“manners maketh man”Posted: November 18, 2015
GOOD manners is the art of making those people easy with whom we converse.
Whoever makes the fewest persons uneasy is the best bred in the company.
Pride, ill nature, and want of sense, are the three great sources of ill manners; without some one of these defects, no man will behave himself ill for want of experience; or of what, in the language of fools, is called knowing the world.
I defy any one to assign an incident wherein reason will not direct us what we are to say or do in company, if we are not misled by pride or ill nature.
So that the difference between good breeding and good manners lies in this, that the former cannot be attained to by the best understandings, without study and labour; whereas a tolerable degree of reason will instruct us in every part of good manners, without other assistance.
English Essays: Sidney to Macaulay.
The Harvard Classics. 1909–14.
A Treatise on Good Manners and Good Breeding
dievca has been thinking about good manners lately. she deals with different people from many walks of life and has learned that Good Manners are not driven by income, education or Faith.
Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you have that awareness, you have good manners, no matter which fork you use.
What are they driven by?
“I don’t care at all about all your rules if they don’t have any kindness behind them.”
~Mr. Smith Goes to Washington
dievca has a theory that they are taught by parents, a cherished family member or close friend early, then developed by usage and awareness.
You have to be aware and conscious to truly have good manners.
dievca likes to think she has good manners, but…
dievca has a friend where Manners and Etiquette are so ingrained in him that it is a beautiful masterpiece to watch him open a door for a Lady. Seamless. Elegant.
He is so aware and has a 6th sense of timing.
Master is good, but He cannot hold a candle to dievca’s friend….it takes constant awareness.
Are you aware?