Master and His dievca agreePosted: October 17, 2022 Filed under: Entertainment, Home and Garden | Tags: Autumn, BDSM, coffee, D/s, dievca, Dominance and submission, Happiness, Joy, Love, Master, Monday, Morning, NYC Leave a comment
Autumn in New York is key!
We hope you are enjoying your Fall, too. XO
Kids love rain! At the moment, dievca does not…Posted: October 5, 2022 Filed under: Entertainment, Home and Garden | Tags: Autumn, BDSM, children, Crabbiness, D/s, dievca, Happiness, Humor, Life, messy, play, Rain, Weather 1 Comment
Remember when we all loved to play in the rain?
dievca just looks like a drowned rat.
(her back wheel popped, she’s covered in the rain poncho w/a backpack, etc.)
There’s name for it = Realistic OptimistPosted: May 22, 2022 Filed under: Analysis, Master, Musings | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Happiness, Life, Master, philosophy, submissive, thinking, viewpoint Leave a comment
Master and His dievca were sharing sushi on the rooftop when dievca mention that she figured out where she fits with her personal outlook (philosophy). she always thought she was just a “realist”, but realized she isn’t very cynical. Then she ran into this tidbit:
This Personality Type Is Linked to Success and Happiness
By Tia Ghose published August 23, 2013
Are you a “glass-half-full” or a “glass-half-empty” kind of person?
As it turns out, some people can be both. So-called realistic optimists combine the positive outlook of optimists with the clear-eyed perspective of pessimists, new research has found.
These realistic optimists may get the best of both worlds, using their realism to perform better at work and elsewhere, but aren’t getting bogged down by unhappiness, said Sophia Chou, an organizational psychology researcher at National Taiwan University, who presented her findings at a meeting of the American Psychological Association in Honolulu, Hawaii. [7 Things That Will Make You Happy]
Past research has shown that optimists value thoughts that make them feel good about themselves, whereas pessimists prize a more truthful vision of themselves. But a clear-eyed view can be bad for pessimists’ well-being, as they tend to be more prone to depression, Chou said.
Optimists tend to live longer and be healthier overall.
After several years working in business, Chou noticed there were some people who were both optimistic and realistic, and that they tended to be very successful. She wondered whether realism and optimism were really diametrically opposed.
So Chou administered a battery of personality surveys to about 200 college and graduate students in Taiwan. The surveys tested how many “positive illusions” the students held, as well as whether they were more motivated by self-enhancement or reality.
The optimists were sorted into two camps: the realists and the idealists.
“Realistic optimists tend to choose accuracy over self-enhancement; the unrealistic optimists tend to choose self-enhancement,” Chou said.
Interestingly, the realistic optimists also got better grades, on average, than their less grounded peers — probably because they didn’t delude themselves into thinking they would do well without studying or working hard, Chou said.
Traditionally, a more realistic outlook is paired with poorer well-being and greater depression, yet the realistic optimists managed to be happy. To understand why, she dug deeper into the personality assessments.
She found that realistic optimists believed they had more self-control and control over their interpersonal relationships.
“Every time they face an issue or a challenge or a problem, they won’t say ‘I have no choice and this is the only thing I can do.’ They will be creative, they will have a plan A, plan B and plan C,” Chou said.
That allows them to stay cheery and upbeat about the future, even if they recognize the challenges of the present.
Being a realistic optimist does have one downside, however: They are more prone to anxiety than their completely unrealistic peers. That’s likely because they recognize the possibility of failure, whereas their counterparts use positive illusions to ease their anxiety, Chou said.
The findings suggest that realistic and unrealistic optimists may actually be very different personality types, Chou said.
In order to cultivate a rosy-but-realistic outlook, people should maintain a clear-eyed view of reality, but emphasize what they can control in most situations, she said.
dievca’s Master has a different take on Himself:
An idealistic realist is a realist who understands the realms of possibility but also sees his idealism as a potential reality. You work towards an Ideal knowing the Realities.
