When you have a guest over for coffee, you want everything thing to be “just so”.
Brew your coffee the night before using good-quality coffee beans, and make it very strong as it’ll be diluted with ice and milk. That way, it can come to room temperature by the time the morning comes around. As always, add cream (milk), sugar, simple syrup to your taste!
dievca’s friend likes to add simple syrup to her brew, so dievca will be making her own syrup – directions below.
1/2 cup sugar
1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract
1 cup coffee, at room temperature
2 tablespoons half and half*, or more, to taste
To make the simple syrup, combine sugar and 1 cup water in a medium saucepan over medium heat, stirring until the sugar has dissolved. Let cool completely and stir in vanilla extract; set aside.
Serve coffee over ice with half & half and simple syrup, to taste.
No one talks about peri-menopause. No one talks about colonoscopies.
For both topics, there are “hints” and “innuendo” – interspersed with potty humor (colonoscopy) or the suggestion of mental instability (perimenopause).
dievca is looking at both topics straight in the eye. One came to the attention of the other this week….
The colonoscopy prep is tedious. Here are some things of use to help one get through it:
- Chill your prep solution as long as you can before drinking
- Don’t sniff the prep solution
- Don’t swish the solution in your mouth because you are pondering swallowing
- Use a straw to keep the texture and salty and sweet taste away from your tongue
- Take small to medium sips
- Swallow as fast as you can to limit the taste in the mouth
- Take a small sip of water/clear fluid to dilute and rinse the taste from your mouth
- If you feel nauseous, take longer pauses between sips – even if you go beyond the time limit for drinking the prep
- If you feel like you need something more substantial in your stomach than liquids, suck on hard clear candies, eat light-colored Jello, apple sauce, and Italian ice. No red or purple colors.
- Keep a cream available for a sore bum
- If everything coming out stays neon yellow – don’t panic. As long as its clear, you are ok.
- Finish the prep as best you can, but know that if you throw some up – it is not a problem as long as emissions are clear
- Your blood pressure is going to be high due to dehydration, don’t panic
- Schedule the procedure in the morning, so you don’t have to wait if someone before you has a problem and you can get to your caffeine as soon as possible after the surgery.
For the Ladies:
When dievca checked in for the procedure – they insisted on her taking a pregnancy test (!)…..on the hint that she still gets periods. That’s where perimenopause rears its head. How old are the people getting their 1st colonoscopy? In their 50’s – when does perimenopause start? late 40’s early 50’s on the average. The question, “Do you still get your period?”, can be a loaded question and awkward to answer~ Be aware. It’s tough to pee in a cup when you are dehydrated.
The procedure itself is quite simple and your a** does not hang out for everyone to see.
A side note: A close friend’s sister died at 40 from colon cancer. dievca’s friend was constantly on people to get a colonoscopy ASAP. Sadly, that friend was the one who beat gallbladder cancer only to die from pancreatic cancer at 50. dievca finally honored her promise to her friend, she knows her friend was watching. All clear.
dievca’s plan to be a feast for the eyes and the tummy came to fruition, last week.
she offered up her peaches to her Master. Perhaps you might be interested, too.
First up was the ICONE VeraCruz lingerie set:
Followed by a peach bottom:
Finishing with fresh-baked peach crisp:
A fitting Summer send off for your Sir or Madame!
dievca’s Master loved it.
dievca is still on the hunt for Chrissie Hynde’s Collar.
In the meantime, this BLUE NILE sterling silver padlock necklace can add a hint of BDSM to one’s daily Life.
This edgy, BLUE NILE, sterling silver necklace has a working padlock that functions as the clasp.
Wear it layered or on its own, this necklace is a fun and stylish flair in your wardrobe.
dievca’s self-care goodies while Master is traveling.
dievca took a friend to an early morning outpatient medical procedure. One is not allowed to sit in the waiting room for the pick-up, so dievca wandered down to the East River to enjoy her coffee. An excellent choice.
Note: dievca brought her own coffee in an amazing Japanese brand ZOJIRUSHI thermos that a friend gifted to her.
Photos: dievca UES 07/2020
The Full Sturgeon Moon
August’s full Moon will appear this evening of Sunday, August 2, before reaching peak illumination at 11:59 A.M. Eastern Time on Monday, August 3. On either August 2nd or 3rd, look toward the southeast after sunset to catch a glimpse of the Sturgeon Moon rising, weather permitting!
