How to beat the upcoming Mercury in Retrograde: September 27 to October 17, 2021

Mercury Retrograde - BuzzfeedThree times a year, the planet Mercury appears to travel backward across the sky. We refer to these periods as times when Mercury is in apparent retrograde motion, or simply ”Mercury retrograde.” To those who practice astrology, these times in particular were traditionally associated with confusion, delay, and frustration. Think undelivered love letters, email blunders, and frazzled travel plans! This is an excellent time to reflect on the past, however, and it’s said that intuition is high during these periods. Coincidences can be extraordinary.

What to do during the Retrograde…

Mercury Retrograde Protection Necklace $58 2

The planet Mercury rules communication in all forms—listening, writing, reading, speaking, and so on—as well as activities closely related to communication, like negotiations and contracts. It also rules travel, automobiles, shipping, and mail.

So, when Mercury is retrograde, try to remain flexible, patient, and understanding, allow extra time for travel, and avoid signing onto any new contracts that you’re unsure of. Double check your email responses and check in with reservations before you take that trip. 

AND…

wear JEWELS FOR BAD JUJU

Mercury Retrograde Protection Necklace $58The necklace shown above has a sparkly gem trio which was curated to purportedly counteract the perils of astrology’s most notorious season. Smoky quartz and fluorite stones are said to ward off negativity, while blue lace agate is thought to provide calm during this astrological aggravator’s more stressful moments. Handmade in California.

MSRP $58 on Uncommongoods.com

MADE FROM

Fluorite, Blue Lace Agate, Sterling Silver, and Smokey Quartz
 

CREATED BY

Juraté Brown and Johnna Green = Jurate Los Angeles

MEASUREMENTS

Chain: 16″ L with 2″ Extender
Crystals: 0.63″ L x 0.15″ W each
 
A "Thank You" to the 2021 Farmer's Almanac


Yee-Ha (causing Master to laugh)

dievca has 6 pairs of boots sitting on the kitchen table sorted for resale.  They are favorite boots that were a size 7-7.5, she now needs a size 8 to hold her right foot.

Here’s what is leaving – you’ve seen these on the blog (roll over the photos to see the brands):

dievca had success on eBay finding the Rodeo Brava Motorcycle Boots in the next size ($40), she’s eye-balling the Roberto del Carlo blue suede boots on eBay, two sizes up – nib.

she’d like to get a pair of cowboy boots and the red ones above caught her eye, they are the Free People New Frontiers Western Boots in red $148she thought they would make Master laugh. He is always entertained by dievca’s boots.

But dievca cannot justify buying those cute red boots because she owns these Chloe Rylee Python Booties in red:

Chloe Rylee Python Print Leather Ankle Boots


Ah, well.


Kink vs. Fetish

The Velvet Underground sang, “Kiss the boot of shiny, shiny leather…Tongue of thongs, the belt that does await you” (“Venus in Furs”).

Does the song touch on kinks or fetishes? It all depends…

Kinks
‘Kink’ is a general term that describes any sexual proclivities that could be seen as unconventional. It comes from the idea that one’s sexuality may deviate from the norm—the straight line has bend in it.

Costumes, role play, BDSM—anything in that kind of area could be considered a kink, but so could plenty of accessory-free activities. One person’s standard sexual activity can be another individual’s kink. The line fluctuates from person to person.

In the past, BDSM was seen as a ‘paraphilia’ rather than a kink, grouped by psychiatrists with desires to perform non-consensual acts. There is a world of difference between consenting adults experimenting with each other in the pursuit of pleasure and people harming others against their will. Master and dievca have a relationship based upon consent – experimenting and living with a power dynamic and other activities.

Fetishes
A fetish is a sexual fixation on a certain object or act that is necessary for a person to achieve sexual gratification.

If you enjoy certain activities that are not considered the norm that might be a kink, but if you can’t get off without a certain object, process or activity – that’s a fetish. Anal sex you try every year on your birthday? A kink. Can’t get in the mood without being peed on? A fetish.

Kinks are employed to enhance an experience, fetishes are integral to them. 

Another way a kink becomes a fetish is if the other person can be removed from the equation – if you are turned on by shoes alone without anyone to be wearing them, that’s a fetish. Partialism is a sexual interest with a focus on a specific part of the body. This can be any part of the body, such as the hair, breasts, or buttocks. The most common form of partialism is podophilia, in which a person becomes sexually aroused by feet.

“Diversity, dievca, Diversity!”

Master and dievca had a conversation about Kink and Fetishes early in their Relationship. Master mentioned that His interest waned when a partner couldn’t orgasm unless a certain set of steps were followed in precise order while wearing a specific outfit. It was fine early in the relationship because it was about communication and learning about someone new – but later, for Him, it was tedious.

dievca has found that she likes to “change it up”, too.  Apparently, her getting off can happen in a variety of ways and Master delights in finding a new cause for orgasm.

That said, it is good when someone knows specifically what “gets them off”. Some people go through Life never understanding their body, needs nor have had their desires met. Having a fetish may offer a clear cut road for success!

