Autumn Tea – Master and His dievča

Sexy Tea
“Let us not speak, for the love we bear one another—
Let us hold hands and look.”
She such a very ordinary little woman;
He such a thumping crook;
But both, for a moment, little lower than the angels
In the teashop’s ingle-nook.

In a Bath Teashop by Sir John Betjeman


Good Monday Morning!


The annual trip – and a better Sunset/Sunrise

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The Governors Isalnd annual trek is very simple – a bike ride, $3 round-trip ferry ticket and the splurge for a “Glamping” Tent. Worth every penny when your view is of this sunset and a morning walk around the island offers a mystical view of….Brooklyn!
As dievca writes this post, the cicadas are singing in her ears~
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September Midnight

Cricket
Lyric night of the lingering Indian Summer,
Shadowy fields that are scentless but full of singing,
Never a bird, but the passionless chant of insects,
Ceaseless, insistent.

The grasshopper’s horn, and far-off, high in the maples,
The wheel of a locust leisurely grinding the silence
Under a moon waning and worn, broken,
Tired with summer.

Let me remember you, voices of little insects,
Weeds in the moonlight, fields that are tangled with asters,
Let me remember, soon will the winter be on us,
Snow-hushed and heavy.

Over my soul murmur your mute benediction,
While I gaze, O fields that rest after harvest,
As those who part look long in the eyes they lean to,
Lest they forget them.

Sara Teasdale — Originally published in Poetry, March 1914.

Cricket in Times Square

The Cricket in Times Square by George Selden (1960)


When the wet gets into your bones…

dievca is wrapped in a blanket this morning.

How is your morning? XO


Which way the wind blows — calls for something warm.

Weather Target NYC

After 3+ years of living in the building – dievca has just learned that if the wind hits NYC from a certain SW angle and is very strong,  it will come into her apartment unimpeded by closed and locked windows. The good news is that the rain droplets are too large to do the same…

In the morning aftermath, she is getting cozy with her coffee.

Coffee in a blanket and socks

 


November Rain

Photo: dievca NYC 11/2020

“November Rain” by Jaroslav Seifert (winner of the Nobel Prize)

Tranlated from Czech to English by Ewald Osers, with editing and prose translations by George Gibian 1998


Autumn Clean-Up


What’s on your agenda for this Fall Sunday?
dievca has:

  • Change to Winter Bedding
  • Wash and Store Summer Linens
  • Wash the Floors
  • Wash the Windows
  • Back Master’s Birthday Crisp – WI sour cherries this year!

Sometimes it’s nice to simply be domestic and get things done – you can see the fruits of your efforts.

Enjoy your Sunday. XO


Look for the Moon! What does it all mean?

Jane Greer Full Moon.

Hunter’s Moon, Beaver Moon, Blue Moon, Micro Moon, or Frost, Frosty, Snow Moon. Sharad Purnima; and the Thadingyut, Hpaung Daw U, and Low Krathong Festival Moon. This All Hallows Eve Moon will appear “opposite” the Sun (in Earth-based longitude) at 10:49 AM EDT and will appear Full through Sunday evening.

Thoughts from around the web on what this Blue Moon on Halloween means:

“Magically speaking, blue and full moons are amazing opportunities to release and heal,” This moon is a very fortunate time to mend our bodies, minds, and hearts.

“Full moons have always been seen as moments in time in which the astrological energy comes to a climax.  Since this moon is happening on Halloween and while the Sun is in Scorpio, a sign that is closely connected to the spiritual world, this blue moon is an obvious invitation to get super witchy!”  If you aren’t taking advantage of this lunar event and performing a witchy ritual around this time, you’re missing out on all of the mystical, fantastical, and enchanting energy in the air.

“This is one of the few times within the year that we can easily bridge the gap between both worlds. The blue moon will serve as an extra illumination on the metaphorical realm, as full moons expose matters on Earth due to its effervescent glow.”

