Just say, “No”.

If a family member offers you one…

Just say, “No, I’m Good – Thanks.”
(and laugh like heck!)

As good as it gets~against the odds. (Father’s Day)

Photo: Reddit, Trevor3999 – His Grandma and her Dad

Look, dievca’s Dad is older.  He had a stroke/heart attack a few years ago and they determined they couldn’t operate.  Blood flow efficiency was increased from 20% to 38% with drugs. His handwriting got better, he is walking/cleaning house/gardening/driving to the hardware store/taking care of Mom — doing really well.

Dad took a “header” last summer from the heat and perhaps a little bit of medications needing adjustment.  A mess with a bleed out, broken neck and nose, etc.  He got through it.

We went for his annual heart check-up:

Weight – the same
Blood work – good
Concerns with breathing/dizziness – none
range of motion – better
Heart efficiency – 45% (up a smidgen beyond the margins for error…)

The Doctor thought about it, looked at us and said, “just keep doing what you are doing..”

I think my Dad made his day.

In the end, what dievca is learning from her Dad is that no matter how bad it gets — we know that the act of trying to work through problems may not always be successful, but sometimes it is…
And that is a beautiful thing.
So keep trying, against the odds.

and Happy Father’s Day. XO

Aww, Mom…

Mother's DaySo happy she finally had a girl
(no idea the girl was a tomboy)

Such a gap between siblings
(no idea the girl would keep her young)

A shared interest in fashion
(didn’t realize the girl would keep her up-to-date)

The girl ended up bringing a great deal of Joy to her Mother.
(And her Mother shared her Life and Wisdom with the girl)

Look, my Mom can be a pain-in-the-a**. I can be one, too.
Like Mother, Like Daughter.
She puts up with me and loves me, unconditionally.
What more do you need from someone?
Right now my Mom is 90 lbs, soaking wet and she looks at me with my extra curves and says, “You are so beautiful, so healthy and strong – it’s lovely.”
– and I look at myself with new eyes.
That is love.

Aww, Mom, I love you.



dievca is guilty of this… on the personal level.
The worse something gets, the quieter she gets…
or she hides behind babble about inconsequential things.
People don’t want to deal with angst, just Joy.

Then she explodes.
When that happens, it’s not pretty.

It comes from taking care of everyone else and putting her needs last.
If an opportunity for dievca to air out her issues arrives,
she panics and becomes tongue-tied.
The focus is rarely on her, so she doesn’t know what to do.

Because of that everyone assumes that strong dievca is fine…
she is just fine.

If someone would just take a moment to notice that dievca has asked for a meeting,
a conversation, or time…and they would be patient, a little pushy for more information and pay attention – they would notice that she’s hit her limit.

Instead, she walks away, simmers and explodes.

And it’s ugly.
Just ugly.

New Year’s Eve and…

What dievca is drinking….Hoochinoo

1875-80, Americanism; orig. the name of a Tlingit village on Admiralty Island, Alaska, reputed to be a source of illicit liquor; alteration of Tlingitxucnu·wú literally, brown bear’s fort ( xú·c brown bear + nu·w fortified place)


EARGO advertisement – hear it right the 1st time…


Better known, now, as “hooch”.

noun, Slang.
  1. alcoholic liquor.
  2. liquor illicitly distilled and distributed.

20161225_184613Better known as dievca’s sister-in-law’s Blackberry brandy, made from blackberries collected on her land.


A very tasty libation which causes your lips to go delightfully numb.



Love, dievča

dievca is…

Gerald Von Lind

Gerald Von Lind

Cooking, cleaning, talking and fighting with her Parents. she wouldn’t miss it for the World. There is only so much time left to love them. Honestly, pain and joy? They’ve done her well.

Midwestern pleasures: Sour Cherry Pie

cherry-bomb-sticker-hot-sexy-pin-up-tattoodievca went home to make cherry pies for her parents. (amongst doing other things…) 
Her Dad is doing well and she has combed through her Mom’s closets to set-up outfits for easy dressing.


Because as you get older, you don’t care…but if you are put together and you get a compliment –
you feel so good.
dievca wants to make her Mom feel so good without having to work too hard.
(anyways, her Mom is a lot better looking than dievca is, so it doesn’t take much. XO )

Might as well look good going to the Doctor’s office, right?

An aside: dievca has a good friend who is an Internal Medicine Doctor and they had a full conversation about underwear. There is a good chance your Doctor may notice…

hanky-panky-black-stretch-lace-briefsBy-the-way? Hanky Panky is a top leader for panty popularity and a clean pair is always appreciated… (dievca thought you should know…)

And so, dievca sets out outfits for her Mother. Nine of them for whatever mood strikes. With jewelry.

As dievca’s Mother got older, she became more enamored with jewelry…like a magpie. Anything shiny.

In honor of the sour cherry pies dievca baked, she found some fun jewelry for her Mother.

Erickson Beamon Cherry Pie Ring, Earrings and Cuff!

erickson-beamon-cherry-multi-cherry-pie-ring-cherry-multi-red-product erickson-beamon-cherry-multi-cherry-pie-earrings-cherry-multi-red Erickson Beamon Cherry Pie Cuff Bracelet

And a cherry pie recipe to send you on your way:

By Chef Terri Milligan

A cherry tree produces an average of 7,000 cherries each season. It takes about 250 cherries to make an 9-inch pie. So when you look at the cherry tree, you will be seeing enough cherries for about 28 pies!
Makes one 9-inch double crusted pie

Your favorite pie crust recipe – enough for a double crusted pie

5 to 6 cups fresh or slightly thawed frozen tart cherries
1 ½ cups granulated sugar
4 tablespoons cornstarch
1/8 teaspoon almond or vanilla extract
1 whole egg combined with 2 tablespoons whole milk or half and half
1 tablespoon sugar, to sprinkle on top of the pie

If using fresh cherries, remove pits. Save juice that is extracted from the pitting process.

If using frozen cherries, thaw the cherries slightly, again, keeping the juice.

Place the cherries and juice in a large sauce pot and place on medium low heat. As the cherries warm, more juice will come out of the cherries.

Combine the sugar and 4 tablespoons of cornstarch. Add mixture to the cherries. Put back on medium low heat and cook until thickened, stirring frequently. Remove from the heat and stir in the extract. Let cool to room temperature.

Preheat oven to 375 degrees. Using your favorite pie dough recipe, roll out dough large enough to fit into a 9-inch pie pan, with about 1 inch of dough hanging over the edge. Place cooled filling into the lined pie pan.

Combine the egg with the milk/half and half. Brush lightly around the edges of the lined pie crust. Roll out the remaining piece of dough into a 10-inch round and place on top of the pie. Trim the dough and crimp. Using a small paring knife make three ½-inch slits on the top of the pie to release steam during baking.

Brush the top of the crust with the egg wash and sprinkle with sugar. Place the pie on a baking pan (if it bubbles over). Bake for 45 to 50 minutes or until nicely browned. Let pie cool for at least one hour before serving.