Thank you and Happy Anniversary!

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dievca received a notice that the Blog hit 9 years yesterday.
Thank you for sticking with Your dievca through thick and thin.
Sending love and champagne!
XO


Enjoy the Holiday

What does Labor mean in the United States?
Where are we?
Where are we going?


As Summer Fades

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The humidity drops
Temperatures cool

Why do I find myself sad after all the uncomfortable misery?

Photo: dievca – Hudson River NYC 08/2022


Decadent on a Tuesday

 

dec·a·dent

/ˈdekəd(ə)nt/
adjective
  1. characterized by or reflecting a state of moral or cultural decline.
    “a decaying, decadent Britain”
noun
  1. a person who is luxuriously self-indulgent.
    “for half a million dollars, he offers rich decadents the chance to lead a deadly safari”

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Aubrey Vincent Beardsley was an English illustrator and author. His black ink drawings were influenced by Japanese woodcuts, and depicted the grotesque, the decadent, and the erotic. He was a leading figure in the aesthetic movement which also included Oscar Wilde and James McNeill Whistler. Wikipedia

Aubrey Beardsley Decadence


Getting Trippy~

Every once in awhile, dievca has flashback memories of movies or TV shows she saw as a young child  in the 1970’s.  As she tries to pin down the memories — they swirl and seem to take her on a psychedelic trip. Her brain hurts.  Does anyone else remember?

Sigmund the Sea Monster:

Sigmund the Sea Monster

Gigglesnort Hotel‘s Blob:

Gigglesnort Hotel Blob

41 Treehouse Lane‘s Mother Nature:

41 Treeshouse Lane Mother Nature

Romper Room‘s Magic Mirror:

Romper Room magic mirror

Whew – dievca’s head is spinning.  Time to move on to a workout.  It’s a special Saturday for dievca because she doesn’t have to work – what a treat!  Enjoy YOUR Saturday. XO


Still chewing on it~

dievca is pondering her Life:

“This Ponderous, Man. really Ponderous”

Seven and a half years later and she is still pondering her Life:

  • Does she look for a new job?
  • Does she get a 3rd graduate degree and change careers?
  • Does she write a Children’s Book? (an inside joke on dievca)
  • Does she move from NYC?
  • Does she stay put?
  • Will she get cancer? (Her brother is going through Chemo for a stage 2 form)
  • Shouldn’t she be connecting with her cousins more?

Master stated that when you lose both of your Parents, you lose an anchor to your family – you are now “truly” an adult. dievca sees it as the two people who loved her just because she existed and were behind her in any situation good or bad are gone. The guaranteed love safety net is gone.  

It’s taken 6 months for that to hit home….

Time to buy a new pair of shoes (note the survivalist theme and Midwestern moment):

ACNE Studios green-desert-boot-high-sneakers

ACNE Studios green desert boot high sneakers

Then dievca will sing this song:


Tacky on a Friday = 1950’s Potty Humor

Once in awhile dievca runs into something just…in poor taste. It makes her roll her eyes and half smile.

Here is an offering for today (the link for the full book on reddit is down below).
Who finds these books?
Who made these books?

Why did I read the whole book?

Urination Bible


Happy 4th of July! Renewal of faith in the USA

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Recently, I’ve been disappointed and disillusioned in the USA.  Perhaps that has to do with my own failings and regrouping.  But, as I drive through the Midwest and see how gorgeous my country is ~ as I witness NY State working to protect “Pro Choice” rights and view a “Pro Choice” rally in front of Lambeau Field (Home of the Green Bay Packers football team located in a heavily Catholic/Christian community) I am starting to believe in the USA doctrine, again.  We can disagree, we can argue, we have smart people and morons living together – we will do stupid things – we are human.  But, we, as United States Citizens, can state our feelings for good or bad. Then stumble along to address those issues.

One on one.

The people in the midwestern hotel – dressed in biker gang gear – are kind, holding the door for  a gimpy dievca and asking how she is doing.

This place isn’t perfect by any means, but its mine.