Halloween will be the first blue moon visible in every time zone since 1944. Might be good to charge those crystals! The next full moon on Halloween that will be visible worldwide is expected in 2077, according to the Farmer’s Almanac.

“Full moons are a time when we get a little assistance seeing in the dark.  It is a very significant full moon, and it is happening four days before the election and is sitting next to a planet with upheaval, change, surprise, excitement: Uranus.” It’s a good time to get rid of things we don’t need.

“I think that symbols — and a blue moon is a symbol — do have the potential to activate things in an individual and in the collective.  It is a time when something rare can happen.”

For the moon to actually appear blue is a whole different matter. There has to be enough matter of a particular size kicked into the atmosphere that red light is scattered. The popular example of this is the 1883 eruption of the Indonesian volcano Krakatoa. According to NASA, the eruption was so large that for years afterwards,the moon appeared bluish and sometimes greenish. The volcanic ash particles were large enough to block out red wavelengths of light, while other wavelengths carried on as usual.

Full moons are a call for balance. The moon — symbolic of the divine feminine — sitting proudly across from the sun — a symbol of the sacred masculine and the greatest source of energy — is powerful beyond words. This is precisely why full moons are so climactic and revealing. This lunar phase never ceases to bring what’s hidden to light. and with the sun in Scorpio — symbolic of the underworld — opposing the moon in Taurus — a representation of Mother Earth — this lunation is speaking to the cycle of life and death.

To top it off, this full moon will also conjunct Uranus, at the exact same degree, so shocking is an understatement. The “Great Awakener,” and the planet of chaos, revolution, and unexpected change, it’s safe to say that the shocking revelations stemming from this full moon will make history. Just because you can’t see something doesn’t mean it isn’t there, and this year’s full (blue) moon conjunct Uranus on All Hallows Eve will prove it.

Wishing you a HAPPY HALLOWEEN,
no matter what the FULL MOON brings~

Thank you to NPR, the New York Times, Refinery 29, NASA Science and Elite Daily


NYC Autumn Morning


Photos: dievca NYC 10/2020

Autumn, New York, 1999

Patricia Spears Jones

And I am full of worry I wrote to a friend
Worry, she replied about what—love, money, health?

All of them, I wrote back. It’s autumn, the air is clear
and you hear death music—the rattle of leaves swirling

the midnight cat howling, a newborn baby’s 3 am
call for food or help or heart’s love

At the market, the green, red and yellow apples are piled high,
sweet perfume—once, I went apple picking in Massachusetts

a day of thralling beauty, my companions and I
had no desire to leave the valley—the plump trees,

the fierce pride of small town New England where a gift shop
exploded gingham, calico, silly stuffed toys

we stood within this shrine to cloying femininity of entwined hearts
and ribbons and bows like invading aliens, fascinated and appalled

and here too, people throng around the dahlias—
the last of the bright fat flowers. Open. Scentless.

It is going to be a very hard winter and we all know it in our bones
an almost atavistic memory with instruction—wear heavy clothes
horde food, drink water, stand against the wind

listen.

Copyright © 2010 by Patricia Spears Jones. From Painkiller (Tia Cucha Press, 2010).

The Cat and the Moon (poetry and lingerie)

Shein Cats, Moon, and Stars PJ’s $9.00 (click photo for link)

THE CAT AND THE MOON

by: W. B. Yeats (1865-1939)

HE cat went here and there
And the moon spun round like a top,
And the nearest kin of the moon,
The creeping cat, looked up.
Black Minnaloushe stared at the moon,
For, wander and wail as he would,
The pure cold light in the sky
Troubled his animal blood.
Minnaloushe runs in the grass
Lifting his delicate feet.
Do you dance, Minnaloushe, do you dance?
When two close kindred meet,
What better than call a dance?
Maybe the moon may learn,
Tired of that courtly fashion,
A new dance turn.
Minnaloushe creeps through the grass
From moonlit place to place,
The sacred moon overhead
Has taken a new phase.
Does Minnaloushe know that his pupils
Will pass from change to change,
And that from round to crescent,
From crescent to round they range?
Minnaloushe creeps through the grass
Alone, important and wise,
And lifts to the changing moon
His changing eyes.

