Kinky Help with your Taxes!
Posted: April 18, 2023 Filed under: Discussion, Relationships | Tags: acceptance, BDSM, CPA, D/s, dievca, help, Kink, Life, Master, practical, service, Taxes 2 CommentsIn the USA taxes are due today, April 18
Federal tax deadline 2023
Even the gods love jokes. ~Plato: Poisson d’Avril
Posted: April 1, 2022 Filed under: Accessories, Shoes | Tags: April Fool's Day, BDSM, Charlotte Olympia, d-s, Dominant, Elegant, erotic, fashion, Kink, Master, Slave, submissive Leave a commentREPOST from 2014
Kenzo Fish Wallet
Kenzo Fish Pouch
Charlotte Olympia Goldfish Keyfob
April Fool’s Day sometimes called All Fools’ Day, is one of the most light-hearted days of the year. Its origins are uncertain. Some see it as a celebration related to the turn of the seasons, while others believe it stems from the adoption of a new calendar.
Ancient Cultures, including those of the Romans and Hindus, celebrated New Year’s Day on or around April 1. In medieval times, much of Europe celebrated March 25, the Feast of Annunciation, as the beginning of the new year.
In 1582, Pope Gregory XIII ordered a new calendar, the Gregorian Calendar, to replace the old Julian Calendar. The new calendar called for New Year’s Day to be celebrated Jan. 1. That year, France adopted the reformed calendar and shifted New Year’s day to Jan. 1. According to a popular explanation, many people either refused to accept the new date, or did not learn about it, and continued to celebrate New Year’s Day on April 1. Other people began to make fun of these traditionalists, sending them on “fool’s errands” or trying to trick them into believing something false. Eventually, the practice spread throughout Europe.
There are problems with this explanation: 1.) This doesn’t fully account for the spread of April Fools’ Day to other European countries. The Gregorian Calendar was not adopted by England until 1752 and April Fools’ Day was already well established. 2.) We have no direct historical evidence for this explanation, only conjecture, and that conjecture appears to have been made more recently.
Either way the French call April 1 Poisson d’Avril, or “April Fish.” French children sometimes tape a picture of a fish on the back of their schoolmates, crying “Poisson d’Avril” when the prank is discovered.
Wicked Grounds – San Francisco
Posted: January 31, 2022 Filed under: Entertainment | Tags: BDSM, Cafe, coffee, D/s, dievca, Kink, Life, Love, Monday, Morning, travel Leave a comment
Coffee. Kink. Community.
Since 2009, it’s been Wicked Grounds’ mission to make a safe space to explore kink, queer and sex-positive communities. That means a place where we all can be ourselves, in all our parts.
From live & online classes to munches & game nights, Wicked Grounds aims to create a space where kinksters and other cultural revolutionaries can gather, cross-pollinate, and build community.
They are proud of the podcast, educational videos & other programming that is offered through our Patreon.
Wicked Grounds have always offered high-quality toys made by kinksters for kinksters, and aim to have the widest selection of BDSM and related non-fiction on their shelves.
Somewhere to visit!
Stepping away from Christmas for a moment~
Posted: December 7, 2021 Filed under: Accessories, D/s Relationship, Entertainment | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Dominant, Etsy, greeting cards, Humor, Kink, Life, Shopping, submissive Leave a comment
And moving on to a little bit of BDSM fun with Etsy Shop GayPigeon Cards.
Kink vs. Fetish
Posted: August 31, 2021 Filed under: Discussion | Tags: BDSM, behavior, consent, D/s, dievca, Fetish, fixation, Kink, Life, Love, Master, Orgasm, sexuality 1 Comment
The Velvet Underground sang, “Kiss the boot of shiny, shiny leather…Tongue of thongs, the belt that does await you” (“Venus in Furs”).
Does the song touch on kinks or fetishes? It all depends…
Kinks
‘Kink’ is a general term that describes any sexual proclivities that could be seen as unconventional. It comes from the idea that one’s sexuality may deviate from the norm—the straight line has bend in it.
