Heading back to Wet SnowPosted: March 24, 2023 Filed under: Home and Garden, Relationships | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, elderly parents, Family, fun, kids, Life, Love, Midwest, Photos, snow, travel, vintage Leave a comment
dievca’s flying back Midwest to watch and sort “slides!’ from her Parents. Should be an interesting time as the slides are from before she was born. Her oldest brother will be helping and she asked some cousins to be “on call” for identification help. Doesn’t matter – there will be 6 “rugrats” running around and that, plus wet snow, will make for a good time. dievca’s got her snow boots and snow pants at the ready. Have a good weekend!
Well, it wasn’t much~Posted: February 28, 2023 Filed under: Entertainment, Home and Garden, Neighborhood Anecdotes (NYC) | Tags: baking, BDSM, D/s, dievca, disappointment, elderly parents, Humor, Life, snow, submissive, Weather, Winter Leave a comment
The Snow wasn’t very impressive at 10 pm, last night.
dievca doesn’t think it will be a problem this morning on the bike…
Carrying the cake will be tricky.
(It was sweet to pull out Mom & Dad’s measuring spoons plus dievca realized that her mixer is 25 + years old and going strong)
Still chewing on it~Posted: August 3, 2022 Filed under: Musings | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, elderly parents, Family, frustration, grief, Life, Life Changes, Love, Master, pondering, submissive Leave a comment
dievca is pondering her Life:
“This Ponderous, Man. really Ponderous”
Seven and a half years later and she is still pondering her Life:
- Does she look for a new job?
- Does she get a 3rd graduate degree and change careers?
- Does she write a Children’s Book? (an inside joke on dievca)
- Does she move from NYC?
- Does she stay put?
- Will she get cancer? (Her brother is going through Chemo for a stage 2 form)
- Shouldn’t she be connecting with her cousins more?
Master stated that when you lose both of your Parents, you lose an anchor to your family – you are now “truly” an adult. dievca sees it as the two people who loved her just because she existed and were behind her in any situation good or bad are gone. The guaranteed love safety net is gone.
It’s taken 6 months for that to hit home….
Time to buy a new pair of shoes (note the survivalist theme and Midwestern moment):
Then dievca will sing this song:
Traveling, again.Posted: July 2, 2022 Filed under: Entertainment, Home and Garden | Tags: 4th of July, BDSM, D/s, dievca, elderly parents, Family, Friends, fun, Independence Day, Life, Love, old school, Relationships, storage, traveling Leave a comment
Yep, with the knee still wrapped, dievca is heading west to what Master calls “Flyover Country”. she will be consolidating storage units (with good help), seeing family and friends, taking Mom and Dad’s ashes to Mass, etc.
The corn should be knee high by the 4th of July!
dievca might even get a chance to attend a Midwestern small town 4th of July Parade.
What are you up to for Independence Day? (USA located viewers 😘)
Coffee Percolators – does anyone know?Posted: May 23, 2022 Filed under: Accessories, Home and Garden, Vintage | Tags: Bridge -card game, coffee, coffee maker, elderly parents, Family, hosting, Life, Love, Monday, Morning, percolator 4 Comments
dievca’s Dad and Mom grew up poor, so when Dad started to make a bit of money he wanted to try all kinds of activities that he associated with people who had a bit more money – tennis, bridge, etc. Both of dievca’s parents ended up playing tennis for a long time, but only dievca’s Mom got into Bridge.
she was a demon at it
Bridge players play weekly or more. Depending on how many tables are going – each participant will host a Bridge Party monthly or bi-monthly. These hostings would include food or a meal. And in dievca’s Mom’s case – lunch could be a Waldorf Salad or Phyllo dough individual Chicken Pot Pies.
Coffee service was involved.
dievca’s Mom used a percolator and she always said the coffee was considered excellent. So, dievca was looking for the percolator when she closed up her Mom’s house and never found it. she thinks it might have been a General Electric version.
Does anyone have any experience with an electric percolator – vintage GE in particular?