 


A New Look for a Classic

dievca was looking for one jacket to replace:

JCrew Fishtail Anorak

True Religion Camo Anorak

Belstaff Canvas Anorak

Two have zipper issues and the camouflage hasn’t been worn in awhile.

The Marissa Webb Gabby Anorak hasn’t arrived, yet, but do you think that dievca made a good choice? Sh*t, she just noticed that it doesn’t have a hood…


Autumn Coffee

“Listen! The wind is rising, and the air is wild with leaves,
we have had our summer evenings, now for October eves.”
– Humbert Wolfe


And now for that coffee~

Photo: dievca – Governors Island 09/2020

A visit to the Nail Salon would be good, but dievca’s spot closed pre-COVID.  There are some pockets of COVID upsurge in NYC, so dievca will have to find a new place ASAP or let it go for now. Doesn’t really matter on Governors Island.

Hmm, dievca just realized that Governors Island has taken the place of the Lake House she sold.  she is a total Midwestern dievca in the City. (Note: a 30 min bike ride, 3 min ferry ride and no mortgage has something to do with it…)


A nip in the air – triggers dreams of Aran Sweaters

Jean Seaberg 1969 Fisherman Sweater

The Aran Islands, a set of three islands located off the west of Ireland in graphic terms.
The Aran jumper (Irish: Geansaí Árann) is a style of jumper (sweater) that takes its name from the Aran Islands off the west coast. A traditional Aran Jumper usually is off-white in color, with cable patterns on the body and sleeves. Originally the jumpers were knitted using unscoured wool that retained its natural oils (lanolin) which made the garments water-resistant and meant they remained wearable even when wet.

Steve McQueen 1968 Fisherman Sweater

The islands are still known today for those sweaters. Back in the 1930s, the Irish government made a concerted effort to promote handcrafted goods, which they felt could economically stimulate the region while also allowing many of the more remotely located citizens to work from home. And the plan worked — mostly. Aran sweaters are made through a sprawling cottage industry in the region, although there are also a ton of designer brands producing the same style offshore. Of the tourists who visit the islands, however, few leave without a sweater.

John Lennon Fisherman Sweater

The great thing about an Aran knit is how it can be worn in almost any context. This is especially useful if you’re just starting to build a wardrobe, as it’ll allow you to explore different areas while developing your personal style. Aran sweaters pair naturally with jeans, dress pants, or a long skirt. They can be worn singly or layered.

Chris Evans Fisherman Sweater

Steven Spielberg Fisherman Sweater

Ryan O’Neal Fisherman Sweater

Part of the appeal and popularity of Aran Jumper comes from the array of myths propagated by Heinz Edgar Kiewe:

The moss stitch is said to signify an abundance of growth.
The blackberry stitch represents nature.
The honeycomb is a said to be a lucky stitch, signifying plenty.
Lattice or basket stitches to represent the old wicker basket patterns.
The Ladder of Life and Tree of Life represents the stages of life.

Marilyn Monroe 1960 Fisherman Sweater

Very generally speaking, Aran knits can be made in one of three ways.

Hand Knit: What you think of when you hear “handmade,” even though not all sweaters marketed as handmade are indeed hand knitted. Here, a knitter juggles two knitting needles to create a set of intricate stitches (some of which machines may not be able to handle). The results are sweaters that are often more textured than their machine-made counterparts, although a lot depends on the specific constructions. Today, the work is mostly done by elderly women in Scotland and Ireland, who knit sweaters at home for part-time pay.

