Have you noticed?

Advanced Love Bill and Eva

Advanced Love: Advanced Style Bill and Eva Kobus-Webb

That you or your friends are becoming quirky in your aging?

Unique outfits?
Time Awareness?
Demanding?

Stubbornness?
OCD?
Crotchety?
Bluntness? 

Between Master, dievca’s family, her friends and herself –  there are a lot of people getting older who are really BOSSY!


Coming up for Air

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It was a quick trip to Mom, 4 days.  Packed a lot into the time. POA shift, moved Mom on to hospice, need a new hospital bed – motor died (made do with a log and seat cushion to change the angles for Mom), attempted to get quality WiFi (need a new router), attempted to get the gardens/yard into some semblance of order (including picking up 15 cigarette butts on the driveway from a caregiver – what is wrong with people. Are they born in a barn? We have a cigarette repository out there.), maintenance man/snow removal man is no longer working – looking for help (Note his kid moved away and they no longer need to store his classic car in the garage…hmmm? Maybe that had something to do with being unavailable…), cleaned the odd places in the house and the upstairs as best as possible.

Grocery shopped at night and saw ⇑⇑⇑ the MOON!

It’s Full this Evening.  Don’t forget to shake your wallet at the Moon!

And think of dievca flying home late tonight. XO


befuddling dievca’s brain

sleepover

dievca was asked to help a young adult (sophomore) and the student/Mother are trying to get a schedule together…. dievca offered 11 am or 2:30 pm on Saturday.  The kid can’t make it because she schedules ‘sleepover’s’ on Friday nights…. but, then she wants to try 6 am during the week.

Look, if you cannot get going by 11 am on a Saturday – you will not make 6 am during the week.

And a ‘sleepover’? at age 15/16?  Sometimes NYC befuddles dievca’s Midwestern brain.


Octogenarian + Nonagenarian = Play Date

Elderly Ladies Chatting

dievca mentioned that her Mom is fading or depressed and her Mom’s best friend (91) immediately asked her son to drive her up to my Mom.  (God, I’m starting to cry).   deivca set up the date to coincide with the caregiver who likes to cook and is already thinking of a nice light lunch for the ladies.  Mom’s friend is bringing the dessert – a certain chocolate and raspberry cake because she knows Mom loves it. dievca’s Mom will rally to sit in the wheelchair for a longer period and see her friend –  they will lean close because neither can hear.  It’s a gift that is amazingly generous.

Never dismiss the touch of a true friend, its one of Life’s greatest miracles.

Old Friends


Dad Humor – coffee-based

coffee-jokes

If there’s one feature that can immediately categorize a joke as a “dad joke,” it’s wordplay, especially of the unsophisticated variety. Examples: “Hey, do you know what time my dentist appointment is? Tooth-hurty.” “You know why they always build fences around cemeteries? Because people are dying to get in.” The purposeful confusion of “smart feller” and “fart smeller.”

Note: dievca’s Dad was working that “fart smeller” joke hard – right up until he died. Makes her smile thinking about it~

Let the Coffee Jokes begin!

  1. Barista: How do you take your coffee?
    Me: Very, very seriously.
  2. What do you call sad coffee?
    Despresso.
  3. What’s the best Beatles song?
    Latte Be!
  4. Spouse #1: Honey, this coffee tastes like dirt.
    Spouse #2: That’s not surprising, dear, it was just ground this morning.
  5. How does Moses make his coffee?
    Hebrews it.
  6. What did the coffee lover name her son?
    Joe, obviously.
  7. What did the caffeine addict name his cats?
    Cream and Sugar.
  8. How do you know if you’ve had enough coffee?
    You channel surf faster without the remote.
  9. How does the serial killer like his coffee?
    How he likes his victims—all ground up.
  10. How is divorce like espresso?
    It’s expensive and bitter.
A "Thank You" to the ScaryMommy website for the coffee humor.

marinière and memories

 
A marinière (French: [maʁinjɛʁ]), or tricot rayé (French: [tʁiko ʁɛje]; lit. ‘striped sweater’), is a cotton long-armed shirt with horizontal blue and white stripes.