August’s full Moon will hang relatively low in the night sky, which makes it look larger due to perspective (Ebbinghaus Illusion). Why is the Moon hanging lower? A full Moon is opposite the Sun, which as we all know, is higher in the sky during summer. So the full Moon runs lower.
The Ebbinghaus illusion is one optical effect that might help explain the moon illusion. In this illustration, the green circles are exactly the same size, but the ones on the right appear larger than those on the left.green
Is there such a thing as an “Our Lady of Bad Counsel”?
A lapsed Catholic is a baptized Catholic who is non-practicing.
Such a person may still identify as a Catholic and remains a Catholic according to canon law.
It’s hot, it’s humid, it’s semi-tropical and dievca will be dreaming of Master,
In a swimsuit, on the rooftop.
Master is traveling to see his family and quarantining for as long as needed.
His dievca will have to create some Fantasies while He is gone,
Maybe do a little self-care with her Master’s approval.
dievca remembers stopping by farm stands in the Midwestern Summers to buy fresh produce. There was even a place that dievca’s Mother found to dig up and buy mushrooms – a dark, musty space with soil.
As she was driving to the Delaware River dievca spotted similar stands along the road in New Jersey, she forgot to stop on her way back to NYC.
The NYC farm stands are not as good as the local ones, but they offer a reminder and convenient option to eat healthily.
Something of Use!
Working with handblocked fabric designs and upcycled Sari silk,
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Summer weight Cotton Kimonos –
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Elegance in Aftercare
New York City — formerly a humid continental climate — is now within the humid subtropical climate zone. The city has met the National Climate Assessment’s requirements to classify as humid subtropical for the past five years.
What do those requirements entail?
- Temperatures have averaged above 72 degrees in the summer
- Higher than 27 degrees in the winter.
During the first three months of this year, the average temperature in Central Park was over 42 degrees Fahrenheit, the director of the National Oceanic and Atmospheric Administration’s Northeast Regional Climate Center.
Newer climate maps place NYC inside of the subtropical zone and instead of the humid continental warm summer climate zones similar to Pittsburgh and Chicago. This makes sense when you look at vegetation and plant hardiness zone maps. NYC’s native birch and sugar maple trees are NOT flourishing in the heat while plants and trees that have historically thrived in Southeast Asia and South America are loving the weather.
The main culprit is assumed to be climate change. Climate zones around the world are shifting at an alarming rate. dievca expects her steaming concrete jungle to continue to get warmer. Per one study’s estimation, by 2050, the city could be as hot as Alabama. But who knows what will happen after COVID-19.
Time to treat NYC like a seasonal beach resort!
Perhaps not subtle – but an elegant way to honor your Sir or Madam with Style. Something that can be a signature piece with a hidden BDSM message. Ranging from 100 Euro to 500 Euro. Made in France.
A Parisienne of South African heritage, Annelise Michelson founded her eponymous brand in 2012, immediately positioning herself as a free spirit in the highly codified world of high-end jewelry. Couture-esque, her collections are at once glamorous and sculptural… An artist first and foremost, she sees her pieces like talismans, loaded with beauty and channeling strength and self-confidence. Her jewels aren’t just ‘accessories’, they are designed to dress the wearer, placing design and inspired volumes firmly in the spotlight. From the very beginning, Annelise’s bold vision resonated with many including the likes of Rihanna, Juliette Binoche, Zoe Kravitz, Robin Wright, and Leandra Cohen, allowing the house to blossom quickly. Constantly evolving and growing, today Annelise Michelson counts more than ten collections to its name including the evocatively titled Drapée, Déchaînée, Wire and Vertigo capsules.
How are you battling the heat?
It’s called the TRPV1 receptor. So when you eat or drink something hot, these receptors get that heat signal, and that tells the nerve to let the brain know what’s going on. When the brain gets the message “It’s hot in here,” it turns on the mechanism we have to cool ourselves off: sweating.
dievca has exchanged recipes with friends and family during the COVID-19 quarantine and this is a recipe she tried and enjoyed: Cajun Shrimp Pasta
Warning – dievca didn’t have any Cajun Spice mix so she made the offering from the same blog (recipe below)
It’s got a serious kick.
And her cooling system works efficiently. Hello, sweaty upper lip!
Maybe this is something for Temperature Play?!?!?
