Earworm from Monday….

dievca is sorry…..mmmmmm….

….if that song from Monday has been stuck in your head all week. (here’s why)
It’s been stuck in her head, too.

It’s an “EarWorm”.

An earworm, sometimes known as a brainworm, sticky music, or stuck song syndrome, is a catchy piece of music that continually repeats through a person’s mind after it is no longer playing. Phrases used to describe an earworm include “musical imagery repetition”, “involuntary musical imagery”, and “stuck song syndrome” (wiki)

Which brought up this song:

Which may be an Earworm in of itself.

 

Why do we run into EarWorms?

TED Talks:  Earworms: Those songs that get stuck in your head – Elizabeth Hellmuth Margulis (4 min 45 sec)

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY: Tunes Stuck In Your Head: You May Have An Earworm – The Science behind Haunting Melodies

What are your Earworms?

Umm, it could be a subtle form of S & M.


On the Go~

Do you love picnics?
Is it still warm by you?
Nice for a bike ride and a meal?
Travel wine?

Originally spotted in a Scandinavian Liquor Store while sourcing a local liquor as a gift. The first offering’s name is stellar!:

Then found in a local NYC sandwich shop (‘wichCraft):

dievca loves picnics and is intrigued by the convenience of a canned wine. But she’s leery to waste her money and taste buds on bad wine.

Has anyone given them a try?

Winemag.com / Photo by Meg Baggott


Relationship Words that defy translation, yet fit.

There are some words that defy definition in the English Language – yet are so right for a situation.  One “hot” word comes to mind: 

Hygge (Danish) is a word used when acknowledging a feeling or moment, whether alone or with friends, at home or out, ordinary or extraordinary as cosy, charming or special.

IMAGE: FLICKR, MATT MATCHES

Which seems very similar to:

Gezelligheid (Dutch), a word that depending on context can be translated as convivial, cozy, fun, or nice atmosphere, but can also show someone belonging, time spent with loved ones, the fact of seeing a friend after a long absence, or the general togetherness that gives people a warm feeling.

That said, here are some words that don’t translate easily to the English language, yet convey some very important concepts in relationships.

Mamihlapinatapei (Yagan, an indigenous language of Tierra del Fuego): The wordless yet meaningful look shared by two people who wish to initiate something, but are both reluctant to start.

Yuanfen (Chinese): A relationship by fate or destiny.  A “binding force” that links two people together in any relationship.

From the movie, Serendipity.

Cafuné (Brazilian Portuguese): The act of tenderly running your fingers through someone’s hair.

Retrouvailles (French): The happiness of meeting again after a long time.

marina abramovic: the artist is present, her lover returns after 30 years

Ilunga (Bantu): A person who is willing to forgive abuse the first time; tolerate it the second time, but never a third time.

La Douleur Exquise (French): The heart-wrenching pain of wanting someone you can’t have.

Scene from Love Actually

Koi No Yokan (Japanese): The sense upon first meeting a person that the two of you are going to fall into love.

Ya’aburnee (Arabic): “You bury me.” One’s hope that they’ll die before another person, because of how difficult it would be to live without them.

Forelsket: (Norwegian): The euphoria you experience when you are first falling in love.

Saudade (Portuguese): The feeling of longing for someone that you love and is lost. Another linguist describes it as a “vague and constant desire for something that does not and probably cannot exist.”

Reuters: I believe this is his Sister, Lesleigh Coyer

Thank you to Pamela Haag Psychology Today Article (here)  with photos and additions by dievca.


Saving Face(s)

FINDING THE AVERAGE –
A TECHNIQUE USED FOR A CENTURY

Anthropologist Sir Francis Galton – who was also the cousin of Charles Darwin – pioneered the method of ‘composite portraiture’ in the 1880s.

He superimposed multiple portraits of individuals’ faces together to create an average.

All of the portraits were registered on the subject’s eyes and the rest of the face was created around them.

