befuddling dievca’s brain

sleepover

dievca was asked to help a young adult (sophomore) and the student/Mother are trying to get a schedule together…. dievca offered 11 am or 2:30 pm on Saturday.  The kid can’t make it because she schedules ‘sleepover’s’ on Friday nights…. but, then she wants to try 6 am during the week.

Look, if you cannot get going by 11 am on a Saturday – you will not make 6 am during the week.

And a ‘sleepover’? at age 15/16?  Sometimes NYC befuddles dievca’s Midwestern brain.


I walked to the Rio Grande

past a Middle School in the center of Albuquerque, NM.  There were balloons and flowers adorning a walkway/fence close to the entrance of the school. It reminded me of the “roadside memorials” when people have a car crash or bike crash.

I didn’t think on it further.

Then I ran into a letter on Patch.com – it was from the Superintendent of Schools and the Principal

With great sadness, I must inform you of a shooting that occurred on the Washington Middle School campus today that resulted in the death of one of our students and the arrest of another. This was an isolated incident that occurred outside the school building during lunch. No other students or staff were physically harmed, but many of us are hurting.

My heart hurt.  

15 days before in NYC:

A 14-year-old jumped to his death Thursday afternoon, July 29, from the Vessel in Manhattan’s Hudson Yards. The teenage boy became the fourth to die by suicide at Thomas Heatherwick’s 150-foot spiral staircase since it opened in March of 2019.

My heart hurt.

Middle School Feet

Middle School ages are tough for Parents to deal with – their adorable child, biddable child is turning sullen, dealing with fluctuating hormones, social awareness/awkwardness, anxiety, and confusion.

  • Approaching puberty: Big changes are going to start or have already begun to happen to a tween’s body.
  • Exposure to dangerous behaviors: Tweens face new pressures from peers including drugs, sex, alcohol, and more. Kids are curious and peer pressure is strong among tweens. At this age, tweens start learning about the dangers of the world. Many myths circulate in middle school hallways.
  • Increasing amounts of homework: The homework load alone can be a big change for tweens and parents should be ready to help if needed. Good study habits now can last a lifetime.
  • Increasing responsibilities: Tweens are often more involved in extra-curricular activities and can take on more chores and responsibilities at home.

This happens to be one of my favorite ages to be around.  Their views on the World and Life are insightful, honest and entertaining.  Please, be patient and kind to any Middle School age kid who crosses your Life.  Just listen, guide, give them attention and time – even if they are behaving ugly and being annoying. Remember, someone put up with you at that age.

Maybe then my heart won’t hurt in the future.


Elegant Shapewear

shapewear elegant

Is that an oxymoron?
Where can dievca find shapewear this elegant in fun colors?
The Quest has begun!


Feeling like a failed submissive

Master asked for a Fantasy. Something to bounce off of – dievca is sure.
He’s back from traveling and tomorrow is convienient to meet.

But as dievca worked 9 hours, had an issue with a plumber after work, passed out on the sofa for an hour, ate spaghettios, wasabi peas and fruit for dinner. she is finally having a glass of wine – but, no BDSM fantasy is coming to mind.

Just a blog post.
A short one at that.

Merriam-Webster defines burnout as “ the condition of someone who has become very physically and emotionally tired after doing a difficult job for a long time”. As much as we s-types do love being submissive and serving, I doubt anyone is going to debate the fact that what we do can be a difficult job and is definitely a long term job.

A D/s relationship requires two individuals to Tango. One partner cannot be expected to be the one to act or plan or suggest all the time. The other partner has to step up, sometimes. Make sure in your relationships, Vanilla or BDSM that you put your time and input in — your partner might need your help. Planning and fantasies are not just the submissive’s domain or the Dominant’s domain — sometimes there needs to be flexibility, communication and a bounce-off platform from the other side.

Master asked for a Fantasy.
His dievca is just not able to produce one at this moment.
she will ask for His help.

A "Thank You" to the submissiveguide.com for voicing some of the feelings swirling around in dievca's head (above quote).

she doesn’t know how or why this happened…

The question is, “Is dievca insane?”

dievca really didn’t care until she hit 37….then she completely moved into matching her bra and panties.  dievca doesn’t know how or why it happened, she just knows at what age she became obsessed. 

Then she went beyond internal matching and matches her outfits or does a tasteful contrast. Ask her trainer at the gym…she matches there.  That worked well for many years when Victoria’s Secret offered Body by Victoria matching bras and pants. dievca had full coverage unlined brown, orange, red, yellow, black, navy, turquoise, fuchsia, burgundy, white, light pink, purple, royal blue, olive-green….you get the picture.

They stopped making the type of bra that fit dievca well:

and the panties to match…dievca’s supply dwindled and is gone.

she tried to replace the match up with different brands, but its a job to keep looking out for different colors and seeing if they fit ok. she would really just like to go back to one store/brand and buy her selection of colors with the correct fit. Easy peasy…

In desperation she is looking at Victoria’s Secret, again, and will be head to a store on 34th Street. God help her~ The website doesn’t show an unlined full coverage bra, dievca does not need any kind of padding…at all, but she is hoping they might have something.

Does anyone else do this? Does anyone have suggestions on brands?
Guys, are you obsessive with matching your underwear to your outer clothing?
Help!


Amazing what a simple text can do~

crotch·et·y

ˈkräCHədē/
adjective
  1. irritable.
    “he was tired and crotchety

Urban Dictionary TOP DEFINITION

crotchety

An adjective used to describe an old person. More specifically, someone who seems to hate life in their “golden years” and feels the need to take it out on others.

It was a rough Sunday:
An Amazon package arrived at my Parents and I got a phone call.

I bought Dad a 5# weight bar from Amazon.
I bought him safety handles for the toilet from Amazon.
I bought him non-slip strips for the shower from Amazon.

I bought him what the OT (Occupational Therapist) and Nurse told me to buy.
And he was pissed.

I said, “I am so sorry that you feel like you are losing control, I just bought what the nurse and OT asked me to buy so you would have it available.”
He kept stuttering and yelling, so I just said “good-bye” and hung up.

(Thinking, NO, you cannot use the bathroom door handle to help you get off the toilet.)

But, I guess it’s ok that I bought my Mom pee-pee pads from Amazon. I didn’t ask.

As I was feeling so tired and defeated from the week, travel, work headaches, plus my Brother and, now, my Dad – I received a gorgeous text from my Sister-In-Law:

“Dear, dear dievca. Thank you for all of your efforts. We just got the 3rd call from Dad in 10 minutes. My husband is laughing that you are never ever going to come home again.”
“(insert my last name) males are tough.”

Amazing what a simple text can do~

So, like, do you think I should buy that book (above) for Dad and ship it from Amazon?

Umm, I’m not doing so well at this elderly parent thing – no Catholic heaven for me, huh?

Hope your Monday is better than my Sunday – hell, it can’t be any worse.

Bloody Mary, anyone?