and Collar on.
Will be kneeling.
Waiting to submit.
Photo: Getty Images
~ Urban Dictionary
In a sentence:
dievca is heading to the gym to work on becoming a piece of eye candy for her Master.
Master hopped a flight to ski with his son….they will have new snow for tomorrow.
Meanwhile, diecva dealt with this:
NYC: Monday’s high temperature topped out around 14 degrees, with wind chill values between minus 5 and minus 10. A wind advisory for the five boroughs was set to expire at 7 p.m., the weather service said.
(-10 F =-23.3 C)
she looked like this –>
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Master would prefer Black, and not Nude Lingerie.
And dievca would prefer color, which entertains Master to no end.
Which lingerie color does your Sir or Madam prefer?
dievca, what are you doing today?
With your permission, Master, I am….
How about you?
Master confirmed what the Accidental Masturbator kindly suggested:
I suspect your arse adds significantly
to his view of the city too.
As he proceeded to take dievca from behind
looking out at the City
and at her ass.
dievca was all ready to step into her sequins for champagne and dinner when Master called and said, “Change of Plans — just got on the list, we’re heading to a NYE EDM concert.”
Whoosh~ (house, progressive house, tech house, techno, progressive trance)
Clothing change needed to happen ASAP – those venues get HOT and sweaty…
No full sequin dress or tights.
Master’s clothing change was pretty easy:
dievca blanked out, a bit…then decided to keep it simple:
she was so pumped to wear Master’s Collar in public, comfortably.
A 2019 bonus!
HAPPY and HEALTHY NEW YEAR!
get for the Holidays?
Well those Aquazzura boots that dievca wanted were $800+, on sale. And the Chloe green leather Trench? $4K. So, both pieces were dreamy, but not realistic.
dievca asked for more simple items:
she’s desperate to start a garden, again…
and something to carry her jewelry and Collar to Master’s in a slimfit line:
Master? dievca went very practical after a closet clear-out, which Master loved:
The kitchen table,
the bathroom sink,
the hallway bench,
the lounge chair,
An ‘anywhere you want it’ versatile position for your Sir or Mistress.
dievca’s favorite? Looking out on to the City through floor to ceiling windows.
Master has a hint of the exhibitionist in Him.
(on the edge of loungewear – but not really)
What do you wear in the privacy of your own home? When you are not presenting and just being cozy, or to get things done or lounging around.
Here are two outfits Master has not seen dievca in:
Note: the first one is a rift on something fashionable for 2018, but dievca color-bombed it for her pleasure. dievca’s outfit is not New York City black.
A StyleStar photo of Anne Hathaway:
Kind of like a Juicy Couture flashback, right?
Oh, Dear – it’s a bit tacky, well here’s dievca’s colorful Aviator Nation Velvet pieces:
dievca’s second set of messy lounging around-wear is another flashback, but to her College Days.
A Champion Men’s Grey Sweats and Reverse-weave Sweatshirt. Yes, Urban Outfitters is offering both – but dievca found her stuff on eBay.
Is this lingerie?
Maybe. Maybe not.
dievca’s apartment has floor to ceiling glass windows and it gets cold. she’s been known to crawl into bed in her sweats (you have done it, too – admit it).
The difference between these items and “loungewear” or pajamas, is that they are easier to explain for wearing in public…dievca will hit truly “private” loungewear in her next lingerie post.
BTW – the Men rock Champion Sweats and Aviator Nation really well. Better than the Ladies.
Master asked dievca what she wanted for Christmas and, of course, her immediate answer was:
(cue Mariah Carey)
The visions of Master with a hard, jutting cock,
jingle bells and a Santa Hat danced through her head.
Not very submissive — dievca’s knows, but she was on a roll. See?
dievca doesn’t think Master appreciated her demented humor.
Perhaps He prefers this vision of Santa:
A Presentation Outfit possibility — via Bettie Page
(OK, distracted – Master just sent fabulous photos of Himself and His Grandchild – better than Nude Santa’s)
Let dievca leave you with this video for the morning:
It’s difficult to talk about BDSM Aftercare without first referring to the Drop. Commonly it is more associated with submissives and known as sub-drop, but the feeling and sensation can also occur within dominants and be known as Dom-drop.