Bronson-Mens-Breton-Stripe-Long-Sleeve-Shirts-Causaldievca was reading an article about when family members die, its hard to get rid of their “stuff” because of your memories attached to their items or the memories of the person who used the item. Whew – that was a mouthful.  For example, dievca has her Dad’s Levi’s looped Terry Cloth Shirt from the 1970’s. With a boat neck and 3/4 sleeves in white with blue stripes it looks like a marinière-style shirt. She remembers him wearing it to the Tennis Courts or the Pool. It’s still wearable and looped terry cloth clothing is “in”.

And then there is other stuff that you keep because you think you will use it. And – shocker! – you do use it.  Like a vintage Ice Cream scoop (1937) from you Aunt and her two 10″ Aires Box Fans (circa 2004 – received, new in box).

Mind you, those box fans have now been used and knocked over a number of times and because they are plastic/slighty flexible – they keep bouncing back for more. Something of Use!

All three items keep you cool in the Summer, all three items are practical and all three offer memories.
Three items that dievca doesn’t feel guilty for keeping.


Secure, Anxious, Avoidant = Attachment Styles. Where do you fall?

attachmentUniversity of Denver researchers Cindy Hazan and Phillip Shaver were the first to study how attachment styles may come into play with romantic relationships. They published their findings in 1987. The original theory was developed by British psychoanalyst John Bowlby in the 20th century. Bowlby theorized that an infant’s access (and perceived) access to a parental figure results in how safe and protected they feel.

If you would like to determine your attachment style, please click here!

Secure
A secure attachment is an ideal in a healthy, supportive relationship, and the majority of adults fall in line with it. Hazan and Shaver’s research stated that  56% of participants identified as having secure attachments. A secure attachment means being able to accept and support partners even despite their faults and generally feeling happy and trusting of partners. If you have a secure attachment, you’re likely good at communicating—an important skill in a relationship and the bedroom. Compared to other styles, secure attachments are more likely to have longer-term relationships.

Anxious
Of the three attachment styles, anxious types are most likely to fall in love at first sight. According to Hazan and Shaver’s research, 19% of people identify as having this kind of attachment, which is prone to obsessive feelings and a need for reciprocation and higher rates than other styles. They are, however, more likely to be accepting of a partner’s faults than others—which can sometimes come at a cost. When it comes to intimacy, this type is a natural giver, but they can benefit from receiving too—they’re perfectly worthy, after all.

Avoidant
If you describe your love life as “an emotional rollercoaster,” you may be an avoidant attachment person. A quarter of participants in Hazan and Shaver’s research identified this type, which is characterized by having a fear of intimacy, and “emotional highs and lows.” That doesn’t mean that this type doesn’t feel attraction —they rate the same as secure types in this regard, according to Hazan and Shaver. They’re also likely to feel jealousy, though maybe not as intensely as those with anxious attachment styles. Learning how to put their walls down—even just a little—can prove most beneficial for this type. A little vulnerability may lead to more security down the line.


Where do you fall?

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Graphic from sleepjunkie.com

Research shows we are actually genetically predisposed to be either a morning or an evening person. According to chronobiology (the study of time in living things), cells in everything from plants to people work on their own internal ‘clock’.

So, when you had a Father who woke up at 4 am every morning for years after driving the boys to hockey practice and a Mother who stayed up reading or doing chores until 1 am and would still prefer that schedule, where does a dievca fall on that genetic predisposition?  Note: One brother is up at 4 am, the other is up until 2 am…

This question is lurking in dievca’s mind as she tries to get better quality sleep during her perimenopause phase…

Well~ work dictates and this Summer is asking for 6 am starts~

dievca will follow her Dad’s guidance and be an Early Bird – at least until she catches her second wind at 10 pm one night throw the best laid plans into Night Owl mode.


