Ditto (a flashback)
Posted: January 6, 2023 Filed under: Discussion, Entertainment | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Ditto Machines, Humor, Life, Memories, old age, old school, School, smell, submissive, teaching 1 Comment
A spirit duplicator (also referred to as a Rexograph or Ditto machine in North America, Banda machine in the UK, Gestetner machine in Australia) is a printing method invented in 1923 by Wilhelm Ritzerfeld that was commonly used for much of the rest of the 20th century.
The ditto machine used no ink. The user typed, wrote, or drew on a ditto master sheet which was backed by a second sheet of paper coated with a dye-impregnated, waxy substance. The inscribed image appeared on the back of the ditto sheet in reverse. The ditto machine used an alcohol-based fluid to dissolve some of the dye in the document, and transferred the image to the copy paper.
Though other colors of ditto sheets were available, purple was commonly used. In elementary school, dievca remembers that teachers would distribute drawing sheets for coloring or vocabulary. The sheets had been through the ditto machine, which gave purple outlines to drawings, letters, numbers, and anything else needed.
When dievca taught High School she used the Ditto Machines for worksheets – there wasn’t a copier available…old school!
The output of the ditto machine had a special aroma. Students could tell when a class assignment was hot out of the machine by the strength of the odor of the pages. The smell came from the ditto machine’s duplicating fluid, a mix of methanol and isopropanol.
The photo above shows a mimeograph:
The mimeograph printing process used an ink-filled cylinder and ink pad. Documents had to be prepared on a special wax-covered stencil on a typewriter which had its ribbon disengaged. The typewriter thus made impressions in the stencil, which were filled with ink and squeezed onto paper by the mimeograph’s roller. The stencils could also be used with drawings made by hand.
Using Sketchy vs Dodgy
Posted: October 16, 2022 Filed under: Discussion | Tags: American, BDSM, British, D/s, definitions, dievca, eBay Seller, Humor, Life, Shopping Leave a comment
sketch·y
/ˈskeCHē/
adjective
1.
not thorough or detailed.
“the information they had was sketchy”
2.
INFORMAL•NORTH AMERICAN
dishonest or disreputable.
“once the story does come out, the fact that you tried to hide it will seem sketchy”
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dodg·y
/ˈdäjē/
adjective
INFORMAL•BRITISH
dishonest or unreliable.
“a dodgy secondhand car salesman”
dievca ran into an issue with an eBay seller and used the adjective “sketchy”. Perhaps she should have used “dodgy”. dievca’s general sense is that “sketchy” applies to direct actions and “dodgy” describes the seller overall. Maybe the words are just interchangeable. Either way, dievca is probably not going to receive her item….
A good night’s sleep
Posted: October 6, 2022 Filed under: D/s Relationship, Discussion, Entertainment | Tags: advice, aftercare, Ass, BDSM, D/s, dievca, Harvard Medical School, health benefits, Humor, Life, Love, pillow, sleep Leave a comment
Some of dievca’s best sleep is when, after Play, she is tucked into her Master’s armpit – making an earmark on His arm.
That earmark is pretty drastic.
Perhaps an earmark on an a** would be better.
Or following HARVARD MEDICAL SCHOOL’s “8 secrets to a good night’s sleep”:
1. Exercise
Going for a brisk daily walk won’t just trim you down, it will also keep you up less often at night. Exercise boosts the effect of natural sleep hormones such as melatonin. A study in the journal Sleep found that postmenopausal women who exercised for about three-and-a-half hours a week had an easier time falling asleep than women who exercised less often. Just watch the timing of your workouts. Exercising too close to bedtime can be stimulating. Morning workouts that expose you to bright daylight will help the natural circadian rhythm.
2. Reserve bed for sleep and sex
Don’t use your bed as an office for answering phone calls and responding to emails. Also avoid watching late-night TV there. The bed needs to be a stimulus for sleeping, not for wakefulness. Reserve your bed for sleep and sex.
3. Keep it comfortable
Television isn’t the only possible distraction in your bedroom. Ambience can affect your sleep quality too. Make sure your bedroom is as comfortable as possible. Ideally you want a quiet, dark, cool environment. All of these things promote sleep onset.
4. Start a sleep ritual
When you were a child and your mother read you a story and tucked you into bed every night, this comforting ritual helped lull you to sleep. Even in adulthood, a set of bedtime rituals can have a similar effect. Rituals help signal the body and mind that it’s coming to be time for sleep. Drink a glass of warm milk. Take a bath. Or listen to calming music to unwind before bed.
5. Eat—but not too much
A grumbling stomach can be distracting enough to keep you awake, but so can an overly full belly. Avoid eating a big meal within two to three hours of bedtime. If you’re hungry right before bed, eat a small healthy snack (such as an apple with a slice of cheese or a few whole-wheat crackers) to satisfy you until breakfast.
6. Avoid alcohol and caffeine
If you do have a snack before bed, wine and chocolate shouldn’t be part of it. Chocolate contains caffeine, which is a stimulant. Surprisingly, alcohol has a similar effect. It makes you a little sleepy, but it’s actually a stimulant and it disrupts sleep during the night. Also stay away from anything acidic (such as citrus fruits and juices) or spicy, which can give you heartburn.