Costumes, role play, BDSM—anything in that kind of area could be considered a kink, but so could plenty of accessory-free activities. One person’s standard sexual activity can be another individual’s kink. The line fluctuates from person to person.
In the past, BDSM was seen as a ‘paraphilia’ rather than a kink, grouped by psychiatrists with desires to perform non-consensual acts. There is a world of difference between consenting adults experimenting with each other in the pursuit of pleasure and people harming others against their will. Master and dievca have a relationship based upon consent – experimenting and living with a power dynamic and other activities.
Fetishes
A fetish is a sexual fixation on a certain object or act that is necessary for a person to achieve sexual gratification.
If you enjoy certain activities that are not considered the norm that might be a kink, but if you can’t get off without a certain object, process or activity – that’s a fetish. Anal sex you try every year on your birthday? A kink. Can’t get in the mood without being peed on? A fetish.
Kinks are employed to enhance an experience, fetishes are integral to them.
Another way a kink becomes a fetish is if the other person can be removed from the equation – if you are turned on by shoes alone without anyone to be wearing them, that’s a fetish. Partialism is a sexual interest with a focus on a specific part of the body. This can be any part of the body, such as the hair, breasts, or buttocks. The most common form of partialism is podophilia, in which a person becomes sexually aroused by feet.
“Diversity, dievca, Diversity!”
Master and dievca had a conversation about Kink and Fetishes early in their Relationship. Master mentioned that His interest waned when a partner couldn’t orgasm unless a certain set of steps were followed in precise order while wearing a specific outfit. It was fine early in the relationship because it was about communication and learning about someone new – but later, for Him, it was tedious.
dievca has found that she likes to “change it up”, too. Apparently, her getting off can happen in a variety of ways and Master delights in finding a new cause for orgasm.
That said, it is good when someone knows specifically what “gets them off”. Some people go through Life never understanding their body, needs nor have had their desires met. Having a fetish may offer a clear cut road for success!
Photo: dievca thinks the photo can be credited to Kaushik, Gupta
Presentation Inspiration: Latex Trench Coat
Posted: March 9, 2021 Filed under: Clothing | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Elegant, erotic, Fetish, flasher, Kink, latex, Presentation Outfits, Shopping, Slave, submissive 3 Comments
Emily Ratajkowski Latex Trench Coat
Rather than opening the Trench to flash – how about a Flash through the material?
Or stick with a slick shiny silhouette covering the package?
You can choose from 64 Latex Color Fabrics with Vex Inc.
Purple Latex Trench Vex Inc $600 (click photo to purchase)
Blooming with Loup Charmant Bloomers
Posted: January 28, 2021 Filed under: lingerie | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, erotic, Fetish, Kink, Knickers, Presentation Outfits, Shopping, Sissy, Slave, submissive Leave a comment
The website calls them “Bloomers” – maybe they are the mini-version.
Sexy in an innocent manner.
By Loup Charmant $60-$85
2021 BDSM Mindset in Coffee
Posted: January 4, 2021 Filed under: Entertainment, Home and Garden | Tags: BDSM, coffee, D/s, dievca, Dominance and submission, Kink, Life, Love, Monday, Morning, submissive Leave a comment
A little coffee to shift your power.
Good Morning!
Options for 🎃 by Yandy: Cosplay Lingerie
Posted: October 22, 2020 Filed under: lingerie | Tags: BDSM, Cosplay, D/s, dievca, erotic, Fetish, Humor, Kink, Presentation Outfits, Shopping, Slave, submissive, Undergarments 2 Comments
Click on a photo to make it larger and see the price.
YANDY Fantasy Lingerie
Nerdism: HERE’S WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU WEAR DISNEY THEMED LINGERIE TO BED
BDSM in the trees
Posted: October 7, 2020 Filed under: Entertainment, Musings, Submission | Tags: BDSM, bondage, D/s, dievca, Elegant, erotic, Fantasy, Kink, outdoors, photo, Slave, submissive, travel Leave a commentCan you imagine being an exhibitionist to an audience of Trees?