The faces have been the topic of fierce debate over the last hundred years, with much psychological research focusing on the attractiveness of the face and why different people find one more attractive than the other.

Other psychologists, including Sigmund Freud in his work On Dreams, picked up Galton’s suggestion that these composites might represent a useful metaphor for an ideal type or a concept of a ‘natural kind’.

To this day, the method is still used by scientists studying attractiveness and beauty – although computer programs have replaced much of the original methods used at the turn of the 19th century.

 

Arguments were offered that the samples were “20 somethings” – but its a place to start. Noticeably, the United States, Canada and Australia composites are not offered — but those countries are known for being developed by immigrants from many other countries.  Look at dievca – she’s a mutt (Ukrainian and Slovak), Master is a mutt (Scandanavian, Irish and English), etc. The past is written in your Face.

But its fun to see the trends of traditional ethnic features laid out.

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2435688/The-average-woman-revealed-Study-blends-thousands-faces-worlds-women-look-like.html#ixzz4rQsxVW00


What’s your vibe?

quivershaketrembleshivershudderthrobpulsaterattle, rockwobble, oscillatewaverswingsway, move to and fro, judder

81% of women and 91% of men who have used a vibrator have done so with a partner. (1)

Enhancing sex and foreplay with a vibrator brings in a whole new level of excitement and pleasure, but like there are many different people in the World, there are many different ways to “vibe”.

Note: the ideas below are written for heterosexual couples, but many apply to same sex couples as well. The products are from “JimmyJane” a line which dievca has found to be very stable, clean-lined, hardworking and elegant.

USING A VIBRATOR DURING FOREPLAY

Tingly Touches – An erotic massage is a delicious way to start an intimate evening. Light a Natural Massage Oil Candle, slip HELLO TOUCH over your fingertips, and explore your partner’s body with vibration. Or get more adventurous with E-stim – electric sensation from HELLO TOUCH X.

Watch and Learn – According to a Men’s Health survey, 80% of women want their partner to watch them masturbate. “The fact that she’s turning you on while bringing herself to orgasm makes her feel incredibly sexy,” says sex therapist, Sandor Gardos. dievca knows that Master loves to watch her masturbate, she has used  the LITTLE CHROMA, her hands and the FORM 2.

Backwards Hug – With the woman in front in a spoon position (lying or sitting), her partner in back can encircle her with his arms go fondle her breasts, vagina, and anywhere else that feels good. She can simultaneously stimulate herself with a clitoral vibrator, such as FORM 2.

Get Handy (for Him) – Adding some vibration to a hand job can multiply his pleasure. Place HELLO TOUCH on your mid-fingers and place your hand so that the two vibrators contact and rub against the sensitive underside of his shaft, just beneath the head. Alternatively, using a male masturbator like FORM 5 to stimulate the sensitive underside of his penis and frenulum (the ridge that runs up the shaft)

Get Handy (for Her) – He can use HELLO TOUCH to improve his handy work. Place the vibrating pods on the back of the fingertips. This vibrates the fingers themselves, which in turn can touch and stimulate her vulva and clitoris.  Or add  the excitement of E-stim with HELLO TOUCH X.  Or insert a finger (or two) wearing the Pleasure Pod of choice to stimulate her G-spot.

Oral Report – A vibrator can enhance oral sex in a number of ways for both men and women. FORM 3 is perfectly shaped to cup his testicles during a blowjob. Use a powerful vibrator, like FORM 4, under the chin to add vibration to oral sex. He can insert FORM 6, FORM 4 or LITTLE CHROMA a few inches inside her vagina while stimulating her clitoris with his tongue or mouth.

USING A VIBRATOR DURING SEX

Missionary (Man on Top)FORM 3 is one of the few vibrators thin enough to fit between two bodies in this position. Rest it on your pubic bone so your hands free to explore your partner. If you can fit your hand under your partner, you can use HELLO TOUCH to stimulate yourself during sex.