Photo: dievca thinks the photo can be credited to Kaushik, Gupta


I walked to the Rio Grande

past a Middle School in the center of Albuquerque, NM.  There were balloons and flowers adorning a walkway/fence close to the entrance of the school. It reminded me of the “roadside memorials” when people have a car crash or bike crash.

I didn’t think on it further.

Then I ran into a letter on Patch.com – it was from the Superintendent of Schools and the Principal

With great sadness, I must inform you of a shooting that occurred on the Washington Middle School campus today that resulted in the death of one of our students and the arrest of another. This was an isolated incident that occurred outside the school building during lunch. No other students or staff were physically harmed, but many of us are hurting.

My heart hurt.  

15 days before in NYC:

A 14-year-old jumped to his death Thursday afternoon, July 29, from the Vessel in Manhattan’s Hudson Yards. The teenage boy became the fourth to die by suicide at Thomas Heatherwick’s 150-foot spiral staircase since it opened in March of 2019.

My heart hurt.

Middle School Feet

Middle School ages are tough for Parents to deal with – their adorable child, biddable child is turning sullen, dealing with fluctuating hormones, social awareness/awkwardness, anxiety, and confusion.

  • Approaching puberty: Big changes are going to start or have already begun to happen to a tween’s body.
  • Exposure to dangerous behaviors: Tweens face new pressures from peers including drugs, sex, alcohol, and more. Kids are curious and peer pressure is strong among tweens. At this age, tweens start learning about the dangers of the world. Many myths circulate in middle school hallways.
  • Increasing amounts of homework: The homework load alone can be a big change for tweens and parents should be ready to help if needed. Good study habits now can last a lifetime.
  • Increasing responsibilities: Tweens are often more involved in extra-curricular activities and can take on more chores and responsibilities at home.

This happens to be one of my favorite ages to be around.  Their views on the World and Life are insightful, honest and entertaining.  Please, be patient and kind to any Middle School age kid who crosses your Life.  Just listen, guide, give them attention and time – even if they are behaving ugly and being annoying. Remember, someone put up with you at that age.

Maybe then my heart won’t hurt in the future.


The more you know – Custom Duty

dievca ordered items from her favorite Montreal, Quebec store ssense.com.  The items were on sale and she had been watching them for awhile – the total came up to an amount over $800. She bought them in one batch….bad choice.  Had she made two purchases, she wouldn’t have met the US/Canada Border Customs Threshold amount and she would have not had to pay customs….

Instead, she had to schlep to the Main Post Office to pay the customs to get her items.  Yep, it was a significant amount = $400+. Why did she chose to pay it rather than refusing the items?  

  1. They were items she thought about a long time before purchase.
  2. They were unavailable on sale anywhere else on the web.
  3. ssense.com offered to put a one-time 110-120% credit towards her next purchase (s).
  4. dievca buys on ssense.com consistently enough to use the credits.

Visualize dievca opening the box the items in the Main NYC Post Office, stuffing the items into a carryall so she could schlepp it all back to her apartment without her arms falling off.  Would it have been easier if dievca had a car?  Have you ever tried to find parking in Midtown?

Photo: Glamorous items in a non-glamorous bag. XO

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Olympics 2020 (2021)

Normally dievca is in to the Olympics. This time around, she finds herself detached. All the Athletes have worked really hard and dedicated their Life to their Sport – so she wishes them an excellent competition and a great performance. Go USA!


Something for PRIDE

Master Slave Dom sub flagThe PRIDE flag is constantly evolving – from the original 1978 RAINBOW which lost two colors because they were hard to dye at the time. To various personal iterations showing sexual preference (Master/slave – Dominant/sub flag to the right). Currently, the 2018 PROGRESS PRIDE flag is making its appearance:

Gay Pride Flag

Split 59 Caster Gay Rights Sweatshirt

Splits59 Caster UNISEX PRIDE Sweatshirt $148 with 20% donated to the LA LGBT Center – click photo for link

This year’s PRIDE FLAG may include intersex people…its hard to keep up!

Pride Intersex inclusion


It took about 16 months~

“Today is Day 472. Today is Tuesday. And effective immediately, state-mandated COVID restrictions are eliminated.”, Gov. Andrew Cuomo said as he announced New York had achieved his 70% adult partial vaccination milestone early.

A celebration 🍾  ✨  to honor the Essential Workers of NYS took place at 9:15 pm via Fireworks around the State.
dievca caught a peek of the NYC Harbor show.
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Everything is reopening – but will Life ever be the same? Probably not~
 

Photo: dievca Essential Workers Firework Display for 70% of NYC having one dose 06/15/2021


The other side of the family~

Ukrainian

On the other side of the family (Ukrainian), dievca is one of 22 cousins and the youngest by 10 years. she wasn’t born in the same state as the other cousins and didn’t grow up with them.  A Cousin just died –  possibly from COVID-19, her sibling is being cagy with information.  It all came out because another cousin didn’t hear from her on their regular 3rd day phone call – so another cousin called the sibling and then called dievca’s brother.  dievca’s brother is asking dievca to hunt down the 3rd sibling, who is gay, to find out more information or let them know about the death…

Are you lost?

