dievca has learned something about the people she considers close friends. When the shit hits the fan, they connect the first day – and then they check-in on the second day. It’s very interesting to watch.
dievca thought about it, she checks in, too.
The question is – when dievca really loses it 3 months, hence – will those people mind stepping in a
second third time? Probably, that’s what good friends do~
Watch – it will happen to you.
A very large , “Thank You” for your kind words and glasses lifted up to honor a good Life.
The thoughts and presentations are so lovely. And dievca is working through her bottle over a long period as she replies to texts and phone calls. A little lubrication to celebrate a Life and ease the pain of kindness.
How are you all doing? What’s going on in your lives?
(dievca’s coming up for air~)
Please find your most elegant champagne, wine, whiskey, or highball glass to fill and please Toast my lovely Mother (and my Gentleman of a Father). Now, they have both moved on.
It took the Priest and ‘Last Rites’ to help change Mom’s breathing pattern – we think she was working things out in her mind.
Anyways, the funny thing is that dievca had read a NYer Article about Estate Sales before bed. So, when she dreamed about Waterford Crystal at 1:30 am and her Mom came in for a chat – she didn’t think much of it. But, it was Mom stopping by – she passed at 1:30 am.
And the Waterford? Going to dievca’s Niece-In-Law if she wants it.
- What makes life worth living?
- What would make life definitely not worth living?
- What might at first seem too much to put up with, but then might seem manageable after getting familiar with the situation and learning to deal with it?
- If you knew life was coming to an end, what would be comforting and make dying feel safe?
What, in that situation, would you want to avoid?
- How much control is important for you to have when facing a terminal illness?
We may see that dying is the better of two choices, and be ready to give the loved one permission to die. The dying person may be distressed at causing grief for those who love them, and, receiving permission to die can relieve their distress. There is a time for this to happen. Before that, it feels wrong to accept a loss, but after that it can be an act of great kindness to say, “You may go when you feel it is time. I will be OK.”
At the time a person is near death, sometimes touch is the best communication. Gentle stroking of a hand or a cheek, and quietly reassuring the person that you love them and that you will be all right is perhaps the most compassionate way to ease your loved one on his journey. In a situation where you are not present at the time of death, forgive yourself and know that you did the best you could to make the final hours or weeks of life peaceful and meaningful.
According to Hospice and an EMT Family Member, Mom is holding on hard. dievca’s one brother is there, Grandchildren are there, a lovely Caregiver, the Great-Grandchild have gone over, dievca and her cousins have spoken and sang to Mom, dievca hopes her other brother has spoken to Mom, but she’s not sure….what are we missing?
dievca’s Dad checked in with everyone and then let go~ We cannot figure out what Mom is holding on for~ she moves her lips when something pleases her and the mention of a bath causes those lips to move. Mom floats with her Osteoperosis. Maybe the simple pleasure of a bath~
Just wish we could figure out what would help.
dievča is 1/2 дівчинка, but she never really thinks of herself as Ukrainian. she looks like her Dad’s Slovak side of the family (which is — well, maybe, not quite as beautiful as her Mother’s Ukrainian side…).
What prompted these musings?
dievca’s Mom took a turn for the worse and her cousins are coming out of the woodwork to tell her Mom that they love her. Singing Ukrainian songs, sending photos of her Mother to dievca. It is sad and lovely at the same time. The photos shared show that dievca doesn’t really look like her Mom other than the pointy chin which pokes Master’s chest, the color of her eyes (grey), and her voice.
If dievca can’t really look Ukrainian, maybe she could was seek a way to feel more Ukrainian – so she started looking for a vyshyvanka:
Then she remembered that she has this Ulla Johnson blouse – one is enough:
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The Fair Isle
The Aran Sweater
Classics for a reason and always as handsome as the Gentleman inside.
