Dinner problems…

dievca had a lovely evening – but she is learning that her body changes include how much her stomach can hold.  she though she was being mindful with the amount of rich food she was eating.  she didn’t eat before she arrived. she had done a good amount movement throughout the day, but the amount of food and drink she consumed killed her.  It might have been the full glass of water and two generous pours of wine.  Perhaps one has to be even more mindful, next time.

The good news was that the rain stopped, plus dievca’s Host and Hostess had no idea of her distress.

Again, a lovely evening – not quite as formal as dievca thought, and dievca got to trim a full Christmas Tree!
Remember, dievca has a Charlie Brown Tree in her apartment…

What dievca wore:


Well said…

“People who believe prettiness equals beauty do not understand beauty,” she continued. “Pretty is easy on the eyes, partly because it’s a little bland, inoffensive. It’s easy to take in and easy to forget. Not so beauty. Beauty can be sharp. It can wound you and leave a scar. To perceive beauty you have to be able to SEE.”

“This is why I believe we get more beautiful with age,” she added. “We have earned our beauty, we understand what it is, and we can see it so much better. There is no such thing as ugly and old. Only shortsighted and ignorant.” — Paulina Porizkova

dievca’s WaterWorks class is leaning towards geriatric…  she looks at the participants and sees her future.  The Ladies?   Amazing.  Some in their 60’s and 70’s, a couple in their 80’s — they are moving and absolutely beautiful, plus (even better) kind.  They ask about dievca’s knee, her work, talk to her about their lives.  They are engaged in the World.  All in Swimsuits.

And none of the class looks like this:

Paulina Pori

RickARoo777 is a moron. Paulina is looking amazing and, yes, better than her younger self because she has lived.


The Workhorses

Older, Extending, Taking extra weight.
These feet are the workhorses of dievca’s body.

Honestly, after sitting next to six Men
In a Hell’s Kitchen Nail Salon
dievca’s feet look amazing for half a century + ~

OPI Cajun Shrimp on the Toes


A Mature Moment – Modehus

dievca’s Swedish friend laughs at her because dievca always has to visit two stores in a small town.  One is an optical shop that sells great eyeglass frames and the second is, well, yeah – a “Mature Women’s” shop . A modehus that her friend does not step into unless dievca is visiting.  Let’s put it this way – dievca saw a pair of cropped pants in the store and then saw them on her friend’s Mother-in-Law an hour later.

Whatever.  dievca stops in because she always finds a gem.

Two trips ago, the gem was a dress made by a Danish designer upcycling vintage Sari silk.  dievca still wears the dress.  dievca bought a similar dress on her last trip, but she felt that the arms were too snug and she passed it on to her Dutch friend.  Her friend loves the dress so much and has worn it a number of times that she had to wash it.

dievca received this photo in response:

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You have to appreciate a fabric care tag telling it like it is!

What did dievca buy this trip? 

Well, TWO pairs of eyeglass frames – but they will appear in another post and a “Made in Italy” linen top which was a tunic but dievca’s friend’s Mother cropped it for our short dievca:

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It looks clean and crisp with white jeans and the Zimmerman sandals:


Words of Wisdom: Elderly Parents on Aging.

So, a total knee replacement is in dievca’s future. But, the chipped knee cap and the floating bone piece, and the osteoarthritis behind the kneecap are the culprits for the current swelling and ligament strains.  Physical Therapy, 1st.  If that’s not enough, removal of bone chip 2nd.  dievca is looking to get into a study for cartilage replacement – maybe? Then knee replacement 4th?

As dievca’s Mom said, “It’s hell to get old.”‘

dievca’s Dad said, “Just keep moving!”

Smile.


Running to the Doctor

Knee Dr.

So, do you think they can take an MRI of the Right and Left -Hips, Knees, and Ankles?

Up the Chain and Down the Chain?


