Espresso Expression – or lack thereof (explanation of the ACNE Studios FACE)
Posted: May 9, 2022 Filed under: Accessories, Discussion, Entertainment, Home and Garden | Tags: ACNE Studios, BDSM, coffee, cup, D/s, dievca, espresso, Etsy, face logo, Humor, Life, Monday, Morning, Shopping Leave a comment
Espresso Cup from Etsy $17.71 —
No expressions until the caffeine gets delivered effectively!
Kinda looks like the ACNE Studios Face
Here’s the story behind the ACNE Studios Face:
Acne’s creative director and co-founder, Jonny Johannson, has been adding the symbol to a range of expertly crafted essentials.
“We were doing a fitting for a show and we didn’t have a bag—you always have to have a bag when you do a show. So I took a piece of paper and I drew this Swedish guy. Instead of a smiley, I drew a square face from a straight line and two dots for eyes.”
“And that’s how it came to be, just an ordinary Swedish citizen. Not too happy, not too sad, but somewhere in between. Lagom in Swedish. Since then he appeared on other things and became bigger and bigger in the collections, and rather than let it get out of hand, I thought he has to officially belong in the Acne family; I started thinking about what family means to me, and what is important within families.”
“I was thinking about my own family and how at one point in our family history we were all dressing the same as one another. From there I started thinking about what the modern family is today, which is how the concept came up.”
The face has remained a part of the Acne Studios family and now has its own seasonal collections.
Thank you to “High Snobiety”.
Miss May with Al Moore
Posted: May 7, 2022 Filed under: Discussion, Entertainment | Tags: 1950's, Al Moore, art, BDSM, calendar, D/s, dievca, Elegant, erotic, Hisotry, May, Pin-Up, submissive Leave a comment
Born in Illinois, AI Moore played college football at Northwestern University and professional football with the Chicago Bears. After attending classes at Chicago’s Art Institute and Academy of Art, he opened a commercial art studio in New York in the late 1930s. By the mid-1940s, his clients included major companies like Galey and Lord, Beauty Counselors, the Viscole Corporation, and Champion Spark Flags.
During the war years, Moore painted posters for the government and also took on assignments from Gold cigarettes, Cosmopolitan, The Saturday Evening Post, and Collier’s.
Advertising work for U.S. Rubber, Nash automobiles, and Coca-Cola led, in 1946, to Moore’s breakthrough assignment – he was chosen by Esquire to replace Alberto Vargas, the most popular pin-up artist of the day. Among Moore’s triumphs at the magazine was his creation of the Esquire Girl, his answer to the Varga Girl; the 1948 Esquire calendar (with Ben-Hur Baz and others); front covers in 1948 and 1949; and the rare honor of painting the entire 1949 and 1950 calendars himself. By 1950, his two-page gatefolds in Esquire were collected by millions of Americans.
Moore contributed four pinups and a centerfold print to Brown & Bigelow’s Ballyhoo Calendar for 1953, which was as huge a success as the work of Gil Elvgren for the previous year’s calendar. In the 1950s, his corporate clients included contemporary Munsingwear, Hertz Rent-a-Car, and the McGregor Corporation. During the same years, his illustrations appeared in American Magazine, Woman’s Home Companion, McCall’s, and Woman’s Day, and he painted several front covers for The Saturday Evening Post. As an active member of the Society of Illustrators, Moore was asked to paint the poster for the society’s 1959 exhibition; it was such a success that both Pan American Airlines and Germaine Monteil Perfume also commissioned posters for their national marketing campaigns.
When photographs started to replace artwork in magazines and advertising, Moore decided to retire and pursue fine-art painting, including portrait commissions, Shortly after he moved to Crawford, Colorado, he accepted a commission from the United States Olympic Committee for three paintings for their world headquarters that would call attention to the problem of illegal steroid use by athletes.
Al Moore biography borrowed from The Great American Pin-Up by Charles G Martignette & Louis K Meisel.
A HUGE “Thank You” to the ThePin-UpFiles.
Can you copyright a Smiley Face?
Posted: April 29, 2022 Filed under: Clothing, Discussion | Tags: BDSM, Chinti and Parker, Copyrights, D/s, dievca, Humor, khaki, Life, Shopping, Smiley Face, sweatshirt Leave a comment
SmileyWorld® Khaki Smiley Cotton Hoodie
Elevate your downtime aesthetic with this relaxed-fit khaki hoodie. It is stamped with an oversized smiley face and embroidered with the words ‘Think Happy’ on the cuff. Wear this super-soft cotton style with the matching track pants.
