Versatile Florals from Alice + Olivia
Dresses ready for sandals, heels, or sneakers. Etc.
Sometimes the Power Exchange Merges
So, what’s your method for getting it done on a Monday?
Still working from home, Zoom meetings…and trying to get the clothing items not going to the RealReal listed on eBay.
Using self-bribery with fancy coffee and a treat to get it done.
2: an initial and often tentative attempt to do something in a new or different field or area of activity,
A brief excursion or attempt especially outside one’s accustomed sphere.
dievca decided to look like a human rather than a slouch when making a foray to the Eastside. she figured out a way to beat the heat, too:
Happy 4th of July!
Looks like Susan Hayward had the same challenges as dievca with humidity and wild-a** hair!
Enjoy your Day!!
When dievca lived in Europe she stopped to see friends who were packing to move to Switzerland. The wife, who was Irish, offered dievca a glass of wine and was about to pour it into a plastic cup – they were packing to move. The husband, who was French, went meltdown and dug through the kitchen boxes to find the proper wine glasses. Ever since then, dievca has tried to offer the proper glass for a specific drink type. she won’t drink out of the can. But, on the other hand, she has broken beer and wine glasses on the rooftop. It is a mess.
Having a wine outside by the pool or on the rooftop may be the Highlight of this COVID-19 Summer.
Meeting friends for a 2-meter spacing dinner in a park calls for easy to carry, easy to eat food and accouterments.
Breaking a wine glass and having to clean it up – would just add to the 6 feet spacing stress.
dievca found some silicone wine glasses at Walmart.com, $11.99 for four. she bought Master a set, too.
Unbreakable Outdoor Rubber Wine Cups: 14 oz, Clear Silicone. 100% Dishwasher Safe, Shatterproof, can for easy carrying or storage. Solid grip, stable on the table. Replaces the one-use plastic.
she does wonder what Marius would say about the silicone….
Party on! Safely. XO
noun. a female fox. an ill-tempered or quarrelsome woman.
a woman considered to be sexually attractive.
Getting the Party Started! (a slideshow)
dievca had the unexpected pleasure of looking out of her window to see two Macy’s barges offering a personal Fireworks display. she and Master had a conversation about the fireworks just that afternoon – Master thought they would cancel it all. dievca thought that the fireworks needed to be used and wasn’t sure of a solution.
Apparently, the Macy’s barges will be offering fireworks around the city along the Hudson and East Rivers (Harlem River?) in smaller and more personal displays. An absolutely lovely and elegant solution for limiting the crowds, yet still bringing Joy to NYC.
Photos: dievca Hudson River 06/2020
Valerie Stunning wants a better Las Vegas—one that’s intersectional and filled with plenty of ice cream. But not just any ice cream. Bougie ice cream. Indulgent ice cream. Adult ice cream.
Stunning founded Paradise City Creamery last May, combining her knack for gourmet, plant-based ice cream with another of her passions: advocating for sex workers.
For years, the “Head Creamstress,” stripper, writer, activist and former burlesque dancer made artisan ice cream as a hobby and for her friends. Eventually she realized it was tasty enough to sell to the 18+ masses.
Last summer Paradise City Creamery ran a monthly pop-up inside Downtown’s Jammyland Cocktail Bar & Reggae Kitchen and also had a booth at Life Is Beautiful. On January 17, Stunning will celebrate a new residency at Artifice (along with a new winter menu featuring four new flavors), which will continue every third Friday through 2020.
Just don’t expect your average trip to Baskin-Robbins. There’s a peepshow-inspired photo booth, plus lots of gold and neon, and each flavor (starting at $12) comes decked out with its own signature toppings, like dripping, dazzling disco cherries. And there’s a sexy story to accompany each cone.
“Our yuzu-wasabi [flavor] is inspired by shopping for a sex toy,” Stunning says. And the espresso chip flavor is “inspired by my work as a day-shift stripper—how I would be in New York drinking my coffee on the subway with a full face of makeup while everyone’s wearing their suit and tie.”
It’s a tongue-and-cheek way of bringing two seemingly opposite worlds together, breaking the ice around conversations about sex and sex work in a fun and delicious way. “These stories tie in everything and cater to that no-shame, no-guilt celebration,” Stunning says.
