All mixed up~


dievca is all turned around. Her parents do that to her – it all blends. she hasn’t missed her dental appointment or dinner with friends, but it came close. You have seen this in the blog….she did Lingerie on Wednesday. (yesterday) instead of Thursday. Click “yesterday” if you missed it.

Now dievca knows why her Mother is always asking her what day it is….no papers coming, dievca doesn’t watch TV and hasn’t been on the computer too much because there is weeding, sorting, gardening, cleaning, trips to the store, family visits and trying to include her Dad and Mom as much as possible (slow going). All is a blur.

We will see if she makes it to her flight – tomorrow? or maybe the day after. Argh! she better look.
Is dementia catchy? dievca feels short-term memory loss is just one of the signs of old age. she IS getting older in Libra.


It still starts with Coffee: Happy Labor Day

Good Morning!


Good News! The Home Aide broke dievca’s parents coffee maker which ground coffee beans. It was an older Melitta Mill & Brew Coffee Maker and it took a Master’s degree to work it when you didn’t do it everyday. A pain-in-the-neck to clean.
dievca bought her Parent’s a Keurig K55/K-Classic Coffee Maker from Amazon. They make one cup of coffee for dievca’s Mother, per day. It also means that dievca can get a decent cup of coffee without using her Graduate degrees.
And that is one way to celebrate Labor Day — Use less Labor.

(On hand, 8 O’Clock Original Coffee from Maryland, started in 1859. It’s a solid basic coffee.)

PS. Those people from the Czech Republic did come over and it made dievca’s Dad really happy.
Coffee, Tea and Kringle.

In the United States, kringles are hand-rolled from Danish pastry dough (wienerbrød dough) that has been rested overnight before shaping, filling, and baking. Many sheets of the flaky dough are layered, then shaped into an oval. After filling with fruit, nut, or other flavor combinations, the pastry is baked and iced.

Racine, Wisconsin has historically been a center of Danish-American culture and kringle making. A typical Racine–made kringle is a large flat oval measuring approximately 14 inches by 10 inches and weighing about 1.5 pounds. The kringle became the official state pastry of Wisconsin on June 30, 2013.

Wikipedia


How’s your weekend flowin’?


Dreaming back to a gentle moment in NYC because…
after getting off the plane in the Midwest, I was off to the races!

  • Urgent Care immediately upon arrival for Mom (non-emergency, something that needs to be watched)
  • Feeding Tube Prep, Meds grinding/dilution (My brother needed a weekend off)
  • Heard some stories 4 times already (no clue he told me = short-term memory wipe. Told well)
  • Apparently my Father imposed on some Friends who have relatives in from the Czech Republic, he insisted on them bringing them over. Ages 10-17 with their Mother, ummm, at 9 am. Yeah, Dad gets up at 9.
  • No food to offer them, 10 pm grocery run.
  • Music band playing until midnight across the lake, an accordion involved.
  • Serious Thunder Boomers at 2 am, spectacular, loud, scary and a tree went down in the yard.
  • Having coffee before we are off to the races!

Hope your weekend is rolling along in a gentle way. My 18 hours is…rockin’!


So, you were wondering what LSD is?

No, not the drug. This:

Wiki Commons

  • It’s a very comforting feeling to drive a road you love. It’s also called the “Outer Drive”. I forgot that the song was used in Guardians of the Galaxy 2.
  • It’s a very comforting feeling to listen to Chicago accents and think about my brothers graduating High School in the 70’s. And, yeah, there were drugs. Even if you were phenomenal athletes like they were ~ heck, maybe it helped.

I missed out. My age being many moons after them. That’s not a bad thing.

Here’s the story of the song from the manager and the last surviving member of the band who wrote the song, Skip Haynes. He died last year. Cancer. I always wonder about those DDT trucks, cruising neighborhoods killing mosquitoes. Do you wonder?


Fatherhood

The Guy I fell in Love with First – my Dad.

As I watch my Dad keep weight on as best as possible with tube feeding, I remember all the traveling he had to do for work.  All those meals he had on the road. (and he drank) How he would finish what I didn’t eat.  The focus was on me, my brothers, my Mom — not him.

But, Dad tried – he tried to keep running until a severe ankle injury stopped him (his ankle still swells 30 +years later – of course he never went to the Doctor). Dad was a great athlete and he’s still moving as much as possible to this day, but he did have a…

“Dad Bod”

Its true — there is a type of body created by being a Dad. Especially a “resident” Dad.