7. De-stress
The bills are piling up and your to-do list is a mile long. Daytime worries can bubble to the surface at night. Stress is a stimulus. It activates the fight-or-flight hormones that work against sleep. Give yourself time to wind down before bed. Learning some form of the relaxation response can promote good sleep and can also reduce daytime anxiety. To relax, try deep breathing exercises. Inhale slowly and deeply, and then exhale.
8. Get checked
An urge to move your legs, snoring, and a burning pain in your stomach, chest, or throat are symptoms of three common sleep disrupters—restless legs syndrome, sleep apnea, and gastroesophageal reflux disease or GERD. If these symptoms are keeping you up at night or making you sleepy during the day, see your doctor for an evaluation.
Customer Service – a rant (sorry)
Posted: September 17, 2022 Filed under: Discussion | Tags: BDSM, body awareness, Communication, Customer Service, D/s, dievca, irritation, Life, Physical Therapy, submissive Leave a comment
Customer Service – a dievca’s unreasonable expectations….
dievca has been in PT for the past 2 months for her knee. It has been going well. She has been “on time”, has not missed an appointment, has not rescheduled an appointment and does her prescribed work.
The Physical Therapist schedules out the Month and this month dievca’s appointments shifted from M and Th to M and F. No problem.
dievca arrived yesterday did her session with the Physical Therapist then had to stop at the front desk because there was a problem with her credit card for the co-pay. Throughout the 1.25 hours no one mentioned that they were canceling her scheduled Friday appointments. She had a Voicemail to that effect that she received in the taxi after the session. So, she called back in to determine what the problem was:
- The Physical Therapist is no longer coming in on Fridays
- The Thursday timeframe where dievca was normally scheduled is blocked out
- The only open time is on Weds Noon which dievca cannot make
- The scheduler made it seem like it was dievca’s fault she had to be put on a “waitlist”
dievca may be wrong but she feels:
- These are things that should have been dealt with Face-to- Face. dievca was there at the office.
- The larger schedule change (losing Fridays) should have started in October, not the middle of the current month.
- If that couldn’t happen all appointments should have been rescheduled immediately when the changes occurred – not as a last minute reaction.
- The customer (dievca) should not be made to feel that it was her fault that the schedule changed and then be told “well, you just have to go on the waitlist”.
Yes, dievca understands that schedules change. Yes, dievca understands that she is just another “number” and they obviously have enough “numbers’ to be flippant.
An “I’m Sorry” or an acknowledgement of poor scheduling would go a long way to making the irritation more palatable. If you expect your clients to show up and be on time, you have to be consistent in return.
dievca suspects this will bite them in the a** at some point because she cannot be the only person who is irritated and she is sure that this has happened a number of times.
You know – customer service is really important.
An aside: other places with terrible customer service Adidas, the RealReal and 1stDibs. Places with GREAT CUSTOMER SERVICE – PayPal, Discover, Garnet Hill, MyTheresa
Silly Love Songs, etc…
Posted: September 10, 2022 Filed under: Discussion, Entertainment, Master | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Life, Love, love songs, Master, music gendre, Opinion, Paul McCartney Wings Leave a comment
Master laughs at His dievca’s music – she’s mentioned this previously.
she doesn’t understand why…
Who doesn’t like Cheesy Love Songs, 70’s Suave Grooves, 80’s Electronica, Classic Rock, Eurotrash?
Harumph!
Music should be — uhhh — accessible.
Right?
XO
Not my obligation
Posted: August 23, 2022 Filed under: Discussion | Tags: Annoyed, BDSM, Boundry, co-workers, D/s, dievca, elderly, Life, Obligation, submissive, work Leave a comment
Just because you want me to help you with your Work Orphans
does not mean I am obligated to do it.
Please stop asking.
dievca works with an 82 year old colleague who is doing well,
but is starting to ask for too much assistance for sh*t clients
and is getting demanding about it.
Its not a matter of money, its time.
dievca will give assistance to Age,
but not interested in holding them up.
Feeling the End of Summer
Posted: August 22, 2022 Filed under: Discussion, Home and Garden | Tags: BDSM, body awareness, coffee, D/s, dievca, gratitude, healing, Joy, Life, Love, Monday, Morning, submissive, Summer 2 Comments
End of Summer:
Long, curly hair with gold amongst the silver from the sun and chlorine.
Toasty brown skin moisturized via suntan lotion and aloe.
Give it a month or two and it will be back to a blown dry bob under a hat.
Fair skin refinished with retinol and heavier UV protection.
This is the first summer in years where dieca’s healing situation has allowed her to revert back to childhood behaviors of Sun, Swim, Play (PT) and Laziness. It’s been a gift she will treasure.
How was/is your Summer?
Hitting the Highway
Posted: July 31, 2022 Filed under: Discussion, Entertainment | Tags: BDSM, Classic, D/s, dievca, freedom, Love, roadtrip, submissive, Summer, travel, United States, US Map 1 Comment
And thinking of you!
