Last Minute Gala
Posted: May 9, 2023 Filed under: Accessories, Dresses, Jewelry | Tags: BDSM, closet, D/s, dievca, Elegant, gala, Generation X, grumpy, Life, loner, pushing through, Vivienne Westwood Leave a comment
Under protest, dievca got roped into a fundraising Gala. The weather was lovely, the crowd was muttering about how to remember to put make-up on and dievca was just trying to slide on by….
dievca cannot figure out if she is a curmudgeon or has gone back to her loner Generation X roots or what~ she needs to get it together and just have fun at these events rather than whining.
Yeah, ok, next week she will try again. And another week in June.
Is there anything you are pushing through?
And it worked to the best of her ability~
Posted: April 28, 2023 Filed under: Dresses, Fashion, Shoes | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, disaster, Elegant, friendship, Funeral, Humor, Life, travel, traveling Leave a commentTwo outfits for the viewing and funeral – flew in at 4:30 pm, viewing at 6 pm, dressed and did make-up in the car backseat which scandalized prudish friends. Deal with it.
The viewing:
dievca has not said the Rosary in years – she finally realized that its a form of meditation.
The funeral Mass:
The black Stuart Weitzman 50/50 boots were a challenge to dievca’s right foot. she had to solicit help to get it on – a 7 minute process of pulling out the heel out from being crushed, getting it over her heel bone and profusely sweating. she donated the boots to a Gen Z who admired them and had a smaller foot after the funeral.
Flying back now – a < 36 hour go~
One Perfect Rose
Posted: April 27, 2023 Filed under: Dresses, lingerie, Poetry | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Dorothy Parker, Elegant, embroidered, erotic, Humor, Rose, sheer clothing, submissive 2 CommentsA single flow’r he sent me, since we met.
All tenderly his messenger he chose;
Deep-hearted, pure, with scented dew still wet—
One perfect rose.
I knew the language of the floweret;
“My fragile leaves, ” it said, “his heart enclose.”
Love long has taken for his amulet
One perfect rose.
Why is it no one ever sent me yet
One perfect limousine, do you suppose?
Ah no, it’s always just my luck to get
One perfect rose.
— Dorothy Parker
Digging deep – a dress for a funeral
Posted: April 19, 2023 Filed under: Dresses | Tags: BDSM, clear out, closet, D/s, Death, dievca, Elegant, Funeral, Life, Presentation Outfit, somber, submissive Leave a commentdievca and her brothers did not have a Funeral Mass said for Mom and Dad. dievca has the ashes and she plans to take them to a Mass at Mom’s favorite outdoor chapel in a tote bag and then to a Family Reunion with the cousins. Mom and Dad wouldn’t have wanted to miss it! Afterward, dievca is planning to scatter them – into Lake Michigan, or a river in Pittsburgh, or store them in a mausoleum near her Aunts, or a Rose Garden – dievca’s brothers have left it for her to decide and she is dithering.
Anyways, dievca has not needed a somber dress for a funeral recently. She wore color for her last Aunt. This occasion calls for something more serious and dievca is digging deep into the closet. Here are her options (click on the photos for the brands):
So, dievca has many options – right?!?!? Well, no, she expects many of the items to be too snug with her middle. But, this is a good exercise to pare down the items in her closet. Time to go and try them ALL on…..wish her luck!
End of Season Elegant – Faux Leather
Posted: March 3, 2023 Filed under: Clothing, Dresses | Tags: BDSM, clothing sale, D/s, dievca, downtown chic, Dress, faux leather, FIT museum, ladylike, Master, pants, Presentation Outfit, submissive, weekend Leave a comment
Good American Wide Leg Faux Leather Pants
dievca has gotten many compliments and much use out of her Good American Faux Leather Wide Leg Pants. They are slippery and do run warm (faux leather doesn’t breath), so you need to be aware of when and where to wear them.
dievca’s success prompted her to keep an eye on an expensive faux leather dress from Proenza Schouler White Label – original price $650. The dress is sleeveless, has a full two-way zipper, drawstring waist and is currently on sale – $280 at ShopBop, but dievca was able to price match with Saks 5th Avenue for $185.
It was non-returnable, so dievca was nervous – but it has turned out to be lovely and something different – she’ll be wearing it with boots and a hat for Master this weekend to attend Fresh, Fly and Fabulous at FIT.