Impact Play while bending over a bench viewing Nature?
Kneeling to your Sir or Madame in front of a fire?
Being bound or chained to a Tree?
Becoming a part of the scenery?
Aftercare in a hot tub and finishing with a rain shower rinse.
The epitome of a family retreat, Forest House sits nestled among tall trees in a forested hill area in Northern California. The dwelling was designed by the Envelope A+D architecture studio as a space that perfectly blends into the landscape, making the most of the natural setting at the same time. Unlike traditional cabins, the house features not one, but nine separate structures connected to each other and to the forest. The expansive building aims to provide a welcoming retreat space for the clients’ family, friends and colleagues.
Click HERE for the Gessato Post about the house
Photography © Richard Barnes
It’s dievca’s Birthday week
Posted: September 22, 2020 Filed under: Entertainment, Home and Garden | Tags: BDSM, Birthday, bondage, celebration, D/s, dievca, Food, Humor, Kink, Life, Love, Submission, submissive Leave a comment
she doesn’t see a birthday cake in her future, but this submissive design made her laugh!
dievca does see Maryland crabs and crabcakes arriving tomorrow –
🤞 (cross fingers) that they are good.
she used to order from Annapolis Seafood, but they stopped shipping
so she’s trying a new place in Rockville, MD.
Click photo for link to Cameron’s Seafood online store
Feelin’ Frisky with Charlotte Olympia
Posted: September 20, 2020 Filed under: Shoes, Submission | Tags: BDSM, bondage, D/s, dievca, Dominance, erotic, Fetish, Footwear, Kink, Shoe fetishism, Shopping Leave a comment
Ooh, la la! Charlotte Olympia’s Frisky slingbacks live up to their name. Adorned with a monochrome Dress Up print and black leather whip-like tassels, they perfectly embody the collection’s muse, Betty Paige. Channel pin-up glamour by teaming these statement heels with a pencil skirt, tucked-in blouse, and a slick of red lipstick.
Not Quite – but very nice, indeed.
Posted: August 5, 2020 Filed under: Collars, Jewelry | Tags: BDSM, bondage, Collier, D/s, dievca, Elegant, Kink, Master, Shopping, Slave, submissive Leave a commentdievca is still on the hunt for Chrissie Hynde’s Collar.
In the meantime, this BLUE NILE sterling silver padlock necklace can add a hint of BDSM to one’s daily Life.
This edgy, BLUE NILE, sterling silver necklace has a working padlock that functions as the clasp.
Wear it layered or on its own, this necklace is a fun and stylish flair in your wardrobe.
Metal
Sterling Silver
Chain Length
18.0 inches
Width
1/4 inch
Approximate Weight
29.03 grams
MSRP $195.00
Purple Passion (BDSM style)
Posted: July 22, 2020 Filed under: Accessories, D/s Relationship | Tags: BDSM, bondage, D/s, dievca, erotic, Fetish, Kink, Leather, Shopping, Slave, submissive Leave a comment
KOKMO set at Amazon $37.10- click photo
Purple People Eater, Barney, Violet Beauregarde
The meaning of the color Purple”
Purple combines the calm stability of blue and the fierce energy of red. The color purple is often associated with royalty, nobility, luxury, power, and ambition. Purple also represents meanings of wealth, extravagance, creativity, wisdom, dignity, grandeur, devotion, peace, pride, mystery, independence, and magic.
Do you want all that represented during BDSM?
luxurious bondage
Posted: July 18, 2020 Filed under: Collars, Submission | Tags: BDSM, bondage, Coco de Mer, Collier, D/s, dievca, Elegant, erotic, Kink, Leather, Shopping, Slave, submissive Leave a comment
Explore bondage play at its most opulent with The Model Traitor’s hand-finished pleasure tools. Crafted from sumptuously soft Italian leather, each delectable item is finished with a soft fur upper and shimmering brass hardware for a beautifully tactile bondage experience.