It took dievca 5 years of asking her Mother who everyone was, trying to figure out who her cousins belonged to, what they did and their ages – a couple she has only met once.

She’s got it now.

And like every family — let’s sic the youngest on the problem.

She’s the baby and no one will get angry with her because she can play “clueless”. Plus, she was cute.

Watching the family dynamics in action is amazing.

BTW, dievca did hunt down the phone # for the gay sibling and will be calling today. That cousin likes her.

Baby bath


Making your own headache

Lucille Ball with Vacuum Cleaner in I Love Lucydievca doesn’t know if she cleans the house for her Mother, the Caregivers or herself….but she kills herself to get the inside and outside done as much as possible in five days. Yes, her body pays for it afterward. No, she won’t hire someone to do it.

she is feeling like Lucy, right about now.

26 Oct 1952 — “Sales Resistance” is the name of this I Love Lucy episode, in which Ricky insists that Lucy get rid of a vacuum she bought from a door-to-door salesman. After a hectic day of trying to sell it to someone else, Lucille is worn out. — Image by © Bettmann/CORBIS


Elegance with Alexander McQueen

Is anyone else seeking elegance?

The year plus of sweatsuits has taken a toll for dievca, it took her awhile to gather an outfit for that event.

she used to be able to grab something and get ready in 30+ minutes. Maybe this McQueen dress could inspire a ‘quick change’? Too bad there isn’t anywhere to wear it at this point. Day dresses, maybe – formal dresses, not yet.

It is still a beautiful dress.

Could Chuck Taylors and a jeans jacket dress it down?

(Click photo to purchase)


Cross-country travel

PSA vintage photo

As dievca watches Master’s plane fly over Ohio (flightaware.com) on His way westward – she is having  an inkling of a fantasy:  Flying during yesteryear – no masks, no TSA, elegant or sassy flight attendant uniforms, meals with silverware – the Mile High Club.  Hmmm~ the Fantasy might need to be developed further.

PSA Airlines is an American regional airline headquartered at Dayton International Airport in Vandalia, Ohio, that flies under the American Eagle brand for American Airlines. PSA is a wholly owned subsidiary of American Airlines Group.


April 21 2121, National Secretary Day

Nudist Secretary

Are there people who are called Secretaries anymore? (OK, the Secretary of State)  Is it gender-distributed?  Did the original type of job bring a good wage?  What’s the difference with a typist?  Flasback.com took a good look – click here  for the article.  I just remember my Dad introducing us to his secretaries and they were really lovely people. Efficient.

In 1955, the National Secretaries Association changed the dates to the current celebration during the last full week of April. The name of the observance was changed to Professional Secretaries Day/Week in 1981 when the National Secretaries Association became Professional Secretaries International (PSI).

Looking for that inexpensive Michelin Star


Michelin LadyThere are restaurants with Michelin stars in 34 countries. Five of these countries don’t have a Michelin-starred meal for less than $100. For example, Norway’s Statholdergaarden is a 17th-century home that became an eatery in 1914. The restaurant serves classic Scandinavian cuisine at a rate of 1,275kr ($151) for the set menu.

Hostellerie la Montagne in Colombey-les-Deux-Églises is the world’s most inexpensive Michelin eatery. The French restaurant offers a seasonal menu for €20 ($25). Outside of Europe, the most affordable meal is at the Three Coins in Taipei, Taiwan. “The menu is classic Cantonese, with occasional Taiwanese touches, such as the simple but tasty steamed abalone with dried and fresh tomatoes,” writes the Michelin Guide’s reviewer. The set menu costs NT$1,000 (US$36)

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Key Findings

●  The lowest cost Michelin-starred restaurant is Hostellerie la Montagne in Colombey-les-Deux-Églises, France, where the set menu is €20 (US$24.52).

●  The inexpensive American eatery with a Michelin star is State Bird Provisions in San Francisco, with a 3-course-meal for $45.

●  The lowest cost three-star restaurant is Le Palais in Taiwan, with a set meal for NT $3,800 (US$138.63)

●  America’s most inexpensive three-star meal is at Le Bernardin in NYC, where the Prix Fixe is $175.

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Click here to to see the full article from TopDollar.

Why is dievca even offering this information?

 

Fully-vaccinated Americans can now travel freely without having to quarantine or test for COVID-19, according to new guidance from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

Specifically, Americans who are two weeks out from their final vaccine shot can travel both domestically and internationally and do not need to quarantine when they arrive home unless required by their local jurisdiction, the CDC announced Friday April 2nd, 2021.

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Fully vaccinated travelers are less likely to get and spread COVID-19. However, international travel poses additional risks and even fully vaccinated travelers are at increased risk for getting and possibly spreading new COVID-19 variants.

