dievca found this blog title in her “drafts” file. It was from 2016.
she just went through Master’s Closet this past Monday, 2023.
The sorting/clear out is not an annual activity, but every two to three years.
The process consists of emptying everything out of the closet and drawers. Taking a good look at each piece and sorting into a keep pile, repair pile, rag pile and Goodwill pile. Master loves to get rid of items. Then there is the painful process of buying replacement items either online or in person.
dievca steps in with the second part of the process because Master tends to avoid shopping for replacement items. But if you have tossed 3 faded/stained black t-shirts that you wear on repeat – you will need to replace them.
So, a large Nordstrom’s credit dictated the shopping destination for this year. Instead of Barneys and Banana Republic t-shirts, Master will be trying Vince, Rag & Bone and Frame Denim. Apparently, dievca will be watching a fashion show of “the basics” the next time they meet.
she thinks she will love this Rag & Bone Dexter waffle -weave cotton sweater:
Master has an apartment with Southern Exposure.
It makes for lovely D/s play in the sun.
The nipple on the cloud looked like dievca’s nipples yesterday,
at attention for their Master.
Master was teasing His dievca about “her” music when she told Him about watching music videos on Sunday evenings for an hour because the family dievca was living with during her sports training didn’t have cable. Weekly, at 10:58 pm, this song would come on to close out the music video hour.
The next thing you know, Master is singing the “earworm” for the rest of the day…and dievca is flashing back to being 14 years old~
A few years ago Master had major surgery — the morphine was lovely, but it had consequences…
If dievca is ever stuck – just give her coffee. Leaded or unleaded will work.
It wasn’t so easy for Master…
Your Knight in Shining Armor can come in many different shapes and sizes. They may be what you are looking for or they may be something completely different. All dievca can suggest is to “be open” and your gift may fulfill your Life more than you could imagine.
clean together, preen together!
congratulate or pride oneself.
“it did not prevent them from preening themselves on their achievement”
Master has friends and family coming for visits this Autumn, so dievca went over to help him do a “deep clean” for their arrival. Windows washed inside and out, Floors wiped, Heavy duty dusting, Leather conditioned, Granite conditioned, Bathrooms scrubbed, etc. — Master’s apartment is GLEAMING!
Hey, it was what Master asked for as a present for His Birthday. dievca was happy to serve. XO
Master has a check-up scheduled,
do you think this is how the conversation will go?
So Master dropped His dievca a note:
Master laughs at His dievca’s music – she’s mentioned this previously.
she doesn’t understand why…
Who doesn’t like Cheesy Love Songs, 70’s Suave Grooves, 80’s Electronica, Classic Rock, Eurotrash?
Music should be — uhhh — accessible.
Master has been traveling for about 4 weeks — dievca caught up with Him this morning.
Might require a masturbation moment.
Inspired by The Muscleheaded Blog
The video is age-restricted, but click on the link below and you will be taken there if you are of age~
Master and His dievca were sharing sushi on the rooftop when dievca mention that she figured out where she fits with her personal outlook (philosophy). she always thought she was just a “realist”, but realized she isn’t very cynical. Then she ran into this tidbit:
This Personality Type Is Linked to Success and Happiness
By Tia Ghose published August 23, 2013
Are you a “glass-half-full” or a “glass-half-empty” kind of person?
As it turns out, some people can be both. So-called realistic optimists combine the positive outlook of optimists with the clear-eyed perspective of pessimists, new research has found.
These realistic optimists may get the best of both worlds, using their realism to perform better at work and elsewhere, but aren’t getting bogged down by unhappiness, said Sophia Chou, an organizational psychology researcher at National Taiwan University, who presented her findings at a meeting of the American Psychological Association in Honolulu, Hawaii. [7 Things That Will Make You Happy]
Past research has shown that optimists value thoughts that make them feel good about themselves, whereas pessimists prize a more truthful vision of themselves. But a clear-eyed view can be bad for pessimists’ well-being, as they tend to be more prone to depression, Chou said.
Optimists tend to live longer and be healthier overall.
After several years working in business, Chou noticed there were some people who were both optimistic and realistic, and that they tended to be very successful. She wondered whether realism and optimism were really diametrically opposed.
So Chou administered a battery of personality surveys to about 200 college and graduate students in Taiwan. The surveys tested how many “positive illusions” the students held, as well as whether they were more motivated by self-enhancement or reality.
The optimists were sorted into two camps: the realists and the idealists.
“Realistic optimists tend to choose accuracy over self-enhancement; the unrealistic optimists tend to choose self-enhancement,” Chou said.
Interestingly, the realistic optimists also got better grades, on average, than their less grounded peers — probably because they didn’t delude themselves into thinking they would do well without studying or working hard, Chou said.
