No one talks about peri-menopause. No one talks about colonoscopies.
For both topics, there are “hints” and “innuendo” – interspersed with potty humor (colonoscopy) or the suggestion of mental instability (perimenopause).
dievca is looking at both topics straight in the eye. One came to the attention of the other this week….
The colonoscopy prep is tedious. Here are some things of use to help one get through it:
- Chill your prep solution as long as you can before drinking
- Don’t sniff the prep solution
- Don’t swish the solution in your mouth because you are pondering swallowing
- Use a straw to keep the texture and salty and sweet taste away from your tongue
- Take small to medium sips
- Swallow as fast as you can to limit the taste in the mouth
- Take a small sip of water/clear fluid to dilute and rinse the taste from your mouth
- If you feel nauseous, take longer pauses between sips – even if you go beyond the time limit for drinking the prep
- If you feel like you need something more substantial in your stomach than liquids, suck on hard clear candies, eat light-colored Jello, apple sauce, and Italian ice. No red or purple colors.
- Keep a cream available for a sore bum
- If everything coming out stays neon yellow – don’t panic. As long as its clear, you are ok.
- Finish the prep as best you can, but know that if you throw some up – it is not a problem as long as emissions are clear
- Your blood pressure is going to be high due to dehydration, don’t panic
- Schedule the procedure in the morning, so you don’t have to wait if someone before you has a problem and you can get to your caffeine as soon as possible after the surgery.
For the Ladies:
When dievca checked in for the procedure – they insisted on her taking a pregnancy test (!)…..on the hint that she still gets periods. That’s where perimenopause rears its head. How old are the people getting their 1st colonoscopy? In their 50’s – when does perimenopause start? late 40’s early 50’s on the average. The question, “Do you still get your period?”, can be a loaded question and awkward to answer~ Be aware. It’s tough to pee in a cup when you are dehydrated.
The procedure itself is quite simple and your a** does not hang out for everyone to see.
A side note: A close friend’s sister died at 40 from colon cancer. dievca’s friend was constantly on people to get a colonoscopy ASAP. Sadly, that friend was the one who beat gallbladder cancer only to die from pancreatic cancer at 50. dievca finally honored her promise to her friend, she knows her friend was watching. All clear.
Sexually active older adults tend to have less inflammation
and, in turn, a higher quality of life, suggests a recent Journal of Sexual Medicine study.
Avocados are a great source of healthy monounsaturated fat and antioxidants,
which can dampen your body’s inflammatory response.
In fact, the anti-inflammatory properties of avocados are so strong
that they may actually offset less healthy food choices.
Master and His dievca are catching up for a little playtime and lunch today.
They’ve been sharing a Lenwich Vegetarian sandwich during aftercare:
Green Leaf Lettuce,
Shredded Red Cabbage,
Aftercare = whole body and mind care
Valerie Stunning wants a better Las Vegas—one that’s intersectional and filled with plenty of ice cream. But not just any ice cream. Bougie ice cream. Indulgent ice cream. Adult ice cream.
Stunning founded Paradise City Creamery last May, combining her knack for gourmet, plant-based ice cream with another of her passions: advocating for sex workers.
For years, the “Head Creamstress,” stripper, writer, activist and former burlesque dancer made artisan ice cream as a hobby and for her friends. Eventually she realized it was tasty enough to sell to the 18+ masses.
Last summer Paradise City Creamery ran a monthly pop-up inside Downtown’s Jammyland Cocktail Bar & Reggae Kitchen and also had a booth at Life Is Beautiful. On January 17, Stunning will celebrate a new residency at Artifice (along with a new winter menu featuring four new flavors), which will continue every third Friday through 2020.
Just don’t expect your average trip to Baskin-Robbins. There’s a peepshow-inspired photo booth, plus lots of gold and neon, and each flavor (starting at $12) comes decked out with its own signature toppings, like dripping, dazzling disco cherries. And there’s a sexy story to accompany each cone.
“Our yuzu-wasabi [flavor] is inspired by shopping for a sex toy,” Stunning says. And the espresso chip flavor is “inspired by my work as a day-shift stripper—how I would be in New York drinking my coffee on the subway with a full face of makeup while everyone’s wearing their suit and tie.”
It’s a tongue-and-cheek way of bringing two seemingly opposite worlds together, breaking the ice around conversations about sex and sex work in a fun and delicious way. “These stories tie in everything and cater to that no-shame, no-guilt celebration,” Stunning says.
With sexy-meets-glam marketing, Stunning has already made a name for Paradise City Creamery on social media, and with her motivational, no-holds-barred writing (she’s written for Hustler, and she blogs at valeriestunning.com). She’s a cheerleader for her community, and hopes her playful, gourmet ice cream can get folks to see a bigger picture.