It is a mind state that is similar to the sensations of depression and will occur after an intense BDSM scene. It is caused by the sudden drop of endorphins and adrenaline that will occur after the spikes within play. There is speculation about why it occurs less within dominants and the most rational train of thought is that Dominant types experience a different form of energy than their submissive counterparts, a dominant doesn’t necessarily experience the same endorphin and emotional high as a result of the activities. The symptoms of a sub drop will often include:
Difficulty with memory, details and making decisions
Decreased levels of energy
Strong feelings of guilt and helplessness
Strong feelings of pessimism
Excessive sleeping or insomnia
Increased irritability and restlessness
Loss of interest in activities that were once deemed to be pleasurable
Appetite loss and over eating
Persistent feelings of sadness, anxiety or ‘empty’ feelings
Thoughts of suicide
In some serious cases of “drop” could involve flu-like symptoms and result in sickness as a result of the stress to the body lowering the immune system. As you can see in the above symptoms sub drop is almost always accompanied by feelings of depression, anxiety or lethargy. The symptoms might present themselves almost immediately or they might take up to 72 hours to form. One sub might get sick and feel nauseated while another might get headaches, and another still might decide to sleep for the next day. It affects people differently.
It’s prudent for a dominant to make sure their submissive knows after a scene that they will be there for them and that you will be checking in with them over the next few days.
Delayed onset of sub drop can be surprising. The sub might find themselves riding the high of the experience and all of a sudden their body/mind will just crash.
What is BDSM Aftercare?
Aftercare is the time you and your partner take after play time to recover and also to see to each other’s emotional and physical needs. Certain role plays and kinky acts can be both physically and psychologically taxing, so this time is a great for relaxing, as well as getting ‘back to reality.’
Why is it Necessary?
Our fantasies and play don’t necessarily correlate with who we are in our regular, day-to-day lives. While we may want our partner to dress as a demanding authoritarian who exacts humiliating punishments on us during kinky play, that may not be how you set up the normal course of your relationship. Aftercare functions as a ‘re-calibration’ for the normalcy of a relationship.
There can be an immediate physical toll as well. Many people compare the sensation immediately following a scene as being similar to sensations felt after an intense athletic performance. The rush of endorphins coupled with potential physical exertion can leave you feeling weak, fatigued, or dazed, and you may be slightly dehydrated depending on the intensity of the scene.
“Sub drop” or any drop is not exclusive to BDSM. One 2015 study found that nearly 46% of the 230 women surveyed felt feelings of tearfulness and anxiety after sex — which is known as “postcoital dysphoria” — at least once in their lives (and around 5% had experienced these feelings a few times in the four weeks leading up to the study). Experts have speculated that this may stem from the hormonal changes people (particularly those with vaginas) experience after orgasm, but many also say that it can come from feeling neglected. The so-called “orgasm gap” suggests that straight women, in particular, may feel that their needs in bed are ignored. People in general can also feel lousy post-sex if they’re not communicating about what they liked and didn’t like about the experience.
Taking the time to be affectionate and talk more after sex — a.k.a. aftercare — can make sex better for everyone, not just those who experience a BDSM scene.
Types of Aftercare
Aftercare can be generally put into two categories: physical and emotional. Physical aftercare includes things such as helping remove any paraphernalia like restraints or blindfolds, getting your partner something to eat or drink (blood sugar levels can be important to pay attention to), providing a blanket or warm clothing, kissing or caressing any part of their body, or specifically to area that may have been marked during play, or providing affection and comfort in a quiet place.
An intimate massage can be a great way to connect with your partner while offering a comforting touch, and a warm massage oil can sooth both your muscles, and the skin if you were engaging in impact play. A bath or shower is also great; it serves a practical clean up purpose as well as letting you both share an intimate and relaxing moment!
Emotional aftercare involves discussing the scene and how you both felt about it, good and bad, which is integral for ensuring that you both understand each other’s needs and expectations from play. You also may want to give your partner assurances about their kink, reminding them that nothing they did or enjoyed makes them ‘weird’ or ‘perverse.’ Making a conscious point to continue this conversation after a couple of days also makes sure you’re both aware of any negative feelings that have lingered, and can also serve to make you excited about the next time.
Does Everyone Need Aftercare?
