A Conversation About “50 Shades of Grey”Posted: March 6, 2015
Master rarely has suggestions for dievca’s blog.
It is His dievca’s gig, her outlet.
Then one morning Master and dievca were talking about the movie “50 Shades of Grey” coming out and Master asked if dievca was going to see it.
“No, I never read the books and the movie trailer looks awful.”
Master replied, “Don’t your girlfriend’s want to do a Chick Flick night?”
dievca’s answer, “No, no one has even mentioned it.”
“The thing that bothered me is that it is a Harlequin Romance, a Mills & Boon novel – not a true portrayal of BDSM. The poor, weak wallflower is saving the rich tycoon.”
“You don’t have to be rich to be a Dom and you don’t have to be poor or weak to be a sub.”
“dievca, why don’t you write about that?”
“Ah, I guess I just did…”
Dominants and submissives come from all walks of Life. Being a Billionaire of unknown means does not make someone a Dom, being poor doesn’t make someone a submissive. There are many wealthy, high-powered people who want to submit as an expression or release of their personality. Perhaps to create a balance in their life. (comment made by Elle on her post about FSOG).
Often times a Dominant just is — He/She has those traits in their genes, it flows through their personality and actions. If they chose to follow through with a D/s relationships there is a great deal of responsibility: time, commitment, trust, honesty, communication skills, etc. A great deal of work — you cannot buy your way out of that.
A submissive may be shy, retiring, gentle in their daily life. But, there are others who are commanding and dominant in public, who look for release from those responsibilities as a submissive.
dievca sees “50 Shades of Grey” as a fairy tale. One where the poor young peasant girl gets the Prince on her terms. Something with kinky sex, but not a true life portrayal of a safe, sane, consensual BDSM relationship. That is probably why the Soccer Moms bought the book to read on their kindle in the first place–who wouldn’t want to read a sexual fairy tale?
Uhhhh….not dievca. she prefers “Cinderella”.
A key statement about FSOG? “This is not REALITY”.
Sorry to discuss something that dievca has not researched fully, but she really cannot bring herself to do her due diligence….sigh.