Do people watch a television any more?

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Or is everyone streaming content? Netflix, AppleTV, peacock, Disney+, etc.
Does broadcast television exist anymore?
Where does one start when you haven’t watched a “show” in years?
dievca was working under the theory that she would watch TV when her body couldn’t move anymore.
she’d catch up on all the movies she hadn’t seen or watch “Sex in the City” for the 1st time.
Now there is too much content.
she’s frozen.
Analyze to Paralyze…

God, is the World passing dievca by? or can she catch a ride on the next trend?

Anyone out there feeling the same?


When you have a good friend who is Dutch

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The title of this book has great meaning!

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dievca thought this appropriate for Master and her meeting, she’s not sure he agrees ~


Boobs

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Your breasts grow and grow and grow during puberty, but by the time you’re between 18 and 20, breasts are usually “fully developed,” or finished growing. This doesn’t mean that the size of your breasts at age 18 are the size your breasts will be forever. Hormonal changes, weight loss, and weight gain can all have an effect on the size of your breasts.

After puberty and before pregnancy (if you become pregnant) is when your breasts are likely to appear the fullest. The two main things that give your breasts a shape and size are fat and fibrous connective tissue. After your breasts have finished developing your breasts are likely composed of more fibrous tissue than fatty tissue. Genetics have a hand in breast composition too. If your mom and grandma and grandma’s grandma all have very dense, fibrous breasts, you likely will too.

Gravity is a very real scientific force that no one on this planet can escape. Breasts can be heavy, gravity pulls down on heavy things, and this means your breasts may start showing gravity’s effects when you’re in your 40s. The second thing is that skin loses elasticity as it ages, so with the combined effect of gravity, it’s not unlikely that your breasts will sit lower on your chest. The third thing? Breasts get fattier, they’ll start to feel less dense in your 40s than they did when you were 23 or 33. They’ll look less full as a result, and the fullest part of them will sit lower on your chest.
Some women actually see an increase in breast size after menopause. That increase in size is caused by a few things: general weight gain all over the body, increased water retention, and a change in hormone levels. As with pre-menopause, breasts will be even less dense and composed of more fatty than fibrous tissue at this stage. This means the fullest part of your breasts will sit lower on your chest than it did before.

Even though most people’s breasts go through these same basic stages, you’d still be incredibly hard-pressed to find your exact booby twin roaming around in this world.

Maybe this tea towel will help!

All Shapes of Beauty Tea Towel $18 Uncommon Goods

All Shapes of Beauty Tea Towel $18 Uncommon Goods (click photo to purchase)

A Thank You to Cosmo Magazine, the New York Times and dievca’s Doctor.


The Spirit is willing, the Body – not so much.

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Marie-Berthe Paquette, 102 years old, Montreal, 2016. (Arianne Clément/GroundTruth)

Growing Old – Matthew Arnold

What is it to grow old?
Is it to lose the glory of the form,
The lustre of the eye?
Is it for beauty to forgo her wreath?
—Yes, but not this alone.

Is it to feel our strength—
Not our bloom only, but our strength—decay?
Is it to feel each limb
Grow stiffer, every function less exact,
Each nerve more loosely strung?

Yes, this, and more; but not
Ah, ’tis not what in youth we dreamed ’twould be!
’Tis not to have our life
Mellowed and softened as with sunset glow,
A golden day’s decline.

’Tis not to see the world
As from a height, with rapt prophetic eyes,
And heart profoundly stirred;
And weep, and feel the fullness of the past,
The years that are no more.

It is to spend long days
And not once feel that we were ever young;
It is to add, immured
In the hot prison of the present, month
To month with weary pain.

It is to suffer this,
And feel but half, and feebly, what we feel.
Deep in our hidden heart
Festers the dull remembrance of a change,
But no emotion—none.

It is—last stage of all—
When we are frozen up within, and quite
The phantom of ourselves,
To hear the world applaud the hollow ghost
Which blamed the living man.

Unlike the poem states – dievca still feels flashes of being young. she has hints and memories of free movement, but she wonders if this poem applies to her Mother’s age when memories dim and movement is slim. Note: that dievca is saying this as she is elevating and heating a knee which was painful upon awaking -trying to remember her name.