Happy Independence Day~

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whoa

Travel burnout

dievca doesn’t know if it was the international travel, the surgery or this second round of travel.
she hit a wall.
The good news is that there is no pressing schedule and there is enough time to get things done with healing.
Taking it slow this morning.
BTW: The great grand RugRats loved the NYC bagels their Grand Aunt brought


Looking a little ruff around edges

1st Class Passanger

dievca got home from Europe and her knee was paining her quite a bit.   A long Passport line (where a gentleman dropped with a seizure) and a heavy backpack/luggage didn’t help.  Today, she caught up with Master, did  her PT and has been stretching her legs to the best of her ability – it doesn’t really matter, the knee surgery is tomorrow. Please wish her luck! XO


For the Families and Community

https://sports.yahoo.com/steve-kerr-calls-on-congress-to-pass-gun-legislation-after-uvalde-school-shooting-when-are-we-going-to-do-something-002610445.html

 

 


There’s name for it = Realistic Optimist

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Master and His dievca were sharing sushi on the rooftop when dievca mention that she figured out where she fits with her personal outlook (philosophy). she always thought she was just a “realist”, but realized she isn’t very cynical. Then she ran into this tidbit:

This Personality Type Is Linked to Success and Happiness
By Tia Ghose published August 23, 2013

Are you a “glass-half-full” or a “glass-half-empty” kind of person?

As it turns out, some people can be both. So-called realistic optimists combine the positive outlook of optimists with the clear-eyed perspective of pessimists, new research has found.

These realistic optimists may get the best of both worlds, using their realism to perform better at work and elsewhere, but aren’t getting bogged down by unhappiness, said Sophia Chou, an organizational psychology researcher at National Taiwan University, who presented her findings at a meeting of the American Psychological Association in Honolulu, Hawaii. [7 Things That Will Make You Happy]

Past research has shown that optimists value thoughts that make them feel good about themselves, whereas pessimists prize a more truthful vision of themselves. But a clear-eyed view can be bad for pessimists’ well-being, as they tend to be more prone to depression, Chou said.

Optimists tend to live longer and be healthier overall.

After several years working in business, Chou noticed there were some people who were both optimistic and realistic, and that they tended to be very successful. She wondered whether realism and optimism were really diametrically opposed.

So Chou administered a battery of personality surveys to about 200 college and graduate students in Taiwan. The surveys tested how many “positive illusions” the students held, as well as whether they were more motivated by self-enhancement or reality.

Realistic views

The optimists were sorted into two camps: the realists and the idealists.

“Realistic optimists tend to choose accuracy over self-enhancement; the unrealistic optimists tend to choose self-enhancement,” Chou said.

Interestingly, the realistic optimists also got better grades, on average, than their less grounded peers — probably because they didn’t delude themselves into thinking they would do well without studying or working hard, Chou said.

Traditionally, a more realistic outlook is paired with poorer well-being and greater depression, yet the realistic optimists managed to be happy. To understand why, she dug deeper into the personality assessments.

Self-control key

She found that realistic optimists believed they had more self-control and control over their interpersonal relationships.

“Every time they face an issue or a challenge or a problem, they won’t say ‘I have no choice and this is the only thing I can do.’ They will be creative, they will have a plan A, plan B and plan C,” Chou said.

That allows them to stay cheery and upbeat about the future, even if they recognize the challenges of the present.

Being a realistic optimist does have one downside, however: They are more prone to anxiety than their completely unrealistic peers. That’s likely because they recognize the possibility of failure, whereas their counterparts use positive illusions to ease their anxiety, Chou said.

The findings suggest that realistic and unrealistic optimists may actually be very different personality types, Chou said.

In order to cultivate a rosy-but-realistic outlook, people should maintain a clear-eyed view of reality, but emphasize what they can control in most situations, she said.

dievca’s Master has a different take on Himself:
“Idealistic Realism”
An idealistic realist is a realist who understands the realms of possibility but also sees his idealism as a potential reality. You work towards an Ideal knowing the Realities.

By the way – the question of the glass-half-full/empty always baffled dievca – perhaps it is her “realist” tendencies or her Science background – this is her answer:

Glass tech


Cock Worship

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3. A sexual activity that involves kneeling before a penis, gazing at it, playing with it, kissing it, licking it, and sucking it slowly and deliberately to prolong the experience. Often includes ball sucking and rimming to show absolute reverence for the man and his cock.

Urban Dictionary

dievca always finds it interesting that there is a large act of trust displayed by the individual who is being worshiped — it’s a delicate piece of equipment and teeth can be sharp. XO 


A Glowing Presentation

Belly Dancing Light Up Wings

dievca had a lovely Greek Dinner her first night at the beach. The entertainment for the evening started with a Belly Dancer in LED wings.  dievca took a couple of Belly Dancing classes when she arrived in NYC- she shimmys well, though her rib cage undulations needed work.  It wasn’t her thing, but she might have enough movement to make her Master smile with the wings….

