Diner Coffee


Having a little Sunday Breakfast before the noon NY Rangers Ice Hockey game,
dievca witnessed Philadelphia Flyers fans and Rangers fans being cordial.
Must have needed some coffee before getting fired up for the game.


Flyers won, 5-3


Maybe only people with Elderly Parents understand

It was a day before 10 am.
Dad hadn’t a movement in 8 days….with softners, prunes and trying to get him to drink as much water as possible, etc..

It took an Army.
Daughter, Caregiver, Nurse, Home Aid – suppository, prune juice & butter, manipulations, tummy rubbing, squat positioning being held up.

All while two people maneuvered Mom into the bathtub. 
Then the arguing about taking a shower began – 5 weeks of Sponge Baths in a row doesn’t cut it.

It was a hell of a Birthday for Dad – but he’s loose and clean!

We ALL needed a drink by Noon.

Mom and Dad just took a nap~


Dancing in Air: for Family

Big February Birthdays!
Dad, he’s still hanging on.
Brother? It’s a big one.
(But in all honesty…dievca is dreading the trip.)


Star sign = Sexual Play

Aquarius (Jan 20 – Feb 18)

You’re into rubber play. You love rubber in the bedroom so much that it feels like a second skin.

Best of all, it can help you have another identity when getting down to business. If you haven’t tried it before, best to start small and work your way up.

 

Pisces (Feb 18 – Mar 20)

With the imagination you’ve got, you’re into role play. Because of this, you can delve into any fantasy.

It makes sure that things are never boring in the bedroom, and you can tap into anyone’s desire.

 

 

Aries (Mar 20 – Apr 20)

Authority turns you on. That’s why you’re so into rough play. Think Fifty Shades of Grey in reality.

Things are intense, animalistic and you’ll have a deeper connection than your average sex session. Kinky.

 

Taurus (Apr 20 – May 21)

You’re all about the physical, and that’s why you’re into body play. You don’t need toys or gadgets to stimulate you, it’s all about the touch, taste, feel and smell.

You also know how to build up to things, and you know exactly where the most sensitive parts are.

 

Gemini (May 21 – Jun 21)

While Pisces have the imagination, Gemini is into one specific thing. Uniform play. With you, it’s about authority without the pain.

Or you also like it playful and exciting. So much choice.

 

 

Cancer (Jun 21 – Jul 23)

This cheeky star sign is into one simple thing – mouth play. While it might not necessarily be a fetish, it’s definitely something they love.

It’s not just about one simple thing either, they’re into anything to do with the mouth and they have plenty of fun doing it.

 

Leo (Jul 23 – Aug 23)

A fiery star sign that likes to dominate, Leo’s are into power play. They like to be submissive to their partner, and also like to take control.

It’s all about having that power over someone else, very appropriate for the lion.

 

Virgo (Aug 23 – Sep 23)

They’re all about the excitement, so it’s no surprise that they love toy play. Why not surprise them with your skills with tools?

Virgo’s most likely have a collection of things to play with, so you can be sure they’re never out of new ideas for sex.

 

Libra (Sep 23 – Oct 23)

It’s all about the response with this star sign, so no prizes for guessing they enjoy sensation play.

For this silky sign, it’s all about the different materials used. Feathers, silk, and fur will all go down a treat.

 

Scorpio (Oct 23 – Nov 22)

Intensity is the name of the game with a Scorpio, and they’re very into temperature play.

In a world of extremes, Scorpio’s like it either really hot or really cold – there’s no middle ground with these guys. Just don’t play with fire!

 

 

Sagittarius (Nov 22 – Dec 22)

Daring situations are the thing, and with that in mind, it’s all about outdoor play. With the chance of being caught, this only brings more excitement.

Senses are heightened and things are more immediate. So fun.

 

 

Capricorn (Dec 23 – Jan 20)

Are you a climber, or are you just a Capricorn? Because they’re really into rope play.

Whether that means being tied up or being suspended from a height – or something even kinkier – it’s all about the skill with this one.

 

So, are the suggestions correct for your or your partner’s sign?

A “Thank You” Cosmo and to Laura Lyne of the Mirror.


Let’s talk about Sex, Baby – actually Arousal~

What is happening between your legs as well as between your ears during arousal?

Desire usually refers to emotionally wanting to have sex, while arousal refers to the physiological changes in your body that happen when you are sexually excited.

During arousal, your brain is welling up with powerful hormones: dopamine and oxytocin. Dopamine, which comes first, triggers feelings of motivation. I really want to get this person naked. Oxytocin, the ‘Cuddle Hormone’, kicks in later and makes you feel bonded with your partner.