Thrown into a World you remember

Norman Rockwell Muse

12 and 13 years old can be tough ages for Kids – Girls in particular.  It’s a lovely, awkward, silly, loud, insecure, sad, joyous time.  As dievca is rolling towards menopause, she’s recently been thrown into the company of those new to menstruation.  Both camps are riding the rollercoaster of hormones and emotions.

The funny thing is that dievca is finding patience with her own body through finding patience for the kids.

As she listens and soothes – she is soothed in return and it brings back memories of her Mom, Aunts, Cousins, and female coaches.  dievca finds herself saying things that those lovely Women said to her and she rolled her eyes at 13.  Now she knows why they said them and meant them to be true.


Looking like a Human – 2 options

In a past life of Athletics – dievca has been known to train in large t-shirts and shorts, cotton sweatpants, mismatched socks, etc.  The training was more important than the look.  That statement still holds true – but when you are no longer an adorable, in shape 20 something — you may look sad and sloppy in your 50s.  This is ok for home workouts – but dievca is finding that when she cleans up a bit, her workouts become more positive, and perhaps she isn’t scaring herself or anyone.

dievca has mentioned Splits59 previously, she’s added some pieces to make the outfits layered and temperature functional:

Splits59 Cait _INDIGO_CRIMSON_OMBRE techflexsplits59-womens-high-waist-raquel-tights-mainSplits59 Indigo Turtleneck Indigo WhiteSplits59 Indigo Sadie Tank

  • Splits59 Techflex Bra Ombre
  • Splits59 High Waist Raquel Tights Indigo
  • Splits59 Sadie Tank Indigo
  • Splits59 Ribbed Turtleneck Indigo White

dievca’s second favorite workout outfit is a combination of a jogbra and shorts from Girlfriend Collective and a tank and light sweatshirt from Splits59:

Girlfriend Collective Tommy Bra Dark GreenGirlfriend Collective High Rise Biker Shorts Dark GreenSplits59 Dark Forest Toni TankSplits 59 Warm up Fleece Forest

  • Girlfriend Collective Tommy Bra Dark Green
  • Girlfriend Collective High-Rise Biker Shorts Dark Green
  • Splits59 Toni Tank Dark Forest
  • Splits59 Warm Up Fleece Dark Forest

Do you have a suggestion for a great workout clothing brand?


Which Babe are You? (a little humor)

dievca doesn’t catch SNL, so her Dutch friend keeps her up-to-date when there might be something funny:

YES! the ladies look fabulous and are ready to party! BUT…
Which Aging Babe issue have you run into?

  • Can’t stay awake
  • Killer shoes killing the feet
  • Music too loud/ logistics problems
  • Dietary Issues
  • Exhausted and wanting to leave at 9 pm

dievca has qualified for ALL five at some point or another.
As her Mother says, “Its hell getting old!” XO


Have you noticed?

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Advanced Love: Advanced Style Bill and Eva Kobus-Webb

That you or your friends are becoming quirky in your aging?

Unique outfits?
Time Awareness?
Demanding?

Stubbornness?
OCD?
Crotchety?
Bluntness? 

Between Master, dievca’s family, her friends and herself –  there are a lot of people getting older who are really BOSSY!


So, I was told its been 8 years…


Where does the time go? Is this blog worth my time? What do I want/need from it?

I would like to thank everyone who stops by, now and again. I haven’t been a good friend/blogger by checking-in with others as much as I should. As much as I would like to ~
Catholic guilt…

Just know that as the blog adds a year and I, as a Libra, add a year.
I wish everyone well. Good physical health and good mental health.
Never hurts to have someone sending “good vibes” into your corner…

So, please share my Years with me and, for the moment, I plan to continue~

XO dievča


Do people watch a television any more?

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Or is everyone streaming content? Netflix, AppleTV, peacock, Disney+, etc.
Does broadcast television exist anymore?
Where does one start when you haven’t watched a “show” in years?
dievca was working under the theory that she would watch TV when her body couldn’t move anymore.
she’d catch up on all the movies she hadn’t seen or watch “Sex in the City” for the 1st time.
Now there is too much content.
she’s frozen.
Analyze to Paralyze…

God, is the World passing dievca by? or can she catch a ride on the next trend?