Traditionally, a more realistic outlook is paired with poorer well-being and greater depression, yet the realistic optimists managed to be happy. To understand why, she dug deeper into the personality assessments.
She found that realistic optimists believed they had more self-control and control over their interpersonal relationships.
“Every time they face an issue or a challenge or a problem, they won’t say ‘I have no choice and this is the only thing I can do.’ They will be creative, they will have a plan A, plan B and plan C,” Chou said.
That allows them to stay cheery and upbeat about the future, even if they recognize the challenges of the present.
Being a realistic optimist does have one downside, however: They are more prone to anxiety than their completely unrealistic peers. That’s likely because they recognize the possibility of failure, whereas their counterparts use positive illusions to ease their anxiety, Chou said.
The findings suggest that realistic and unrealistic optimists may actually be very different personality types, Chou said.
In order to cultivate a rosy-but-realistic outlook, people should maintain a clear-eyed view of reality, but emphasize what they can control in most situations, she said.
dievca’s Master has a different take on Himself:
An idealistic realist is a realist who understands the realms of possibility but also sees his idealism as a potential reality. You work towards an Ideal knowing the Realities.
By the way – the question of the glass-half-full/empty always baffled dievca – perhaps it is her “realist” tendencies or her Science background – this is her answer:
3. A sexual activity that involves kneeling before a penis, gazing at it, playing with it, kissing it, licking it, and sucking it slowly and deliberately to prolong the experience. Often includes ball sucking and rimming to show absolute reverence for the man and his cock.
dievca always finds it interesting that there is a large act of trust displayed by the individual who is being worshiped — it’s a delicate piece of equipment and teeth can be sharp. XO
Master is traveling and dievca has had some open time to review her Life and changes in the past 2 years. Between COVID, deaths, aging – Master and dievca’s relationship has changed. And as body changes, social changes and family changes have eased – she’s wondering what will return or diminish.
dievca is starting her reflection process by defining the type of Relationship Master and dievca had at the beginning. Then she plans to review where she thinks they are now. Finally, she will communicate her analysis to Master and listen to His thoughts and wants for the future.
9 Types of submissives:
- The outright non-submissive masochist or kinky sensualist
Not into servitude, humiliation or giving up of control; just pain and/or spiced-up sensuality, on the masochist’s own terms for the masochist’s own pleasure (ie: being turned on solely or mainly by one’s own bodily sensations, rather than being turned on by being “used” to gratify one’s partner’s sadism).
- Pseudo-submissive non-slave
Not into even playing “slave”, but into other “submissive” role-playing, e.g.: schoolteacher scenes, infantilism, “forced” transvestism. Usually into humiliation, but NOT into servitude, even in play. Dictates the scene to a large degree.
- Pseudo-submissive PLAY slave
Likes to play at being slave. Likes to *feel* subservient; may in some cases like to *feel* that one is being “used” to gratify one’s partner’s sadism; and may even really serve the dominant in some ways, but only on the “slave’s” own terms. Dictates the scene to a large degree; often fetishistic (e.g. foot worshippers).
- True submissive non-slave
Really gives up control (though only temporarily and within agreed upon limits), but gets his/her main satisfaction from aspects of submission *other than* serving or being used by the dominant. Usually turned on by suspense, vulnerability, and/or giving up of responsibility. Doesn’t dictate the scene except in very general terms, but still seeks mainly her/his own *direct* pleasure (rather than getting one’s pleasure mainly from pleasing the dominant).
- True submissive PLAY slave
Really gives up control (though only temporarily; only during brief “scenes” and within limits) and gets his/her main satisfaction from serving and being used by the dominant – but only for FUN purposes, usually erotic. (May or may not be into pain, but if so, is turned on by pain *indirectly*, ie: enjoys being the objects of one’s partner’s sadism, on which the submissive places few requirements or restrictions.)
- Uncommitted short-term but more-than-play semi-slave
Really gives up control (though usually within limits); wants to serve and be used by the dominant; wants to provide practical/non-erotic as well as fun/ erotic services; but only when the “slave” is in the mood. May even act as a full-time slave for, say, several days at a time, but is free to quit at any time (or at the end of the agreed upon several days). May or may not have a long-term relationship with one’s Mistress/Master, but, either way, the “slave” has the final say over when he or she will serve.
- Part-time consensual but REAL slave
Has ongoing commitment to an owner/slave relationship, and regards oneself as the Mistress’/Master’s “property” at all times. Wants to obey and please her/him in all aspects of life – practical/non-erotic as well as fun/erotic. Devotes most of one’s time to other commitments (eg: job) but the Mistress/Master has first pick of the slave’s free time.
