A quick get away: Options
Posted: January 25, 2023 Filed under: Clothing | Tags: Alberta Ferretti, BDSM, beach, California, closet, D/s, dievca, Else, Life, packing, swim, travel, Weather Leave a commentdievca is raiding her closet for a quick CA getaway in February. she will be two blocks from the beach, but she figures the temperature is going to be cooler – so she’s looking at swimsuits with options of cover. Her Else two piece is very flattering and the Dries van Noten Pareo is a large wrap. The Alberta Ferretti Swimsuit and Cashmere sweater can cut the chill. Looking at options!
Watching the clouds drift
Posted: January 15, 2023 Filed under: Clothing, lingerie, Musings | Tags: BDSM, clouds, D/s, dievca, drifting, Life, Morning, NYC, Shopping, submissive, Sunday Leave a commentIt’s Sunday morning and dievca is watching the clouds drift.
she took a look for silk cloud pattern items (dress, bedding, lingerie) and didn’t come up with much. There is a Moncler cotton cloud pattern dress that didn’t have attractive photographs. This micro-mesh dress from LA Angeles Apparel and fabric by the yard in polyester.
Nothing that dievca is too interested in at the moment – she’s going back to watching the clouds.
Cleaning the closet for Master: “The Basics Ma’am, just the Basics”
Posted: January 13, 2023 Filed under: Clothing, Master | Tags: BDSM, cleaning, closet, Curated Basics, D/s, dievca, Dominant, helping, Humor, Master, Shopping, submissive, wardrobe revamp Leave a commentdievca found this blog title in her “drafts” file. It was from 2016.
she just went through Master’s Closet this past Monday, 2023.
The sorting/clear out is not an annual activity, but every two to three years.
The process consists of emptying everything out of the closet and drawers. Taking a good look at each piece and sorting into a keep pile, repair pile, rag pile and Goodwill pile. Master loves to get rid of items. Then there is the painful process of buying replacement items either online or in person.
dievca steps in with the second part of the process because Master tends to avoid shopping for replacement items. But if you have tossed 3 faded/stained black t-shirts that you wear on repeat – you will need to replace them.
So, a large Nordstrom’s credit dictated the shopping destination for this year. Instead of Barneys and Banana Republic t-shirts, Master will be trying Vince, Rag & Bone and Frame Denim. Apparently, dievca will be watching a fashion show of “the basics” the next time they meet.
she thinks she will love this Rag & Bone Dexter waffle -weave cotton sweater:
Simple in the City
Posted: January 11, 2023 Filed under: Accessories, Clothing, Fashion, Shoes | Tags: BDSM, clean lines, comfotable, D/s, dievca, Life, NYC, Outfits, practical, submissive Leave a commentAfter a few years of taking care of aging parents, COVID and body changes – dievca lost interest in Fashion or even a closet revamp. she’s been coming out of her shell and leaning towards a more practical closet. Things seem to be coming together because she feels like she can reach in to the closet and find something to wear. That’s the point, right?
(click on the item to see a larger image and the brand)
when encrusted Thai rubies break the bank
Posted: December 23, 2022 Filed under: Clothing, Fashion, Shoes | Tags: BDSM, bling, crystal embellished, D/s, dievca, Dolce & Gabbana, Elegant, Humor, New Year's Eve, Shopping, submissive Leave a commentDolce and Gabbana embellishment looks like the affordable option
for New Years Eve!
The Aqua Blue sequin and Swarovski Crystal Boots are 60% off at MyTheresa!
The Brown Wren reappears!