- 1 tablespoon kosher salt
- 8 ounces penne pasta
- 1 pound raw shrimp deveined, cleaned, tail removed
- 2 tablespoons cajun seasoning *see note below
- 1 tablespoon olive oil
- 1 tablespoon butter
- 1 cup heavy cream
- 1/2 cup parmesan cheese
Add salt to a pot of water and bring to a boil. Cook pasta to al dente doneness. Before draining, scoop out at least 1/2 cup of the cooking water. Drain pasta and set aside.
While the pasta is cooking, cook the shrimp and sauce. Combine shrimp with cajun seasoning and olive oil in a bowl. Toss to combine.
Heat large skillet over medium-high heat. Add butter and melt. Add shrimp in a single layer and cook until golden brown on each side, turning only once. You may have to cook shrimp in two batches to allow enough room. Once done cooking, transfer cooked shrimp to a clean plate and reduce heat to medium-low.
Add heavy cream to pan and scrape bottoms to release any food that is stuck to the bottom. Allow the cream to bubble. Reduce heat to low and stir in parmesan cheese to melt. Add cooked pasta and shrimp and stir to coat. If the sauce needs to be thinned, add pasta water, one tablespoon at a time until desired consistency is achieved.
Cajun Spices (if needed)
- 1 tablespoon smoked paprika
- 2 teaspoons garlic powder
- 1 teaspoon freshly ground pepper
- 2 teaspoons onion salt
- 1 teaspoon cayenne pepper
- 1 teaspoon dried oregano
- 1 teaspoon dried thyme
- 1/2 teaspoon red pepper flakes
Combine all spices in a small bowl. Use as a dry rub on poultry, beef, shrimp, etc. You can also add to sauces and soups. Store in an airtight container.
Makes 1/4 cup
Equal portions of onion powder and kosher salt can be used in place of onion salt
Remember that dievca told you that her back will always be a work-in-progress?
Working from home was taking its toll.
Until the ergoErgo seat arrived at her doorstep. In ORANGE.
Active sitting has strengthened her core and worked on her back flexibility.
dievca’s back is moving pretty freely these days.
There are three sizes: Regular, Extra and Kids
How it works:
Click here to purchase.
I truly believe that one of the reasons why I look and feel so well
is because I’ve very few inhibitions.
I don’t care about age.
Life is too short to worry about what other people think. ~Mamie van Doren
It is possible that blondes also prefer gentlemen.
~ Mamie van Doren
Purple People Eater, Barney, Violet Beauregarde
The meaning of the color Purple”
Purple combines the calm stability of blue and the fierce energy of red. The color purple is often associated with royalty, nobility, luxury, power, and ambition. Purple also represents meanings of wealth, extravagance, creativity, wisdom, dignity, grandeur, devotion, peace, pride, mystery, independence, and magic.
Do you want all that represented during BDSM?
the river slides by
much like the sweat
enveloping my body
leaving a sheen
Photo: dievca, Delaware River 07/2020
Good Morning! from Bucks Co. PA
or maybe you prefer the original
PS. The lady is Mamie van Doren
Explore bondage play at its most opulent with The Model Traitor’s hand-finished pleasure tools. Crafted from sumptuously soft Italian leather, each delectable item is finished with a soft fur upper and shimmering brass hardware for a beautifully tactile bondage experience.
Featuring a sumptuous suede-lined leather handle and durable brass chain, this lead connects to your favorite collar or restraint for sensual BDSM exploration. The strong, multi-directional brass lobster clip keeps your plaything firmly in place, and can be quickly unclipped should you wish to change to something new.
The Model Traitor is a London-based collaborative collection by renowned corsetry designer Sian Hoffman, and fine artist Valentina Piras. Every single piece is expertly crafted at their London Discipline Atelier and distinguishable by its use of irresistible materials and polished brass hardware.
Model Traitor O-Ring Collar and Lead can be found at Coco de Mer.
Sexually active older adults tend to have less inflammation
and, in turn, a higher quality of life, suggests a recent Journal of Sexual Medicine study.
Avocados are a great source of healthy monounsaturated fat and antioxidants,
which can dampen your body’s inflammatory response.
In fact, the anti-inflammatory properties of avocados are so strong
that they may actually offset less healthy food choices.
Master and His dievca are catching up for a little playtime and lunch today.
They’ve been sharing a Lenwich Vegetarian sandwich during aftercare:
Green Leaf Lettuce,
Shredded Red Cabbage,
Aftercare = whole body and mind care
Something perfect for a submissive’s Presentation Outfit
SS2014 Jean Paul Gaultier runway show featuring Dita von Teese
offers glamour with a bit of whimsey.