(Master prefers a Fairsisle Sweater Vest – makes His dievca smile)
It seems like everyone dievca knows is skiing… In Upstate NY, a friend flew to Austria, another friend will be heading out to Tahoe, CA. How can dievca get on that train? She would really like to go to Banff or Whistler in Canada. Nah, probably not in the cards this year after that 3 week vacation out West.
But it would be really fun to go skiing!
Is anyone planning to ski any time soon?
As the snow blows into NYC, dievca has a stylish weapon to beat the cold and wet. she picked up a pair of Chuck Taylor All Star Lugged Winter 2.0 at SSENSE, on sale. They have turned out to be very comfortable and have caught the notice of a number of people (TSA agents – in a good way, friends, colleagues, people on the street). The shoes are offered on the Nike/Converse website for $110 – the price may go down, again.
Effortless street style meets all-weather functionality with the Chuck Taylor All Star Lugged Winter 2.0. A classic Chuck Taylor upper crafted from waterproof leather is set against a new utility outsole with an expressive stance, standout traction and Chevron-inspired details. A warm, cozy lining and gusseted tongue lock in warmth.
- High top, boot-inspired sneaker with waterproof leather upper and canvas tongue.
- Memory foam and an EVA sockliner come together for all-day comfort.
- Soft fleece lining keeps it warm and cozy.
- Lugged rubber outsole with chevron-inspired tread for enhanced traction.
- Top speed hooks secure the fit and lock in warmth.
to get to the Laundrymat to clean towels, pads, and clothing because the wash machine went out….It’s been years since dievca has had to gather quarters for the machines.
dievca’s desperation of not initially recognizing a wine bottle shape in the bottom cupboard was a bit pathetic. The wine is a solid Malbec and a good way to end a day of chores.
Mom is good, dievca got her best – but she is fading. Mom is going to go down with dignity and a healthy splash of humor~
dievca absolutely loves that her Mom cannot remember that she broke her hip twice or what she ate, but she damn well knows that dievca brought her favorite chocolates and asks about dievca’s Apple Green Dries van Noten Platform Sandals. (Note: Mom is bed/wheelchair bound, but dievca has put all the shoes on her Mother’s feet – just to get the “look”.)
dievca schlepped two pair of kick a** boots for Mom to review, platform leather Chuck Taylors, a +J Uniqlo Mixed Knit Sweater a friend gave to her and the crazy print LA Double J reversible down coat. dievca’s Mom loved it all.
Chocolates and Fashion – there is some kind of philosophical “Meaning of Life” in those choices.
OK, for some it may be considered an interesting mix…
dievca caught up with Master for coffee (Cortado) and she caught up with a really belated meal.
Master just laughed and said He would go for it, too.
Photo: Grumpy Cafe Cortado and Whole Foods sushi 12/2021
May you have a very Healthy, Happy and Positive Year in 2022!
Sending love, dievča
Photo: Gloria DeHaven
Back in the Day (November 17, 2013 to be exact) dievca found Lingerie Comfort with Hanky Panky – In the 8 years since – the rubber has pulled out of the lace, there are holes and many pieces of dievca’s Hanky Panky have been retired. she hasn’t bought anymore and she’s glad that she didn’t because she’s moved on to a set of Chantelle SoftStretch in Leopard Print ($54/$20):
A new level of comfort has been found!
A new “go to” brand for the 3 C’s: Color, Comfort and Curves!
That said, dievca bought three additional sets of comfort underwear- one from Chantelle in Forest Green ($58/$20), one from EBY (Empowered By You – a “do good” business) – in Blue Meadow ($48/$22) and a final set from the Canadian Brand “Knix” LuxeLift in an Anna Sui collaboration pattern ModFloral ($50/$25):
Here’s the ranking:
- CHANTELLE – The SuperSoft fabric is….super soft, yet the bra’s hold up the girls well. The bra padding is not removable, but it isn’t too overwhelming either – no strange shapes. The fabric is very smooth and very comfortable.