CDC recommends delaying international travel until you are fully vaccinated.

If you are fully vaccinated with an FDA-authorized vaccine:

  • You should continue to follow CDC’s recommendations for traveling safely and get tested 3-5 days after travel.
  • You do NOT need to get tested before leaving United States unless your destination requires it.
  • You do NOT need to self-quarantine after arriving in the United States.
International Travel Recommendations for fully vaccinated travelers:
 
  • Before you travel
    • Make sure you understand and follow all airline and destination requirements related to travel, testing, or quarantine, which may differ from U.S. requirements. If you do not follow your destination’s requirements, you may be denied entry and required to return to the United States.
    • Check the current COVID-19 situation in your destination.
  • While you are traveling:
    • Wear a mask over your nose and mouth. Masks are required on planes, buses, trains, and other forms of public transportation traveling into, within, or out of the United States and in U.S. transportation hubs such as airports and stations.
    • Avoid crowds and stay at least 6 feet/2 meters (about 2 arm lengths) from anyone who is not traveling with you.
    • Wash your hands often or use hand sanitizer (with at least 60% alcohol).
  • Before you arrive in the United States:
    • All air passengers coming to the United States, including U.S. citizens and fully vaccinated peopleare required to have a negative COVID-19 test result no more than 3 days before travel or documentation of recovery from COVID-19 in the past 3 months before they board a flight to the United States.
  • After travel:
    • Get tested with a viral test 3-5 days after travel.
    • Self-monitor for COVID-19 symptoms; isolate and get tested if you develop symptoms.
    • Follow all state and local recommendations or requirements after travel.

 

 


Turnsole = Sun God/Goddess

turnsole is a type of plant that turns with the movement of the sun, a sunflower being the most famous example. From Middle French tournesol, the word literally means “turns toward the sun,” and was modeled after the synonymous Greek term heliotrope. As in French, when the word came into English in the 1300s it initially referred to the purple dye that came from a turnsole plant (Chrozophora tinctoria.). Soon after, turnsole broadened in meaning to refer to all types of plant that turn with the sun.

facing the sun

Is a Human a “turnsole” when he/she faces the sun to welcome its healing heat? Or is the definition only for plants. All dievca knows is that she is seeking the sun this Spring, like a sun-worshipping goddess.

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Sun Deities

Name Nationality/Religion God or Goddess? Notes
Amaterasu Japan Sun Goddess Major deity of the Shinto religion.
Arinna (Hebat) Hittite (Syrian) Sun Goddess The most important of three Hittite major solar deities
Apollo Greece and Rome Sun God  
Freyr Norse Sun God Not the main Norse sun god, but a fertility god associated with the sun.
Garuda Hindu Bird God  
Helios (Helius) Greece Sun God Before Apollo was the Greek sun god, Helios held that position.
Hepa Hittite Sun Goddess The consort of a weather god, she was assimilated with the sun goddess Arinna.
Huitzilopochtli (Uitzilopochtli) Aztec Sun God  
Hvar Khshaita Iranian/Persian Sun God  
Inti Inca Sun God The national patron of the Inca state.
Liza West African Sun God  
Lugh Celtic Sun God  
Mithras Iranian/Persian Sun God  
Re (Ra) Egypt Mid-day Sun God An Egyptian god shown with a solar disk. Center of worship was Heliopolis. Later associated with Horus as Re-Horakhty. Also combined with Amun as Amun-Ra, a solar creator god.
Shemesh/Shepesh Ugarit Sun goddess  
Sol (Sunna) Norse Sun Goddess She rides in a horse-drawn solar chariot.
Sol Invictus Roman Sun God The unconquered sun. A late Roman sun god. The title was also used of Mithras.
Surya Hindu Sun God Rides the sky in a horse-drawn chariot.
Tonatiuh Aztec Sun God  
Utu (Shamash) Mesopotamia Sun God  

A “Thank you” to Thought Co. and dictionary.com


Weather Proverbs – a truth

Have you ever heard of the saying, “March comes in like a Lion and goes out like a Lamb”?

Sexy LionWhile the saying most likely started as a reference to astronomy, referencing the position of the constellations Leo (a lion) and Aries (a ram, or lamb) in the night sky — it quickly evolved into a succinct summation of March’s changing weather as the seasons change from winter to spring in the Northern Hemisphere.

Sexy Lambs

Like many proverbs  it can be traced back to Thomas Fuller’s 1732 compendium, “Gnomologia; Adagies and Proverbs; Wise Sentences and Witty Sayings, Ancient and Modern, Foreign and British.” Fuller compiled numerous proverbs and studied weather lore across many countries through the late 1600s and early 1700s.

North American colonists realized that the New World’s weather pattern was much like their native lands across England and surrounding countries, where extreme weather shifts could profoundly affect their livelihoods from one week to the next.
The Northern Hemisphere shares the same jet stream, providing similar swings in weather, in America as they do across Europe.

