Feeling Basic ~ Lingerie (repost)

2022- What dievca is wearing for Master today.
Its snowing and will be the start of the Nor’easter,
so dievca needs something to go under the snowpants, again…
The difference is we are having soup and sandwich rather than crepes.
XO

Marieyat

Conceived as an alternative to conventional women’s lingerie labels, MARIEYAT presents a range of androgynous undergarments that challenges the male gaze. Blending the traditionally decorative elements of lingerie with the uncompromising simplicity of unisex underwear, designer and Central Saint Martins alumnus Marie Yeung creates innovative undergarments that are at once comfortable and sensual. Bras, bodysuits, and tank tops crafted in soft rib knit jerseys feature seamless construction and natural textiles. Unexpected details such as deconstructed bindings, graphic cut-outs, and suspender straps embellish high-rise thongs and mid-rise briefs. Slinky silk jersey slips and cotton thigh-high socks round out the label’s offering of minimal base layers.

Niina Suspender Tank
Bex Thong
Doodle Tights

dievca sees this as a comfortable,
yet pleasant surprise for Master when he arrives
for crêpes and Cockworship. 😘


what’s under the Michelin Lady look…

Nothing Special – Just Practicalities
(Elegance will be worn tomorrow)

Chantell Softstretch green

Chantelle Softstretch in Green 


Good Morning!?!?!

Overwhelmed and coffee
Do you know where you’re going to?
Do you like the things that life is showin’ you?
Where are you going to?
Do you know?

Do you get what you’re hopin’ for
When you look behind you, there’s no open doors
What are you hopin’ for?
Do you know?

(I think dievca may need to lay off the coffee – a bit)


Whiplash – selling the house

dievca was looking out at the sunset when her brother called.  Apparently 6 people saw Mom and Dad’s house today – the first day it was listed.  Mom and Dad lived in a small town in a rural area surrounded by farms….so both dievca and her brother were surprised.

There are 7 more people on the schedule for tomorrow. Someone made a cash offer today and the realtor will ask for ‘Highest and Best’ offers by 5 pm tomorrow night to decide. dievca is not sure why the realtor isn’t asking for “Best and Final” offers because dievca’s brother wants the house sold as is and as soon as possible

That means dievca will have to hustle back and get the furniture and things sorted. It would have been nice to do it in April – not the deep of February. (Shit, why not just pile one more item on a failing dievca…🙄)

Please note that the house is not the one dievca grew up in – just the one her parents built to die in.

Photo: dievca Hudson River NYC 01/2022

Like everyone…

black-and-white image by Cecil Beaton was featured in the April 1949 issue of Vogue and depicts Mrs. John C. Wilson

dievca would like to drop everything and sit by a beach.  

There is a house to clear, a house to sell and work to complete. Money that was spent on a previous trips, so its not readily available.  Add COVID restrictions. And a body that is showing the ravages of no time for workouts, stress and perimenopause.  But, everyone has problems and everyone would like to disappear on Holiday – right?

dievca will just dream and push through~

Photo: black-and-white image by Cecil Beaton was featured in the April 1949 issue of Vogue and depicts Mrs. John C. Wilson in Jaimaca.

Feeling Fuzzy (in response to the wind)

dievca sold her Faux Fur coats the other year and (of course!) shearling faux and real are back in Fashion.

Four Options (guess which one dievca is trying):

  • Bottega Veneta Green Shearling Hooded Coat ($8900)
  • Bottega Veneta Aqua Shearling Coat ($8900)
  • Proenza Schouler White Label Green Faux Fur Wrap Coat ($895)
  • Yves Salomon Blue Faux Fur Wool Mateo Button Down Coat (on sale $450)

If you guess the blue button down coat (Yves Salomon) you are correct. At 5″4′ and curvy – those wrap coats will overwhelm dievca’s frame – though she loves the look desperately…  For dievca, wrap dresses and coats are like wearing yellow or raglan sleeves – just DON’T do it!


Blow, blow, thou winter wind…

Winter Misery I, 1825

Blow, blow, thou winter wind,
   Thou art not so unkind
      As man’s ingratitude;
   Thy tooth is not so keen,
Because thou art not seen,
      Although thy breath be rude.
Heigh-ho! sing, heigh-ho! unto the green holly:
Most friendship is feigning, most loving mere folly:
Then, heigh-ho, the holly!
This life is most jolly.