I guess if you change the eyes to hearts (which dievca is not fond of) – or (see below) …
…
The Smiley Company.
| Type | Private |
|---|---|
| Key people | Franklin Loufrani (Founder & President) Nicolas Loufrani (CEO) |
| Revenue | $ 538 million (2020) |
| Number of employees | 40 (2016) |
| Subsidiaries | SmileyWorld |
feeling a little 80’s – right now
Posted: April 26, 2022 Filed under: Discussion, Entertainment | Tags: 1980's, BDSM, d-s, dievca, Duran Duran, Generation X, Humor, Life, Love, Master, music, submissive Leave a comment
Master laughs at His dievca’s penchant for 80’s synthesizer hits. What can she say? she’s an 80’s Throwback – a product of Generation X:
- They’re Expert DIY-ers. …
- Their Sartorial Style Is Decidedly Dressed-Down. …
- They’ve Got the Whole Work-Life Balance Thing Down Pat. …
- They Tech-Savvy… But Not Tech-Dependent. …
- They’re Fiercely Independent.
- They’re Fiercely Attached To Their Music AND Don’t Really Care If You Like It Or Not.
Lyrics:
You saw me standing by the wall corner of a main street
And the lights are flashing on your window sill
All alone ain’t much fun so you’re looking for the thrill
And you know just what it takes and where to go
Don’t save a prayer for me now
Save it ’til the morning after
No don’t say a prayer for me now
Save it ’til the morning after
Feel the breeze deep on the inside look you down into the well
If you can you’ll see the world in all his fire
Take a chance like all dreamers can’t find another way
You don’t have to dream it all, just live a day
Don’t say a prayer for me now
Save it ’til the morning after
No don’t say a prayer for me now
Save it ’til the morning after
Save it ’til the morning after
Save it ’til the morning after
Pretty looking road I try to hold the rising floods that fill my skin
Don’t ask me why I’ll keep my promise I’ll melt the ice
And you wanted to dance so I asked you to dance
But fear is in your soul
Some people call it a one night stand but we can call it paradise
Don’t say a prayer for me now
Save it til the morning after
No don’t say a prayer for me now
Save it ’til the morning after
Save it ’til the morning after
Save it ’til the morning after
Save it ’til the morning after
Save it ’til the morning after (doo doo doo doo doo doo doo doo doo)
Save a prayer ’til the morning after
Save a prayer ’til the morning after
Save a prayer ’til the morning after
Save a prayer ’til the morning after
Save a prayer ’til the morning after
Save a prayer ’til the morning after
Thrown into a World you remember
Posted: April 8, 2022 Filed under: Discussion | Tags: aging, dievca, females, Humor, Joy, kids, Life, Love, Memories, menstruation, perimenopause, tweens Leave a comment
12 and 13 years old can be tough ages for Kids – Girls in particular. It’s a lovely, awkward, silly, loud, insecure, sad, joyous time. As dievca is rolling towards menopause, she’s recently been thrown into the company of those new to menstruation. Both camps are riding the rollercoaster of hormones and emotions.
The funny thing is that dievca is finding patience with her own body through finding patience for the kids.
As she listens and soothes – she is soothed in return and it brings back memories of her Mom, Aunts, Cousins, and female coaches. dievca finds herself saying things that those lovely Women said to her and she rolled her eyes at 13. Now she knows why they said them and meant them to be true.
I’m up, I’m up!
Posted: March 30, 2022 Filed under: Discussion, Home and Garden | Tags: BDSM, behavior, D/s, dievca, friendship, Humor, Life, Morning, Routine, sleep Leave a comment
dievca caught up with a friend who knew her as a “Night Owl” – they laughed, things have changed.
Via the Cleveland Clinic and LiveScience:
Chronotype is determined by a combination of nature and nurture, scientists have found. On the nature side, a number of genes are known to play roles in determining whether a person prefers to be awake late at night or early in the morning, Drerup told Live Science. Hundreds of genes are associated with being a morning person, according to a 2019 study published in the journal Nature Communications. These genes influence a person’s circadian rhythm, or their natural sleep-wake cycle, which leads to their chronotype.
Your environment also plays a large role. People tend to participate in daily activities that reinforce their chronotype, Drerup said. For example, night owls feel more productive and alert at night, so they tend to exercise and socialize in the evening. These activities are stimulating and reinforce the person’s tendency to stay up late.
Because the environment is a factor in determining whether a person is a night owl or a morning person, it is possible to change your sleep-wake cycle. If you want to wake up earlier, make the change gradually. Drerup recommended slowly shifting your wake-up alarm earlier by 15 to 20 minutes every few days over the course of several weeks until you’ve adjusted to your ideal schedule.
A really low dew point
Posted: March 28, 2022 Filed under: Discussion, Entertainment | Tags: Appreciation, beach, D/s, dievca, Florida, Joy, Life, Love, Photos, submissive, Vacation, warm weather Leave a comment
can make a Beach Holiday that much more enjoyable.
(dievca has been incredibly lucky with the weather this weekend).
Photo: dievca South Beach FL 03/2022
People can be stupid.
Posted: March 2, 2022 Filed under: Discussion, Entertainment | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, exhaustion, frustration, irritation, Life, poor mental attitude, stupidity, submissive, work 2 Comments
Nobody calls when its quiet. Everyone calls when you are in the middle of Life. It doesn’t take 11 e-mails to get one item completed. Why can’t newcasters tie their own shoes without a teleprompter? Add that you are missing sleep and trying to function in a Public World. dievca is a crab who is trying to be very nice at this moment – when she really just wants to snap everyone’s head off with her claws…
Sorry about the whigning – dievca really needs sleep.
