dievca’s disasters: Standing out in a Crowd

dievca used to take a ferry to work with the Wall Street crowd. She was the Macaw amongst the Crows. A brightly colored rainbow dancing through the 6 am set of seriousness. she was noticed for her differences, some people appreciated the radiance others looked at her with askance. dievca didn’t care, what she was wearing worked for her needs and joy.

Enter Master. Now dievca is dressing for someone else as well as herself. Master is very open to what dievca wears, he loves color and insists on something that allows dievca to look feminine and present as a Lady.

dievca keeps up with trends but prefers to add her own twist to dressing.  she dresses for her body type.  she ran into a raw moment at a rooftop bar in the Garment District.

dievca chose the bar because it looked to be a more casual venue. When she arrived there was a separate elevator dedicated to the space and two bouncers insisting that she needed reservations. (Really? at 4:45 pm on a partly cloudy Saturday?) They sent her up and the hostess was very gracious and found her a table on the only half-filled rooftop.
“All the outdoor tables are reserved, but we can squeeze you in.”

After getting settled, dievca took a look around at the other patrons. A mixed bag of ages — but a similarity in dressing.   Sorority Sisters table – snooze. Asian Grouping – Babydoll?.  Flowing crepe Maxis/Tops. One black long sleeve dress, tailored with white collar and cuffs – in this heat? Points for being different.  Everything dievca would look pregnant in, ridiculous or fade into the woodwork.  The only other people dievca was interested in was a Lady channeling Rick James with big hair, a brightly colored tapestry pattern bodycon dress and a vintage 80’s jacket over it. The hostess had a minimalist Calvin Klein (Eileen Fisher) vibe going with slick backed hair. The waitresses were dressed in ivory and one had on a sleeveless fit and flare daisy lace floral pattern, low ponytail.

Many people seemed to be trying too hard to be “cool”. Uhh, hello, relax, it’s just a bar.

Now, as dievca is being critical — people were probably dishing it out on her.  she knows that she was getting looks from the Male patrons, but, they may have been strange looks. dievca dressed to show-off one of Master’s gifts – an amber necklace.

So, dievca chose a summer peasant dress. Cotton, fitted bodice, lots of skirt. Wild curly hair, Marni high-heeled sandals to ground the dress. 3.1 Philip Lim green suede bag.

And she felt good which always makes you look better, right?

When Master finally weighed in (He tries to be diplomatic.) He said, “Too much fabric in the skirt”.
OK. dievca may have looked like something from Rigoletto or Carmen.

Sigh, if you are going to buck the trends and walk to the beat of a different drummer. Go down BIG!

OR Stand Out in the Crowd~