   Freeze, freeze, thou bitter sky,
   That dost not bite so nigh
      As benefits forgot:
   Though thou the waters warp,
      Thy sting is not so sharp
      As friend remembered not.
Heigh-ho! sing, heigh-ho! unto the green holly…

Shit Weather in NYC – Rain, sleet , snow, wet pavements with potential to freeze. 

Print: George Hunt, printmaker. c. 1825, London. Lewis Walpole Library, Yale University.

Poem/Song: William Shakespeare


Up for a chat and coffee?

Coffee chatdievca has learned something about the people she considers close friends.  When the shit hits the fan, they connect the first day – and then they check-in on the second day.  It’s very interesting to watch.
dievca thought about it, she checks in, too.

The question is – when dievca really loses it 3 months, hence – will those people mind stepping in a second third time?   Probably, that’s what good friends do~

Watch – it will happen to you.


Kindness and a Libation

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A very large , “Thank You” for your kind words and glasses lifted up to honor a good Life.

The thoughts and presentations are so lovely. And dievca is working through her bottle over a long period as she replies to texts and phone calls.  A little lubrication to celebrate a Life and ease the pain of kindness.

How are you all doing? What’s going on in your lives?

(dievca’s coming up for air~)


If you have a Moment to Share~

20220104_194006_resized - Copy Please find your most elegant champagne, wine, whiskey, or highball glass to fill and please Toast my lovely Mother (and my Gentleman of a Father). Now, they have both moved on.

It took the Priest and ‘Last Rites’ to help change Mom’s breathing pattern – we think she was working things out in her mind.

Bittersweet.

Anyways, the funny thing is that dievca had read a NYer Article about Estate Sales before bed. So, when she dreamed about Waterford Crystal at 1:30 am and her Mom came in for a chat – she didn’t think much of it. But, it was Mom stopping by – she passed at 1:30 am.

And the Waterford? Going to dievca’s Niece-In-Law if she wants it.

XO


Patient, but going downhill a bit.


“Do not go gentle into that good night.”

Young and Older Hands

  • What makes life worth living?
  • What would make life definitely not worth living?
  • What might at first seem too much to put up with, but then might seem manageable after getting familiar with the situation and learning to deal with it?
  • If you knew life was coming to an end, what would be comforting and make dying feel safe?
    What, in that situation, would you want to avoid?
  • How much control is important for you to have when facing a terminal illness?

We may see that dying is the better of two choices, and be ready to give the loved one permission to die. The dying person may be distressed at causing grief for those who love them, and, receiving permission to die can relieve their distress. There is a time for this to happen. Before that, it feels wrong to accept a loss, but after that it can be an act of great kindness to say, “You may go when you feel it is time. I will be OK.”

At the time a person is near death, sometimes touch is the best communication. Gentle stroking of a hand or a cheek, and quietly reassuring the person that you love them and that you will be all right is perhaps the most compassionate way to ease your loved one on his journey. In a situation where you are not present at the time of death, forgive yourself and know that you did the best you could to make the final hours or weeks of life peaceful and meaningful.

According to Hospice and an EMT Family Member, Mom is holding on hard. dievca’s one brother is there, Grandchildren are there, a lovely Caregiver, the Great-Grandchild have gone over, dievca and her cousins have spoken and sang to Mom, dievca hopes her other brother has spoken to Mom, but she’s not sure….what are we missing?

dievca’s Dad checked in with everyone and then let go~ We cannot figure out what Mom is holding on for~ she moves her lips when something pleases her and the mention of a bath causes those lips to move. Mom floats with her Osteoperosis. Maybe the simple pleasure of a bath~

Just wish we could figure out what would help.

Hello Lovely Bath Mat


What’s in a name?

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dievča is 1/2 дівчинка, but she never really thinks of herself as Ukrainian. she looks like her Dad’s Slovak side of the family (which is — well, maybe, not quite as beautiful as her Mother’s Ukrainian side…).

What prompted these musings?

dievca’s Mom took a turn for the worse and her cousins are coming out of the woodwork to tell her Mom that they love her. Singing Ukrainian songs, sending photos of her Mother to dievca. It is sad and lovely at the same time. The photos shared show that dievca doesn’t really look like her Mom other than the pointy chin which pokes Master’s chest, the color of her eyes (grey), and her voice.