A submissive re-evaluation
Posted: February 23, 2022 Filed under: Analysis, Discussion, Master, Submission | Tags: BDSM, change, D/s, definitions, dievca, Dominant, evaluation, growth, Life, power exchange Leave a comment
Master is traveling and dievca has had some open time to review her Life and changes in the past 2 years. Between COVID, deaths, aging – Master and dievca’s relationship has changed. And as body changes, social changes and family changes have eased – she’s wondering what will return or diminish.
dievca is starting her reflection process by defining the type of Relationship Master and dievca had at the beginning. Then she plans to review where she thinks they are now. Finally, she will communicate her analysis to Master and listen to His thoughts and wants for the future.
9 Types of submissives:
- The outright non-submissive masochist or kinky sensualist
Not into servitude, humiliation or giving up of control; just pain and/or spiced-up sensuality, on the masochist’s own terms for the masochist’s own pleasure (ie: being turned on solely or mainly by one’s own bodily sensations, rather than being turned on by being “used” to gratify one’s partner’s sadism). - Pseudo-submissive non-slave
Not into even playing “slave”, but into other “submissive” role-playing, e.g.: schoolteacher scenes, infantilism, “forced” transvestism. Usually into humiliation, but NOT into servitude, even in play. Dictates the scene to a large degree. - Pseudo-submissive PLAY slave
Likes to play at being slave. Likes to *feel* subservient; may in some cases like to *feel* that one is being “used” to gratify one’s partner’s sadism; and may even really serve the dominant in some ways, but only on the “slave’s” own terms. Dictates the scene to a large degree; often fetishistic (e.g. foot worshippers). - True submissive non-slave
Really gives up control (though only temporarily and within agreed upon limits), but gets his/her main satisfaction from aspects of submission *other than* serving or being used by the dominant. Usually turned on by suspense, vulnerability, and/or giving up of responsibility. Doesn’t dictate the scene except in very general terms, but still seeks mainly her/his own *direct* pleasure (rather than getting one’s pleasure mainly from pleasing the dominant). - True submissive PLAY slave
Really gives up control (though only temporarily; only during brief “scenes” and within limits) and gets his/her main satisfaction from serving and being used by the dominant – but only for FUN purposes, usually erotic. (May or may not be into pain, but if so, is turned on by pain *indirectly*, ie: enjoys being the objects of one’s partner’s sadism, on which the submissive places few requirements or restrictions.) - Uncommitted short-term but more-than-play semi-slave
Really gives up control (though usually within limits); wants to serve and be used by the dominant; wants to provide practical/non-erotic as well as fun/ erotic services; but only when the “slave” is in the mood. May even act as a full-time slave for, say, several days at a time, but is free to quit at any time (or at the end of the agreed upon several days). May or may not have a long-term relationship with one’s Mistress/Master, but, either way, the “slave” has the final say over when he or she will serve. - Part-time consensual but REAL slave
Has ongoing commitment to an owner/slave relationship, and regards oneself as the Mistress’/Master’s “property” at all times. Wants to obey and please her/him in all aspects of life – practical/non-erotic as well as fun/erotic. Devotes most of one’s time to other commitments (eg: job) but the Mistress/Master has first pick of the slave’s free time. - Full-time live-in consensual slave
Within no more than a few broad limits/requirements, the slave regards herself/ himself as existing solely for the Mistress’/Master’s use, pleasure and well- being. The slave in turn expects to be regarded as a prized possession. Not much different from the situation of the traditional housewife, except that within the S/M world the slave’s position is more likely to be fully consensual, especially if the slave is male (since men certainly aren’t socially pressured into this kind of lifestyle). Within the S/M world, a full-time “slave” arrangement is entered into with an explicit awareness of the magnitude of power that is being given up, and hence is usually entered into much more carefully, with more awareness of the possible dangers, and with much clearer and more specific agreements than usually precede the traditional marriage. - Consensual total slave with no limits
A common fantasy ideal which probably doesn’t exist in real life (except in authoritarian religious cults and other situations where the “consent” is induced by brainwashing and/or social or economic pressures, and hence isn’t fully consensual). A few S/M purists will insist that you aren’t really a slave unless you’re willing to do absolutely *anything* for your Mistress/ Master, with no limits at all. There are a few who claim to be no-limits slaves, but in all cases it would be reasonable to doubt the claim.
© 1984, 1988 by Mistress Diane Vera as reprinted in
Pat Califia, ed. The Lesbian S/M Safety Manual (Boston: Lace / Alyson) pp. 69-71
A Thank You to SluttyGirlProblem – Victoria Sparrow and Officer Wes for the information that made dievca start to think.
www.officerwes.com © 1997-2021 by Officer Wes
Help? Did my body grow?
