Silence and Candles

Eight Candles surround me
Offering a soft glow
Linking Night to the Morn

Silence loud in absence
Absolutely peaceful
The healing has begun

Looking back carefully
Confident glance forward
New opportunities


A little love from NYC

Photo: dievca NYC 12/2018

Sometimes we are a small speck in the wide World.
But Joy can still shine through.
Love to you in this challenging time of the Year.


Duality – Ashley Williams

du·al·i·ty
/d(y)o͞oˈalədē/

noun
1.
the quality or condition of being dual.
2.
an instance of opposition or contrast between two concepts or two aspects of something; a dualism.

Ashley Williams rhinestone hairpins offer a duality of personality or sexuality preference. Available at ssense.com


A cozy upgrade – something of use.

Floor to ceiling windows make for a great view,
but dievca’s apartment doesn’t warm-up quickly before the morning sun.

Enter a gift received over 3 years ago:

Ugg Duffield Blanket Home Collection (click photo to purchase the latest version)

  • 50″ x 70″
  • 100% polyester with 95% cotton, 5% spandex trim
  • Machine wash cold, tumble dry low
  • $98

Fuzzy, cozy, light and wash machine friendly, the throw has been extremely useful, but not super stylish.

Enter Missoni Home:

Missoni Home Jocker Throw Multi (dievca bought hers on sale at Yoox, click photo for a place to purchase the throw)

  • Material: 80% wool, 20% polyamide
  • Dimensions: 130x190cm
  • Soft chunky weave
  • Neutral colors with multi colors in between
  • Made in Italy
  • $523

dievca thought she would upgrade with Missoni and donate the Ugg to Goodwill. Instead, she’s been using both throws consistently, one on the sofa and one in the bedroom.

 


An odd post…..

The WSJ: Saint Patrick’s Cathedral NYC

dievca hasn’t gone to Mass in a long while. she’s no longer a practicing Catholic. The drift happened many years ago and started with an unwelcoming Diocese and misuse of funds from a family Parish.

Oddly, Saint Patrick’s Cathedral in NYC is welcoming enough to allow anyone to offer up a Mass. One does not need to be a Parishioner of the Church. A Mass card can be sent as an acknowledgment of passing by anyone of any Religion or Church. A chance to have a devout group add their prayers to dievca’s more secular wishes.

It’s pretty much the first time since dievca’s Theology courses in College, the Catholic Church has shown her a form of tolerance and inclusiveness. Granted a donation is involved – but whatever works.

The Gentleman at the Parish House now knows dievca’s face and name, she’s been in 11 times this year. Family members, friends, friend’s family members have passed and dievca had a Mass said and sent a Saint Patrick’s Cathedral Mass Card.

What to Say When Someone Dies

  • When in doubt, reach out
  • Show up in person
  • Send a Sympathy Card
  • Consider sending a gift
  • Anticipate their needs
  • Don’t try to “fix” their grief
  • Don’t avoid saying the deceased person’s name
  • Keep checking in
  • Don’t worry about getting it 100% right

(click here for more information)


Are you shagging or SHAGGING?

MALIBU, CALIFORNIA – JULY 15,1956: Actress Natalie Wood dances with actor Hugh O’Brian during the Thalians Beach Ball in Malibu, California. (Photo by Earl Leaf/Michael Ochs Archives/Getty Images)

shagging (usually uncountable, plural shaggings) (Britain, vulgar, slang) An act (or acts) of sexual intercourse.

Or

n.

dance step of the 1930s consisting of a hop-on each foot in turn.

intr.v. shaggedshag·gingshags

To perform or execute this dance.
Let’s just say that dievca is not up on her shag dance technique,
but it looks awfully fun!