¡Mañana, mañana, mañana!Posted: June 17, 2015
dievca, as a young adult, tended to be late arriving at appointments and events. Always pushing the time limits, getting ready at the last moment, almost missing planes and trains, hiding her arrival so no one could figure out how late she arrived at an event, making excuses, etc.
Then she worked in Europe for several years, northern Europe in particular.
dievca’s behavior had to change for her to be taken seriously. dievca’s view of being on time and her way of cancelling meetings had to change.
How did she do it?
- she checked-in on her mental health issues which were slowing her down
- she got to bed earlier
- she stopped over-scheduling her day
- she stopped getting distracted by inconsequential things
- she finally realized that she didn’t work as fast as she thought she did
- she stopped blaming others and owned up to her lateness
You will rarely wait for dievca if you are planning to meet. And if she is late or has to cancel, you will know ASAP and she will be sincerely sorry for her behavior.
Most Americans do not match her on this~
Normally, dievca knows the cultural differences and can change her tolerance to match the people involved. But, she has found when it comes to appointments scheduled with professionals and businesses, especially those professionals who charge for a missed appointment…dievca has no patience for their late cancellations and rescheduling.
To her it becomes:
¡Mañana, mañana, mañana!
- One mañana means tomorrow.
- Two mañanas (¡Mañana, mañana!) mean later.
- Three mañanas (¡Mañana, mañana, mañana!) mean never.
Now, a late cancellation could be because of something legitimate but dievca wants to just forget that individual/business and go somewhere else for whatever she requires. If dievca doesn’t move on to another business — she becomes short and snippy. Not good.
Can you tell that something like this just happened to dievca? and it is preying on her mind?
she has talked to a few people about this terribly late cancellation and the solutions she gets vary depending upon the person’s nationality, age and sex.
- Person in the same profession — “look for someone else”
- Person who referred the individual — “be patient, there was an issue”
- Person from Northern Europe — “look for someone else”
- Young Male Person — “reschedule, it’s no big deal”
- Older Male Person — “you chose the wrong person”
- Young Female Person — “give them a second chance”
- Older Female Person –“if you did that to them, they would charge you”
What did dievca do?
¡Mañana, mañana! she scheduled for later — but she was snippy doing it.
Hopefully, this solution will be worth the aggravation…
BTW, Master is always on time/early and cancels on time. XO
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