The two questions are: How much are the LED wings? (around $50) and is there enough room in a NYC apartment for the wings to flow? (No)


Up for a chat and coffee?

Coffee chatdievca has learned something about the people she considers close friends.  When the shit hits the fan, they connect the first day – and then they check-in on the second day.  It’s very interesting to watch.
dievca thought about it, she checks in, too.

The question is – when dievca really loses it 3 months, hence – will those people mind stepping in a second third time?   Probably, that’s what good friends do~

Watch – it will happen to you.


Kindness and a Libation

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A very large , “Thank You” for your kind words and glasses lifted up to honor a good Life.

The thoughts and presentations are so lovely. And dievca is working through her bottle over a long period as she replies to texts and phone calls.  A little lubrication to celebrate a Life and ease the pain of kindness.

How are you all doing? What’s going on in your lives?

(dievca’s coming up for air~)


What’s in a name?

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dievča is 1/2 дівчинка, but she never really thinks of herself as Ukrainian. she looks like her Dad’s Slovak side of the family (which is — well, maybe, not quite as beautiful as her Mother’s Ukrainian side…).

What prompted these musings?

dievca’s Mom took a turn for the worse and her cousins are coming out of the woodwork to tell her Mom that they love her. Singing Ukrainian songs, sending photos of her Mother to dievca. It is sad and lovely at the same time. The photos shared show that dievca doesn’t really look like her Mom other than the pointy chin which pokes Master’s chest, the color of her eyes (grey), and her voice.

If dievca can’t really look Ukrainian, maybe she could was seek a way to feel more Ukrainian – so she started looking for a vyshyvanka:

Then she remembered that she has this Ulla Johnson blouse – one is enough:

Ulla Johnson Simona Blouse


Feeling the urge to ski~

Skiing

It seems like everyone dievca knows is skiing… In Upstate NY, a friend flew to Austria, another friend will be heading out to Tahoe, CA.  How can dievca get on that train?  She would really like to go to Banff or Whistler in Canada.  Nah, probably not in the cards this year after that 3 week vacation out West.

But it would be really fun to go skiing!

Is anyone planning to ski any time soon?


(looking for a little motivational push through) Put One Foot in Front of the Other

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Put one foot in front of the other
And soon you’ll be walking ‘cross the floor
Put one foot in front of the other
And soon you’ll be walking out the door

You never will get where you’re going
If you never get up on your feet
Come on, there’s a good tailwind blowing
A fast walking man is hard to beat

(Chorus)

If you want to change your direction
If your time of life is at hand
Well don’t be the rule, be the exception
A good way to start is to stand

(Chorus)

If I want to change the reflection
I see in the mirror each morn (Oh you do!)
You mean that it’s just my election (Just that!)
To vote for a chance to be reborn

(Chorus 2x)

Looking for Motivation


Even if you ARE hosting a NYE party…what part of “no”~

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Yes. Yes, it is what you think it might be. Yes, there is a whole website dedicated to this animal part harvested and processed in accordance with the Australian National Parks & Wildlife Service rules and regulations. www.rooballs.com

dievca was doing a gentle wander around the after Christmas sales and ran into this on the Huckberry website.  she didn’t believe it until she looked up the “brand” RooBalls!.

kangaroo-opponentIf someone can explain the appeal for any of the products – deivca would be grateful. (i.e. yesterday was Boxing day and Kangaroos can box…) Please note that she is always up for someone being able to make a $, Australian or otherwise, she just feels these products may be a reach. OK, obviously not.

dievca will be moving on to having that Christmas cookie with wine now…XO


Christmas curmudgeon

dievca is NOT feeling it.

Normally she embraces the Holidays and decorates at the beginning of December.  The tree is in storage, the decorations are in storage, the Christmas Cards for the tips are not done, she is NOT motivated…

Except friends are coming over for dinner and they have children. Tomorrow morning, dievca will schlep her a** to storage and dig everything out, then clean house and set-up the Christmas decorations before making dinner.

UGH.

NOT motivated.

Pick which Christmas Curmedgean fits….


taking a moment to contemplate

Marlene Deitrich Thinking

Do not go where the path may lead.

Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.

—RALPH WALDO EMERSON

Photo: Marlene Dietrich

Coffee with a dead friend.

The ghost is drinking coffee

Everybody knows the secular holiday of Halloween. But not everybody knows it derives from a Holy Day, All Saints’ Day on Nov. 1, which is followed by All Souls’ Day on Nov. 2.

The root word of Halloween is ‘’hallow’’  which means ‘’holy.’’ The suffix “een” is an abbreviation of “evening.” It refers to the Eve of All Hallows, the night before the Christian Holy Day that honors saintly people from the past.

All Saints is a celebration of the communion of saints, those people we believe are in heaven.

All Souls’ Day is a day to pray for all souls.

Where is dievca going with this on a COFFEE MONDAY MORNING?

she realized that she would really like to get a coffee and sit down and have a chat with a dead friend. The friend she went to College with, the friend who loved the Fine Young Cannibals and the Cure, the friend with whom she caused a lot of trouble with, the friend who didn’t pass judgement, the friend who dealt with Gall Bladder Cancer then Pancreatic Cancer with grace.

Do you have anyone you would like to have coffee with?

All Soul’s Day would be the Day.

dievca will hit her friend’s favorite coffee shop in NYC tomorrow.

The graveside chat will be something for next year.


So, I was told its been 8 years…


Where does the time go? Is this blog worth my time? What do I want/need from it?

I would like to thank everyone who stops by, now and again. I haven’t been a good friend/blogger by checking-in with others as much as I should. As much as I would like to ~
Catholic guilt…

Just know that as the blog adds a year and I, as a Libra, add a year.
I wish everyone well. Good physical health and good mental health.
Never hurts to have someone sending “good vibes” into your corner…

So, please share my Years with me and, for the moment, I plan to continue~

XO dievča


Ice Cream w/Chocolate vs Coffee…

It’s a Tough Choice:
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A new twist – estrogen drop

Erect Nipple

So your female submissive is in her 40’s to 50’s and her levels of hormones have been shifting all over the place.

One bonus might be a drop in estrogen which causes the progesterone levels rise, triggering her nipples to be more sensitive. Perhaps her nipples have been a non-entity for years and now they are front and center – literally – shape and size. Something that has been numb in the past, has become incredibly touchy – which makes for another dimension in play.

Go cautiously, but the bodily change might offer diversity and delight for both Dominant and submissive!

dievca has found one positive aspect of perimenopause and Master ran with it!


Do people watch a television any more?

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Or is everyone streaming content? Netflix, AppleTV, peacock, Disney+, etc.
Does broadcast television exist anymore?
Where does one start when you haven’t watched a “show” in years?
dievca was working under the theory that she would watch TV when her body couldn’t move anymore.
she’d catch up on all the movies she hadn’t seen or watch “Sex in the City” for the 1st time.
Now there is too much content.
she’s frozen.
Analyze to Paralyze…

God, is the World passing dievca by? or can she catch a ride on the next trend?

Anyone out there feeling the same?


Interesting on so many levels

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dievca was looking for a little submissive elegance and ran into this advertisement from the Cigar Institute of America.  Their message is interesting on many levels: Why just single girls? Is she a gold digger? Does she just want to be taken care of like a good cigar? Can you truly justify that starting to smoke cigars young will keep you young? She does look older than he does.  If you don’t inhale you can still enjoy the rich flavor – is that like not swallowing in fellatio?  Hmm – much to think about~


My Mom isn’t eating much.

HeartAnd she is a sleeping more. Is it depression or time to go?
Its the first time dievca’s Mom wanted to sleep rather than speak with her. 

When you are the youngest of the two youngest and everyone (Dad/Aunts/Uncles) have passed.  Your last tie to an Era will soon be cut.  You can only hope that your oldest cousins can answer your questions about Family.

she knows she shouldn’t borrow trouble, but dievca’s heart is hurting.

Her Mom’s Life isn’t really a Life – so it will be good when Mom catches up with dievca’s Dad. She misses him

dievca just keeps sending Love from her mind and her heart.


Every body is a poem ~

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dievca ran into this sweatshirt at H&M in NYC. she agrees with the message.
“Work with what God gave you” and “rock it”, comes to mind.
Maybe the changes in one’s body due to age are the stanzas.
Or maybe one’s body is just a “Work of Art” in progress.
That seems to fit.
XO