So, I was told its been 8 years…

Where does the time go? Is this blog worth my time? What do I want/need from it?

I would like to thank everyone who stops by, now and again. I haven’t been a good friend/blogger by checking-in with others as much as I should. As much as I would like to ~
Catholic guilt…

Just know that as the blog adds a year and I, as a Libra, add a year.
I wish everyone well. Good physical health and good mental health.
Never hurts to have someone sending “good vibes” into your corner…

So, please share my Years with me and, for the moment, I plan to continue~

XO dievča

Frustration – Classic Editor

Photo: Alesse Girl in a Library

Is anyone else absolutely frustrated?

OK, COVID-19 and the election are more important and annoying – but the WordPress switch to the new editor is infuriating.

Many people blog for pleasure. They are not looking for the newest, hottest technology. If that was the case, they would have moved to Instagram ages ago. Or follow whatever trend rolls through~

dievca – the blog, doesn’t translate to YouTube, Instagram, or Twitter well.    The risqué content limits the audience reached through the WordPress search options. Yet, the blog format works with dievca’s content and has drawn an audience via Google/search engines – not WordPress.

Why does dievca know this? she bought a Business Plan to use Classic Editor plug-in. Yes – she could create on the plug-in, but her blog posts were stored in a staging area and then pushed to WordPress. she lost access to her audience except for people who receive the blog via email or will look for her directly on WordPress. No more search engines, Pinterest or photos connections, etc. she had a drop of about 200-300 views.

dievca explained the numbers to the lovely “Happiness Engineer” and got her money back.  The blog numbers are recovering.

So, now she is on the new editor and tried to load a number of photos… Think of her multiple photos of Sophia Loren in lingerie – not easily done in the new editor. Or maybe it is, but it will take dievca 3 hours to figure it out! Not a pleasure to blog.

Alright – dievca apologises – she is whinging.
But is anyone else frustrated?

Happy Social Media Day!

Did dievca tell you, “Thank You” for coming on her ride?
Thank you.

Social Media Day is observed annually on June 30th. In its short life, social media has redefined how people interact, communicate, and share with family, friends, and the world. With the launch of Friendster in 2002 and MySpace in 2003, social media had become mainstream.

In its most basic sense, social media is a shift in how people discover, read, and share news, information, and content. Technologies include blogs, picture-sharing, vlogs, wall-postings, email, instant messaging, music-sharing, crowdsourcing, and voice over IP, to name a few.

And Master has never minded that dievca has shared pieces of their Life on the blog.

Master has been productive, dievca hasn’t

Granted dievca has had a lot on her mind and in her Life — and its effect on writing shows.
she might take a little break  OR NOT because she knows if she stops – she won’t come back.

Well, something to think about other than her Mother. XO

Comics from Writer's Digest 1952

spell check disaster

Are you missing the spelling application that was a part of WordPress? dievca is, she would hit the “ABC” button on a post prior to scheduling…. There’s no more button.

Is anyone else having a problem with their spelling?

dievca did notice that her ‘furtile immagination” should have been ‘fertile imagination’ and she’s sure that she has missed more items. Please let her know if you spot misspellings or rotten grammar.

dievca did turn on her Google Chrome spelling option. Maybe it will help.
Until something happens know that…

Monday Morning Musings (and questions)

Good Morning! How are you?
I survived the weekend intact, did you? I am back at work bright and early this morning, too. It’s just that time of the year~

My blog is running out of media memory — has anyone else run into that issue? I have  some time before it goes, but the countdown has started — “what to do, what to do”.

At the same time this is occurring, I am starting to focus on setting up a third (count ’em) graduate degree program.  I came into a small amount of money and am looking at a scholarship.  We will see what happens.

Add that Master is having some heath issues — nothing serious, but enough to be a headache. I cannot help, so I keep an eye open and wait.

Overall, I am focused on certain pieces of Life and distracted by others.

I guess what I am asking in this post is —what do you think about blogging?
Is it a dying skill with Instagram all over?
Is it too hard to take time to read when you are bombarded by quick hits like Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook, etc.?

What do you want to do with your time?
What do I want to do with my time?
Who should we spend it with?

Thank you for spending time with me. XO

Time for a check-up (Blog, Life, BDSM)

Time for  a check-up:
(translation = let dievca talk it out)


dievca’s views for the blog have been down, followers is up – she knew she was “hidden” by WordPress, but when she hasn’t been able to read other great posts and keep up with new bloggers — that limits new connections. Add that blog friends have disappeared: Instagram, death (literally for 3 people), new partners, new focuses, new activities, physical illness, mental illness, family, etc. You get it.

It doesn’t matter – Staying consistent and posting daily is one way dievca finds peace and it is the only way dievca can keep the blog rolling. she knows this because when she stopped her photo blog daily after a year — she never went back to it, though she has the photos. Maybe someday…


You know that Master was very ill. You know that His elderly family members have passed and now dievca’s elderly family members are passing. Her parents are in their 80’s. Master was worried about His young family members. Master is working hard, dievca is working hard. dievca sold a house in the Midwest, she is considering to buy a co-op in NYC, her back went out, etc.

