Kindness and a Libation

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A very large , “Thank You” for your kind words and glasses lifted up to honor a good Life.

The thoughts and presentations are so lovely. And dievca is working through her bottle over a long period as she replies to texts and phone calls.  A little lubrication to celebrate a Life and ease the pain of kindness.

How are you all doing? What’s going on in your lives?

(dievca’s coming up for air~)


Happy New Year!

GLORIA DeHAVEN New Year's Eve

May you have a very Healthy, Happy and Positive Year in 2022!

Sending love, dievča

Photo: Gloria DeHaven


From my home to Yours~

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Sending Warm Wishes!

XO your dievča

Pin-Up: Baron von Lind

It worked~improving a mood.

20211213_203520They always have suggestions for improving a mood and in dievca’s case 6 out of these 34 suggestions worked.

  • De-clutter. Getting organized can help us feel instantly calmer. Just five to ten minutes is enough to tackle a small project, like a desk or the kitchen table.
  • Rearrange some furniture. Changing an environment can help us feel refreshed, enabling us to bust out of a negative mood.
  • Get some sun. A boost of vitamin D can keep the blues at bay. Head outside for a brisk walk around the block. If that’s not possible, station yourself near a window for a few minutes.
  • Spend time with Friends. If you want to be happy and calm, spend time around calm, happy people.
  • Celebrate good times. Look at happy photos or spend a minute or so thinking back on positive memories (that first 5K finish line, a group trip to the waterpark, that amazing scone from a no-name coffee shop)—nostalgia can trigger happiness.
  • Eat for a positive mood. We are what we eat, so step away from the unhappy meal. Instead, try out these meals to boost your mood. Up the happiness quotient by setting a nice place for yourself, lighting a candle, and giving thanks for the meal.

dievca allowed herself to decorate the apartment lightly – she felt less stressed when she decided that she didn’t have to do the full Christmas blowout.  Holiday Hints throughout the apartment has made it feel festive for guests and herself. Having dinner with lovely people completed her mood change.

What works for you?

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Photos: dievca home decor 12/2021


The Date ~

dievca’s been watching friends Zoom date, navigate around COVID-19 and death,  sort through the ashes of a relationship that crashed hard and, in one case, is watching a friend reunite happily with an old Flame.

L’appuntamento
Ho sbagliato tante volte ormai
che lo so già
che oggi quasi certamente
sto sbagliando su di te.

Ma una volta in più che cosa può cambiare
nella vita mia…
Accettare questo strano appuntamento
è stata una pazzia!

Sono triste tra la gente che
mi sta passando accanto,
ma la nostalgia di rivedere te
è forte più del pianto.

Questo sole accende sul mio volto
un segno di speranza.
Sto aspettando quando a un tratto
ti vedrò spuntare in lontananza!

Amore, fai presto,
io non resisto…
Se tu non arrivi, non esisto,
non esisto, non esisto…

È cambiato il tempo e sta piovendo,
ma resto ad aspettare.
Non m’importa cosa il mondo può pensare,
io non me ne voglio andare.

Io mi guardo dentro e mi domando,
ma non sento niente.
Sono solo un resto di speranza
perduta tra la gente.

Amore, è già tardi
e non resisto…
Se tu non arrivi, non esisto,
non esisto, non esisto…

Luci, macchine, vetrine, strade, tutto quanto
si confonde nella mente.
La mia ombra si è stancata di seguirmi,
il giorno muore lentamente.

Non mi resta che tornare a casa mia
alla mia triste vita.
Questa vita che volevo dare a te
l’hai sbriciolata tra le dita…

Amore, perdono,
ma non resisto…
Adesso per sempre non esisto,
non esisto, non esisto…

The Date
I was wrong so many times by now,
I already know
that almost certainly today
I am wrong about you

but what difference can one more time make
in this life of mine..
Accepting this odd date,
it was insanity! (some folly)

I am sad among the people
passing by
but the wistful feeling (nostalgia) of seeing you again
is stronger than the tears

This sun lights up on my face
a sign of hope
I am waiting and suddenly
I will see you appear yonder (in the distance)

My love be here soon (hurry up),
I can’t take it (resist)
if you don’t come, I don’t exist
I don’t exist, I don’t exist …

The weather has changed, and it is raining
but I stay and wait (keep on waiting)
I am not concerned (don’t care) about what the world will think [of me]
I don’t wanna go.

