Feeling like a failed submissive

Master asked for a Fantasy. Something to bounce off of – dievca is sure.
He’s back from traveling and tomorrow is convienient to meet.

But as dievca worked 9 hours, had an issue with a plumber after work, passed out on the sofa for an hour, ate spaghettios, wasabi peas and fruit for dinner. she is finally having a glass of wine – but, no BDSM fantasy is coming to mind.

Just a blog post.
A short one at that.

Merriam-Webster defines burnout as “ the condition of someone who has become very physically and emotionally tired after doing a difficult job for a long time”. As much as we s-types do love being submissive and serving, I doubt anyone is going to debate the fact that what we do can be a difficult job and is definitely a long term job.

A D/s relationship requires two individuals to Tango. One partner cannot be expected to be the one to act or plan or suggest all the time. The other partner has to step up, sometimes. Make sure in your relationships, Vanilla or BDSM that you put your time and input in — your partner might need your help. Planning and fantasies are not just the submissive’s domain or the Dominant’s domain — sometimes there needs to be flexibility, communication and a bounce-off platform from the other side.

Master asked for a Fantasy.
His dievca is just not able to produce one at this moment.
she will ask for His help.

A "Thank You" to the submissiveguide.com for voicing some of the feelings swirling around in dievca's head (above quote).

Whew~

Have you ever lost a day….or a couple of days because you are continuously moving from one thing to another?  Then you lift your head and breathe…only to realize your autopilot caused you to mix up days?

I looked back at this week’s blog posts and realized that I was off by a day.

The Thursday Lingerie post went live on Wednesday, there wasn’t a something useful post for Friday because Saturday’s strappy shoe post was running. Etc.

No emergency – its a blog.

But it threw me. What else did I screw up and was it important?
No one is screaming at me…so I may have escaped chaos.

(Note: I’m babbling in the next section)

Why did this happen?

  • I added another octogenarian to the mix and had to revamp a bathroom for their safety.
  • Needed to schedule to get back to my parents for one of the caregiver’s vacation time. Both parent’s had gone into the hospital for pneumonia (at seperate times). My brother needs a break.
  • Summer schedule changes coming up and my co-worker opened a resturant, so the planning and execution of those plans fall on me.
  • I’m considering purchasing a co-op and its a gut renovation – architect, plumber to find the gas lines, the owner passed – nothing really done since 1953…
  • Master was traveling.
  • Doctor’s appointments —  everything seems to be going well internally – body structure and exterior that can use some work.
  • Went through the storage unit to exchange winter goods for summer items. Had to do the resale craziness, again. RealReal, Buffalo Exchange, Goodwill and HousingWorks to the rescue.
  • Organization for Spring events – three happening this upcoming week.

You know…nothing keeps you in tune like children.  An alarm clock that keeps you on track.  Here’s the rest of the story with the photo above – Life Magazine followed the Life of a 1940’s Housewife from Kankakee, IL….she’s got me beat, by far:

A Series of Vintage Photos Documented a Day in the Life of a 1940s Housewife

Funny….I just ordered this dress:

Black Crane Coral Classy Dress


WHERE KINK MEETS COSMETICS @ Ricky’s NYC Beauty & Pin-Ups

“It was the funniest thing in the world to see a customer buying a shampoo, a toothpaste, and a dildo. Where else are you going to find that?” Nowhere except the famous Ricky’s NYC.

dievca has been riding her bike everywhere in the NYC and it makes stopping, shopping or wandering the City harder to do. One of the stores that is no longer in her neighborhood is Ricky’s. she hasn’t visited a Ricky’s store in a long time and she was worried that they were going out of business. Turns out they are re-organizing….

Here’s how Ricky’s describes itself:

An edgy, ultra-hip “beauty shop” specializing in unique fashion accessories, cosmetics, and beauty supplies, Ricky’s NYC has been a part of New York’s urban chic culture for nearly two decades. From style-conscious teenagers and their suburbanite moms to Hollywood celebrities and their professional stylists, Ricky’s NYC plays host to a diverse, cult-like following of clientele.

A veritable one stop super shop for everything beauty Ricky’s NYC transcends trends while inspiring and emphasizing individuality. With products ranging from professional hair care to temporary tattoos, Ricky’s NYC’s eclectic offerings make headlines and grace the pages of major beauty publications every month. Ricky’s NYC is synonymous with style, sensibility and funky sophistication.

Here’s how dievca describes it:

dievca used to be able to go into Ricky’s and buy SweetSpot Labs Grapefruit personal wipes, a Chi Hair Straightener, Spanx Tights, a Rabbit Vibrator, Penis Straws and Murad Pomegranate Extract Face Cleaner:

 

Following in the footsteps of his father, operator of drugstores called Love, Ricky Kenig opened the first Ricky’s NYC in 1989 with his brother Todd, who, by his own account, built the retailer to 28 stores and $55 million in revenues by 2012. Ricky’s NYC is now controlled by a private owner declining to be named. Lisa Aquilino is now the President. Her mission has been to restructure Ricky’s slowly and gently to become a better version of itself. Prior to Aquilino, the president’s role at Ricky’s NYC was occupied by Michael Long, Dominick Costello and Richard Parrott.

That said, the Ricky’s on the UWS seemed to be re-organizing its floor space and consolidating. The “sex shop” part was no longer in existence and dievca didn’t see a Hair Salon – but not all Ricky’s have hair salons. There was an extensive “sale” area which allowed dievca to pick-up some expensive skin care items for less and made her smile with this Beauty & Pin-Up Haircare line on sale:



Something excellent for the 1950’s Household Kink submissive.


Cycling the City

Irina Demick rides a bike

Looking at neighborhoods and apartments,
while wearing “real” (non-athletic wear) clothing…
dievca is channeling her inner Irina Demick.
Now if she was just biking somewhere on Holiday…
Ah, well.


horny women lift the skirt — hmmm

You know how top “search” words pop up for review on your WordPress Administration page? The search term:

horny women lift the skirt 

came across dievca’s page.

A fascinating search link as dievca’s Master is really not interested in seeing His dievca lift her skirt in public. He prefers her to look Ladylike and presentable — showing off some lovely plumage against the backdrop of His simple and clean-lined clothing.

dievca does thinks He would be more intrigued by a unintentially skirt lift:

she can safely say that, at home, He is very interested in the subtle skirt lift:

And also a blatant horny women lift the skirt”

Louise Brooks


Passed out.


Have you ever had a tough week, expended all your energy and just passed out?
dievca did – she found herself in the position she started in.
Strange.


A Toasty Cup and off to work…


The NY City Kids have a “Snow” Day – dievca does not…
she does have a later start time.

May you have a later start time, too.
XO

PS. dievca won’t be riding her bike.