If dievca can’t really look Ukrainian, maybe she could was seek a way to feel more Ukrainian – so she started looking for a vyshyvanka:

Then she remembered that she has this Ulla Johnson blouse – one is enough:

Ulla Johnson Simona Blouse


How the Strong add Coffee!

coffee workout graphicDrinking coffee around 45–60 minutes before a workout allows for caffeine to reach its peak effectiveness. Most studies indicate that caffeine is highly effective for workouts when consumed in doses of 0.9–2.7 mg per pound (2–6 mg per kg) of body weight.

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Loving a Man in a cozy Sweater (Jumper)

Paul McCartney Fair Isle

The Fair Isle

Submariner

The Submariner

Steve McQueen 1968 Fisherman Sweater
The Aran Sweater

Mr. Rodgers Cardigan
The Cardigan

Classics for a reason and always as handsome as the Gentleman inside. 

(Master prefers a Fairsisle Sweater Vest – makes His dievca smile)


Feeling the urge to ski~

Skiing

It seems like everyone dievca knows is skiing… In Upstate NY, a friend flew to Austria, another friend will be heading out to Tahoe, CA.  How can dievca get on that train?  She would really like to go to Banff or Whistler in Canada.  Nah, probably not in the cards this year after that 3 week vacation out West.

But it would be really fun to go skiing!

Is anyone planning to ski any time soon?


Something of Use: A Reimagined Classic

CONVERSE CHUCK TAYLOR ALL STAR LUGGED WINTER HIGH TOP

CONVERSE CHUCK TAYLOR ALL STAR LUGGED WINTER HIGH TOP leather khaki green

As the snow blows into NYC, dievca has a stylish weapon to beat the cold and wet. she picked up a pair of Chuck Taylor All Star Lugged Winter 2.0 at SSENSE, on sale. They have turned out to be very comfortable and have caught the notice of a number of people (TSA agents – in a good way, friends, colleagues, people on the street). The shoes are offered on the Nike/Converse website for $110 – the price may go down, again.

Effortless street style meets all-weather functionality with the Chuck Taylor All Star Lugged Winter 2.0. A classic Chuck Taylor upper crafted from waterproof leather is set against a new utility outsole with an expressive stance, standout traction and Chevron-inspired details. A warm, cozy lining and gusseted tongue lock in warmth.

FEATURES

  • High top, boot-inspired sneaker with waterproof leather upper and canvas tongue.
  • Memory foam and an EVA sockliner come together for all-day comfort.
  • Soft fleece lining keeps it warm and cozy.
  • Lugged rubber outsole with chevron-inspired tread for enhanced traction.
  • Top speed hooks secure the fit and lock in warmth.


Shovel the Snow

to get to the Laundrymat to clean towels, pads, and clothing because the wash machine went out….It’s been years since dievca has had to gather quarters for the machines. 

dievca’s desperation of not initially recognizing a wine bottle shape in the bottom cupboard was a bit pathetic. The wine is a solid Malbec and a good way to end a day of chores. 

Mom is good, dievca got her best – but she is fading. Mom is going to go down with dignity and a healthy splash of humor~

dievca absolutely loves that her Mom cannot remember that she broke her hip twice or what she ate, but she damn well knows that dievca brought her favorite chocolates and asks about dievca’s Apple Green Dries van Noten Platform Sandals. (Note: Mom is bed/wheelchair bound, but dievca has put all the shoes on her Mother’s feet – just to get the “look”.)

dievca schlepped two pair of kick a** boots for Mom to review, platform leather Chuck Taylors, a +J Uniqlo Mixed Knit Sweater a friend gave to her and the crazy print LA Double J reversible down coat. dievca’s Mom loved it all. 

Chocolates and Fashion – there is some kind of philosophical “Meaning of Life” in those choices.


Good Morning – or later. Um, yum?!?!

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OK, for some it may be considered an interesting mix…
dievca caught up with Master for coffee (Cortado) and she caught up with a really belated meal.
Master just laughed and said He would go for it, too.