The Map above is suggesting ways to see the USA — some are the roads (#10 – Route 66) and others are routes trasversing the United States via multiple routes using Moon Travel Guides. With air travel being a great challenge – maybe splurging on a car trip might be an option for Summer Travel.
and how are You?
Posted: June 29, 2022 Filed under: Discussion, Entertainment | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Doctor, Humor, knee pain, Life, Master, Pain Management, recovery, submissive, surgery Leave a comment
Years ago, dievca’s Mom had rotator cuff surgery. The surgeon came out and said that it was much worse than he expected. Basically, he didn’t recognize her pain was legitimate when Mom stated it.
Once upon a time, dievca was an elite athlete. Her sense of pain or toleration of pain is skewed. Sometimes, she can’t judge if something is really bad because she’s pushed through the pain for so long. When she went to the orthopedic surgeon dievca was glad that her knee locked up on the examination table – it proved she wasn’t a lunatic.
Apparently, when the surgeon got into her knee to remove the bone chips, he got more than he bargained for with the osteoarthritis of the knee cap and took the extra time to clean it up.
So, was dievca like her Mother and her pain wasn’t taken seriously? Or has dievca been pushing through and couldn’t state her pain clearly because she might have read it wrong?
Anyways, dievca had a good night. she’s taking the meds as directed – not desperate for them at all. Her leg can straighten, bend and take weight, the pain is in the quad more than the knee at this point.
Master asked her how she felt about the surgery – and she answered, “hopeful”.
OK, enough! dievca’s Mom always said its boring for other people to listen to your ailments~
Let’s switch – How are you?
Photo: dievca – looking like an Easter Egg. The yellow socks really made her happy. 06/2022
Summer Solstice: midsummer or the beginning of summer?
Posted: June 25, 2022 Filed under: Discussion, Home and Garden | Tags: BDSM, D/s, definition, dievca, Joy, Life, Love, Seasons, submissive, Summer, Weather 2 CommentsSo, The summer solstice was on June 21, 2022 and Midsummer is today, June 25th.
Which is truly the start of Summer?
The June Solstice is often referred to as the first day of summer, and yet celebrations across the Northern Hemisphere at this time of year carry the name Midsummer, which is pretty confusing.
Midsummer and the summer solstice are used interchangeably, but they refer to different things.
The solstice is the beginning of the astronomical summer that has been celebrated since ancient times as the longest day of the year, whereas Midsummer now refers to numerous celebrations that are held over the solstice period, between June 19 and June 24, with both pagan and Christian origins.
With celebrations originating in ancient times as a festival for the summer solstice, this could be where the name comes from. Bonfires were lit up to ward off evil spirits as the sun turned southward.
Meteorologically,
Because the Earth actually takes 365.24 days to travel around the Sun we add an extra day every fourth year, we call this a Leap Year. This means the longest and shortest days vary from one year to the next.
The elliptical shape of the Earth’s orbit causes the lengths of the astronomical seasons to change and this mean it is difficult to compare climatological statistics consistently for a particular season.
This is where the meteorological seasons come in.
Meteorological dates mark the start and end of seasons for statistical purposes. Meteorologists split the year into four quarters, each made up of three months, based on the annual temperature cycle.
The length of the meteorological seasons are more consistent than the astronomical ones, so that we can observe, forecast and compare season statistics reliably from year to year.
- Autumn: September 1 – November 30
- Winter: December 1 – February 28
- Spring: March 1 – May 31
- Summer: June 1 – August 30
This means that for meteorologists it’s been summer since the beginning of June…
Honestly – the Joy of Summer was probably dictated by when your school let out!
Espresso Expression – or lack thereof (explanation of the ACNE Studios FACE)
Posted: May 9, 2022 Filed under: Accessories, Discussion, Entertainment, Home and Garden | Tags: ACNE Studios, BDSM, coffee, cup, D/s, dievca, espresso, Etsy, face logo, Humor, Life, Monday, Morning, Shopping Leave a comment
Espresso Cup from Etsy $17.71 —
No expressions until the caffeine gets delivered effectively!
Kinda looks like the ACNE Studios Face
Here’s the story behind the ACNE Studios Face:
Acne’s creative director and co-founder, Jonny Johannson, has been adding the symbol to a range of expertly crafted essentials.
“We were doing a fitting for a show and we didn’t have a bag—you always have to have a bag when you do a show. So I took a piece of paper and I drew this Swedish guy. Instead of a smiley, I drew a square face from a straight line and two dots for eyes.”
“And that’s how it came to be, just an ordinary Swedish citizen. Not too happy, not too sad, but somewhere in between. Lagom in Swedish. Since then he appeared on other things and became bigger and bigger in the collections, and rather than let it get out of hand, I thought he has to officially belong in the Acne family; I started thinking about what family means to me, and what is important within families.”
“I was thinking about my own family and how at one point in our family history we were all dressing the same as one another. From there I started thinking about what the modern family is today, which is how the concept came up.”