Anyone out there feeling the same?


When you have a good friend who is Dutch

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The title of this book has great meaning!

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dievca thought this appropriate for Master and her meeting, she’s not sure he agrees ~


Boobs

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Your breasts grow and grow and grow during puberty, but by the time you’re between 18 and 20, breasts are usually “fully developed,” or finished growing. This doesn’t mean that the size of your breasts at age 18 are the size your breasts will be forever. Hormonal changes, weight loss, and weight gain can all have an effect on the size of your breasts.

After puberty and before pregnancy (if you become pregnant) is when your breasts are likely to appear the fullest. The two main things that give your breasts a shape and size are fat and fibrous connective tissue. After your breasts have finished developing your breasts are likely composed of more fibrous tissue than fatty tissue. Genetics have a hand in breast composition too. If your mom and grandma and grandma’s grandma all have very dense, fibrous breasts, you likely will too.

Gravity is a very real scientific force that no one on this planet can escape. Breasts can be heavy, gravity pulls down on heavy things, and this means your breasts may start showing gravity’s effects when you’re in your 40s. The second thing is that skin loses elasticity as it ages, so with the combined effect of gravity, it’s not unlikely that your breasts will sit lower on your chest. The third thing? Breasts get fattier, they’ll start to feel less dense in your 40s than they did when you were 23 or 33. They’ll look less full as a result, and the fullest part of them will sit lower on your chest.
Some women actually see an increase in breast size after menopause. That increase in size is caused by a few things: general weight gain all over the body, increased water retention, and a change in hormone levels. As with pre-menopause, breasts will be even less dense and composed of more fatty than fibrous tissue at this stage. This means the fullest part of your breasts will sit lower on your chest than it did before.

Even though most people’s breasts go through these same basic stages, you’d still be incredibly hard-pressed to find your exact booby twin roaming around in this world.

Maybe this tea towel will help!

All Shapes of Beauty Tea Towel $18 Uncommon Goods

All Shapes of Beauty Tea Towel $18 Uncommon Goods (click photo to purchase)

A Thank You to Cosmo Magazine, the New York Times and dievca’s Doctor.


The Spirit is willing, the Body – not so much.

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Marie-Berthe Paquette, 102 years old, Montreal, 2016. (Arianne Clément/GroundTruth)

Growing Old – Matthew Arnold

What is it to grow old?
Is it to lose the glory of the form,
The lustre of the eye?
Is it for beauty to forgo her wreath?
—Yes, but not this alone.

Is it to feel our strength—
Not our bloom only, but our strength—decay?
Is it to feel each limb
Grow stiffer, every function less exact,
Each nerve more loosely strung?

Yes, this, and more; but not
Ah, ’tis not what in youth we dreamed ’twould be!
’Tis not to have our life
Mellowed and softened as with sunset glow,
A golden day’s decline.

’Tis not to see the world
As from a height, with rapt prophetic eyes,
And heart profoundly stirred;
And weep, and feel the fullness of the past,
The years that are no more.

It is to spend long days
And not once feel that we were ever young;
It is to add, immured
In the hot prison of the present, month
To month with weary pain.

It is to suffer this,
And feel but half, and feebly, what we feel.
Deep in our hidden heart
Festers the dull remembrance of a change,
But no emotion—none.

It is—last stage of all—
When we are frozen up within, and quite
The phantom of ourselves,
To hear the world applaud the hollow ghost
Which blamed the living man.

Unlike the poem states – dievca still feels flashes of being young. she has hints and memories of free movement, but she wonders if this poem applies to her Mother’s age when memories dim and movement is slim. Note: that dievca is saying this as she is elevating and heating a knee which was painful upon awaking -trying to remember her name.