- KNIX – The knix set starts out awkward to put on, but then molds nicely to the body. dievca wore the set with the removable bra pads inserted, she’ll try the top without them next time. The bra pads looked fine, they did add a little bit of extra when dievca does not need it. There were a couple of seamed rubbing “hotspots” that disappeared as the day went on.
- EBY – The EBY set was easy to put on, but the cut of the bra armholes is high. That is where the seams on the sides of the bra rubbed dievca, all day – she had to keep adjusting the irritation point. Was it horrible? No – just there. Maybe it will disappear with washing. The bra cups are removable and in dievca’s case not necessary – but they didn’t look strange. she will try wihtout the pads on the next round – maybe that will stop the rubbing. The bottoms were very comfortable.
Conclustion – all three (four sets) are nice, but the little bit extra you pay for the CHANTELLE set(s) is worth it.
Allow yourself to Dream!
Photo: dievca NYC 12/2021
Sending Warm Wishes!
XO your dievča
Pin-Up: Baron von Lind
We have not wings, we cannot soar;
But we have feet to scale and climb
By slow degrees, by more and more,
The cloudy summits of our time.
The mighty pyramids of stone
That wedge-like cleave the desert airs,
When nearer seen and better known,
Are but gigantic flights of stairs.
The distant mountains, that uprear
Their solid bastions of the skies,
Are crossed by pathways that appear
As we to higher levels rise.
The heights by great men reached and kept
Were not attained by sudden flight,
But they, while their companions slept,
Were toiling upward in the night.
(from The Ladder of St. Augustine)
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow (1807–1882), American poet and educator.
Etching: Jane Dickson
(American b. 1952)
dievca won an auction and became the lucky owner of Jane Dickson’s Stairwell.
What she sees in it is perseverance.
Art speaks in different ways – another person recommended the song “Following” by ChungKing to be played while viewing the etching for a different perspective.
Have you seen the Tabletop Fireplaces?
- Offers all the benefits of a regular sized fireplace in a compact, portable design
- Suitable for indoor or outdoor use
- Utilizes isopropyl alcohol for a clean burn that doesn’t create soot and is safe to eat over
- Built from a nearly magical cement material that doesn’t overheat or crumble after hours of exposure to heat
- With only five ounces of isopropyl alcohol, you can achieve 50 minutes of burn time
- Excellent accent piece in the home to add functional ambiance
- The FLIKR Personal Fireplace is $99
You can also build your own DIY tabletop Fireplace:
An ethanol fireplace (also bio-ethanol fireplace, bio fireplace), is a type of fireplace which burns ethanol fuel. They are often installed without a chimney. Ethanol for these fires is often marketed as bioethanol (ethanol produced from biomass).
A simple glass ethanol burner or spirit lamp The main part of the fireplace is the burner. The burner is a container filled with fuel – in this case a thick glass votive. It is surrounded by glass marbles and glass pieces held in a concrete container.
In dievca’s case: she doesn’t have a car, so getting to a Wal-Mart or Michael’s for the pieces is awkward. If you have a car – the process will be much easier and cheaper to make the fireplace, rather than purchasing one online.
BTW: Ethanol fireplaces should be operated with care, since ethanol is highly flammable, and severe burn accidents can happen, mostly while refilling or lighting the fireplace, even when safety instructions are followed. Emissions from ethanol fireplaces include carbon dioxide and nitrogen dioxide, volatile organic compounds, and particulate emissions, which are released into the room.
Ethanol fireplaces — irrespective of the type of fuel used — are a source of fine and ultrafine particles and have a considerable influence on the quality of the indoor air; ventilation reduces the effect. Ethanol may also generate odors. Burning hydrocarbons causes indoor air pollution. Emissions include airborne particulate matter (such as black carbon) and nitrogen oxides. These harm health; some forms of fuel are more harmful than others.