Posted: February 18, 2022 Filed under: Discussion, Entertainment | Tags: BDSM, Blog, Body Image, D/s, dievca, help, Life, size, submissive 4 Comments
Look – my personal body has grown due to past injuries and perimenopause – I don’t need my Blog wire body image to grow….
If you have a moment and are stopping by the blog – could you let me know if that header image has grown larger for you, too?
Thank you!
your dievča
Garter, Garter Belt, Garter Skirt
Posted: February 10, 2022 Filed under: Discussion, lingerie | Tags: BDSM, D/s, definitions, dievca, Elegant, erotic, garter belt, Master, Presentation, Shopping, stockings, submissive, Undergarments Leave a commentInitionally, Garters were use to hold up hose or socks. The advent of elastic dimished the usage of Garters in real life, but you still see limited usage at Weddings. Why?
Traditionally, the witnesses would accompany a newly wed couple to the bridal chambers to ensure consummation. The wedding garter being retrieved from the bride served as proof to other guests that the deed was done, and the garter was then tossed into the sea of people.
Symbolically, the garter was thought to influence fertility. It also symbolized marriage consummation and future children for the couple. Because of this, the garter was fiercely sought after at weddings. It was an honor to detach the garter from the bride and was believed that the luck of the wedding couple would pass on to the guest who obtained the garter.
Garter Belts (or Suspender Belts): a belt with attached garters or fasteners, worn as an undergarment to hold up stockings.
Which brings us to the newer term-
Garter Skirt: (a dievca and Master favorite) A wider garter belt acting as a short skirt or mini skrt which can attach stockings. Allows for bottom coverage with easy access – a flattering, sassy way to Present.
One for the $
Posted: January 26, 2022 Filed under: Discussion, Fashion, Shoes | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Elegant, Elvis, erotic, poem, sassy, Shoe fetishism, Shopping, submissive Leave a comment
One for the money, two for the show is half of a rhyme used as a countdown to begin a task. The entire rhyme is: one for the money, two for the show, three to make ready and four to go. Children have used this little poem since the mid-1800s as a countdown to starting a race or competition. A famous variation of the rhyme is found in the 1955 popular song Blue Suede Shoes written by Carl Perkins: “Well, it’s one for the money, two for the show, three to get ready, now go, cat, go.”
Feeling the Blue Suede?
Whiplash – selling the house
Posted: January 23, 2022 Filed under: Discussion, Home and Garden, Relationships | Tags: Death, dievca, elderly parents, Family, home, Life, realty, selling, Stress Leave a comment
dievca was looking out at the sunset when her brother called. Apparently 6 people saw Mom and Dad’s house today – the first day it was listed. Mom and Dad lived in a small town in a rural area surrounded by farms….so both dievca and her brother were surprised.
There are 7 more people on the schedule for tomorrow. Someone made a cash offer today and the realtor will ask for ‘Highest and Best’ offers by 5 pm tomorrow night to decide. dievca is not sure why the realtor isn’t asking for “Best and Final” offers because dievca’s brother wants the house sold as is and as soon as possible.
That means dievca will have to hustle back and get the furniture and things sorted. It would have been nice to do it in April – not the deep of February. (Shit, why not just pile one more item on a failing dievca…🙄)
Please note that the house is not the one dievca grew up in – just the one her parents built to die in.
Photo: dievca Hudson River NYC 01/2022
How the Strong add Coffee!
Posted: January 10, 2022 Filed under: Discussion, Entertainment, Home and Garden | Tags: BDSM, coffee, D/s, dievca, Health, health benefits, Life, Love, Monday, Morning, workout Leave a comment
Drinking coffee around 45–60 minutes before a workout allows for caffeine to reach its peak effectiveness. Most studies indicate that caffeine is highly effective for workouts when consumed in doses of 0.9–2.7 mg per pound (2–6 mg per kg) of body weight.
A lovely thought, but:
Posted: December 31, 2021 Filed under: Analysis, Discussion | Tags: BDSM, champagne, d-s, dievca, elderly parents, Flying, Life, Love, New Year's Eve, travel Leave a comment
- dievca’s flight is too short
- The small plane probably doesn’t have Champagne on board
- dievca will be wearing a 3M N95 mask (she’s not sure all of the caregivers are vaxxed)
- dievca has to drive to get to her Mom
Please have a flute of bubbly 🍾 for her, ok? (dievca’s Mom or dievca) dievca will be praying there is a bottle of wine leftover from her last visit 🍷 XO
It worked~improving a mood.
Posted: December 14, 2021 Filed under: Discussion, Home and Garden | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Friends, help, Holiday 2021, Joy, Life, mental health, motivation, positive mental attitude Leave a comment
They always have suggestions for improving a mood and in dievca’s case 6 out of these 34 suggestions worked.
- De-clutter. Getting organized can help us feel instantly calmer. Just five to ten minutes is enough to tackle a small project, like a desk or the kitchen table.
- Rearrange some furniture. Changing an environment can help us feel refreshed, enabling us to bust out of a negative mood.