- Full-time live-in consensual slave
Within no more than a few broad limits/requirements, the slave regards herself/ himself as existing solely for the Mistress’/Master’s use, pleasure and well- being. The slave in turn expects to be regarded as a prized possession. Not much different from the situation of the traditional housewife, except that within the S/M world the slave’s position is more likely to be fully consensual, especially if the slave is male (since men certainly aren’t socially pressured into this kind of lifestyle). Within the S/M world, a full-time “slave” arrangement is entered into with an explicit awareness of the magnitude of power that is being given up, and hence is usually entered into much more carefully, with more awareness of the possible dangers, and with much clearer and more specific agreements than usually precede the traditional marriage.
- Consensual total slave with no limits
A common fantasy ideal which probably doesn’t exist in real life (except in authoritarian religious cults and other situations where the “consent” is induced by brainwashing and/or social or economic pressures, and hence isn’t fully consensual). A few S/M purists will insist that you aren’t really a slave unless you’re willing to do absolutely *anything* for your Mistress/ Master, with no limits at all. There are a few who claim to be no-limits slaves, but in all cases it would be reasonable to doubt the claim.
© 1984, 1988 by Mistress Diane Vera as reprinted in
Pat Califia, ed. The Lesbian S/M Safety Manual (Boston: Lace / Alyson) pp. 69-71
A Thank You to SluttyGirlProblem – Victoria Sparrow and Officer Wes for the information that made dievca start to think.
www.officerwes.com © 1997-2021 by Officer Wes
“There are times she is kneeling out of obedience, reverence and respect. Those are the times it is okay to stand above her. But when she is kneeling because the weight of the world is just too heavy to bear … that is when You should be kneeling beside her.” — Unknown
The Fair Isle
The Aran Sweater
Classics for a reason and always as handsome as the Gentleman inside.
(Master prefers a Fairsisle Sweater Vest – makes His dievca smile)
Master Speaks His Command
Looks like Life is getting back to normal when people are dealing with the common cold, rather than COVID-19.
Master flew back with a stuffed up nose. He had been hanging out with some super fun Tots on Halloween. They shared their daycare wealth~
Before His return and across the country, dievca’s nose started to leak. she’s drinking as many fluids as she can get down her gullet.
It looks like dievca will be making soup for everyone. Chicken Soup for herself and Jambalaya (Creole) for Master. He’s better at drinking water than dievca, so He can do a “thicker” soup.
Creole Jambalaya is less thick than Cajun Jambalaya because of less browning and added tomatoes.
1 tbsp. extra-virgin olive oil
1 onion, chopped
2 bell peppers, chopped
Freshly ground black pepper
1 lb. boneless skinless chicken breasts, cut 1″ pieces
1 tsp. dried oregano
6 oz. andouille sausage, sliced
2 cloves garlic, minced
2 tbsp. tomato paste
2 c. chicken broth
1 (15-oz.) can crushed tomatoes
1 c. long grain rice
2 tsp. Old Bay seasoning (modify to your heart’s content – dievca has Old Bay handy)
1 lb. frozen seafood or shrimp (or 1 lb fresh shrimp)
2 green onions, thinly sliced
In a large pot over medium heat, heat oil. Add onion and bell peppers and season with salt and pepper.
Cook until soft, about 5 minutes, then stir in chicken and season with salt, pepper, and oregano. Cook until the chicken is golden, about 5 minutes, then stir in andouille sausage, garlic, and tomato paste and cook until fragrant, about 1 minute more.
Add chicken broth, frozen seafood/shrimp, crushed tomatoes, rice, and Old Bay. Reduce heat to medium-low, cover with a tight-fitting lid, and cook until the rice is tender and the liquid is almost absorbed for about 20 minutes.
(If you have fresh uncooked shrimp – add the shrimp and cook until pink, 3 to 5 minutes.)
Stir in green onions just before serving. Serve with crusty bread.
dievca is pretty sure that her Master doesn’t have a pair of those plaid socks – but she does know He is planning to travel in style this weekend. Too bad with COVID-19, it won’t be quite as cozy as in the past… Honestly, wouldn’t it just be nice to fly without wearing a mask?
Sheridan’s Coffee Layered Liqueur was first introduced in 1994. It is produced in Dublin by Thomas Sheridan & Sons. One section is filled with a black liqueur, consisting of coffee and whiskey flavors, while the other is filled with a white liqueur of milk white chocolate.
How to enjoy.