With sexy-meets-glam marketing, Stunning has already made a name for Paradise City Creamery on social media, and with her motivational, no-holds-barred writing (she’s written for Hustler, and she blogs at valeriestunning.com). She’s a cheerleader for her community, and hopes her playful, gourmet ice cream can get folks to see a bigger picture.
Stunning explains that part of Paradise Creamery’s goal “is to create visibility and promote intersectionality”—a theory and way of looking at discrimination through multiple avenues that often include race, class and gender. “This is the world I come from. Community organizing is what I will always be about, and so to have this platform gives me an entryway to another type of person who may not have considered these issues before.”
Most importantly, Stunning says she wants people who are typically excluded to feel welcome. “Everything is constantly catered to straight, white, f*cking middle-aged people,” Stunning says. “I feel like, if I’m able to hire people that I want to celebrate and represent who I identify as, it really contributes to this conversation about visibility.”
She’s quick to add that Paradise City Creamery’s ice cream game is serious, too. A one-day-only white cacao and truffle ice cream was featured at Picnic in the Alley in October, and her Mezcal vanilla bean and balsamic caramel flavors will also be out on the 17th.
“I really strive for this balance between the strong messaging behind the brand, but also, we’re not f*cking around culinary-wise,” Stunning says. “We’re using really high-end ingredients.Everything we do is top-notch and bougie.”
by Leslie Ventura for the Las Vegas Weekly
A little morning coffee to get the neurons firing….
A little Math to get the neurons firing…
The NYC Gay Pride March scheduled for June 28, 2020, was canceled due to COVID-19. The march was inaugurated on June 28, 1970 – it would have been the 50th Year. There will be virtual celebrations and WABC in New York will be broadcasting NYC Pride programming the month of June.
“We are a community that thrives when we are united,” added Correa. “We may not fill the streets of New York City this year, but LGBTQIA+ people carry pride with them all year long.
I have no doubt that we will be together again soon.”
~ David A. Correa, Interim Executive Director Heritage of Pride
dievca has found her dress for this year’s celebration:
The sun is peeking up to reveal a world cocooned by humidity.
Moist air smells of the ocean, a river glistens like glass.
broken by the cry of a seagull, the honk of a car horn
Do you own an apron? Do you use it while BBQ-ing or baking?
dievca has never owned one. she’s not sure of what she is missing Her friends have laughed at her and asked what she does for dinner parties.
she cooks, changes, and hopes for the best afterward.
What about an Apron as a D/s Presentation Outfit?
Hmm, could be interesting but one might need to be careful when sitting or leaning against the countertop.
dievca found the apron she wants:
The RE/DONE | Levi’s Denim Apron is created from scraps of vintage Levi’s, reducing production waste and creating functional, machine washable, and collectible kitchen-wear. Each apron is upcycled using a waterless process from unique vintage materials and is completely one-of-a-kind.
The shades of indigo will differ from the product image due to each item being one-of-a-kind. Twenty percent of sales will be donated to the Restaurant Workers’ Community Foundation. RE/done
- pale pink
- GG logo
- Self: 83% polyamide, 17% elastan
- Embroidery: 90% cotton 10% poly
- Made in Italy
- Hand wash
- Elastic waistband with logo webbing detail
- Embroidered logo detail throughout
- Scalloped trim
- MSRP $1100 for the set
Exactly where your Sir wants you to be
A quick recap:
dievca tried to get a COVID-19 antibody test the morning after the riots started in NYC. she walked to three midtown urgent care centers and they were all closed. Apparently, the decision to close was made that morning for workers’ safety – it wasn’t known to dievca at 8 am. Then she drove 2000 miles, roundtrip to her Mother.
dievca was finally was able to get an antibody test last week and play detective when she scheduled an appointment at the NY.gov temporary tent medical center in her neighborhood. On her walk to have blood drawn she ran into some new park artwork:
The COVID-19 antibody test came back negative. That means that her co-worker who ended up with a positive test did not get sick at work, they picked up the virus in Queens.
PS. she’s not planning on kissing the Frog Prince with COVID-19 lurking about~
Photos: dievca NYC Hudson Yards 06/2020
NYC starts Phase Two.
