¡Mañana, mañana, mañana!
Posted: June 17, 2015 Filed under: Home and Garden | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Dominant, Master, submissive, time 18 Comments
dievca, as a young adult, tended to be late arriving at appointments and events. Always pushing the time limits, getting ready at the last moment, almost missing planes and trains, hiding her arrival so no one could figure out how late she arrived at an event, making excuses, etc.
Then she worked in Europe for several years, northern Europe in particular.
dievca’s behavior had to change for her to be taken seriously. dievca’s view of being on time and her way of cancelling meetings had to change.
dievca changed.
How did she do it?
- she checked-in on her mental health issues which were slowing her down
- she got to bed earlier
- she stopped over-scheduling her day
- she stopped getting distracted by inconsequential things
- she finally realized that she didn’t work as fast as she thought she did
- she stopped blaming others and owned up to her lateness
You will rarely wait for dievca if you are planning to meet. And if she is late or has to cancel, you will know ASAP and she will be sincerely sorry for her behavior.
Most Americans do not match her on this~
Normally, dievca knows the cultural differences and can change her tolerance to match the people involved. But, she has found when it comes to appointments scheduled with professionals and businesses, especially those professionals who charge for a missed appointment…dievca has no patience for their late cancellations and rescheduling.
To her it becomes:
¡Mañana, mañana, mañana!
- One mañana means tomorrow.
- Two mañanas (¡Mañana, mañana!) mean later.
- Three mañanas (¡Mañana, mañana, mañana!) mean never.
Now, a late cancellation could be because of something legitimate but dievca wants to just forget that individual/business and go somewhere else for whatever she requires. If dievca doesn’t move on to another business — she becomes short and snippy. Not good.
Can you tell that something like this just happened to dievca? and it is preying on her mind?
she has talked to a few people about this terribly late cancellation and the solutions she gets vary depending upon the person’s nationality, age and sex.
- Person in the same profession — “look for someone else”
- Person who referred the individual — “be patient, there was an issue”
- Person from Northern Europe — “look for someone else”
- Young Male Person — “reschedule, it’s no big deal”
- Older Male Person — “you chose the wrong person”
- Young Female Person — “give them a second chance”
- Older Female Person –“if you did that to them, they would charge you”
What did dievca do?
¡Mañana, mañana! she scheduled for later — but she was snippy doing it.
Hopefully, this solution will be worth the aggravation…
BTW, Master is always on time/early and cancels on time. XO
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Lateness can be see as discourteous. As if other people’s time is not as valuable as yours. I hate it when someone keeps you waiting unnecessarily. Good that you own to your own lateness and address what you needed to do change. Most would be defensive and never look at their own conduct.
I was bad as a kid, so I had to change. But, I guess as a young person it is all about you until you decide to grow up a bit.
it used to take me 1 bus and 3 trains to get into manhattan…so if there was a transit issue i would be late and there was nothing to be done about it except apologize. in those days, pre-cell phone, at least if i could i would look for a working telephone and make a phone call. now since i work from home and have no real social life, i am on-time because i’m either walking to or being picked up 🙂 xx p.s. people who show up really early then try to rush me really piss me off
I promise that I don’t arrive too early — just very close to “on time”. I will tell you that some places in Northern Europe — a 7 am pick-up means 6:50 am. XO
a 7 pm pick-up with my sister involved means i have to be ready a half hour earlier, because i’ll get a phone call from the road saying she’ll be there in 5 minutes and if i’m not ready, all hell breaks loose 😦
This is one of Oberon’s pet peeves. He’s actually sent an invoice to those who would send him one if he had cancelled last minute!
Sooo…did he get paid? 😀
No, but he made his point. He never waits in that office and they don’t dare cancel on him without ample notice. 😊
Then the ploy worked! Hmm, might have to use it in the future. XO
Let me know how it goes for you. 🌻💜🌻
I totally get it, would be as annoyed as you. Hope they appreciate this second chance though (plus, all good things to those who wait) xxx
The appointment went well, but I ran into an issue the next time I scheduled….
I’m third phase..learn from experience…tell everyone up front your cancellation policies..24 hours required. Otherwise they pay. Unless they know what you think, hold the peace because the goodwill/moral ground remains with you.. xxx
I had to learn how not to be late, too. I blew a job in NYC with Chanel and got a huge wakeup call at the ripe old age of 20! I made similar lifestyle changes. Now, I adjust so I can almost always be 15 min early. That 15 min is necessary to clear my head and make clothing adjustments after a long commute or to drink some water and use the ladies room to freshen up. I don’t like being flustered and much prefer to walk into appointments confidently and gracefuly.
Very true, but sometimes I fall the other way and end up stuck in traffic, miss a bus/train, etc. and run late to M’s and have a meltdown about it. I’m almost never late, so M. had to talk to me and say, “take it easy on yourself”.
I hear those same words. Life will happen unexpectedly and that’s when flexibility and humor come into play.
the old dievca would do well on Jamaican time… no worries, mon.
Ahhh, the “Old dievca” was in that place many moons ago. Ah, well. 😉