Kink vs. Fetish

The Velvet Underground sang, “Kiss the boot of shiny, shiny leather…Tongue of thongs, the belt that does await you” (“Venus in Furs”).

Does the song touch on kinks or fetishes? It all depends…

Kinks
‘Kink’ is a general term that describes any sexual proclivities that could be seen as unconventional. It comes from the idea that one’s sexuality may deviate from the norm—the straight line has bend in it.

Costumes, role play, BDSM—anything in that kind of area could be considered a kink, but so could plenty of accessory-free activities. One person’s standard sexual activity can be another individual’s kink. The line fluctuates from person to person.

In the past, BDSM was seen as a ‘paraphilia’ rather than a kink, grouped by psychiatrists with desires to perform non-consensual acts. There is a world of difference between consenting adults experimenting with each other in the pursuit of pleasure and people harming others against their will. Master and dievca have a relationship based upon consent – experimenting and living with a power dynamic and other activities.

Fetishes
A fetish is a sexual fixation on a certain object or act that is necessary for a person to achieve sexual gratification.

If you enjoy certain activities that are not considered the norm that might be a kink, but if you can’t get off without a certain object, process or activity – that’s a fetish. Anal sex you try every year on your birthday? A kink. Can’t get in the mood without being peed on? A fetish.

Kinks are employed to enhance an experience, fetishes are integral to them. 

Another way a kink becomes a fetish is if the other person can be removed from the equation – if you are turned on by shoes alone without anyone to be wearing them, that’s a fetish. Partialism is a sexual interest with a focus on a specific part of the body. This can be any part of the body, such as the hair, breasts, or buttocks. The most common form of partialism is podophilia, in which a person becomes sexually aroused by feet.

“Diversity, dievca, Diversity!”

Master and dievca had a conversation about Kink and Fetishes early in their Relationship. Master mentioned that His interest waned when a partner couldn’t orgasm unless a certain set of steps were followed in precise order while wearing a specific outfit. It was fine early in the relationship because it was about communication and learning about someone new – but later, for Him, it was tedious.

dievca has found that she likes to “change it up”, too.  Apparently, her getting off can happen in a variety of ways and Master delights in finding a new cause for orgasm.

That said, it is good when someone knows specifically what “gets them off”. Some people go through Life never understanding their body, needs nor have had their desires met. Having a fetish may offer a clear cut road for success!

Photo: dievca thinks the photo can be credited to Kaushik, Gupta


Cat Eyes

Machete Jewelry Cat Eye Sunglasses and chainThis set of MACHETE sunglasses
and chunky chain are a lovely homage to:

Click on the photos to “who” and what year!

If you are interested in getting the look,  check out MACHETE’s offerings.

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R & M Leathers – “Bound to Please”

R and M Leathers Chain Bra
R&M Leathers London: Thick Chain Bra and Thong
Made to order leather clothing and accessories from London. Custom pieces and sizes available. All items are handmade to order. Allow 4-5 weeks for orders to be processed and shipped. Express service also available on request. If you require a custom size outside of what is provided, there will be an additional 10% fee.


Presentation Inspiration: Latex Trench Coat

Emily Ratajkowski Latex Trench Coat

Rather than opening the Trench to flash – how about a Flash through the material?
Or stick with a slick shiny silhouette covering the package?
You can choose from 64 Latex Color Fabrics with Vex Inc.

Purple Latex Trench Vex Inc $600 (click photo to purchase)

 


Highlight the Nipple

Sometimes they are sensitive, other times numb.
Always attached unless you had breast surgery.
Often ignored unless an effort is made for attention.
Enter the Studio Pia: Clea


A subtle focus on the Nipples,
as well as,
Bondage and Elegance.


Still looking for those feathers!

Sally Rand in the 1930’s
Wouldn’t it be fun to do a fan dance for your Sir or Madame?

Here’s a link to buy your feathers, but looks like the lighting is important, too!
Find a way to be backlit and let your silhouette do the enticing.
Or just put your body and soul into your dance.


Sleepy on a Snowy Morning!