Taking a moment to honor your Military members who passed – friends, family and unknowns.


The other side of the family~

Ukrainian

On the other side of the family (Ukrainian), dievca is one of 22 cousins and the youngest by 10 years. she wasn’t born in the same state as the other cousins and didn’t grow up with them.  A Cousin just died –  possibly from COVID-19, her sibling is being cagy with information.  It all came out because another cousin didn’t hear from her on their regular 3rd day phone call – so another cousin called the sibling and then called dievca’s brother.  dievca’s brother is asking dievca to hunt down the 3rd sibling, who is gay, to find out more information or let them know about the death…

Are you lost?

It took dievca 5 years of asking her Mother who everyone was, trying to figure out who her cousins belonged to, what they did and their ages – a couple she has only met once.

She’s got it now.

And like every family — let’s sic the youngest on the problem.

She’s the baby and no one will get angry with her because she can play “clueless”. Plus, she was cute.

Watching the family dynamics in action is amazing.

BTW, dievca did hunt down the phone # for the gay sibling and will be calling today. That cousin likes her.

Baby bath


Hosting!

Retro Dinner Party

After work today, dievca is hosting a casual dinner party for friends – all of whom are vaccinated.
she’s out of practice….
but its a simple go with ordering-in burgers from Whitman’s, offering a Junior’s Cheesecake + wine/beer..
Nice to be a bit normal, again.

Anyone else hosting an event?


(Un)expected – in case you need the info.

20210511_103222 (1)dievca’s Dad had a Tree Service look at the dead trees on their property.  The bad news was to cut and remove the trees would have cost $6K.  The good news is that all of the trees would not fall on the house.  Dad did not hire the service before he died.

The Midwest had some big winds this winter and a large tree broke in half and came down close to the house – but missed it (photos). Just like the tree service said.  What dievca did not expect is that another tree out on the property, leaning away from the neighbors yard, yet, was pushed onto their yard by a significant wind. Nowhere near their house, but it did fall on to their yard.

The neighbor walked over and told the caregiver that it happened and mentioned that they had a service in to clear the tree. The caregiver asked her to speak to dievca’s brother.  When dievca got to her Mom’s she heard the tree service at the neighbors, saw the other dead tree from the winter and heard about the neighbor’s vist from the caregiver.

Yes, it was expected that the dead trees would fall at some point (firewood), it was unexpected one would fall on the neighbors lawn -so who pays?

What’s the rule?

  1. If the tree falls on your property or your property is damaged, you’ll make a claim through your home insurance company. If the tree falls on your neighbor’s property or their property is damaged, their home insurance will handle the cleanup and repair work.
  2. In most states, if your tree or any part of it falls on your neighbors‘ property and causes damage to their property through no fault of your own (due to a snow storm, winds, hurricane, or another so-called “act of God”), you are not responsible.

The good news is that dievca’s Mom only has one neighbor and there was the only dead tree on that track of land. As for the rest of the trees? Nature is just going to have to move forward unless dievca’s brother decides to hire someone.

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Matchy-Matchy Mother and Daughter

Mother Daughter Matching 1950The matchy-matchy look flourishes in “time periods when there is more cultural emphasis on the family and the mother-daughter relationship,” said the fashion historian Jennifer Farley Gordon, who researches children’s clothing. In practice, the matching style can also signal affluence: a mother with leisure time to sew—or money to shop for—mirror-image outfits, and who is more likely to be a stay-at-home mom. Part of the idea, also, is that there’s not much point in being one half of a matching set if you’re not spending significant amounts of time together in public.

