Green-eyed Monster

The Merchant of Venice, 1596:

Portia:
How all the other passions fleet to air,
As doubtful thoughts, and rash-embraced despair,
And shuddering fear, and green-eyed jealousy! O love,
Be moderate; allay thy ecstasy,
In measure rein thy joy; scant this excess.
I feel too much thy blessing: make it less,
For fear I surfeit.

Othello, 1604,

Iago:
O, beware, my lord, of jealousy;
It is the green-eyed monster which doth mock
The meat it feeds on; that cuckold lives in bliss
Who, certain of his fate, loves not his wronger;
But, O, what damned minutes tells he o’er
Who dotes, yet doubts, suspects, yet strongly loves!

dievca is tired and jealous. Jealousy is not as glamorous as Shakespeare’s writing~

The guilt arrives as she feels she has no right to be jealous.

Wait! It’s not jealousy…it’s envy. Green with envy~

dievca should be happy about other people’s good fortune, right?

The people around her travel to Miami, Maine, Cape Cod, California, Copenhagen, Belize, Argentina, Philadelphia, Switzerland, Vietnam, Montreal, Colorado, Scotland, Iceland, Cuba for pleasure trips…

dievca’s last three trips were for family and taking care of their needs or working 13 hour days for two weeks.  The next trip will be back to her Parents, again. It’s not relaxing. And dievca gets this: “It’s so much easier when you are around, when are you coming back?” or “I’m only going to be around so long.” or “Can you eBay the two exercise machines for me? I know that X,Y,Z is nowhere near NY, but you eBay and I don’t” — how should dievca feel?

Note: dievca tries to make sure she does something she likes during those trips, plus she tries to remember that the trips are for people she loves….but a weekend getaway, a college football game, a stop at the beach purely for herself wouldn’t go amiss.

dievca just cannot bring herself to do it…and that is her fault.

Just let her whinge, ok?  The clothes coming up are worth it.

Remember those people who were traveling for fun? dievca gets a bit resentful when those same people come home and complain about how they are behind on work or their bodies aren’t working well because they missed yoga…really, dievca’s heart is bleeding for you – having five days off was tough.

They could have brought her a bottle of wine or a little gift, right?

she (dievca) is a shitty person, huh?
she is really tired and cranky…

Vintage Pin Up Fred Rodewald Green Raincoat

Look how sexy the pin-up is in green –
If dievca can’t travel, maybe a little green Retail Therapy would help easy her jealousy~

NEW YORK, NY – DECEMBER 07: Rita Ora seen on the streets of Manhattan on December 7, 2016 in New York City. (Photo by James Devaney/GC Images) Coat by Emilio Pucci

Yves Saint Laurent green patent leather easy bag

Draped emerald-green silk dress by Lanvin

COS green ribbed cashmere hat

COS green cashmere scarf

Alyx Green Cargo Pants

Liebeskind Stanford Velvet Backpack Green $228

Green jacket By Saint Laurent

VALENTINO GARAVANI Leather Shoulder Bag green

Lanvin Green Silk Satin One-shouldered Dress

Gianfranco Ferré runway show. Fall Trends, Green Gloves

Anndra Neen cage bag green ShopBop

VINTAGE 50’S EMERALD GREEN SILK CHIFFON COCKTAIL PARTY DRESS BY MISS ELLIETTE

Grass Green Hoodie Wool Cape Etsy

Proenza Schouler green PS1 medium suede tote

Coach Green leather gloves rabbit interior

Jimmy Choo Darylin suede and patent-leather pumps ($695) green

Lanvin Spring 2004 Green Dress silk

Clingy Wallet In Green Patent Leather by 49 Square Miles

Chloe leather trench coat green

Etsy Green Banana Leaf Midi Skirt Custom $71.00

Moschino Cheap and Chic Green paillettes Dress

H & M Green Sweater with Appliques

H & M dark green v-neck t-shirt

Proenza Schouler Green Lux Leather PS1 Tiny Satchel Bag

Lili Pepper Dark Green Coin Purse

J. Peterman 1940’s Cord Dress Green


Quem não se comunica se trumbica: December 3rd to 22nd, 2017

Take Care!