The face has remained a part of the Acne Studios family and now has its own seasonal collections.
Thank you to “High Snobiety”.
Miss May with Al Moore
Posted: May 7, 2022 Filed under: Discussion, Entertainment | Tags: 1950's, Al Moore, art, BDSM, calendar, D/s, dievca, Elegant, erotic, Hisotry, May, Pin-Up, submissive Leave a comment
Born in Illinois, AI Moore played college football at Northwestern University and professional football with the Chicago Bears. After attending classes at Chicago’s Art Institute and Academy of Art, he opened a commercial art studio in New York in the late 1930s. By the mid-1940s, his clients included major companies like Galey and Lord, Beauty Counselors, the Viscole Corporation, and Champion Spark Flags.
During the war years, Moore painted posters for the government and also took on assignments from Gold cigarettes, Cosmopolitan, The Saturday Evening Post, and Collier’s.
Advertising work for U.S. Rubber, Nash automobiles, and Coca-Cola led, in 1946, to Moore’s breakthrough assignment – he was chosen by Esquire to replace Alberto Vargas, the most popular pin-up artist of the day. Among Moore’s triumphs at the magazine was his creation of the Esquire Girl, his answer to the Varga Girl; the 1948 Esquire calendar (with Ben-Hur Baz and others); front covers in 1948 and 1949; and the rare honor of painting the entire 1949 and 1950 calendars himself. By 1950, his two-page gatefolds in Esquire were collected by millions of Americans.
Moore contributed four pinups and a centerfold print to Brown & Bigelow’s Ballyhoo Calendar for 1953, which was as huge a success as the work of Gil Elvgren for the previous year’s calendar. In the 1950s, his corporate clients included contemporary Munsingwear, Hertz Rent-a-Car, and the McGregor Corporation. During the same years, his illustrations appeared in American Magazine, Woman’s Home Companion, McCall’s, and Woman’s Day, and he painted several front covers for The Saturday Evening Post. As an active member of the Society of Illustrators, Moore was asked to paint the poster for the society’s 1959 exhibition; it was such a success that both Pan American Airlines and Germaine Monteil Perfume also commissioned posters for their national marketing campaigns.
When photographs started to replace artwork in magazines and advertising, Moore decided to retire and pursue fine-art painting, including portrait commissions, Shortly after he moved to Crawford, Colorado, he accepted a commission from the United States Olympic Committee for three paintings for their world headquarters that would call attention to the problem of illegal steroid use by athletes.
Al Moore biography borrowed from The Great American Pin-Up by Charles G Martignette & Louis K Meisel.
A HUGE “Thank You” to the ThePin-UpFiles.
Can you copyright a Smiley Face?
Posted: April 29, 2022 Filed under: Clothing, Discussion | Tags: BDSM, Chinti and Parker, Copyrights, D/s, dievca, Humor, khaki, Life, Shopping, Smiley Face, sweatshirt Leave a comment
SmileyWorld® Khaki Smiley Cotton Hoodie
Elevate your downtime aesthetic with this relaxed-fit khaki hoodie. It is stamped with an oversized smiley face and embroidered with the words ‘Think Happy’ on the cuff. Wear this super-soft cotton style with the matching track pants.
I guess if you change the eyes to hearts (which dievca is not fond of) – or (see below) …
…
The Smiley Company.
| Type | Private |
|---|---|
| Key people | Franklin Loufrani (Founder & President) Nicolas Loufrani (CEO) |
| Revenue | $ 538 million (2020) |
| Number of employees | 40 (2016) |
| Subsidiaries | SmileyWorld |
feeling a little 80’s – right now
Posted: April 26, 2022 Filed under: Discussion, Entertainment | Tags: 1980's, BDSM, d-s, dievca, Duran Duran, Generation X, Humor, Life, Love, Master, music, submissive Leave a comment
Master laughs at His dievca’s penchant for 80’s synthesizer hits. What can she say? she’s an 80’s Throwback – a product of Generation X:
- They’re Expert DIY-ers. …
- Their Sartorial Style Is Decidedly Dressed-Down. …
- They’ve Got the Whole Work-Life Balance Thing Down Pat. …
- They Tech-Savvy… But Not Tech-Dependent. …
- They’re Fiercely Independent.
- They’re Fiercely Attached To Their Music AND Don’t Really Care If You Like It Or Not.