Featuring a sumptuous suede-lined leather handle and durable brass chain, this lead connects to your favorite collar or restraint for sensual BDSM exploration. The strong, multi-directional brass lobster clip keeps your plaything firmly in place, and can be quickly unclipped should you wish to change to something new.
The Model Traitor is a London-based collaborative collection by renowned corsetry designer Sian Hoffman, and fine artist Valentina Piras. Every single piece is expertly crafted at their London Discipline Atelier and distinguishable by its use of irresistible materials and polished brass hardware. 
Model Traitor O-Ring Collar and Lead can be found at Coco de Mer.
Vinyl Vixen
Posted: July 2, 2020 Filed under: Dresses, lingerie | Tags: BDSM, Bustier, D/s, dievca, erotic, Fetish, Kink, polyurethane, Presentation Outfits, Sexy, Undergarments 2 Commentsnoun. a female fox. an ill-tempered or quarrelsome woman.
a woman considered to be sexually attractive.
LaQuan Smith leopard bustier dress PVC Spring RTW 2020
Click photo to purchase the LaQuan Smith bustier dress at fwrd.com
Something of Use + Fantasy: Sexy in an Apron
Posted: June 26, 2020 Filed under: Accessories, Clothing, Vintage | Tags: 1950's Household Kink, BDSM, D/s, dievca, Elegant, erotic, Fetish, Kink, Presentation Outfits, Re/done, Shopping, submissive Leave a comment
Do you own an apron? Do you use it while BBQ-ing or baking?
dievca has never owned one. she’s not sure of what she is missing Her friends have laughed at her and asked what she does for dinner parties.
she cooks, changes, and hopes for the best afterward.
What about an Apron as a D/s Presentation Outfit?
Hmm, could be interesting but one might need to be careful when sitting or leaning against the countertop.
dievca found the apron she wants:
The RE/DONE | Levi’s Denim Apron is created from scraps of vintage Levi’s, reducing production waste and creating functional, machine washable, and collectible kitchen-wear. Each apron is upcycled using a waterless process from unique vintage materials and is completely one-of-a-kind.
The shades of indigo will differ from the product image due to each item being one-of-a-kind. Twenty percent of sales will be donated to the Restaurant Workers’ Community Foundation. RE/done
Master triggered the start of a Fantasy
Posted: June 13, 2020 Filed under: Entertainment, Musings | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Dominance and submission, Dominant, erotic, Fantasy, Kink, Life, Master, outdoors, Sex, Spring, submissive Leave a comment
Anita Ekberg La Dolce Vita Trevi Fountain
Master told His dievca a story about D/s in the outdoors.
Anita Ekberg and Marcello Mastroianni – La Dolce Vita
Thoughts floated around in her head for a while and she fixated on the fountains around NYC.
dievca doesn’t know where her fantasy may go during nighttime dreaming, but her practical side has acknowledged the logistical nightmare D/s play in a NYC fountain might offer: dirty water, too many people, temperature, slipping, clothing – or lack of, legalities, voyeurs – might be a bonus, etc.
Maybe the Hamilton Fountain in Riverside Park — ok, it’s a horse trough.
Let’s see what dievca dreams up this evening.
Might be fabulous – might be a dievca disaster…
with or without THORNS
Posted: June 12, 2020 Filed under: Accessories | Tags: BDSM, dievca, erotic, Fetish, flogger, impact play, Kink, Leather, Shopping, Submission Leave a comment
Ardour red roses with thorns flogger – click photo
The phrase ‘there is no rose without thorns‘ means that in order to enjoy something that is beautiful and pleasurable, you must endure something that is difficult or painful.
Ardour leather red roses flogger – no thorns (click photo)
Restraints
Posted: May 23, 2020 Filed under: D/s Relationship, Musings | Tags: BDSM, bondage, D/s, dievca, erotic, Kink, Life, Love, Master, Submission Leave a comment
If you are tied up, anything can happen. Even if nothing happens beyond kissing, the physical nature of being bound heightens everything. 
