Something of a smile

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“He’s very good looking and very sexy and all of those things, but all of that goes out the window and what is finally left is, if you can make somebody laugh … And he sure does keep me laughing” -Joanne Woodward

Paul Newman attributed their relationship success to “some combination of lust and respect and patience.
And determination.”
Paul Newman claimed that “Joanne gave birth to a sexual creature”.  dievca attributes a similar opening up experience to her Master.

Kinky Help with your Taxes!

In the USA taxes are due today, April 18

Federal tax deadline 2023

Taxes are due by April 18 since April 15 falls on a Saturday and Emancipation Day, a holiday observed in Washington, D.C., is April 17.
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Master’s taxes were completed 1st. dievca’s were accepted last week.  But if you are in a situation which calls for a bit more help in the Kink Lifestyle (Poly, Dom/sub, Influencers, Only Fans, Kink related businesses, etc.)  www. KinkyCPA.com might be a place to visit in the future.  
The site looks like a judgement free zone, which can be comforting in many situations. 
Something to keep in mind for next year!
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Master and dievca figured it out.

We hope you do, too.

Happy Monday!


It’s gone now~

But it made for a GREAT snowball fight when needed.

Photo: dievca, Midwest Snow 03/2023


Heading back to Wet Snow

Wet snow

dievca’s flying back Midwest to watch and sort “slides!’ from her Parents.  Should be an interesting time as the slides are from before she was born.  Her oldest brother will be helping and she asked some cousins to be “on call” for identification help.  Doesn’t matter – there will be 6 “rugrats” running around and that, plus wet snow, will make for a good time.  dievca’s got her snow boots and snow pants at the ready.  Have a good weekend!


Sorry – a bit out of it.

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Master and His dievca shared the wealth and both are under the weather at the moment.

Back in action soon.

d~


Giving up Chocolate (for Lent)

Ash Wednesday is a holy day of prayer and fasting in many Western Christian denominations. It is preceded by Shrove Tuesday and falls on the first day of Lent. It is observed by Catholics in the Roman Rite, Lutherans, Moravians, Anglicans, Methodists, Nazarenes, as well as by some churches in the Reformed tradition. Wikipedia

Why do people give things up until Easter Sunday? Millions of people do this during Lent as a sign of sacrifice and to test their self-discipline. Christians believe that this is to represent Jesus Christ’s sacrifice when he went into the desert to pray and fast for the 40 days before later dying on the cross. BBC


Happy early Valentine’s Day

Coffee Valentines Day

~from my heart to Yours~

XO dievča


and a sidestep with Scandal

Master was teasing His dievca about “her” music when she told Him about watching music videos on Sunday evenings for an hour because the family dievca was living with during her sports training didn’t have cable.  Weekly, at 10:58 pm, this song would come on to close out the music video hour. 

The next thing you know, Master is singing the “earworm” for the rest of the day…and dievca is flashing back to being 14 years old~


Expect the Unexpected

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Your Knight in Shining Armor can come in many different shapes and sizes.  They may be what you are looking for or they may be something completely different. All dievca can suggest is to “be open” and your gift may fulfill your Life more than you could imagine.


All Saints, All Souls

Communion_of_saints_baptistry_padua_2016-2The All Saints’ Day (November 1st) celebration was also called All-hallows or All-hallowmas (from Middle English Alholowmesse meaning All Saints’ Day) and the night before it, the traditional night of Samhain in the Celtic religion, began to be called All-Hallows Eve and, eventually, Halloween.

It is celebrated on the first Sunday of the Pentecost by Eastern Orthodox Churches. It is an official public holiday in Catholic countries. It is not an official public holiday in the US, the UK, Canada, and Australia. Other names for it are All Hallows’ Day, Feast of All Saints, Solemnity of All Saints, and Hallowmas.

All Souls’ Day (Novermber 2nd) is a Catholic day of remembrance dedicated to those who have recently died.

dievca is not going to make it to Texas for coffee on her friend’s grave.

All Saints’ is a reach for dievca, but she has a list for All Souls’ Day – her parents, college roommate, college good friend, workmates, family members, etc. Maybe dievca will head up to Saint John’s the Divine in Manhattan Valley (112th and Amsterdam) to visit a lovely lady interred there and stay a moment for others.  Might be a good place to reflect on Life.

dievca is sending love and prayers for your Souls, too. 