By the way – the question of the glass-half-full/empty always baffled dievca – perhaps it is her “realist” tendencies or her Science background – this is her answer:
“Friends bring happiness into your life…Posted: April 4, 2022 Filed under: Entertainment | Tags: BDSM, coffee, D/s, dievca, Dunkin' Donuts, friendship, Happiness, Life, Love, Monday, Morning Leave a comment
Best friends bring coffee.” — Unknown
Photo: Tom Boyle – Getty Images
May You (we) be so LuckyPosted: February 9, 2022 Filed under: Entertainment | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Happiness, health benefits, L.E.J., Life, Love, Master, mental health, music, Sex, submissive, video Leave a comment
Great sex helps one get by in an amazing manner.
dievca’s hoping everyone is getting Lucky ~ XO
L.E.J, short for Lucie, Élisa and Juliette, sometimes Elijay, is a French band composed of three women from Saint-Denis, a city in Paris’ suburbs. They became famous by condensing numerous top songs from the summer of 2015 into a mashup performance.
Oh, happy Day! Click the photo to find free coffee.Posted: September 29, 2021 Filed under: Entertainment, Home and Garden | Tags: BDSM, coffee, D/s, dievca, freebie, Happiness, Holiday, Humor, Life, Love, Monring Leave a comment
A Happy Cup of JoePosted: June 7, 2021 Filed under: Entertainment, Home and Garden | Tags: BDSM, coffee, coffee mug, D/s, dievca, erotic, Etsy, Happiness, Joy, Monday, Morning, Nipple, rainbow, Shopping, submissive Leave a comment
on Etsy offers a happy cup of Joe.
May your Cup runneth over!
Cup a Boob – $55 per cup
Rainbow Mug – $80 – large mug beautifully made.
Each vessel is a beacon of healing on its own. All foods and drinks enjoyed from these pieces will be even more healing and even more delicious for you and everyone on this day and everyday. Spirit animals embody the strengths of their character and emit that energy, inspiring and uplifting all those who connect with it. Each piece is also a blessing amplifier. Simply write down any intention, prayer or dream and place inside or underneath to charge your intentions with the loving healing power of Reiki.
1st Dinner inside: Lebanese MezzaPosted: May 26, 2021 Filed under: Home and Garden, Musings, Neighborhood Anecdotes (NYC) | Tags: BDSM, COVID-19, D/s, dievca, dinner, Happiness, Lebanese Food, Life, mental health, NYC, restaurant, vaccine Leave a comment
KIBBEH NAYE BEIRUTIEH
LEBANESE THYME SALAD
KIBBEH BI LABAN
ATAYEF & VEAL BACON
Ilili was ‘hopping’ on a Tuesday Night. The bar, two large rooms and outside dining was full. Look, NYC – like other places, went through a long haul with COVID-19 numbers – NYC locals are ready to GET OUT. It was a beautiful vibe last night, and the amazing work from the Vaccine developers made it happen. A HUGE ‘Thank You’ to them.
(PS. Yes, the economy of NYC is based on tourism, but selfishly – not running into any tourists is a great treat.)
LushPosted: May 14, 2021 Filed under: Home and Garden | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Flowers, garden, Happiness, Joy, Love, Midwest, Mother, Relationships, Spring, travel Leave a comment
Photo: dievca, Mom’s Yard 05/2021
“I surround myself with people that I want to be with. And I keep moving forward.”~ Sam BernPosted: February 27, 2021 Filed under: Entertainment, Relationships | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, friendship, Happiness, Humor, Joy, Life, Love, mental health, positive mental attitude, submissive Leave a comment
1. Positive people don’t confuse quitting with letting go.
2. Positive people don’t just have a good day – they make a good day.
3. For the positive person, the past stays in the past.
4. Show me a positive person and I can show you a grateful person.
5. Rather than being stuck in their limitations, positive people are energized by their possibilities.
6. Positive people do not let their fears interfere with their lives.
7. Positive people smile a lot.
8. People who are positive are great communicators.
9. Positive people realize that if you live long enough, there are times for great pain and sadness.
10. Positive people are empowered people – they refuse to blame others and are not victims in life.
Winter Solstice with Coffee & CandlelightPosted: December 21, 2020 Filed under: Accessories, Entertainment, Home and Garden | Tags: BDSM, candles, celebration, coffee, D/s, dievca, Happiness, Love, Monday, Morning, renewal, Winter, Winter Solstice Leave a comment
For us in the Northern Hemisphere, the December solstice marks the longest nights and shortest days of the year. Meanwhile, the Southern Hemisphere is having short nights and long days. The first day of winter in the Northern Hemisphere is marked by the Winter Solstice, which occurs today – Monday, December 21, 2020, at 5:02 A.M. EST.
