In a nutshell: Advice giving usually doesn’t work, and often completely backfires.
To be fair, we all find ways to tell others how to live. We can’t help it. We all have strong points of view and believe that others should do or think as we do. And most of us are comfortable expressing those views to others, whether they’re interested or not.
Yet, research using reactance theory informs us that whenever someone tells us what to do and how to do it, we respond with defensive defiance because we want to maximize our personal freedom and decision making.
If we really want to encourage behavior (or belief) change in others we actually need to move away from advice-giving (especially when our advice is unsolicited) and toward modeling. In other words, we need to be an example for others rather than telling them what to do.
Research on observational learning (in conjunction with an understanding of reactance theory) suggests that while people will resist unsolicited advice and instruction, they will follow the behaviors of others—especially when there appear to be good and reinforcing outcomes from these behaviors (or beliefs).
dievca is still going to give you her advice:
TRY ON YOUR PRESENTATION OUTFIT BEFORE SHOWING UP AT YOUR MASTER OR MISTRESS’ PLACE.
dievca ended up with a Corset Disaster, yesterday. It shrunk from handwashing and dievca’s boobs are running larger. All the hooks closed and she could pull the ties, but she looked like a muffin popping over the tin.
Master’s solution to dievca’s problem was easy:
“Try the outfit on before meeting for D/s”
dievca does plan to heed Master’s advice, will you plan to heed dievca’s advice?
~tangible and intangible~
and Collar on.
Will be kneeling.
Waiting to submit.
Molded and Bound
challenging my natural form.
dievca was thinking about how her corsets make her look fabulous
and how one of the places you would like to look fabulous at is the pool or beach.
Enter the Corset Swimsuit.
With waist-cinching, lacing up, bust enhancing shapes – it might be a way to go.
One of the suits, in particular, is a custom-made swim corset with boning!
Can you find it?
Corset, a bodice worn to mold and shape the torso.
This effect is typically achieved through boning, either of bone or steel.
But they still look great. What Women will do for a beautiful line:
They are a thing of beauty, even if they are a challenge to put on:
Corsets are still a favorite of dievca’s Master.
And she loves the look.
But now she understands why she loses her breath in them.
A dievca desire~
Do you have trouble with the fit of you corset?
dievca has trouble with corsets being too long for her torso and sometimes they aren’t made to sit long with curves to accommodate her hips. she thinks this corset “made to measure” might solve her problems…beautifully.
The magnificent curves of the Vollers leather Toxic corset create a silhouette that is simply to die for. Jet-black leather and steel boning combine with a high bust, singular shoulder straps, and low hip for a shape that is both distinctive and compelling.
The leather gives this piece more than a hint of the dungeon, making it perfect for an experienced mistress, but gentle enough for someone taking their first foray into the world of corsetry.
Fourteen steel bones, together with a longline steel busk, waist tape and back lacing tame your curves and reduce your natural waist size by up to four inches. The long, curved cups and adjustable shoulder straps support your breasts for an enchanting cleavage.
Its striking longline design, together with its cotton twill lining and modesty panel makes this corset supportive and comfortable enough to wear for extended periods of time.
The Toxic corset also comes in velvet, satin and PVC – as well as leather.
Vollers is a corset manufacturer located in Portsmouth, England. Started by Harry & Nelly Voller in 1899, they are one of the oldest corset manufacturers currently in existence.