The return of Cocktail Attire – dievca’s dilemma

Retrofete Grace Dress in Chocolate.

Does this dress work as Cocktail Attire?

Cocktail attire is meant to bridge the gap between day and night.  It is still an occasion to dress up, but a full-length gown is not necessary. This merges the silhouette of a garden party dress (shorter) with the fabric and embellishments of a formal gown. Think somewhere between a sophisticated formal occasion and office or party wear.

Still, with so much ambiguity, cocktail attire could mean different things depending on the venue, the time of day, and the season.

During the day, think natural colors and fresh styles and in the evening, feel free to utilize darker hues and embellishments such as sequins or feathers (so long as your dress doesn’t sweep the floor).  The goal is to look polished and dressy – but not takeaway from the event

Ladies: When in doubt, a LBD, a pair of sensible heels or dressy flats, some nice earrings, and a classy clutch will always work for a cocktail event, no matter the venue or time of day. In addition to a traditional cocktail dress, women can also wear dressy suits or nice jumpsuits paired with heels or formal flats.

Gentlemen: a suit and tie are required for cocktail attire. Go with darker hues in chillier months or for evening events, but feel free to wear lighter grays or blues in warmer weather or for daytime celebrations. As for shoes, keep it classy with a nice pair of dark dress shoes that match your belt.

OK – now dievca’s dilemma — does she wear the Retrofete Grace Dress in Chocolate (above photo) or not?  It’s a quieter color, but completely covered in sequins….

  • The venue is a smaller Event Space.
  • A Mixed Audience.
  • The dress fits very well.
  • It’s in the middle of March – Weather could be cold or warm…

Here’s  plan: dievca will be trying on the dress with ACNE STUDIOS snakeskin sandals if its warm and carry the brown JALDA croc clutch (her’s is darker than the photo)

Acne Studios Bastion Viper Slingbacks

Jalda Brown Crocodile "original" clutch rounded
If its cold or dievca’s legs look scary without sun… Sheer Nude or Brown stockings with Brown Heels or OTK Brown Boots.



You know…Europe is a little tired of Tourists.

There was an issue on the French news….about too many tourists on the beaches.

That’s a refrain echoing in a growing number of European cities. The neoclassical gems that once made up the grand tour have been stops on package tours since the 19th century. But it’s only over the past decade or so that the number of travelers to these and other must-see destinations risks subsuming the places. Around 87 million tourists visited France in 2017, breaking records; 58.3 million went to Italy; and even the tiny Netherlands received 17.9 million visitors. (Time Magazine)

dievca’s Dutch friend told her about how the tourists are really dangerous on the bicycles in Amsterdam and the older people are too scared to bike around the City and get out of their houses.

How much is too much? And how are people to live in the Cities they love?

dievca runs into this in NYC. she sighs and tries to remember that tourism brings a lot of $ to the City. It’s annoying though~ five people walking abreast, taking selfies, clogging the Subways and expecting you to be kind and pleased that they are spending time in NYC – all when you need to get the hell to work and are pissed that they are lollygagging around.

In France, dievca kept her mouth shut most of the time. Tried to speak her pathetic French and was very cognizant of the locals. she avoided the hot tourist areas and when she was there, she was polite – even when a Honfleur shopkeeper was exceptionally nasty immediately upon entry to a nougat shop. dievca’s friend, who’s French is superb — went after her. dievca just walked out — an 80 Euro loss to someone who was located in a very touristy spot and having a bad day. dievca felt bad — it was early August, just the beginning of the Holiday month in France. The Lady was going to have a tough month. (Menopause kicking in? maybe – it was that odd.)

A tough issue for Cities like Barcelona, Amsterdam, Paris, Palma, Venice, Dubrovnik, Copenhagen and more. And with Millennials wanting to travel:

Millennials will likely have more of an impact on travel and tourism than any other generational group, according to a new report from Resonance Consultancy. The report—the “Future of U.S. Millennial Travel”—studied the travel habits and preferences of Millennials, a generation that values experiences over material possessions.

It is going to be an issue for the future.