Because Earth doesn’t orbit upright but is instead tilted on its axis by 23 1/2 degrees, the Earth’s Northern and Southern Hemispheres trade places in receiving the sun’s light and warmth most directly. The tilt of the Earth – not our distance from the sun – is what causes winter and summer. At the December solstice, the Northern Hemisphere is leaning most away from the sun for the year.
Being the shortest day means the solstice is also the longest night of the year, and one of the original traditions was rooted in candlelight—both for the needed light, and to celebrate the return of the sun in the coming months.
To celebrate, use a tabletop and cover it in unlit candles either in a circle or a varied pattern. Place a candle that symbolizes the sun (ideally in yellow or gold) in the center and taller than the rest of the candles. Light the sun candle first, and then the rest of the candles. You can recite a ritual while doing it, too.
(Or just have your coffee at 5:02 am EST – sounds like a ritual to dievca!)
Photos: dievca's 2020 Candles and Coffee for the Solstice
You can take the dievca outPosted: December 17, 2020 Filed under: Entertainment, Home and Garden | Tags: BDSM, Cold Weather, D/s, dievca, Happiness, Love, Midwestern, NYC, snow, Winter Leave a comment
of the Midwest, but you can’t take the Midwest out of the dievca.
Such a simple thing to make someone so happy during a sh*tty time.
(Click photos to enlarge)
Simple happiness for the morning.Posted: December 7, 2020 Filed under: Entertainment, Home and Garden | Tags: BDSM, coffee, D/s, dievca, Happiness, Life, Love, Monday, Morning, submissive Leave a comment
Have a good week! XO
Monday Coffee with WoodstockPosted: November 30, 2020 Filed under: Entertainment, Home and Garden | Tags: BDSM, coffee, D/s, dievca, Happiness, Humor, Love, Monday, Morning, Peanuts, submissive Leave a comment
Woodstock was first seen in the strip in 1967 but was named in 1970 after the summer music festival.
“Woodstock knows that he is very small and inconsequential indeed.
It’s a problem we all have.
The universe boggles us…
Woodstock is a lighthearted expression of that idea.”
~ Charles Schulz
April 4, 1967
Woodstock is not a great flyer. In fact, he doesn’t even know what type of bird he is. The only thing he knows for sure is that he and Snoopy were destined to be great pals. He refers to Snoopy as his friend of friends, the only one in the neighborhood who understands his chirps. Woodstock is always up for an adventure, but is just as happy relaxing at home.
A little reminder of Life outside of COVID-19Posted: November 22, 2020 Filed under: Entertainment | Tags: BDSM, concert, crowd, D/s, dievca, Happiness, Hyde Park, Joy, Life, London, music, Queen, singing, submisive Leave a comment
In this time of social distancing, dievca would like to remind you of just how much fun a crowd can be:
Use your imagination to start your Monday.Posted: April 6, 2020 Filed under: Entertainment | Tags: BDSM, coffee, D/s, dievca, Happiness, Humor, Life, Love, Monday, Morning, submissive 2 Comments
Yes, the coffee will smile at you this morning.
And a ‘Good Morning’ to you, too!Posted: November 18, 2019 Filed under: Home and Garden | Tags: BDSM, coffee, D/s, dievca, Happiness, Life, Love, Monday, Morning, NYC, photo, submissive 4 Comments
Well, THAT’S a lovely start to a Monday : CortadoPosted: February 25, 2019 Filed under: Home and Garden | Tags: BDSM, coffee, cotado, D/s, dievca, Happiness, Life, Love, Monday, NYC, submissive Leave a comment
A Cortado is made by combining an equal amount of espresso and steamed milk, usually using one shot of espresso and the equal amount of milk.
Cortado comes from the Spanish word cortar, which means “to cut.” The steamed milk is said to “cut” the espresso to reduce the acidity and intensity of the drink. The Spanish origin is important to the make-up of this drink. Unlike many other popular espresso drinks, the cortado has little to no foam. A smooth go~
GOOD MORNING! and may yours be waiting for you. XO
No Matter How You Say It ~ Love is LovePosted: February 9, 2019 Filed under: Accessories, Clothing, Fashion | Tags: Alberta Ferretti, BDSM, D/s, dievca, Happiness, Life, Love, Presentation Outfits, quote, Relationships, Shopping, submissive Leave a comment
You may hold my hand for a while,
but you hold my heart forever.