Hand-Operated Machine: A sweater made on a single-operator machine, where the operator can adjust the stitching pattern between rows. The best sweaters in this category are said to compare well to hand-knitted ones, although sometimes they’re not as tightly knit. The upside: there’s less labor involved, so the resulting sweaters are a bit more affordable, and since they don’t require the complicated set-up of automatic machines, you can get custom one-offs.

Automatic Machines: The most variable in quality, as you can find everything from ~$80 sweaters to luxurious $750+ pieces from the likes of Luciano Barbera. The difference is mostly in the quality of the yarns, density of the knitting, and if there’s any hand finishing.

Elvis Presley 1960 Fisherman Sweater

Look at Vintage sweaters! The nice thing about Aran knits is that they’re hardy — often densely knitted from thick, sturdy yarns, which means vintage ones are typically in good condition. You can find them at thrift stores and eBay for around between $25 to $150.

The only problem is the fit, sometimes vintage sweaters are made to strange proportions that may not work in every wardrobe. When buying online, pay attention to measurements and make sure there’s a good return policy. Using eBay, you can search for brands such as Aran Crafts, Carraig Donn, Blarney Woolen Mills, and John Molloy, or just browse more generally for “Irish sweater” or “fisherman sweater” or “Aran Sweater”.  If you can find one that fits well, it will be better than the Aran-style knits you find in shops such as American Eagle, J Crew, LL Bean, and The Gap.

Grace Kelly Fisherman Sweater

dievca still has the classic crew collar Irish Sweater she wore in college. It’s boxy, bulky, and itches – but she cannot get rid of it due to the memories attached. she wore it everywhere – to classes, then football games and parties with Guess jeans, a turtleneck, Nine West sweater booties, Tweed overcoat, Ray-Ban Clubmaster sunglasses and Busch Light tucked into the coat pockets:

As a return to college days nostalgia, dievca has updated her Aran Sweater with a lighter weave, merino wool option with the Donegal Jumper from Stable of Ireland. she’s planning to pair it with a light t-shirt, cargo pants, combat boots and knit cashmere hat.

A “Thank You” to putthison.com


Just because…the Moon needs to be shared.


An October Walk in NYC

 

Photos: dievca NYC 10/2019

 


Last Roses of Summer

Summer hasn’t quite finished in NYC.
The leaves haven’t turned.
Perennials are still blooming.
The Roses are having their last hurrah.

Photo: dievca - Hudson River NYC 10/2019

soft, fuzzy, sexy? sweaters as lingerie


As Autumn approaches, the chill in the air signals ‘Sweater Weather’. dievca always has fantasies of being peeled out of her sweaters like an onion, one layer at a time.

But does Cosy/Snuggly = Sexy?

dievca thinks “yes”! Master might think “no”… she will have to ask.


Just take a look at Linda Evangalista in her Jumper:


Boooiiing! Putting that Spring in your Step.

Grey Matters Molla Boot black/green spring $725

Tensile Strength in Spring Design
In compression spring design the spring’s resistance to being compressed is its “compressive strength,” while its “tensile strength” is its resistance to breaking due to stress. In extension spring design, tensile strength would be measured by the spring materials resistance to being pulled apart.

Balancing Cost and Tensile Strength
No matter how much stress is applied to springs in your application, its tensile strength is integral to maintaining functionality as well as increasing the life expectancy of your springs. The longer your springs last, the more cost-effective they ultimately are.

The other factor involved in spring cost is weight savings. The less amount of material used in the spring, the less it will cost. By minimizing the materials used and maximizing their efficiency and tensile strength, spring designers can create the most efficient spring design.

Gray Matters is a collection of standout sculptural pieces: objects with a life of their own or enhancing the character of women like no other.

As in gray the color, Gray Matters is versatile and sophisticated, always adding subtle nuances, never imposing.

Designer Silvia Avanzi was inspired by the artistic heritage of her native country Italy, along with the hectic lifestyle of her adoptive city New York. Beginning with her long-time passion for shoes, in 2015 she decided to solve the eternal challenge of how to effortlessly make a personal statement from work to play, from day to night.