Stay warm and have a coffee for dievca and Hilda. XO


Birds of a Feather

Alexander Wang Ivy Feathered Sandal – Black

Attico Feathered Strapless Top – Aqua

Paul Seville Mini Feathered Keychain – Blue

 

Betony Vernon Feathered Ring – Black

Topshop Ozzy Mirabeau Feather Jacket – Green

Robert Rodriquez Feathered Skirt – Purple

Attico Feathered Dress – Lilac

Alexander Wang Ivy Feathered Sandal – Sandstone

Betony Vernon Ostrich Feather Leisure Tickler

Ok, so there isn’t a place to wear the feathers because we shouldn’t flock together …
But it might be nice to jazz up a Presentation Outfit with the fluff!
Unless you are allergic~


Blooming with Loup Charmant Bloomers

The website calls them “Bloomers” – maybe they are the mini-version.
Sexy in an innocent manner.
By Loup Charmant $60-$85


“Repeat after me: I deserve a new pair of sunglasses.”


Linda Farrow for Dries van Noten
195 ROUND SUNGLASSES $325


Bubbies, Tatas, Bazooms, Headlights, Jugs, Melons, Rack, Titties, Shoulder Boulders…

All Shapes of Beauty Tea Towel $18 Uncommon Goods

BOSOM BUDDIES
Your eyes do not deceive you—there are ta-tas on this tea towel, and not the off-the-rack A-B-C kind, either. This lively print celebrates our breast friends in all their wonderful, natural variety, from bountiful bells to adventurous east-west and a many-hued gallery of shapes and sizes in between. Sure to cause a few double- or triple-takes, this piece shares a low-key message about loving ourselves as we are and—bonus!—it might just give some folks an all-new enthusiasm for doing dishes. Designed in Savannah, Georgia. Made in China.
(click photo to purchase)


Latex with Saint Laurent

Click on the photos for a closer look!
The items come with a full care cleaning kit to keep the latex supple and shiny.
It’s good the items are offered for the Fall and Winter – otherwise, the sweat due to heat would kill your vibe.
~Couture Presentation~


It held up to a sh*t mess…Stand Studio – Farrah Coat

Can’t visit the Midwest without shoveling~

In this case, ice.

It was sleet, then fluffy snow, then hail, then sleet, ending up rain which froze on the driveway.

dievca just happened be wearing the appropriate coat to handle all of the choices Mother Nature decided to share – a recent purchase to take the place of three down coats:

It dried and puffed up nicely in the dryer and was ready for snow blowing 4-inches the following morning.

Gardening or snow removal – dievca’s available for hire. 🙄


Causse Gantier – Glove Fetishism

Glove fetishism is a sexual fetishism where an individual is sexually stimulated by another person or oneself wearing gloves on their hands. In some cases, the fetish is enhanced by the material of the glove (e.g., leather, cotton, latex, nitrile, PVC, satin, or nylon).

Often, the actions of a gloved hand are as arousing as the glove itself, because the glove provides a second skin, or in other words a fetishistic surrogate for the wearer’s own skin. Medical gloves and rubber gloves provide not only a safer sex environment but also give a latex glove fetishist great pleasure. Subtle movements by the gloved fingers or the hand as a whole can provide the individual with a great visual stimulus and ultimately sexual arousal. The act of putting gloves on, or slipping them off the hands, can also be a source of glove fetish fantasy.

The smell is also a factor when it comes to latex, rubber, and leather gloves. This is also often an extension of hand fetishism.

Gloves are used for fisting and sounding. They are a big part of the superhero, leather, rubber, and cosplay scenes and are a staple accessory in any crime fetish. There is something immediately different when one is wearing gloves during sex. It almost makes one feel more naughty and kinky adding to the experience.

Most glove fetishists prefer tight and shiny gloves. It is a fetish that crosses gender and sexuality stereotypes needing no anchor to one or another.

It is also sometimes associated with strangling or rape fetishes.

Medical glove fetishism involves thin latex gloves, which come in many different types. Personal preference ranges from color, smell, size, textured, smooth, powdered, or un-powdered. Fetishists are proud of their collection of medical gloves, as well as rubber gloves. Household rubber gloves tend to be thicker, longer, and are mostly used for cleaning purposes.

There is a fetish called GOM which stands for ‘Glove Over Mouth’ where a gloved hand is placed firmly over one’s mouth and/or nose and is sometimes associated with breath control. This can be arousing to the giver and/or the receiver.

Some glove fetishists prefer certain lengths, for example, the long opera-style or short cuff length. Some also like them as a part of an outfit, such as a nurse, policewoman, or French maid uniform. Some who are of a sexually submissive nature are stimulated by their dominant partner’s wearing and use of gloves. Dominant partners may likewise prefer that their submissives wear gloves. As with all fetishes, however, there need not be a BDSM connection to an affinity for gloves.