Mother Daughter Matching 1950 2Life nailed the appeal of mother-daughter dressing when it declared: “‘Look Alike’ means ‘Look Young.’” The mommy-and-me looks of the 1940s and ’50s were decidedly girlish, emphasizing the mother’s youthfulness rather than the daughter’s maturity. In her memoir Mommie Dearest, Christina Crawford remembered posing for publicity photos with her adoptive mother, Joan, in the late 1940s, at the age of 8. “I had to get dressed in one of the many ‘mother-and-daughter’ outfits we were always photographed in … Mother and I would go through the whole day doing things for the camera and changing from one matching outfit to another.” Often, these outfits consisted of ruffled pinafores or skirts with suspenders worn over frilly blouses with puffed sleeves, with matching ribbons in their hair—clothes more appropriate for an 8-year-old than a grown woman. Tellingly, if a woman had more than one daughter, she was advised to twin with the youngest, according to Life.

Mother Daughter Matching al-parker-skating-lhj-1 Ladies’ Home Journal—one of the leading women’s magazines in America—had strong ideas about how the country could spend its wealth. From 1939 into the early 1950s, the magazine published a series of covers illustrated by Al Parker, a contemporary of Norman Rockwell, depicting mothers and daughters in matching outfits engaging in household chores and leisure activities such as baking cookies, riding bicycles, raking leaves, knitting, skiing, and wrapping Christmas gifts. One memorable image portrayed a rosy-cheeked mother and daughter pair, ice skating hand-in-hand above the headline: “Is Society Committing Suicide Today?”

Mother Daughter Matching 2020These days, however, the mommy-and-me looks are usually store-bought. The likes of Gucci, Dolce & Gabbana, and Lanvin getting into the luxury children’s wear market and they come with decidedly grown-up price tags. There are plenty of budget-friendly version, like Target’s collaboration with Victoria Beckham, or Drew Barrymore’s line for Crocs.

Though a few halfhearted attempts to launch father-son fashions in the 1950s never really took off, family fashions have surged in recent years as many dads have become more hands-on. Often focused on holiday dressing, vacation clothes, or sleepwear, these collections—which are diversified enough to accommodate a broad range of ages and genders—offer a less literal interpretation of twinning, one intended for special occasions. Which is to say that “daddy, mommy, all my siblings, and me” might be the new mommy-and-me.

Mother Daughter Matching 1970What brought this delve into Mommy and Me Fashion?  dievca had a flashback of 1976-1977 where her Mom and her had matching outfits and hair which consisted of a rust-colored Corduroy Oshkosh B’gosh Overalls Dress, off-white turtleneck, rust cable knit tights, brown leather Bass platform wedge shoes with rubber sole and Toni Tennille hair:

It was the first time and the last time dievca and her Mom matched. They shared a lot of clothing throughout the years (still do), but the matching thing? One great go – then that was it.

HAPPY MOTHER’s DAY!

A Thank You to KIMBERLY CHRISMAN-CAMPBELL is a fashion historian based in Los Angeles and the author of the forthcoming book Worn on This Day: The Clothes That Made History.  Most of the information was gleaned from and article she did for The Atlantic Magazine in 2018.


A little coffee eases dealing with Grumpy~

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Ann-Margret, screenshot from Grumpy Old Men (1993) – a film which made dievca laugh quite hard.


Turnsole = Sun God/Goddess

turnsole is a type of plant that turns with the movement of the sun, a sunflower being the most famous example. From Middle French tournesol, the word literally means “turns toward the sun,” and was modeled after the synonymous Greek term heliotrope. As in French, when the word came into English in the 1300s it initially referred to the purple dye that came from a turnsole plant (Chrozophora tinctoria.). Soon after, turnsole broadened in meaning to refer to all types of plant that turn with the sun.

facing the sun

Is a Human a “turnsole” when he/she faces the sun to welcome its healing heat? Or is the definition only for plants. All dievca knows is that she is seeking the sun this Spring, like a sun-worshipping goddess.

