As good as it gets~against the odds. (Father’s Day)

Photo: Reddit, Trevor3999 – His Grandma and her Dad

Look, dievca’s Dad is older.  He had a stroke/heart attack a few years ago and they determined they couldn’t operate.  Blood flow efficiency was increased from 20% to 38% with drugs. His handwriting got better, he is walking/cleaning house/gardening/driving to the hardware store/taking care of Mom — doing really well.
Independent.

Dad took a “header” last summer from the heat and perhaps a little bit of medications needing adjustment.  A mess with a bleed out, broken neck and nose, etc.  He got through it.
Stubborn.

We went for his annual heart check-up:

Weight – the same
Blood work – good
Concerns with breathing/dizziness – none
range of motion – better
Heart efficiency – 45% (up a smidgen beyond the margins for error…)

The Doctor thought about it, looked at us and said, “just keep doing what you are doing..”

I think my Dad made his day.

In the end, what dievca is learning from her Dad is that no matter how bad it gets — we know that the act of trying to work through problems may not always be successful, but sometimes it is…
And that is a beautiful thing.
So keep trying, against the odds.

and Happy Father’s Day. XO


What does it mean?

A biker?
(with all that hardware blowing in the wind?)
Weight-bearing exercise?
(only on one side?)
Someone who loses their keys?
(can you find them?)

Look, dievca mentioned she likes being chained, but even she was boondoggled by this one…
(actually, look up close, it is quite artful.)


looking back to smile

“Forsan et haec olim meminisse juvabit.”

― Virgil, Eclogues. Georgics. Aeneid: Books 1-6

This encouragement was written on a wall, where I hope it remains today. The sense of the phrase is: Someday, we’ll look back on even this and smile.

Sophie Marceau, 2015 Cannes Film Festival

 


Fetish? All in your definition…

fet·ish
ˈfediSH/
noun
1. a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing, part of the body, etc.

dievca and Master have had talks about BDSM and fetishes.
dievca made the statement that she loves to be connected, via a chain or restraints and she thought that the desire for connection was a “fetish” (there is even a flag below)

Master disagreed.
Master’s definition of a fetish comes from past submissives He connected with along the way. His point was that being chained was not “needed” by dievca. Being restrained was not necessary for the relationship to exist or proceed. It is just something dievca enjoys very much. But dievca really enjoys changing it up, too — she doesn’t need her restraints to “get off”. Master had connected with some people who had to do the same thing in the same pattern to be fulfilled.  It was not His thing.
“diversity, dievca, diversity” — hmm, maybe that is Master’s fetish…

These musings were prompted because dievca was looking up the date for the Pride Parade in NYC (June 25th, 2017 9:00 am) and a side bar on the website offered some flags:

Shop for Products Shop for Products Shop for Products Shop for Products Shop for Products Shop for Products
Age Play Fetish Androgyne Fetish BDSM Fetish Bear Fetish Boi Fetish Boot Fetish
Shop for Products Shop for Products Shop for Products Shop for Products Shop for Products Shop for Products
Drag Fetish Fat Fetish Feather Fetish Fisting Fetish Foot Fetish Freak Fetish
Shop for Products Shop for Products Shop for Products Shop for Products Shop for Products Shop for Products
Mask Fetish Gay Goth Fetish Goth Fetish Intersex Leather Fetish Leather Eagle Pride
Shop for Products Shop for Products Shop for Products Shop for Products Shop for Products Shop for Products
Leather Girl Pride Leather Queer Pride Long Hair Fetish Military Fetish Muscle Fetish Ownership Fetish
Shop for Products Shop for Products Shop for Products Shop for Products Shop for Products Shop for Products
Puppy Play Fetish Rubber Latex Fetish Slave Fetish Switch Fetish Twink Fetish Watersports Fetish

Doesn’t matter where it came from, it applies~

May the sun bring you new energy by day,

May the moon softly restore you by night,

May the rain wash away your worries,

May the breeze blow new strength into your being,

May you walk gently through the world and know its beauty all the days of your life.


