Flying Away

Posted: July 27, 2019 | Author: | Filed under: Entertainment, submissive | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

After a lovely moment with Master, dievca is looking for motivational music for the trip. More than half this trip is work – she needs a giddy-up push.  But, there is a little jaunt to Portugal on the itinerary. That’s dievca’s moment to “Fly Away”.

Also, dievca needs to apologize – she’s really been negligent about connecting with comments, people and blogs. Yes, busy is a baloney excuse, she’s really hoping to take a little time each morning to reconnect on the blog. she misses all of you. XO

Update

Posted: May 7, 2018 | Author: | Filed under: Relationships | Tags: , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

It’s hard to hold onto your “mad” when your Dad calls and says,
“Be patient with me. I’m sorry and I love you.”

to receive this…

Posted: November 26, 2016 | Author: | Filed under: Home and Garden, Relationships | Tags: , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments
balloons-with-a-message

Adamjk Balloons, $15, available at Adamjk. (click on the photo to purchase)

would be such a shock — but wouldn’t you start to laugh, immediately?

Drama? What Drama? I had no idea….

Posted: April 24, 2016 | Author: | Filed under: Analysis, Relationships | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Lucy-van-pelt-1-“Do you want to be honest, or do you want to win?
You could have it all if you could gracefully give in
Like when a martyr knows he’s a martyr
And looking in the mirror makes you cry harder
’bout your glittering ball and chain
In love, In love with your
Beautiful pain
Excuses and old theories repeat themselves and die
But when they don’t hold water
You try to keep them safe and dry”
– lyrics from the song Beautiful Pain by Rosanne Cash

 

dramaDrama: any situation or series of events having vivid, emotional, conflicting,or striking interest or results.

dievca always thought she was a “no drama” zone.  she feels deeply and is very direct/honest with her emotions – but not apt to make a scene.

A friend used the word “drama”multiple times relating to dievca.  dievca thought she was missing something in the definition and looked the word up. The direct definition didn’t seem to apply either.

So, dievca  googled Drama vs. Emotions and ran into this article:

Mind Body Green: Are you expressing your feelings or just creating drama?

Drama eCard

OMG — dievca was horrified, she has done this!
And it prompted her to write this e-mail:

I have never understood why you use the word Drama relating to me. No one has ever used the word for me.  I didn’t think I do drama.

I kept thinking that I just was telling you how I feel….

Apparently, not.

I was looking up the definition of Drama for a blog post and came across something about drama vs emotions, this article explained an important difference to me:

So how do you avoid drama while simply feeling your feelings? The easiest way is this:
When communicating an emotional experience to whomever you feel provoked by, say, “I feel _____.
 
But when saying it in a different way:
 
“You statements” = drama.
You made me feel _____!

The message in between the lines is:

You screwed up.

You did something I don’t like.

You’re wrong.

I am sure I have done this in the past, I cannot change that~

But the past two emails, where I replied to you – I did not do it.

So, if you are generous – I guess we should start there to go  forward.

I still feel a deep need to say I am sorry. I had no idea.

Update:
dievca’s sincere apology was accepted, plus she is doing well at using different verbiage to describe her feelings.
Whew!