dievca’s dilemma

communication-breaking-downYou tell someone a piece of information and they base their expectations on that data. Then the data changes, but you don’t share the changes because you are in your own World.

So, it seems that on three different instances you have lied and you made no effort to hide the lies. Who is at fault?

Did you lie?
Does that person have a right to feel ill-used?

Or is it just miscommunication?
Or was the information held back on purpose, a Freudian Slip?

Does it become worse if that person needed you?
But what if they didn’t tell you, they needed you?

dievca’s dilemma.


16 Comments on “dievca’s dilemma”

  1. missagathaarmstrong says:

    one has not lied … one has given one’s opinion. what the other chooses to do with information … is up to them – it is now their responsibility… if they choose to Base their expectations on that data, then they should there take full responsibility for what happens next … but if they were sensible and had their own thoughts, they would have listened to one and then they should have done their own research … whatever way one looks at it … one is not to blame.

    • dievca says:

      That works for certain data, but it was scheduling information and overall is makes a person look like they were lying to avoid a meeting. No just once or twice, but three times. Was it on purpose? Probably not, but it might have been in the back of the mind. Who knows~

      • missagathaarmstrong says:

        I still see it as the others responsibility to check …

        and maybe subconsciously … but that still does not excuse the other from not doing their own homework…. sorry…

      • dievca says:

        No worries – a good thought.

      • missagathaarmstrong says:

        smiles sweet one x

      • missagathaarmstrong says:

        as submissives we take more than our fair share of responsibility for our actions … we understand responsibility. what we don’t understand is when others do not take responsibility for their cock ups. remember it is far far easier to blame others … kisses sweet wonderful You x

  2. Naah– people change, situations change – others may stay up to date with those changes through good communication if they wish, or adapt to the changes if they don’t.

    • dievca says:

      Honestly, communication would have saved the day. But, one person was very distracted and the other got hurt. Was it fair on either side, probably not…

      • D: I guess we’d like to believe fairness is built in to the equation, but most of the time, it’s not.

      • dievca says:

        True. Just thinking to myself that it was kindness to talk through this….a dinner conversation pointed out that I am really blunt. My parents are really blunt – so its in my nature to question if something is hidden for a reason. By me or by someone else.

      • 🙂 I get that… it’s difficult to know where intimate privacy ends and secrecy begins sometimes, and not everyone can be that direct. It’s in the very nature of relationships between individuals, I think… but blame shouldn’t ever enter into it. 🙂

  3. Pelelotus says:

    As long as there is no deliberate deception. Just say that things have changed. X

  4. Heartafire says:

    I would imagine that is is purely a miscommunication Dieva and though unfortunate, there is no intention to mislead or fault to be placed.


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