The Things You Find – Harry Potter BDSM

Harry Potter Graphic
Via TheRooster.com – Harry Potter words describing BDSM actions seems to be thriving in Colorado (2018) as a kind of code for BDSM to be brought up in conversation:

Muggles – People who have tame non-kinky sex (Vanilla)

Wizards – Dominants

witches – submissives

Wand – Sex Toy

Azkaban – Sex Dungeon

Aguamenti – When you’re super wet.

Gillyweed – When you go down on someone for a long time and need that extra lung capacity.

Death Eater – A rimjob.

Longbottom – Ass play.

Unicorns – Swingers or a bi-girl who is down for threesomes.

The Dark Mark – A spanking.

Ravenclaw – Mindfuck play.

Scourgify – Commanding a sub to clean up after sex.

Following that theme – we can bring in some BDSM objects to show your Harry Potter House Loyalties:

Harry Potter Colors

For Rope Bondage:

Harry Potter Bondage Rope Colors

For Discipline – Leather Floggers:

Harry Potter House Long Flogger

Time to breakout your Harry Potter Lingerie!


Got Lemons?

Lemons

Make Lemonade!


Sticky and Wet

20210702_131229With the humidity in NYC,
one cannot escape sweating.
dievca arrived at Master’s wet and sticky.
All was solved with soap, water and shower sex.
Something to be taken carefully,
but worth the effort to beat the heat.
XO

photo: dievca - shower accoutrements 07/2021

Tough decision…

Popsicle

Looking for a popsicle, cock, popsicle, cock….


Working on a new position…

1966_Vargas girl red nylons yoga

Well, my boss said that if I didn’t like working under him, I should look for another position.”

Hmm~ not exactly appropriate for many reasons from a boss, but appropriate if it was your Sir/Madame.


Lazy Sunday Sex Position

lazy-sunday-morning-inspo-pic

After wine, a burger and good company – dievca slept in for a lazy Sunday. Master will be stopping by in the afternoon to relax.  Maybe the ‘LAZY SUNDAY’ position will come into use – dievca is really not moving too fast.RR-SEX-POSITION-LAZY-SUNDAY-v1

LAZY SUNDAY SEX POSITION

Find a chair or large pillow so you are both sitting at a 45 degree angle.

One partner lies on the bottom, while the other clambers on top facing upwards so your bodies are in perfect alignment.

Keep your thighs together for a more intense sensation as the lower lover enters from behind.


Feel your way~

Lead and mask
While your Sir/Madame is traveling,
why don’t you close your eyes,
and feel your desire to serve.


Take a deep breath at the vision~

vargas-girls--back

and let the lines of her back guide to you to glory.


Don’t forget to wear Green!

Happy Saint Patrick's Day


dievca forgot to share~

her Christmas gifts for Master.
All were a “hit” except for the Christopher Raeburn scarf – it was a bit too “hip” 😎
Master chose something from dievca’s list and added four bottles of wine:

Paco Rabanne Peter Saville Lose Youself Tee on sale $144 Net-A-Porter

Kind of a COVID-appropriate exchange – wouldn’t you say?


As always~


The ‘Real Deal’ is always better.


Do you get wet just thinking about your Sir/Madame?


It’s the anticipation and completion.


Sexy Sleep Eyes

Clash By Night 1952 Marilyn Monroe

Master, it’s been a long two weeks. Your dievca might just need to sleep.
After the nap, she’ll look at you with sexy sleepy eyes and ask,
“How may I serve my Master?” Read the rest of this entry »


Use it or lose it~


dievca arrived home and has a multitude of small tasks to do: there are groceries all over the kitchen countertop that need to get into the pantry, coats with mold from her Mom’s basement that need to be washed as soon as possible, Christmas decorations to be put away, a COVID test, check-in with work, etc.

We have all been in this headspace before~

Then dievca received a lovely e-mail from Master checking-in and letting her know where His head is for D/s.

As she read the e-mail, it was a reach to flow into the same mind space. she couldn’t do it.

dievca’s mind was still on her Mother – one of the Caregivers can’t get back into the country on time because she tested positive for COVID, her brother wants her to research and buy a kitchen faucet for her mom. Scheduling is a mess for work.

Again, we have all been in this headspace previously~
But Master’s email closed with something that clicked in dievca’s very full brain:

“I’ve missed you. And hope that you masturbate at least once in the
next few days, thinking about…Your Master.”

dievca caught on to that like a lifeline — she can do that, she can masturbate on Wednesday morning before the COVID test. She can masturbate thinking about Master. The anticipation is trickling in at odd moments – causing her to think a little bit about sex and D/s.