The idiom: Quem não se comunica se trumbica
Literal translation: “He who doesn’t communicate, gets his fingers burnt.”
What it means: “He who doesn’t communicate gets into trouble.”’

Photo: dievca Dec. 3rd: Lingua Franca Cashmere Sweater

Everyone:
December 3rd, mental Mercury—the ruler of chatty Gemini—launches into one last retrograde backspin in 2017, which will last until December 22. Take all the Mercury retrograde precautions: from backing up data and devices, to triple-confirming reservations, to booking a quick Airbnb instead of staying in your S.O.’s childhood bedroom with the creaky floors and passive-aggressive parents down the hall.

dievca:
From December 3 to 22, Mercury will be retrograde, which could foil technology, communication and travel—just when you REALLY need these things to go off without a hitch. And it might feel like a double whammy, because Mercury is backtracking through Sagittarius and your interpersonal third house, increasing the likelihood that you’ll feel wildly misunderstood this month.

Master:
That said, be careful what you wish for. Mercury, the planet of communication, technology and travel, will go retrograde from December 3 to 22, scrambling signals.


On my Mind~

Hello, how are you doing?  I hope my choice of blog reposts these past two weeks were semi-interesting.  If nothing else, I had fun going back to read them and revisit the memories.

I didn’t get a chance to read blogs like I thought I would. I ended up researching a graduate program (3rd Master’s degree anyone? We will see), working extra to allow me to travel down South.

The traveling included visiting Families and Friends, learning about myself and watching people react:

  • How does one deal with chemo after getting a great check-up with a Doctor who can only give a lukewarm delivery. How many times had that Doctor put their heart on the line, to be shut down?
  • Or watching the robust couple who lost (or gained) everything with a brain tumor? The frank discussion of choosing not to do radiation the next time it’s needed.
  • I have a tendency to see something in a home that needs done and doing it….it’s invasive, yet, needed. So, I pray that my minor moments of help are seen as a “break” not an offense.
  • Talking to college students about their hopes, dreams and drinking across Europe is very entertaining.
  • Cuddling with immense dogs is messy and healing.
  • All done while eating a whole lot of BBQ and butter~ everything is better with butter.

 

This watchfulness and self-reflection of family relationships, relationships and friendships triggered a review of what I want for the future, what I want for my Life and why I want things. I know that I am not in need, but what would fulfill me?

I don’t have any hard conclusions, but I’d like to share information I’ve pondered.

Assess your friend network

Research shows that having a strong network of relationships is vital to our health.

It’s harder to make friends as we get older. 

Tereasa Jones, who has a master’s degree in counseling and is a certified life coach who specializes in friendship coaching, had suggestions about how to make new friends as an adult..

According to Jones, we all move through a variety of interpersonal relationships on a daily basis.

  • “Intimates” are the lifelines you can call at 3 a.m. with an emergency.
  • “Friends” you spend time with, but maybe don’t share every detail of your life
  • “Friendly acquaintances” are people you know you like and whom you see on a regular basis in a particular setting, like work or the yoga studio. They’re the ones you’ve considered inviting out for coffee, but never have.
  • “Acquaintances” are people you’re friendly with in passing, at the store, the gym, in the elevator.

I asked myself which of these categories am I missing in my life?

None, but changes can be considered.

I have a lot of  “friendly acquaintances” and “friends” by default – there is always someone I can ask to meet for coffee, a movie, a museum, talk about an issue, ask advice.  And I do have a core set of “intimate friends” whom I connect with consistently, but most of them live in different states/countries….

That might be the group I need to address, locally.

It’s tough as an adult to find the time, desire and say “yes” to the odd activity, but as Amy Silverstein suggests:

Sometimes friendship is just about showing up

“Don’t be afraid to show up….Push yourself a little bit, when you sense that you’re needed. Show up with an open mind to be there in any way that your friend needs: to let her yell, cry, not say anything at all, [or to] just hold her hand.”

I’m well aware that in most cases you receive what you give.

Yes, there are the odd circumstances where you get taken advantage of….but if you keep your eyes, ears and heart open. You should be o.k.