If she can get there she would like to take this Clare V. Denim Tote:
dievca regrets to tell you that she no longer looks like Ava — more like this sunbather:
Have you gained anything positive from the Quarantine?
We know the bad news:
People have died. People have been very ill, lost jobs, been furloughed.
Businesses closed, economies collapsing.
Has anything positive happened?
CO2 emissions dropped.
Wildlife came back to heavily used and populated spaces. One can hear the birds chirping at 4:30 am in NYC.
Some businesses which were on the verge of collapse received a reprieve with Federal Aid or were able to file for bankruptcy in a less messy manner.
In NYC, Animal Shelters had most of their animals adopted.
Some Family and Friends grew closer than they ever expected.
dievca’s body has been healing.
Yes, there are age issues and lurking injuries that won’t disappear, but their impact has lessened – immensely.
dievca has been able to assess, have the time to fix and strengthen her body.
The time in quarantine has been a godsend to dievca and she feels a bit guilty about it. Catholic guilt.
Well – with dievca’s healing – she’s dusted off her road bike and has started cycling Central Park with Master.
dievca’s bike was in storage, but the other ‘bits and bobs’ had to be bought
(click photos for brands):
If you want to know why dievca bought certain items – just ask.
Four cups of strong coffee a day might be the recipe for a healthy heart, especially for older adults.
That amount may vary from person to person – but it seems to be a good solid number. Also, note that though caffeine is the first thing that comes to mind when you think about coffee, it also contains antioxidants and other active substances that may reduce internal inflammation and protect against disease.
The following focuses on caffeine intake – about 250 – 350 mg a day.
A team of German researchers, led by the molecular biologists Judith Haendeler and Joachim Altschmied, thinks it has discovered clues about how coffee works its caffeine-fueled magic on our heart health and how much caffeine we should drink each day to see the best benefits.
By studying caffeinated lab mice and dosing human tissues with caffeine, the researchers discovered how a jolt of the stimulant could improve the way cells inside our blood vessels work — essentially, by making certain proteins inside older adult cells perform more like young and nimble ones. The study was published Thursday in the journal PLOS Biology.
“When you drink four to five cups of espresso,” Altschmied told Business Insider, “that seems to improve the function of the powerhouses of our cells, and therefore seems to be protective.”
Scientists have for years noticed that people who drink coffee seem to be less likely to die from all sorts of causes, including heart disease, stroke, or diabetes. Perhaps the best evidence yet for this comes from two massive studies: one of more than 400,000 people in the US by the National Institutes of Health, and another of more than 500,000 Europeans. Both studies found that regular coffee drinkers were less likely to die from any cause than people who don’t sip a daily brew.
Coffee is also associated with a whole host of other health benefits, including a lower risk of liver disease (cirrhosis), a lower risk of developing certain kinds of cancer, lower rates of dementia and Alzheimer’s, and a reduced risk of depression. It’s also great for your heart — people who drink three or four cups a day may be 19% less likely to die from cardiovascular disease.
Altschmied said he hoped his new study would debunk the old advice that people with heart problems shouldn’t drink coffee, and he argues that drinking the equivalent of about four shots of espresso a day could help reduce the risk of heart attacks, especially for people who are obese or prediabetic.
“It will not replace other things,” he said. “Keep on doing your sports, eat healthily, and add coffee to your diet.”
If you don’t like the taste, green tea has similar levels of caffeine and could also be an effective way to boost heart health.
It’s important not to overdo it with the new recommendation, as too much coffee can quicken your heartbeat and cause other health problems. But drinking up to six cups a day should be OK, cardiologists say, and may even reduce arrhythmias in people with irregular heartbeats.
One caveat: The study wasn’t done in humans — only in human tissues and lab mice. What works in a hyper-controlled environment of mice, dosed with very specific amounts of caffeine, may not be the same as what happens when you drink a cup of joe at home.
“If I had four cups of espresso and you had four cups of espresso, we cannot guarantee that we reach the same level in the blood,” Altschmied said.
He also offers a word of caution: Because caffeine can make blood vessels grow, providing more oxygen to fuel tumors, the coffee-drinking advice might not hold for people who have cancer.
“Where people have a diagnosed tumor, we would say better take your hands off the coffee,” Altschmied said. “But if you’re otherwise healthy, it will not harm you, and it might help your heart and circulatory system stay better functional for a longer time.”
This post originally appeared on Business Insider.