In Scotland they say, “March comes in with adders’ heads and goes out with peacocks’ tails.” An Adder is Scotland’s sole venomous snake. A timid creature and unlikely to bite unless threatened. Again, showing a feared image of winter, with the beauty and splendor the weather at the end of March can bring.

In the Netherlands, they say; “Maart roert zijn staart,” which means “March stirs its tail” — evidence of the variety and extremes that can come day to day this time of year.

Weather proverbs also originate from days gone by from almost every country in the world. But, only those with similar weather patterns usually hold true where you live.

As March closes – we can welcome the gentle kiss of
“April Showers which bring May Flowers”!

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A Thank You to CNN online.

Weighted Blankets helping hot flashes? (Something of use)

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Although other medical conditions can cause them, hot flashes most commonly are due to menopause — the time when menstrual periods become irregular and eventually stop. In fact, hot flashes are the most common symptom of the menopausal transition.

During a hot flash, you might have:

  • A sudden feeling of warmth spreading through your chest, neck and face
  • A flushed appearance with red, blotchy skin
  • Rapid heartbeat
  • Perspiration, mostly on your upper body
  • A chilled feeling as the hot flash lets up
  • Feelings of anxiety

The frequency and intensity of hot flashes vary among women. Hot flashes may be mild or so intense that they disrupt daily activities. They can happen at any time of day or night. Nighttime hot flashes (night sweats) may wake you from sleep and can cause long-term sleep disruptions.

Weighted blankets are therapeutic blankets that weigh between 5 to 30 pounds. The pressure from the extra weight mimics a therapeutic technique called deep pressure stimulation.

Deep pressure stimulation uses hands-on pressure to relax the nervous system. Doing so may help:

  • relieve pain
  • lessen anxiety
  • improve mood

Deep pressure stimulation doesn’t have to be completely hands on. With weighted blankets, the same pressure comes from having the blanket wrapped around the body.

dievca learned about weighted blankets from a friend in Europe who is a Therapist – they issue the blankets to their patients. dievca bought one because the color made her happy, it matched her bedding and she thought she would try it while napping~

she didn’t realize that it would became important a part of her strategy to get deep sleep during perimenopause~

Numbers – as a trend, don’t lie. 

Though dievca sleeps 7-8 hours a night — according to her watch, she wasn’t going into the “deep sleep” phase  for very long.  she could feel that she needed something more for healing and weight loss. dievca modified her eating/drinking patterns, bed time consistency, showering pattern, etc.  Not working.  The “hot flashes” got her at the end of a sleep cycle throughout the night, every time – and minimal deep sleep (5-10 min a night) occurred only at the beginning of the night.  

Enter the weighted blanket….

Add 15 min – 1 hour of deep sleep.  

“Hot Flashes” still occur towards morning – but there are less blocks of wake-up time between sleep cycles.

You may be asking – “Doesn’t the weighted blanket make you hotter?”

Bearaby sunbeam-velvet-napperdievca’s Bearaby Velvet Napper has a large weave with “holes” for air flow and she pushes it off as much as any other blanket during a “hot flash”.  You do have to be careful because the blanket is heavy and one can strain a muscle if you don’t pay attention. (Yes, it happened.) But, the time underneath that weighted blanket yields longer and consistent “deep sleep” which is where a body can heal.

Something of use.


Let’s Talk Shoes – a short History

Shoes have, through history, revealed much about the wearer – from their social status to their sexual appetite…

Status

Shoes have long been great indicators of your social standing and wealth. From the 13th century a new pair of shoes was only available to the wealthiest or highest ranking members of society: shoes were handmade by skilled craftsmen, using prohibitively expensive materials. As such it was inevitable that shoes were seen as a status symbol.

Poulaine

The medieval poulaine, for example – a long, pointed shoe worn by both men and women was a style taken to the extreme by gentlemen of wealth: a poulaine that posed a hindrance to walking, and made climbing stairs almost impossible, immediately indicated that the wearer was a man of independent means who didn’t need to work and therefore concern himself with sensible footwear.

The longer versions were also expensive and difficult to make, but many thought the style ridiculous and lewd, so sumptuary laws were passed capping toes to a mere 5cm (2 inches).

Tudor Foot Bag with SlashesBy 1500 the poulaine had all but disappeared, and was later replaced by the Tudor footbag. Characterized by its very wide toes, the shoe derived its name – and the alternative ‘cow’s mouth’ – due to its breadth. The girth of the shoe was again an indicator of status: note, for instance, the impressively wide shoes worn by Henry VIII.

Some shoes sported soles that reached a width of 17cm (6.5 inches), and again sumptuary laws were passed to curb this ‘excessive’ style.

Sexual proclivities

The long pointed toe of the medieval poulaine was not only an indicator of status, but also of the wearer’s masculinity – and, by inference, his sexual proclivities.