Photo above from an article on aging and beauty at the Ground Truth Project.


They made such a to-do

Jill Biden Tightsabout Jill Biden’s tights…and dievca immediately thought “Rock It, Lady”!

The First Lady is 69-years-old and giving her personal fashion a go  – its right up there with the octogenarian NY-ers dievca loves seeing – they are killing it with their leopard tights.

dievca wants to be bold in her aging and Master loves stockings. Akira Chicago was offering really fun fishnet tights to help her process.

akira-rhinestone-detail-mesh-fish-net-tight_black_2 Uhh, apparently the Akira tights are sold out. Here is another pair from ASOS by Ann Summers.


Weighted Blankets helping hot flashes? (Something of use)

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Although other medical conditions can cause them, hot flashes most commonly are due to menopause — the time when menstrual periods become irregular and eventually stop. In fact, hot flashes are the most common symptom of the menopausal transition.

During a hot flash, you might have:

  • A sudden feeling of warmth spreading through your chest, neck and face
  • A flushed appearance with red, blotchy skin
  • Rapid heartbeat
  • Perspiration, mostly on your upper body
  • A chilled feeling as the hot flash lets up
  • Feelings of anxiety

The frequency and intensity of hot flashes vary among women. Hot flashes may be mild or so intense that they disrupt daily activities. They can happen at any time of day or night. Nighttime hot flashes (night sweats) may wake you from sleep and can cause long-term sleep disruptions.

Weighted blankets are therapeutic blankets that weigh between 5 to 30 pounds. The pressure from the extra weight mimics a therapeutic technique called deep pressure stimulation.

Deep pressure stimulation uses hands-on pressure to relax the nervous system. Doing so may help:

  • relieve pain
  • lessen anxiety
  • improve mood

Deep pressure stimulation doesn’t have to be completely hands on. With weighted blankets, the same pressure comes from having the blanket wrapped around the body.

dievca learned about weighted blankets from a friend in Europe who is a Therapist – they issue the blankets to their patients. dievca bought one because the color made her happy, it matched her bedding and she thought she would try it while napping~

she didn’t realize that it would became important a part of her strategy to get deep sleep during perimenopause~

Numbers – as a trend, don’t lie. 

Though dievca sleeps 7-8 hours a night — according to her watch, she wasn’t going into the “deep sleep” phase  for very long.  she could feel that she needed something more for healing and weight loss. dievca modified her eating/drinking patterns, bed time consistency, showering pattern, etc.  Not working.  The “hot flashes” got her at the end of a sleep cycle throughout the night, every time – and minimal deep sleep (5-10 min a night) occurred only at the beginning of the night.  

Enter the weighted blanket….

Add 15 min – 1 hour of deep sleep.  

“Hot Flashes” still occur towards morning – but there are less blocks of wake-up time between sleep cycles.

You may be asking – “Doesn’t the weighted blanket make you hotter?”

Bearaby sunbeam-velvet-napperdievca’s Bearaby Velvet Napper has a large weave with “holes” for air flow and she pushes it off as much as any other blanket during a “hot flash”.  You do have to be careful because the blanket is heavy and one can strain a muscle if you don’t pay attention. (Yes, it happened.) But, the time underneath that weighted blanket yields longer and consistent “deep sleep” which is where a body can heal.

Something of use.


God Only Knows


Lately, have you found yourself steeped in nostalgia?
Not saying that Life was better before _________ (fill in the blank)
Just revisiting pieces of Joy, Love, Sadness, Humor, etc.
Beach Boys, Napster, Limewire, Sonic the Hedgehog, the Muppet Show, The Blues Brothers, Jaws, and so on~


When a friend knows you well enough to buy you a vibrator (something of use)

OK, it is a vibrating roller – but it still falls in the vibration causes pleasure category!

dievca should explain…
she is a huge fan of the Power Plate Machine at her gym. It’s helped her strengthen her body.