I look within myself and wonder
but I feel nothing (hear nothing?)
I am just some remains of hope
lost among people

My love, it’s already late
and I can’t take it (resist)
if you don’t come, I don’t exist
I don’t exist, I don’t exist …

Lights, cars, shop windows, roads
they all confuse into my mind
my shadow got tired of following me
the day slowly dies

All that’s left is to go back to my house
to my sad life
This life I wanted to give to you
you crumbled it between your fingers

My love, forgive me, but I can’t take it…
Now forever, I don’t exist


Joy at FIT – Chalk Murals 2021

The Chalk Murals are up and running at FIT (Fashion Institute of Technology).
A piece of Joy to see on the walk home from reselling clothing.

~Click the pictures to see details~
Enjoy!


The annual trip – and a better Sunset/Sunrise

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The Governors Isalnd annual trek is very simple – a bike ride, $3 round-trip ferry ticket and the splurge for a “Glamping” Tent. Worth every penny when your view is of this sunset and a morning walk around the island offers a mystical view of….Brooklyn!
As dievca writes this post, the cicadas are singing in her ears~
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Celebration of a Friend’s Life – an Outfit

Roll over the photos for item descriptions.
Something simple worn to brunch celebrating the Life of a close friend.
It was a lovely day in NYC.


Octogenarian + Nonagenarian = Play Date

Elderly Ladies Chatting

dievca mentioned that her Mom is fading or depressed and her Mom’s best friend (91) immediately asked her son to drive her up to my Mom.  (God, I’m starting to cry).   deivca set up the date to coincide with the caregiver who likes to cook and is already thinking of a nice light lunch for the ladies.  Mom’s friend is bringing the dessert – a certain chocolate and raspberry cake because she knows Mom loves it. dievca’s Mom will rally to sit in the wheelchair for a longer period and see her friend –  they will lean close because neither can hear.  It’s a gift that is amazingly generous.

Never dismiss the touch of a true friend, its one of Life’s greatest miracles.

Old Friends


Dad Humor – coffee-based

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If there’s one feature that can immediately categorize a joke as a “dad joke,” it’s wordplay, especially of the unsophisticated variety. Examples: “Hey, do you know what time my dentist appointment is? Tooth-hurty.” “You know why they always build fences around cemeteries? Because people are dying to get in.” The purposeful confusion of “smart feller” and “fart smeller.”

Note: dievca’s Dad was working that “fart smeller” joke hard – right up until he died. Makes her smile thinking about it~

Let the Coffee Jokes begin!

  1. Barista: How do you take your coffee?
    Me: Very, very seriously.
  2. What do you call sad coffee?
    Despresso.
  3. What’s the best Beatles song?
    Latte Be!
  4. Spouse #1: Honey, this coffee tastes like dirt.
    Spouse #2: That’s not surprising, dear, it was just ground this morning.
  5. How does Moses make his coffee?
    Hebrews it.
  6. What did the coffee lover name her son?
    Joe, obviously.
  7. What did the caffeine addict name his cats?
    Cream and Sugar.
  8. How do you know if you’ve had enough coffee?
    You channel surf faster without the remote.
  9. How does the serial killer like his coffee?
    How he likes his victims—all ground up.
  10. How is divorce like espresso?
    It’s expensive and bitter.
A "Thank You" to the ScaryMommy website for the coffee humor.

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The best fruit is the fruit you grow and collect yourself. Not a lot of opportunities to grow fruit in NYC, but the local elementary school where dievca goes to vote must have classes in gardening for the kids. There are strawberries coming into season, raspberry bushes and blueberries, too! A section for tomatoes and peppers – then what looks to be a butterfly garden. All wrapping the school in a verdant hug.

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Photo: dievca, School Garden strawberries NYC 06/2021

The best part is dievca can imagine those greedy little fingers reaching for a berry
and the joy of the attached tastebuds being hit with a burst of flavor when eaten.


Wishing you a glorious Summer Solstice


What color is the NYC Sunset?

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Crayola Fuschia?
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Not quite~

Top Photo: dievca Sunset via a cab 06/2021
Bottom Photo: unknown

A Happy Cup of Joe

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PLAYFULCERAMICS
on Etsy offers a happy cup of Joe.

May your Cup runneth over!
PlayfulCeramics Rainbow Mug $80

Cup a Boob – $55 per cup

Rainbow Mug – $80 – large mug beautifully made.

Each vessel is a beacon of healing on its own. All foods and drinks enjoyed from these pieces will be even more healing and even more delicious for you and everyone on this day and everyday. Spirit animals embody the strengths of their character and emit that energy, inspiring and uplifting all those who connect with it. Each piece is also a blessing amplifier. Simply write down any intention, prayer or dream and place inside or underneath to charge your intentions with the loving healing power of Reiki.


Hope in the City

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From the train
it’s a city of roses
and rose keepers,
bald men in spectacles
and torn shirts.
There are miles of roses
in Elizabeth, New Jersey,

backyard arbors
shadowed by refineries
and the turnpike,
jungles of scrap,
still brown water, and poisoned marsh.

