you get what you give — sometimesPosted: November 4, 2016
Did you ever have someone change the ballgame on you?
And they didn’t tell you the new rules?
You continued to give 100%, all in, according to the past plan which brought you joy and happiness, then whamo! it is no longer is accepted or shared by that friend.
The value of your giving drops.
In fact, the giving has become a detriment.
That’s fine, if you set new boundaries, new values and you know that other areas of the friendship will need to become stronger for the link to survive.
But, the boundaries keep changing, flip-flopping, without communication.
You cannot keep up, you don’t know the rules, you are not getting anything new back.
More and more keeps getting taken away.
And you have to ask, almost beg, for what little you do get.
Soon you are adrift without a raft.
Thank God you swim well and you have others to swim to~
When you get back to shore, do you stay connected?
When you have seen that your giving is accepted and treasured by others.
You do have value.
The uniqueness of the original relationship seems to be gone.
You are still amazed that someone would throw something so beautiful away.
You stare at it with hope, praying it will keep in stasis for the future.
You know better – because it takes two for that to happen and one party can’t be bothered.
The joke is they keep stating that they still want you in their Life.
But their treatment of you runs contrary to their words.
The basics you expect, they can’t even reach and your problem is you can’t stop giving.
It’s not who you are~
I love your thoughts, I hate your actions.
I gave all I had to give.
I gave myself.
I guess that sometimes you don’t get what you give,
and that is Life.
(Dropping two friends in one year. Not good, dievca, not good.)