Some people might be completely okay without aftercare, or may prefer to be left alone and not kiss and cuddle. That’s why it’s important to negotiate aftercare before getting started. If you’re just starting to experiment with BDSM and not sure what kind of aftercare you or your partner may need, discussing your feelings after the scene serves as your jumping off point for the care you or your partner would like to receive in experiences to come.
Additionally, many assume that aftercare is exclusively something that a Dominant must give for a sub, though that simply isn’t true. Someone in a Dominant role may experience the same ‘drop’ from physical exertion as a sub, and can similarly desire the emotional connection that re-establishes the normal, healthy roles of your relationship.
And those in long-term relationships are certainly not exempt from aftercare. It’s something couples should continue to do, especially after trying something new (such as anal sex). Did the sex hurt? Do they want to do it again? What did they like and not like about it? You can’t know what your partner is thinking unless you ask them. Plus, it can be easy for long-term partners to feel taken for granted, so making sure to cuddle, stroke each other’s hair, and savor the moment after sex can make even the most routine sex feel special.
One thing to keep in mind? It can also be helpful to continue these conversations when everyone’s vertical, clothed and any post-orgasm high has faded.
There is no one way to give or receive aftercare, the only real guideline is to be open, accepting, and attentive to the emotional and physical needs of your partner, while also making sure that your own needs are met as well.
What should you do if you don’t get Aftercare?
Although it is normally advised that a dominant should be in a position to provide suitable after care, there may be rare instances where this is not possible. A submissive might need more time than usual to come down, and a dominant might simply be not in a position to do so. In such a situation a babysitter might be utilized, that being a third-party kink friendly individual who can take on the responsibility of after care for the submissive. In such situations it is still highly recommended and considered to be good practice for the dominant to spend at least 15 minutes with the submissive so that immediate feelings of abandonment and hopelessness do not set in. The babysitter should be a mutually agreed upon person by all involved which can continue the responsibilities of aftercare once the dominant is required to leave.
And if a Dom won’t talk about Aftercare beforehand or does not follow through – walk away, immediately.
Compiled and modified by dievca with Thanks to:
Katy Thorn, Lelo website article on Aftercare
Amanda Luterman, a kink-friendly psychotherapist from a Refinery 29 article on Aftercare
Rick Sales, hellsc.com.au website article on BDSM Aftercare
Master walked into His bedroom,
to find His dievca, lying on the floor – naked, reaching under His bed.
she was trying to grab a high heel that got kicked underneath.
Lying on her belly, partially beneath the bed, kinda stuck,
dievca must have looked absolutely ridiculous.
Master solved the problem.
With a smart smack to dievca’s ass,
Master passed along a wooden yardstick to fish out the delinquent heel.
After its retrieval, He then pulled His dievca from under the bed
and sent her off to the shower.
The practicalities of D/s.
Like a lioness couchante,
sated, yet stimulated
“Female Nude Lying Down” Sanguine and white chalk on cream-colored paper Eric Bossik
click the graphic for the website
When Master said, “You will wear Snakeskin”,
dievca thought this:
she didn’t realize Master meant this:
Urban Dictionary Top Definition:
the dried after effects of ejaculation creating a thin-film upon the chest or stomach
(shoes: OOGii Limited Edition Snakeskin Bronze Heels 350 AUD)
* Lithograph on thin, fibrous handmade paper
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W. S. Gilbert refers to the “Grace of an odalisque on a divan” in Colonel Calverley’s song “If You Want A Receipt For That Popular Mystery” from the Gilbert and Sullivan opera Patience.
In popular use, the word odalisque also may refer to a mistress, concubine or paramour of a wealthy man.
During the 19th century, odalisques became common fantasy figures in the artistic movement known as Orientalism, being featured in many erotic paintings from that era.
By the later 19th century, Turkish writers such as Melek Hanum used the word odalisque to refer to slave-concubines when writing in English:
If any lady possesses a pretty-looking slave, the fact soon gets known. The gentlemen who wish to buy an odalisque or a wife, make their offers. Many Turks, indeed, prefer to take a slave as a wife, as, in such case, there is no need to dread fathers, mothers, or brothers-in-law, and other undesirable relations
Founded by Natasha Ghosn is 2012, Mondo Mondo is a Los Angeles-based lifestyle brand featuring handmade pieces that reflect Ghosn’s playful, surrealist view of the world.