More importantly, it helped her loosen her insanely tight quads, glutes, calves, feet, and hamstring muscles.

(Note the roller…)

When COVID-19 hit, dievca was out-of-luck with using the Power Plate machine at her gym.  she had to depend on her heating pad, foam roller and heavy-duty time consuming traditional stretching. Not a worry when you have time to spare, but the results were not as euphoric as using the vibrating plate with a roller.

NYC is expecting COVID-19 to hit, again.

dievca’s access to the Power Plate will disappear.

But, it is not a problem anymore. dievca’s friend bought her a vibrator.
In the form of a Vibrating Foam Roller:

Next Roller vibrating foam roller $99 from Amazon (click photo for link) 

  • Three speeds of vibration
  • Portable
  • Rechargeable
  • One Year Warranty

Looks like a good solution for tight muscles in quarantine or any other time.
It works well, dievca used it immediately.

An amazing birthday gift, right?😍


feeling good over 50 (lingerie)

Look, I never had my waist disappear…
until now.
Are those wrinkles on my upper stomach?
yes.
Ok, I am eating better and less, why am I holding weight?
metabolism slow down.
I used to be flexible, why did I tear my calf?
estrogen depletion.

Is there hope?

Yes. Confidence. Attitude and Lingerie you feel good wearing.

Thank Goodness.


Knix – a Canadian Brand

It’s hard to believe but we actually have 4 decades of women in this campaign. We have women in their 50s, 60s, 70s and 80s. And every single one of them is just owning their super power which is being genuine and authentic to who they are.


Sole Searching – Something of Use

Rolling the foot with a ball is an exercise you can complete on your own as a way to massage and stretch the bottom of the foot and the plantar fascia making it much less likely to become irritated.  A ball can help to improve flexibility and range of motion of the ankle.

The type of ball to be used is open — what do you have at home?  A softer ball is easier to start with and you can work your way up to a lacrosse ball or a golf ball.

Put enough pressure on the ball to get a deep massage. You may feel some soreness, back off if you feel any pain.

Try it… Sole Searching
Remember the ball loosens up stiffness in your sole’s muscles, joints, and connective tissues.
How to do it:
1. Circle the ball under your heel with some pressure.
2. Slowly roll your foot from heel to toe through the middle of the foot. Repeat for 1 to 2 minutes.
3. Roll the ball side to side so the ball crosses your arch. for 1 to 2 minutes.
4. Curve your toes around the ball to open up the phalanges and metatarsals. Help with your other foot if needed.

Repeat with your other foot.


“….and the deep power of joy, we see into the life of things…..”

~William Wordsworth

May I be so loved.

Photo: Marrie Bot from Timeless Love

Open hearts and open minds allow one to look beyond a surface appearance to gain insight into a deeper level of existence.
May we be so lucky.


An older submissive…

Age and size are only numbers.
It’s the attitude you bring to clothes that make the difference.
~ Donna Karan

Photo: Man Ray Bottom

A small side note…(nothing important – musings)

dievca will no longer be experiencing Alfredo Sauce from anywhere. Just say “No”.

No one else had trouble.

Lovely to the tastebuds – perhaps not a happy match with the Liver and Gallbladder. Something new in dievca’s Life. Aging issue?

Sad really.

Ahh, well, at least she knows what to do after dealing with her Mother’s Colitis issues.


Cacophany of the Body

noun
harsh discordance of sound; dissonance:
a cacophony of hoots, cackles, and wails. a discordant and meaningless mixture of sounds: the cacophony produced by city traffic at midday.


dievca experienced a cacophony of bodily noises as she slept. Every time she flipped over, reached for water, readjusted the sheets something popped or cracked. In the morning, she was amazed to find that her body was still in one piece without a lot of pain.

