What you would really like — then reality returns

Master asked His dievca what she would like for Christmas.  A loaded question…

dievca would love these earrings as a gift for anything:

dievca 302 Fine Jewelery $3000+

They are the 302 Fine Jewelry “Stay Flirty” Natural Diamond & Rainbow Gemstone Graduated Dangle Earrings 14K Yellow White Rose Gold at a whopping $3714.99

Which brings us to the Reality part of dievca’s Christmas Wishlist (click on the photos for descriptions):

 Other options dievca offered to Master:

  • Wine
  • A Facial – the average price of a facial in NYC is $150
  • Mani/Pedi 
  • Cafe Grumpy or Dunkin’ Donuts/Starbucks gift card for traveling
  • Dinner/Lunch out after seeing the FIT Shoes: Anatomy, Identity, Magic exhibit
  • Nike Air Max 97 or 98 (either model works) size Women’s 7.5 – open to any color. Works for the knee. On sale is good.

Knowing Master – it will be something completely different and just as awesome.


And they popped out…

Betty Boop

Blush Lingerie Grey Lace Sweetest Sin Lingeriedievca caught up with Master for their Anniversary.  she was keeping it simple with a Blush Lingerie “Sweetest Sin” Chamise. The only problem was it was a bit small on the top so her breasts were — lets say— a bit “unrestrained”.

It was a dievca disaster in the making except for fact that Master loved it!

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XOXO-OOOOOOO

Loewe Hug Dress

The Loewe “Hug” Dress

Are you covering your assets or is your Mistress giving you a hug from behind?

dievca will be giving Master a HUG and more – its their anniversary.


BDSM Ads: Masochism

This cheeky advertising campaign reveals that more people than it seems are into BDSM (and this is why)

French property management company wants ‘Bellman’ to be your safe word

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bellman-4The owners of flats or houses tend to take time to change their real estate agent, even if they are not satisfied with the current one. This is the main reason that has led the French real estate management company Bellman to create a brazen advertising campaign in which it claims that whoever is willing to put up with frustrating service must be a masochist.

The action is based on a study carried out by Bellman with Harris Interactive in November 2021. This indicated that almost half of the respondents, 45%, who were co-owners of a home said they were dissatisfied with the management company in charge of their co-ownership .

Developed by the Steve agency , the campaign presents four images of a person at home doing daily activities, such as vacuuming or watering the plants, while dressed from head to toe in a bodysuit associated with BDSM.

The eye-catching cutscenes are accompanied by lines like, ” If you’re stuck with your building manager not answering after 36 calls, you’re probably going to enjoy it .” “If you stay with your building manager despite continuous roof leaks, you probably like him,” says another of the phrases.

The ads launched in Paris on February 8 and are supported by a six-week media plan across subways, buses, bus stops and stations, along with PR, digital and social activity.

“Among the co-owners, a certain feeling of fatality has settled, but also of boredom,” says Antonio Pinto , CEO of Bellman. “Through this campaign, we wanted to tell them with a touch of humor that their suffering can come to an end. And we are not exaggerating with the suffering: the disappointments that stand out are the unfortunate reality of some co-owners », he continues explaining.

“To appeal to these too often frustrated co-owners and show the efficacy of his model, Bellman had to come up with a strong message to shock effect, but do so with the humor and sense of kinship that immediately creates a bond,” adds Guillaume. Lartigue , co-chairman and creative director of Steve.

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Advertiser: Bellman
Brand Director: Virginie Deprost
Agency: Steve
Co-Chairman & Executive Creative Director: Guillaume Lartigue
Creative Director: Edouard Dorbais
Artistic Director: Isaora Le Jeannic
Copywriter: Aymeric Druaux
Chief Strategy Officer: Laure Lagarde
Group Account Director: Louis Tierny
Account Executive : Pierre Van Elslande
Photographer: Sacha Goldberg

A “Thank You” to marketingdirecto.com


A good night’s sleep

Some of dievca’s best sleep is when, after Play, she is tucked into her Master’s armpit – making an earmark on His arm.
That earmark is pretty drastic.
Perhaps an earmark on an a** would be better.

Or following HARVARD MEDICAL SCHOOL’s “8 secrets to a good night’s sleep”:

1. Exercise
Going for a brisk daily walk won’t just trim you down, it will also keep you up less often at night. Exercise boosts the effect of natural sleep hormones such as melatonin. A study in the journal Sleep found that postmenopausal women who exercised for about three-and-a-half hours a week had an easier time falling asleep than women who exercised less often. Just watch the timing of your workouts. Exercising too close to bedtime can be stimulating. Morning workouts that expose you to bright daylight will help the natural circadian rhythm.