Stunning explains that part of Paradise Creamery’s goal “is to create visibility and promote intersectionality”—a theory and way of looking at discrimination through multiple avenues that often include race, class and gender. “This is the world I come from. Community organizing is what I will always be about, and so to have this platform gives me an entryway to another type of person who may not have considered these issues before.”
Most importantly, Stunning says she wants people who are typically excluded to feel welcome. “Everything is constantly catered to straight, white, f*cking middle-aged people,” Stunning says. “I feel like, if I’m able to hire people that I want to celebrate and represent who I identify as, it really contributes to this conversation about visibility.”
She’s quick to add that Paradise City Creamery’s ice cream game is serious, too. A one-day-only white cacao and truffle ice cream was featured at Picnic in the Alley in October, and her Mezcal vanilla bean and balsamic caramel flavors will also be out on the 17th.
“I really strive for this balance between the strong messaging behind the brand, but also, we’re not f*cking around culinary-wise,” Stunning says. “We’re using really high-end ingredients.Everything we do is top-notch and bougie.”
by Leslie Ventura for the Las Vegas Weekly
NYC starts Phase Two.
Stress is a feeling of emotional or physical tension. It can come from any event or thought that makes you feel frustrated, angry, or nervous. Stress is your body’s reaction to a challenge or demand. In short bursts, stress can be positive, such as when it helps you avoid danger or meet a deadline.
Emotional symptoms of stress include:
- Becoming easily agitated, frustrated, and moody
- Feeling overwhelmed, like you are losing control or need to take control
- Having difficulty relaxing and quieting your mind
- Feeling bad about yourself (low self-esteem), lonely, worthless, and depressed
- Avoiding others
Physical symptoms of stress include:
- Low energy
- Upset stomach, including diarrhea, constipation, and nausea
- Aches, pains, and tense muscles
- Chest pain and rapid heartbeat
- Frequent colds and infections
- Loss of sexual desire and/or ability
- Nervousness and shaking, ringing in the ear, cold or sweaty hands and feet
- Dry mouth and difficulty swallowing
- Clenched jaw and grinding teeth
Cognitive symptoms of stress include:
- Constant worrying
- Racing thoughts
- Forgetfulness and disorganization
- Inability to focus
- Poor judgment
- Being pessimistic or seeing only the negative side
Behavioral symptoms of stress include:
- Changes in appetite — either not eating or eating too much
- Procrastinating and avoiding responsibilities
- Increased use of alcohol, drugs, or cigarettes
- Exhibiting more nervous behaviors, such as nail-biting, fidgeting, and pacing
Blood tests can be used to estimate how much stress one is experiencing. A cortisol blood test is one of the most commonly used blood tests. Cortisol is a hormone that is released by the adrenal glands when one is under stress. Higher levels of cortisol would indicate higher levels of stress.
Explore stress management strategies, such as:
- Getting regular physical activity
- Practicing relaxation techniques, such as deep breathing, meditation, yoga, tai chi or massage
- Keeping a sense of humor
- Spending time with family and friends
- Setting aside time for hobbies, such as reading a book or listening to music
WHAT ARE THE HEALTH BENEFITS OF MASTURBATION?
Little scientific research has been conducted to examine the benefits of masturbation. However, many experts have weighed in to say it can help combat anxiety, depression, and stress. Psychologist Dr. Becky Spelman, based in London, said endorphins secreted by the body during climax boost mental health.
Dr. Spelman, a relationship expert for We-Vibe, said masturbation can have physical benefits, too. In older women, it can maintain vaginal health and prevent vaginal atrophy – which often strikes at that stage in life. Endorphins, which give the same natural high as exercise can, can reduce pain.
Writing for The Conversation, two researchers at the University of Sydney said self-pleasuring can ward off a host of illnesses. These include cystitis and diabetes, while insomnia can be reduced through hormonal and tension release, the pair said.
Aim to find active ways to manage your stress. Inactive ways to manage stress — such as watching television, surfing the internet, or playing video games — may seem relaxing, but they may increase your stress over the long term.
Be sure to get plenty of sleep and eat a healthy, balanced diet. Avoid tobacco use, excess caffeine and alcohol, and the use of illegal substances.
Memorial Day originally honored military personnel who died in the American Civil War (1861-1865). The holiday now honors those who died in any war while serving with the United States. It is also called Decoration Day.
dievca has two European friends who’s families have memories of American Paratroopers and a shot down plane crew coming down in their yards during WWII. One in the Netherlands and one in Italy. The families still think of those soldiers – especially the Italian family because of the simple sharing of chewing gum.
