Midwesterness

Greg Cox of Guelph, Canada, tweeted that Elsa was the dog

Greg Cox of Guelph, Canada, tweeted that Elsa was the dog

Belly laughs are considered good things in most venues, and volunteering is a given.

dievca is rarely on Facebook, it’s not her thing.  Once in a while she does a fly-by and looks at odds and ends, etc.  she checked out the page of a New Yorker she knows and read through a post about their snowstorm experience.

The-United-Statesdievca’s first thought?

They are so not Midwestern…

The post made a point about helping a friend who owns a Brownstone with apartments rented out, shovel all day. A commendable activity indeed!

But don’t forget:

  • You could be looking at a lawsuit if your sidewalk isn’t clean in NYC and someone gets injured in front of your building (place of business or apartment building). While snow is falling, complaints are not accepted for snowy or icy sidewalks. After the snow stops falling, if you are a property owner, you must clear snow and ice on your sidewalk to create a path for pedestrians. You must also remove snow and ice from sidewalks next to bus stops and hydrants. www1.nyc.gov
  • If you hire local kids or a person in need — they could use the money.
  • dievca’s Midwestern practicality kicks in here: if you aren’t in shoveling shape or do it wrong- shoveling is dangerous. Mixing in alcohol throughout the day isn’t the best idea.

dievca was also fascinated that the person was so:

  • proud that they helped shovel.
  • proud that they helped shovel a needy person’s sidewalk and had to mention that they weren’t even paid for it.
  • amazed at the camaraderie that shared work offers.

Welcome to being Midwestern.

This is an absolute basic tenet of human expectation for where dievca came from… Things don’t have to be set “mitzvahs” (a meritorious or charitable act) to be valuable.  You just do the doing because it needs to get done.  And Midwestern good manners in the form of a sincere “Thank You” is usually the reward. No need for money or the promise of future good will.

The post made dievca a little sad to think that a basic human kindness had to be documented and shared as the exception and not the norm.

Even though she is in NYC — dievca is Midwestern and that drives her behavior. she does for friends, because they need, she doesn’t want payment — being appreciated is enough.

To have known Midwesterness is to have looked at the sky, to read the clouds, and know the screech of tornado sirens.  It is all the contradictions of passivity and sometimes self-indulgent ignorance, as well as knowing the meaning of loyalty, kindness, and unspoken anxiety always at the corners of life.  It is to know awe; genuine, gob smacking awe at the greens of a dragonfly, the belly of a hummingbird, the taste of a fried tomato, as well as the sight of a Calder or an Oldenburg sculpture occupying the grass.  

 It is a built-in patience with many things, and open-faced impatience with that which seems time wasting or superficial, irrational, or especially unjust.  It is also dumbfoundingly strange from time to time; creative, silly, and sometimes pointless.

SNL Ditka

dievca is proud to be Midwestern and she brings her own slice to the melting pot of a city.  hers is a blunt, direct honesty that is sincere and clear.

This has gained her a steady and loyal following, befuddled people who thought they were God’s Gift – leaving them shocked to learn that dievca wasn’t interested and repelled potential ne’er′-do-wellers. It’s lost her fame and fortune, but saved dievca stress, headaches and gives her good health. It has allowed dievca to be loved, love in return, help herself and others become better people.

You are the company you keep and dievca keeps very good company.  People of all colors, nationalities, sexual-orientations and ages she considers friends are honorary Midwesterners. (They might balk at the title–though they may reconsider it after they visit a State Fair.)

Here is a lovely piece of writing about “fly-over” country, dievca’s home.

C.A. Rooker: Why We Need the Flyover

Italics excepts and link from C.A. Rooker’s blog post — click the link for the full post.

new-yorker-magazine-cover

Would you be willing to be called a Midwesterner?


16 Comments on “Midwesterness”

  1. I’ve always found Midwesterners to be straight-forward and down to earth, but I’m proud to be a Southern boy.

  2. I don’t know if I could be called a Midwesterner but I’m certainly proud to know – albeit virtually – a Dievca from the Midwest! xoxo

  3. C.A. Rooker says:

    Hello and thanks for referencing my blog post- I had gotten to the point I thought no one read it anymore! Could you please cite your quotes from my post (thanks). And just curious, why did you put the link over an 1976 New Yorker cover? My post isn’t THAT old! (But it would be nice to get some reads of my blog from their staff!) Thanks again for reading!

    • dievca says:

      Hi,
      I couldn’t find who you were because I am not a member of your blogging community (no “about” page that I could find…no comment section unless I logged in, no e-mail contact)– I put the full article in as a link, so people could get to your blog as an attachment and see your writing.
      You don’t really have your name on your blog, sorry. I can attribute to C.A. Rooker – now that I know your name.
      New Yorker cover is of “fly-over” country, a classic cover that people might remember. A typical opinion of New Yorkers — in 1976 and beyond.
      My blog, my choice. Thank you for sharing your great info.
      d.

  4. esther says:

    no. why? when i was growing up (in queens,nyc), people were like that. they were kind, they helped their neighbors, there was a shared “one-ness”…for awhile. times have changed…and the pressures of city life and our culture have eroded manners and compassion. i’m happy that there are pockets in other parts of the country that have been able to hold on to what once was. 💋💋

    • dievca says:

      I talked to friends here in NYC that are still in Queens, Brooklyn, etc. and they feel that community is still happening. The difference is you just do vs. drawing attention to what you do~maybe that is because of reality TV saying “hey, look at me!” Who knows.
      I thought their FB post was great — just a little strange to mention and by that it’s not Midwestern.


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