Old Favorites
Posted: February 25, 2023 Filed under: Collars, Dresses, Shoes, submissive | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Ease, Elegant, erotic, Go-Bag, Life, Master, practical, Presentation Outfit, Salvatore Ferragamo, Vivienne Westwood, Wolford Leave a commentWhen the schedule is packed and you are rushing around –
it helps to know that you have the “old favorites” in a Go-bag.
All readily available to make an elegant Presentation for Master:
- Vivienne Westwood “Orgie” Dress in Orange
- Salvatore Ferragamo Black Leather Heels
- Wolford black Thigh-Hi Stay-up stockings
- Hartman Rose Collar and Lead in Gold Lether
- Chanel Red Allure Lipstick
A rose by any other name…
Posted: February 9, 2023 Filed under: Accessories, Clothing, Dresses, Fashion | Tags: BDSM, Cynthia Rowley, D/s, dievca, Elegant, Flowers, quote, Romantic, Shakespeare, Shopping, submissive Leave a commentOrganza Flowers by Cynthia Rowley offer romance no matter which type of flower it is ~
The phrase is from Romeo and Juliet and the full quote is: “What’s in a name? That which we call a rose. By any other name would smell as sweet.” Basically, what it means is that what matters is what something is, not what it is called.
In Living Color with Rose Assoulin and Miu Miu
Posted: January 20, 2023 Filed under: Dresses, Shoes | Tags: BDSM, Color, D/s, dievca, Elegant, formal gown, gala, Presentation Outfit, rainbow, Sandals, Shopping, submissive Leave a commentRosie Assoulin Rainbow Embroidered Gown ($6995) with Miu Miu Leather platform Sandals ($1120) would put some Spark into January and a crimp on your wallet!
Gracefully with Personality: Vivienne Westwood at YOOX and dievca’s closet
Posted: December 31, 2022 Filed under: Body Type, Dresses, Fashion, Shoes | Tags: aging, BDSM, D/s, dievca, Elegant, erotic, Honor, Life, Love, Master, Presentation Outfits, Shopping, Vivienne Westwood Leave a commentThe first 7 Vivienne Westwood dresses are available at YOOX.
The second 8 Vivienne Westwood items are in dievca’s closet (starting at the 2nd green dress). she’s missing photos of her indigo “Hangover” dress that has been worn to the woof and her “go to” jersey funeral dress in a very dark burgundy.
When Century 21 was open in NYC – dievca would haunt the Vivienne Westwood racks and if they had a sample sale – she was there. The items are cut for curvy in mind and ladylike enough for Master, quirky enough for His dievca.
dievca will be wearing the sequin dress for New Year’s Eve.
Obviously dievca did not know Vivienne Westwood, but she admired her boldness in growing old gracefully with personality. May we all grow older gracefully with personality!
XOXO-OOOOOOO
Posted: November 29, 2022 Filed under: D/s Relationship, Dresses | Tags: Anniversary, BDSM, D/s, dievca, Dominant, Elegant, Humor, Life, Loewe, Love, Master, Shopping, submissive Leave a commentThe Loewe “Hug” Dress
Are you covering your assets or is your Mistress giving you a hug from behind?
dievca will be giving Master a HUG and more – its their anniversary.
Cut it Out!
Posted: November 16, 2022 Filed under: Dresses, Fashion | Tags: AREA, BDSM, bodycon, Cut Out Dress, D/s, dievca, erotic, Holiday 2022, Mugler, Party, Presentation Outfits, Sexy, Shopping Leave a commentMugler Cut Out Mini Dress from
MyTheresa $1370 – take off 30%
The Look For Less version?
AREA for $780 – no discount
Fitted Fetish Dress: Balenciaga
Posted: October 1, 2022 Filed under: Dresses | Tags: Balenciaga, BDSM, D/s, dievca, Dominatrix, Elegant, erotic, Fetish, Leather, Presentation Outfit, Sexy Leave a comment

The name of the dress made dievca laugh, but…
Matrix-esque Fitted Leather
Cracking the Whip
Peeling out of the Dress
Soft Lambskin
Very sensual!