What happened to the silk, nylon, and canvas from those contraptions that helped people fall from the sky?
It was repurposed and became shrouds, slings, bandages, hammocks, undergarments, Wedding dresses, purses, clothing, quilts – anything and everything in a needy time at a needy place.
Here’s the glamourous:
Thank you to Katie Sanders from Business Insider.
Definition 1 of Unicorn related to the BDSM Lifestyle:
There’s a term nearly everybody in the Swinger world, the BDSM world, and the Polyamorous world is familiar with, summarized in one neat, pretty, sparkly mental image of one word: Unicorn. On the surface it’s a simple term, relating to the mythical creature of lore that is rumored to exist but is nearly impossible to find. Furthermore, once found, it’s nearly impossible to keep, for, after all, nobody can really own a unicorn. (credit absinthepassion.wordpress.com )
Colloquial; Synonym for hot or Bi babe or HBB, often derogatory, condescending, or ironic. A bisexual person usually though not always female, who is willing to join an existing couple, often with the presumption that this person will date and become sexually involved with both members of that couple, and not demand anything or do anything which might cause problems or inconvenience to that couple.
The term is often used to be dismissive of a couple seen to be only superficially polyamorous. Because of the demands that this type of couple places on the woman (that she be single and not take on any additional partners, and become involved with both members of the couple equally, and often “complete” their family as a surrogate mother and housekeeper and/or breadwinner and not do anything that may threaten or disrupt the existing couple), many in the poly community call this type of woman a ‘Unicorn’, as in mythical and not likely to be found, even though there are plenty of bi-poly women around.
Sometimes the unicorn is expected to not develop any emotional attachment and is strictly there for a sexual relationship (equally distributed to both members of the dyad) and/or is prescripted as a secondary. This term is used as a reminder that bi-poly women are people with their own desires, needs, and pre-existing lives, and not fantasy figures or pets.
(credit Urban dictionary.com).
If you are looking for a Unicorn buying this Pouch might be a great deal easier.
And it is a lovely item for the Little in your life. XO
Opening Ceremony UNDERCOVER Unicorn Pouch
Printed leather front
White leather back
Zip back closure
On sale for $60 with further discounts available
Opening Ceremony is closing their stores and temporarily closing their website. The sale is quite good.
CINCO DE MAYO:
In the United States, Cinco de Mayo is widely interpreted as a celebration of Mexican culture and heritage, particularly in areas with substantial Mexican-American populations.
Chicano activists raised awareness of the holiday in the 1960s, in part because they identified with the victory of indigenous Mexicans (such as Juárez) over European invaders during the Battle of Puebla.
Today, revelers mark the occasion with parades, parties, mariachi music, Mexican folk dancing, and traditional foods such as tacos and mole poblano. Some of the largest festivals are held in Los Angeles, Chicago, and Houston.
Cinco de Mayo is not Mexican Independence Day, a popular misconception. Instead, it commemorates a single battle. The date is observed to commemorate the Mexican Army’s victory over the French Empire at the Battle of Puebla, on May 5, 1862, under the leadership of General Ignacio Zaragoza.
Within Mexico, Cinco de Mayo is primarily observed in the state of Puebla, where Zaragoza’s unlikely victory occurred, although other parts of the country also take part in the celebration.
Traditions include military parades, recreations of the Battle of Puebla, and other festive events. For many Mexicans, however, May 5 is a day like any other: It is not a federal holiday, so offices, banks, and stores remain open.
Cheyenne, WY-based Taco John’s – which has nearly 400 locations in 23 states – put its legal stamp on “Taco Tuesday” 30 years ago and has since zinged cease-and-desist letters at offenders far and wide.
Like “raisin bran,” ″escalator,” ″nylon” and other formerly trademarked products, “Taco Tuesday” has suffered from “genericide” – it has become too well-known to continue to be identified with a particular company, said Seattle-based attorney Michael Atkins. The term even made a fairly significant appearance in “The Lego Movie,” a 2014 kid film based on the popular plastic toys.
“It’s kind of asinine to me think that one particular taco seller, or taco maker, would have monopoly rights over ‘Taco Tuesday,’” Atkins said. “It has become such a common phrase that it no longer points to Taco John’s and therefore Taco John’s doesn’t have the right to tell anybody to stop using that.”
Taco John’s offers Americanized Mexican fare advertised as “West-Mex.” Mildly spiced, fried potato nuggets called Potato Oles – dipped in salsa or nacho cheese or packed in a burrito – are a signature item.
The company trademarked “Taco Tuesday” in 1989, claiming a Minnesota franchisee began using “Taco Twosday” to advertise two tacos for 99 cents in the early 1980s. The trademark applies in every state but New Jersey, where another restaurant already had secured the right to “Taco Tuesday.”