Posted: December 21, 2022 Filed under: Accessories, Clothing | Tags: Banana Republic, BDSM, Brown, Classic, Cold Weather, cosy, D/s, dievca, Life, practical, Presentation Outfit, Shopping, warmth Leave a commentIn 2014, dievca posted about a practical outfit for a practical dievca coded in the color brown. 6 years later (almost 7), she has upgraded the “Brown Wren” look for cold weather with Banana Republic’s help (and a 40% off one day sale…)
Lunch with Friends Holiday Party
Posted: December 14, 2022 Filed under: Accessories, Clothing, Home and Garden | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, friendship, Harlem, Holiday 2022, Hostess Gift, Life, lunch, NYC, outfit, Shopping, submissive Leave a commentWatching the World Cup and Chatting outfit for Harlem, NYC:
Hostess Gift on sale at Anthropologie:
What you would really like — then reality returns
Posted: December 13, 2022 Filed under: Accessories, Clothing, D/s Relationship, Jewelry | Tags: BDSM, Christmas, D/s, dievca, Gifts, Holiday 2022, Master, Shopping, submissive, wishlist Leave a commentMaster asked His dievca what she would like for Christmas. A loaded question…
dievca would love these earrings as a gift for anything:
They are the 302 Fine Jewelry “Stay Flirty” Natural Diamond & Rainbow Gemstone Graduated Dangle Earrings 14K Yellow White Rose Gold at a whopping $3714.99
Which brings us to the Reality part of dievca’s Christmas Wishlist (click on the photos for descriptions):
Other options dievca offered to Master:
- Wine
- A Facial – the average price of a facial in NYC is $150
- Mani/Pedi
- Cafe Grumpy or Dunkin’ Donuts/Starbucks gift card for traveling
- Dinner/Lunch out after seeing the FIT Shoes: Anatomy, Identity, Magic exhibit
- Nike Air Max 97 or 98 (either model works) size Women’s 7.5 – open to any color. Works for the knee. On sale is good.
Knowing Master – it will be something completely different and just as awesome.
When the picture fits
Posted: December 10, 2022 Filed under: Clothing, Submission | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, erotic, friendship, Gifts, Humor, nude, OBEY Brand, odalisque, submissive 1 Commentdievca’s Dutch friend bought her a t-shirt for Christmas —
It’s dievca lounging as an Odalisque!
Actually, its from the brand OBEY
the lounging nude t-shirt in opal.
dievca loves it!
Dinner problems…
Posted: December 4, 2022 Filed under: Accessories, Body Type, Clothing | Tags: aging, awareness, Christmas, eating, Food, Friends, Holidays 2022, Humor, Life, outfit, perimenopause Leave a commentdievca had a lovely evening – but she is learning that her body changes include how much her stomach can hold. she though she was being mindful with the amount of rich food she was eating. she didn’t eat before she arrived. she had done a good amount movement throughout the day, but the amount of food and drink she consumed killed her. It might have been the full glass of water and two generous pours of wine. Perhaps one has to be even more mindful, next time.
The good news was that the rain stopped, plus dievca’s Host and Hostess had no idea of her distress.
Again, a lovely evening – not quite as formal as dievca thought, and dievca got to trim a full Christmas Tree!
Remember, dievca has a Charlie Brown Tree in her apartment…
What dievca wore:
Fascination
Posted: November 27, 2022 Filed under: Accessories, Clothing, Fashion, Jewelry | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Elegant, erotic, Humor, Miami, outfit, people watching, Presentaion, travel Leave a commentPart of the enjoyment of heading to Miami, FL is people watching. dievca got an eyeful when sitting in the lounge before the flight and kept watching her target through the flight and the exit from the plane.
An Asian Lady arrived in the lounge with her highlighted hair in a low bun, but the see-thru lace skirt (over black underwear or bikini bottoms) and rhinestone sunglasses and sunglass strap caught dievca’s eye. Note: the subject was about the same age as dievca. Here’s her “NYC-Miami” travel look:
The lady had no coat on in NYC, no need for one in Miami. That see-thru skirt was something. And traveling in heels? Her hair was shaken out and fluffed after the flight.
dievca’s simple black layers were tediously boring in comparison!
So, when dievca realized that she forgot sunglasses – she decided she needed to add Rhinestones to her Life and a cheap pair of Foster Grants from CVS fit the bill. XO
The surprise inside!
Posted: November 15, 2022 Filed under: Clothing, Fashion | Tags: BDSM, Charity, D/s, dievca, Hotel Chelsea, Housing Works NYC, Humor, Life, NYC, photo, submissive, t-shirt Leave a commentdievca was picking up a few items online from her favorite charity in NYC. They run a yearly “Fashion for Action” fundraiser and various designers donate items for the BIG EVENT and the online sales portion.
One of the local NYC designers (Cartography.nyc) offered t-shirts with photographs on them – dievca picked up the “Hotel Chelsea” version. Mind you she didn’t look at all the photos listed before buying the T-shirt:
The surprise was on the inside collar – dievca just started to laugh:
If you are in the Market
Posted: November 12, 2022 Filed under: Clothing | Tags: BDSM, Coat, D/s, dievca, Elegant, faux fur, Free People, layers, Life, over-sized, practical, Shopping Leave a commentfor a new coat.




