A good night’s sleepPosted: October 6, 2022 Filed under: D/s Relationship, Discussion, Entertainment | Tags: advice, aftercare, Ass, BDSM, D/s, dievca, Harvard Medical School, health benefits, Humor, Life, Love, pillow, sleep Leave a comment
Some of dievca’s best sleep is when, after Play, she is tucked into her Master’s armpit – making an earmark on His arm.
That earmark is pretty drastic.
Perhaps an earmark on an a** would be better.
Or following HARVARD MEDICAL SCHOOL’s “8 secrets to a good night’s sleep”:
Going for a brisk daily walk won’t just trim you down, it will also keep you up less often at night. Exercise boosts the effect of natural sleep hormones such as melatonin. A study in the journal Sleep found that postmenopausal women who exercised for about three-and-a-half hours a week had an easier time falling asleep than women who exercised less often. Just watch the timing of your workouts. Exercising too close to bedtime can be stimulating. Morning workouts that expose you to bright daylight will help the natural circadian rhythm.
2. Reserve bed for sleep and sex
Don’t use your bed as an office for answering phone calls and responding to emails. Also avoid watching late-night TV there. The bed needs to be a stimulus for sleeping, not for wakefulness. Reserve your bed for sleep and sex.
3. Keep it comfortable
Television isn’t the only possible distraction in your bedroom. Ambience can affect your sleep quality too. Make sure your bedroom is as comfortable as possible. Ideally you want a quiet, dark, cool environment. All of these things promote sleep onset.
4. Start a sleep ritual
When you were a child and your mother read you a story and tucked you into bed every night, this comforting ritual helped lull you to sleep. Even in adulthood, a set of bedtime rituals can have a similar effect. Rituals help signal the body and mind that it’s coming to be time for sleep. Drink a glass of warm milk. Take a bath. Or listen to calming music to unwind before bed.
5. Eat—but not too much
A grumbling stomach can be distracting enough to keep you awake, but so can an overly full belly. Avoid eating a big meal within two to three hours of bedtime. If you’re hungry right before bed, eat a small healthy snack (such as an apple with a slice of cheese or a few whole-wheat crackers) to satisfy you until breakfast.
6. Avoid alcohol and caffeine
If you do have a snack before bed, wine and chocolate shouldn’t be part of it. Chocolate contains caffeine, which is a stimulant. Surprisingly, alcohol has a similar effect. It makes you a little sleepy, but it’s actually a stimulant and it disrupts sleep during the night. Also stay away from anything acidic (such as citrus fruits and juices) or spicy, which can give you heartburn.
The bills are piling up and your to-do list is a mile long. Daytime worries can bubble to the surface at night. Stress is a stimulus. It activates the fight-or-flight hormones that work against sleep. Give yourself time to wind down before bed. Learning some form of the relaxation response can promote good sleep and can also reduce daytime anxiety. To relax, try deep breathing exercises. Inhale slowly and deeply, and then exhale.
8. Get checked
An urge to move your legs, snoring, and a burning pain in your stomach, chest, or throat are symptoms of three common sleep disrupters—restless legs syndrome, sleep apnea, and gastroesophageal reflux disease or GERD. If these symptoms are keeping you up at night or making you sleepy during the day, see your doctor for an evaluation.
You know you are loved, when…Posted: November 12, 2020 Filed under: D/s Relationship, Home and Garden, Master | Tags: advice, BDSM, D/s, dievca, Dominant, Love, Relationships, Sleeping, submissive, Wearable Sleep App Leave a comment
Re: I am disturbed because my new Galaxy Active watch tells me that I don’t get enough ‘deep sleep’. I am ok, time amount-wise and in the REM stage – but I don’t hit the healing deep sleep. Three days of data is not enough, I will watch it for two weeks. But, it still bothers me. I flip/flop and move a lot, but I have always done that….maybe my heart rate runs higher for the deep sleep range. Maybe this is normal with peri-menopause. Maybe I have a problem, I will watch it.
In general, sleep experts are negative about people who get obsessed with their watch telling them that they don’t get enough deep sleep. Sleep is a very individual and complex issue. But the first thing to know is that everyone wakes up during a night’s sleep…we just don’t remember it.
Read this article:
COVID has also caused sleep problems. Read:
In addition, you are absolutely right: peri-menopause can cause sleep problems. Read:
And here’s a very brief summary from the NYT about how to sleep better.
Hope some of this info is helpful.