Photo above from an article on aging and beauty at the Ground Truth Project.


They made such a to-do

Jill Biden Tightsabout Jill Biden’s tights…and dievca immediately thought “Rock It, Lady”!

The First Lady is 69-years-old and giving her personal fashion a go  – its right up there with the octogenarian NY-ers dievca loves seeing – they are killing it with their leopard tights.

dievca wants to be bold in her aging and Master loves stockings. Akira Chicago was offering really fun fishnet tights to help her process.

akira-rhinestone-detail-mesh-fish-net-tight_black_2 Uhh, apparently the Akira tights are sold out. Here is another pair from ASOS by Ann Summers.


Weighted Blankets helping hot flashes? (Something of use)

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Although other medical conditions can cause them, hot flashes most commonly are due to menopause — the time when menstrual periods become irregular and eventually stop. In fact, hot flashes are the most common symptom of the menopausal transition.

During a hot flash, you might have:

  • A sudden feeling of warmth spreading through your chest, neck and face
  • A flushed appearance with red, blotchy skin
  • Rapid heartbeat
  • Perspiration, mostly on your upper body
  • A chilled feeling as the hot flash lets up
  • Feelings of anxiety

The frequency and intensity of hot flashes vary among women. Hot flashes may be mild or so intense that they disrupt daily activities. They can happen at any time of day or night. Nighttime hot flashes (night sweats) may wake you from sleep and can cause long-term sleep disruptions.

Weighted blankets are therapeutic blankets that weigh between 5 to 30 pounds. The pressure from the extra weight mimics a therapeutic technique called deep pressure stimulation.

Deep pressure stimulation uses hands-on pressure to relax the nervous system. Doing so may help:

  • relieve pain
  • lessen anxiety
  • improve mood

Deep pressure stimulation doesn’t have to be completely hands on. With weighted blankets, the same pressure comes from having the blanket wrapped around the body.

dievca learned about weighted blankets from a friend in Europe who is a Therapist – they issue the blankets to their patients. dievca bought one because the color made her happy, it matched her bedding and she thought she would try it while napping~

she didn’t realize that it would became important a part of her strategy to get deep sleep during perimenopause~

Numbers – as a trend, don’t lie. 

Though dievca sleeps 7-8 hours a night — according to her watch, she wasn’t going into the “deep sleep” phase  for very long.  she could feel that she needed something more for healing and weight loss. dievca modified her eating/drinking patterns, bed time consistency, showering pattern, etc.  Not working.  The “hot flashes” got her at the end of a sleep cycle throughout the night, every time – and minimal deep sleep (5-10 min a night) occurred only at the beginning of the night.  

Enter the weighted blanket….

Add 15 min – 1 hour of deep sleep.  

“Hot Flashes” still occur towards morning – but there are less blocks of wake-up time between sleep cycles.

You may be asking – “Doesn’t the weighted blanket make you hotter?”

Bearaby sunbeam-velvet-napperdievca’s Bearaby Velvet Napper has a large weave with “holes” for air flow and she pushes it off as much as any other blanket during a “hot flash”.  You do have to be careful because the blanket is heavy and one can strain a muscle if you don’t pay attention. (Yes, it happened.) But, the time underneath that weighted blanket yields longer and consistent “deep sleep” which is where a body can heal.

Something of use.


God Only Knows


Lately, have you found yourself steeped in nostalgia?
Not saying that Life was better before _________ (fill in the blank)
Just revisiting pieces of Joy, Love, Sadness, Humor, etc.
Beach Boys, Napster, Limewire, Sonic the Hedgehog, the Muppet Show, The Blues Brothers, Jaws, and so on~


When a friend knows you well enough to buy you a vibrator (something of use)

OK, it is a vibrating roller – but it still falls in the vibration causes pleasure category!

dievca should explain…
she is a huge fan of the Power Plate Machine at her gym. It’s helped her strengthen her body.

More importantly, it helped her loosen her insanely tight quads, glutes, calves, feet, and hamstring muscles.

(Note the roller…)

When COVID-19 hit, dievca was out-of-luck with using the Power Plate machine at her gym.  she had to depend on her heating pad, foam roller and heavy-duty time consuming traditional stretching. Not a worry when you have time to spare, but the results were not as euphoric as using the vibrating plate with a roller.