Needed a moment (again) to regroup

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A long weekend – a college friend has chosen not to operate on their cancer due to quality of Life and has five years. This is where you find out what speaks to you in Life and you do it.

Photo: Vivienne Westwood Lingerie BDSM

Need a Moment, Wednesday

Today wasn’t planned this way – but this is what/when you:

Need a Moment
Close Friend’s 20-Something has cancer and surgery within 24 hours.

When it’s your older brother who smoked cigars and Stage 2 – expected.
Young Adult, not expected.
Need a minute.


a sad favorite

Olivia Newton-John passed away yesterday.  she seemed like a very kind individual and dievca was prompted to revisit her music.  dievca’s favorite song from her is pretty much the saddest song.

dievca prefers the original:


A Mature Moment – Modehus

dievca’s Swedish friend laughs at her because dievca always has to visit two stores in a small town.  One is an optical shop that sells great eyeglass frames and the second is, well, yeah – a “Mature Women’s” shop . A modehus that her friend does not step into unless dievca is visiting.  Let’s put it this way – dievca saw a pair of cropped pants in the store and then saw them on her friend’s Mother-in-Law an hour later.

Whatever.  dievca stops in because she always finds a gem.

Two trips ago, the gem was a dress made by a Danish designer upcycling vintage Sari silk.  dievca still wears the dress.  dievca bought a similar dress on her last trip, but she felt that the arms were too snug and she passed it on to her Dutch friend.  Her friend loves the dress so much and has worn it a number of times that she had to wash it.

dievca received this photo in response:

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You have to appreciate a fabric care tag telling it like it is!

What did dievca buy this trip? 

Well, TWO pairs of eyeglass frames – but they will appear in another post and a “Made in Italy” linen top which was a tunic but dievca’s friend’s Mother cropped it for our short dievca:

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It looks clean and crisp with white jeans and the Zimmerman sandals:


Catching up with Master

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Always a delightful endeavor.


Cheap Date~(closure of Elderly Parents)

Airport lounge champagnedievca lost those 8 hours of work on Friday with travel debacles, she made them up by starting at 4:00 am and plowing through the house. Her brother, Sister-in-Law, Nephew and Niece-in-Law + the three older kids (10, 9, 7) were amazing. 3 bedrooms 2.5 baths, full basement, full attic, 3 stall garage – sorted, packed, Goodwilled, Seniors Elderly Center, Animal Shelter and the house staged with furniture wanted by the buyer and left with some accessories/decent linens.

Dinners were nice affairs – Pizza on late arrival with Red wine. Caregivers and everyone shared a lovely meal with Seafood/Italian to honor Mom and Dad amidst the house chaos + the chocolates Mom loved, Wild Rice Chicken and Mushroom Soup + fresh baked bread the next evening at dievca’s Nephew/Nieces’ house. After the dinners, back to work for dievca for an hour or so.  Then, early to bed, early to rise.

At the Airport, dievca was handed a flute of champagne and started buzzing immediate due to exhaustion and lack of food.  she went for a second glass and overheard the bartender say that the “premium” champagne was being served because the inexpensive one ran out. So, when her elbow knocked over 1/3 of the flute of champage, dievca ponder getting a third flute – but getting bombed before a flight was not on the agenda.

Caregivers are cleaning the house today, dievca’s brother will do a walk-thru with realtor on Weds – closing on Friday if all goes well.

dievca’s Brother was on a mission to get the house sold. she would not recommend this timeline to anyone, but it is possible with many hands working together. XO

Side note: Mom and Dad’s ashes were in the Laundry Room, side by side.  Mom obviously weighed a lot less than Dad did at the end – we think it was the osteoperosis. The 1st night dievca needed water at 3 am and she ran into the laundry room to grab a bottle – the light over Mom and Dad was flickering.  Then she found a $100 bill in a card that her Dad had written, “Happy Birthday” with no name on it. Used the money to pay for the babysitter watching the 3 younger kids (5, 3, 1.5) – Dad would have been happy.


Taking a page from Mom

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dievca’s Mom had a lot of clothing in various places around the house (socks and stockings in the TV Armoire ?!?!?). dievca had completed her Dad’s clothing and thought she was finished, but she forgot all of the drawers upstairs. So, dievca sat on the stairs sorting scarves and tops for the final hurrah…and then treated herself to a bath where her Mom was oh so happy.  It was a lovely bath – the glass of wine didn’t hurt. Maybe she won’t be too sore tomorrow.