~Excepts from Mead Gruver’s Associated Press article for USA Today click here for the whole article
The Miracle of Lycra Spandex- Fairy Godmother to Women Everywhere. Invented in 1959 it wasn’t until 1962 until the full scale manufacturer of Lycra went on the market , expanding possibilities for women everywhere. Girdles were no longer only peach, ivory, and black instead bright pastels and patterns became the rage. (L) Vintage ad 1962 Hollywood Vassarette Girdle and Bra (R) Fairy Godmother Cinderella Walt Disney
The synthetic fabric used to make stretchy clothing is commonly referred to as spandex and as Lycra. DuPont created the term Lycra as a brand name for its spandex, and now the terms have become interchangeable.
Dupont textiles scientist Joseph C. Shivers was determined to find a fiber to replace rubber in garments. He made a breakthrough in the early 1950s when he used an intermediate substance to modify Dacron polyester. This modification produced a stretchy fiber that could withstand high temperatures. After nearly a decade of research, the fiber was perfected in 1959. Originally called Fiber K, DuPont chose the trade name Lycra to distinguish its brand of spandex fiber.
Spandex fibers are produced in four ways: melt extrusion, reaction spinning, solution dry spinning, and solution wet spinning. All of these methods include the initial step of reacting monomers to produce a prepolymer. Once the prepolymer is formed, it is reacted further in various ways and drawn out to make the fibers.
A blessing and curse:
The comfort offered by using fabrics with Spandex comes with an environmental concern.
Today most clothes containing spandex end up as non-recyclable waste once they have been worn out, as fabric blends containing spandex are difficult to recycle. This contributes to the pollution of the environment.
When clothes are washed, hundreds of thousands of microfibres are released into the wastewater, ending up in the oceans, and if clothes contain plastic then they will cause microplastic pollution.
of Staying Home.
You can play YOUR own music at almost any moment.
Your personal productivity increases with limited distractions.
The alarm doesn’t ring at 4 am.
You get a chance to work on unused skills.
You can attend dance or workout classes at any time.
You hear or connect to people you haven’t seen or heard from in years.
You have a chance to just “be”.
dievca is prepping late. she forgot about the Holiday.
“and on the 3rd day He rose again.”
So, will NYC rise again? Good question.
All dievca can do is keep hoping (hopping) and work hard.
she sends her best wishes to you for renewal and revitalization.
Stay Healthy or Heal Well.
dievca spent the day calling Midwestern small town ACE hardware stores and Farm/Fleet stores, she contacted both her Alma Maters Nursing and Biology programs, work maintenance group and friends. Searching for masks.
Not the ones people are so generously sewing. The heavier duty ones that can be used for a swamped ER in a local hospital. A personal friend who runs the ER has severe asthma – reusing a mask is unsafe.
Everyone dievca called/emailed were very kind in replying and searching their facilities or stores. The Nursing departments and Biology departments already donated. Work needed their masks. The ACE hardware stores were out but took their time to look properly. Farm/Fleet came through with a small amount. Better than nothing and dievca had the time to search. she’s still trying to figure out how to get in touch with the closed NYC nail salons.
dievca was doing this for a specific individual and could have them shipped directly.
But, if you have some spare masks or other supplies and are willing to share, here are suggestions where to share the items safely: https://thecity.nyc/2020/03/how-can-i-donate-supplies-to-new-york-hospitals-in-need.html
Well…options for dievca to work on.
Her hair hasn’t looked like any of these options.
(Wait! She did have a pixie cut at one time)
How about your hair?
A big, bright Full Worm Moon will appear in the east on Monday, March 9th.
It might make your Sir’s worm wiggle…
Although the Super Worm Moon officially reaches 100-percent illumination at 1:48 p.m EDT and 10:42 p.m PDT, it’s much more impressive if viewed as it appears low on the horizon.
In New York, sunset is at 6:57 p.m. EDT and moonrise is at 5:56 p.m. EDT, while in Los Angeles sunset occurs at 6:56 p.m. PDT, followed by moonrise at 6:14 p.m. PDT.
If the sky isn’t clear on Monday, check again at dawn, when the moon will be setting in the west. In New York, sunrise is at 7:15 a.m. EDT and moonset 8:06 a.m. EDT, while in LA, sunrise is at 7:09 a.m. PDT and moonset 7:58 a.m. PDT.
dievca found a Tenga Iroha Vibrator she bought and forgot about….