The Lana Coat from Free People is gorgeous! Now, it is a lighter weight, so it won’t take you through a cold winter without layering. But, currently the World seems to be running very warm and an over-sized forgiving silhouette offers room for a sweater.
Available in Sand, Army and Midnight
$198
Ticking the boxes for Autumn 2022 by shopping your closet
Posted: November 11, 2022 Filed under: Accessories, Clothing, Jewelry, Shoes | Tags: Autumn, BDSM, closet, D/s, dievca, fashion, Life, Love, practical, working with what you have Leave a commentHere are dievca’s offerings:
√√ Wide Leg Faux Leather Pants
√ Fair Isle Sweater
√ Chunky Shoes
√ Camera Bag
√ Wood Eyeglass Frames
√ Cashmere / Wool Baseball Cap
√ Over-sized Coat
√ Over-sized Chain Necklace
√ Pearls
What’s in your closet that works for 2022?
dievca bets that there are some fabulous pieces!
Rein in the Spending? Normcore and a ~
Posted: November 2, 2022 Filed under: Accessories, Clothing, Fashion | Tags: American Vintage, BDSM, D/s, definition, dievca, LeSportSac, Life, Master, Normcore, NYC, Shopping, SoHo, style Leave a commentReining in didn’t work on dievca’s end….she spent her pennies.
dievca’s friend wanted to visit the “American Vintage” store in SoHo because she saw it in Amsterdam and liked their offerings. This comes after dievca’s Dutch friend mentioned that she really liked the brand and asked dievca if she had heard of it. It’s not an American brand, it’s French. dievca would describe it as a more expensive version of the Gap or something similar to Vince.
The offerings are an example of:
Normcore
Normcore is a unisex fashion trend characterized by unpretentious, average-looking clothing. Normcore fashion includes jeans, t-shirts, sweats, button-downs, and sneakers. Clothing is considered to be normcore when it is attractive and comfortable and is viewed as “normal” by the majority of people.
Normcore is a portmanteau of the words normal and hardcore. The word first appeared in a guest strip by Ryan Estrada for the webcomic Templar, Arizona in 2008 and was later employed by K-HOLE, a trend forecasting group, in an October 2013 report called “Youth Mode: A Report on Freedom”.
As used by K-HOLE, the word normcore referred to an attitude, not a particular code of dress. It was intended to mean “finding liberation in being nothing special.” (Sounds like the Swedish “Langom”) However, a piece in New York magazine by author Fiona Duncan that began popularizing the term in February 2014 conflated it with what K-HOLE referred to as “Acting Basic”, a concept which involved dressing neutrally to avoid standing out. It was this sense of normcore which gained popular usage. The characters featured on the television series Seinfeld are frequently cited as exemplifying the aesthetics and ethos of normcore fashion.
The word normcore was named runner-up for neologism of the year by the Oxford University Press in 2014. It was added to the AP Stylebook in 2016.
Anyways, dievca bought this American Vintage Puffer coat in Bear – honestly, it looks better in person:
Normcore wearers are people who do not wish to distinguish themselves from others by their clothing. This is not to mean that they are unfashionable people who wear whatever comes to hand, but that they consciously choose clothes that are functional and undistinguished. The “normcore” trend has been interpreted as a reaction to fashion oversaturation resulting from ever faster-changing fashion trends.
Normcore clothes include everyday items of casual wear such as t-shirts, hoodies, polos, short-sleeved shirts, jeans and chino pants, but not items such as neckties or blouses. These clothes are worn by men and women alike, making normcore a unisex style.
Clothes that meet the “normcore” description are mainly sold by large fashion and retail chains such as The Gap, Jack & Jones, Superdry, Jigsaw, and Esprit. They are generally cheaply produced in East Asian countries. Many other retailers such as Marc O’Polo, Woolrich, Desigual, Closed, and Scotch & Soda produce normcore-like clothes combined with individual design ideas.
Normcore is exactly how Master dresses – He buys excellent quality, but He doesn’t want to stand out.
dievca did get her Normcore “Flourish” piece at LeSportSac, the Floral Camo Helmet Bag:
Venturing out – Shopping in SoHo
Posted: October 30, 2022 Filed under: Accessories, Clothing, Shoes | Tags: 1980's, 1990's, BDSM, d-s, dievca, friendship, Humor, Life, practical, Shopping, SoHo, spending Leave a commentYou can tell two items:
- Master is traveling and out of the picture, so dievca doesn’t feel submissive – she’s not running “ladylike”.