With extra time on hand, dievca took a BDSM test for giggles (www.bdsmtest.org) – her results are above. she was taken aback by “Rope Bunny” being the highest percentage – especially since rope bondage (shibari) is really not one of her or Master’s interests.
she’s been pondering the high percentage ever since.
The aha! moment came yesterday after meeting and playing with Master. Master created various cuff and strap connections during play, in response dievca switched submissive and moved all in.
Master asked her about being restrained afterward and she had a hard time verbalizing exactly why she is able to let go fully.
The gist is that dievca isn’t interested in full bondage for beauty or complete limitation of movement.
she is interested in being restrained to place full trust in Master and take away control from pieces of her body to focus fully on Master and other bodily responses. The energy from the restraints can be pushed elsewhere.
Does that make sense?
Dreaming of a different Mask
Posted: May 8, 2020 Filed under: Accessories | Tags: ball gag, BDSM, bondage, COVID-19, D/s, dievca, erotic, Fetish, gags, Kink, Leather, Masks, Shopping, Slave, submissive 2 Comments
Not really a problem in D/s
Posted: April 29, 2020 Filed under: D/s Relationship, Musings | Tags: 1950's Household Kink, BDSM, D/s, dievca, Dominant, erotic, Kink, Love, Master, Slave, submissive 3 Comments
People always talk about Trust in a BDSM relationship.
Communication.
If it works well, the embarrassment factor of any activity disappears.
Your Sir or Madam has seen or will see all realms of awkwardness if you are adventurous.
Sexually or just within the Power Exchange.
The good news is with Trust you will look at your Dominant or submissive and think,
“Oh-Yes, I want to do that again!”
Strappy
Posted: April 23, 2020 Filed under: lingerie | Tags: BDSM, bondage, Bordelle, D/s, dievca, Elegant, erotic, Fetish, Kink, Shopping, Slave, submissive, Undergarments Leave a comment
Bordelle around 2011 and 2012 offered these strappy pieces. dievca is feeling the need.
Showing the Shoes some BONDAGE love~
Posted: April 11, 2020 Filed under: Shoes, Submission | Tags: BDSM, bondage, cuffs, D/s, dievca, Elegant, erotic, Fraulein Kink, Kink, Leather, Shoe fetishism, Shopping Leave a comment
Fraulein Kink gold ankle restraints $335
(click photo to buy)
Description
Handmade in Berlin, the FRAULEIN KINK (Fräulein Kink) Leather Bondage Ankle Restraints are the epitome of elegance, both in and out of the bedroom. The detachable leather leads and ankle restraints can pair with your favorite heel and be used to restrain you to a chair or bed. Detachable leads can also be used separately as handcuffs.
- Metallic Gold Stitched Leather Straps
- SWAROVSKI® Light Colorado Topaz Gold Crystal Rivets
- Detachable Gold Leather Ankle Restraint Leads
- Engraved Kink Heart Detailing
Note: Boots NOT included
D/s dreaming
Posted: April 7, 2020 Filed under: D/s Relationship, submissive | Tags: BDSM, dievca, Dominance and submission, dreams, erotic, Fantasy, Kink, Orgasm, Sex 2 Comments
A hint of the dream lingers
throughout the day.
A smell, a touch,
a glimpse of satiation.
Collected wisps and pieces
solidify elusive memories.
Enough captured
to create an Orgasm.
multi-tool
Posted: April 5, 2020 Filed under: Accessories | Tags: BDSM, couple pleasure, D/s, dievca, erotic, Kink, Sex Toy, Shopping, submissive, vibrator Leave a comment
dievca has always been a fan of multi-tasking tools.
So, when she saw the Adorime on several “Best Sex Toy of 2020” lists.
It might be a go for $27.99 at Amazon.
Ergonomic Design: This dual-action vibrator with triple-points stimulator, the flexible double head can be used to most penises or clitorial, and the firm bottom effectively stimulates g-spot, arousing most intense orgasms and sexual pleasure.
