Sampling – sometimes a dievca is clueless

The 1988 hip hop song dievca knew from dancing in the clubs:

Was sampled from this 1972 Funk song by Lyn Collins produced by James Brown and features instrumental backing from his band The J.B.’s. It’s been sampled a number of times.

dievca was pleasantly surprised to hear this out on a walk along the Hudson River.
It reminds her that even if she thinks she is knowledgable about music….she’s still missing pieces~


Restraints

If you are tied up, anything can happen. Even if nothing happens beyond kissing, the physical nature of being bound heightens everything.

With extra time on hand, dievca took a BDSM test for giggles (www.bdsmtest.org) – her results are above. she was taken aback by “Rope Bunny” being the highest percentage – especially since rope bondage (shibari) is really not one of her or Master’s interests.

she’s been pondering the high percentage ever since.

The aha! moment came yesterday after meeting and playing with Master.  Master created various cuff and strap connections during play, in response dievca switched submissive and moved all in.

Master asked her about being restrained afterward and she had a hard time verbalizing exactly why she is able to let go fully.
The gist is that dievca isn’t interested in full bondage for beauty or complete limitation of movement.
she is interested in being restrained to place full trust in Master and take away control from pieces of her body to focus fully on Master and other bodily responses. The energy from the restraints can be pushed elsewhere.

Does that make sense?


Good Advice from the Fortune Cookie

Photo: dievca fortune from cookie 05/2020

dievca had to run out to a smaller town in New Jersey for work.
BTW, groceries are cheaper.
And two Chinese Food Restaurants were open for delivery/pick-up.
(there are none open by dievca in NYC)

The monosodium glutamate (MSG) might kill you but
the taste of change and fortune is coming in a timely manner.

How are you holding up?

 

Positive Attitude Improves Your Mental Health

Approximately one in five Americans suffers from a mental health issue like anxiety or depression at any given time. While a positive outlook can’t prevent all mental health conditions, it can reduce your risk of developing depression and anxiety.


Flabile

This now-obsolete word has several definitions:

in the context of an instrument, flabile means “played by blowing”;
more broadly it means “liable to be blown about.”
The term is built on the Latin verb flare meaning “to blow.”


Why it works (Horoscope-wise)

Libra (Sept. 23 to Oct. 22) –dievca

In most areas of their lives, The Scales are always seeking balance, except in the bedroom where playing with power and throwing off balance becomes very erotic. These closet freaks love to play with domination and submission.

Libras are people-pleasers. Outside of the bedroom, they often spend much of their time mirroring the behavior of others, as the last thing they want is to cause any offense. Being the submissive party allows Libras to get the kind of direction and guidance they wish they could receive constantly. Slow and sensuous usually Libras are happiest when they are told exactly what they can do to make their SO satisfied. Those born under this air sign also have a difficult time making decisions, so if a dominating partner is in charge, a Libra can just relax and enjoy themselves.

Consent and trust matter above all, but in a healthy BDSM relationship, having a partner who’s particularly fond of submitting can make for an incredibly sexy dynamic in bed.

 

Scorpio (Oct. 23–Nov. 21) -Master

Aw, Scorpio. Don’t be fooled by this water sign — when it comes to getting it on, Scorpio can bring the heat. Intense and passionate, Scorpio is naturally dominant in the bedroom and wants nothing more than to tell their partner exactly what to do. Not one to be sheepish about toys or new positions, Scorpio will set the tone of their sexual encounters, expecting their partner to (consensually!) follow along.

There’s no surprise that the most sexual of all the signs like to take their bedroom play to the extreme.

Signs which are submissive

Signs which are Dominant


On the Road, again.


Actually, the rental car is new and running very well.

Travel across was very easy.
Packing food was a good idea and I’d like to give a “shout” out to Ohio for the best rest stops.
Clean, spacious — amazing.
BTW – gasoline prices ranged from $1.99 to $1.15 per gallon – east to west.

Something interesting to note – the further away from NYC, the more lax people are about COVID-19.
Yes, it makes sense when your area has 180 deaths versus the 13,168 in NYC.
But seeing 65+-year-olds without masks and gloves in a Wal-Mart really stressed me out.

BTW – it was confirmed post-mortem that Dad’s death was not COVID-19.
Why do the test?
So, the Hospice nurses who neglected Dad would come back for Mom’s appointments.
still salty bout that

As for my Mom?
My Mom has blown through the stages of Grief and is getting ready to blow through them, again.
She is eating and sleeping well, for me at least.
Yesterday would have been Mom and Dad’s 66th Wedding Anniversary.

OK – as you read this, I am back in the car – starting Day 2 of the return trip.
Drive Safe!
Ciao~
XO


Not really a problem in D/s


People always talk about Trust in a BDSM relationship.
Communication.
If it works well, the embarrassment factor of any activity disappears.
Your Sir or Madam has seen or will see all realms of awkwardness if you are adventurous.
Sexually or just within the Power Exchange.

The good news is with Trust you will look at your Dominant or submissive and think,
“Oh-Yes, I want to do that again!”