- Get some sun. A boost of vitamin D can keep the blues at bay. Head outside for a brisk walk around the block. If that’s not possible, station yourself near a window for a few minutes.
- Spend time with Friends. If you want to be happy and calm, spend time around calm, happy people.
- Celebrate good times. Look at happy photos or spend a minute or so thinking back on positive memories (that first 5K finish line, a group trip to the waterpark, that amazing scone from a no-name coffee shop)—nostalgia can trigger happiness.
- Eat for a positive mood. We are what we eat, so step away from the unhappy meal. Instead, try out these meals to boost your mood. Up the happiness quotient by setting a nice place for yourself, lighting a candle, and giving thanks for the meal.
dievca allowed herself to decorate the apartment lightly – she felt less stressed when she decided that she didn’t have to do the full Christmas blowout. Holiday Hints throughout the apartment has made it feel festive for guests and herself. Having dinner with lovely people completed her mood change.
What works for you?
Photos: dievca home decor 12/2021
Santa Lingerie – a discussion
Posted: December 2, 2021 Filed under: Analysis, Discussion, Entertainment, lingerie | Tags: BDSM, Christmas, Cosplay, D/s, dievca, erotic, Holidays 2021, Humor, Presentation Outfit, Santa, sassy, Sexy, submissive Leave a commentSanta lingerie has permeated our culture. You can probably picture the garments in question: cherry-red babydoll nightie with white fur trim lining the hem, paired with matching thong, or maybe a red satin and white fur teddy.
How did lingerie evoking Santa, a wholesome and kindly childhood figure whose presence signals a religious virgin birth, get so popular?
Undergarments for women have long been costume-like, and were often meant to dramatically alter female silhouettes. (Whalebone corsets, giant hoops worn under crinoline skirts, a bustle.) Bloomers and petticoats might look dowdy and utilitarian, but eroticizing lingerie isn’t a new trend. Lingerie really started becoming more decorative and luxurious in the late 19th and early 20th centuries.
In1898, after noting a “mania” for colourful, decorative and seductive lingerie throughout Europe, the French journalist Octave Uzanne wrote, “the last remains of feminine modesty sunk out of sight.”
But underwear as a costume is a newer phenomenon. It might be linked with the provocative “underwear as outerwear” period of the 1980s and 90s. At the end of the 20th century, seeing visible underwear became more shocking than the nude body. An example is Madonna’s “Blonde Ambition” cone bra.
That’s the culture that led up to the “fast fashion” lingerie that was so popular in the early 2000s. And the inexpensive “Halloween Slutty” and “Santa Baby” costumes multiplied.
Santa may be a wholesome concept, but he is asking people to sit on his lap, he’s keeping a naughty and nice list, there are songs about Santa kissing women when he comes to visit, people are getting cozy with fur and sitting by a fire, and let’s not forget the unknown quantity of Ms. Santa Claus. Perhaps people who buy Santa lingerie are buying into the commercialized, sexualized lens of those forces~
Dress the Part
Posted: November 24, 2021 Filed under: Clothing, Discussion, Dresses | Tags: BDSM, closet, D/s, Life, positive mental attitude, Presentation, submissive, work Leave a comment
dievca has a Navy Blue Silk Dress that makes her feel amazing. Its’s not the most expensive dress nor the most fashionable, but she likes to wear it whenever she needs to clean up and present to humans. she can dress the outfit up or down with shoes/boots and accessories – any way it goes on it – she feels great.
dievca stands taller.
A lot of people argue that what you wear isn’t important, or that it is unfair to suggest that people should buy clothes to boost their self-esteem. If we are being realistic about the working world or IRL, we have to point out the truth: How you present yourself is important. You don’t need to have a closet full of expensive clothes to get ahead, but you will feel a lot better if you have one or two outfits you absolutely love that you can wear whenever you need a pick-me-up.
dievca doesn’t wear the silk dress because it will impress other people — she wears it because it makes her feel ready to take on the world!
(roll over a photo to see the item description)
Please consider – NYC update
Posted: November 21, 2021 Filed under: Discussion, Home and Garden | Tags: BDSM, booster shot, COVID-19, D/s, dievca, Health, Life, Nurse, NYC, Pin-Up, submissive, vaccine 6 Comments
The Netherlands is having some COVID-19 challenges as are other European Countries. dievca knows this for sure because her Dutch friend doesn’t want to chance traveling for Thanksgiving. Understandable. she just wishes she could get a booster added to her friend’s AstraZeneca vaccine – her friend has asthma and arthritis issues.
The bubble of NYC is holding its own with school starting and the weather changing. An increase of 1.78% for the last 28 days, but drops in hospitalizations and deaths. dievca guesses if you get hit hard in the beginning, you comply with offered solutions.
dievca received her booster and she knows that parents of young children are getting their kids vaccinated. Seems to be working for the 18,823,000 in the NYC Metro Area.
Please consider getting your COVID-19 vaccine.
PS. for those interested in the booster shot. dievca’s arm is sore at the injection site, but she is feeling fine.