Winklepicker 1960The pointed toe has resurfaced numerous times through history. It’s apparent in the form of the winklepicker in the 1950 and 1960s – a pointed toe found on men’s shoes and often on women’s stiletto heeled court shoes, whose name was derived from the sharp pin used for prying winkles from their shells – and in designer Vivienne Westwood’s ‘penis shoe’ Spring/Summer 1995

Vivienne Westwood Penis Shoe SS 1995

Provocative

Pompadour Shoes 1750 V&A MuseumIn the 18th century, French fashion dominated. One particularly popular style of shoe was the high, French, ‘Pompadour’ heel. Named after Madame Pompadour, mistress to King Louis XV, this heel was incredibly narrow-waisted, and curved inwards under the foot. They were notoriously difficult to walk in, but made the most fantastic boudoir shoe. An 18th-century satirical poem said of them: “Mount on French heels, when you go to the ball – Tis the fashion to totter, and show you can fall.”

By the 1890s, heels on women’s shoes reached heady heights with the very fashionable style known as the Cromwell. This was a high-heeled shoe with a tabbed front and buckle, called the Cromwell in the mistaken belief that buckles were worn on the shoes of Oliver Cromwell and his followers in the first half of the 17th century. In reality, at that time his followers were wearing practical low-heeled leather shoes fastened with a latchet tie.

Cromwell Shoes Charles Hind 1889The extremely decadent Cromwell shoes could have heels up to 16 cm (6¼ inches). Such a high-heeled shoe caused consternation at the time. Wearers were ridiculed, and apparently cartoons of the day carried images of women needing sticks to walk, or helping hands either side of them.

Towards the end of the 1890s these exaggerated heeled shoes became very popular with women who entertained in the boudoir, thereby solving the problem of walking in them, but making them unwearable by ‘ordinary’ women.

Passion

White wedding slippers symbolize purity, and black is often worn for work or attendance at a funeral, but what about red?

Red has long been a significant and powerful color in part due to the expense involved in obtaining red dye. Red shoes were the prerogative of Roman senators and later, the emperor, and popes have worn red since the 13th century. Red-heeled shoes were also popular in the 17th century.

Red shoes also symbolize danger and passion, the very start of life, and the end.

Red Shoes tribute to victims of violence Photo-istock

Recently, across the world red shoes have been used to symbolize and protest violence against women.

Identity

Shoes can express identity, and indicate the cultural group to which the wearer belongs. As far back as Ancient Rome, all people were duty bound to wear the correct footwear – whether non-citizen, citizen, senator, priest or soldier. This meant you could see where individuals were positioned in society simply by the footwear they wore.

CaligaThe Roman soldier wore a style with an open toe and an open lattice upper, known as the caliga. It was a practical style, strong and well-ventilated for endless marching.

The emperor and high-ranking officials, on the other hand, wore the campagus – an open-toed boot, laced at the front.By Olivier Paris, re-enact Roman Campagus of about 100 B.C. For high ranking official

Red soles and heels equal power and identity – from the red heels of King Louis XIV, to the red soles of expensive Louboutin’s today. From the 1660s the flamboyant King Louis XIV of France became one of the most influential men in Europe, and was responsible for several fashion trends including the high red heel, either covered with red Morocco leather, or painted.

red heels of King Louis XIVRed was a symbol of wealth, only worn by the King and his court. The high heel not only elevated the short Monarch above the masses, but also alerted onlookers to his high status. Gradually the red heel filtered down through the classes and became a sign of fashionable sophistication.

Louboutin heels

A “Thank You” to BBC History Extra and Rebecca Shawcross. She is the author of Shoes: An Illustrated History (Bloomsbury, 2014)


The Quest: Chloé and white jeans

In 2016, Chloé x Net-A-Porter offered a collaboration in the form of a Denim Blue Cable-knit Cotton Sweater ($995). dievca was very interested in the sweater, but the only size available was an XL. she’s been watching the resale sites every since and a sweater came up for sale in her size. It’s now hers.

dievca was looking to add white wide-leg jeans. she bought a pair from J Crew, on sale.

she had this oufit in her mind before she saw this Street Style photo from Paris Fashion Week 2021:

Getty Images – Alexandra Pereira wearing a Stand Studio coat, Zara jeans, a Fendi bag, and New Balance sneakers.

dievca will add the pieces she already owns: Stand Studio Raincoat (2019), white leather Tretorns (2020) and Acne Studios Shiloh Bag (2014).


The vibrator verdict…

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The Maude Vibrator had a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ on the website. dievca and Master have given it a whirl and decided that it is very good, but it comes in 2nd place to the Iroha yellow banana:

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The most courageous act is to think for yourself. Aloud. ~ Coco Chanel

Take a moment to have a chat with a strong Woman in your Life for International Women’s Day.


Where you were and where you are now?


Patheodeficiency

The wrung-out feeling of being so emotionally spent you have actually run out of sympathy for anyone else.

dievca was in this space during the beginning of the pandemic – a drunk email from a friend triggered a direct reaction where dievca stated that she had no empathy/sympathy left in her body for her friend’s needs and drama.  Worry for her parents, limited working, everyone unsure about safety protocols for COVID-19, challenging political environment, etc. took up her reserves.  dievca didn’t realize there was a name for the feeling or condition.