After digging it out, she decided to use it in a moment of self-care. It seems like it may be a good vibrator to use on a partner. The soft tip hit dievca’s clit nicely and the head can be inserted into the vaginal opening (possibly the anal opening, too). Clean up was easy.
dievca sent Master this photo:
she received a reply:
Ha! This looks like a fictional creature in a long-gone comic strip called
The shmoo (plural: shmoos, also shmoon) is a fictional cartoon creature created by Al Capp (1909–1979); the character first appeared in the comic strip Li’l Abner on August 31, 1948.
A shmoo is shaped like a plump bowling pin with stubby legs. It has smooth skin, eyebrows, and sparse whiskers—but no arms, nose, or ears. Its feet are short and round, but dexterous, as the shmoo’s comic book adventures make clear. It has a rich gamut of facial expressions and often expresses love by exuding hearts over its head. Cartoonist Al Capp ascribed to the shmoo the following curious characteristics:
- They reproduce asexually and are incredibly prolific, multiplying faster than rabbits.
- They require no sustenance other than air.
- Shmoos are delicious to eat and are eager to be eaten. If a human looks at one hungrily, it will happily immolate itself—either by jumping into a frying pan, after which they taste like chicken or into a broiling pan, after which they taste like steak. When roasted they taste like pork, and when baked they taste like catfish. Raw, they taste like oysters on the half-shell.
- They also produce eggs (neatly packaged), milk (bottled, grade-A), and butter—no churning required. Their pelts make perfect boot leather or house timbers, depending on how thick one slices them.
- They have no bones, so there’s absolutely no waste. Their eyes make the best suspender buttons, and their whiskers make perfect toothpicks. In short, they are simply the perfect ideal of a subsistence agricultural herd animal.
Naturally gentle, they require minimal care and are ideal playmates for young children. The frolicking of shmoos is so entertaining (such as their staged “shmoosical comedies”) that people no longer feel the need to watch television or go to the movies.
- Some of the more tasty varieties of shmoo are more difficult to catch, however. Usually, shmoo hunters, now a sport in some parts of the country, use a paper bag, flashlight, and stick to capture their shmoos. At night the light stuns them, then they may be whacked in the head with the stick and put in the bag for frying up later on.
Hmm, look the vibrator is pretty good, but dievca doesn’t think it is quite as great as Al Capp’s Shmoon!
Midwestern weather in February calls for winter dressing.
dievca dug into her closet and came up with older items that still generated a couple of compliments.
she was astounded.
A whole discussion on fashion and Bricks & Mortar VS. Online Shopping occurred in an airport restaurant because of her coat. The discussion continued because her flight seatmate worked for ShopBop.
Two adorable Millennials noticing the exhausted Generation X-er’s style – a shocker.
Who said that women over 50 are marginalized?
The idiom: брать/взять себя в руки
Literal translation: “To take oneself in one’s hands.”
What it means: “It means ‘to pull yourself together.’”
Other languages this idiom exists in: Translators tell us that there is a German version of this idiom too: “Sich zusammenreißen,” which translates literally as “to tear oneself together.” And in Polish, the same idea is expressed by the phrase, “we take ourselves into our fist (wziąć się w garść).”
Why Coffee Keeps You Awake
Caffeine acts on a chemical in your brain called adenosine. An increase in adenosine levels induce sleep and the longer you are awake the more adenosine you have in your system. Caffeine binds to the molecules of adenosine reducing its sleep-inducing effects.
Typically, the half-life of caffeine is around four to six hours, meaning that four to six hours after consumption, about half of that caffeine is still in your system.
Coffee can affect healthy sleep cycles by increasing your arousal frequency — how many times your brain wakes up each night.
However, some studies have begun to debunk this claim. It often depends on the individual. If you have had a cup of coffee every evening for twenty years, you may not have trouble sleeping.
What Research Says About Coffee Consumption
Coffee appears to affect everyone differently. Some people get headaches and restlessness from a simple cup of black coffee. Others can drink multiple espresso shots without noticing much of a difference.
Part of this stems from tolerance. There are many different variables that come into play when discussing tolerance: age, weight, sex, consumption, type of roast, etc.
Coffee can give you a temporary mental and physical boost. How it impacts you depends on how much you consume and the source. There is a big difference between drinking one or two servings of black coffee every day and making multiple trips to Starbucks for a Cinnamon Roll Frappuccino.
Research shows that daily consumption of caffeine in coffee, tea, or soft drinks increases daily sugar levels by nearly 10%, boosting their risk of cardiovascular disease and obesity. Just adding cream and sugar to your homebrewed coffee could quickly skyrocket to over 200 calories per serving.
A Starbucks Venti White Chocolate Mocha, for instance, has 580 calories, 22 grams of fat and 75 grams of sugar. A plain cup of brewed coffee? Two calories, no fat, and zero carbs.