Better for survivors or better for the person dying?
Posted: November 9, 2021 Filed under: Discussion, Relationships | Tags: BDSM, cancer, D/s, dievca, friendship, Health, Life, Love, Questions, submissive, work Leave a commentdeivca is pondering a question this morning… please let her explain the scenario, 1st:
A work friend died yesterday. she was a few years older than dievca. The friend worked at a different location, so dievca didn’t see her all the time. dievca did see the friend in the summer and she looked a bit tired and thin, but her friend was thin to begin with. The friend was moving well and rollerblading consistently to work.
In September the friend asked dievca for a favor and it was to be turned back over in November. Not anymore.
No one knew the friend was sick, she just died.
It was cancer.
The workplace is reeling because this person was kind, happy, and caring. Lovely to everyone.
No one knows what happened. Was it diagnosed Stage 4? did she decide to pass on chemo? was it so aggressive there was no time? had she been battling it for a while and told no one but her family?
Back to dievca’s pondering…
Is it better to let people know about your illness or say nothing?
A quick death might be better for the terminally ill person, but doesn’t allow people to say Good-Bye.
(You don’t have to explain your condition, your treatment plans, deal with everyone feeling sorry for you, etc.)
A longer process allows people to connect with the terminally ill person but extends their trauma.
(People will keep asking what is going on, what the treatment plan is, ask how you are feeling, maybe offer pity, etc.)
OK, multiple questions. Tough questions.
No matter what the answers, it does bring to mind the phrase, “My Body – My Choice.”
Clocks Fall Back in the USA, tomorrow. Daylight Saving Time
Posted: November 6, 2021 Filed under: Discussion, Home and Garden | Tags: Autumn, BDSM, D/s, Daylight Saving Time, dievca, DST, Humor, Life, submissive, Sunlight, Time Change Leave a commentWhat would happen if Congress abolished daylight saving time (or kept it going all year long)?
Blogger and cartographer Andy Woodruff decided to visualize this with a great series of maps.
The goal of these maps is to show how abolishing daylight saving time, extending it all year, or going with the status quo changes the number of days we have “reasonable” sunrise and sunset times.
Reasonable is the sun rising at 7 am or earlier or setting after 5 pm, as defined by Woodruff.
This is what the map looks like under the status quo of twice-yearly clock shifts. A lot of people have unreasonable sunrise times (the dark spots) for much of the year:
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Things would change if daylight saving were abolished (that is, if we just stuck to the time set in the winter all year). It’s better, particularly on the sunrise end:
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Here’s what would happen if daylight saving were always in effect. The sunrise situation would actually be worse for most people. But many more people would enjoy after-work light.
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Note: The length of light we experience each day wouldn’t actually change; that’s determined by the tilt of Earth’s axis. But we would experience it in times more accommodating for our modern world.
Be sure to check out the interactive version of these maps on Woodruff’s website.
In 2015, Stromberg made the compelling case that the daylight saving time shift into the evening should be extended year-round. Having more light later could benefit us in a surprising number of ways:
- People engage in more leisure activities after work than beforehand, so we’d likely do more physical activity over sedentary leisure activities. Relatedly, studies show that kids get more exercise when the sun is out later in the evening.
- Stromberg also cites some evidence that robberies decrease when there’s more sun in the evening hours.
- There could be economic gains, since people “take short trips, and buy things after work — but not before — so a longer DST slightly increases sales,” he writes.
A “Thank You” to VOX and Andy Woodruff.
Coffee Question on a Monday~
Posted: October 18, 2021 Filed under: Discussion, Entertainment | Tags: BDSM, coffee, D/s, dievca, Food, Humor, Life, Monday, Morning Leave a commentWhy do people put butter in their coffee?
Energy. Butter coffee is believed to provide steady, long-lasting energy without a blood sugar crash. In theory, since fat slows digestion, the caffeine in the coffee is absorbed slower and provides longer-lasting energy.
As dievca has weened herself off of sugar and cream in her coffee – butter is not going to be added…
Rules for buying
Posted: October 13, 2021 Filed under: Clothing, Discussion, Shoes | Tags: BDSM, boots, closet, D/s, dievca, Life, Love, Major Purchase, Shoe fetishism, Shopping, submissive, whimsy Leave a comment
1. Does this piece bring joy?
Would you wear it out of the store right now?
2. How will this be incorporated into my overall wardrobe?
Make sure you have an idea how you can wear it 30 times or more and incorporate it into your overall style.
3. Does it fit me well and is it made well?
Don’t force it. It will never leave your closet if you are already making excuses for it.
4. Does it fit my budget?
We all have one.
ANSWERS:
1.) These boots will replace one of the 6 pairs dievca had to get rid of for her foot. They will work into her “Downtown Chic with Whimsey” Vibe (Master’s Words).
2.) dievca can start wearing these boots with:
3.) Gianvito Rossi’s version of combat boots has been made in Italy from butter-smooth leather and rests on a rubber lug sole. They hit just below the knee – elasticated ribbed panels make them easier to fit muscular calves.