If I keep my eyes, ears and heart open. I should be o.k.

Wish me Luck!

How is your friend situation looking?  Any way you can push away from the BBQ and butter to meet someone new?  Let me know about it!

XO

Thank you to Annaliese Griffin from Well & Good 
And an interesting read from a Guy's Viewpoint.

Stand Back

like everyone,
dievca has a lot going on right now

Master hasn’t been there for her,
He likes everything light and friendly

so dievca avoids sharing,
and digs in hard to stand up

that act of dominance
comes with a brusque wind


it also brings something else,
a F*ck you, F*ck me Attitude


which is not anyone’s fault,
it’s a form of protection

just be careful around dievca,
under the fire is … fragility

 

given time she’ll re-find her ladylike,
until then its Stevie Nicks and alcohol

 


Lyrics
No one looked as I walked by
Just an invitation would have been just fine
Said no to him again and again
First, he took my heart, then he ran

No one knows how I feel
What I say unless you read between my lines
One man walked away from me
First, he took my hand, take me home

Stand back, stand back
In the middle of my room
I did not hear from you
It’s all right, it’s all right
To be standing in a line
Standing in a line
I would cry

Do not turn away, my friend
Like a willow I can bend
No man calls my name
No man came

So I walked on down away from you
Maybe your attention was more
Than you could do
One man did not call
He asked me for my love
And that was all

Stand back, stand back
In the middle of my room
I did not hear from you
It’s all right, it’s all right
To be standing in a line
Standing in a line
Standing in a line

So I walked on down the line
Away from you
Maybe your attention was more
Than I could do
One man did not call
Well, he asked me for my love
That was all

Written by Prince Rogers Nelson, Stevie Nicks • Copyright © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, Universal Music Publishing Group


trött

I toss and turn
can’t sleep

all the questions I ask
all the answers I anticipate
all the time I give

not a question in return

when you have built on giving, when does it become your turn to receive?


Earworm from Monday….

dievca is sorry…..mmmmmm….

….if that song from Monday has been stuck in your head all week. (here’s why)
It’s been stuck in her head, too.

It’s an “EarWorm”.

An earworm, sometimes known as a brainworm, sticky music, or stuck song syndrome, is a catchy piece of music that continually repeats through a person’s mind after it is no longer playing. Phrases used to describe an earworm include “musical imagery repetition”, “involuntary musical imagery”, and “stuck song syndrome” (wiki)

Which brought up this song:

Which may be an Earworm in of itself.

 

Why do we run into EarWorms?

TED Talks:  Earworms: Those songs that get stuck in your head – Elizabeth Hellmuth Margulis (4 min 45 sec)

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY: Tunes Stuck In Your Head: You May Have An Earworm – The Science behind Haunting Melodies

What are your Earworms?

Umm, it could be a subtle form of S & M.


lppl

Photo: Robert Mapplethorpe, Milton Moore 1981

dievca received a text by accident and it said, “Lppl”.

she texted back….no answer.

Of course she had no idea what it meant,
so she looked the acronym up and found:

LUM PAH PAH LAN

A Hokkien term describing a person on which a plan or action has backfired.  The literal translation is “the testicles hitting the penis”.  The rhythm of the phrase suggests a ricocheting action, a surprising elegant touch, in such a rude phrase. (from the Coxford Singlish Dictionary with a similar definition from the Urban Dictionary)

dievca is guessing it is like SNAFU, or FUBAR

With lppl, she liked the idea of the cock rhythm visual,
but she would prefer Master watching
while she created her own rhythm with this:

Bruce LaBruce Danko Jones Legs Videostill

Have to be flexible or curl your legs around someone’s a**.

Hokkien /hɒˈkiɛn/ (from Chinese: 福建話; pinyin: Fújiànhuà; Pe̍h-ōe-jī: Hok-kiàn-oē) or Minnan Proper (閩南語/閩南話), is a Southern Min dialect group spoken throughout Southern part of Fujian Province in Southeastern China, Taiwan and Southeast Asia, and by other overseas Chinese. (Wikipedia)