Lyrics:
You saw me standing by the wall corner of a main street
And the lights are flashing on your window sill
All alone ain’t much fun so you’re looking for the thrill
And you know just what it takes and where to go
Don’t save a prayer for me now
Save it ’til the morning after
No don’t say a prayer for me now
Save it ’til the morning after
Feel the breeze deep on the inside look you down into the well
If you can you’ll see the world in all his fire
Take a chance like all dreamers can’t find another way
You don’t have to dream it all, just live a day
Don’t say a prayer for me now
Save it ’til the morning after
No don’t say a prayer for me now
Save it ’til the morning after
Save it ’til the morning after
Save it ’til the morning after
Pretty looking road I try to hold the rising floods that fill my skin
Don’t ask me why I’ll keep my promise I’ll melt the ice
And you wanted to dance so I asked you to dance
But fear is in your soul
Some people call it a one night stand but we can call it paradise
Don’t say a prayer for me now
Save it til the morning after
No don’t say a prayer for me now
Save it ’til the morning after
Save it ’til the morning after
Save it ’til the morning after
Save it ’til the morning after
Save it ’til the morning after (doo doo doo doo doo doo doo doo doo)
Save a prayer ’til the morning after
Save a prayer ’til the morning after
Save a prayer ’til the morning after
Save a prayer ’til the morning after
Save a prayer ’til the morning after
Save a prayer ’til the morning after
Thrown into a World you remember
Posted: April 8, 2022 Filed under: Discussion | Tags: aging, dievca, females, Humor, Joy, kids, Life, Love, Memories, menstruation, perimenopause, tweens Leave a comment
12 and 13 years old can be tough ages for Kids – Girls in particular. It’s a lovely, awkward, silly, loud, insecure, sad, joyous time. As dievca is rolling towards menopause, she’s recently been thrown into the company of those new to menstruation. Both camps are riding the rollercoaster of hormones and emotions.
The funny thing is that dievca is finding patience with her own body through finding patience for the kids.
As she listens and soothes – she is soothed in return and it brings back memories of her Mom, Aunts, Cousins, and female coaches. dievca finds herself saying things that those lovely Women said to her and she rolled her eyes at 13. Now she knows why they said them and meant them to be true.
I’m up, I’m up!
Posted: March 30, 2022 Filed under: Discussion, Home and Garden | Tags: BDSM, behavior, D/s, dievca, friendship, Humor, Life, Morning, Routine, sleep Leave a comment
dievca caught up with a friend who knew her as a “Night Owl” – they laughed, things have changed.
Via the Cleveland Clinic and LiveScience:
Chronotype is determined by a combination of nature and nurture, scientists have found. On the nature side, a number of genes are known to play roles in determining whether a person prefers to be awake late at night or early in the morning, Drerup told Live Science. Hundreds of genes are associated with being a morning person, according to a 2019 study published in the journal Nature Communications. These genes influence a person’s circadian rhythm, or their natural sleep-wake cycle, which leads to their chronotype.
Your environment also plays a large role. People tend to participate in daily activities that reinforce their chronotype, Drerup said. For example, night owls feel more productive and alert at night, so they tend to exercise and socialize in the evening. These activities are stimulating and reinforce the person’s tendency to stay up late.
Because the environment is a factor in determining whether a person is a night owl or a morning person, it is possible to change your sleep-wake cycle. If you want to wake up earlier, make the change gradually. Drerup recommended slowly shifting your wake-up alarm earlier by 15 to 20 minutes every few days over the course of several weeks until you’ve adjusted to your ideal schedule.
A really low dew point
Posted: March 28, 2022 Filed under: Discussion, Entertainment | Tags: Appreciation, beach, D/s, dievca, Florida, Joy, Life, Love, Photos, submissive, Vacation, warm weather Leave a comment
can make a Beach Holiday that much more enjoyable.
(dievca has been incredibly lucky with the weather this weekend).
Photo: dievca South Beach FL 03/2022
People can be stupid.
Posted: March 2, 2022 Filed under: Discussion, Entertainment | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, exhaustion, frustration, irritation, Life, poor mental attitude, stupidity, submissive, work 2 Comments
Nobody calls when its quiet. Everyone calls when you are in the middle of Life. It doesn’t take 11 e-mails to get one item completed. Why can’t newcasters tie their own shoes without a teleprompter? Add that you are missing sleep and trying to function in a Public World. dievca is a crab who is trying to be very nice at this moment – when she really just wants to snap everyone’s head off with her claws…
Sorry about the whigning – dievca really needs sleep.
A submissive re-evaluation
Posted: February 23, 2022 Filed under: Analysis, Discussion, Master, Submission | Tags: BDSM, change, D/s, definitions, dievca, Dominant, evaluation, growth, Life, power exchange Leave a comment
Master is traveling and dievca has had some open time to review her Life and changes in the past 2 years. Between COVID, deaths, aging – Master and dievca’s relationship has changed. And as body changes, social changes and family changes have eased – she’s wondering what will return or diminish.
dievca is starting her reflection process by defining the type of Relationship Master and dievca had at the beginning. Then she plans to review where she thinks they are now. Finally, she will communicate her analysis to Master and listen to His thoughts and wants for the future.