NYC is expecting COVID-19 to hit, again.

dievca’s access to the Power Plate will disappear.

But, it is not a problem anymore. dievca’s friend bought her a vibrator.
In the form of a Vibrating Foam Roller:

Next Roller vibrating foam roller $99 from Amazon (click photo for link) 

  • Three speeds of vibration
  • Portable
  • Rechargeable
  • One Year Warranty

Looks like a good solution for tight muscles in quarantine or any other time.
It works well, dievca used it immediately.

An amazing birthday gift, right?😍


feeling good over 50 (lingerie)

Look, I never had my waist disappear…
until now.
Are those wrinkles on my upper stomach?
yes.
Ok, I am eating better and less, why am I holding weight?
metabolism slow down.
I used to be flexible, why did I tear my calf?
estrogen depletion.

Is there hope?

Yes. Confidence. Attitude and Lingerie you feel good wearing.

Thank Goodness.


Knix – a Canadian Brand

It’s hard to believe but we actually have 4 decades of women in this campaign. We have women in their 50s, 60s, 70s and 80s. And every single one of them is just owning their super power which is being genuine and authentic to who they are.


Sole Searching – Something of Use

Rolling the foot with a ball is an exercise you can complete on your own as a way to massage and stretch the bottom of the foot and the plantar fascia making it much less likely to become irritated.  A ball can help to improve flexibility and range of motion of the ankle.

The type of ball to be used is open — what do you have at home?  A softer ball is easier to start with and you can work your way up to a lacrosse ball or a golf ball.

Put enough pressure on the ball to get a deep massage. You may feel some soreness, back off if you feel any pain.

Try it… Sole Searching
Remember the ball loosens up stiffness in your sole’s muscles, joints, and connective tissues.
How to do it:
1. Circle the ball under your heel with some pressure.
2. Slowly roll your foot from heel to toe through the middle of the foot. Repeat for 1 to 2 minutes.
3. Roll the ball side to side so the ball crosses your arch. for 1 to 2 minutes.
4. Curve your toes around the ball to open up the phalanges and metatarsals. Help with your other foot if needed.

Repeat with your other foot.


“….and the deep power of joy, we see into the life of things…..”

~William Wordsworth

May I be so loved.

Photo: Marrie Bot from Timeless Love

Open hearts and open minds allow one to look beyond a surface appearance to gain insight into a deeper level of existence.
May we be so lucky.


An older submissive…

Age and size are only numbers.
It’s the attitude you bring to clothes that make the difference.
~ Donna Karan

Photo: Man Ray Bottom

A small side note…(nothing important – musings)

dievca will no longer be experiencing Alfredo Sauce from anywhere. Just say “No”.

No one else had trouble.

Lovely to the tastebuds – perhaps not a happy match with the Liver and Gallbladder. Something new in dievca’s Life. Aging issue?

Sad really.

Ahh, well, at least she knows what to do after dealing with her Mother’s Colitis issues.


Cacophany of the Body

noun
harsh discordance of sound; dissonance:
a cacophony of hoots, cackles, and wails. a discordant and meaningless mixture of sounds: the cacophony produced by city traffic at midday.


dievca experienced a cacophony of bodily noises as she slept. Every time she flipped over, reached for water, readjusted the sheets something popped or cracked. In the morning, she was amazed to find that her body was still in one piece without a lot of pain.

Various factors added to the experience:

  • Aggressive deep tissue full body massage
  • Running around with packing and errands
  • Extensive play session with Master
  • Session on a vibrator plate at the gym pre-flight
  • Passing out on the flight to Europe
  • Heavy stretching session after the flight
  • Two beers and a long hot tub soak with friends
  • A lot of salt from a BBQ and not enough water
  • Pushing through to shift the sleep schedule
  • Passing out in a very comfortable bed
  • Hot flashes

It was a symphony of noise, unlike anything, dievca had ever experienced before…

What caused the noise?

Escaping gases: The synovial fluid present in the joints acts as a lubricant and contains oxygen, nitrogen and carbon dioxide. When a joint pops or cracks the joint capsule is stretched causing gas to release quickly.