Apart from their appearance, some individuals prefer to use them on themselves or others as a form of sexual stimulation. The ones most commonly used for this are made of leather, latex, (such as those doctors or nurses use for examination) nitrile, or shoulder-length thick black latex. Some prefer the household rubber glove. The appeal behind the household glove may be due to the colors they come in but also offering what the latex examination gloves cannot; household gloves are thicker, some more than others depending on what their use is. It’s also possible that people use these as they are commonly found in one’s home so are easily available.

Many enjoy erotic spanking with gloves donned. It offers a different feeling and sound to the “spankee”, which can be a large part of the fetish.

  • The gloves above are all Causse Gantier
  • Expensive but lovely
  • Made in France
A "Thank You" to Wikipedia

Ruffles to be ruffled – lingerie

verb (used with object), ruf·fled, ruf·fling.

verb (used without object), ruf·fled, ruf·fling.

noun

ORIGIN OF RUFFLE

1250–1300; Middle English ruffelen (v.); cognate with Low German ruffelen to crumple, rumple; compare Old Norse hruffa to scratch
 


Harness Me~

Often times a leather or chain body harness connects to a Collar:

Kudosale leather harness bra

A recent trend in lingerie is to have the neck harness as a part of the lingerie, itself.
What do you think?

Hauty Hook You Thong and Harness Bralette

Yandy blue harness lingerie

Hauty Choker Teddy with Harness Straps

Mojo Lingerie UK Collar Harness neck

Etsy Sasha Neck Harness lingerie

Thistles and Spire Kane Garter Belt w/removable harness

JYards neck harness bra

Hauty Nothing But Net harness top set


dievca prefers her Master’s Collar.


Options for 🎃 by Yandy: Cosplay Lingerie

Click on a photo to make it larger and see the price.

YANDY Fantasy Lingerie

Nerdism: HERE’S WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU WEAR DISNEY THEMED LINGERIE TO BED

 


Semantics of Shibari vs Kinbaku

Creator: Kinoko Hajime

So what does the word Shibari mean?
The dictionary definition is “the act of tying” but as with so many words in Japanese, the meaning depends upon the context in which could be used to refer to tying such things as parcels, objects, etc To take the word out of context removes much of its meaning. In a discussion on bondage – Shibari is a word for ‘bondage tying’.

What is Shibari vs Kinbaku?
As in the rest of the world, the Japanese have differing opinions on which is the best term to use for not only Shibari or Kinbaku but other terms that may apply to the art of bondage tying.

So we may have a situation where shibari means to tie, and kinbaku is a rather recent word meaning “to tie tightly so that there is no movement after the tie”.

Another opinion is that ‘Shibari’ is bondage tying and that Kinbaku is ‘Shibari’ plus emotional connection – to “tie deeply”.

Practitioners seem to use the words interchangeably and you’d be invited to learn Shibari at Kinbaku workshops. Recognized Japanese practitioners prefer one or the other to some extent, this does not however mean that one is valid and the other is not. They are all valid.  These are not contradictions, only preferences of expression.

Most Japanese rope artists instinctively gravitate towards one or the other in their conversations depending upon the circumstances.

For instance, an artist explicitly describes his rope as “Shibari not Kinbaku” while he qualifies some other rope artists as “doing Kinbaku, not Shibari”. He often says that he wishes to tie to the point where the model can move a little bit in the tie, thinking she can untie herself, when – in fact, she cannot.

There are situations where all Japanese agree: is that in the sentence “let’s do Japanese rope together”, it is always Shibarimashou (let’s shibari) and not “kinbaku o shimashou” (let’s kinbaku).


Toes in the Wild

Have you had a haircut?
How about dental cleaning, a massage, facial, leg wax, or pedicure?
It’s been 7 months and dievca finally brought her toes out from the Wild to a salon for a more formal clean-up.
What a pleasure. (www.dearsundays.com)

The return of her toes to civilization reminded dievca of the great 2003- DSW videos of the same nature:

2003 – Value City Department Stores Inc. has launched a second series of ads for DSW Shoe Warehouse since Value City named Charles Rath its executive vice president and chief marketing officer.

Dubbed “Shoes in the Wild,” the spots show women hunting for the perfect spring shoes. The ads were created by an all-woman creative team at New York-based Cliff Freeman & Partners.

The ads are running on cable networks, including E!, Oxygen and HGTV, and in cities such as Columbus, Denver, Dallas, Miami, Boston, and Atlanta.