Photo: Grumpy Cafe Cortado and Whole Foods sushi 12/2021

(looking for a little motivational push through) Put One Foot in Front of the Other

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Put one foot in front of the other
And soon you’ll be walking ‘cross the floor
Put one foot in front of the other
And soon you’ll be walking out the door

You never will get where you’re going
If you never get up on your feet
Come on, there’s a good tailwind blowing
A fast walking man is hard to beat

(Chorus)

If you want to change your direction
If your time of life is at hand
Well don’t be the rule, be the exception
A good way to start is to stand

(Chorus)

If I want to change the reflection
I see in the mirror each morn (Oh you do!)
You mean that it’s just my election (Just that!)
To vote for a chance to be reborn

(Chorus 2x)

Looking for Motivation


A lovely thought, but:

Businesswoman relaxing aboard private jet

  • dievca’s flight is too short
  • The small plane probably doesn’t have Champagne on board
  • dievca will be wearing a 3M N95 mask (she’s not sure all of the caregivers are vaxxed)
  • dievca has to drive to get to her Mom

Please have a flute of bubbly 🍾 for her, ok? (dievca’s Mom or dievca)  dievca will be praying there is a bottle of wine leftover from her last visit 🍷 XO


The New Comfort: Who does it best? (Chantelle, Knix, EBY)

Back in the Day (November 17, 2013 to be exact) dievca found Lingerie Comfort with Hanky Panky – In the 8 years since – the rubber has pulled out of the lace, there are holes and many pieces of dievca’s Hanky Panky have been retired.  she hasn’t bought anymore and she’s glad that she didn’t because she’s moved on to a set of Chantelle SoftStretch in Leopard Print ($54/$20):

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A new level of comfort has been found!
A new “go to” brand for the 3 C’s: Color, Comfort and Curves!

That said, dievca bought three additional sets of comfort underwear- one from Chantelle in Forest Green ($58/$20), one from EBY (Empowered By You – a “do good” business) – in Blue Meadow ($48/$22)  and a final set from the Canadian Brand “Knix” LuxeLift in an Anna Sui collaboration pattern ModFloral ($50/$25):

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Here’s the ranking:

  1. CHANTELLE – The SuperSoft fabric is….super soft, yet the bra’s hold up the girls well.  The bra padding is not removable, but it isn’t too overwhelming either – no strange shapes.  The fabric is very smooth and very comfortable.
  2. KNIX – The knix set starts out awkward to put on, but then molds nicely to the body. dievca wore the set with the removable bra pads inserted, she’ll try the top without them next time.  The bra pads looked fine, they did add a little bit of extra when dievca does not need it. There were a couple of seamed rubbing “hotspots” that disappeared as the day went on.
  3. EBY – The EBY set was easy to put on, but the cut of the bra armholes is high.  That is where the seams on the sides of the bra rubbed dievca, all day – she had to keep adjusting the irritation point. Was it horrible? No – just there.  Maybe it will disappear with washing.  The bra cups are removable and in dievca’s case not necessary – but they didn’t look strange. she will try wihtout the pads on the next round – maybe that will stop the rubbing.  The bottoms were very comfortable.

Conclustion – all three (four sets) are nice, but the little bit extra you pay for the CHANTELLE set(s) is worth it.


Keep your head above the clouds!

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Allow yourself to Dream!

Photo: dievca NYC 12/2021

Might add to delays due to X-mas logistics~

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Photo: dievca – a Mini who hit an elf in NYC 12/2121


Perseverance

Jane Dickson Stairwell 1984 Etching

We have not wings, we cannot soar;
But we have feet to scale and climb
By slow degrees, by more and more,
The cloudy summits of our time.

The mighty pyramids of stone
That wedge-like cleave the desert airs,
When nearer seen and better known,
Are but gigantic flights of stairs.

The distant mountains, that uprear
Their solid bastions of the skies,
Are crossed by pathways that appear
As we to higher levels rise.

The heights by great men reached and kept
Were not attained by sudden flight,
But they, while their companions slept,
Were toiling upward in the night.

Success
(from The Ladder of St. Augustine)
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow (1807–1882), American poet and educator.

Etching: Jane Dickson
(American b. 1952)
Stairwell, 1984

dievca won an auction and became the lucky owner of Jane Dickson’s Stairwell.
What she sees in it is perseverance.