- dievca’s knee is feeling better because she is more willing to walk the City.
This Sunday? Shopping in SoHo with a friend – dievca is supposed to be the responsible human who helps her friend put on the brakes for spending. Really? dievca’s not sure that she is the best person for this job description…
Weather today: a high of 63 F (17 C) and sunny.
Sounds like Sweater weather with option to strip off layers – dievca is going “old school” with a late 80’s early 90’s College vibe: (And, yes, the knee brace is an accessory – it fits under her jeans and helps dievca walk longer).
And so it goes~ Gala Night
Posted: October 28, 2022 Filed under: Clothing, Entertainment, Neighborhood Anecdotes (NYC) | Tags: BDSM, biking, D/s, dievca, gala, Generation X, Life, NYC, outfit, perimenopause, photo, submissive Leave a commentThe Moon was rising over Manhattan when dievca set out to the show and the Gala:
she opted to wear:
dievca doesn’t know if the COVID epidemic caused her to go back to her Generation X roots of being a “loner”, perimenopause is causing her to get tired/irritated or starting work at 6 am put her over the edge by 10:00 pm – after 3 hours she wanted out. So, she left after the meal, before the awards, to hike up her skirt and bike her a** home.
Photo: dievca – Moonrise Chelsea NYC 10/2022, dievca’s bike, foot, dress, coat and bag…10/2022
What to wear scrambling around the City
Posted: October 22, 2022 Filed under: Accessories, Clothing, Fashion | Tags: BDSM, comfotable, D/s, dievca, Life, NYC, outfit, practical, submissive, versatile Leave a commentThis outfit is not glamourous – but it went from work, to a coop showing, walking with the knee brace underneath, to a dance performance. Practical and clean-lined would be the descriptors:
Click on the photos for the description of the items.
Quick! for Halloween!
Posted: October 20, 2022 Filed under: Clothing, Entertainment, lingerie | Tags: BDSM, bodysuits, Coperni, Cosplay, Costume, D/s, dievca, erotic, Halloween, Presentation Outfit, quote, Shopping, submissive Leave a comment“Show a man what he expects to see, and he won’t look beneath the surface.” — Catwoman
COPERNI
- Polyamide/elastane blend
- Imported
- Machine wash recommended
- Hidden back zip closure
- Front twist detail
- Optional mask
- Stretch fit
Mamma Mia! via Trompe-l’œil
Posted: October 14, 2022 Filed under: Clothing, Fashion | Tags: BDSM, comfort, D/s, dievca, Humor, Jeans, Life, pant, practical, Rag & bone, Shopping, sweatpants, Trompe-l'œil Leave a comment
Trompe-l’œil is an artistic term for the highly realistic optical illusion of three-dimensional space and objects on a two-dimensional surface.
These Rag & Bone “jeans” are part of the Miramar Collection of sweatpants (cotton terry/elastic waist) which are printed to look like jeans.
dievca has fooled many a friend with her two versions of the pants: gathered ankle and straight leg. she would like to upgrade to the Mia cut.
What do you think?
Is dievca cheating by wearing terry cloth “jeans” or just being smart and comfortable?
dievca desires (no, not that – clothing)
Posted: October 4, 2022 Filed under: Accessories, Clothing, Fashion, Shoes | Tags: BDSM, clear out, closet, D/s, dievca, downtown chic, Life, Love, new season, resale, Shopping, submissive Leave a commentdievca is selling off her closet to revamp her selections. she is up to $1500 via eBay and continuing the process — here is what she is considering for purchase:
Here’s the good news – things that she already owns that work with this year’s trends:
Good Morning – planning the day!
Posted: October 3, 2022 Filed under: Clothing, Entertainment, Musings | Tags: Autumn, BDSM, body temperature, coffee, D/s, dievca, Humor, jumper, Life, Monday, Morning, sweater, Weather Leave a commentIt was “put the sweater on – take the sweater off – put the sweater on” yesterday.
Let’s see what today holds.
Have a Lovely week!
Presenting in the Pink of the Moment
Posted: September 23, 2022 Filed under: Accessories, Clothing, Dresses | Tags: BDSM, bold, confidence, D/s, dievca, fashion, Love, pink, Presentation Outfits, Shopping, Submission, submissive Leave a comment
It’s everywhere – its not subtle.