Furniture into storage and more GoodWill runs on the agenda.

dievca hopes everyone is doing well.


Moving 20+ year of stuff

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Is Tricky!

dievca is flying back to the Midwest to clear out the house.
There is a buyer – they want the furniture.
Cross fingers it goes through. XO


Whiplash – selling the house

dievca was looking out at the sunset when her brother called.  Apparently 6 people saw Mom and Dad’s house today – the first day it was listed.  Mom and Dad lived in a small town in a rural area surrounded by farms….so both dievca and her brother were surprised.

There are 7 more people on the schedule for tomorrow. Someone made a cash offer today and the realtor will ask for ‘Highest and Best’ offers by 5 pm tomorrow night to decide. dievca is not sure why the realtor isn’t asking for “Best and Final” offers because dievca’s brother wants the house sold as is and as soon as possible

That means dievca will have to hustle back and get the furniture and things sorted. It would have been nice to do it in April – not the deep of February. (Shit, why not just pile one more item on a failing dievca…🙄)

Please note that the house is not the one dievca grew up in – just the one her parents built to die in.

Photo: dievca Hudson River NYC 01/2022

Up for a chat and coffee?

Coffee chatdievca has learned something about the people she considers close friends.  When the shit hits the fan, they connect the first day – and then they check-in on the second day.  It’s very interesting to watch.
dievca thought about it, she checks in, too.

The question is – when dievca really loses it 3 months, hence – will those people mind stepping in a second third time?   Probably, that’s what good friends do~

Watch – it will happen to you.


If you have a Moment to Share~

20220104_194006_resized - Copy Please find your most elegant champagne, wine, whiskey, or highball glass to fill and please Toast my lovely Mother (and my Gentleman of a Father). Now, they have both moved on.

It took the Priest and ‘Last Rites’ to help change Mom’s breathing pattern – we think she was working things out in her mind.

Bittersweet.

Anyways, the funny thing is that dievca had read a NYer Article about Estate Sales before bed. So, when she dreamed about Waterford Crystal at 1:30 am and her Mom came in for a chat – she didn’t think much of it. But, it was Mom stopping by – she passed at 1:30 am.

And the Waterford? Going to dievca’s Niece-In-Law if she wants it.

XO


Patient, but going downhill a bit.


“Do not go gentle into that good night.”

Young and Older Hands

  • What makes life worth living?
  • What would make life definitely not worth living?
  • What might at first seem too much to put up with, but then might seem manageable after getting familiar with the situation and learning to deal with it?
  • If you knew life was coming to an end, what would be comforting and make dying feel safe?
    What, in that situation, would you want to avoid?
  • How much control is important for you to have when facing a terminal illness?

We may see that dying is the better of two choices, and be ready to give the loved one permission to die. The dying person may be distressed at causing grief for those who love them, and, receiving permission to die can relieve their distress. There is a time for this to happen. Before that, it feels wrong to accept a loss, but after that it can be an act of great kindness to say, “You may go when you feel it is time. I will be OK.”

At the time a person is near death, sometimes touch is the best communication. Gentle stroking of a hand or a cheek, and quietly reassuring the person that you love them and that you will be all right is perhaps the most compassionate way to ease your loved one on his journey. In a situation where you are not present at the time of death, forgive yourself and know that you did the best you could to make the final hours or weeks of life peaceful and meaningful.

According to Hospice and an EMT Family Member, Mom is holding on hard. dievca’s one brother is there, Grandchildren are there, a lovely Caregiver, the Great-Grandchild have gone over, dievca and her cousins have spoken and sang to Mom, dievca hopes her other brother has spoken to Mom, but she’s not sure….what are we missing?

dievca’s Dad checked in with everyone and then let go~ We cannot figure out what Mom is holding on for~ she moves her lips when something pleases her and the mention of a bath causes those lips to move. Mom floats with her Osteoperosis. Maybe the simple pleasure of a bath~

Just wish we could figure out what would help.

Hello Lovely Bath Mat


D/s (elfje)

Ball Gag and Mask

Restrained
Spread Wide
Master Speaks His Command
Orgasm


Happy New Year!

GLORIA DeHAVEN New Year's Eve

May you have a very Healthy, Happy and Positive Year in 2022!

Sending love, dievča

Photo: Gloria DeHaven


Keep your head above the clouds!

