When we talk about sexual interest, expressive men have the “crotch display” – sitting with the legs wide apart to signal virility and availability. These men usually signal that they feel dominant, strong and even a little smug – this position takes a lot of space and exposes their groin for the World to see. The position can easily offend others (on the Subway) or entice them.
You Sit: With legs wide open
It means: Arrogance, combative, sexual posturing
Or the legs are spread open by your Sir or Madam.
A most beautiful friend died yesterday.
I got to see her, say “I love you” and hold her hand before she moved on.
I’m hoping that she was able to float out on the next plane, blissing out, losing her pain.
“I used to know a blissed-out hippie-chick in Baltimore,” recalled Byrne in the liner notes of Once in a Lifetime: The Best of Talking Heads. “She once told me that she used to do acid (the drug, not music) and lay down on the field by the Yoo-hoo chocolate soda factory. Flying out of her body, etc etc. It seemed like such a tacky kind of transcendence… but it was real! A new kind of religion being born out of heaps of rusted cars and fast food joints. And this girl was flying above it all, but in it too.”
Then as I thought about it more — I think that my friend would prefer to leave you with this:
Me? I’m firmly on the ground.
You know you have elderly parents when:
- You’ve survived multiple episodes of falls, strokes, heart issues and you are unfazed, you roll.
- The house or living situation has wellness paraphernalia all around (nebulizer attachments).
- You have Amazon Prime and use it for reoccurring orders of incontinence pads and underwear.
- You find the most simple coffee-maker for your Mom to use and write down the directions.
- You feel like you are going deaf from “yelling” to be heard.
- You know where the bleach, oxyclean and pee pads are located in the house.
- You can make-up a week of Meds for both parents in 15 minutes or less.
- You know the way to make the Meds because your Dad continues to tell you how to do it.
- You know the neighbors, friends and home aides who assist and visit your Parents.
- You are extremely grateful to those people and their patience with hearing a story 20+ times.
- Their behavior reminds you to pay-it-forward.
- You’ve learned to take a breath because you know how much your Dad hates losing his control.
- You have seen enough bodily functions to try to figure out solutions to the bodily challenges.
- You get excited for a Toto Washlet Toilet seat.
- You look for things to tempt your parent’s taste buds because they don’t eat enough.
- You really want a glass of wine at 11 am, daily when you are home.
- Reminder: we will all be elderly at some point with Luck.
- You make notes for when you are older.
I am sure you can add to this list, please feel free to do so in the comments.
(PS. Both, Mom and Dad, had check-ups today and things are going relatively well.)
as you are cruising the Holiday Party chaos…
Common thought holds that there are two types of social personalities. Extroverts are the norm, and they tend to draw energy from their physical and social environment and interactions in highly social situations. Introverts have got more attention, as characterized by Susan Cain in her 2012 work Quiet: the Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking. Not surprisingly, introverts tend to draw their power from solitude and silence.
But there might be a third category of social personality: the ambivert. You may be an ambivert and not know it, but with the list of signs below, you might diagnose yourself and plan accordingly.
I like getting my energy from active involvement in events and having a lot of different activities. I’m excited when I’m around people and I like to energize other people. I like moving into action and making things happen. I generally feel at home in the world. I often understand a problem better when I can talk out loud about it and hear what others have to say.
The following statements generally apply to me:
- I am seen as “outgoing” or as a “people person.”
- I feel comfortable in groups and like working in them.
- I have a wide range of friends and know lots of people.
- I sometimes jump too quickly into an activity and don’t allow enough time to think it over.
- Before I start a project, I sometimes forget to stop and get clear on what I want to do and why.
I like getting my energy from dealing with the ideas, pictures, memories, and reactions that are inside my head, in my inner world. I often prefer doing things alone or with one or two people I feel comfortable with. I take time to reflect so that I have a clear idea of what I’ll be doing when I decide to act. Ideas are almost solid things for me. Sometimes I like the idea of something better than the real thing.
The following statements generally apply to me:
- I am seen as “reflective” or “reserved.”
- I feel comfortable being alone and like things I can do on my own.
- I prefer to know just a few people well.
- I sometimes spend too much time reflecting and don’t move into action quickly enough.
- I sometimes forget to check with the outside world to see if my ideas really fit the experience.
The fact is, extraversion and introversion isn’t an either/or type of thing. It’s a spectrum and you can lie anywhere along that spectrum.
10 Signs You Are Probably An Ambivert
- You are most comfortable in crowded spaces, but when you are in them, you don’t tend to seek out interaction.
- You tolerate or engage in small talk, but can get very engaged in intimate conversations.
- You adjust your personality based on the energy level of the company you are in.
- You might be the life of the party – until you are 100% drained and cannot manage that energy any longer.
- In spite of being the life of the party at times, you find it hard to assert yourself and your needs in intimate situations.
- Meeting new people is fine, and being in new places is fine, but meeting new people in new places overwhelms you.
- You can’t decide which is a better memory – that one party or that night spent alone watching Netflix.
- You understand very quickly what drives others.
- Group projects or solo ones – you always achieve the same (high) level.
- You’ve been called both an extrovert and an introvert, and didn’t know there was another option until now.
So….who are YOU?
An extrovert, an introvert, an extroverted-introvert, an introverted extrovert, an ambivert?
Photos: Leonard Freed 1966 NYC Office Party – Magnum Photos
Looking at Type: The Fundamentals by Charles R. Martin (CAPT 1997)
Communication Motivation by Jacob Cashman
What do you think?
This phrase on a T-shirt or Sweater really doesn’t make dievca feel comfortable…..the translation is slang – “I don’t really give a f*ck.” Both from Zadig & Voltaire.
Both a relatively expensive…hmmm~
And something similar in English from Ashley Williams….
Are they statements that someone wants to wear on their chests? What does it mean when you state that you don’t care? What don’t you care about?
Humanity, the World, Life?
dievca is just confused…
Photos: Top two – Bryant Park Christmas Village Starlight shop, Middle – January 1987 Poem, Bottom two – the star dievca bought.