Intelligent Vibration Modes: Maximize your pleasure no matter you like slow, steady or strong pulses with different frequencies. You can use the 3 powerful motors alone or at the same time to stimulate your g-spot, clitoris anus or penis.- 100% Waterproof & Super Quiet: You can enjoy the freedom of using it in the bath, shower, pool or anywhere you want. If you’re looking for discreet play, you can not go wrong with this clit vibrator. It’s whisper-quiet that you can’t hear it in the next room with the door closed.
- Medical Silicone Material: The g-spot vibrator made of medical-grade silicone, safe and skin-friendly, easy to clean, hygienic to the human body. As a rechargeable vibrator, you can just charge the vibrator with the attached USB cable.
Something for couple fun, solo fun, and stress-relief — a useful multi-tasker.
Steamy On Screen Lingerie Moments
Posted: March 26, 2020 Filed under: lingerie | Tags: BDSM, Costumes, D/s, dievca, Elegant, erotic, Kink, movie stars, Undergarments Leave a commentdievca has shared a number of Movie Stars in Lingerie
– here are some moments she missed. Can you guess which movies?
Stretching in the Sun~
Posted: March 10, 2020 Filed under: D/s Relationship, submissive | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Dominance and submission, erotic, Kink, Relationships, Sexy, Submission Leave a comment
Good Morning!
Leap Day Proposal and Ines Gloves in case (incase) of Disappointment…(re-post)
Posted: February 29, 2020 Filed under: Accessories | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Elegant, erotic, fashion, Ines Gloves, Kink, Leather, Master, Shopping, submissive 7 CommentsJust sayin’ – dievca never got her gloves 4 years ago…
Love is always a leap into the unknown. You can try to control as many variables, and understand a situation as you can, but you’re still jumping off a cliff and hoping that someone catches you. ~Lisa Kleypas
Diane Webber (Marguerite Empey) Nude Leap
Women Propose to Their Men
According to an old Irish legend, or possibly history, St Brigid struck a deal with St Patrick to allow women to propose to men – and not just the other way around – every four years.
This is believed to have been introduced to balance the traditional roles of men and women in a similar way to how leap day balances the calendar.
Gloves Hide Naked Ring Finger
In some places, leap day has been known as “Bachelors’ Day” for the same reason. A man was expected to pay a penalty, such as a gown or money, if he refused a marriage proposal from a woman on Leap Day.
In many European countries, especially in the upper classes of society, tradition dictates that any man who refuses a woman’s proposal on February 29 has to buy her 12 pairs of gloves. The intention is that the woman can wear the gloves to hide the embarrassment of not having an engagement ring. During the middle ages there were laws governing this tradition.
Ines Glove Company
Founded in 1999 and based in Amsterdam, the Netherlands.
The story starts when Ines longed for the elegance of the 1950’s,
read more about the beginning of Ines Gloves company.
In case vs. Incase:
Incase refers to being enclosed within. Like “Incase that ring finger in a glove”.
Also spelt encase.
Where as in case refers to doing something ‘in the event of’ or ‘as a precaution’. eg “you better have those 12 pairs of gloves around, just in case”
Blinded by Science
Posted: February 23, 2020 Filed under: Clothing, D/s Relationship, submissive | Tags: BDSM, bondage, D/s, dievca, erotic, Kink, Life, Presentation Outfits, Science, Sexy, Submission Leave a comment
Cafe Press Fabric Shower Curtain $64.23
(click photo)
dievca has found herself reading Reddit Chemistry and Physics threads, lately…
Something about wishing to be a student, again?
Who knows.
This might be an inspiration for a Presentation Outfit:
Foreigner’s ‘Blinded by Science’ doesn’t have a video to inspire, but Thomas Dolby does!
- Thick intelligent glasses
- Lab coat
- Pusssy bow blouse
- Circle midi skirt
- Black heels
- Pencil in bun
dievca 