9 Types of submissives:
- The outright non-submissive masochist or kinky sensualist
Not into servitude, humiliation or giving up of control; just pain and/or spiced-up sensuality, on the masochist’s own terms for the masochist’s own pleasure (ie: being turned on solely or mainly by one’s own bodily sensations, rather than being turned on by being “used” to gratify one’s partner’s sadism). - Pseudo-submissive non-slave
Not into even playing “slave”, but into other “submissive” role-playing, e.g.: schoolteacher scenes, infantilism, “forced” transvestism. Usually into humiliation, but NOT into servitude, even in play. Dictates the scene to a large degree. - Pseudo-submissive PLAY slave
Likes to play at being slave. Likes to *feel* subservient; may in some cases like to *feel* that one is being “used” to gratify one’s partner’s sadism; and may even really serve the dominant in some ways, but only on the “slave’s” own terms. Dictates the scene to a large degree; often fetishistic (e.g. foot worshippers). - True submissive non-slave
Really gives up control (though only temporarily and within agreed upon limits), but gets his/her main satisfaction from aspects of submission *other than* serving or being used by the dominant. Usually turned on by suspense, vulnerability, and/or giving up of responsibility. Doesn’t dictate the scene except in very general terms, but still seeks mainly her/his own *direct* pleasure (rather than getting one’s pleasure mainly from pleasing the dominant). - True submissive PLAY slave
Really gives up control (though only temporarily; only during brief “scenes” and within limits) and gets his/her main satisfaction from serving and being used by the dominant – but only for FUN purposes, usually erotic. (May or may not be into pain, but if so, is turned on by pain *indirectly*, ie: enjoys being the objects of one’s partner’s sadism, on which the submissive places few requirements or restrictions.) - Uncommitted short-term but more-than-play semi-slave
Really gives up control (though usually within limits); wants to serve and be used by the dominant; wants to provide practical/non-erotic as well as fun/ erotic services; but only when the “slave” is in the mood. May even act as a full-time slave for, say, several days at a time, but is free to quit at any time (or at the end of the agreed upon several days). May or may not have a long-term relationship with one’s Mistress/Master, but, either way, the “slave” has the final say over when he or she will serve. - Part-time consensual but REAL slave
Has ongoing commitment to an owner/slave relationship, and regards oneself as the Mistress’/Master’s “property” at all times. Wants to obey and please her/him in all aspects of life – practical/non-erotic as well as fun/erotic. Devotes most of one’s time to other commitments (eg: job) but the Mistress/Master has first pick of the slave’s free time. - Full-time live-in consensual slave
Within no more than a few broad limits/requirements, the slave regards herself/ himself as existing solely for the Mistress’/Master’s use, pleasure and well- being. The slave in turn expects to be regarded as a prized possession. Not much different from the situation of the traditional housewife, except that within the S/M world the slave’s position is more likely to be fully consensual, especially if the slave is male (since men certainly aren’t socially pressured into this kind of lifestyle). Within the S/M world, a full-time “slave” arrangement is entered into with an explicit awareness of the magnitude of power that is being given up, and hence is usually entered into much more carefully, with more awareness of the possible dangers, and with much clearer and more specific agreements than usually precede the traditional marriage. - Consensual total slave with no limits
A common fantasy ideal which probably doesn’t exist in real life (except in authoritarian religious cults and other situations where the “consent” is induced by brainwashing and/or social or economic pressures, and hence isn’t fully consensual). A few S/M purists will insist that you aren’t really a slave unless you’re willing to do absolutely *anything* for your Mistress/ Master, with no limits at all. There are a few who claim to be no-limits slaves, but in all cases it would be reasonable to doubt the claim.
© 1984, 1988 by Mistress Diane Vera as reprinted in
Pat Califia, ed. The Lesbian S/M Safety Manual (Boston: Lace / Alyson) pp. 69-71
A Thank You to SluttyGirlProblem – Victoria Sparrow and Officer Wes for the information that made dievca start to think.
www.officerwes.com © 1997-2021 by Officer Wes
Help? Did my body grow?
Posted: February 18, 2022 Filed under: Discussion, Entertainment | Tags: BDSM, Blog, Body Image, D/s, dievca, help, Life, size, submissive 4 Comments
Look – my personal body has grown due to past injuries and perimenopause – I don’t need my Blog wire body image to grow….
If you have a moment and are stopping by the blog – could you let me know if that header image has grown larger for you, too?
Thank you!
your dievča
Garter, Garter Belt, Garter Skirt
Posted: February 10, 2022 Filed under: Discussion, lingerie | Tags: BDSM, D/s, definitions, dievca, Elegant, erotic, garter belt, Master, Presentation, Shopping, stockings, submissive, Undergarments Leave a commentInitionally, Garters were use to hold up hose or socks. The advent of elastic dimished the usage of Garters in real life, but you still see limited usage at Weddings. Why?
Traditionally, the witnesses would accompany a newly wed couple to the bridal chambers to ensure consummation. The wedding garter being retrieved from the bride served as proof to other guests that the deed was done, and the garter was then tossed into the sea of people.
Symbolically, the garter was thought to influence fertility. It also symbolized marriage consummation and future children for the couple. Because of this, the garter was fiercely sought after at weddings. It was an honor to detach the garter from the bride and was believed that the luck of the wedding couple would pass on to the guest who obtained the garter.
Garter Belts (or Suspender Belts): a belt with attached garters or fasteners, worn as an undergarment to hold up stockings.