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Sun Deities

Name Nationality/Religion God or Goddess? Notes
Amaterasu Japan Sun Goddess Major deity of the Shinto religion.
Arinna (Hebat) Hittite (Syrian) Sun Goddess The most important of three Hittite major solar deities
Apollo Greece and Rome Sun God  
Freyr Norse Sun God Not the main Norse sun god, but a fertility god associated with the sun.
Garuda Hindu Bird God  
Helios (Helius) Greece Sun God Before Apollo was the Greek sun god, Helios held that position.
Hepa Hittite Sun Goddess The consort of a weather god, she was assimilated with the sun goddess Arinna.
Huitzilopochtli (Uitzilopochtli) Aztec Sun God  
Hvar Khshaita Iranian/Persian Sun God  
Inti Inca Sun God The national patron of the Inca state.
Liza West African Sun God  
Lugh Celtic Sun God  
Mithras Iranian/Persian Sun God  
Re (Ra) Egypt Mid-day Sun God An Egyptian god shown with a solar disk. Center of worship was Heliopolis. Later associated with Horus as Re-Horakhty. Also combined with Amun as Amun-Ra, a solar creator god.
Shemesh/Shepesh Ugarit Sun goddess  
Sol (Sunna) Norse Sun Goddess She rides in a horse-drawn solar chariot.
Sol Invictus Roman Sun God The unconquered sun. A late Roman sun god. The title was also used of Mithras.
Surya Hindu Sun God Rides the sky in a horse-drawn chariot.
Tonatiuh Aztec Sun God  
Utu (Shamash) Mesopotamia Sun God  

A “Thank you” to Thought Co. and dictionary.com


A different time, a different age. Something.

Ran into this video and it just made me smile.
Maybe someone thinks this about you (or me).
Enjoy~


“No road is long with good company.” – Turkish Proverb


A quick, “Thank You”. for joining dievca on this ride.
The blog has been going for 7+ years and is still fulfilling.
Traveling through the overtake of Instagram and people moving on,
dievca is very grateful for the people who stop by and check-in.
Sending much love. XO
dievča


“I surround myself with people that I want to be with. And I keep moving forward.”~ Sam Bern

1. Positive people don’t confuse quitting with letting go.

2.  Positive people don’t just have a good day – they make a good day.

3. For the positive person, the past stays in the past.

4. Show me a positive person and I can show you a grateful person.

5. Rather than being stuck in their limitations, positive people are energized by their possibilities.

6. Positive people do not let their fears interfere with their lives.

7. Positive people smile a lot.

8. People who are positive are great communicators.

9. Positive people realize that if you live long enough, there are times for great pain and sadness.

10. Positive people are empowered people – they refuse to blame others and are not victims in life.


Where you were and where you are now?


Patheodeficiency

The wrung-out feeling of being so emotionally spent you have actually run out of sympathy for anyone else.

dievca was in this space during the beginning of the pandemic – a drunk email from a friend triggered a direct reaction where dievca stated that she had no empathy/sympathy left in her body for her friend’s needs and drama.  Worry for her parents, limited working, everyone unsure about safety protocols for COVID-19, challenging political environment, etc. took up her reserves.  dievca didn’t realize there was a name for the feeling or condition.

Lately, she has just noticed that her body tension is diminishing and that wrung out, lack of energy for others feeling has lightened.

Is anyone else feeling better?

dievca hopes so!


Well, that coffee break would be a treat~

Leiter: Where did you get that suit?
Bond: My tailor, in Saville Row.
Leiter: Mine’s from Washington, Felix Leiter: Central Intelligence Agency.


LMAO – “OK, Boomer!”

We had a little conversation (a 12 yr old and dievca)….
and the phrase “OK, Boomer” came into play~

dievca is NOT a boomer…(Master is~)

As of July 1, 2019 (the latest date for which population estimates are available), Millennials, whom we define as ages 23 to 38 in 2019, numbered 72.1 million, and Boomers (ages 55 to 73) numbered 71.6 million. The two groups sandwich and overwhelm the middle child, Generation X.

dievca is a slacker….Hello….Generation X.
Don’t f*ck with her.
She’s a bit cynical (actually more of a realist), does not need validation, and slides by quietly to get things done.