The Elder Statesman
~Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
dievca has discussed various vibrators she and Master have purchased. she is going to step away from the sexual and talk about a Recover Massage Tool for workouts and activities. Her Physical Therapist bought her a Theragun Mini as a “Thank You” gift for allowing the PT to stay in her apartment as dievca traveled for three weeks.
The Massager qualifies for the “Best Gift Ever” catagory: it offers amazing physical relief, it is used everyday, and is easy to store/travel. Trifecta!
Might be a good Holiday present for someone in your Life or YOURSELF!
While it’s important to rest your muscles, massage guns can also provide relief by loosening you up and getting some blood flowing.
Massage guns work by pounding your muscles at rates of up to 4,000 times per minute. The depth of the stroke (called a percussion) and the amount of force it exerts determines how powerful it feels. Muscular people who prefer hard massages should look for a gun with a higher stroke rate, more percussions per minute, and more force, while sensitive folks should opt for a lighter-duty massager.
Some New Yorkers do a Joyful Chicken for Thanksgiving.
dievca goes for the Big Bird in Bondage.
Whatever meal you share today –
dievca wishes you a very
she is thankful for you!
Photos: top - unknown, botton Lazy Mom via VICE
dievca is craving cheese like a crazy lady – she’s not quite sure what it means…
Maybe this motivational cheese mug will help her past the calorie count~
dievca’s been watching friends Zoom date, navigate around COVID-19 and death, sort through the ashes of a relationship that crashed hard and, in one case, is watching a friend reunite happily with an old Flame.
Ho sbagliato tante volte ormai
che lo so già
che oggi quasi certamente
sto sbagliando su di te.
Ma una volta in più che cosa può cambiare
nella vita mia…
Accettare questo strano appuntamento
è stata una pazzia!
Sono triste tra la gente che
mi sta passando accanto,
ma la nostalgia di rivedere te
è forte più del pianto.
Questo sole accende sul mio volto
un segno di speranza.
Sto aspettando quando a un tratto
ti vedrò spuntare in lontananza!
Amore, fai presto,
io non resisto…
Se tu non arrivi, non esisto,
non esisto, non esisto…
È cambiato il tempo e sta piovendo,
ma resto ad aspettare.
Non m’importa cosa il mondo può pensare,
io non me ne voglio andare.
Io mi guardo dentro e mi domando,
ma non sento niente.
Sono solo un resto di speranza
perduta tra la gente.
Amore, è già tardi
e non resisto…
Se tu non arrivi, non esisto,
non esisto, non esisto…
Luci, macchine, vetrine, strade, tutto quanto
si confonde nella mente.
La mia ombra si è stancata di seguirmi,
il giorno muore lentamente.
Non mi resta che tornare a casa mia
alla mia triste vita.
Questa vita che volevo dare a te
l’hai sbriciolata tra le dita…
ma non resisto…
Adesso per sempre non esisto,
non esisto, non esisto…
I was wrong so many times by now,
I already know
that almost certainly today
I am wrong about you
but what difference can one more time make
in this life of mine..
Accepting this odd date,
it was insanity! (some folly)
I am sad among the people
but the wistful feeling (nostalgia) of seeing you again
is stronger than the tears
This sun lights up on my face
a sign of hope
I am waiting and suddenly
I will see you appear yonder (in the distance)
My love be here soon (hurry up),
I can’t take it (resist)
if you don’t come, I don’t exist
I don’t exist, I don’t exist …
The weather has changed, and it is raining
but I stay and wait (keep on waiting)
I am not concerned (don’t care) about what the world will think [of me]
I don’t wanna go.
I look within myself and wonder
but I feel nothing (hear nothing?)
I am just some remains of hope
lost among people
My love, it’s already late
and I can’t take it (resist)
if you don’t come, I don’t exist
I don’t exist, I don’t exist …
Lights, cars, shop windows, roads
they all confuse into my mind
my shadow got tired of following me
the day slowly dies
All that’s left is to go back to my house
to my sad life
This life I wanted to give to you
you crumbled it between your fingers
My love, forgive me, but I can’t take it…
Now forever, I don’t exist
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The Dawn is breaking cloudy in New York.