Available (on sale) at FWRD
Self: 100% lambskin
Lining: 100% cupro
Made in Italy
Professional leather clean only
Fully lined
Hidden back zip closure
Mockneck
Lunching with Master
Posted: September 27, 2022 Filed under: Dresses, Entertainment, Home and Garden | Tags: aftercare, BDSM, Birthday, dievca, Dominance and submission, ladylike, Love, lunch, Master, Metropolitan Museum, Presentation Outfit Leave a commentMaster is taking His dievca to the Met and to lunch for her Birthday.
she has to work in the morning, but will head uptown afterward.
dievca is planning on wearing her Anthropologie Somerset Maxi Dress in Dark Purple. It will allow her to wear comfortable shoes, look ladylike, and hide her knee brace if she needs to wear it.
Master said He would like to finish the day at His apartment, so dievca is bringing Him peach crumble as a treat during Aftercare.
It turned out well!
Photo: dievca Fresh Peach Crumble NYC 09/2022
Presenting in the Pink of the Moment
Posted: September 23, 2022 Filed under: Accessories, Clothing, Dresses | Tags: BDSM, bold, confidence, D/s, dievca, fashion, Love, pink, Presentation Outfits, Shopping, Submission, submissive Leave a comment
It’s everywhere – its not subtle.
A POP of color to bring Joy.
Is there such a thing as a BOLD submissive?
Yes, when Presenting for your Master or Mistress
(click on photos for brands)
What color is Blue Atoll?
Posted: September 2, 2022 Filed under: Dresses | Tags: BDSM, beach, Blue, crochet, D/s, dievca, Elegant, erotic, Party, Presentation Outfit, Retrofete, Sequins, Shopping, submissive Leave a comment
- 100% Viscose Knitted
- Made in India
- Blue Atoll
- $485
Dreamy Dress
Posted: August 21, 2022 Filed under: Dresses | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Elegant, ladylike, Presentation Outfit, Saks Fifth Avenue, sale, Shopping, silk, submissive, Summer Leave a comment
Christopher John Rogers Dress
A chance to look ladylike for Master, again! XO
On sale at Saks 5th Avenue:
Fit-and-flare midi-dress with chevron color blocking at neckline.
- V-neckline
- Adjustable spaghetti straps
- Side seam pockets
- Concealed back zip
- Trim: 100% silk
- Lining: 100% silk
- 51% acetate/49% cotton
- Approximately 50 inches from shoulder to hem
- Dry clean
- Made in USA
- MSRP $2795
Crafty submissive
Posted: August 2, 2022 Filed under: Dresses | Tags: arts and crafts, BDSM, creative, D/s, dievca, domestic, fabric dye, Grace Jones, practical, Raquel Allegra, rayon, sale Leave a commentdievca does repair Master’s clothing via needle and thread or clean items via soaking, etc. This is just normal Life stuff for a domestic dievca from the Midwest. In a past life, she did sew items with the sewing machine, quilts, dresses, hemming, etc. The creativity dropped off with moving to NYC. Not enough room and the sewing machine lived at her parents house -and is now in the Midwestern storage unit.
Anyways, dievca bought this dress:
The Raquella Allegra Grace Dress in Apple.
100% Rayon
Originally $370 on sale for $99.90
The Grace Dress is inspired by the one-and-only Grace Jones. You’ll love the relaxed fit with dramatic blouson sleeves in lightweight stain. Wear yours with leather sandals and a petite bag.
Fits true to size, take your normal size
Model is 5’8″ and is wearing a size 2
Mini length
Relaxed fit
Blouson sleeves
100% Rayon
It looks like a super bright color which is lovely for Summer. Yes, it might be too much for dievca… but she has a plan to dye the dress if she hates the color. Rayon fabric takes dye very well, though the fabric becomes delicate when wet. dievca is inspired by this current Raquel Allegra Dip-dyed Grace Dress in Indigo ($475):
And if it ends up a “dievca disaster” its only $99 – not an emergency.
dievca will let you know what happens!
Beat the Heat in White~
Posted: July 26, 2022 Filed under: Dresses | Tags: Banana Republic, BDSM, D/s, dievca, Elegant, hot weather, Life, Presentation, Shopping, submissive, Summer heat Leave a commentFor dievca to recommend white in New York City – tells you that she is desperate to feel cool.
And that she is not taking the subway.
Banana Republic has some lovely offerings in Cotton Gauze, Linen and Ramie – ranging from $39.97 to $250. Click on the photos for a closer view and the prices:
Simple elegance in Latex
Posted: July 14, 2022 Filed under: Dresses, Latex | Tags: Autumn, bodycon, Coco de Mer, Elegant, erotic, latex, Lingerie, Presentation Outfit, Rubber Fetish, Shopping, Submission, submissive Leave a commentCoco de Mer Latex dress – no longer available.
