A new twist – estrogen drop

Erect Nipple

So your female submissive is in her 40’s to 50’s and her levels of hormones have been shifting all over the place.

One bonus might be a drop in estrogen which causes the progesterone levels rise, triggering her nipples to be more sensitive. Perhaps her nipples have been a non-entity for years and now they are front and center – literally – shape and size. Something that has been numb in the past, has become incredibly touchy – which makes for another dimension in play.

Go cautiously, but the bodily change might offer diversity and delight for both Dominant and submissive!

dievca has found one positive aspect of perimenopause and Master ran with it!


~diversity does make for some strange bedfellows~

di·ver·si·ty

dəˈvərsədē,dīˈvərsədē/
noun
  1. the state of being diverse; variety.
    “there was much diversity in the style of the reports”

    Master has made statements about diversity to dievca in the past. He hasn’t mentioned it lately, but that might be because dievca works hard to create an atmosphere that offers diversity. And, in return, Master has made sure the venues, restaurants, activities are diverse, too. So, between presentation outfits, activities, themes, cosplay, etc.

    Master and dievca are keeping on it.

    Variety is the Spice of Life!

    But like the photo says — diversity does make for some strange bedfellows and creates situations for dievca and Master to laugh at when things go south.
    (Ex: Thai food that about killed us both~whew.)

    Diversity makes strange Bedfellows -- Bear and GirlPhoto: Gregory Maiofis: "Diversity Makes Strange Bedfellows."

Diversity

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Photo: dievca – Chelsea Market 2014: Time

Life is ever-evolving. D/s is ever-evolving. For us, nothing worth doing is stagnant.

dievca has learned this from Master.

Master doesn’t talk about His former submissives too often, but He did mention that some people had a need to be treated a certain way for a scene or time together to be considered successful. The same process over and over, exactly. He decided that wasn’t what made Him happy.

Yes, there needs to be consistency. Both parties need to know a process and have to be able to depend upon/Trust each other. But, taking the time to be different, change-up the delivery, grow, learn and add diversity has its value, too.

dievca hasn’t said “My Master requires Diversity”, as much. It still exists, that tenet hasn’t changed from Day One.  It still is a guideline when life is running fast and furious, or messy.  It is still this dievca’s driving force.   The diverse offerings can be small, silly, a gift, an attitude, or large, creative, encompassing — it just depends upon how Life is running in that moment.

The attempt of Diversity brings such a response from Master (and dievca) — it is an integral part of their D/s dynamic.

Could this tenet be applied to Life, in general?

As dievca has cared for Elderly Family members in their final phases of Life, she has seen them: function, not function, be joyful, be morose, work through pain, find their way to pass, etc.  she has noticed that the ones who have attempted to live fully, travel, have experiences, be open to young people, accepting to change, live in the present are Happier. The ones who sat on the sofa for 30 years, always talking of the past, tend to be critical and have gained no joy from their life.

Master has given dievca the gift of Diversity.

dievca now has an awareness of how to live her life in a positive way. An awareness that one must LIVE life fully and be in the present. Embrace openness, grow, learn, BE DIVERSE.

dievca holds the knowledge of how to finish her Life with Joy.

What an amazing Gift.