Gray Matters is made by three generations of expert shoemakers near Venice in Italy. Exuding with artisanal details, each piece carries an attitude of its own; a casual confidence of women who can own it.

A 'Thank You' to the Yost Superior Company.

Bands of Weather from Dorian – NYC Glamping

The ferry ride to Governors Island.

A moment in the peaceful part of the storm rotation. Staten Island Ferry always running.

The morning after – clear and windy. Military planes taking a morning jaunt. Small craft advisory until 11 am. Container ships collected and anchored by Bayonne NJ.

It was an interesting evening, Glamping in the wind. Governors Island
You could hear the rotational ramp-up of the winds, a die down and then another pass. This morning?
The calm after the storm.


Indigo glow

Indigo, a blend of blue and purple, symbolizes spirituality, wisdom, devotion, creativity, fairness, impartiality, justice and dignity.
Master’s Morning!


What do you wear for Civic Duty?

So, dievca got placed on the Grand Jury on Monday, Voted on Tuesday, back to Jury Duty – Weds. Clothes had to be comfortable for sitting around, but be able to walk the neighborhood to the polls, plus last through a concert…

What did she wear?

Jury Selection – train downtown, rain 50’s (10+ Celsius)

Voting – In the neighborhood, Thunderstorms, 60’s (15+ Celsius) also needs to be used for a concert in the evening – retro feel is good. fits right in (bought the tickets for Master’s B-day, but he’s traveling – one of His kids had a baby, going with the friend who suggested the band to dievca in the first place.)

1st day of sitting on a Jury – bike ride, upper 50’s (13+ Celsius)


Sharing 16 hours….Union Square to Chelsea.

After work on Saturday, dievca hustled across to the Union Square Farmer’s Market to shop with a friend, she wanted to get apples or pears to make another Crisp for when Master returns. It ended up being apples.

Realizing that she didn’t eat since 6:30 am, she and her friend ambled over to The Coffee Shop – a NYC, Union Square staple. It was closed. dievca was just there at the end of September. The place was hopping at 3 pm~

Devastated that another NYC landmark was dropping out due to rents, they wandered into Flat Fix, a taco shop owned by the same people. The Manager confirmed the heavy rent increases (plus higher minimum wage and food/beverage costs) forced The Coffee Shop to close. Rumors about a bank and two chain restaurants taking over the space. FlatFix is staying.

dievca left her friend at the subway station and started to meander home. Seeing silly things in the City:

Yes, that water-resistant cashmere Herno coat is something dievca would love to buy for Master…..the hefty price tag (about 2K) will limit that purchase. It was GORGEOUS….

The next morning, with the time change she got up early and walked the High Line to meet a friend for breakfast and saw a bit of Fall Colors. Supposedly the colors in Upstate New York are not very good because of the super hot and wet Summer.

On the way home, she investigated two options for her “money from the sidewalk” homeless donation jar.

  • Church of the Holy Apostles Soup Kitchen (dievca sees that it is heavily in use)
  • Antonio Olivieri Drop-In Center (across from Penn Station – also heavily in use)

OK, the money collected off the street may only be $50, but that is $50 put towards helping someone eat or shower.

dievca hopes you have enjoyed your “Fall Back” time change as much as she enjoyed her 16 hours. XO

Photos: dievca 11/2018 NYC

First Gala of the Season 2018

Dries van Noten Ribbon Fringe Dress SS 2015

The dress – Dries von Noten SS 2015, soooo dievca might look a little bit muppet-ish, the swish is too fun to miss out on….

Here’s how Dries styled it:

Dries van Noten Runway SS 2015

OK, no patterned cardigan available in dievca’s closet, but a Club Monaco Soft Trench might do the trick:

Club Monaco Elila Soft Trench

And it works!

Shoes? Initially, dievca was thinking boots. Tall, black patent leather boots, but Dries styled it with an ankle strap sandal for Spring/Summer. What else does dievca have?