None of this matters
to the rose keepers of Elizabeth.
From the backyards of row houses
they bring forth pink roses, yellow roses
and around a house on its own
green plot, a hedge of roses, in red and white.

Surely faith and charity
are fine, but the greatest of these
is roses.

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Photos: dievca, Hudson River Park 05/2021

Cosplay Nerd?

Cosplay can be a passion!
Or it can be a way to enhance a personal experience.

In the BDSM setting – it may allow people to become bolder in a role or help them switch a mindset, bringing a touch of Humor and lightness to a scene. There is a certain amount of Childhood Joy that comes out when dressing up.
Touching that ‘Youth’ can keep you engaged and mentally astute.

What is your next scenario or Cosplay Outfit?
dievca is thinking about something with May Flowers – Mother Nature? A Sprite?

Fairy Mother Nature Costume 2


Lush

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Photo: dievca, Mom’s Yard 05/2021


Smell the blossoms – or not…

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It’s hard to know when the blossoms burst and you cannot smell them because of your mask.
Normally, dievca can smell them while riding her bike past the Hudson River Walk.
If you make a point of stopping and take off your mask – they smell divine!


a POP! of color

Photo: dievca Hudson Yards NYC 04/2021

A little coffee eases dealing with Grumpy~

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Ann-Margret, screenshot from Grumpy Old Men (1993) – a film which made dievca laugh quite hard.


Prepare yourself

in_the_rain_pin_up_Gil ElvgrenFor those April Showers!


The First Day of Spring!

This spring flowering bulb was first brought to Europe from its native Middle East in the 1500s. It was mostly grown for the fall blooming species used for making an expensive cooking spice. However, most gardeners know it for the early blooming varieties that herald spring. It’s the crocus.

This iris family corm (a rounded underground storage organ present in plants such as crocuses, gladioli, and cyclamens, consisting of a swollen stem base covered with scale leaves) produces tube-shaped flowers in abundance in colors such as mauve, lavender, white, and yellow.

Crocus chrysanthus varieties bloom early, often while there’s still snow on the ground.

Crocus are fall planted, like daffodils and tulips. Even with winter hanging on through March, look to see the crocus blooming in warm spots or protected areas.

A crocus is often the first sign of Spring in NYC.


Morning Light

Morning LightSmell the sweet air of Spring
Sliding into the City
Surrounding the sounds of Morning
Softly blunting the edge of Reason

Photo: dievca, NYC 03/2021

“I surround myself with people that I want to be with. And I keep moving forward.”~ Sam Bern

1. Positive people don’t confuse quitting with letting go.

2.  Positive people don’t just have a good day – they make a good day.

3. For the positive person, the past stays in the past.

4. Show me a positive person and I can show you a grateful person.

5. Rather than being stuck in their limitations, positive people are energized by their possibilities.

6. Positive people do not let their fears interfere with their lives.

7. Positive people smile a lot.

8. People who are positive are great communicators.

9. Positive people realize that if you live long enough, there are times for great pain and sadness.

10. Positive people are empowered people – they refuse to blame others and are not victims in life.


Tub with a View~

Photo: dievca’s toes and the NYC view 12/25/2020

dievca has to work on Boxing Day.
It doesn’t matter, she had a tub with a view last night.
(Empire State building to the upper left and toes to the lower right – steamy window)
Enjoy your day!
XO

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A few flakes of snow and dievca is ready to go~

There seems to be a snow theme going on here at the blog. Amazing what the kiss of  a flake can do.


A little reminder of Life outside of COVID-19

In this time of social distancing, dievca would like to remind you of just how much fun a crowd can be:


Flipping Dom and sub

Sometimes you finish a big week and plan to just chill on the sofa or bed.

Then a few kisses occur, maybe a little cock worship and the next thing you know – your arms are restrained and your Sir/Madame has taken over your body.

Where does that rush of energy come from?  Is it the act of flipping Dom and sub? Or does the energy rush cause the D/s flip?   It’s the chicken and the egg scenario~  OK, so the literal answer is the egg, but you get the point.

It doesn’t matter how – what matters is the joy of being alive.

May you have the chance to flip this Saturday! XO


And then something brings absolute Sparkle to your day~

Like everyone, dievca has her worries.  They add up to create fatigue. Then there is evidence that one of the worries is bucking the trend and involved with something you know brings them shear Joy. dievca started crying when her Mom’s caregivers sent photos of something beautiful:

Mom looks like the Goddess she is…


A little love from NYC

Photo: dievca NYC 12/2018

Sometimes we are a small speck in the wide World.
But Joy can still shine through.
Love to you in this challenging time of the Year.