Emotions, Feelings and Drama

e·mo·tion
əˈmōSH(ə)n
noun
plural noun: emotions
a natural instinctive state of mind deriving from one’s circumstances, mood, or relationships with others

feel·ing
ˈfēliNG
noun
plural noun: feelings
an emotional state or reaction.
“a feeling of joy”

dra·ma
ˈdrämə
noun
1. a play for theater, radio, or television.
2. an exciting, emotional, or unexpected series of events or set of circumstances.

Emotions can be measured by a body’s physical response to a situation. They tend to be predictable and well understood.

Feelings are a mental response to emotions. Feelings represent a personal reaction towards experienced emotions.

Drama is making your emotions/feelings someone else’s responsibility!

Thank you to the “Emotional Detective
and a conversation with Chris from the Muscleheaded Blog


Opals

dievca’s Mother told her that opals were “bad luck”.  Mom never wore the opal earrings that sat in her jewelry box, in fact they are probably still sitting there…granted dievca’s Mother let her earring holes close many moons ago.

You may have heard that the opals bring bad luck and are evil stones, too. The belief has been around for a long time, all over the world. However, as dievca researched the reason – after buying a gorgeous ring – she learned that opals have a poor reputation due to one man, Sir Walter Scott.

Sir Walter Scott’s bestselling novel, Anne of Geuerstein, written in 1829, was the story of Lady Hermione, who is falsely accused of being a demoness, and dies shortly after a drop of holy water accidentally falls on her opal and destroys its color. The public took this to mean that the author was warning of the bad luck an opal can bring, so they stopped buying the beautiful gemstone. Sir Walter Scott succeeded in destroying the European opal market for almost 50 years. Within months of the novel being published, the opal market crashed and prices were down 50%.

Opal amplifies traits, whether those traits are good or bad, and brings characteristics to the surface for transformation. It enhances self-worth, confidence and self-esteem, and helps you to understand your full potential. It also brings lightness and spontaneity. The stone is said to help stimulate originality and dynamic creativity, encourages an interest in the arts, and aids in accessing one’s true self. Because the stone is absorbent and reflective, it helps you to pick up thoughts and feelings, amplify them, and return them to their source. It is a karmic stone, it encourages putting out positive emotions and teaches that what you put out comes back to you. The opal is also a representative of justice and harmony, and is a protective stone in dangerous places.

 


Embarrassed, Awed, Amazed or Pathetic?

dievca has mentioned that Master is traveling Europe for work, so she’s on her own for physical satisfaction. Master just expects to hear about the activity, he rarely limits or directs the activity.

So, what does a dievca call it when she squeaks in a quickie?  and it happens so fast that she has time to write a blog post afterward in amazement before heading into the shower and back to work.

OK, please note that dievca’s schedule has been brutal, it usually is during Spring. Sleep has been a little short and the time taken for pleasure – non-existent.

So, a vibrating anal plug, glass dildo, and clit vibrator worked magic in less than 30 seconds.

Maybe it was the anticipation of pleasure while gathering the toys that started the process, maybe it was thinking of Master and how He would like to watch. Maybe its just pathetic.

dievca doesn’t know and after feeling the hard orgasm, she doesn’t care.

Damn.


A kiss on the lips is worth…

Then I did the simplest thing in the world. I leaned down… and kissed him. And the world cracked open. Agnes de Mille

When he kisses you he isn’t doing anything else. You’re his whole universe..and the moment is eternal because he doesn’t have any plans and isn’t going anywhere. Just kissing you…it’s overwhelming. Unknown

Give me a kisse, and to that kisse a score; Then to that twenty, adde a hundred more; A thousand to that hundred; so kisse on, To make that thousand up a million; Treble that million, and when that is done, Let’s kisse afresh, as when we first begun. Robert Herrick, To Anthea (III)

Philematology is the scientific study of kissing.
(philos in ancient Greek = earthly love).

Statistics for a kiss, a couple may exchange:

  •  9 mg of water
  • 0.7 mg of protein
  • 0.18 mg of organic compounds
  • 0.71 mg of fats
  • 0.45 mg of sodium chloride
  • 10 million to 1 billion bacteria according to one estimate.

The original theory of kissing was that primate mothers chewed their food for their babies. As evolution continued the kiss began to be used to pass on information about biological compatibility of a mate via pheromone chemical signals as well as promote social bonding and expressing love, with the ultimate goal of procreation.

Research indicates that we do communicate with chemicals – though the vomeronasal organs (pheromone detection and brain function) are thought to be inactive in humans. When you kiss a partner, you are able to get close enough to each other to assess essential characteristics about each other, none of which are consciously processed.

While men will have sex with women without kissing them beforehand as well as have sex with a woman who is not a good kisser, most women will never have sex without kissing first. On the evolutionary level, women were looking for a mate to raise their offspring with, and kissing could be an unconscious but accurate way for women to assess the immune compatibility of a mate.

Men tend to initiate French kissing and research suggests this is because saliva contains testosterone. “There is evidence that saliva has testosterone in it,” said Rutgers University anthropologist Helen Fisher, “and testosterone increases sex drive. And there is evidence that men like sloppier kisses with more open mouth. That suggests they are unconsciously trying to transfer testosterone to stimulate sex drive in women.” Furthermore, men are able to sense a woman’s level of estrogen which is a predictor of her fertility.