Maison Martin Margiela Replica 1970’s Tango shoes Argentina in blue patent leather

dievca is going to keep the jewelry simple because the dress has so much going on:

Hair and make-up? Well, dievca’s hair grew out and had gotten long and shaggy as thin hair is wont to do~ Listening to her Master, she kept it long and got a “Lob” (long bob) with the idea that with her hair blown out she would have similar hair to:

Catherine Deneuve, Paris Match 1997, Photo: Ellen von Unwerth

It worked. The color isn’t the same, dievca has red, gold and grey highlights from the Summer (random grey as she cannot decided whether to color her hair or not…Master has no opinion on it.) But, the body and the sweep occurs when dievca straightens her curls. Let’s hope it doesn’t rain….

Smoky eyes, red lips, facial contouring which dievca learned this summer from the photo-shoot!

Voila!

If you cannot be traditionally beautiful, you might as well have fun with Fashion!
and dievca suspects that Master will have fun tossing up her skirt! 😉


For fun, the Toadstool today~

Looks a little green under the umbrella – dievca’s not going to take a chance on the eating….


Welcome LIBRA and watch out for the Toadstools

THERE ‘s a thing that grows by the fainting flower,
And springs in the shade of the lady’s bower;
The lily shrinks, and the rose turns pale,
When they feel its breath in the summer gale,
And the tulip curls its leaves in pride,
And the blue-eyed violet starts aside;
But the lily may flaunt, and the tulip stare,
For what does the honest toadstool care?
She does not glow in a painted vest,
And she never blooms on the maiden’s breast;
But she comes, as the saintly sisters do,
In a modest suit of a Quaker hue.
And, when the stars in the evening skies
Are weeping dew from their gentle eyes,
The toad comes out from his hermit cell,
The tale of his faithful love to tell.

Oh, there is light in her lover’s glance,
That flies to her heart like a silver lance;
His breeches are made of spotted skin,
His jacket ‘is tight, and his pumps are thin;
In a cloudless night you may hear his song,
As its pensive melody floats along,
And, if you will look by the moonlight fair,
The trembling form of the toad is there.

And he twines his arms round her slender stem,
In the shade of her velvet diadem;
But she turns away in her maiden shame,
And will not breathe on the kindling flame;
He sings at her feet through the live-long night,
And creeps to his cave at the break of light;
And whenever he comes to the air above,
His throat is swelling with baffled love.

Oliver Wendell Holmes

The last day of summer is also the same as the first day of fall: Saturday, September 22, 2018

Also known as the Autumnal Equinox and the fall equinox, the Autumn equinox occurs when the sun crosses the equator. According to The Farmer’s Almanac, both the Southern and Northern hemispheres receive the same amount of sunshine at this time, and day and night are of nearly equal length. The Northern Hemisphere will start seeing shorter days and longer nights, where the Southern Hemisphere will see a reversal in seasons due to the Earth’s tilt.

On the Autumn Equinox, the sun astrologically enters into the zodiac sign Libra. Her balanced scales mark the equal length of day and night on the first day of fall, as well as signify a need to balance the body, mind, and spirit with self-care.

Add:

The Harvest Moon will be on Monday, September 24. 10:53 pm Eastern Time (shake your wallet)

And coming back to those Toadstools that dievca photographed:

You know its been really wet in NYC when dievca rides past those very large Mushrooms or ‘Toadstools’. she thinks they are the poisonous Green-spoored Parasol…its a definite ‘no go’ to eat them no matter how much they look like a Portobello mushroom cap.

A quote from a mushroom web page composed by Tom Volk of the University of Wisconsin-La Crosse describes the potential of this mushroom.  “According to Dennis Benjamin (Mushrooms: poisonings and panaceas, 1995, W.H. Freeman and Company, 422 pp.) ‘In some individuals the gastrointestinal syndrome, which occurs about 1 – 3 hours after the meal, can be very severe, especially the colicky abdominal pain, which can mimic that of a ‘surgical’ abdomen.  Symptoms persist for up to six hours, and even longer in a few patients.  Nausea, vomiting and diarrhea complete the picture.  The diarrhea can be explosive in nature and become bloody.’ 