It’s rare to see the clouds head in from the East – but they are heading towards the Hudson River.
dievca is sending you a quiet, “Good Morning”.
dievca had to rush to Grand Central from the Westside to catch the Metro North. she took the 7 train across. It was 5 min 30 sec from Hudson Yards to Grand Central during an “off-peak” time. she had enough time to get that coffee which saved the day.
Sometimes dievca really ❤❤❤’s New York City.
PS. Happy Marine Corps Birthday!
deivca is pondering a question this morning… please let her explain the scenario, 1st:
A work friend died yesterday. she was a few years older than dievca. The friend worked at a different location, so dievca didn’t see her all the time. dievca did see the friend in the summer and she looked a bit tired and thin, but her friend was thin to begin with. The friend was moving well and rollerblading consistently to work.
In September the friend asked dievca for a favor and it was to be turned back over in November. Not anymore.
No one knew the friend was sick, she just died.
It was cancer.
The workplace is reeling because this person was kind, happy, and caring. Lovely to everyone.
No one knows what happened. Was it diagnosed Stage 4? did she decide to pass on chemo? was it so aggressive there was no time? had she been battling it for a while and told no one but her family?
Back to dievca’s pondering…
Is it better to let people know about your illness or say nothing?
A quick death might be better for the terminally ill person, but doesn’t allow people to say Good-Bye.
(You don’t have to explain your condition, your treatment plans, deal with everyone feeling sorry for you, etc.)
A longer process allows people to connect with the terminally ill person but extends their trauma.
(People will keep asking what is going on, what the treatment plan is, ask how you are feeling, maybe offer pity, etc.)
OK, multiple questions. Tough questions.
No matter what the answers, it does bring to mind the phrase, “My Body – My Choice.”
Looks like Life is getting back to normal when people are dealing with the common cold, rather than COVID-19.
Master flew back with a stuffed up nose. He had been hanging out with some super fun Tots on Halloween. They shared their daycare wealth~
Before His return and across the country, dievca’s nose started to leak. she’s drinking as many fluids as she can get down her gullet.
It looks like dievca will be making soup for everyone. Chicken Soup for herself and Jambalaya (Creole) for Master. He’s better at drinking water than dievca, so He can do a “thicker” soup.
Creole Jambalaya is less thick than Cajun Jambalaya because of less browning and added tomatoes.
1 tbsp. extra-virgin olive oil
1 onion, chopped
2 bell peppers, chopped
Freshly ground black pepper
1 lb. boneless skinless chicken breasts, cut 1″ pieces
1 tsp. dried oregano
6 oz. andouille sausage, sliced
2 cloves garlic, minced
2 tbsp. tomato paste
2 c. chicken broth
1 (15-oz.) can crushed tomatoes
1 c. long grain rice
2 tsp. Old Bay seasoning (modify to your heart’s content – dievca has Old Bay handy)
1 lb. frozen seafood or shrimp (or 1 lb fresh shrimp)
2 green onions, thinly sliced
In a large pot over medium heat, heat oil. Add onion and bell peppers and season with salt and pepper.
Cook until soft, about 5 minutes, then stir in chicken and season with salt, pepper, and oregano. Cook until the chicken is golden, about 5 minutes, then stir in andouille sausage, garlic, and tomato paste and cook until fragrant, about 1 minute more.
Add chicken broth, frozen seafood/shrimp, crushed tomatoes, rice, and Old Bay. Reduce heat to medium-low, cover with a tight-fitting lid, and cook until the rice is tender and the liquid is almost absorbed for about 20 minutes.
(If you have fresh uncooked shrimp – add the shrimp and cook until pink, 3 to 5 minutes.)
Stir in green onions just before serving. Serve with crusty bread.