Reflecting with Mom’s birthday and…Posted: March 20, 2022 Filed under: Analysis, Home and Garden | Tags: BDSM, Birthday, chores, D/s, dievca, elderly parents, Life, Marilyn Monroe, self-care, self-reflection Leave a comment
doing Tedious Tidbits.
- Organizing receipts for taxes
- Cleaning house for the week
- Making meals for the week
- Switching phones
- Switching computers
- Switch SIM cards on tablet
- Mailing two international packages
We all have things that need to get done – but they aren’t that important so you push them off…
The good news is dievca is starting to take care of those tedious things she let go during dealing with her Mom/ Dad.
Next her focus moves on to selfcare: dry heels, waxing, mani/pedi, haircut, swimming, skin discoloration on cheek, cronic swollen knee, updated eye exam, hormones check, etc.
So, how are you doing with your petty chores?
Cheap Date~(closure of Elderly Parents)Posted: March 1, 2022 Filed under: Home and Garden, Relationships | Tags: champagne, dievca, drinking, elderly parents, exhaustion, Family, Humor, Life, Love, moving, work Leave a comment
dievca lost those 8 hours of work on Friday with travel debacles, she made them up by starting at 4:00 am and plowing through the house. Her brother, Sister-in-Law, Nephew and Niece-in-Law + the three older kids (10, 9, 7) were amazing. 3 bedrooms 2.5 baths, full basement, full attic, 3 stall garage – sorted, packed, Goodwilled, Seniors Elderly Center, Animal Shelter and the house staged with furniture wanted by the buyer and left with some accessories/decent linens.
Dinners were nice affairs – Pizza on late arrival with Red wine. Caregivers and everyone shared a lovely meal with Seafood/Italian to honor Mom and Dad amidst the house chaos + the chocolates Mom loved, Wild Rice Chicken and Mushroom Soup + fresh baked bread the next evening at dievca’s Nephew/Nieces’ house. After the dinners, back to work for dievca for an hour or so. Then, early to bed, early to rise.
At the Airport, dievca was handed a flute of champagne and started buzzing immediate due to exhaustion and lack of food. she went for a second glass and overheard the bartender say that the “premium” champagne was being served because the inexpensive one ran out. So, when her elbow knocked over 1/3 of the flute of champage, dievca ponder getting a third flute – but getting bombed before a flight was not on the agenda.
Caregivers are cleaning the house today, dievca’s brother will do a walk-thru with realtor on Weds – closing on Friday if all goes well.
dievca’s Brother was on a mission to get the house sold. she would not recommend this timeline to anyone, but it is possible with many hands working together. XO
Side note: Mom and Dad’s ashes were in the Laundry Room, side by side. Mom obviously weighed a lot less than Dad did at the end – we think it was the osteoperosis. The 1st night dievca needed water at 3 am and she ran into the laundry room to grab a bottle – the light over Mom and Dad was flickering. Then she found a $100 bill in a card that her Dad had written, “Happy Birthday” with no name on it. Used the money to pay for the babysitter watching the 3 younger kids (5, 3, 1.5) – Dad would have been happy.
I am a mess. I am a disaster.Posted: February 28, 2022 Filed under: Entertainment, Home and Garden | Tags: chaos, coffee, disaster, elderly parents, exhausted, exhaustion, Life, Monday, Morning, moving, travel 1 Comment
I will crawl back from the Gates of Hell and get this sh*t done.
Taking a page from MomPosted: February 27, 2022 Filed under: Home and Garden, Relationships | Tags: bath, Clothing, dievca, elderly parents, exhaustion, Goodwill, Joy, Life, Love, moving, sorting Leave a comment
dievca’s Mom had a lot of clothing in various places around the house (socks and stockings in the TV Armoire ?!?!?). dievca had completed her Dad’s clothing and thought she was finished, but she forgot all of the drawers upstairs. So, dievca sat on the stairs sorting scarves and tops for the final hurrah…and then treated herself to a bath where her Mom was oh so happy. It was a lovely bath – the glass of wine didn’t hurt. Maybe she won’t be too sore tomorrow.