William Blake – 1757-1827
O Thou who passest thro’ our vallies in
Thy strength, curb thy fierce steeds, allay the heat
That flames from their large nostrils! thou, O Summer,
Oft pitched’st here thy golden tent, and oft
Beneath our oaks hast slept, while we beheld
With joy, thy ruddy limbs and flourishing hair.
Beneath our thickest shades we oft have heard
Thy voice, when noon upon his fervid car
Rode o’er the deep of heaven; beside our springs
Sit down, and in our mossy vallies, on
Some bank beside a river clear, throw thy
Silk draperies off, and rush into the stream:
Our vallies love the Summer in his pride.
Our bards are fam’d who strike the silver wire:
Our youth are bolder than the southern swains:
Our maidens fairer in the sprightly dance:
We lack not songs, nor instruments of joy,
Nor echoes sweet, nor waters clear as heaven,
Nor laurel wreaths against the sultry heat.
Years ago, dievca picked up this Kōzi Neck & Shoulder Wrap in TJMaxx on clearance for $12. It sat in its box for a year or more until dievca realized that heat really helps her aches and pains. Ever since that moment – its been in heavy rotation.
The wrap is handcrafted using natural herbs and grains to relieve stress, tension, cramps, and muscle discomfort. You can microwave (2 minutes) or freeze for instant therapy. dievca has ice packs, so she hasn’t frozen the wrap.
$50.95 + shipping seems to be a really high price for the wrap – so dievca found it elsewhere for a better price – if you are not choosy about color: Click here for chocolate, lavender or plum at $16.43 +shipping.
There are other shapes available, but this one hugs the neck and upper back nicely – then you can wrap it around a calf, knee /hamstring or sit on it for lower back or glute issues. dievca wouldn’t go for another shape. she doesn’t have the room for multiple pieces.
It’s been really great on text neck/computer neck. And a good option for Aftercare.
cryotherapy and thermotherapy
Ice is for injuries — calming down damaged superficial tissues that are inflamed, red, hot, and swollen. The inflammatory process is a healthy, normal, natural process that happens to be painful and more biologically stubborn than it needs to be. Icing is a drugless way of dulling the pain of inflammation and taking swelling down a bit. Examples of use: a freshly pulled muscle or a sprained ankle.
Heat is for muscles, chronic pain, and stress — taking the edge off symptoms like muscle aching and stiffness, which have many causes including overuse and arthritis. Chronic pain, especially back pain, often involves lots of tension, anxiety, hypervigilance, and central sensitization. Comfortable heat can soothe a jangled mind and nervous system.
Heat therapy is an effective remedy for back pain because it boosts circulation, which then allows nutrients and oxygen to travel to joints and muscles. This circulation helps repair damaged muscles, relieves inflammation, and improves back stiffness. Any type of heat therapy can help relieve back pain.
Lingerie for Curves
Allow anthracite lace to envelop your curves in the Paradiseus Slip. Whisper soft silk covers and supports your breasts, overlapped by the deep eyelash scallop of the Paradiseus lace. The lace continues down the rest of the silhouette, adorning the body in intricately detailed decoration.
Like everyone, dievca has her worries. They add up to create fatigue. Then there is evidence that one of the worries is bucking the trend and involved with something you know brings them shear Joy. dievca started crying when her Mom’s caregivers sent photos of something beautiful:
Mom looks like the Goddess she is…
Stress is a feeling of emotional or physical tension. It can come from any event or thought that makes you feel frustrated, angry, or nervous. Stress is your body’s reaction to a challenge or demand. In short bursts, stress can be positive, such as when it helps you avoid danger or meet a deadline.