But in the Autumn – the latex offerings come forward.
Inspiring.
A Mature Moment – Modehus
Posted: July 8, 2022 Filed under: Clothing, Dresses, Relationships | Tags: aging, BDSM, D/s, dievca, friendship, girlfriends, Humor, Life, Love, sharing, Shopping, travel Leave a commentdievca’s Swedish friend laughs at her because dievca always has to visit two stores in a small town. One is an optical shop that sells great eyeglass frames and the second is, well, yeah – a “Mature Women’s” shop . A modehus that her friend does not step into unless dievca is visiting. Let’s put it this way – dievca saw a pair of cropped pants in the store and then saw them on her friend’s Mother-in-Law an hour later.
Whatever. dievca stops in because she always finds a gem.
Two trips ago, the gem was a dress made by a Danish designer upcycling vintage Sari silk. dievca still wears the dress. dievca bought a similar dress on her last trip, but she felt that the arms were too snug and she passed it on to her Dutch friend. Her friend loves the dress so much and has worn it a number of times that she had to wash it.
dievca received this photo in response:
You have to appreciate a fabric care tag telling it like it is!
What did dievca buy this trip?
Well, TWO pairs of eyeglass frames – but they will appear in another post and a “Made in Italy” linen top which was a tunic but dievca’s friend’s Mother cropped it for our short dievca:
It looks clean and crisp with white jeans and the Zimmerman sandals:
Look for Less –> Wal-Mart
Posted: June 7, 2022 Filed under: Dresses | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, inexpensive, Life, Look for Less, Love, Shopping, submissive, Summer, sundress, Wal-Mart Leave a commentSo, dievca completed that New Jersey Wal-Mart run this weekend and she took time to wander around their clothing department. Why? Years ago, dievca’s favorite T-shirt came from Wal-Mart for $2.58 – she wore it to the woof~ so she always takes a moment to wander Women’s clothing for another inexpensive find.
Two items came to view!
A Linen-Blend White Wide Sleeve Shirt Dress by Free Assembly ($28).
Imagine dievca having a full-blown conversation with the sales lady at 7:30 am – all about the Free Assembly line and how it is selling out quickly. The fabric of this dress is amazing. The conversation informed dievca about what’s hot at a New Jersey Wal-Mart and what’s not. dievca loves to listen to people who are passionate about their jobs.
The second Dress is from their Scoop line. SCOOP NYC was a store in NYC and surrounding areas. It was “hot in the aughts”. They decided to close (Pre-COVID) and dievca still has some of their cashmere sweaters in her closet rotation. Anyways…the Scoop owners have been designing capsule collections for Walmart and every piece that dievca has picked up has been good (shorts, t-shirt, pants). Granted the quality is not as nice as the original SCOOP NYC, but the price is much better. This time, dievca choose their Black Linen-Blend Sundress with smocking ($40):
Two Summer Dresses for $68? Flattering fits? Nice Fabric?
Well Done!
Sushi on the Rooftop
Posted: May 24, 2022 Filed under: Accessories, Dresses | Tags: BDSM, casual clothing, D/s, dievca, dinner, hot weather, Life, Master, Presentation Outfit, Shopping, submissive, Summer heat Leave a commentTemperatures hit 91 F (33 C) on the day dievca and Master met for sushi, but the evening was cooler and as the sun went down the temperature was lovely.
dievca had dressed for comfort in a hand-blocked organic cotton caftan + red sneakers for her knee.
Click on the photos for the brands
10K anyone?
Posted: May 11, 2022 Filed under: Dresses | Tags: BDSM, Chloé, crochet, D/s, dievca, expensive, fun, ladylike, Life, Shopping, submissive Leave a commentChloé Crochet Dresses – each running at $10,500.
dievca loves the dresses,
but which interesting person would be willing to buy them?