A POP of color to bring Joy.
Is there such a thing as a BOLD submissive?
Yes, when Presenting for your Master or Mistress
(click on photos for brands)
Workout Garters
Posted: September 13, 2022 Filed under: Body Type, Clothing, lingerie | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, erotic, fashion, garter belt, Presentation Outfit, submissive, suspenders, workout Leave a comment
Adam Selman Garter belt Leggings (and Bras)
bring a sense of Presentation for Master/Mistress
to your Workout
Looking for Lingerie
Posted: August 19, 2022 Filed under: Body Type, Clothing, lingerie | Tags: BDSM, biking, D/s, dievca, flattering, Life, Outdoor Voices, Physical Therapy, practical, Presentation, Shopping, submissive, workout dress 3 CommentsYour Master/Mistress has arrived home from a long trip —
you’re digging frantically for something fabulous!
Then you realize that you have to work, run to Physical Therapy
and immediately afterward ride your bike uptown.
What can you get away with in that scenario?
Something practical that makes your Sir or Madam smile
(and pack your lingerie incase you get lucky with a shower):

Outdoor Voices Exercise Dress $100
Verte
Posted: August 17, 2022 Filed under: Clothing, lingerie | Tags: BDSM, clothing sale, Color, D/s, dievca, Elegant, End of Summer, green, Shopping, submissive, Sun, swimsuit Leave a commentIts the end of season and the swimsuit sales are beginning – here’s dievca’s choice:

ELSE swimsuit verte
If this ELSE version of VERTE doesn’t work for you – here’s the color wheel of greens and a selection of swimsuits! (click photos for brands)
Dressing like a coffee cup?
Posted: July 18, 2022 Filed under: Clothing, Entertainment, Home and Garden | Tags: BDSM, Bergdorf Goodman, coffee, D/s, dievca, Humor, jumper, Love, Monday, Morning, Shopping, sweater, The Elder Statesman Leave a comment
Dressing like your favorite take-away cup design?
It’s available at Bergdorf Goodman.
XO
Good Morning!
A Mature Moment – Modehus
Posted: July 8, 2022 Filed under: Clothing, Dresses, Relationships | Tags: aging, BDSM, D/s, dievca, friendship, girlfriends, Humor, Life, Love, sharing, Shopping, travel Leave a commentdievca’s Swedish friend laughs at her because dievca always has to visit two stores in a small town. One is an optical shop that sells great eyeglass frames and the second is, well, yeah – a “Mature Women’s” shop . A modehus that her friend does not step into unless dievca is visiting. Let’s put it this way – dievca saw a pair of cropped pants in the store and then saw them on her friend’s Mother-in-Law an hour later.
Whatever. dievca stops in because she always finds a gem.
Two trips ago, the gem was a dress made by a Danish designer upcycling vintage Sari silk. dievca still wears the dress. dievca bought a similar dress on her last trip, but she felt that the arms were too snug and she passed it on to her Dutch friend. Her friend loves the dress so much and has worn it a number of times that she had to wash it.
dievca received this photo in response:
You have to appreciate a fabric care tag telling it like it is!
What did dievca buy this trip?
Well, TWO pairs of eyeglass frames – but they will appear in another post and a “Made in Italy” linen top which was a tunic but dievca’s friend’s Mother cropped it for our short dievca:
It looks clean and crisp with white jeans and the Zimmerman sandals:
The “Hero” travel outfit
Posted: July 6, 2022 Filed under: Clothing, Jewelry | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Life, practical, Shopping, submissive, Summer, travel, traveling, versatile Leave a commentdievca has found a simple travel outfit that works in heat and cooler environments.
From the Beach to a Sidewalk Cafe, to the Mountains, to a Roadside Bar.
No worries about wrinkles, drips and damage.
You can click on the photos for the item descriptions, but dievca’s exact run down is this:
- Anthropologie Gardner Cotton Gauze Utility Pants
- Garnet Hill Tank Mushroom
- Surface To Air Crochet Knit Sweater Taupe
- Zimmerman studded Sandals Tan
- 4 Melissa Joy Manning Sterling Silver and Recycled Gold Cuffs (various)
- Ippolita Cherish 18K Ring
- Jack Vartanian 14K Gold Chain Ring
- Pomellato Dodo 18K charm necklace – Monkey and Swallow
- Etsy 14K Gold Post earrings
- Scunci Hair clip