Which Generation are You?

Generation Name Births
Start
Births
End
Youngest
Age Today*
Oldest Age
Today*
The Lost Generation
The Generation of 1914
1890 1915 106 131
The Interbellum Generation 1901 1913 108 120
The Greatest Generation 1910 1924 97 111
The Silent Generation 1925 1945 76 96
Baby Boomer Generation 1946 1964 57 75
Generation X (Baby Bust) 1965 1979 42 56
Xennials
1975 1985 36 46
Millennials
Generation Y, Gen Next
1980 1994 27 41
iGen / Gen Z 1995 2012 9 26
Gen Alpha 2013 2025 1 8

Parental lineage
Generally, Gen Xers are the children of the Silent Generation and older baby boomers.
dievca’s parents were of the Silent Generation.

Anyways, the comment sparked a conversation that made dievca laugh like hell.  Kids are fantastic with serving up a dose of reality.  dievca couldn’t decide if she was more offended by being called a “Boomer” or her personal reaction to being called one! (Sorry Boomers…😘)

 


Scent: Attraction and Repulsion

dievca caught up with one of her Nephews and caught a whiff of plain Patchuli – a strong scent she absolutely HATES.  Hey, whatever works for him and his family – just don’t stand too close to your Aunt.  She will love you from a distance after coming in for the initial hug.

That brought to mind scents, why someone wears scents and what might be attractive to others:

Apparently, Women looking for love should wear floral fragrances to attract a man, while preferring a ‘woody’ scent on potential lovers, according to a new study.

British-based bathroom supplier Showerstoyou.co.uk teamed up with Fragrantica.com, to explore the most popular scents of the year and the notes they have in common.

Their study of 3,978 men and 3,743 women, revealed that most women have a preference for men wearing a ‘woody’ scent while 85 percent of men admit they’re most attracted to women spritzed with a ‘floral’ fragrance.

A Woman’s Most Seductive Fragrance Notes:

RANKING 

1 Floral 85%

2 Sweet 81%

3 Fruity 78%

4 Vanilla 73%

5 Citrus 69%

6 Rose 63%

7 Aromatic 58%

8 Powdery 52%

9 White Floral 46%

10 Coconut 41%

 

Sexiest Smells for Men:

RANKING 

1 Woody 86%

2 Aromatic 78%

3 Warm Spice 72%

4 Fresh Spice 64%

5 Citrus 57%

6 Amber 51%

7 Powdery 48%

8 Balsamic 43%

9 Leather 38%

10 Musk 34%

What do you think about the rankings? dievca loves the smell of leather~

Men voted My Way by Giorgio Armani as the most popular perfume of 2020 for women, ranking highly among the scents, with blossoming notes of floral.

Meanwhile 86 percent of women said the most sensual scents for men contained the outdoorsy note ‘woody’, voting Dior Homme 2020 by Christian Dior the most popular 2020 fragrance for men.

Hmmm, dievca prefers the notes of Green Tea and Bergamot which run crisp and fruity…maybe not so romatic. Master? He just smells of himself which is very sexy and comforting to His dievca.

In the past, dievca’s nose has lead her to the following Men’s Scents (maybe it was the Men who wore them) – its just random chance that they were launched a decade apart – Good Life is the one she decided to wear herself – note the patchouli in two of them, but the one she liked best doesn’t have it and is citrusy.

Polo Raph Lauren launched in 1978:

Top notes are Juniper Berries, Caraway, Artemisia, Basil, Coriander and Bergamot; middle notes are Pine Tree Needles, Leather, Chamomile, Pepper, Carnation, Geranium, Jasmine and Rose; base notes are Tobacco, Oakmoss, Patchouli, Cedar, Vetiver, Musk and Amber.