The Ring of O is a specially designed ring which has been worn as a distinctive mark among BDSM practitioners, mainly in continental Europe — and especially the German-speaking countries — since the 1990s. Its use is relatively widespread within this subculture. Its name derives from the name of the central female character in the classic BDSM novel Story of O (written by Pauline Réage), who was a sex slave and wore an analogous ring.
If I tell you, YOUR fantasies
will you tell me, MINE?
Sharing with a Friend.
(Or making one for your Master or Mistress.)
Photos: dievca NYC Chelsea Market 10/2018
dievca is interpreting that as beautiful suiting cut in a sexually suggestive way.
…to start Your day.
(if you read the text it tells you how to make lovely coffee 😘☕)
as dievca pays her dental bill….
and has breakfast with Master.
Master has to do a three-day “quickie” to the West Coast and back. she knows that His time on the ground is going to be stressful, so here’s hoping His flights are quite remarkable.
Lynx, the male grooming brand sold by Unilever, is sold on the basis of sex appeal. Lynx is the UK, Ireland, Australia and NZ version of Unilever’s ‘male grooming’ product Axe.
In 2005, the Australian television viewers were being introduced by a new ‘sex appeal’ stunt: the launch of a fictitious airline. Seven airline hostesses walk towards us on the tarmac, each wearing yellow sunglasses. The voice over: “Imagine a level of comfort never experienced before in air travel”. We move to a shot of a sky bed, big enough for the a hostess to snuggle up to the sleeping male passenger. “With in-flight entertainment (Spanking, Hula Hoop and Pillow Fighting) that is second to none”.
On June 21, 2006, on the Grand Prix and Gold awards won by Lynx Jet at Cannes. LynxJet, Demo (instructions for removing a bra) and Blanket (a mostess solution to cold male passengers) won Bronze Lions in the Film section.
Despite the mixed reception from the wider Australian public, the target audience, young single men between the ages of 18 and 25, bought into the concept. Sales of Lynx Body Spray grew by 20 percent in four weeks to take an 84.2 percent share of the Australian market.
Unilever arranged to have one of Jetstar’s planes painted in the yellow colors of the Lynx campaign. Hostesses on the designated flights between Victoria and Queensland were not expected to dress or behave like the ‘mostesses’ in the Lynx TV ads. All the same, Jetstar thought again and withdrew from the deal. The plane went back to normal colors in the light of complaints from airline stewards, Jetstar marketing consultants and the public.
Team included Adam Lance, Dejan Rasic, Simone Brandse, Howard Collinge, Michael Canning and Darren Bailey.
Filming: Nicholas Reynolds via Plaza Films
Producer, Cathy Rechichi
Director of photography, Daniel Ardilley
Editing, The Tait Gallery by Danny Tait.
Music, composed by Kevin Kehoe
Sound Design, Paul Taylor at Sound Reservoir.
Post production, design and special effects, Postmodern Sydney.
Photography, Stephen Stewart
dievca just had to laugh and say, “Know your target audience”, apparently they did.
Master is chasing a little tail…
Amazing how a brand new R13 T-shirt can throw you back 34 years:
“Master and Servant” is Depeche Mode‘s eleventh UK single (August 20th,1984) It is the second single from the Some Great Reward album. The subject is BDSM relationships, which caused some controversy. It reached #9 in the UK Singles Chart, #49 in the American Dance Chart and #87 on the Billboard Hot 100
The overtly sexual, BDSM-themed lyrics of “Master and Servant” — complete with synthesized whip-and-chain sound effects — reportedly meant that the song was banned by many radio stations in the United States (though the song reached the Billboard Hot 100 chart anyway, albeit only at number 87 and for only a three-week chart stay).
Reportedly, the song narrowly avoided a radio ban by the BBC as well. “Master and Servant” might have been banned if the one BBC staffer who wanted to ban the record had not been away on holiday when the other staffers voted on whether to add “Master and Servant” to their playlist.
A female version struck dievca’s fancy, you heard this group before on her blog here.
Heading to Master,
dispersing the gloom with color and subservience.
Maybe a visit to the Met,
or maybe not.