4.) The boots are straining her budget, but dievca found her size on the one website with 30% off. She would share the site with you, but the boots have sold out.
Have you noticed?
Posted: October 10, 2021 Filed under: Discussion, Entertainment, Relationships | Tags: acceptance, aging, BDSM, characteristics, D/s, dievca, Family, Friends, Humor, Life, Master, old age, Social Behaviors Leave a comment
Advanced Love: Advanced Style Bill and Eva Kobus-Webb
That you or your friends are becoming quirky in your aging?
Unique outfits?
Time Awareness?
Demanding?
Stubbornness?
OCD?
Crotchety?
Bluntness?
Between Master, dievca’s family, her friends and herself – there are a lot of people getting older who are really BOSSY!
Self Care Sexy…
Posted: September 25, 2021 Filed under: Discussion, Entertainment | Tags: BDSM, body awareness, D/s, dievca, erotic, Feminine, Life, relaxation, self-care, Sexy, submissive Leave a comment
Body Exfoliated
Legs Waxed
Toenails Painted
Hair Cut
Skin Lubed
Feeling Divine~
How to beat the upcoming Mercury in Retrograde: September 27 to October 17, 2021
Posted: September 14, 2021 Filed under: Disasters, Discussion, Jewelry | Tags: BDSM, Communication, D/s, dievca, healing crystals, Humor, Life, mercury retrograde, Necklace, reflection, Uncommon Goods Leave a comment
Three times a year, the planet Mercury appears to travel backward across the sky. We refer to these periods as times when Mercury is in apparent retrograde motion, or simply ”Mercury retrograde.” To those who practice astrology, these times in particular were traditionally associated with confusion, delay, and frustration. Think undelivered love letters, email blunders, and frazzled travel plans! This is an excellent time to reflect on the past, however, and it’s said that intuition is high during these periods. Coincidences can be extraordinary.
What to do during the Retrograde…
The planet Mercury rules communication in all forms—listening, writing, reading, speaking, and so on—as well as activities closely related to communication, like negotiations and contracts. It also rules travel, automobiles, shipping, and mail.
So, when Mercury is retrograde, try to remain flexible, patient, and understanding, allow extra time for travel, and avoid signing onto any new contracts that you’re unsure of. Double check your email responses and check in with reservations before you take that trip.
AND…
wear JEWELS FOR BAD JUJU
The necklace shown above has a sparkly gem trio which was curated to purportedly counteract the perils of astrology’s most notorious season. Smoky quartz and fluorite stones are said to ward off negativity, while blue lace agate is thought to provide calm during this astrological aggravator’s more stressful moments. Handmade in California.
MADE FROM
CREATED BY
Juraté Brown and Johnna Green = Jurate Los Angeles
MEASUREMENTS
Crystals: 0.63″ L x 0.15″ W each
A "Thank You" to the 2021 Farmer's Almanac
Yee-Ha (causing Master to laugh)
Posted: September 8, 2021 Filed under: Discussion, Fashion | Tags: BDSM, boots, D/s, dievca, eBay, Feet, injury, Master, resale, Shoe fetishism, Shopping, submissive Leave a comment
dievca has 6 pairs of boots sitting on the kitchen table sorted for resale. They are favorite boots that were a size 7-7.5, she now needs a size 8 to hold her right foot.
Here’s what is leaving – you’ve seen these on the blog (roll over the photos to see the brands):
dievca had success on eBay finding the Rodeo Brava Motorcycle Boots in the next size ($40), she’s eye-balling the Roberto del Carlo blue suede boots on eBay, two sizes up – nib.
she’d like to get a pair of cowboy boots and the red ones above caught her eye, they are the Free People New Frontiers Western Boots in red $148. she thought they would make Master laugh. He is always entertained by dievca’s boots.
But dievca cannot justify buying those cute red boots because she owns these Chloe Rylee Python Booties in red:
Ah, well.
Kink vs. Fetish
Posted: August 31, 2021 Filed under: Discussion | Tags: BDSM, behavior, consent, D/s, dievca, Fetish, fixation, Kink, Life, Love, Master, Orgasm, sexuality 1 Comment
The Velvet Underground sang, “Kiss the boot of shiny, shiny leather…Tongue of thongs, the belt that does await you” (“Venus in Furs”).
Does the song touch on kinks or fetishes? It all depends…
Kinks
‘Kink’ is a general term that describes any sexual proclivities that could be seen as unconventional. It comes from the idea that one’s sexuality may deviate from the norm—the straight line has bend in it.
Costumes, role play, BDSM—anything in that kind of area could be considered a kink, but so could plenty of accessory-free activities. One person’s standard sexual activity can be another individual’s kink. The line fluctuates from person to person.
In the past, BDSM was seen as a ‘paraphilia’ rather than a kink, grouped by psychiatrists with desires to perform non-consensual acts. There is a world of difference between consenting adults experimenting with each other in the pursuit of pleasure and people harming others against their will. Master and dievca have a relationship based upon consent – experimenting and living with a power dynamic and other activities.