Available at Net-A-Porter
Tangerine Dream – a gentle Saturday start
Posted: April 16, 2022 Filed under: Dresses, Entertainment | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Elegant, Life, music, Presentation Outfit, Shopping, submissive, video, Vince, weekend Leave a commentWalking the City on a Weekend calls for
Tangerine Dreams
Lady-like for your Master/ Madame
Vince TENCEL™ Lyocell-blend dress $425 Net-A-Porter
Tangerine Dream is a German electronic music band founded in 1967 by Edgar Froese. The group has seen many personnel changes over the years, with Froese having been the only continuous member until his death in January 2015.
dressed wrong (a dievca disaster)
Posted: March 29, 2022 Filed under: Disasters, Dresses, Entertainment | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Florida, Humor, Life, linen, Love, Master, Saloni, Shopping, South Beach, submissive, Sun, sundress, The Webster, travel Leave a commentSooooo…..dievca didn’t pack well for the South Beach crowd. she didn’t have bodycon dresses, sparkles, running shorts with crop tops, and glamorous nails. she forgot her jewelry and a purse. Square sunglasses are the rage and with dievca’s square face – they were a disaster.
dievca rocked her breezy cotton gauze, silk maxi dress, wide-leg terry pants, Jackie-O round sunglasses with verve. Enough so, that she caught people looking at her because she was just different from the crowd. Was it a good different or a bad different? dievca does not know.
she didn’t bother to shop because she was parked on the beach — until she had enough of the sun.
There was one store she wanted to stop by in Miami Beach – the Webster.
dievca was prepared to buy nothing — until she saw a ladylike dress for Master.
A linen A-line sundress from Saloni (the Rachel) – in an orange pattern.
So, something good comes out of dievca’s South Beach dressing disaster after all.
Sparkle on a sludgy day…
Posted: March 9, 2022 Filed under: Dresses, Shoes | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, green, heels, Party Dress, Purple, rhinestones, sassy, Shoe fetishism, Shopping, Sparkle, Weather Leave a comment
Amina Muaddi Lilac Giorgia Heels

Retrofete Apple Green Dress

Retrofete Apple Green Dress
The rain turned into thick, wet, messy snow. Showing some sparkle and skin would be a treat.
Draped – with Bottega Veneta
Posted: February 8, 2022 Filed under: Dresses | Tags: BDSM, curves, D/s, definition, dievca, drape, Elegant, erotic, lilac, Presentation Outfit, Shopping, submissive Leave a comment
drape
/drāp/
verb
past tense: draped; past participle: draped
arrange (cloth or clothing) loosely or casually on or around something.
“she draped a shawl around her shoulders”
adorn, cover, or wrap (someone or something) loosely with folds of cloth.
“the body was draped in a blanket”
Similar:
wrap, arrange, wind, swathe, sling, hang, let fall in folds, cover, envelop, shroud, decorate, adorn, array, deck, bedeck, festoon, bundle up, muffle up, blanket, overlay, cloak, veil, enfold, sheathe
let (oneself or a part of one’s body) rest somewhere in a casual or relaxed way.
“he draped an arm around her shoulders”
Well, that was a bust – Holiday Gala canceled
Posted: December 18, 2021 Filed under: Accessories, Disasters, Dresses | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Dries van Noten, Elegant, gala, Holiday 2021, Life, Presentation Outfit, Shopping, simple Leave a commentAs Omicron moves into NYC – venues and events are being closed/canceled. dievca’s Holiday Gala was an early casualty. Too bad it was canceled after she had bought the dress…
Here was the plan:
–Dries van Noten Red Drape Dress
–John Galliano Heels
–Perrin Le Rond Bag Blue
–Ben-Amun Cabochon Earrings
–Vintage Emerald Ring
–Dainty Dagger Sapphire Ring
OK, Plan B – wear the dress to Master’s and have a smaller personal Gala!
Bordelle – Exclusive Bondage
Posted: December 16, 2021 Filed under: Dresses, lingerie | Tags: 24K Gold, BDSM, bondage, Bordelle, D/s, dievca, Elegant, exclusive, Holiday 2021, Presentation Outfit, reotic, Shopping, strappy 2 Comments
The Adjustable Bondage Angela is the ultimate in Bordelle bondage luxe, with total adjustability to flatter every curve. This piece is made up of over 150 24k gold-plated components. Each dress takes a whole day to make! Limited edition colourway – Eden. $1094.00
Details:
- Satin elastic dress in rich Eden
- Signature satin elastic strapping
- Adjustable through the back
- Includes suspender clips; wear with garters or stockings
- 24k gold plated zip fastening
- Made up of 140 24k gold-plated components
Care and Composition:
Elastic: 89% Polyamide, 11% Elastane.
Delicate hand wash separately.