A close friend was diagnosed with Cancer, they began treatment this week. No form of cancer is easy to deal with but the timeline for this type is …. dismal.

Add that everyone has moved on from the Faith they grew up with and dievca did not replace hers with their new Faith, she doesn’t do their religious platitudes well.

But, I love you is good.

And, perhaps, the piece above … (or is that a platitude and trite?)

Sigh.

The piece above was written for the 1947 Western novel Blood Brother by Elliott Arnold. The fictional blessing entered popular consciousness when it made its way into the 1950 film adaptation of the novel Broken Arrow, scripted by Albert Maltz.

People think it is an Apache Blessing.

Fictional or not, the words convey positive wishes.

In the end, all you can do is pray to whatever deity you chose, send your strength through the ether, be there for any research/communication/cheerleading/venting that is needed and show up, be present and donate whatever is needed when called upon.

Currently, dievca is using Joy and Happiness through stories and memories to try to lessen the pain as well as remind that Life has components that are worthy of effort. Not sure it is working, but its all she can think to do right now.

dievca is taking suggestions~


Choose one:

Holidays for Thursday, June 1st, 2017:

  • Dare Day,
  • Dinosaur Day,
  • Don’t Give Up The Ship Day,
  • Flip a Coin Day,
  • Global Day of Parents,
  • International Children’s Day,
  • Heimlich Maneuver Day,
  • National Hazelnut Cake Day,
  • National Moonshine Day,
  • Say Something Nice Day,
  • Stand For Children Day,
  • Oscar the Grouch Day,
  • New Year’s Resolution Re-Commitment Day,
  • Wear a Dress Day, 
  • World Milk Day,
  • National Go Barefoot Day

Even though dievca’s favorite character on Sesame Street is Oscar the Grouch:

(don’t ask where dievca found this photo…ok, here.)

she could celebrate World Milk day.

She’s going to go barefoot and wear a dress for June 1st:

Which Holiday are you going to Celebrate, today?


Finding some Joy~ suggestions

It’s been grey in NYC. dievca has tried to find a bit of sunshine to get through the day. Her Zadig & Voltaire “Amour” Sweater has been pulled out and put to use:

 

But, she needs more…

Here’s where she is going, maybe a couple of suggestions will speak to you:

  • Talk to kids.
  • Play with kids.
  • Play like a kid.
  • Learn something new (play a new sport or game, learn how to cook a new dish).
  • Get outside, visit nature.
  • Breathe Deep.
  • Smell a Rose.
  • Help someone in a small way (by carrying their groceries or help them up the stairs).
  • Wear a favorite outfit.
  • Spend time with your pet.
  • Travel.
  • Nurture romance (spend time just kissing your partner, buy a surprise gift, write a love letter).
  • Lose yourself in a great book.
  • Laugh and smile, no matter how you’re feeling.
  • Sing out loud.
  • Connect authentically with friends and family, sharing your vulnerabilities and happiness.
  • Dance. If you can’t dance, just skip, gallop or run.
  • Look around your World and appreciate it.
  • Pay a compliment to a total stranger.
  • Listen to “feel good” music.
  • Serve others. Volunteer.
  • Exercise.
  • Set a goal, then work to reach it.
  • Enjoy the silence.
  • Write a thank you letter or call someone for no particular reason other than just to say “I appreciate you.”
  • Get messy (go barefoot, play in the sand).
  • Eat a healthy meal.
  • Offer to teach someone a new skill.
  • Read a poem.
  • Turn your errands into an adventure  (make a game out of finding the shortest route through the store or spotting a VW bug while driving there).
  • Take a nap in the sun.
  • Ask someone for help and appreciate their sharing.
  • Watch a favorite old movie for the hundredth time.
  • Discover a new smell.
  • Cuddle.
  • Get rid of stuff. (Give to friends/family, resell, and donate – lightening your load and making someone else’s life better.)
  • Watch a sunrise or sunset.
  • Make a commitment to change a bad habit, then do it.
  • Create something.
  • Eat a cupcake.
  • Spend an evening by candlelight.
  • Take a walk in the rain.

Or, maybe, try this sweater:

(click photo to purchase)