Acid Reflux: Caffeine causes the gastroesophageal sphincter to relax, which allows acid to enter the esophagus.
Not for children: Small amounts of caffeine, equivalent to one cup of coffee, increased children’s blood pressure. And to compensate for the rise in blood pressure slowed their heart rates.
Osteoporosis: There is some evidence showing that moderate to high coffee consumption (more than four cups per day) is linked with calcium loss and fractures.
Drinking Coffee Can Be Good For You
Coffee is linked to a positive mood, alertness, and an overall increase in mental function. Coffee consumption habits may even reduce the risk of mild cognitive impairment and dementia.
What are the nutrients in coffee?
A single cup of coffee contains:
- Riboflavin (vitamin B2)
- Pantothenic acid (vitamin B5)
- Manganese and potassium
- Magnesium and niacin (vitamin B3)
Coffee shows more antioxidant activity than green tea. There is some evidence that coffee may lower the risk of developing heart disease and type 2 diabetes.
A number of studies have suggested that consuming caffeine can reduce your risk of developing Parkinson’s disease. Coffee drinking has beneficial effects on the liver, including reducing the risk of death from liver cirrhosis, decreasing harmful liver enzyme levels and limiting liver scarring in people who have hepatitis C. And researchers found that those who drank four or more cups of caffeinated coffee each day had a 20 percent lower risk of developing melanoma than people who drank decaffeinated coffee or no coffee.
Caffeine is a performance and endurance enhancer. It fights fatigue, strengthens muscle contractions, reduces an exerciser’s perception of pain, and increases fatty acids in the blood to support endurance. The belief that coffee is dehydrating doesn’t have much interference with exercise if it is consumed at a reasonable level.
Enjoy Your Coffee Like Everything, in Moderation
Thank you to Jonah Malin via Medium, wiki, Rush.edu and nih.gov
What is happening between your legs as well as between your ears during arousal?
Desire usually refers to emotionally wanting to have sex, while arousal refers to the physiological changes in your body that happen when you are sexually excited.
During arousal, your brain is welling up with powerful hormones: dopamine and oxytocin. Dopamine, which comes first, triggers feelings of motivation. I really want to get this person naked. Oxytocin, the ‘Cuddle Hormone’, kicks in later and makes you feel bonded with your partner.
As a pair, the two neurotransmitters explain why we feel instantly — if momentarily — bonded to our partner when we start to feel turned on. During arousal, certain geography of the brain lights up like fireworks. Half a dozen parts of the brain become activated, including the amygdala (associated with emotions), the hippocampus (associated with memory management), and the anterior insula (helps process physical feelings).
Men and women’s brains don’t always respond the same way to arousing stimuli. In a study published in 2015, men and women watched a series of erotic videos while researchers examined their brains using an fMRI. Both men and women reported feelings of arousal while watching the videos, but researchers noticed that men showed more brain activity in the amygdala while women showed hardly any.
More so than men, women tend to be aroused by stimuli that they can “imagine themselves into” — like an erotic story, or an imagined fantasy. Another study that tracked eye movement as people watched pornography, found that both men and women’s eyes were locked on the woman in the film — regardless of their sexual orientation. The theory? Women need to imagine their way “into” the scene, while men are satisfied by focusing on the visual imagery alone.
Researchers also noticed that women’s stimulation of the vagina, clitoris, and nipples all correspond to the same precise area of the sensory cortex — meaning that all of those areas register as erogenous. Yes, confirming the obvious, but arousal has been difficult to measure as there is often a disconnect between what is happening in your genitals, your brain, and your consciousness.
John Bancroft, Ph.D., senior researcher and former director of the Kinsey Institute, has studied how arousal develops, and his research pinpoints something important:
We need to be aware of our own arousal before we can really feel aroused.
“In the male, sexual arousal is typically associated with some degree of penile erection. The man will become aware of this, and focus his attention on the idea of his penis being stimulated,” explains Dr. Bancroft. But, in women, the equivalent — the stiffening of the clitoris — isn’t nearly as noticeable, and “typically the woman is less aware of her genital response unless her genitals are touched.”
Cognitive components of arousal are especially important for women. Just like sensual touching can jumpstart arousal, so too can sensual thought. Reading erotica, watching pornography, fantasizing about an erotic scenario, or even just thinking about sex all trigger a response in the brain — which, in turn, contributes to feelings of arousal. The biggest sex organ in the body is the brain, talking with a lover in a loving, sexy way can cause a man to become erect, or a woman to become wet.
The mechanics of sexual arousal are well-known, but are there things that can take our arousal to the next level? There are all kinds of supposed ‘sexual aids’ in the form of herbs, supplements, and exercise methods that claim to improve libido. e.g. eating oysters, taking ginseng, using THC lube. No conclusive evidence has been found that these items do not work, but there is no good evidence that they do work either.