Lately, she has just noticed that her body tension is diminishing and that wrung out, lack of energy for others feeling has lightened.

Is anyone else feeling better?

dievca hopes so!


Preparing for February – the Color Purple

The month of February is all about the color purple, with the birthstone being amethyst, and the flower a violet. But did you know that this color has a very rich and interesting history as to how it came to be such a popular color today?

One reason why it is such a prominent color in today’s society is that people of royal blood and power used to be the only ones who would be able to afford to wear it. From the dying process to the wardrobe, this beautiful color has had a role in society from royal representation, spiritual symbolism, and a wide effect on the world of current fashion trends.

EARLY PRODUCTION AND TRADE OF PURPLE DYE

You might guess that purple dye used to be made from natural plants and herbs such as lilac and lavender flowers, or berries such as grapes. Nope. It might seem a bit strange and gruesome, but during the ancient Greek era around 1,200 BC, purple dye was created by extracting it from sea snails—spiny dye-murex to be specific–and it took thousands of these little guys (supposedly 250,000 just for one ounce!) to dye different types of textiles. Instead of crushing and killing the snails to extract the purple dye, it could be collected by “milking” them. Then the dye would be put out in the sunlight to develop its hue—the longer the dye sat out in the sunlight, the more intense the purple shade.  Because of the high labor cost of making such beautiful textiles in ancient Greece, the only people who would be seen wearing them would be royals, priests, and nobles.

ROMAN INFLUENCE

Greeks were not the only ones to begin wearing the color purple as a symbol of high societal rank. In ancient Rome, emperors and priests would wear colored textiles of a darker shade of purple that had been mixed with indigo. Roman Catholic priests, especially those that are ranked as Bishops, still wear purple as a representation of piety, penitence, and faith. Priests will wear this color during Lent and when they listen to confessions. Different rankings wore different shades of purple or were coordinated with gold details or bands.

ROYAL PURPLE IN THE PALACE

More recently during the 18th and 19th centuries, rulers such as Catherine the Great continued to uphold the tradition of wearing the color purple to symbolize her royal status as Empress of Russia. Queen Victoria of Great Britain wore a mauve gown to the Royal Exhibition of 1862, a particular shade of purple that only royalty or upper society could afford to purchase. The British Royal Family is known to wear purple for special occasions and at ceremonies because it is made with purple velvet textiles and encrusted with amethyst gemstones.

THE WORLD OF FASHION

Today, the shades of purple are more popular than ever;  Pantone named the color of the year for 2014 as Radiant Orchid, and Violet Tulip. Cherished for centuries, this color is not going out of style anytime soon.

Thanks to textile and dye advancements, purple clothing items can be found pretty much everywhere. Still representing royalty, religion, and symbols, you can add purple to your life any day of the week. Being that it is February and the birthstone for this month is the amethyst gemstone.

 


Coffee and the morning commute – Moynihan Train Hall

It was silent, it was clean, it’s beautiful as it is new
and dievca managed to drip her cappuccino on the floor as she took a photo.
she felt like an a** as she scrambled to wipe the drips up with her glove.

The new Train Hall at Pennsylvania Station, NYC:

Daniel Patrick Moynihan Train Hall is an expansion of New York City’s Pennsylvania Station into the adjacent James A. Farley Building, the city’s former main post office building.

Amtrak and the Long Island Rail Road are served by the Hall and you can get to the subway.

One of the controversies is that the Hall is closed from 1 am to 5 am (Pennsylvania Station is open 24/7 and many homeless people find refuge there).

An excellent article about Penn Station’s History and the new building can be read here (Bloomberg City Lab).

Photos: dievca NYC Midtown Moynihan Train Hall 01/17/2021


LMAO – “OK, Boomer!”

We had a little conversation (a 12 yr old and dievca)….
and the phrase “OK, Boomer” came into play~

dievca is NOT a boomer…(Master is~)

As of July 1, 2019 (the latest date for which population estimates are available), Millennials, whom we define as ages 23 to 38 in 2019, numbered 72.1 million, and Boomers (ages 55 to 73) numbered 71.6 million. The two groups sandwich and overwhelm the middle child, Generation X.

dievca is a slacker….Hello….Generation X.
Don’t f*ck with her.
She’s a bit cynical (actually more of a realist), does not need validation, and slides by quietly to get things done.

Which Generation are You?

Generation Name Births
Start
Births
End
Youngest
Age Today*
Oldest Age
Today*
The Lost Generation
The Generation of 1914
1890 1915 106 131
The Interbellum Generation 1901 1913 108 120
The Greatest Generation 1910 1924 97 111
The Silent Generation 1925 1945 76 96
Baby Boomer Generation 1946 1964 57 75
Generation X (Baby Bust) 1965 1979 42 56
Xennials
1975 1985 36 46
Millennials
Generation Y, Gen Next
1980 1994 27 41
iGen / Gen Z 1995 2012 9 26
Gen Alpha 2013 2025 1 8

Parental lineage
Generally, Gen Xers are the children of the Silent Generation and older baby boomers.
dievca’s parents were of the Silent Generation.