Furniture into storage and more GoodWill runs on the agenda.
dievca hopes everyone is doing well.
let’s just say I haven’t started…Posted: February 26, 2022 Filed under: Disasters, Entertainment, Home and Garden | Tags: bad weather, BDSM, D/s, dievca, elderly parents, exhaustion, Family, Life, Midwest, travel, Winter Leave a comment
You name it for travel problems – they happened yesterday.
Ice, Snow, flights canceled, reroutings failed, no rental car.
Noon arrival ended up at 8 pm.
Attempting to start over this morning…
Moving 20+ year of stuffPosted: February 25, 2022 Filed under: Home and Garden, Relationships | Tags: BDSM, cleaning, D/s, dievca, elderly parents, Family, home, Life, Love, moving, vintage photo Leave a comment
dievca is flying back to the Midwest to clear out the house.
There is a buyer – they want the furniture.
Cross fingers it goes through. XO
Whiplash – selling the housePosted: January 23, 2022 Filed under: Discussion, Home and Garden, Relationships | Tags: Death, dievca, elderly parents, Family, home, Life, realty, selling, Stress Leave a comment
dievca was looking out at the sunset when her brother called. Apparently 6 people saw Mom and Dad’s house today – the first day it was listed. Mom and Dad lived in a small town in a rural area surrounded by farms….so both dievca and her brother were surprised.
There are 7 more people on the schedule for tomorrow. Someone made a cash offer today and the realtor will ask for ‘Highest and Best’ offers by 5 pm tomorrow night to decide. dievca is not sure why the realtor isn’t asking for “Best and Final” offers because dievca’s brother wants the house sold as is and as soon as possible.
That means dievca will have to hustle back and get the furniture and things sorted. It would have been nice to do it in April – not the deep of February. (Shit, why not just pile one more item on a failing dievca…🙄)
Please note that the house is not the one dievca grew up in – just the one her parents built to die in.
Photo: dievca Hudson River NYC 01/2022
Kindness and a LibationPosted: January 16, 2022 Filed under: Musings | Tags: Appreciation, Caring, Death, dievca, elderly parents, Gifts, Joy, Life, Love, sadness, Thank you, time 1 Comment
A very large , “Thank You” for your kind words and glasses lifted up to honor a good Life.
The thoughts and presentations are so lovely. And dievca is working through her bottle over a long period as she replies to texts and phone calls. A little lubrication to celebrate a Life and ease the pain of kindness.
How are you all doing? What’s going on in your lives?
(dievca’s coming up for air~)
Patient, but going downhill a bit.Posted: January 14, 2022 Filed under: Relationships | Tags: Death, dievca, elderly parents, Family, Hospice, Human Body, Life, Love, Mom, patience, Ziggy Leave a comment
“Do not go gentle into that good night.”Posted: January 12, 2022 Filed under: Relationships | Tags: Death, dievca, Dylan Thomas, elderly parents, Family, letting go, Life, Love, Mom, quote 5 Comments
- What makes life worth living?
- What would make life definitely not worth living?
- What might at first seem too much to put up with, but then might seem manageable after getting familiar with the situation and learning to deal with it?
- If you knew life was coming to an end, what would be comforting and make dying feel safe?
What, in that situation, would you want to avoid?
- How much control is important for you to have when facing a terminal illness?
We may see that dying is the better of two choices, and be ready to give the loved one permission to die. The dying person may be distressed at causing grief for those who love them, and, receiving permission to die can relieve their distress. There is a time for this to happen. Before that, it feels wrong to accept a loss, but after that it can be an act of great kindness to say, “You may go when you feel it is time. I will be OK.”
At the time a person is near death, sometimes touch is the best communication. Gentle stroking of a hand or a cheek, and quietly reassuring the person that you love them and that you will be all right is perhaps the most compassionate way to ease your loved one on his journey. In a situation where you are not present at the time of death, forgive yourself and know that you did the best you could to make the final hours or weeks of life peaceful and meaningful.