Farenheit by Dior launched in 1988:

Top notes are Nutmeg Flower, Lavender, Cedar, Chamomile, Mandarin Orange, Hawthorn, Bergamot and Lemon; middle notes are Violet Leaf, Nutmeg, Cedar, Sandalwood, Honeysuckle, Carnation, Jasmine and Lily-of-the-Valley; base notes are Leather, Vetiver, Musk, Amber, Patchouli and Tonka Bean.

Good Life by Davidoff launched in 1998:

Top notes are Fig Leaf, Melon, Lavender, Bergamot, Grapefruit and Black Currant; middle notes are Magnolia, Violet, Amalfi Lemon and Pelargonium; base notes are Tea, Clover, Sandalwood, Almond and Amber.

Thank you to the Daily Mail UK

seems appropriate

RE/Done ‘Just Bring Wine’ Tee $125

Actually, it’s not desperate.
dievca’s Mom had a bath at Noon (it takes two people) and that wiped her out until dievca woke her at 4:55 pm. Why 4:55 pm? Because her Mom insisted that Jane Eyre would be on TV  at 5:00 pm…  Yes, it was on – because dievca downloaded it onto the tablet from Amazon Prime.
(dievca’s brother canceled cable TV)

dievca fed her Mom dinner and watched the 2011 version with her – good acting, but it is a sad movie.

Big Band Music to pick up the mood while getting Mom ready for bed and now dievca is seeking wine.
There is no wine to be had ~ hence the appropriate t-shirt graphic.
(Wine is on the grocery list for tomorrow.) 😉


Heigh-Ho, Heigh-Ho! a Winter’s drive I go~

Vintage Canada 1940s Car and Snow

Hitting the Highway and Thinking of You!

dievca’s Mom kept getting anonymous postcards from around the country when she was a young gal. The tagline on each of them was the phrase above. She never found out who sent them.

So, dievca is hitting the highway and making her way to her Momma. Her Mom might not last too long, so now is the time. she’s bringing that black Burberry Cashmere coat she bought when the Hudson Yards Neiman Marcus closed (September) – her Mom was asking to see it.
Once a Style Maven – always a Style Maven.
dievca has so many clothes she would love to share with her Mom – her Mom isn’t tracking too well. That’s why the Burberry coat request, as ridiculous as it seems, is very important.

OK, hitting the highway and thinking of you. XO

Burberry 100% Cashmere Hoodie Overcoat $3590

Cashmere Turtleneck Sweater black

I.am.Gia black cargo pants

ACNE Studios Plaid Scarf

Cougar Pillow Boots

Smartwool Black Grey Socks

Portolano Black Cashmere mittens

Ray-Ban Clubmaster Sunglasses

San Diego Hat Co. Bomber black


Causse Gantier – Glove Fetishism

Glove fetishism is a sexual fetishism where an individual is sexually stimulated by another person or oneself wearing gloves on their hands. In some cases, the fetish is enhanced by the material of the glove (e.g., leather, cotton, latex, nitrile, PVC, satin, or nylon).

Often, the actions of a gloved hand are as arousing as the glove itself, because the glove provides a second skin, or in other words a fetishistic surrogate for the wearer’s own skin. Medical gloves and rubber gloves provide not only a safer sex environment but also give a latex glove fetishist great pleasure. Subtle movements by the gloved fingers or the hand as a whole can provide the individual with a great visual stimulus and ultimately sexual arousal. The act of putting gloves on, or slipping them off the hands, can also be a source of glove fetish fantasy.

The smell is also a factor when it comes to latex, rubber, and leather gloves. This is also often an extension of hand fetishism.

Gloves are used for fisting and sounding. They are a big part of the superhero, leather, rubber, and cosplay scenes and are a staple accessory in any crime fetish. There is something immediately different when one is wearing gloves during sex. It almost makes one feel more naughty and kinky adding to the experience.

Most glove fetishists prefer tight and shiny gloves. It is a fetish that crosses gender and sexuality stereotypes needing no anchor to one or another.

