“manners maketh man”

manners quote_hathawayGOOD manners is the art of making those people easy with whom we converse.

Whoever makes the fewest persons uneasy is the best bred in the company.

Pride, ill nature, and want of sense, are the three great sources of ill manners; without some one of these defects, no man will behave himself ill for want of experience; or of what, in the language of fools, is called knowing the world.

I defy any one to assign an incident wherein reason will not direct us what we are to say or do in company, if we are not misled by pride or ill nature.

So that the difference between good breeding and good manners lies in this, that the former cannot be attained to by the best understandings, without study and labour; whereas a tolerable degree of reason will instruct us in every part of good manners, without other assistance.

English Essays: Sidney to Macaulay.
The Harvard Classics.  1909–14.
A Treatise on Good Manners and Good Breeding
Jonathan Swift

dievca has been thinking about good manners lately.  she deals with different people from many walks of life and has learned that Good Manners are not driven by income, education or Faith.

Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others.  If you have that awareness, you have good manners, no matter which fork you use.
~Emily Post

What are they driven by?

“I don’t care at all about all your rules if they don’t have any kindness behind them.”
~Mr. Smith Goes to Washington

dievca has a theory that they are taught by parents, a cherished family member or close friend early, then developed by usage and awareness.

You have to be aware and conscious to truly have good manners.

dievca likes to think she has good manners, but…

dievca has a friend where Manners and Etiquette are so ingrained in him that it is a beautiful masterpiece to watch him open a door for a Lady. Seamless. Elegant.
He is so aware and has a 6th sense of timing.

Master is good, but He cannot hold a candle to dievca’s friend….it takes constant awareness.

Are you aware?

Opening a Car Door


19 Comments on ““manners maketh man””

  1. Manners is the mark of a gentleman.

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  2. missagathaarmstrong says:

    You are a girl after my own heart. Manners and kindest … my two constant companions.

    Even in my most furious moments… my manners are always good….

    And there is nothing, nothing more beautiful and sexy than a man with manners.

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    • dievca says:

      You are much better than me, my Manners drop when I am hurt or angry and then I try to gather them back up at the end of my tirade.

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      • missagathaarmstrong says:

        My poor daughter is struggling. She is surrounded by othe kids who don’t know or possibly even care about manners… but she holds strong and keeps her manners as she knows how powerful they can be x

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  3. Pelelotus says:

    Indeed manners show respect to others. Bet your gentleman friend has women falling at his feet. X

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    • dievca says:

      I have to say you are right. My friend has Women who would love to give him the time of day — it’s funny to watch because he has no clue. And M? All His former girlfriends and subs still call – makes me smile (and roll eyes, some times.)

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  4. Heartafire says:

    Love the purse and scarf. Can someone let Hef in …. No pjs no speedos

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  5. esther says:

    i hate when men open doors for me…if i am ahead i can open the door myself (unless i am juggling 20 pounds of groceries)…then it would be gracious to hold open a door for me. xx

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    • dievca says:

      Read an article about this — developing a post. I completely understand. But, if the courtesies are done well, you wouldn’t be annoyed by them. I really believe that~

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  6. WHen I first met a man with these types of manners I actually had to be just as conscientious…I was used to pulling open my own door, used to sitting down AFTER my dinner partners, quite comfortable walking myself to the door in the dark… it actually threw my new well-mannered man-friends for a loop. And they never failed to remind me I had not been cared for, cherished even by my poor mannered male companions… I will admit, I quickly adjusted and never take it for granted now. – Chivalry is not dead! -Ret

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  7. Yuriy Ku says:

    I may forget about manners later and vary them with some hick maneuvers and wacky thoughts to appear casual and ordinary. Sometimes invented manners prevent from going on, from making the conversation on. Some men pretend to have manners. Some women pretend to have men.

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    • dievca says:

      You always have manners because you are kind, wacky or no. And truly…do women ever really “have” men? Only if the men choose…

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      • Yuriy Ku says:

        It’s so nice that you feel me so well, with your female acuity and unerring eye. : ) But it takes time to know someone and we’ve had it. Despite and due to the “delicate” : ) matters you expose here (and I there) I consider you to be a perfect lady who can feel subtly and be sincere enough for me to come to such a conclusion. I know quite a number of women and men who want seem to be pious and always right but in fact they are not. On the other hand there are these who are phoney and shrew to say the ‘phooey’. I take into consideration the emotionalism in the extremes as the definition for the manners, neutral to gender but near to the occasion. As to the choices…I’m sure it’s a lady’s choice eventually or it should be as it’s based on a woman’s preferences and senses and the behaviour of a man in question. We, men, can’t choose, we are driven by. (laughing) Thank you for your lovely compliment sent in my face. XO

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  8. For my kids…more important than homework! xxx

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