According to Hospice and an EMT Family Member, Mom is holding on hard. dievca’s one brother is there, Grandchildren are there, a lovely Caregiver, the Great-Grandchild have gone over, dievca and her cousins have spoken and sang to Mom, dievca hopes her other brother has spoken to Mom, but she’s not sure….what are we missing?
dievca’s Dad checked in with everyone and then let go~ We cannot figure out what Mom is holding on for~ she moves her lips when something pleases her and the mention of a bath causes those lips to move. Mom floats with her Osteoperosis. Maybe the simple pleasure of a bath~
Just wish we could figure out what would help.
Shovel the SnowPosted: January 5, 2022 Filed under: Clothing, Entertainment, Home and Garden, Shoes | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, elderly parents, Humor, Life, Love, Midwest, Shopping, snow, travel, Wine, Winter 3 Comments
to get to the Laundrymat to clean towels, pads, and clothing because the wash machine went out….It’s been years since dievca has had to gather quarters for the machines.
dievca’s desperation of not initially recognizing a wine bottle shape in the bottom cupboard was a bit pathetic. The wine is a solid Malbec and a good way to end a day of chores.
Mom is good, dievca got her best – but she is fading. Mom is going to go down with dignity and a healthy splash of humor~
dievca absolutely loves that her Mom cannot remember that she broke her hip twice or what she ate, but she damn well knows that dievca brought her favorite chocolates and asks about dievca’s Apple Green Dries van Noten Platform Sandals. (Note: Mom is bed/wheelchair bound, but dievca has put all the shoes on her Mother’s feet – just to get the “look”.)
dievca schlepped two pair of kick a** boots for Mom to review, platform leather Chuck Taylors, a +J Uniqlo Mixed Knit Sweater a friend gave to her and the crazy print LA Double J reversible down coat. dievca’s Mom loved it all.
Chocolates and Fashion – there is some kind of philosophical “Meaning of Life” in those choices.
(looking for a little motivational push through) Put One Foot in Front of the OtherPosted: January 2, 2022 Filed under: Musings | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, elderly parents, Family, help, Life, motivation, Music Lyrics, positive mental attitude, travel Leave a comment
Put one foot in front of the other
And soon you’ll be walking ‘cross the floor
Put one foot in front of the other
And soon you’ll be walking out the door
You never will get where you’re going
If you never get up on your feet
Come on, there’s a good tailwind blowing
A fast walking man is hard to beat
If you want to change your direction
If your time of life is at hand
Well don’t be the rule, be the exception
A good way to start is to stand
If I want to change the reflection
I see in the mirror each morn (Oh you do!)
You mean that it’s just my election (Just that!)
To vote for a chance to be reborn
Coming up for AirPosted: September 20, 2021 Filed under: Analysis, Home and Garden, Relationships | Tags: BDSM, Caregivers, D/s, dievca, elderly parents, Family, Full Moon, Life, Love, Midwest, practical, submissive, travel Leave a comment
It was a quick trip to Mom, 4 days. Packed a lot into the time. POA shift, moved Mom on to hospice, need a new hospital bed – motor died (made do with a log and seat cushion to change the angles for Mom), attempted to get quality WiFi (need a new router), attempted to get the gardens/yard into some semblance of order (including picking up 15 cigarette butts on the driveway from a caregiver – what is wrong with people. Are they born in a barn? We have a cigarette repository out there.), maintenance man/snow removal man is no longer working – looking for help (Note his kid moved away and they no longer need to store his classic car in the garage…hmmm? Maybe that had something to do with being unavailable…), cleaned the odd places in the house and the upstairs as best as possible.
Grocery shopped at night and saw ⇑⇑⇑ the MOON!
It’s Full this Evening. Don’t forget to shake your wallet at the Moon!