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Allow yourself to Dream!

Photo: dievca NYC 12/2021

From my home to Yours~

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Sending Warm Wishes!

XO your dievča

Pin-Up: Baron von Lind

The Date ~

dievca’s been watching friends Zoom date, navigate around COVID-19 and death,  sort through the ashes of a relationship that crashed hard and, in one case, is watching a friend reunite happily with an old Flame.

L’appuntamento
Ho sbagliato tante volte ormai
che lo so già
che oggi quasi certamente
sto sbagliando su di te.

Ma una volta in più che cosa può cambiare
nella vita mia…
Accettare questo strano appuntamento
è stata una pazzia!

Sono triste tra la gente che
mi sta passando accanto,
ma la nostalgia di rivedere te
è forte più del pianto.

Questo sole accende sul mio volto
un segno di speranza.
Sto aspettando quando a un tratto
ti vedrò spuntare in lontananza!

Amore, fai presto,
io non resisto…
Se tu non arrivi, non esisto,
non esisto, non esisto…

È cambiato il tempo e sta piovendo,
ma resto ad aspettare.
Non m’importa cosa il mondo può pensare,
io non me ne voglio andare.

Io mi guardo dentro e mi domando,
ma non sento niente.
Sono solo un resto di speranza
perduta tra la gente.

Amore, è già tardi
e non resisto…
Se tu non arrivi, non esisto,
non esisto, non esisto…

Luci, macchine, vetrine, strade, tutto quanto
si confonde nella mente.
La mia ombra si è stancata di seguirmi,
il giorno muore lentamente.

Non mi resta che tornare a casa mia
alla mia triste vita.
Questa vita che volevo dare a te
l’hai sbriciolata tra le dita…

Amore, perdono,
ma non resisto…
Adesso per sempre non esisto,
non esisto, non esisto…

The Date
I was wrong so many times by now,
I already know
that almost certainly today
I am wrong about you

but what difference can one more time make
in this life of mine..
Accepting this odd date,
it was insanity! (some folly)

I am sad among the people
passing by
but the wistful feeling (nostalgia) of seeing you again
is stronger than the tears

This sun lights up on my face
a sign of hope
I am waiting and suddenly
I will see you appear yonder (in the distance)

My love be here soon (hurry up),
I can’t take it (resist)
if you don’t come, I don’t exist
I don’t exist, I don’t exist …

The weather has changed, and it is raining
but I stay and wait (keep on waiting)
I am not concerned (don’t care) about what the world will think [of me]
I don’t wanna go.

I look within myself and wonder
but I feel nothing (hear nothing?)
I am just some remains of hope
lost among people

My love, it’s already late
and I can’t take it (resist)
if you don’t come, I don’t exist
I don’t exist, I don’t exist …

Lights, cars, shop windows, roads
they all confuse into my mind
my shadow got tired of following me
the day slowly dies

All that’s left is to go back to my house
to my sad life
This life I wanted to give to you
you crumbled it between your fingers

My love, forgive me, but I can’t take it…
Now forever, I don’t exist


Better for survivors or better for the person dying?

deivca is pondering a question this morning… please let her explain the scenario, 1st:

Inline & Roller Skating - Amazon_comA work friend died yesterday. she was a few years older than dievca. The friend worked at a different location, so dievca didn’t see her all the time.  dievca did see the friend in the summer and she looked a bit tired and thin, but her friend was thin to begin with. The friend was moving well and rollerblading consistently to work.

In September the friend asked dievca for a favor and it was to be turned back over in November. Not anymore.

No one knew the friend was sick, she just died.

It was cancer.

The workplace is reeling because this person was kind, happy, and caring. Lovely to everyone.

No one knows what happened.  Was it diagnosed Stage 4? did she decide to pass on chemo? was it so aggressive there was no time? had she been battling it for a while and told no one but her family?

Back to dievca’s pondering…

Is it better to let people know about your illness or say nothing?

A quick death might be better for the terminally ill person, but doesn’t allow people to say Good-Bye.
(You don’t have to explain your condition, your treatment plans, deal with everyone feeling sorry for you, etc.)

A longer process allows people to connect with the terminally ill person but extends their trauma.
(People will keep asking what is going on, what the treatment plan is, ask how you are feeling, maybe offer pity, etc.)

OK, multiple questions. Tough questions.

No matter what the answers, it does bring to mind the phrase, “My Body – My Choice.”