  • Though age is positively associated with BMI over all years for all men, comparing nonresident and resident fathers with non-fathers reveals different trajectories based on fatherhood status. Entrance into fatherhood is associated with an increase in BMI trajectory for both nonresident and resident fathers, while non-fathers exhibit a decrease over the same period. 

The study was started in 1994-1995 collecting height + weight to calculate BMI (Body Mass Index) and fatherhood status. Covariates included age, education, physical health, income, number of children, screen hours, workouts, etc.  The starting age range was 12-21 and the study was conducted over 20 years with data collected in four waves.

Men were grouped into three categories: resident fathers, non-resident fathers, and non-fathers. The trajectory of standardized BMI over time is shown below.

In a press release, the lead author of the study, Dr Craig Garfield, Associate Professor of Pediatrics and Medical Social Sciences at Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine and attending pediatrician at Ann & Robert H. Lurie Children’s Hospital of Chicago, said,

Fatherhood can affect the health of young men, above the already known effect of marriage. The more weight the fathers’ gain and the higher their BMI, the greater the risk they have for developing heart disease as well as diabetes and cancer.

So, the “Dad Bod” exists.

Weight gain associated with life transitions such as parenthood is a real concern, and public health, social, and clinical supports should be available for men during this time.

And we should be saying, “Thank You” to our Dad’s for giving their health up for us.

http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/1557988315596224

As I was reading the study, I wondered about the reasons for participants to be non-Fathers. Did they have a partner, male or female? Did that change the findings? Did marriage, in general, cause a male to gain weight whether there were children or not? Etc.

I think, in general, men who have families forget to take care of themselves.
The “Dad Bod” sacrifice.
And especially for Father’s Day – again, I’d like to Thank You.
Fatherhood is special. XO

 


Amazing what a simple text can do~

crotch·et·y

ˈkräCHədē/
adjective
  1. irritable.
    “he was tired and crotchety

Urban Dictionary TOP DEFINITION

crotchety

An adjective used to describe an old person. More specifically, someone who seems to hate life in their “golden years” and feels the need to take it out on others.

It was a rough Sunday:
An Amazon package arrived at my Parents and I got a phone call.

I bought Dad a 5# weight bar from Amazon.
I bought him safety handles for the toilet from Amazon.
I bought him non-slip strips for the shower from Amazon.

I bought him what the OT (Occupational Therapist) and Nurse told me to buy.
And he was pissed.

I said, “I am so sorry that you feel like you are losing control, I just bought what the nurse and OT asked me to buy so you would have it available.”
He kept stuttering and yelling, so I just said “good-bye” and hung up.

(Thinking, NO, you cannot use the bathroom door handle to help you get off the toilet.)

But, I guess it’s ok that I bought my Mom pee-pee pads from Amazon. I didn’t ask.

As I was feeling so tired and defeated from the week, travel, work headaches, plus my Brother and, now, my Dad – I received a gorgeous text from my Sister-In-Law:

“Dear, dear dievca. Thank you for all of your efforts. We just got the 3rd call from Dad in 10 minutes. My husband is laughing that you are never ever going to come home again.”
“(insert my last name) males are tough.”

Amazing what a simple text can do~

So, like, do you think I should buy that book (above) for Dad and ship it from Amazon?

Umm, I’m not doing so well at this elderly parent thing – no Catholic heaven for me, huh?

Hope your Monday is better than my Sunday – hell, it can’t be any worse.

Bloody Mary, anyone?


A very good day. A Lovely Day.

My Dad made it home.  So what if he has to be a “tubie”, he’s walking better, cognitive skills are excellent, can do everything that is important – heck, we can’t ask for anything more.  Dad went into the hospital on his Birthday and he made it home for his Anniversary. 62 years – May Day! Mom’s skinny as a toothpick, but she is holding up, too.

Me? I’m pooped (tired). It was a long day of squeezing in work, NYC traffic, flight, rental car, drive, learning the tube feeding process and fighting with the pharmacy. Add Dad getting on me that it’s garbage day tomorrow — yeah, that brain is doing just fine~

But the Sunset after a lovely 71 F (22 C) day? Amazing!

That extra shine is the sun hitting the water of a lake.

All-in-all, a very good day.

Click photo to play Bill Wither’s Lovely Day.

Photo: dievca 04/2018