Various factors added to the experience:

  • Aggressive deep tissue full body massage
  • Running around with packing and errands
  • Extensive play session with Master
  • Session on a vibrator plate at the gym pre-flight
  • Passing out on the flight to Europe
  • Heavy stretching session after the flight
  • Two beers and a long hot tub soak with friends
  • A lot of salt from a BBQ and not enough water
  • Pushing through to shift the sleep schedule
  • Passing out in a very comfortable bed
  • Hot flashes

It was a symphony of noise, unlike anything, dievca had ever experienced before…

What caused the noise?

Escaping gases: The synovial fluid present in the joints acts as a lubricant and contains oxygen, nitrogen and carbon dioxide. When a joint pops or cracks the joint capsule is stretched causing gas to release quickly.

Movement of joints, tendons, and ligaments: When a joint moves, the tendon’s position changes and moves slightly out of place. A snapping sound can occur as the tendon returns to its original position. Your ligaments can also tighten as you move your joints resulting in a cracking sound and most commonly occurs in your knees or ankles.

Loss of cartilage: Arthritic joints tend to make more noises as the loss of smooth cartilage means the bones rub together on a rougher, more unstable surface.

Ligaments: Ligaments are fibrous tissues that connect two bones at a joint. Tight ligaments are prone to popping when they are suddenly moved, this sometimes results in short-lived pain in the area or sometimes you may not experience it at all.

Tendons: Tendons are fibrous tissues that connect muscle to bone and can also cause popping noises around a joint. This is most commonly found in snapping hip syndrome which causes a snapping sensation when the hip is flexed and extended.

Scar tissue: After joint injury or surgery, scar tissue, known as adhesions, is formed by the ligaments which are more prone to popping and cracking.

Why did it end up feeling very good:

When you pop a joint a stretch occurs in the joint capsule which results in relaxation of the surrounding muscles meaning that it feels particularly good in those tight or stiff places! This is also a good indication of where you might be tight in the body. Another theory suggests that popping a joint releases natural painkillers (or endogenous opiates) in the body.

Whatever – dievca was just happy to wake up in one piece and be functioning after all the noise.

Have you ever had this happen?


~Feeling Valid~ (age is just a number)

Gorgeous!

Book ’em Danno, Muder One- they slayed the FW ’19 runway!

Looks that caught dievca’s eye from the various 2019 Fashion Weeks —
it’s not the clothes, it’s the faces and bodies. Models over 40 years old.
dievca really found them intriguing and interesting.
Character and Lives lived makes for visual interest.

Some of the models, in no particular order:
Pat Cleveland (68)
Christie Brinkley (65)
Veronica Webb (53)
Patti Hansen (62)
Christy Turlington (50)
Laverne Cox (46)
Tonne Goodman (67)
Stella Tennant (48)
Guinevere Van Seenus (41)
Chloë Sevigny (44)
Marie Sophie Wilson (54)
Kirsten Owen (48)
Shala Monroque (40)
Shalom Harlow (45)
Stephanie Seymour (50)


Eye Candy

eye can·dy
/ī ˈkandē
noun – informal
Something purely aesthetically pleasing, that is, pleasing to the senses. Can be a person, a film, a sunset, a flower, or anything else you can see.

~ Urban Dictionary

In a sentence:

dievca is heading to the gym to work on becoming a piece of eye candy for her Master.


aging (elfje)


skin
sloughed off
elegant glowing nether
flexible sinuous exotic presentation
rebirth


Update

It’s hard to hold onto your “mad” when your Dad calls and says,
“Be patient with me. I’m sorry and I love you.”


Good Morning! Decision made~

A fully coherent Father made his choice, clearly and verbally, “I will do the feeding tube in the stomach and rehab.” I know that this elongates the process, but we were so relieved that the choice was taken out of our hands and put into the hands of the main participant. Today, after coffee, I will work with the people who will help my Mother stay in their (Mom and Dad’s) home.

All this has made me think….I have no children, I need to make these plans ahead of time for myself. I cannot wait. (But, it cannot be done today…)

Have a Lovely Morning!