What is recommended and proven is communication. The sharing of one’s desires is a great arousal jump-starter. Working to shed inhibitions and opening yourself emotionally can help you get into the right headspace to feel turned on. Don’t think of ‘foreplay’ as something completed to get to a conclusive event (orgasm). Think ‘sex play’ — a menu of different activities to create pleasure between partners, sometimes with a formal conclusion, sometimes without.
Yoga fiends have their morning “sun salutation”.
dievca has her morning “back resetting” flow
which includes the pigeon pose.
(sometimes in the nude)
How does one’s a** get so tight while sleeping?
An absolute mystery.
Living in NYC you have a good chance of finding someone who can reweave a hole in a cashmere Missoni sweater or create a stunning one-of-a-kind dress.
David Samuel Menkes sounds like the gentleman to connect with for custom leather pieces. dievca offered a blog post which had photos using his work: BDSM in Haute Couture – Strict Magazine
If she ever becomes brave enough – she might stroll into his studio and ask if he can make a leather ‘Day Dress’ for her to wear presenting for Master.
Spirit And Flesh Magazine
DAVID SAMUEL MENKES
Interview by CYNTHIA ALTORISO
photography by DAVID CARLO
CYNTHIA ALTORISO: I met David Samuel Menkes by serendipity. I had gone to his building to visit the atelier of a neighboring bespoke tailor on his floor. When I noticed the wonderful quilted leather and studded door, I stopped in my tracks. Beyond the door was a pleasant-faced, blue-eyed and nosed-ringed man, who invited me in. To step inside David’s studio was akin to visiting Ali Baba’s cave of treasures!
There was David, at his heroic wooden work table, covered with beautiful leathers and interesting findings and tools. Behind him were steps leading to an outdoor Victorian quadrangle encompassing a secret garden unique for its exotic specimens and random classical statuary. This was only the beginning…
Appreciating my joy for his aesthetic, David pointed out the ‘walking stick corner’ which held a vast collection of wondrous vintage walking sticks, many of which I have had the good fortune to borrow for shoots.
Close by, above the wardrobe is a collection of marvelous old hats and hat boxes. Next, we moved into his bedroom with its’s centrally positioned canopy bed, draped with fine old paisley shawls.
One wall was covered in shelves holding antique sewing implements. Another wall held a vast collection of classical music covers, the many spines proudly proclaiming impressive works. And then there are the 2 drawers full of the bone button collection, the pleasure of which is to run one’s hands through. And there are the charming vintage children’s chairs. There’s more, much more, and, after these many years of knowing David, it has become a custom for me to bring visitors to experience this creative field trip.
David’s skills are not limited to the demimonde. For a project I was doing with Amy Arbus, he made a Picasso clown suit, for a shoot with Alan Cumming he made a spy’s binocular case, and for a shoot with Ellen von Unwerth, he crafted a lovely muzzle. I also arranged for a custom-made leather jacket, with the Union Jack, for Zombie, Rod Argent. Too many to list here, David has made or lent me many cunning pieces and accessories…the random eyepatch, the leather corset, the riding crops, etc., etc.
David is an old school artisan lovingly plying his trade, making up one of New York’s living, creative treasures.
I call him ‘The Leather Master’.
David Samuel Menkes established Custom Leatherwear in 1980. After graduating from Carnegie-Mellon University/ BA Costume and Scenic Design, he arrived in NY with theater dreams but soon found the Leather Scene more interesting. Applying a certain theatrical flair allowed for a wide range of designs within a strict code of dress. Developing a specialty in leathercraft also brought Fashion and Theater projects, as well as crafting for Artists, Interior Designers, Performers, and private customers, with projects ranging from Dog Muzzles to covering a giant head of Stalin with a hood!
…you pass out because you are just that exhausted.
dievca hopes you slept as hard as she did.
dievca hasn’t gone to Mass in a long while. she’s no longer a practicing Catholic. The drift happened many years ago and started with an unwelcoming Diocese and misuse of funds from a family Parish.
Oddly, Saint Patrick’s Cathedral in NYC is welcoming enough to allow anyone to offer up a Mass. One does not need to be a Parishioner of the Church. A Mass card can be sent as an acknowledgment of passing by anyone of any Religion or Church. A chance to have a devout group add their prayers to dievca’s more secular wishes.
It’s pretty much the first time since dievca’s Theology courses in College, the Catholic Church has shown her a form of tolerance and inclusiveness. Granted a donation is involved – but whatever works.