2. Reserve bed for sleep and sex
Don’t use your bed as an office for answering phone calls and responding to emails. Also avoid watching late-night TV there. The bed needs to be a stimulus for sleeping, not for wakefulness. Reserve your bed for sleep and sex.

3. Keep it comfortable
Television isn’t the only possible distraction in your bedroom. Ambience can affect your sleep quality too. Make sure your bedroom is as comfortable as possible. Ideally you want a quiet, dark, cool environment. All of these things promote sleep onset.

4. Start a sleep ritual
When you were a child and your mother read you a story and tucked you into bed every night, this comforting ritual helped lull you to sleep. Even in adulthood, a set of bedtime rituals can have a similar effect. Rituals help signal the body and mind that it’s coming to be time for sleep. Drink a glass of warm milk. Take a bath. Or listen to calming music to unwind before bed.

5. Eat—but not too much
A grumbling stomach can be distracting enough to keep you awake, but so can an overly full belly. Avoid eating a big meal within two to three hours of bedtime. If you’re hungry right before bed, eat a small healthy snack (such as an apple with a slice of cheese or a few whole-wheat crackers) to satisfy you until breakfast.

6. Avoid alcohol and caffeine
If you do have a snack before bed, wine and chocolate shouldn’t be part of it. Chocolate contains caffeine, which is a stimulant. Surprisingly, alcohol has a similar effect. It makes you a little sleepy, but it’s actually a stimulant and it disrupts sleep during the night. Also stay away from anything acidic (such as citrus fruits and juices) or spicy, which can give you heartburn.

7. De-stress
The bills are piling up and your to-do list is a mile long. Daytime worries can bubble to the surface at night. Stress is a stimulus. It activates the fight-or-flight hormones that work against sleep. Give yourself time to wind down before bed. Learning some form of the relaxation response can promote good sleep and can also reduce daytime anxiety. To relax, try deep breathing exercises. Inhale slowly and deeply, and then exhale.

8. Get checked
An urge to move your legs, snoring, and a burning pain in your stomach, chest, or throat are symptoms of three common sleep disrupters—restless legs syndrome, sleep apnea, and gastroesophageal reflux disease or GERD. If these symptoms are keeping you up at night or making you sleepy during the day, see your doctor for an evaluation.

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Coffee and a chat with Master

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Master has been traveling for about 4 weeks — dievca caught up with Him this morning. 

Might require a masturbation moment.


A vivid dream

Spooned
early morning
naked
backing up
Joy


Stockings for Master (per His request)


A Master knows~

naked-expressive-dance-couple-full-length-multiethnic-performing-over-blue-background-33888483“There are times she is kneeling out of obedience, reverence and respect. Those are the times it is okay to stand above her. But when she is kneeling because the weight of the world is just too heavy to bear … that is when You should be kneeling beside her.” — Unknown


Stepping away from Christmas for a moment~

Best in Show
And moving on to a little bit of BDSM fun with Etsy Shop GayPigeon Cards.


Master/Mistress would You be willing…

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to assist Your submissive with their corset?


The Things You Find – Harry Potter BDSM

Harry Potter Graphic
Via TheRooster.com – Harry Potter words describing BDSM actions seems to be thriving in Colorado (2018) as a kind of code for BDSM to be brought up in conversation:

Muggles – People who have tame non-kinky sex (Vanilla)

Wizards – Dominants

witches – submissives

Wand – Sex Toy

Azkaban – Sex Dungeon

Aguamenti – When you’re super wet.

Gillyweed – When you go down on someone for a long time and need that extra lung capacity.

Death Eater – A rimjob.

Longbottom – Ass play.

Unicorns – Swingers or a bi-girl who is down for threesomes.

The Dark Mark – A spanking.

Ravenclaw – Mindfuck play.

Scourgify – Commanding a sub to clean up after sex.

Following that theme – we can bring in some BDSM objects to show your Harry Potter House Loyalties:

Harry Potter Colors

For Rope Bondage:

Harry Potter Bondage Rope Colors

For Discipline – Leather Floggers:

Harry Potter House Long Flogger

Time to breakout your Harry Potter Lingerie!


Got Lemons?

Lemons

Make Lemonade!


Sticky and Wet

20210702_131229With the humidity in NYC,
one cannot escape sweating.
dievca arrived at Master’s wet and sticky.
All was solved with soap, water and shower sex.
Something to be taken carefully,
but worth the effort to beat the heat.
XO

photo: dievca - shower accoutrements 07/2021

Tough decision…

Popsicle

Looking for a popsicle, cock, popsicle, cock….