Movement of joints, tendons, and ligaments: When a joint moves, the tendon’s position changes and moves slightly out of place. A snapping sound can occur as the tendon returns to its original position. Your ligaments can also tighten as you move your joints resulting in a cracking sound and most commonly occurs in your knees or ankles.

Loss of cartilage: Arthritic joints tend to make more noises as the loss of smooth cartilage means the bones rub together on a rougher, more unstable surface.

Ligaments: Ligaments are fibrous tissues that connect two bones at a joint. Tight ligaments are prone to popping when they are suddenly moved, this sometimes results in short-lived pain in the area or sometimes you may not experience it at all.

Tendons: Tendons are fibrous tissues that connect muscle to bone and can also cause popping noises around a joint. This is most commonly found in snapping hip syndrome which causes a snapping sensation when the hip is flexed and extended.

Scar tissue: After joint injury or surgery, scar tissue, known as adhesions, is formed by the ligaments which are more prone to popping and cracking.

Why did it end up feeling very good:

When you pop a joint a stretch occurs in the joint capsule which results in relaxation of the surrounding muscles meaning that it feels particularly good in those tight or stiff places! This is also a good indication of where you might be tight in the body. Another theory suggests that popping a joint releases natural painkillers (or endogenous opiates) in the body.

Whatever – dievca was just happy to wake up in one piece and be functioning after all the noise.

Have you ever had this happen?


~Feeling Valid~ (age is just a number)

Gorgeous!

Book ’em Danno, Muder One- they slayed the FW ’19 runway!

Looks that caught dievca’s eye from the various 2019 Fashion Weeks —
it’s not the clothes, it’s the faces and bodies. Models over 40 years old.
dievca really found them intriguing and interesting.
Character and Lives lived makes for visual interest.

Some of the models, in no particular order:
Pat Cleveland (68)
Christie Brinkley (65)
Veronica Webb (53)
Patti Hansen (62)
Christy Turlington (50)
Laverne Cox (46)
Tonne Goodman (67)
Stella Tennant (48)
Guinevere Van Seenus (41)
Chloë Sevigny (44)
Marie Sophie Wilson (54)
Kirsten Owen (48)
Shala Monroque (40)
Shalom Harlow (45)
Stephanie Seymour (50)


Eye Candy

eye can·dy
/ī ˈkandē
noun – informal
Something purely aesthetically pleasing, that is, pleasing to the senses. Can be a person, a film, a sunset, a flower, or anything else you can see.

~ Urban Dictionary

In a sentence:

dievca is heading to the gym to work on becoming a piece of eye candy for her Master.


aging (elfje)


skin
sloughed off
elegant glowing nether
flexible sinuous exotic presentation
rebirth


Update

It’s hard to hold onto your “mad” when your Dad calls and says,
“Be patient with me. I’m sorry and I love you.”


Good Morning! Decision made~

A fully coherent Father made his choice, clearly and verbally, “I will do the feeding tube in the stomach and rehab.” I know that this elongates the process, but we were so relieved that the choice was taken out of our hands and put into the hands of the main participant. Today, after coffee, I will work with the people who will help my Mother stay in their (Mom and Dad’s) home.

All this has made me think….I have no children, I need to make these plans ahead of time for myself. I cannot wait. (But, it cannot be done today…)

Have a Lovely Morning!


Yes, it still works well. (NSFW)

Cartoon still by Waltdizzny

A great article about what to expect from a Penis as it Ages – I love that it mentions options for keeping the pelvic muscles working – we hear this all the time as Women (Kegels), but I now know it is important for men, too.

GQ: How Kegels Will Change Your Sex Life


To be Alive.

dievca celebrated her Birthday, this month, and those years are creeping up in number…

Master asked her what she thinks of Birthdays and of her Birthday.
It took her a moment to come up with her answer.

It was twofold:

1.) I am alive.
2.) Birthdays are an opportunity for people to connect. Phone, Cards, Emails, texts, Face-to-Face.

dievca really treasures the time that people take to connect. she knows it’s a World of busyness, chaos, time-stealers, deadlines, obligations. And if people take their precious time to connect. Wow!