Serve in a Rocks glass or tumbler by first pouring in the black liqueur, and then gently floating the white liqueur on the surface of the liquid. This makes the perfect layered drink, Irish Coffee-style, and you can garnish with white and dark chocolate pieces.
dievca had it in Ireland when it first came out and has asked Master to get her a bottle whenever He travels to Ireland.
she’s running out…XO
Western Belt Print Bag – and ode to Impact Play or Bondage
A bag to carry your accoutrements: thudders and stingers or buckled cuffs and collars
Paul Smith‘s Western Belt Print will offer a lot of additional room for water, towels, a change of clothes, etc. A fun, tongue in cheek nod to your pleasurable inclinations!
~Something of Use~
Update – the bag sold on August 2nd…sorry, dievca was too slow…
The title of this book has great meaning!
dievca thought this appropriate for Master and her meeting, she’s not sure he agrees ~
“Be careful biking home dievca.”
I will, Master. I am not in any hurry.
dievca was cruising along nicely until here:
She slowed down and stood up to go over a set of metal plates after the Intrepid Museum and Circle Line section, but she didn’t see the 5″ pothole until too late…thunk~
Flipping up and over the handle bars –
Years of falling in sports saved her head, collarbone and hands/wrists. She flipped horizontally right and her knee/shin took the momentum, femur the impact, followed by the elbow then forearm. A gentleman walking his dog checked on her, immediately – a family (tourists) stared at her in horror. dievca picked herself up, checked her appendages, moved to the side, checked her bike and rode home bleeding.
Can she tell you that everyone is correct?
Road rash is a b*tch to clean and it really hurts. Plus, you may end up bleeding on your sheets at night unless you cover your wounds.
- Wash your hands. If you are caring for your own wound or another person’s wound, you should always wash your hands first. …
- Wash the injury. You should then wash the abrasion. …
- Remove debris. …
- Apply antibiotic ointment. …
- Cover the road rash. …
- Keep the bandage fresh. …
- Check for infection.
dievca washed her Road Rash with soapy water, then hosed it down with Bactine. she added a thin layer of Neosporin ointment. Arnica Gel on places where she thought bruises might blossom – adrenaline hid the hip/hamstring pain. Two Aleve pills for the evening then a thorough icing of the thigh/a** in the morning. More wound cleaning and care — things seem to be moving along nicely.
Master will check it out on Monday~ so much for trying to be careful.
Sometimes Life will bite you in the a**.
After wine, a burger and good company – dievca slept in for a lazy Sunday. Master will be stopping by in the afternoon to relax. Maybe the ‘LAZY SUNDAY’ position will come into use – dievca is really not moving too fast.
LAZY SUNDAY SEX POSITION
Find a chair or large pillow so you are both sitting at a 45 degree angle.
One partner lies on the bottom, while the other clambers on top facing upwards so your bodies are in perfect alignment.
Keep your thighs together for a more intense sensation as the lower lover enters from behind.
Re: I am disturbed because my new Galaxy Active watch tells me that I don’t get enough ‘deep sleep’. I am ok, time amount-wise and in the REM stage – but I don’t hit the healing deep sleep. Three days of data is not enough, I will watch it for two weeks. But, it still bothers me. I flip/flop and move a lot, but I have always done that….maybe my heart rate runs higher for the deep sleep range. Maybe this is normal with peri-menopause. Maybe I have a problem, I will watch it.
In general, sleep experts are negative about people who get obsessed with their watch telling them that they don’t get enough deep sleep. Sleep is a very individual and complex issue. But the first thing to know is that everyone wakes up during a night’s sleep…we just don’t remember it.
Read this article:
COVID has also caused sleep problems. Read:
In addition, you are absolutely right: peri-menopause can cause sleep problems. Read:
And here’s a very brief summary from the NYT about how to sleep better.
Hope some of this info is helpful.
Some people are fans of the band, Chicago, others are not. dievca falls on one side of the fence and Master the other.
But the lyrics? – well they apply, whether one likes the band or not…especially when Master is the only person capable of causing His dievca to go mind and body silent
When I’m with you, it doesn’t matter where we are
Or what we’re doing, I’m with you, that’s all that matters
Time passes much too quickly when we’re together laughing
I wish I could sing it to you, oh no
I wish I could sing it to you
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
Mostly I’m silent mmm silent la la la la la
Never think about words to say
When I kiss you, I feel a thousand different feelings
The color of chills all over my body
And when I feel them, I quickly try to decide which one
I should try to put into words, oh no
Try to put into words
Mostly I’m silent silent la la la la la la la la la la la la la la la la
Only the beginning of what I want to feel forever yeah
Oh no whoa yes
Only the beginning, only just the start
I’ve got to get you into my life
Got to get you next to me
Only the beginning, only just the start
A long week~
Always nice to shut the car door and walk towards Master in heels.
Your Master arrived safely.
The humidity has broken.
D/s outside might be an option.
Sometimes the Power Exchange Merges