The Gentleman at the Parish House now knows dievca’s face and name, she’s been in 11 times this year. Family members, friends, friend’s family members have passed and dievca had a Mass said and sent a Saint Patrick’s Cathedral Mass Card.
What to Say When Someone Dies
- When in doubt, reach out
- Show up in person
- Send a Sympathy Card
- Consider sending a gift
- Anticipate their needs
- Don’t try to “fix” their grief
- Don’t avoid saying the deceased person’s name
- Keep checking in
- Don’t worry about getting it 100% right
Hidden in the trees.
Visited by peacocks, kitties, and tourists.
Offering the City.
The city of Lisbon’s ancient name, Olisipo (Ulyssipo), may be derived from the Phoenician alis ubbo (“delightful little port”) or from the legend that the city’s founder was Odysseus.
Olisipo was used by the Lusitanians, the Visigoths changed the name to Olisipona and the Moors modified it to Lishbuna – moving towards the modern-day Lisbon.
And in the Castelo de São Jorge which stands majestically above Lisbon. The Lady – Olisipona, from whom the City of Lisbon gained its original name, kneels.
Photos: dievca, Castelo de São Jorge Lisbon Portugal 08/2019
The May 1968 events in France refers to the volatile, two-month period of civil unrest throughout France punctuated by demonstrations, major general strikes, and occupations of universities and factories. At its height, the events brought the economy of France almost to a halt. The protests reached such a point that political leaders feared civil war or revolution; the national government itself briefly ceased to function after President Charles de Gaulle secretly fled France for a few hours. The protests spurred an artistic movement, with songs, imaginative graffiti, posters, and slogans. (more below)
Half a century after student protests gripped the Left Bank of the French capital, a crowd was drawn to the Sonia Rykiel store to celebrate a new handbag, the Pavé, or cobblestone, meant as a playful nod to an era when angry protesters lobbed the stones at riot police.
That period of rebellion also gave birth to the label, still famous decades later for its striped and colorful knitwear.
And dievca finally found something to buy honoring her age. It took a year :
The social unrest began with a series of student occupation protests against capitalism, consumerism, American imperialism, and traditional institutions, values, and order. It then spread to factories with strikes involving 11 million workers, more than 22% of the total population of France at the time, for two continuous weeks. The movement was characterized by its spontaneous and decentralized wildcat disposition; this created contrast and sometimes even conflict between itself and the establishment, trade unions and workers’ parties. It was the largest general strike ever attempted in France, and the first nationwide wildcat general strike.
“May 68” affected French society for decades afterward. It is considered to this day as a cultural, social and moral turning point in the history of the country. As Alain Geismar—one of the leaders of the time—later pointed out, the movement succeeded “as a social revolution, not as a political one”.
Thank you to Wikipedia, WWD, French Vogue
In the indigo glow before the Dawn, dievca watched the stars twinkle over the NYC skyline. she had just finished going into a deep read of an NYT Article:
As a youngster who recently reached her 50’s dievca was part of the initial target audience for the show. she has fond memories of the classics: Rubber Ducky, 5 People in My Family, etc. Apparently, people who worked on the show or were guest stars had/have some impressive resumes, which at 3 years old – one does not care about…. The catchy tune which teaches you to count? That’s an important piece.
If you are a ‘Little’, in the demographic of dievca or a parent the article above may bring you Joy to read — just give yourself some time to click through all the musical links for a fine ride.
“There is no such thing as ‘away’.
When we throw anything away it must go somewhere.”
– Annie Leonard, Proponent of Sustainability
dievca ran into a Swedish McDonalds for a friend’s children. They like the coffee drinks offered (Frappe?).
This garbage/recycling station was a thing of beauty. A hole to place every piece or shape of garbage possible. (Yes, I thought of other useful holes as I wrote that line.) A slot for ice/liquid, a slot for excess food, a slot for paper.
Where does it go?
A question that has been on dievca’s mind for….well…years.
China is no longer taking USA recycling. New Jersey, USA garbage collection services, with Mob ties, treat garbage as a commodity and as recycling doesn’t make money, the process doesn’t happen. The single-stream sorting process is expensive to start and doesn’t always work. If there is no market for paper-recycling or an area doesn’t have the types of business to use recycled paper – paper bales go into a landfill because they are too expensive to ship.
Etc., Etc., Etc.
Perhaps if garbage/recycling is sorted at the point source, smaller amounts could be collected and handled immediately – making the “products” cleaner and easier to transport.
A little bit being recycled is better than nothing being recycled. Right?
dievca cleans and sorts – hoping that her efforts can be used, sold or something.
But, she knows her food scrap composting has reduced her solid waste by 1/3 to 1/2 and its being used in NYC, she sees it. That story is for another post.