They say if you don’t use it, you lose it.
That goes for many things, including sex.

Let’s see if that masturbation opens up to a Presentation Outfit and the ability to move into Master’s D/s headspace by Friday. dievca thinks it’s already working while writing this blog post.
she’s using it, she’s using it. XO


Last Day of a Decade: Musing about the Past & Future with a reminder to be in the Present.

Something really big happened in the world’s wiring in the last decade, but it was obscured by the financial crisis and post-9/11. We went from a connected world to a hyperconnected world. I’m always struck that Facebook, Twitter, 4G, iPhones, iPads, high-speech broadband, ubiquitous wireless and Web-enabled cellphones, the cloud, Big Data, cellphone apps and Skype did not exist or were in their infancy a decade ago.

Thomas Friedman in 2013
Here is a link to the snarky Rolling Stone article about Thomas Friedman’s Writing as Porn Titles – a bit funny~

So, what has happened in this past decade of 2011-2020?

Social media, cloud computing, and artificial intelligence radically changed our day-to-day lives. iPads, smartwatches, fitness trackers, true wireless earphones, electric cars—the list of innovations from this decade is a long one. Sci-fi tropes like universal translators and virtual reality games became very real. According to Flock.com

Mobile upgraded from 3G to 4G networks, Social Media Brought Our Lives Online, The Dawn of Genomics and Precision Medicine, Electric vehicles (EVs) became competitive with internal combustion engine (ICE) vehicles, Data storage moved to the cloud From Global X ETFs

What to expect?

5G becomes the new wireless standard, Cloud moves to the edge, Transportation goes electric, autonomous, and shared, Robotics enters new industries, Omnichannel-commerce: Not a zero-sum game between e-commerce and brick-and-mortar, Health care goes digital: AI diagnoses and telemedicine, Genomics: The potential to cure the previously incurable 
From Global X ETFs

Whew!

Maybe it’s good to cut-off and get back to being PRESENT:


Presentation in Semi-sheer + a wild ride

Master told His dievca to wear stockings for Presentation.
The trick was to look alluring while feeling round in the middle – a corset was out~
Maison Close’s fitted skirt with suspenders and a slouchy see-thru sweater was in!

Wearing a hood with red lipstick would put the focus on Master’s Cock and the skirt with suspenders would shift that focus to dievca’s ass while bent over.

Master guided dievca’s head for Cock worship and when hard, He restrained her across the bed so she could be flipped belly down or up as needed. He added a penis gag and vibrating butt plug to fill all of  His dievca’s holes.


As Master’s Cock pounded into His dievca’s pussy, the button to modify the butt plug’s vibrational pattern would get pressed – it made for a wild ride, plus a bit of humor as dievca exploded everywhere.


Outfit for an Art Outing

As an Anniversary Celebration, Master took dievca to the Metropolitan Museum to see the Costume Institute’s About Time: Fashion and Duration.

Due to COVID, rain, and it being “Member Mondays” – the Museum was amazing in its emptiness. It was a rare pleasure to wander and absorb the Art in a very leisurely manner. Something dievca and Master may never experience, again.

Another post will be coming about the offerings from the Exhibition – this blog post is about what dievca wore:

Lucky Brand Sandwashed Modal Dress Navy

Spanx Black Tights

Ilse Jacobsen Rubber Boots

Nili Lotan Floral Silk Mask

Vintage Sterling Silver Bracelet

Master’s Vintage Chain

Majo Italy Bag Silver

Stand Maia Metallic Blue Raincoat, detachable fur collar

Moma Sky Umbrella 1992 – Master’s Gift 2016


Qualities to look for in a partner (Vanilla or BDSM) – Good to Know

When looking for a partner we tend to look for brains, kindness, and attractiveness—the usual. But another quality might be just as important if you’re looking for a long-term, healthy relationship: “emotional fluency.”

Emotional fluency is the act of voicing your emotions with your partner.

This can be extended to roommates, family members, friends – especially in the close confines of COVID-19 quarantining.

In a recent interview with Science of Us, therapist Brian Gleason (and co-author, with his wife, of Exceptional Relationships: Transformation Through Embodied Couples Work) discusses the importance of voicing your emotions with your partner (which he dubs emotional fluency).

One of the biggest reasons couples have trouble is because they have not developed emotional fluency, he says.

“We’re just not trained to speak in emotional language,” says Gleason. Good news: He says it’s a skill we can improve. “The more [feelings] that we’re able to put into some sort of language and convey it to our partner—that these are my inner experiences right now—the more empathy there is in the relationship.”

