In a Panic…

dievca has an outdoor event to attend. The 1st of its kind in a year +.

Even after the never-ending process of reducing her closet – she has a number of items available to wear – IF THEY FIT WELL.  Health and movement-wise, dievca is in pretty good shape.  Deep sleep (physical recovery sleep) and perimenopause-wise, her body shape has shifted – a belly has appeared.  Her closet hasn’t shifted to keep up with it because she wants to see what happens with menopause and HRT.

God, what to wear without looking pregnant.

Before she goes digging deep – here is what she thinks will fit easily:


Eliza Faulkner Cotton Sissy Dress

Loup Charmant Hydrus_Dress_Cadmium_Red

Loup Charmant Hydrus Dress Cadmium Red

Faithful the Brand Sonja Dress

Faithfull the Brand Sonja Dress

Then there is the question of a matching mask~

Cross-fingers. dievca will let you know what she finally decides to wear.

The ‘mid-size’ mentality – being an “inbetweener”

I am a medium-sized woman.

I’m 5’4. I am muscular. Maybe I should be wearing petite cuts, bone-wise, but the muscles get in the way.

Size 0, 2, 4 don’t work for me, but neither do size 16, 18, or 20.

I am not a “Big Beautiful Woman”.

I would rarely be called “overweight” or “plus-size” or “heavy” or “fat”, but I’m never called “thin”.

I used to be “curvy”, but my waist is just starting to reappear from healing injuries and perimenopause.
I’m solid.

The best description of my body type is “athletic,” but only since COVID have I been able to start bouncing on the balls of my feet and doing burpees due to stress fractures. Swimming pools would have sped up the process if they were open…they aren’t.

I can wear an XS, S, M or L depending on the brand and cut of a garment.

Because I have muscle, I am sure that I weigh more than some men who are taller than me.

In the 1930s and ’40s, my solid Midwestern Farmer’s Wife body would be an asset on the farm. And because the clothing was made by hand, everything would have fit.

But in this current state of Fashion where I am not “thin” nor “big and beautiful”, my size is ignored.

No one models the clothing sizes between size 6 and size 12.

I would love to see how something might fit somebody “medium-sized” online, in Vogue, through the catalogs, in Ads.

What we see on TV screens and in the movies shows that thin is normal, fat is bad, and anything in between is confusing. Confusion leads to questions.

I, as a medium-sized woman, highlight the enormous scarcity we’ve gotten used to not seeing my type of body on our screens.

And maybe if “medium-sized” appeared more, I would be able to buy something online in the correct size with the 1st try.
BTW, trying things on in the stores is going to be a thing of the past with the way retail is going~ My carbon footprint will be large with all the returns and exchanges I’ll have to do.