Under or Over? Garter beltsPosted: January 30, 2020 Filed under: Accessories, Disasters, lingerie | Tags: advice, BDSM, D/s, dievca, Elegant, erotic, Fetish, practical, Presentation Outfits, Sexy, stockings, submissive 3 Comments
Master loves garter belts and stockings. dievca has avoided wearing panties in that role because the few times she did, she put the panties under the garter belt for looks and then everything has to come off for access. Seeing the photo above….she’s been doing it wrong!
Here’s what the internet said:
Panties on top if you’re wearing them for functional reasons (to suspend your stockings). Panties beneath if you are wearing them just to look sexy. If you want to actually HAVE sex in the garter belt and stockings, panties on top. I’ve always worn my garter belts over my panties because it looks better.
I believe in the garter belt and stockings. I read some statistics, and it’s the most requested lingerie article that prostitutes hear.
Another tip I always say when wearing garter belts, you wear your underwear over your garter belt for easy access. I believe in wearing lingerie because we love it, I don’t believe in putting it on for a man. I believe that we wear it for us, and if someone is lucky enough to be in our presence and experience that, so be it. But the ultimate seductress is one who realizes in everyday practice the cultivation of your sensuality, and how it radiates to other people. That’s what makes others want to be around you.
~ Dita von Teese
Aha! An old dog has just learned a new trick. How about you? XO
Advice…for the submissive.Posted: July 3, 2019 Filed under: Disasters, Master, submissive | Tags: advice, BDSM, Corset, D/s, dievca, Life, Master, Presentation Outfits, submissive 6 Comments
In a nutshell: Advice giving usually doesn’t work, and often completely backfires.
To be fair, we all find ways to tell others how to live. We can’t help it. We all have strong points of view and believe that others should do or think as we do. And most of us are comfortable expressing those views to others, whether they’re interested or not.
Yet, research using reactance theory informs us that whenever someone tells us what to do and how to do it, we respond with defensive defiance because we want to maximize our personal freedom and decision making.
If we really want to encourage behavior (or belief) change in others we actually need to move away from advice-giving (especially when our advice is unsolicited) and toward modeling. In other words, we need to be an example for others rather than telling them what to do.
Research on observational learning (in conjunction with an understanding of reactance theory) suggests that while people will resist unsolicited advice and instruction, they will follow the behaviors of others—especially when there appear to be good and reinforcing outcomes from these behaviors (or beliefs).
dievca is still going to give you her advice:
TRY ON YOUR PRESENTATION OUTFIT BEFORE SHOWING UP AT YOUR MASTER OR MISTRESS’ PLACE.
dievca ended up with a Corset Disaster, yesterday. It shrunk from handwashing and dievca’s boobs are running larger. All the hooks closed and she could pull the ties, but she looked like a muffin popping over the tin.
Master’s solution to dievca’s problem was easy:
“Try the outfit on before meeting for D/s”
dievca does plan to heed Master’s advice, will you plan to heed dievca’s advice?
Finishing out the SummerPosted: August 22, 2018 Filed under: Dresses, Fashion | Tags: advice, BDSM, D/s, dievca, fashion, Friends, Graduate School, Jason Wu, Life, Midwestern, Presentation Outfits, Shopping, submissive, Summer, sun dress 4 Comments
Years ago, dievca had a discussion with one of her male Graduate School pals
about what a Woman looked sexiest in.
The sweet Midwestern boy immediately answered, “a sun dress”.
That has stuck in dievca’s mind.
Jason Wu Grosgrain-trimmed striped cotton-poplin Dress
Jason Wu references the Hotel Esencia for his latest capsule collection – the striped patterns are inspired by the chairs that line its beaches. Recently spotted on Tina Leung, this cotton-poplin dress has a close-fitting bodice that’s gently twisted and is balanced by a fluid A-line skirt. You’ll love that it’s cleverly designed with discreet slant pockets and wide grosgrain straps that will easily hide your bra.
– Ivory and black cotton-poplin, black grosgrain
– Concealed hook and zip fastening at back
– 100% cotton; trim: 50% cotton, 50% viscose
– Dry clean
Something a little easier for dievca to wear, presenting for Master in public.
Easier than nude with the LARGE hat.
SickPosted: January 23, 2017 Filed under: Home and Garden, Musings | Tags: advice, BDSM, D/s, dievca, Illness, Life, submissive 9 Comments
“Stay Hydrated, drink as many fluids as possible.”
“If I feed myself any more liquids, you are going to be able to prick me with a pin and I’ll explode like a water balloon.”
PS. “I didn’t know a body could produce that much mucus, but you are right, at least I don’t have a headache.”
Graphic: Water Balloon by BAVARELL by Pharaoh-Sauron