What happens when you aren’t open about your emotions? Most people—when they’re stressed, angry, or sad—tend to withdraw and perhaps glue their eyes to their phone, shutting off from the rest of the world (including your partner), Gleason says. Sound familiar? (Guilty.)

“The less I can say, this is my inner experience, the more my partner is going to be reacting to [just] my outer behavior, oftentimes with judgment and frustration,” says Gleason.

By explaining your particular 4-1-1 du jour in a direct way,  you’re giving your partner what he or she needs in order to react with affirmations, advice, and other positive reinforcements.

In other words, as mom always said: Use your words! If you do, it can bring you closer together, instead of creating conflict, Gleason says.

Having an a-ha moment? The next time you’re stressed or angry, try to close Instagram and talk about it with your partner instead (could be easier said than done, but worth a try).

From a Well + Good article by Rachel Lapidos, click here.


Flipping Dom and sub

Sometimes you finish a big week and plan to just chill on the sofa or bed.

Then a few kisses occur, maybe a little cock worship and the next thing you know – your arms are restrained and your Sir/Madame has taken over your body.

Where does that rush of energy come from?  Is it the act of flipping Dom and sub? Or does the energy rush cause the D/s flip?   It’s the chicken and the egg scenario~  OK, so the literal answer is the egg, but you get the point.

It doesn’t matter how – what matters is the joy of being alive.

May you have the chance to flip this Saturday! XO


You know you are loved, when…

Re: I am disturbed because my new Galaxy Active watch tells me that I don’t get enough ‘deep sleep’.  I am ok, time amount-wise and in the REM stage – but I don’t hit the healing deep sleep.  Three days of data is not enough, I will watch it for two weeks. But, it still bothers me.  I flip/flop and move a lot, but I have always done that….maybe my heart rate runs higher for the deep sleep range. Maybe this is normal with peri-menopause. Maybe I have a problem, I will watch it.

dievča,
In general, sleep experts are negative about people who get obsessed with their watch telling them that they don’t get enough deep sleep. Sleep is a very individual and complex issue. But the first thing to know is that everyone wakes up during a night’s sleep…we just don’t remember it.

Read this article:

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/feb/17/shut-eye-and-sleep-hygiene-the-truth-about-why-you-keep-waking-up-at-3am

COVID has also caused sleep problems. Read:

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2020/oct/23/the-zzz-factor-how-coronavirus-has-wreaked-havoc-with-our-sleep

In addition, you are absolutely right: peri-menopause can cause sleep problems. Read:

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/feb/16/i-look-at-the-clock-its-3am-why-women-cant-sleep

And here’s a very brief summary from the NYT about how to sleep better.

Hope some of this info is helpful.

Your Master


Well connected~


Elegant from any angle.
Ready, able, open –
yet locked down.
Patient for attention.
Patient for You.


Sprinkled Kisses

A lipstick ring around your cock is a beautiful way to start cock worship. But to change it up, should we try sugar sprinkled lips? A sweet taste with a light massage and lots of spit to dissolve the little balls which can be used to massage the larger balls.  Envision a lot of licking and kissing. Sounds like a very nice way to brighten up the day.


Mind and Body Silent

Some people are fans of the band, Chicago, others are not. dievca falls on one side of the fence and Master the other.

But the lyrics? – well they apply, whether one likes the band or not…especially when Master is the only person capable of causing His dievca to go mind and body silent 

[Verse 1]
When I’m with you, it doesn’t matter where we are
Or what we’re doing, I’m with you, that’s all that matters
Time passes much too quickly when we’re together laughing
I wish I could sing it to you, oh no
I wish I could sing it to you

[Chorus]
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
Mostly I’m silent mmm silent la la la la la
Never think about words to say

[Verse 2]
When I kiss you, I feel a thousand different feelings
The color of chills all over my body
And when I feel them, I quickly try to decide which one
I should try to put into words, oh no
Try to put into words

[Chorus]
Mostly I’m silent silent la la la la la la la la la la la la la la la la
Silent

[Verse 3]
Only the beginning of what I want to feel forever yeah
Oh no whoa yes
Only the beginning, only just the start
I’ve got to get you into my life
Got to get you next to me
Only the beginning, only just the start


Semantics of Shibari vs Kinbaku

Creator: Kinoko Hajime

So what does the word Shibari mean?
The dictionary definition is “the act of tying” but as with so many words in Japanese, the meaning depends upon the context in which could be used to refer to tying such things as parcels, objects, etc To take the word out of context removes much of its meaning. In a discussion on bondage – Shibari is a word for ‘bondage tying’.