Life got in the way of BDSM for a while.


Master and dievca are still playing. But, it’s not as consistent as the beginning of the blog. Life issues, injuries, sickness, etc. that takes a toll.  Add that dievca and Master have become very close – and that gets in the way, sometimes. But after much trial and error, Master and dievca have found ways to signal that the BDSM needs to take over.

And it is needed.
Master and dievca have had their reaffirmation.

The trust creates a connection unlike any other.

So, Doctor…
do I keep the blog?
will Life get easier?
do I work to continue a BDSM relationship with Master?

XO – let dievca know.
And… a HUGE, THANK YOU, for joining her on this ride.

(dievca can be found on Instagram….nah~)


I Wish (an apology)…and a Thank You.

Just wanted to share my morning cappuccino with you at Kaffe 1668. I need to apologize – I wish my Life wasn’t so messy right now. I haven’t been able to read anyone’s blog, I’m just managing to get to comments.

With selling a house, elderly parents, business issues, travel, friends in need — I can just barely get to writing posts and replying.  The joy of reading other people’s blogs is on hold.

I miss it. I miss you.

So, I would like to toast you with my lovely cappuccino heart and say “Thank You” for sticking with me and reading my blog.  I appreciate your time, feedback and caring – greatly.

Have a fabulous day, week, month and know that I will be making my way back.


your dievča


Photos: dievca - Kaffe 1668, NYC - Sept. 2016

Aging Gracefully: my Darling you are getting older… blog and other~

Meryl Streep Aging GracefullyThe great thing about getting older is that you don’t lose all the other ages you’ve been.

~Madeleine L’Engle

I accept the other renditions of me that I have been throughout my Life.  Those phases, awkward and beautiful, make me who I am today.

I love all the blog posts I have written throughout these past 2 years — they are pieces of me, Master, you and where we all were at that point in Life. Taking the opportunity to share myself, my Life and my thoughts with you has been a gift. Your sharing with me has been a gift.
So, Thank You.

Checking in~ are you up for conversation and Coffee Art?

Hi, this is dievca.
How are you doing? Are you up for grabbing a coffee or a tea? This is my yearly check-in. Can we meet at Elite Audio Systems & Coffee in San Francisco? It’s on Folsom Street. I want to go there because there is this amazing barista named Melannie Aquino who has designed coffee art and it seems to be a passion. Always nice to meet someone who has a quirky passion.

Some of Melannie’s artwork:

Coffee Art Nemo

Coffee Art Minion

Coffee Art Patrick

Coffee Art Chucky Finster

Coffee Art Snoopy

Anywho~ I am taking stock on what to do with my Life, my Master, my Family, the Blog, Work, etc. I wanted to let people know that I really appreciate that they stop by to visit me and/or talk to me. I know that everyone has busy lives — so I hope that the blog “dievca” doesn’t waste too much time and brings a little joy to your day. On my end? I still enjoy writing up posts.

If there is ever something you would like me to touch on in BDSM, Fashion, or Life — just let me know. If I don’t have an answer, I will try to research it for you. Drop me a note in the comment section or send me an e-mail at And if something on the blog annoys you, let me know that, too!

OK, back to our beverage. I don’t fly back to NYC until this evening — we have time for a chat. Can I interest you in a scone or a biscotti? XO

Coffee anyone?

Hey, how are you?
Do you have any time to go for a coffee at the Café Grumpy. It’s over on 20th between 7th and 8th.
Can we talk about blogging?

Café Grumpy coffee

The end of Spring is always insanely busy for me. I was a monster…
I took off that week to vegetate by the water and I am rejuvenated.
My Summer schedule rolls a little less intense. I will be able to workout more and, boy, I need it.  The good news is my back hasn’t gone out. (Fit to be Tied – Lululemon)

This whole blogging thing has been interesting.

There is a schedule of times when various people look at their blogs, it is seasonal; you know when someone has something going on in their life, if they have gone on vacation or they have burned out on blogging.  I feel a little bit like a voyeur. Maybe because I pay attention and I care.

There are human beings writing the posts, human beings are reading my posts. Yes, it is an electronic media, but there are people behind the keyboards – even if they are creating a persona.

Everything I write is where I am at that moment for the post.  I don’t post to gain followers or “likes”, I post because I need an outlet for D/s and creativity.  The timeline you see occasionally follows my life because I slide a post in. Most of the time I am 15-20 days out.  I am a planner, I anticipate, I worry – it goes along with my job skills.

This is why I need Master and he needs me. We bring each other back into the immediate moment.
Whoops, this is not about Master — it’s about us.

I think the amount people reading blogs in the summer is going to drop — too busy with outdoor and family activities. I know this, but I will be posting daily because that is how I roll.  I am 15 pieces out, right now. 😀

Café Grumpy MugLet me buy your coffee, I enjoy your company so much and hope you find a moment to visit me during your busy Summer. (or your Winter)

If not, posts will be waiting for you. Just know that I am a blogger who really appreciates your time and interest. XO

PS. Isn’t this Café Grumpy logo the cutest? Those creative Australians!