2009 – Cliff Freeman & Partners, a one-time creative hotbed, is shutting its doors. The New York agency’s only major client, Baskin-Robbins, says it is searching for a new shop. Agency founder Cliff Freeman is known for Wendy’s, “Where’s the Beef” ads, creating Little Caesar’s “Pizza, Pizza” ads and Snapple‘s “Wendy the Snapple Lady” ads.

Cliff Freeman delivered some classic ads for Outpost.com. Most people will cite the Gerbil Cannon as the best. It was quite shocking when it was first aired, and there s just something special about the pure look of terror on that tuba player’s face in the Wolves commercial.

The shop had trouble emerging from the dot-com bust and by 2003, was leaking crucial talent. One trio of former executives started the boutique Amalgamated. In 2005, Freeman brought in CEO Jeff McClelland, a big agency executive with time at Dentsu and Ogilvy. The idea was to help the firm adapt to changes in the ad environment and move into more multidisciplinary integrated work. McClelland had some new-business success, but he left the agency last year.


Harvest Moon Lingerie – Honor the Goddess


Full Harvest Moon this evening at 5:05 p.m. EDT (2108 UTC).
A second Full Moon will occur on October 31st!

Perhaps you can pre-order Serpent & Bow Lingerie’s Moon Phase Brief and Bralette for the 2nd occasion. It seems like the website is directed towards lingerie printed/dyed in small batches, leaning towards Earth and Solar Worship themes. You can even design your own Ceremonial set. An interesting slo-Fashion concept.

Click the second photo for the website:


S O L D O U T: Preorder Moon Cycle High Waist Brief and Bralette Set

$198.00

Designed to honor the ever-fluctuating, dynamic and prismatic nature of our physical bodies, and our connection to the cosmos. The Moon Cycle set features pearly-white and sky-blue moons that rest across the hips and encircle the chest.

The Moon Cycle brief is designed with a single seam at the back, with a vintage-style high-waist fit, made from comfortable and breathable cotton-lycra. The Moon Cycle Bralette is finished with handmade indigo halter straps (black shoulder straps available by request). Each set handpainted in batik wax-resist, then dip-dyed in natural indigo to a rich cobalt blue.

Our cotton-lycra fabric is Organic! and grown and made in the USA, and is opaque and supportive enough to wear for swim- we recommend rinsing after swimming in chlorine or saltwater to protect the integrity of the cotton. Machine Washable. Indigo will soften over time, like your favorite pair of jeans. All pieces are patterned, cut, sewn, painted, dyed, and finished by our women-run studio in Santa Rosa, California, with love and care.


Links with Machete Jewelry

dievca saw the following photo somewhere – liked the outfit and then focussed on the necklace.
Chains, chunky, YES!

Getty Images: Katie Holmes 07/2020

So, dievca went hunting for the necklace and found it could be pre-ordered at http://www.ShopMachete.com

Master was looking for a Birthday gift for His dievca and she told him about the necklace. she also mentioned an anklet.

The chains can be interchanged. The Gold large link can be removed, the anklet added to make a larger necklace – interchangeable parts to make things interesting.

Features:

  • Heavyweight. 14k Gold & Sterling Silver Plated Brass
  • Handmade and engraved logo
  • Removable links to add and subtract for a longer necklace or create a bracelet

Some other pieces from the brand:

ABOUT
Located in Atlanta, Georgia, MACHETE is a line of eco-conscious, affordable jewelry & accessories for everyday wear. MACHETE is frequently featured with Vogue, Bazaar, Instyle, Atelier Doré, and throughout publications worldwide.

Known for our Tortoise acetate disc earrings and patterns, the cellulose acetate & bio-acetate we source is high quality and non-petroleum based. Cellulose acetate and bio-acetate are natural and renewable materials, providing an eco-friendly alternative to petroleum-based materials. All of our jewelry is stored and shipped in custom, eco-friendly UVA zip bags for convenient storing & organizing your MACHETE collections.

Due to the high quality and natural material of our tortoise shell, each pattern is unique and may vary. All of our metals are comprised of recycled brass & ethically sourced silver & gold. Our earring posts are made from hypoallergenic stainless steel, sterling silver, or solid gold.

THE DESIGNER
Jennifer J Matchett, Founder, Designer, and Creative Director of MACHETE, graduated with a degree in Art History from Gainesville, Florida. Inspired by her collections of antique and vintage jewelry, she began creating pieces out of vintage Italian acetate. Jennifer quickly became widely known for her Tortoise acetate disc earrings and was profiled with Vogue in 2017. She currently works alongside her husband Cale, and their small team in the Atlanta area.