Art speaks in different ways – another person recommended the song “Following” by ChungKing to be played while viewing the etching for a different perspective. 
http://youtu.be/aX-6mzf79js


Well, that was a bust – Holiday Gala canceled

As Omicron moves into NYC – venues and events are being closed/canceled. dievca’s Holiday Gala was an early casualty.  Too bad it was canceled after she had bought the dress…

Here was the plan:

Dries van Noten Red Maxi Dress YooxDries van Noten Red Maxi Dress Yoox backjohn-galliano navy green gold heelsPerrin Blue Leather Le Rond Bag CuffBen-Amun Gold-tone cabochon earringsemerald-ring 14K gold ring18K Gold The Dainty Sapphire Chain Ring _ Dainty Dagger _ Wolf & Badger
Dries van Noten Red Drape Dress
John Galliano Heels
Perrin Le Rond Bag Blue
Ben-Amun Cabochon Earrings
Vintage Emerald Ring
Dainty Dagger Sapphire Ring

OK, Plan B – wear the dress to Master’s and have a smaller personal Gala!


Serving Master in a different manner…

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Sometimes you serve sexually, sometimes you serve domestically.
Holiday wrapping party today with dievca serving her Master.
Package wrapping elegance!
And maybe a treat afterward~


Buy? or DIY? Tabletop Fireplace

Have you seen the Tabletop Fireplaces?

FLKR personal fireplace

  • Offers all the benefits of a regular sized fireplace in a compact, portable design
  • Suitable for indoor or outdoor use
  • Utilizes isopropyl alcohol for a clean burn that doesn’t create soot and is safe to eat over
  • Built from a nearly magical cement material that doesn’t overheat or crumble after hours of exposure to heat
  • With only five ounces of isopropyl alcohol, you can achieve 50 minutes of burn time
  • Excellent accent piece in the home to add functional ambiance
  • The FLIKR Personal Fireplace is $99

You can also build your own DIY tabletop Fireplace:

An ethanol fireplace (also bio-ethanol fireplace, bio fireplace), is a type of fireplace which burns ethanol fuel. They are often installed without a chimney. Ethanol for these fires is often marketed as bioethanol (ethanol produced from biomass).

A simple glass ethanol burner or spirit lamp The main part of the fireplace is the burner. The burner is a container filled with fuel – in this case a thick glass votive. It is surrounded by glass marbles and glass pieces held in a concrete container.

In dievca’s case: she doesn’t have a car, so getting to a Wal-Mart or Michael’s for the pieces is awkward.  If you have a car – the process will be much easier and cheaper to make the fireplace, rather than purchasing one online.

BTW:  Ethanol fireplaces should be operated with care, since ethanol is highly flammable, and severe burn accidents can happen, mostly while refilling or lighting the fireplace, even when safety instructions are followed. Emissions from ethanol fireplaces include carbon dioxide and nitrogen dioxide, volatile organic compounds, and particulate emissions, which are released into the room.

Ethanol fireplaces — irrespective of the type of fuel used — are a source of fine and ultrafine particles and have a considerable influence on the quality of the indoor air; ventilation reduces the effect. Ethanol may also generate odors. Burning hydrocarbons causes indoor air pollution. Emissions include airborne particulate matter (such as black carbon) and nitrogen oxides. These harm health; some forms of fuel are more harmful than others.

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It worked~improving a mood.

20211213_203520They always have suggestions for improving a mood and in dievca’s case 6 out of these 34 suggestions worked.

  • De-clutter. Getting organized can help us feel instantly calmer. Just five to ten minutes is enough to tackle a small project, like a desk or the kitchen table.
  • Rearrange some furniture. Changing an environment can help us feel refreshed, enabling us to bust out of a negative mood.
  • Get some sun. A boost of vitamin D can keep the blues at bay. Head outside for a brisk walk around the block. If that’s not possible, station yourself near a window for a few minutes.
  • Spend time with Friends. If you want to be happy and calm, spend time around calm, happy people.
  • Celebrate good times. Look at happy photos or spend a minute or so thinking back on positive memories (that first 5K finish line, a group trip to the waterpark, that amazing scone from a no-name coffee shop)—nostalgia can trigger happiness.
  • Eat for a positive mood. We are what we eat, so step away from the unhappy meal. Instead, try out these meals to boost your mood. Up the happiness quotient by setting a nice place for yourself, lighting a candle, and giving thanks for the meal.

dievca allowed herself to decorate the apartment lightly – she felt less stressed when she decided that she didn’t have to do the full Christmas blowout.  Holiday Hints throughout the apartment has made it feel festive for guests and herself. Having dinner with lovely people completed her mood change.

What works for you?

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Photos: dievca home decor 12/2021


Good Morning ~ Sunshine!

Photo: dievca NYC 12/2021