Working on a new position…

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Well, my boss said that if I didn’t like working under him, I should look for another position.”

Hmm~ not exactly appropriate for many reasons from a boss, but appropriate if it was your Sir/Madame.


Lazy Sunday Sex Position

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After wine, a burger and good company – dievca slept in for a lazy Sunday. Master will be stopping by in the afternoon to relax.  Maybe the ‘LAZY SUNDAY’ position will come into use – dievca is really not moving too fast.RR-SEX-POSITION-LAZY-SUNDAY-v1

LAZY SUNDAY SEX POSITION

Find a chair or large pillow so you are both sitting at a 45 degree angle.

One partner lies on the bottom, while the other clambers on top facing upwards so your bodies are in perfect alignment.

Keep your thighs together for a more intense sensation as the lower lover enters from behind.


Feel your way~

Lead and mask
While your Sir/Madame is traveling,
why don’t you close your eyes,
and feel your desire to serve.


Take a deep breath at the vision~

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and let the lines of her back guide to you to glory.


Don’t forget to wear Green!

Happy Saint Patrick's Day


dievca forgot to share~

her Christmas gifts for Master.
All were a “hit” except for the Christopher Raeburn scarf – it was a bit too “hip” 😎
Master chose something from dievca’s list and added four bottles of wine:

Paco Rabanne Peter Saville Lose Youself Tee on sale $144 Net-A-Porter

Kind of a COVID-appropriate exchange – wouldn’t you say?


As always~


The ‘Real Deal’ is always better.


Do you get wet just thinking about your Sir/Madame?


It’s the anticipation and completion.


Sexy Sleep Eyes

Clash By Night 1952 Marilyn Monroe

Master, it’s been a long two weeks. Your dievca might just need to sleep.
After the nap, she’ll look at you with sexy sleepy eyes and ask,
“How may I serve my Master?” Read the rest of this entry »


Use it or lose it~


dievca arrived home and has a multitude of small tasks to do: there are groceries all over the kitchen countertop that need to get into the pantry, coats with mold from her Mom’s basement that need to be washed as soon as possible, Christmas decorations to be put away, a COVID test, check-in with work, etc.

We have all been in this headspace before~

Then dievca received a lovely e-mail from Master checking-in and letting her know where His head is for D/s.

As she read the e-mail, it was a reach to flow into the same mind space. she couldn’t do it.

dievca’s mind was still on her Mother – one of the Caregivers can’t get back into the country on time because she tested positive for COVID, her brother wants her to research and buy a kitchen faucet for her mom. Scheduling is a mess for work.

Again, we have all been in this headspace previously~
But Master’s email closed with something that clicked in dievca’s very full brain:

“I’ve missed you. And hope that you masturbate at least once in the
next few days, thinking about…Your Master.”

dievca caught on to that like a lifeline — she can do that, she can masturbate on Wednesday morning before the COVID test. She can masturbate thinking about Master. The anticipation is trickling in at odd moments – causing her to think a little bit about sex and D/s.

They say if you don’t use it, you lose it.
That goes for many things, including sex.

Let’s see if that masturbation opens up to a Presentation Outfit and the ability to move into Master’s D/s headspace by Friday. dievca thinks it’s already working while writing this blog post.
she’s using it, she’s using it. XO


Last Day of a Decade: Musing about the Past & Future with a reminder to be in the Present.

Something really big happened in the world’s wiring in the last decade, but it was obscured by the financial crisis and post-9/11. We went from a connected world to a hyperconnected world. I’m always struck that Facebook, Twitter, 4G, iPhones, iPads, high-speech broadband, ubiquitous wireless and Web-enabled cellphones, the cloud, Big Data, cellphone apps and Skype did not exist or were in their infancy a decade ago.

Thomas Friedman in 2013
Here is a link to the snarky Rolling Stone article about Thomas Friedman’s Writing as Porn Titles – a bit funny~

So, what has happened in this past decade of 2011-2020?

Social media, cloud computing, and artificial intelligence radically changed our day-to-day lives. iPads, smartwatches, fitness trackers, true wireless earphones, electric cars—the list of innovations from this decade is a long one. Sci-fi tropes like universal translators and virtual reality games became very real. According to Flock.com

Mobile upgraded from 3G to 4G networks, Social Media Brought Our Lives Online, The Dawn of Genomics and Precision Medicine, Electric vehicles (EVs) became competitive with internal combustion engine (ICE) vehicles, Data storage moved to the cloud From Global X ETFs

What to expect?