Missionary (Woman on Top) – When you’re on top, there’s more leeway for clitoral stimulation. FORM 4 has an oversized motor right at the top. Rest this on his pubic bone so you can grind your clitoris against it during sex.

Doggie Style – When he’s behind you, there’s plenty of room open in front to bring in some vibration. A longer shape, like FORM 6 or MAGIC WAND, makes it easy for him to reach around and stimulate your clitoris or vulva.

Reverse Cowgirl – With woman on top facing your partner’s legs, there is plenty of room for vibrator stimulation. He can reach around with FORM 6 or MAGIC WAND, or you can lay back and stimulate yourself with a small clitoral vibrator like FORM 2. He can also try lifting one knee, so you have something to grind against. Or try FORM 5 for simultaneous labial and clitoral stimulation.

Get Creative – There is no end to the ways in which a vibrator can be incorporated into sex.

The anus has a relatively high concentration of nerve endings and can be an erogenous zone, which can make anal intercourse pleasurable if performed properly. The pudendal nerve that branches to supply the external anal sphincter also branches to the dorsal nerve of clitoris and the dorsal nerve of penis.

An insertable vibrator like FORM 6 can be a great introduction to anal sex or double penetration. HELLO TOUCH can be used to stimulate nipples during foreplay or intercourse. Play around and, in the words of the 60’s bumper sticker, “If it feels good, do it.”


1 Research by Indiana University published in 2011 issue of The Journal of Sexual Medicine

 


Time for a check-up (Blog, Life, BDSM)

Time for  a check-up:
(translation = let dievca talk it out)

BLOG:

dievca’s views for the blog have been down, followers is up – she knew she was “hidden” by WordPress, but when she hasn’t been able to read other great posts and keep up with new bloggers — that limits new connections. Add that blog friends have disappeared: Instagram, death (literally for 3 people), new partners, new focuses, new activities, physical illness, mental illness, family, etc. You get it.

It doesn’t matter – Staying consistent and posting daily is one way dievca finds peace and it is the only way dievca can keep the blog rolling. she knows this because when she stopped her photo blog daily after a year — she never went back to it, though she has the photos. Maybe someday…

LIFE:

You know that Master was very ill. You know that His elderly family members have passed and now dievca’s elderly family members are passing. Her parents are in their 80’s. Master was worried about His young family members. Master is working hard, dievca is working hard. dievca sold a house in the Midwest, she is considering to buy a co-op in NYC, her back went out, etc.

Life got in the way of BDSM for a while.

BDSM:

Master and dievca are still playing. But, it’s not as consistent as the beginning of the blog. Life issues, injuries, sickness, etc. that takes a toll.  Add that dievca and Master have become very close – and that gets in the way, sometimes. But after much trial and error, Master and dievca have found ways to signal that the BDSM needs to take over.

And it is needed.
Master and dievca have had their reaffirmation.

The trust creates a connection unlike any other.

So, Doctor…
do I keep the blog?
will Life get easier?
do I work to continue a BDSM relationship with Master?

XO – let dievca know.
And… a HUGE, THANK YOU, for joining her on this ride.

(dievca can be found on Instagram….nah~)

 


Emotions, Feelings and Drama

e·mo·tion
əˈmōSH(ə)n
noun
plural noun: emotions
a natural instinctive state of mind deriving from one’s circumstances, mood, or relationships with others

feel·ing
ˈfēliNG
noun
plural noun: feelings
an emotional state or reaction.
“a feeling of joy”

dra·ma
ˈdrämə
noun
1. a play for theater, radio, or television.
2. an exciting, emotional, or unexpected series of events or set of circumstances.

Emotions can be measured by a body’s physical response to a situation. They tend to be predictable and well understood.

Feelings are a mental response to emotions. Feelings represent a personal reaction towards experienced emotions.

Drama is making your emotions/feelings someone else’s responsibility!

Thank you to the “Emotional Detective
and a conversation with Chris from the Muscleheaded Blog