Umm, yeah, a pass.

Welcome to LIBRA – dievca’s birth sign. XO


And a new season begins~


XO
~dievca


Death, Dealing and a Sense of Humor

Asleep sculpture

ArtistPeter Schipperheyn, born Melbourne Australia 1955-  Title:  “Asleep”  carved 1987  Dimensions: 460 mm in height by 2020 mm in length by 800 mm in depth [life-size figure].  Medium:Carrara Statuario Marble .  Present locationMt Macedon Cemetery, Mt Macedon. Victoria.

“You can choose your friends but you sho’ can’t choose your family, an’ they’re still kin to you no matter whether you acknowledge ’em or not, and it makes you look right silly when you don’t.”
― Harper Lee, To Kill a Mockingbird

Warning:  The activities and responses are taken from a lapsed Catholic’s viewpoint. If you are easily offended by a humorous look at the human response towards death, customs and the Catholic Faith – bypass this post.

Three deaths so far since August, two had funerals which dievca hustled to attend. Both Catholic, one a close Family member, the other the Father of a Friend. One in PA, the other in NY.

A little background history: dievca was raised Catholic.  Attended a Catholic Grade School and College. Her Baptism, Communion, Reconciliation, Confirmation, and Marriage all took place in the same Church. she appreciated the 20 minute Mass offered in college at one of the Sports Dorms. she doesn’t really take part in the Faith, anymore. Though Master says her Catholic still shows.

dievca is a bit disillusioned by many organized Religions, especially the orthodox versions – they are not for her. But whatever you want or need, its good for you – just don’t come asking for money.

Two years ago: dievca had lovely Aunt pass away. One of two sisters on her Dad’s side.  Her Aunt (the sister) sat next to dievca during the Mass and said, “Doesn’t the navy blue casket look great and the flowers, too?” Okay~  dievca was more distracted by the Priest couldn’t be bothered to show up to give her dying Aunt her Last Rites when requested, he did not remember her Aunt’s name, never bothered to find out about her Aunt in any way — after said Aunt donated $5000 per year to that Church for multiple years and had volunteered in the school’s cafeteria after retiring. dievca’s Aunt had made the greatest of efforts to make it to Mass weekly. People made their quiet way to attend to her Funeral.

Garnet Hill Starlet Dress, Zadig & Voltaire Scarf

Not feeling groovy about that Catholic Church (PA) in particular.

August: dievca’s last Aunt (the sister) passed away..  This Aunt, well, let’s just say she was a challenge. ALWAYS.  That said, she was very specific what she wanted for her Funeral. Same church, different funeral home, different cemetery.  Mauve Casket, full-out pink Flowers, full choir – she set aside an extra $5k for a second viewing.

This is the Aunt who had sat on the sofa for 30 years, never venturing past a 4 block area. She was the expert on everything because she watched TV and read the newspaper. She never went to Mass, never volunteered, never donated money – so dievca didn’t expect the Church to know of her existence. They didn’t know her and they did ask a guest Priest to say the funeral Mass – he did his best and it was a much better Mass with less material than dievca’s other Aunt’s funeral.  Five people attended.  Eleanor Rigby kept playing in dievca’s head.

During that trip to PA, dievca made a point to visit, clean up and lay flowers for both sides of the Family gravesites. One of her cousins from her Mother’s side went with her.

Why did dievca clean up the gravesites? Good Question.

Actually, while cleaning – she had a chat with each Family Member.
No….they didn’t answer.

she visited the graves because people pay a lot money for a funeral, burial plot, grave marker to be remembered. dievca felt like she should take a moment on honor their last efforts to be on this Earth.