Which brings us to the newer term-
Garter Skirt: (a dievca and Master favorite) A wider garter belt acting as a short skirt or mini skrt which can attach stockings. Allows for bottom coverage with easy access – a flattering, sassy way to Present.
One for the $
Posted: January 26, 2022 Filed under: Discussion, Fashion, Shoes | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Elegant, Elvis, erotic, poem, sassy, Shoe fetishism, Shopping, submissive Leave a comment
One for the money, two for the show is half of a rhyme used as a countdown to begin a task. The entire rhyme is: one for the money, two for the show, three to make ready and four to go. Children have used this little poem since the mid-1800s as a countdown to starting a race or competition. A famous variation of the rhyme is found in the 1955 popular song Blue Suede Shoes written by Carl Perkins: “Well, it’s one for the money, two for the show, three to get ready, now go, cat, go.”
Feeling the Blue Suede?
Whiplash – selling the house
Posted: January 23, 2022 Filed under: Discussion, Home and Garden, Relationships | Tags: Death, dievca, elderly parents, Family, home, Life, realty, selling, Stress Leave a comment
dievca was looking out at the sunset when her brother called. Apparently 6 people saw Mom and Dad’s house today – the first day it was listed. Mom and Dad lived in a small town in a rural area surrounded by farms….so both dievca and her brother were surprised.
There are 7 more people on the schedule for tomorrow. Someone made a cash offer today and the realtor will ask for ‘Highest and Best’ offers by 5 pm tomorrow night to decide. dievca is not sure why the realtor isn’t asking for “Best and Final” offers because dievca’s brother wants the house sold as is and as soon as possible.
That means dievca will have to hustle back and get the furniture and things sorted. It would have been nice to do it in April – not the deep of February. (Shit, why not just pile one more item on a failing dievca…🙄)
Please note that the house is not the one dievca grew up in – just the one her parents built to die in.
Photo: dievca Hudson River NYC 01/2022
How the Strong add Coffee!
Posted: January 10, 2022 Filed under: Discussion, Entertainment, Home and Garden | Tags: BDSM, coffee, D/s, dievca, Health, health benefits, Life, Love, Monday, Morning, workout Leave a comment
Drinking coffee around 45–60 minutes before a workout allows for caffeine to reach its peak effectiveness. Most studies indicate that caffeine is highly effective for workouts when consumed in doses of 0.9–2.7 mg per pound (2–6 mg per kg) of body weight.
A lovely thought, but:
Posted: December 31, 2021 Filed under: Analysis, Discussion | Tags: BDSM, champagne, d-s, dievca, elderly parents, Flying, Life, Love, New Year's Eve, travel Leave a comment
- dievca’s flight is too short
- The small plane probably doesn’t have Champagne on board
- dievca will be wearing a 3M N95 mask (she’s not sure all of the caregivers are vaxxed)
- dievca has to drive to get to her Mom
Please have a flute of bubbly 🍾 for her, ok? (dievca’s Mom or dievca) dievca will be praying there is a bottle of wine leftover from her last visit 🍷 XO
It worked~improving a mood.
Posted: December 14, 2021 Filed under: Discussion, Home and Garden | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Friends, help, Holiday 2021, Joy, Life, mental health, motivation, positive mental attitude Leave a comment
They always have suggestions for improving a mood and in dievca’s case 6 out of these 34 suggestions worked.
- De-clutter. Getting organized can help us feel instantly calmer. Just five to ten minutes is enough to tackle a small project, like a desk or the kitchen table.
- Rearrange some furniture. Changing an environment can help us feel refreshed, enabling us to bust out of a negative mood.
- Get some sun. A boost of vitamin D can keep the blues at bay. Head outside for a brisk walk around the block. If that’s not possible, station yourself near a window for a few minutes.
- Spend time with Friends. If you want to be happy and calm, spend time around calm, happy people.
- Celebrate good times. Look at happy photos or spend a minute or so thinking back on positive memories (that first 5K finish line, a group trip to the waterpark, that amazing scone from a no-name coffee shop)—nostalgia can trigger happiness.
- Eat for a positive mood. We are what we eat, so step away from the unhappy meal. Instead, try out these meals to boost your mood. Up the happiness quotient by setting a nice place for yourself, lighting a candle, and giving thanks for the meal.
dievca allowed herself to decorate the apartment lightly – she felt less stressed when she decided that she didn’t have to do the full Christmas blowout. Holiday Hints throughout the apartment has made it feel festive for guests and herself. Having dinner with lovely people completed her mood change.
What works for you?
Photos: dievca home decor 12/2021
Santa Lingerie – a discussion
Posted: December 2, 2021 Filed under: Analysis, Discussion, Entertainment, lingerie | Tags: BDSM, Christmas, Cosplay, D/s, dievca, erotic, Holidays 2021, Humor, Presentation Outfit, Santa, sassy, Sexy, submissive Leave a commentSanta lingerie has permeated our culture. You can probably picture the garments in question: cherry-red babydoll nightie with white fur trim lining the hem, paired with matching thong, or maybe a red satin and white fur teddy.