GIVING BACK
MACHETE and its team proudly contribute continued support to the following organizations:

The CFDA Foundation, Atlanta’s High Museum of Art, SCAD Design for Sustainability Scholarship, Every Mother Counts, Human Rights First, Global Fund For Women, Center for Reproductive Rights, The Joyful Hearts Foundation, Safe Horizon, End the Backlog, Women’s March, Everytown for Gun Safety, EarthJustice, National Parks Foundation, 1% for the Planet.

RESPONSIBILITY
MACHETE is committed to being ecologically and environmentally responsible. We work to reduce our impact on the environment by practicing waste reduction in our offices and production area.


Stockings, Heels, a pair of Gloves…


and a Smile.

An Excellent Presentation Outfit
for your Sir or Madame.


Feelin’ Frisky with Charlotte Olympia


Ooh, la la! Charlotte Olympia’s Frisky slingbacks live up to their name. Adorned with a monochrome Dress Up print and black leather whip-like tassels, they perfectly embody the collection’s muse, Betty Paige. Channel pin-up glamour by teaming these statement heels with a pencil skirt, tucked-in blouse, and a slick of red lipstick.


Flash the Headlights

Flash the headlights is a slang expression meaning to expose one’s bare breasts.

The phrase is a variation of the colloquial term flash, meaning to expose an area of the body that’s normally covered up. The word headlights is typically used as a slang term for breasts, because they are round and often pale colored, like a car’s headlights.

A woman must completely expose her breasts, including her nipples, to flash the headlights. Some believe only a whole breast can be classed as a headlight, while others feel the term headlights referred to nipples.

When people drive they flash their automobile headlights to gain the attention of oncoming traffic.  A woman typically flashes her headlights to get attention, too. She may be looking to hail a particular person or any passers-by.

Hmm, the bra above must be the Modest Version of Flash the Headlights or it can work in the dark!


Hmm-could these be worked into the closet?

Michael Kors Collection Catherine Python-embossed Cuffed Heel

Maybe with:

OK – looks like there are options!


David Koma: Interesting, Interesting, Interesting and…NO

Patent leather, sheer tulle, sequins with an o-ring – sounds good!

dievca knows that Gingham is “IN”, but she is not interested in this piece:

David Koma Velvet-trimmed houndstooth stretch-jersey and tulle bodysuit

DAVID KOMA
After refining his craft at Central St. Martins, David Koma worked as Mugler’s Creative Director before turning the focus back to his eponymous label. A firm fixture on the red carpet, the designer counts everyone from Beyoncé to Rosie Huntington-Whiteley as fans of his impactful, polished eveningwear

All pieces about available at Net-A-Porter for pre-order


“I have got a face as well, you know.” ~ Sabrina


Norma Ann Sykes: British Bombshell defying gravity in Lingerie


Purple Passion (BDSM style)

KOKMO set at Amazon $37.10- click photo

Purple People Eater, Barney, Violet Beauregarde

The meaning of the color Purple”
Purple combines the calm stability of blue and the fierce energy of red. The color purple is often associated with royalty, nobility, luxury, power, and ambition. Purple also represents meanings of wealth, extravagance, creativity, wisdom, dignity, grandeur, devotion, peace, pride, mystery, independence, and magic.

Do you want all that represented during BDSM?


Vinyl Vixen

noun. a female fox. an ill-tempered or quarrelsome woman.
a woman considered to be sexually attractive.

LaQuan Smith leopard bustier dress PVC Spring RTW 2020

Click photo to purchase the LaQuan Smith bustier dress at fwrd.com


Something of Use + Fantasy: Sexy in an Apron

Do you own an apron? Do you use it while BBQ-ing or baking?
dievca has never owned one. she’s not sure of what she is missing Her friends have laughed at her and asked what she does for dinner parties.
she cooks, changes, and hopes for the best afterward.

What about an Apron as a D/s Presentation Outfit?

Hmm, could be interesting but one might need to be careful when sitting or leaning against the countertop.

dievca found the apron she wants:

The RE/DONE | Levi’s Denim Apron is created from scraps of vintage Levi’s, reducing production waste and creating functional, machine washable, and collectible kitchen-wear. Each apron is upcycled using a waterless process from unique vintage materials and is completely one-of-a-kind.

The shades of indigo will differ from the product image due to each item being one-of-a-kind. Twenty percent of sales will be donated to the Restaurant Workers’ Community Foundation. RE/done