What is Shibari vs Kinbaku?
As in the rest of the world, the Japanese have differing opinions on which is the best term to use for not only Shibari or Kinbaku but other terms that may apply to the art of bondage tying.

So we may have a situation where shibari means to tie, and kinbaku is a rather recent word meaning “to tie tightly so that there is no movement after the tie”.

Another opinion is that ‘Shibari’ is bondage tying and that Kinbaku is ‘Shibari’ plus emotional connection – to “tie deeply”.

Practitioners seem to use the words interchangeably and you’d be invited to learn Shibari at Kinbaku workshops. Recognized Japanese practitioners prefer one or the other to some extent, this does not however mean that one is valid and the other is not. They are all valid.  These are not contradictions, only preferences of expression.

Most Japanese rope artists instinctively gravitate towards one or the other in their conversations depending upon the circumstances.

For instance, an artist explicitly describes his rope as “Shibari not Kinbaku” while he qualifies some other rope artists as “doing Kinbaku, not Shibari”. He often says that he wishes to tie to the point where the model can move a little bit in the tie, thinking she can untie herself, when – in fact, she cannot.

There are situations where all Japanese agree: is that in the sentence “let’s do Japanese rope together”, it is always Shibarimashou (let’s shibari) and not “kinbaku o shimashou” (let’s kinbaku).


Home, finally…


A long week~
Always nice to shut the car door and walk towards Master in heels.


the essence


Sometimes being a Dominant or submissive isn’t about the label –
it’s the act of being there when needed,
serving when needed.
In whatever manner is appropriate.


flipping to Dominant and submissive – always fascinating


Working 6 am to 10:30 am.
Hop on the bike and ride 3.8 mi uptown.
Sweating profusely in the heavy humidity.
About as far away from submissive one can get

Conversation and coffee – a shower.
Master’s collar
His dievca flips
in tandem


Taking a thought and creating Reality (NSFW)

Masturbation – Master, I am really quick off the trigger.
Fantasy – something to do with being restained over the side of the bed or futon. Banana vibrator playing on the outside of my pussy, hitting the clit, then you entering behind with a plug and possibly moving to my ass. Maybe my mouth is reachable for cock worship?  I’ll work on my description.

dievca’s fantasies had diminished. she’s sure there are many reasons for that to occur.
Catching a hint of fantasy while masturbating was worthy of mention to Master, even if it was a snippet.

Master is creative, He had enough to work with when He returned home.

Master set up restraints across the width of the bed and placed cuffs on dievca’s wrists. He then bent His dievca face-down over the side of the bed naked and in heels, attaching her hands over her head to the restraints. There was enough play in the leather that dievca could get on to her elbows if needed, but Master pulled her back to stretch out her arms overhead.

dievca’s freshly waxed ass was open to Master’s view, He inserted an anal plug using lube.

As dievca was opened and exposed, Master took off His pants and grabbed the banana vibrator.  Reaching between His dievca’s legs, Master rested the vibrator cupping her pussy and hitting her clit while jiggling the anal plug. He called for orgasms and after a number plunged into her pussy with His cock. dievca grabbed at Him with her pelvic muscles as she pulled on the restraints.

Master continued to tease dievca with the vibrator, then His hand and His cock until she squirted on the floor.


At that point, Master pushed dievca towards the bed and told her to flip over, her ass on the edge of the bed with hands restrained above her head. Holding her high heels, Master penetrated deeply until the anal plug dropped out as dievca orgasmed continuously.

That called for a break, and though Master took dievca’s shoes off, He moved dievca’s cuffs to one connection point and kept His dievca’s hands restrained as she lay on her side to recover. Master washed His cock and stood at the side of the bed to place His cock in dievca’s mouth while playing with her pussy using the vibrator.

When Master removed the vibrator and He told dievca to move back diagonally and present (ass up, head down) so her arms would be pulling on the single point restraint.

He entered dievca deeply from behind, Doming her fully. After three weeks of separation, Master let go completely.

dievca was a well-used submissive.


Simple Presentation: Naked, Heels and Gotan Project

Manolo Blahnik Callas 90 red patent leather slingbacks

People walk differently in high heels.
Your body sways to a different kind of tempo.     

Manolo Blahnik

 


He’s home, He’s home, He’s home

Photo: Jon Stars, Prospect Park NY w Nicola Collie

Your Master arrived safely.
The humidity has broken.
D/s outside might be an option.
Joy!