How did lingerie evoking Santa, a wholesome and kindly childhood figure whose presence signals a religious virgin birth, get so popular?
Undergarments for women have long been costume-like, and were often meant to dramatically alter female silhouettes. (Whalebone corsets, giant hoops worn under crinoline skirts, a bustle.) Bloomers and petticoats might look dowdy and utilitarian, but eroticizing lingerie isn’t a new trend. Lingerie really started becoming more decorative and luxurious in the late 19th and early 20th centuries.
In1898, after noting a “mania” for colourful, decorative and seductive lingerie throughout Europe, the French journalist Octave Uzanne wrote, “the last remains of feminine modesty sunk out of sight.”
But underwear as a costume is a newer phenomenon. It might be linked with the provocative “underwear as outerwear” period of the 1980s and 90s. At the end of the 20th century, seeing visible underwear became more shocking than the nude body. An example is Madonna’s “Blonde Ambition” cone bra.
That’s the culture that led up to the “fast fashion” lingerie that was so popular in the early 2000s. And the inexpensive “Halloween Slutty” and “Santa Baby” costumes multiplied.
Santa may be a wholesome concept, but he is asking people to sit on his lap, he’s keeping a naughty and nice list, there are songs about Santa kissing women when he comes to visit, people are getting cozy with fur and sitting by a fire, and let’s not forget the unknown quantity of Ms. Santa Claus. Perhaps people who buy Santa lingerie are buying into the commercialized, sexualized lens of those forces~
Dress the Part
Posted: November 24, 2021 Filed under: Clothing, Discussion, Dresses | Tags: BDSM, closet, D/s, Life, positive mental attitude, Presentation, submissive, work Leave a comment
dievca has a Navy Blue Silk Dress that makes her feel amazing. Its’s not the most expensive dress nor the most fashionable, but she likes to wear it whenever she needs to clean up and present to humans. she can dress the outfit up or down with shoes/boots and accessories – any way it goes on it – she feels great.
dievca stands taller.
A lot of people argue that what you wear isn’t important, or that it is unfair to suggest that people should buy clothes to boost their self-esteem. If we are being realistic about the working world or IRL, we have to point out the truth: How you present yourself is important. You don’t need to have a closet full of expensive clothes to get ahead, but you will feel a lot better if you have one or two outfits you absolutely love that you can wear whenever you need a pick-me-up.
dievca doesn’t wear the silk dress because it will impress other people — she wears it because it makes her feel ready to take on the world!
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Please consider – NYC update
Posted: November 21, 2021 Filed under: Discussion, Home and Garden | Tags: BDSM, booster shot, COVID-19, D/s, dievca, Health, Life, Nurse, NYC, Pin-Up, submissive, vaccine 6 Comments
The Netherlands is having some COVID-19 challenges as are other European Countries. dievca knows this for sure because her Dutch friend doesn’t want to chance traveling for Thanksgiving. Understandable. she just wishes she could get a booster added to her friend’s AstraZeneca vaccine – her friend has asthma and arthritis issues.
The bubble of NYC is holding its own with school starting and the weather changing. An increase of 1.78% for the last 28 days, but drops in hospitalizations and deaths. dievca guesses if you get hit hard in the beginning, you comply with offered solutions.
dievca received her booster and she knows that parents of young children are getting their kids vaccinated. Seems to be working for the 18,823,000 in the NYC Metro Area.
Please consider getting your COVID-19 vaccine.
PS. for those interested in the booster shot. dievca’s arm is sore at the injection site, but she is feeling fine.
Better for survivors or better for the person dying?
Posted: November 9, 2021 Filed under: Discussion, Relationships | Tags: BDSM, cancer, D/s, dievca, friendship, Health, Life, Love, Questions, submissive, work Leave a commentdeivca is pondering a question this morning… please let her explain the scenario, 1st:
A work friend died yesterday. she was a few years older than dievca. The friend worked at a different location, so dievca didn’t see her all the time. dievca did see the friend in the summer and she looked a bit tired and thin, but her friend was thin to begin with. The friend was moving well and rollerblading consistently to work.
In September the friend asked dievca for a favor and it was to be turned back over in November. Not anymore.
No one knew the friend was sick, she just died.
It was cancer.
The workplace is reeling because this person was kind, happy, and caring. Lovely to everyone.
No one knows what happened. Was it diagnosed Stage 4? did she decide to pass on chemo? was it so aggressive there was no time? had she been battling it for a while and told no one but her family?
Back to dievca’s pondering…
Is it better to let people know about your illness or say nothing?
A quick death might be better for the terminally ill person, but doesn’t allow people to say Good-Bye.
(You don’t have to explain your condition, your treatment plans, deal with everyone feeling sorry for you, etc.)
A longer process allows people to connect with the terminally ill person but extends their trauma.
(People will keep asking what is going on, what the treatment plan is, ask how you are feeling, maybe offer pity, etc.)
OK, multiple questions. Tough questions.
No matter what the answers, it does bring to mind the phrase, “My Body – My Choice.”
dievca 