Same goes here on WordPress — when someone takes the time to read, comment, say they stopped by~ How generous.

What does a dievca do for a Birthday in the City?
Send a text out to see if people can stop by for a drink at a local Watering Hole.

In this case, PORCHLIGHT on 11th between 27th and 28th. The new HUDSON YARD area.

Bar from Danny Meyer offering Southern-inspired cocktails & small bites in a handsome space.

What does a dievca wear with the heat (which broke this morning, btw)?

Curly hair growing out, wild…(not much else can be done and it was windy)
Grey/Blue eyeliner, mascara, nude lips and “Bond…James Bond” OPI nail polish on fingernails and toenails!

No, dievca didn’t meet up with Master on the Special Day. They met up earlier in the week when He returned from the West Coast. Master is still a quiet part of dievca’s Life. XO


Age and Advertising…

dievca doesn’t look 24 anymore….Master will say, “How old are you now? 39, right?”…she’s not sure if He is joking or not…but she knows that she is on the downside to 50.  The beautiful thing is that she feels young, vibrant and that translates to how people see her. And….she’s found that she prefers to see Cate Blanchette, Naomi Watts, Lauren Hutton, Helen Mirren in photos – rather than the young stars. They have a history, they are interesting, they have Lived.

Plus, NYC is a hot bed for gorgeous older women – AGING WITH STYLE – ‘ADVANCED STYLE’ DOCUMENTS BEAUTIFUL OLDER WOMEN AGED 62-95

Recently, dievca saw some of the new advertising for St. Laurent, Giorgio Armani, Calvin Klein and Balmain:

 

“For too long fashion has targeted very young girls, ignoring the swathe of older, confident consumers who have a high disposable income and are unsaddled by debt. They are a powerful and stylish army and don’t particularly want to dress in a uniform of wrap dress and nude court shoes,” Stella Editor Marianne Jones, 50, once said of this stylish demographic of women.

dievca may not look like those models, but “Three Cheers”, for the age range!

The Telegraph UK: Jane Birkin’s new Saint Laurent campaign is another sign fashion might finally be embracing grown-ups


My Father’s Hands

Baby and Older Persons Hands
I have my Father’s hands.
Wide palms, long straight fingers, healthy nails, veins popping out, strong and gentle.

One of the most beautiful things I have seen is his hand holding the hand of my newest Grand Niece and she just didn’t want to let him go.

I don’t want to let him go.
In his mid 80’s, my Daddy is still picking up the 2-year-old. Playing with the 4-year-old. Following (slowly) the 3-year-old. All this, as my Mother is playing up and the down the stairs with the others, she’s making up games, dropping clothespins into a milk bottle, filling up water balloons, reading stories: “One Was Johnny” – “Chicken Soup With Rice”. Stories that were read to me, from the same Nutshell Library.

They are bushwhacked when the kids go~
Exhausted.
Dead tired.
I watch them sleep.
Cautiously.

And they won’t give it up because these things are the best part of Life.
I don’t blame them.

Life is for Living.
And Kids keep us alive by holding our hands.
Tightly.

I have my Father’s hands.

Photo: Todor Atanasov - Protection http://www.freephotosbank.com/12414.html

Aging Gracefully: my Darling you are getting older… blog and other~

Meryl Streep Aging GracefullyThe great thing about getting older is that you don’t lose all the other ages you’ve been.

~Madeleine L’Engle

I accept the other renditions of me that I have been throughout my Life.  Those phases, awkward and beautiful, make me who I am today.

I love all the blog posts I have written throughout these past 2 years — they are pieces of me, Master, you and where we all were at that point in Life. Taking the opportunity to share myself, my Life and my thoughts with you has been a gift. Your sharing with me has been a gift.
So, Thank You.


I want to grow old gracefully.

Pina Bausch - Dancer

Pina Bausch – Dancer

I want to grow old gracefully
With kindness
Be interesting to talk to
and be able to listen carefully

I want young people to find comfort with me
Feel that I am trustworthy
Be an asset – not a burden
and know that I will support their dreams

I say these things
But will I be able to do it
When the pain and loneliness crash in
and my old friends and family are gone

All I can do is hope and try
To grow old gracefully