And think of dievca flying home late tonight. XO
Desperate times call forPosted: September 18, 2021 Filed under: Entertainment, Home and Garden | Tags: Alcohol, BDSM, desperation, dievca, elderly parents, Family, Humor, Life, Love, Mother, submissive, traveling Leave a comment
You take what you can find at dievca’s Mom’s House.
Last night dievca found this:
Who on God’s Earth brought this over?
And this afternoon she found this:
A staple at a Chicago Cubs Game~
Both offerings are rough around the edges – but in a pinch, they’ll do~
dievca’s running to the Grocery store late tonight – the next visit won’t be as desperate.
PS. Her Mom is doing relatively well.
Go West, my dievca, Go West!Posted: August 4, 2021 Filed under: Entertainment, Fashion | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, elderly parents, guilt, Life, packing, submissive, travel Leave a comment
dievca is doing it! she is going on a trip that does not involve staying with her Mom, and the guilt has already set in… It’s been fun to pile ALL the clothes she wanted to take on the bed and then weed out a curated selection. And because dievca has tried on EVERYTHING in her closet – all the choices fit well. she’s good to go!
My Mom isn’t eating much.Posted: July 25, 2021 Filed under: Musings | Tags: dievca, elderly parents, Family, grief, Hospice, Life, Love, Mother, Relationships, sadness Leave a comment
And she is a sleeping more. Is it depression or time to go?
Its the first time dievca’s Mom wanted to sleep rather than speak with her.
When you are the youngest of the two youngest and everyone (Dad/Aunts/Uncles) have passed. Your last tie to an Era will soon be cut. You can only hope that your oldest cousins can answer your questions about Family.
she knows she shouldn’t borrow trouble, but dievca’s heart is hurting.
Her Mom’s Life isn’t really a Life – so it will be good when Mom catches up with dievca’s Dad. She misses him
dievca just keeps sending Love from her mind and her heart.
(Un)expected – in case you need the info.Posted: May 12, 2021 Filed under: Home and Garden, Relationships | Tags: Dad, dievca, elderly parents, Family, Life, Love, money, neighbors, spending, Trees Leave a comment
dievca’s Dad had a Tree Service look at the dead trees on their property. The bad news was to cut and remove the trees would have cost $6K. The good news is that all of the trees would not fall on the house. Dad did not hire the service before he died.
The Midwest had some big winds this winter and a large tree broke in half and came down close to the house – but missed it (photos). Just like the tree service said. What dievca did not expect is that another tree out on the property, leaning away from the neighbors yard, yet, was pushed onto their yard by a significant wind. Nowhere near their house, but it did fall on to their yard.
The neighbor walked over and told the caregiver that it happened and mentioned that they had a service in to clear the tree. The caregiver asked her to speak to dievca’s brother. When dievca got to her Mom’s she heard the tree service at the neighbors, saw the other dead tree from the winter and heard about the neighbor’s vist from the caregiver.
Yes, it was expected that the dead trees would fall at some point (firewood), it was unexpected one would fall on the neighbors lawn -so who pays?
What’s the rule?
- If the tree falls on your property or your property is damaged, you’ll make a claim through your home insurance company. If the tree falls on your neighbor’s property or their property is damaged, their home insurance will handle the cleanup and repair work.
- In most states, if your tree or any part of it falls on your neighbors‘ property and causes damage to their property through no fault of your own (due to a snow storm, winds, hurricane, or another so-called “act of God”), you are not responsible.
The good news is that dievca’s Mom only has one neighbor and there was the only dead tree on that track of land. As for the rest of the trees? Nature is just going to have to move forward unless dievca’s brother decides to hire someone.
