started. If you are at a restaurant, wait until everybody’s meal has arrived before you start to eat. When at a dinner party, wait for the host/hostess to unfold his or her napkin and begin eating.
  2. Don’t speak with food in your mouth. It is not only rude, it can actually ruin other peoples’ appetites.
  3. Excuse yourself when necessary. If you need to get up from the table to go to the restroom, then let others know where you are going.
  4. Don’t text or talk on the phone. Not only will it disturb other patrons if you are in a restaurant, it is disrespectful to the person/people you are eating with, especially if one of them has cooked the meal for you. Wait until the end of the meal to make phone calls.
  5. Leave your elbows off of the table. This rule applies only when you are actually eating. If the food has not yet arrived, or if you are sitting at a table drinking water or other beverages, then it is acceptable to rest your elbows on the table.
  6.  Cut your food into bite-sized portions. Not only is it healthier than taking huge bites, it will give you the opportunity to quickly chew and swallow your food if somebody asks you a question when you have food in your mouth. Nothing is more frustrating (and embarrassing) than having somebody ask you a question right after you have taken a huge bite of food!
  7.  Only grab for things on the table that are within your reach. Otherwise, ask somebody to please hand it to you..
  8.  Remember to use your napkin. Clean your fingers or blot your lips when necessary.
  9.  Make proper thanks. Be sure to thank the waiter/waitress if you are at a restaurant, and thank the host/hostess if you are at a dinner party. Compliment the food when dining with the person who has cooked it.

It never hurts to be reminded or re-educated on manners. dievca needs to work on the profanity usage portion – ugh!

5 Comments on “How to Be a Lady. Hmmm…Sensuous through behavior? Absolutely.”

  1. Pelelotus says:

    How about just a be a good, courteous, honest person rather than focus on how a woman should behave? Personally I think you can be a lady and swear, just have to choose the time and place.


  2. Errantsatiety says:

    Errant needs to work on her table manners, smaller bite sized portions will solve the awkwardness of being watched while chewing as people wait for my reply to their question. There is nothing elegant about pointing to your full mouth in explanation or a muffled ‘just a moment’ while trying to cover your mouth!


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