Fatherhood

The Guy I fell in Love with First – my Dad.

As I watch my Dad keep weight on as best as possible with tube feeding, I remember all the traveling he had to do for work.  All those meals he had on the road. (and he drank) How he would finish what I didn’t eat.  The focus was on me, my brothers, my Mom — not him.

But, Dad tried – he tried to keep running until a severe ankle injury stopped him (his ankle still swells 30 +years later – of course he never went to the Doctor). Dad was a great athlete and he’s still moving as much as possible to this day, but he did have a…

“Dad Bod”

Its true — there is a type of body created by being a Dad. Especially a “resident” Dad.

  • Though age is positively associated with BMI over all years for all men, comparing nonresident and resident fathers with non-fathers reveals different trajectories based on fatherhood status. Entrance into fatherhood is associated with an increase in BMI trajectory for both nonresident and resident fathers, while non-fathers exhibit a decrease over the same period. 

The study was started in 1994-1995 collecting height + weight to calculate BMI (Body Mass Index) and fatherhood status. Covariates included age, education, physical health, income, number of children, screen hours, workouts, etc.  The starting age range was 12-21 and the study was conducted over 20 years with data collected in four waves.

Men were grouped into three categories: resident fathers, non-resident fathers, and non-fathers. The trajectory of standardized BMI over time is shown below.

In a press release, the lead author of the study, Dr Craig Garfield, Associate Professor of Pediatrics and Medical Social Sciences at Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine and attending pediatrician at Ann & Robert H. Lurie Children’s Hospital of Chicago, said,

Fatherhood can affect the health of young men, above the already known effect of marriage. The more weight the fathers’ gain and the higher their BMI, the greater the risk they have for developing heart disease as well as diabetes and cancer.

So, the “Dad Bod” exists.

Weight gain associated with life transitions such as parenthood is a real concern, and public health, social, and clinical supports should be available for men during this time.

And we should be saying, “Thank You” to our Dad’s for giving their health up for us.

http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/1557988315596224

As I was reading the study, I wondered about the reasons for participants to be non-Fathers. Did they have a partner, male or female? Did that change the findings? Did marriage, in general, cause a male to gain weight whether there were children or not? Etc.

I think, in general, men who have families forget to take care of themselves.
The “Dad Bod” sacrifice.
And especially for Father’s Day – again, I’d like to Thank You.
Fatherhood is special. XO

 


You are alive because of me~

The idiom: Сенің арқаңда күн көріп жүрмін
Literal translation: “I see the sun on your back.”
What it means: “Thank you for being you. I am alive because of your help.”

Everyone needs a little help.
Everyone.

People have different needs.
Needy.

Don’t assume because you are strong and I am strong that we have no needs.
Not True.

I see the sun on your back.
You see the sun on mine.


A little morning Fun!

dievca knows that Master has worked hard on His flexibility and strength, yet she doesn’t think that her Master will be joining these boys any time soon. No matter, she can appreciate Master’s efforts, privately, and share the two well-trained bodies with you.

Good Morning! 😁


Some things are better live….

Ice Hockey Games.

Broadway Musical Theatre

Walking through a Garden

Sex

and Music.

My point is proven by two videos:

Nirvana on the cusp…two days after Nevermind came out.

and

17-year-old Christopher Wallace (aka Biggie Smalls, aka The Notorious B.I.G.) freestyle rapping on a street corner in Bed Stuy, Brooklyn in 1989.

Just say’n~


This made me so happy.

I realized that a Great Athlete is not only the one who wins the Olympics.
It’s the one who recognizes the potential in his or her teammates or competitors and makes them better.

The Gentleman who started the gym is a Great Athlete.
And the patrons have become Great Athletes.

This is the point of working out.
This is the point of Sports.
This is the point of Life.

Be better, help make someone better.


I Wish (an apology)…and a Thank You.

20160914_082712Hi,
Just wanted to share my morning cappuccino with you at Kaffe 1668. I need to apologize – I wish my Life wasn’t so messy right now. I haven’t been able to read anyone’s blog, I’m just managing to get to comments.

With selling a house, elderly parents, business issues, travel, friends in need — I can just barely get to writing posts and replying.  The joy of reading other people’s blogs is on hold.

I miss it. I miss you.

So, I would like to toast you with my lovely cappuccino heart and say “Thank You” for sticking with me and reading my blog.  I appreciate your time, feedback and caring – greatly.

Have a fabulous day, week, month and know that I will be making my way back.

XO

your dievča

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Photos: dievca - Kaffe 1668, NYC - Sept. 2016