Please buy a wooden urn for dievca and toss the whole thing, unopened, into Lake Michigan. No blow back of ashes or bone that way.

Y Studio Dress, Faliero Sarti Scarf

J. Mendel Leather Coat

A/W 1999 Martin Margiela black leather shoes with socks (spats)

The latest funeral was for a good friend’s Father. He had passed away after dealing with Alzheimer’s and Cancer. There was a sigh of relief in the Family.

dievca went to support her Friend and her Mother.The Funeral Mass was at the Church where her friend went to Grade School, Communion, Reconciliation, Confirmation. She never married.

This Church was where dievca’s Friend did everything growing up. The NY version of dievca’s Midwest Catholic Church. Very 1960/70’s stain-glass windows and design. Jesus was NOT on a cross – he was done in marble, looking like a Greek sculpture on the wall with a 6 pack stomach, welcoming ALL with open arms.

Irish and Chinese attendees. Interesting mix.

dievca’s friend is of Chinese descent.
dievca loves going to Chinatown with her friend’s 86-year-old Mom.
She runs circles around dievca and her friend.
She wore heels at the funeral!

dievca took care of the Mother’s coat/scarf, toilet run, huge hugs. Her friend is awkward with that stuff, so dievca stepped in. dievca’s Mom was/is high maintenance so it’s a habit and not a problem, plus her friend is generous, she doesn’t mind sharing her Mum. She finds it a relief.

Full Mass. Elderly Priest.
He worked hard to find out about the deceased and the family – unlike the priest who said Mass for dievca’s Aunt.
Noticeable.

dievca’s friend was nervous about her Reading, she asked if she bows to the altar or not.
dievca said, “You know, I really don’t think God or your Dad is going to mind what you do, nor your Mother…” Then there was a mix-up with who was reading what…it worked out fine.

An Altar Boy (Chinese) and an Altar Girl (Hispanic), both from the attached Catholic school and were entertaining to watch. The boy kept staring at my friend and her brother when the priest said they went to the Catholic school and that both are in the military.
The girl was yawning during the readings, then she couldn’t find the Eucharistic Bread and Wine – no one had brought the gifts up to the Altar. The Priest had to go looking for it during the Ave Maria (excellent vocalist).

The trappings of the Mass are a show.
The prayers and meditation of people who take comfort is real.
The kids, with their mess-ups, are truth.

Spanx Full Body Shaper

After the Mass, dievca got her friend’s Mom to the bathroom, helped with her coat/scarf and then sent-off to the graveside. dievca needed to get back to the City and was finally able to get to the bathroom for herself, desperate from the morning coffee and wearing a full Spanx undergarment.

As she exited the bathroom, the Priest was giving the two Altar Persons “hell” – it made her laugh.

There may be death, but Life goes on.


Every Autumn….

It can be 90F (32C) with high humidity, but if its the end of September, dievca is looking at coats and sweaters (jumpers) for a closet refresh.

Mind you, she has more than enough and she is trying to streamline her closets…

Here’s what happened so far~

dievca sold these items:

Boxy Denim Parka Jacket Marques’Almeida X Topshop

Elizabeth and James Monica Knit fur Hoodie

TEXTILE Elizabeth and James Gregory Pullover

Isabel Marant Acebo Knit Fur Jacket

To buy this:

ARMY Yves Salomon fur-lined coat parka (her’s is khaki green)

Now, please realize that she still has these:


But she is still looking at these:

Chloe Pocket Cashmere Sweater Barneys $1395

Maison Martin Margiela Replica 1963 Green Aran Sweater eBay $589

Milly Oversized Fisherman Lagoon Saks 5th Ave $450

ACNE Studios Eshe Sweater eBay $159

Actually it has been really good to write this post…and the desire to buy a new sweater for the year has just diminished immensely. Thank you!

How is your closet looking for the Autumn?
Any cool sweaters/jumpers or coats? XO