Anyways, the comment sparked a conversation that made dievca laugh like hell.  Kids are fantastic with serving up a dose of reality.  dievca couldn’t decide if she was more offended by being called a “Boomer” or her personal reaction to being called one! (Sorry Boomers…😘)

 


Country Roads and Coffee (Westsylvania)

As dievca is making her way through Western PA via I 80, Coffee and John Denver are making the drive a bit easier. Too bad her acapella version doesn’t sound like this:

By the way, did you know that Pittsburgh was almost a part of West Virginia?

In the years before the American Revolutionary War (1775–1783), the jurisdiction of the region west of the Allegheny Mountains around Pittsburgh and along the Ohio River had been disputed between the British colonies of Virginia and Pennsylvania. The Mason-Dixon line, which officially established the border between Pennsylvania and Maryland, would have also settled the Virginia-Pennsylvania boundary dispute, but the surveying of the final miles of the Mason-Dixon line was abandoned in 1767 and would not be completed until 1784. In the early 1770s, it was therefore unclear whether Pittsburgh and its environs were in Pennsylvania or Virginia. Both colonies proceeded as if they had a better claim to the area. Virginia administered the region as the District of West Augusta, while in Pennsylvania it was considered a part of Westmoreland County.

Complicating this border dispute were the vast land claims of the Ohio Company of Virginia and the Indiana Land Company along the Ohio River. The two companies combined forces in 1769 to create the Grand Ohio Company with the intention of creating a colony known as Vandalia, which would have had similar borders to Westsylvania had it been recognized. The outbreak of the American Revolutionary War effectively brought an end to the efforts to establish Vandalia.


Chain the Moon!

Photo: dievca NYC a little shy of the full moon 11/2020

The Beaver Moon will occur on Nov. 30, 2020 and will reach its fullest phase Monday morning, Nov. 30, at 4:30 a.m. Eastern time.

As the moon is becoming full early Monday morning, there will be a partial lunar eclipse — known as a penumbral eclipse. While it’s not as dramatic as a full lunar eclipse, it could be visible here on the East Coast and in other areas of North America.

A penumbral eclipse takes place when the moon drifts through the outer section of Earth’s shadow, or penumbra, and part of the sun’s rays are blocked from shining on the moon during that time, according to astronomy experts at EarthSky.org.

dievca caught an early glimpse of what is to come, heading home from the gym last night.  Looks lovely in Chains.


Autumn Clean-Up


What’s on your agenda for this Fall Sunday?
dievca has:

  • Change to Winter Bedding
  • Wash and Store Summer Linens
  • Wash the Floors
  • Wash the Windows
  • Back Master’s Birthday Crisp – WI sour cherries this year!

Sometimes it’s nice to simply be domestic and get things done – you can see the fruits of your efforts.

Enjoy your Sunday. XO


Time to Adult

Photo: dievca NYC Chelsea 10/2020

It is a “right” that has become a “responsibility”.  

 

This year, 2020, marks the 100th anniversary of the passage of the 19th Amendment, guaranteeing and protecting women’s constitutional right to vote. The passage marked the largest expansion of democracy in the history of the USA.


Semantics of Shibari vs Kinbaku

Creator: Kinoko Hajime

So what does the word Shibari mean?
The dictionary definition is “the act of tying” but as with so many words in Japanese, the meaning depends upon the context in which could be used to refer to tying such things as parcels, objects, etc To take the word out of context removes much of its meaning. In a discussion on bondage – Shibari is a word for ‘bondage tying’.

What is Shibari vs Kinbaku?
As in the rest of the world, the Japanese have differing opinions on which is the best term to use for not only Shibari or Kinbaku but other terms that may apply to the art of bondage tying.

So we may have a situation where shibari means to tie, and kinbaku is a rather recent word meaning “to tie tightly so that there is no movement after the tie”.

Another opinion is that ‘Shibari’ is bondage tying and that Kinbaku is ‘Shibari’ plus emotional connection – to “tie deeply”.

Practitioners seem to use the words interchangeably and you’d be invited to learn Shibari at Kinbaku workshops. Recognized Japanese practitioners prefer one or the other to some extent, this does not however mean that one is valid and the other is not. They are all valid.  These are not contradictions, only preferences of expression.

Most Japanese rope artists instinctively gravitate towards one or the other in their conversations depending upon the circumstances.

For instance, an artist explicitly describes his rope as “Shibari not Kinbaku” while he qualifies some other rope artists as “doing Kinbaku, not Shibari”. He often says that he wishes to tie to the point where the model can move a little bit in the tie, thinking she can untie herself, when – in fact, she cannot.

There are situations where all Japanese agree: is that in the sentence “let’s do Japanese rope together”, it is always Shibarimashou (let’s shibari) and not “kinbaku o shimashou” (let’s kinbaku).