Alberta Ferretti Sweaters and Bags available at Fwrd.com
Sharing the **V* with you! (Shel Silverstein)Posted: January 26, 2019 Filed under: Poetry, Relationships | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Family, Happiness, Joy, Life, Love, Master, Relationships, Shel Silverstein, submissive 1 Comment
National Orgasm Day – July 31stPosted: July 31, 2018 Filed under: Entertainment, Relationships | Tags: BDSM, celebration, D/s, dievca, Happiness, Health, Life, Love, Marcos Alberti, Master, masturbation, O-project, Orgasm, self-care, submissive 7 Comments
The celebration day started in 2015
and commences, again, on July 31st!
dievca is “in”!
The O Project is a series of photographs taken by Marcos Alberti, a renowned Brazilian photographer who was behind the 3 Glasses project in 2016. This time, Marcos has worked with Smile Makers to create something daring, unique and meaningful: a series of photos of women before, during and after they climax through self-pleasure. Far from the fake and standardized depiction that porn gives of it, the series showcases the female orgasm as it is: DIVERSE, BEAUTIFUL and EMPOWERING!
Just to keep in mind:
(click here for Marcos Alberti’s other photo project)
Taking coffee and a treat.Posted: June 25, 2018 Filed under: Entertainment | Tags: coffee, D/s, dievca, Happiness, Life, Morning, photo, submissive, treat 2 Comments
…wash away your troubles with some bubbles…Posted: May 22, 2017 Filed under: Entertainment, Home and Garden | Tags: BDSM, Bubble Bath, D/s, dievca, Elegant, erotic, Happiness, Henry Beard, Life, Master, quotes, Slave, Stiletto, submissive 8 Comments
You can often wash your troubles away with the right kind of bath.
Throw everything you have into the tub:
1908 and 2016 — dievca’s Team Won!Posted: November 3, 2016 Filed under: Entertainment, Home and Garden | Tags: BDSM, Chicago Cubs, D/s, dievca, Happiness, Life, Presentation Outfits, submissive, World Series 7 Comments
Thank you for all your support!
dievca’s team won in a nail biter — a crazy exciting series.
The short video below will give you are recap of the last game.
VIDEO: 11/2/16: Cubs win World Series with 10th-inning rally
And dievca’s Lucky T-shirt – that she kept washing and wearing….
Don’t ask, her Cubs gear wasn’t working.
A bear outfit might be in the mix for a presentation outfit.
Diversity, dievca, Diversity!
gimme some sugar….Posted: May 25, 2016 Filed under: Home and Garden, Musings | Tags: BDSM, bondage, coffee, D/s, dievca, Happiness, Life, Master, NYC, submissive 10 Comments
Gimme some sugar is a term used to ask for a kiss, where the girl is hot and the kiss is sweet.
dievca’s sugar spoke to her and made her day.
PINK: This morning I woke up and ran downstairs to get a big cup of coffee. It was exactly what I needed. Can you think of anything better? …the coffee was finished…what about tea? Chocolate? It seemed fine! Good morning to you all!
ORANGE: Just came back from work. Turned on the coffee machine and took Jack for a walk in the park. When we came back my coffee was ready. The house smelled wonderful. I took my cup and my book and sat in my favourite armchair. Perfect!
Have a good day! and save dievca some sugar, ok?
XO from the “hot” dievca~
presence, not pleasurePosted: May 22, 2016 Filed under: Analysis, D/s Relationship | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Dominance and submission, Dominant, focus, Happiness, Life, Master, Relationships, submissive 8 Comments
An interesting thing happened to Master and dievca. They planned time for a scene, in advance and met. dievca was running late from work and couldn’t get 100% dressed to present (no make-up, ripped her thigh-hi’s) and Master arrived irritated and needed to talk to let off steam about a situation. Overall, not a problem – other than both parties were distracted and had a hard time finding their D/s focus. Both Master and dievca felt “off” with their experience at the end of the evening.
