“Wait for me to get the door”~Car Doors

Being a Gentlemandievca has talked about masculinity and femininity in past blog posts:

she has also spoken about Manners: opening and closing doors.

Opening and closing a car door for a Lady is also an Art and a gesture that will surely get her attention. It’s not only for Men. dievca still opens and closes the car door for her Mother. Car doors pose some special problems in being smooth.

This on dievca’s mind because a very masculine Greek gentleman gave dievca and her friend a lift and he made a point of directly telling her to wait until he opened the car door for her when they got to their destination. A FIRM point…

Here are a few guidelines on how to open car doors for women. (Or for men!?!?!)

Car Door opening

Always try to open the door for a date when she enters the vehicle. If you don’t have anything obstructing you, always open the door for your date when entering the vehicle. You should have cleaned your car before the date, but if you have any crumbs or other gunk in the passenger side seat, sweep it off before she sits down.

Offer your hand as she gets in and out. The added support a hand provided for a woman in a dress and heels as she gets in and out of car will be appreciated. A helping hand is especially important if your car is a pick-up truck that’s jacked a few feet off the ground or a sports car that rides low to the ground.

Before shutting a car door, make sure all appendages, skirt bottoms, and purse straps are inside the vehicle. You don’t want to ruin your date by slamming her foot in the door or tearing a dress. Give a quick check to make sure everything is safely inside. Even ask, “Everything in?” before shutting the door just to make sure.

If there’s not much room between your car and the car parked next to you, let her open her own door. Don’t force the gesture if it’s just not possible to do.

Don’t feel obligated to open the car door for her when exiting the vehicle. Most people get out of a car as soon as it parks. Successfully opening a car door for a woman so she can exit will probably need you to say, “Hey, don’t get out. I want to open the car door for you.” She’ll then have to sit there and wait as you exit the driver’s side door and circle around to the passenger’s side so you can open it. You’ll just create a spectacle and may make your date feel like she’s being chauffeured instead of courted.

Car Door

Now a bit of commentary about a Man opening a door for another Man….
Purdue University did a study and it shows how fragile the Male Ego can be:

Feministing: He’s Got A Big Ego

Honestly? dievca doesn’t see this as being a problem for Master~
Do you see it as a problem for any men you know?


8 Comments on ““Wait for me to get the door”~Car Doors”

  1. Pelelotus says:

    Some men my find it strange, but it should be offered to both (in my opinion). Manners is about RESPECT REGARDLESS OF GENDER? X

    • dievca says:

      Very true, but you might have to pay attention to the Male/Female – Male/Male – Female/Female dynamic. Whatever the partners work out, right? From my Dom/sub standpoint – Master prefers to be a gentleman and take care of His sub.

  2. I always open the car door for Kayla when we go out. When we arrive at the destination she waits till I come around, open the door and offer my hand to help her out. I get so many perplexed looks from people in parking lots. Just as much I get so many comments form people saying that they are glad to see being a gentleman hasn’t gone out of style. Her boys have even picked up on it and when they are with us one of them will open the door for her to get out of the car.

  3. Devonne says:

    I do not know any men that would have bruised egos by having another man open a door for them. I do however know women who have their egos burned when a man opens the door for them. They view the gesture as the man thinking they are too weak to do it themselves. I, on the other hand, have always found the gesture endearing, respectful and even empowering.

    • dievca says:

      I think it is how the act is done — not condescending, but gentle/seamless/thoughtful. Southern Gentlemen are usually really good at it.

  4. Xtac says:

    My slave calls me a “gentleman sadist”. Well that or Wicked Evil Man but that’s a different story. I like not only opening her car door.. I also insist on buckling her seat belt. It gives me an opportunity to get into her personal space, in public, pulling the straps tight and secure, in a subtle but delicious manner that isn’t really obvious to those around us.

    I think however my favorite gentlemanly thing is putting on her coat. Its not putting on her coat I enjoy, but instead the final touch, pulling her long hair out from under the coat and arranging it neatly across her back. Hair is quite delicious too.


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