Fetishes
A fetish is a sexual fixation on a certain object or act that is necessary for a person to achieve sexual gratification.
If you enjoy certain activities that are not considered the norm that might be a kink, but if you can’t get off without a certain object, process or activity – that’s a fetish. Anal sex you try every year on your birthday? A kink. Can’t get in the mood without being peed on? A fetish.
Kinks are employed to enhance an experience, fetishes are integral to them.
Another way a kink becomes a fetish is if the other person can be removed from the equation – if you are turned on by shoes alone without anyone to be wearing them, that’s a fetish. Partialism is a sexual interest with a focus on a specific part of the body. This can be any part of the body, such as the hair, breasts, or buttocks. The most common form of partialism is podophilia, in which a person becomes sexually aroused by feet.
“Diversity, dievca, Diversity!”
Master and dievca had a conversation about Kink and Fetishes early in their Relationship. Master mentioned that His interest waned when a partner couldn’t orgasm unless a certain set of steps were followed in precise order while wearing a specific outfit. It was fine early in the relationship because it was about communication and learning about someone new – but later, for Him, it was tedious.
dievca has found that she likes to “change it up”, too. Apparently, her getting off can happen in a variety of ways and Master delights in finding a new cause for orgasm.
That said, it is good when someone knows specifically what “gets them off”. Some people go through Life never understanding their body, needs nor have had their desires met. Having a fetish may offer a clear cut road for success!
Photo: dievca thinks the photo can be credited to Kaushik, Gupta
I walked to the Rio Grande
Posted: August 16, 2021 Filed under: Discussion | Tags: Death, dievca, help, kids, Life, Love, mourning, patience, prayer, tough times Leave a commentpast a Middle School in the center of Albuquerque, NM. There were balloons and flowers adorning a walkway/fence close to the entrance of the school. It reminded me of the “roadside memorials” when people have a car crash or bike crash.
I didn’t think on it further.
Then I ran into a letter on Patch.com – it was from the Superintendent of Schools and the Principal
With great sadness, I must inform you of a shooting that occurred on the Washington Middle School campus today that resulted in the death of one of our students and the arrest of another. This was an isolated incident that occurred outside the school building during lunch. No other students or staff were physically harmed, but many of us are hurting.
My heart hurt.
15 days before in NYC:
A 14-year-old jumped to his death Thursday afternoon, July 29, from the Vessel in Manhattan’s Hudson Yards. The teenage boy became the fourth to die by suicide at Thomas Heatherwick’s 150-foot spiral staircase since it opened in March of 2019.
My heart hurt.
Middle School ages are tough for Parents to deal with – their adorable child, biddable child is turning sullen, dealing with fluctuating hormones, social awareness/awkwardness, anxiety, and confusion.
- Approaching puberty: Big changes are going to start or have already begun to happen to a tween’s body.
- Exposure to dangerous behaviors: Tweens face new pressures from peers including drugs, sex, alcohol, and more. Kids are curious and peer pressure is strong among tweens. At this age, tweens start learning about the dangers of the world. Many myths circulate in middle school hallways.
- Increasing amounts of homework: The homework load alone can be a big change for tweens and parents should be ready to help if needed. Good study habits now can last a lifetime.
- Increasing responsibilities: Tweens are often more involved in extra-curricular activities and can take on more chores and responsibilities at home.
This happens to be one of my favorite ages to be around. Their views on the World and Life are insightful, honest and entertaining. Please, be patient and kind to any Middle School age kid who crosses your Life. Just listen, guide, give them attention and time – even if they are behaving ugly and being annoying. Remember, someone put up with you at that age.
Maybe then my heart won’t hurt in the future.
The more you know – Custom Duty
Posted: July 30, 2021 Filed under: Discussion, Home and Garden, Neighborhood Anecdotes (NYC) | Tags: BDSM, Clothing, D/s, dievca, Life, practical, shoes, Shopping, SSENSE, submissive, US Customs 2 Commentsdievca ordered items from her favorite Montreal, Quebec store ssense.com. The items were on sale and she had been watching them for awhile – the total came up to an amount over $800. She bought them in one batch….bad choice. Had she made two purchases, she wouldn’t have met the US/Canada Border Customs Threshold amount and she would have not had to pay customs….
Instead, she had to schlep to the Main Post Office to pay the customs to get her items. Yep, it was a significant amount = $400+. Why did she chose to pay it rather than refusing the items?
- They were items she thought about a long time before purchase.
- They were unavailable on sale anywhere else on the web.
- ssense.com offered to put a one-time 110-120% credit towards her next purchase (s).
- dievca buys on ssense.com consistently enough to use the credits.
Visualize dievca opening the box the items in the Main NYC Post Office, stuffing the items into a carryall so she could schlepp it all back to her apartment without her arms falling off. Would it have been easier if dievca had a car? Have you ever tried to find parking in Midtown?
Photo: Glamorous items in a non-glamorous bag. XO
dievca 