It is also sometimes associated with strangling or rape fetishes.

Medical glove fetishism involves thin latex gloves, which come in many different types. Personal preference ranges from color, smell, size, textured, smooth, powdered, or un-powdered. Fetishists are proud of their collection of medical gloves, as well as rubber gloves. Household rubber gloves tend to be thicker, longer, and are mostly used for cleaning purposes.

There is a fetish called GOM which stands for ‘Glove Over Mouth’ where a gloved hand is placed firmly over one’s mouth and/or nose and is sometimes associated with breath control. This can be arousing to the giver and/or the receiver.

Some glove fetishists prefer certain lengths, for example, the long opera-style or short cuff length. Some also like them as a part of an outfit, such as a nurse, policewoman, or French maid uniform. Some who are of a sexually submissive nature are stimulated by their dominant partner’s wearing and use of gloves. Dominant partners may likewise prefer that their submissives wear gloves. As with all fetishes, however, there need not be a BDSM connection to an affinity for gloves.

Apart from their appearance, some individuals prefer to use them on themselves or others as a form of sexual stimulation. The ones most commonly used for this are made of leather, latex, (such as those doctors or nurses use for examination) nitrile, or shoulder-length thick black latex. Some prefer the household rubber glove. The appeal behind the household glove may be due to the colors they come in but also offering what the latex examination gloves cannot; household gloves are thicker, some more than others depending on what their use is. It’s also possible that people use these as they are commonly found in one’s home so are easily available.

Many enjoy erotic spanking with gloves donned. It offers a different feeling and sound to the “spankee”, which can be a large part of the fetish.

  • The gloves above are all Causse Gantier
  • Expensive but lovely
  • Made in France
A "Thank You" to Wikipedia

If you are in shopping mode – Gifts for Him

29 ideas for the Men in your Life. Click on the photo for the brand and price of the item. Some of the items are on sale with Black Friday. The item dievca bought Master for Christmas is among the mix. XO


Time to Adult

Photo: dievca NYC Chelsea 10/2020

It is a “right” that has become a “responsibility”.  

 

This year, 2020, marks the 100th anniversary of the passage of the 19th Amendment, guaranteeing and protecting women’s constitutional right to vote. The passage marked the largest expansion of democracy in the history of the USA.


Floating

Am I ahead?
Or am I behind?

Is doesn’t really matter,
when one is tired and lost.

If you figure it out,
please give a call.

Or text, or email.
To get the message through.

Until then, I plan to drift~

 

Floating Lanterns available here.


When a friend knows you well enough to buy you a vibrator (something of use)

OK, it is a vibrating roller – but it still falls in the vibration causes pleasure category!

dievca should explain…
she is a huge fan of the Power Plate Machine at her gym. It’s helped her strengthen her body.

More importantly, it helped her loosen her insanely tight quads, glutes, calves, feet, and hamstring muscles.

(Note the roller…)

When COVID-19 hit, dievca was out-of-luck with using the Power Plate machine at her gym.  she had to depend on her heating pad, foam roller and heavy-duty time consuming traditional stretching. Not a worry when you have time to spare, but the results were not as euphoric as using the vibrating plate with a roller.

NYC is expecting COVID-19 to hit, again.

dievca’s access to the Power Plate will disappear.

But, it is not a problem anymore. dievca’s friend bought her a vibrator.
In the form of a Vibrating Foam Roller:

Next Roller vibrating foam roller $99 from Amazon (click photo for link) 

  • Three speeds of vibration
  • Portable
  • Rechargeable
  • One Year Warranty

Looks like a good solution for tight muscles in quarantine or any other time.
It works well, dievca used it immediately.

An amazing birthday gift, right?😍


Masked and ready

dievca’s schedule has shifted and at this moment she is back to work on Saturdays – masked and ready.
Here’s hoping that others are masked and regaining employment, too.
Thinking of everyone with positive wishes.
d.

Comic: Gary Varvel 2020