Compare this to:
Another time when Master and dievca didn’t plan a scene. They met for dinner, no D/s play scheduled – but as they ate their focus on each other became deeper and deeper and a small scene was played out at the end of the evening. Both Master and dievca rode a high of complete focus for two days afterward.
What was the difference?
A study found that presence, not pleasure, brings happiness.
The offering is that no matter what the activity – if you are fully engaged in the moment, pleasurable or not — it’s the full mind engagement which makes you happy.
“A human mind is a wandering mind, and a wandering mind is an unhappy mind.” state Matthew Killingsworth and Daniel Gilbert of Harvard University.
Their Science Magazine study shows that when we are distracted by thoughts, doubts, judgments, daydreams, and other ruminations (conceptual self-awareness), we are inevitably less happy with the activity. In fact, we missed a lot because when we think, we can’t at the same time be available to access the flow of feelings and sensations in our bodies.
Happiness arises when we are fully engaged in the experiences of our bodies in the present moment; when our attention is completely filled up with our body sense (embodied self-awareness).
So, in general, you’ll be far happier feeling, sensing, and being in the moment with whatever you do than trying to think your way to happiness.
Alan Fogel: Psychology Today – If you are happier after sex, it’s not just because it feels good
The case for stopping at two…Posted: April 22, 2016 Filed under: Entertainment, Home and Garden | Tags: Alcohol, BDSM, behavior, D/s, dievca, Happiness, Life, Master, photo, Relationships, submissive, Tipsy 11 Comments
Photographer Marcos Alberti‘s photo project, 3 Glasses Later, could be considered a probing investigation into the intoxicated human psyche. But a more accurate description would be that it’s a series of portraits of increasingly tipsy people. Alberti snapped photos of his friends when they were sober — and then again after one, two, and finally three glasses of wine. If this sounds like some of your Facebook albums from freshman year of college, you’re not alone.
“I wanted to show the good side of drinking,” Alberti tells Refinery29. “With friends, in a good and happy environment, and with moderation, wine could be good stuff. [It can] bring people together.”
You can see that, with every glass they drink, Alberti’s subjects look a little happier, a little friendlier, and, yes, definitely drunker. Alberti explains that most of the people he shot weren’t used to being in front of the camera, so they’re visibly much more comfortable by the last photo. Although he tells us that one woman, a model, “asked me to put her in the fridge to take a picture of her, but it didn’t work.” The inventive mind of a slightly buzzed person is truly a thing of wonder.
Click through to view a selection of Alberti’s photos —
Refinery 29: Drinking Wine Portraits Marcos Alberti
What is dievca’s take home from all this?
she thinks everyone looks best after 2 glasses…
she will be stopping after 2…
Are you HAPPY?Posted: November 16, 2015 Filed under: Clothing | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Dominant, Elizabeth and James TEXTILE, fashion, Happiness, Master, Shopping, Submission, submissive 14 Comments
dievca has mentioned it before — she’s sorry to sound like a broken record — but it was a tough year +.
The good news is that things are lightening up.
Enough that dievca felt justified purchasing a t-shirt that said this:
Granted, people looked at dievca like she was weird (and she is weird) – but the t-shirt from Elizabeth and James TEXTILE fits well and looks good. Actually, dievca looks for this brand in t-shirts — well made, great fabrics, fun.
So, are you HAPPY?
If so, do you want to borrow dievca’s t-shirt for the day?
Pharrell Mashup (Happy Get Lucky) – Pomplamoose
Now is all you have…Posted: June 11, 2015 Filed under: Entertainment, Poetry | Tags: Alan Watts, BDSM, D/s, dievca, Dominant, Happiness, Master, philosophy, submissive 8 Comments
Stop and take stock.
Do you like what you have?
Are you who you want to be?
You can plan to be someone else.
Will you commit to those changes?
Or push them off indefinitely?
I like who I am.
Do I need to change?
Will it make you happy?
We need to be happy with ourselves to offer happiness to others.
Now is all I have.
I offer me.
As I am.
Photo: Unknown-Alan Watts quote.
A good point…Posted: January 14, 2015 Filed under: Poetry | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Dominant, Family, Happiness, Master, submissive 11 Comments
I don’t understand.
Everyone makes themselves so unhappy
and then they make others unhappy, too.
dievca’s Mother spoke