Hormone levels change after kissing:

  • Cortisol (stress) levels decreased in men and women after kissing, and the longer a couple is together the lower their stress hormones get.
  • Oxytocin levels which promote bonding increase in men, however women’s levels decreased.
  • Testosterone levels are raised during a kiss, which increases sex drive
  • Dopamine is increased promoting romantic love.

Other benefits:

  • small kisses use as little as two muscles, burning only 2 to 3 calories
  • passionate kissing involves up to 34 facial muscles along with 112 postural muscles and burns around 26 calories per minute.
  • modest increase in blood pressure and heart rate which helps cardiac health
  • increased saliva produced during active kissing which helps to prevent tooth decay
  • men who kiss their wives in the morning live 5 years longer on average and also make more money.

Sources:

Philematology: The Science of Kissing. A Message for the Marital Month of June

A Kiss is Still a Kiss — or is it?

Saliva: Secret Ingredient in the Best Kisses

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http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/02/13/AR2009021303465.html


So sad to watch.


So sad that you took all of my joy in you, willingness to give and just threw it away.

I kept asking for answers, trying to explain what was happening to me.
And you didn’t realize the issues or couldn’t self-reflect to discuss my queries.
Avoidance and uncertainty causing me to feel unsafe and anxious.
I know, I know – that is human and that is Life.
But, “I’ll never date you”, pulled the emergency brake as we stepped on the gas.
Maybe we could have had something where you got to be open and happy.
And where I felt safe and beautiful.
If you had just taken a chance and asked me to be yours.
Photo: unknown, situation - a close friend

Flip-Flop

dievca: Pins 3/2017 Design Museum London

witnessing
the change in state

I’m guilty
of the same fate

confusion
does not abate

analyze
your perfect mate

I would generally say that men are more emotionally dependent when compared to women. Most women have been taught to nurture others on an emotional level, and therefore have the ability to take care of themselves. They generally have other women to support them through hard emotional times or just on a day-to-day level. Men, on the other hand, usually have no one there for them emotionally other than the woman with whom they are involved. They have male friends, but do men talk about emotional subjects with each other? Not really—it’s more about business and sports. When the woman they are in a relationship with leaves them, they find themselves alone and in a lot of emotional pain.

Emotionally dependent males hate conflict within a committed intimate relationship. Because of their dislike of conflict, they try to prevent conflict from occurring. They attempt to control conflict in two ways behaviorally, either by taking the aggressive approach to their relationship or by acting passive. Both of these behavior styles may be effective in avoiding conflict in the moment by maintaining a false sense of harmony, but they avoid the expression of their emotional truth. Without the truth, no real emotional intimacy can occur within their relationship. Remember that the lack of intimacy is not really a concern for the emotionally dependent male—their primary concern is emotional abandonment. Men who act aggressively or passively use these two forms of behavioral control as an attempt to prevent abandonment. In the long run, often when one partner tries to control the other, what they are afraid of eventually happens, and their partner abandons them.

~Daniel Beaver

As you can tell – dievca is on a path to changing her life. she’s looking to change careers and you are seeing pieces of her learning and self-growth.  Bear with her, Master is…


Allergies or a cold? Doesn’t Matter. (dievca’s remedy/recipe)

Chicken Noodle Soup makes you feel better.

Why? (NYT Blog)

Many doctors believe that colds are caused by viral infections. The body responds to these infections by sending over white blood cells to take charge, though they are not really effective in killing the virus.

The Jewish penicillin seems to inhibit the movement of neutrophils, the most common type of white blood cell that defends against infection. The theory is that the limitation of movement for these cells helps reduce the Upper Respiratory distress.

An exact super food ingredient hasn’t been found, but the combination of vegetables and chicken is most effective.

A second study suggested that chicken noodle soup can affect air flow and mucus in the nose – the increase in movement made the protective cilia more effective in preventing contagions from entering the body. Which works for allergies, too!

In that spirit, dievca would like to share her recipe for healing Chicken Noodle Soup.
It’s become a legend amongst her friends who are ill — who knows, maybe it is just the TLC its made with~

Ingredients (6QT pot):

  • 1 – 1.5 lb. whole Chicken
  • Vegetables: Onion, Celery, Leek, Parsnips, Carrots, Parsley, etc.
  • Bouillon (about 8 cubes for this soup pot)
  • Water filled to top/ covering everything. (8+ cups)
  • Egg noodles (dievca makes 1/2 a bag for about 3-4 bowls of soup)
  • Pepper to taste

Start with the vegetables: Carrots, Leek, Turnips, Parsley, Onions, Celery, Parsnips, etc.
Add bouillon, the whole chicken and cover with water.

Remember, bone broth is rich in minerals that support the immune system and contains healing compounds like collagen, glutamine, glycine and proline. The collagen in bone broth heals your gut lining and reduces intestinal inflammation.

Bring to a boil and let the soup simmer until the chicken meat falls off the carcass (approx. 1 hour 15 minutes). At that point, transfer the chicken carcass to a large bowl for cooling, then remove the skin and bones – keep the meat.  You can take out the greens, leek and celery – or not.

Returning the meat to the pot, bring the soup to boil and let it simmer while making the egg noodles.

After everything is ready, put together a bowl with noodles, soup broth, meat, vegetables and pepper for taste.

Let the relief begin!

Photos: dievca 2/2017