As a pair, the two neurotransmitters explain why we feel instantly — if momentarily — bonded to our partner when we start to feel turned on. During arousal, certain geography of the brain lights up like fireworks. Half a dozen parts of the brain become activated, including the amygdala (associated with emotions), the hippocampus (associated with memory management), and the anterior insula (helps process physical feelings).

Men and women’s brains don’t always respond the same way to arousing stimuli. In a study published in 2015, men and women watched a series of erotic videos while researchers examined their brains using an fMRI. Both men and women reported feelings of arousal while watching the videos, but researchers noticed that men showed more brain activity in the amygdala while women showed hardly any.

More so than men, women tend to be aroused by stimuli that they can “imagine themselves into” — like an erotic story, or an imagined fantasy. Another study that tracked eye movement as people watched pornography, found that both men and women’s eyes were locked on the woman in the film — regardless of their sexual orientation. The theory? Women need to imagine their way “into” the scene, while men are satisfied by focusing on the visual imagery alone.

Researchers also noticed that women’s stimulation of the vagina, clitoris, and nipples all correspond to the same precise area of the sensory cortex — meaning that all of those areas register as erogenous. Yes, confirming the obvious, but arousal has been difficult to measure as there is often a disconnect between what is happening in your genitals, your brain, and your consciousness.

John Bancroft, Ph.D., senior researcher and former director of the Kinsey Institute, has studied how arousal develops, and his research pinpoints something important:

We need to be aware of our own arousal before we can really feel aroused.

Photo: Shutterstock B-D-S Piotr Marcinski

“In the male, sexual arousal is typically associated with some degree of penile erection. The man will become aware of this, and focus his attention on the idea of his penis being stimulated,” explains Dr. Bancroft. But, in women, the equivalent — the stiffening of the clitoris — isn’t nearly as noticeable, and “typically the woman is less aware of her genital response unless her genitals are touched.”

Cognitive components of arousal are especially important for women. Just like sensual touching can jumpstart arousal, so too can sensual thought. Reading erotica, watching pornography, fantasizing about an erotic scenario, or even just thinking about sex all trigger a response in the brain — which, in turn, contributes to feelings of arousal. The biggest sex organ in the body is the brain, talking with a lover in a loving, sexy way can cause a man to become erect, or a woman to become wet.

The mechanics of sexual arousal are well-known, but are there things that can take our arousal to the next level? There are all kinds of supposed ‘sexual aids’ in the form of herbs, supplements, and exercise methods that claim to improve libido. e.g. eating oysters, taking ginseng, using THC lube. No conclusive evidence has been found that these items do not work, but there is no good evidence that they do work either.

What is recommended and proven is communication. The sharing of one’s desires is a great arousal jump-starter. Working to shed inhibitions and opening yourself emotionally can help you get into the right headspace to feel turned on. Don’t think of ‘foreplay’  as something completed to get to a conclusive event (orgasm). Think ‘sex play’ — a menu of different activities to create pleasure between partners, sometimes with a formal conclusion, sometimes without.


And sometimes you just want a cookie~

Tea Party circa 1910

When discussing Hospice and a DNR-order becomes too much,
just do what dievca’s Mom did to stop the conversation –
ask for an Apricot Cookie.

dievca’s brother isn’t sure how much Mom absorbed,
but the cookie went down well with tea.

A tactic dievca plans on using in the future when facing something unpleasant.

do-not-resuscitate order, or DNR order, is a medical order written by a doctor. It instructs health care providers not to do cardiopulmonary resuscitation (CPR) if a patient’s breathing stops or if the patient’s heart stops beating.


a side note – sweet treats

So, dievca’s cousin said she didn’t think the Church had orechovnik (nut roll) available, but another cousin said he knew a bakery in Ohio which does mail-order and is quite good.

Note: dievca is the youngest of a SLEW of older cousins with an 8-year gap between her and the nearest in age – you know those Catholics, no birth control. 🙄

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Hungarian Apricot Kolaches

dievca ordered a bunch of orechovnik and koláče for her parents and her one brother who is celebrating his birthday. Everything arrived on time and in excellent condition. The koláče went over very well with dievca’s brother and her Mother. Dad prefers his orchnovnik. They froze two extra nut rolls for when dievca arrives in February.

If you read the bakery’s history, it tells about when they decided to focus on one location and online presence – they trimmed their offerings to the most popular items. That ended up being mostly eastern European baked goods.

Apparently a good choice.