And then something brings absolute Sparkle to your day~Posted: June 17, 2020 Filed under: Home and Garden, Relationships | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, elderly parents, Joy, Life, Love, Mother, photo, Summer heat, swimming Leave a comment
Like everyone, dievca has her worries. They add up to create fatigue. Then there is evidence that one of the worries is bucking the trend and involved with something you know brings them shear Joy. dievca started crying when her Mom’s caregivers sent photos of something beautiful:
Mom looks like the Goddess she is…
I love my Mother, I love my Mother…Posted: June 8, 2020 Filed under: Home and Garden, Relationships | Tags: BDSM, coffee, D/s, dievca, elderly parents, Family, Humor, Life, Love, submissive Leave a comment
Give me the damn coffee!
~You get by with a little help from your friend~
On the Road, AgainPosted: June 6, 2020 Filed under: Entertainment, Vintage | Tags: automobile, COVID-19, D/s, dievca, driving, elderly parents, Life, retro, submissive, travel, US Map Leave a comment
dievca is behind the wheel and singing Willy Nelson while heading West.
she is wondering with people avoiding flying, will road trips come into fashion?
Is there a call for the vintage places of interest maps?
David Rumsey Historical Map Collection
Author: General Drafting Company
Short Title: Trip Planning Map Of The United States
Publisher: General Drafting Co.
Publisher Location: Convent Station, N.J.
The widest State on dievca’s trip is:
It might be worth it to stop and see something!
Trying a new (old) system…Posted: May 4, 2020 Filed under: Entertainment, Home and Garden | Tags: coffee, coffee maker, D/s, dievca, elderly parents, Life, Love, Monday, Morning, submissive, travel Leave a comment
Look what you can find in your parent’s basement.
with pretty good coffee!
On the Road, again.Posted: May 2, 2020 Filed under: Musings, Relationships | Tags: BDSM, COVID-19, D/s, dievca, elderly parents, Family, Humor, Life, Love, Midwest, Relationships, travel 3 Comments
Actually, the rental car is new and running very well.
Travel across was very easy.
Packing food was a good idea and I’d like to give a “shout” out to Ohio for the best rest stops.
Clean, spacious — amazing.
BTW – gasoline prices ranged from $1.99 to $1.15 per gallon – east to west.
Something interesting to note – the further away from NYC, the more lax people are about COVID-19.
Yes, it makes sense when your area has 180 deaths versus the 13,168 in NYC.
But seeing 65+-year-olds without masks and gloves in a Wal-Mart really stressed me out.
BTW – it was confirmed post-mortem that Dad’s death was not COVID-19.
Why do the test?
So, the Hospice nurses who neglected Dad would come back for Mom’s appointments.
still salty bout that
As for my Mom?
My Mom has blown through the stages of Grief and is getting ready to blow through them, again.
She is eating and sleeping well, for me at least.
Yesterday would have been Mom and Dad’s 66th Wedding Anniversary.
OK – as you read this, I am back in the car – starting Day 2 of the return trip.
Found car – will drive (Walt Whitman)Posted: April 26, 2020 Filed under: Poetry | Tags: BDSM, COVID-19, D/s, Death, dievca, elderly parents, Family, Life, Love, travel, Walt Whitman 5 Comments
POEM of the ROAD – Walt Whitman (excerpt)
To take to your use out of the compact cities as
you pass through!
To carry buildings and streets with you afterward
wherever you go!
To gather the minds of men out of their brains as
you encounter them! to gather the love out
of their hearts!
To take your own lovers on the road with
you, for all that you leave them behind
To know the universe itself as a road—as many
roads—as roads for traveling souls!
The soul travels,
The body does not travel as much as the soul,
The body has just as great a work as the soul,
and parts away at last for the journeys of the
All parts away for the progress of souls,
All religion, all solid things, arts, governments —
all that was or is apparent upon this globe or
any globe, falls into niches and corners before
the processions of souls along the grand roads
of the universe,
Of the progress of the souls of men and women
along the grand roads of the universe, all
other progress is the needed emblem and
Full poem HERE
dievca found a rental car and is making her way to her Mom. If there’s no hotel – sleeping in the car will do. Food is packed for along the way. Always an interesting first 30 miles when she hasn’t driven in a while – but it will be dievca and the trucks most of the way. Wish her “good luck”! XO