5G becomes the new wireless standard, Cloud moves to the edge, Transportation goes electric, autonomous, and shared, Robotics enters new industries, Omnichannel-commerce: Not a zero-sum game between e-commerce and brick-and-mortar, Health care goes digital: AI diagnoses and telemedicine, Genomics: The potential to cure the previously incurable 
From Global X ETFs

Whew!

Maybe it’s good to cut-off and get back to being PRESENT:


Presentation in Semi-sheer + a wild ride

Master told His dievca to wear stockings for Presentation.
The trick was to look alluring while feeling round in the middle – a corset was out~
Maison Close’s fitted skirt with suspenders and a slouchy see-thru sweater was in!

Wearing a hood with red lipstick would put the focus on Master’s Cock and the skirt with suspenders would shift that focus to dievca’s ass while bent over.

Master guided dievca’s head for Cock worship and when hard, He restrained her across the bed so she could be flipped belly down or up as needed. He added a penis gag and vibrating butt plug to fill all of  His dievca’s holes.


As Master’s Cock pounded into His dievca’s pussy, the button to modify the butt plug’s vibrational pattern would get pressed – it made for a wild ride, plus a bit of humor as dievca exploded everywhere.


Outfit for an Art Outing

As an Anniversary Celebration, Master took dievca to the Metropolitan Museum to see the Costume Institute’s About Time: Fashion and Duration.

Due to COVID, rain, and it being “Member Mondays” – the Museum was amazing in its emptiness. It was a rare pleasure to wander and absorb the Art in a very leisurely manner. Something dievca and Master may never experience, again.

Another post will be coming about the offerings from the Exhibition – this blog post is about what dievca wore:

Lucky Brand Sandwashed Modal Dress Navy

Spanx Black Tights

Ilse Jacobsen Rubber Boots

Nili Lotan Floral Silk Mask

Vintage Sterling Silver Bracelet

Master’s Vintage Chain

Majo Italy Bag Silver

Stand Maia Metallic Blue Raincoat, detachable fur collar

Moma Sky Umbrella 1992 – Master’s Gift 2016


Qualities to look for in a partner (Vanilla or BDSM) – Good to Know

When looking for a partner we tend to look for brains, kindness, and attractiveness—the usual. But another quality might be just as important if you’re looking for a long-term, healthy relationship: “emotional fluency.”

Emotional fluency is the act of voicing your emotions with your partner.

This can be extended to roommates, family members, friends – especially in the close confines of COVID-19 quarantining.

In a recent interview with Science of Us, therapist Brian Gleason (and co-author, with his wife, of Exceptional Relationships: Transformation Through Embodied Couples Work) discusses the importance of voicing your emotions with your partner (which he dubs emotional fluency).

One of the biggest reasons couples have trouble is because they have not developed emotional fluency, he says.

“We’re just not trained to speak in emotional language,” says Gleason. Good news: He says it’s a skill we can improve. “The more [feelings] that we’re able to put into some sort of language and convey it to our partner—that these are my inner experiences right now—the more empathy there is in the relationship.”

What happens when you aren’t open about your emotions? Most people—when they’re stressed, angry, or sad—tend to withdraw and perhaps glue their eyes to their phone, shutting off from the rest of the world (including your partner), Gleason says. Sound familiar? (Guilty.)

“The less I can say, this is my inner experience, the more my partner is going to be reacting to [just] my outer behavior, oftentimes with judgment and frustration,” says Gleason.

By explaining your particular 4-1-1 du jour in a direct way,  you’re giving your partner what he or she needs in order to react with affirmations, advice, and other positive reinforcements.

In other words, as mom always said: Use your words! If you do, it can bring you closer together, instead of creating conflict, Gleason says.

Having an a-ha moment? The next time you’re stressed or angry, try to close Instagram and talk about it with your partner instead (could be easier said than done, but worth a try).

From a Well + Good article by Rachel Lapidos, click here.


Flipping Dom and sub

Sometimes you finish a big week and plan to just chill on the sofa or bed.

Then a few kisses occur, maybe a little cock worship and the next thing you know – your arms are restrained and your Sir/Madame has taken over your body.

Where does that rush of energy come from?  Is it the act of flipping Dom and sub? Or does the energy rush cause the D/s flip?   It’s the chicken and the egg scenario~  OK, so the literal answer is the egg, but you get the point.

It doesn’t matter how – what matters is the joy of being alive.

May you have the chance to flip this Saturday! XO