It was a quick trip to Mom, 4 days. Packed a lot into the time. POA shift, moved Mom on to hospice, need a new hospital bed – motor died (made do with a log and seat cushion to change the angles for Mom), attempted to get quality WiFi (need a new router), attempted to get the gardens/yard into some semblance of order (including picking up 15 cigarette butts on the driveway from a caregiver – what is wrong with people. Are they born in a barn? We have a cigarette repository out there.), maintenance man/snow removal man is no longer working – looking for help (Note his kid moved away and they no longer need to store his classic car in the garage…hmmm? Maybe that had something to do with being unavailable…), cleaned the odd places in the house and the upstairs as best as possible.
Grocery shopped at night and saw ⇑⇑⇑ the MOON!
It’s Full this Evening. Don’t forget to shake your wallet at the Moon!
And think of dievca flying home late tonight. XO
It was a day before 10 am.
Dad hadn’t a movement in 8 days….with softners, prunes and trying to get him to drink as much water as possible, etc..
It took an Army.
Daughter, Caregiver, Nurse, Home Aid – suppository, prune juice & butter, manipulations, tummy rubbing, squat positioning being held up.
All while two people maneuvered Mom into the bathtub.
Then the arguing about taking a shower began – 5 weeks of Sponge Baths in a row doesn’t cut it.
It was a hell of a Birthday for Dad – but he’s loose and clean!
We ALL needed a drink by Noon.
Mom and Dad just took a nap~
dievca’s brother did a phenomenal job of finding three excellent and local caregivers to take care of their Parents. dievca’s second brother is MIA (“Call me with updates” — yeah, FU – I’ll drop everything to call you with updates…).
dievca helped get her Mom’s colitis under control and Dad eating more calories/water to function (something about not wanting to urinate more). It’s not perfect, but a good start.
As in all systems, dievca predicts breakdowns:
- dievca’s Dad being an a** to the caregivers and they quit
- or the caregivers finding another position
- Mom’s colitis driving everyone batty
- Their own Family/Home challenges
But dievca isn’t going to borrow trouble for the moment, she’s going to milk this respite for all its worth. That, and figure out the brand of pillow she slept on – her neck felt better and her arms didn’t go numb at her Parent’s house…
Good Morning to you and may you see the Light of Day, too. XO