Emotional symptoms of stress include:
- Becoming easily agitated, frustrated, and moody
- Feeling overwhelmed, like you are losing control or need to take control
- Having difficulty relaxing and quieting your mind
- Feeling bad about yourself (low self-esteem), lonely, worthless, and depressed
- Avoiding others
Physical symptoms of stress include:
- Low energy
- Upset stomach, including diarrhea, constipation, and nausea
- Aches, pains, and tense muscles
- Chest pain and rapid heartbeat
- Frequent colds and infections
- Loss of sexual desire and/or ability
- Nervousness and shaking, ringing in the ear, cold or sweaty hands and feet
- Dry mouth and difficulty swallowing
- Clenched jaw and grinding teeth
Cognitive symptoms of stress include:
- Constant worrying
- Racing thoughts
- Forgetfulness and disorganization
- Inability to focus
- Poor judgment
- Being pessimistic or seeing only the negative side
Behavioral symptoms of stress include:
- Changes in appetite — either not eating or eating too much
- Procrastinating and avoiding responsibilities
- Increased use of alcohol, drugs, or cigarettes
- Exhibiting more nervous behaviors, such as nail-biting, fidgeting, and pacing
Blood tests can be used to estimate how much stress one is experiencing. A cortisol blood test is one of the most commonly used blood tests. Cortisol is a hormone that is released by the adrenal glands when one is under stress. Higher levels of cortisol would indicate higher levels of stress.
Explore stress management strategies, such as:
- Getting regular physical activity
- Practicing relaxation techniques, such as deep breathing, meditation, yoga, tai chi or massage
- Keeping a sense of humor
- Spending time with family and friends
- Setting aside time for hobbies, such as reading a book or listening to music
WHAT ARE THE HEALTH BENEFITS OF MASTURBATION?
Little scientific research has been conducted to examine the benefits of masturbation. However, many experts have weighed in to say it can help combat anxiety, depression, and stress. Psychologist Dr. Becky Spelman, based in London, said endorphins secreted by the body during climax boost mental health.
Dr. Spelman, a relationship expert for We-Vibe, said masturbation can have physical benefits, too. In older women, it can maintain vaginal health and prevent vaginal atrophy – which often strikes at that stage in life. Endorphins, which give the same natural high as exercise can, can reduce pain.
Writing for The Conversation, two researchers at the University of Sydney said self-pleasuring can ward off a host of illnesses. These include cystitis and diabetes, while insomnia can be reduced through hormonal and tension release, the pair said.
Aim to find active ways to manage your stress. Inactive ways to manage stress — such as watching television, surfing the internet, or playing video games — may seem relaxing, but they may increase your stress over the long term.
Be sure to get plenty of sleep and eat a healthy, balanced diet. Avoid tobacco use, excess caffeine and alcohol, and the use of illegal substances.
dievca was able to get her tickets to Europe refunded.
It was a relief to get the money back rather than receiving vouchers.
Now there is $5000 sitting on an Amex card.
she will just have to pay her rent with the Amex card…
or maybe she should splurge and buy this espresso maker to remind her of traveling.
Designer and engineer Paolo Mastrogiuseppe developed the Aviatore Veloce Espresso machine. It is intentionally designed to resemble a military jet engine and can prepare a refreshing dose of espresso and tea with the help of high-pressure brewing. The hand-made, limited edition design isn’t just a visual delight but gets as authentic as one could be. It is built from a combining aviation-grade aluminum alloy, stainless steel, and aluminum bronze.
And the Sun…
It’s hard to wear a dress when biking up to Master’s place,
but dievca is getting sick of practical athletic shorts and pants.
she did a little summer splurging on the MatchesFashion.com sales pages:
Should work out with the RE/done upcycled Levi’s denim mask:
Master told His dievca a story about D/s in the outdoors.
Thoughts floated around in her head for a while and she fixated on the fountains around NYC.
dievca doesn’t know where her fantasy may go during nighttime dreaming, but her practical side has acknowledged the logistical nightmare D/s play in a NYC fountain might offer: dirty water, too many people, temperature, slipping, clothing – or lack of, legalities, voyeurs – might be a bonus, etc.
Maybe the Hamilton Fountain in Riverside Park — ok, it’s a horse trough.
Let’s see what dievca dreams up this evening.
Might be fabulous – might be a dievca disaster…
drift out softly
bare feet silent
sink to your knees
grasp Master gently
close your eyes
worship to the music
Only Hearts ‘shine on’ lingerie
10 hours to go with a little color to spark some energy!
The Midwest is beautiful.
Photo: dievca 06/2020 rainbow midwestern road
You better say me!
Give me the damn coffee!
~You get by with a little help from your friend~