Something of Use – the 50/50 Boot at 35 years!

Paper Magazine and Stuart Weitzman 5050 Capsule Collection

Female New Yorkers are boot lovers.  The Men wear boots, too, but the women live in boots for 3 out of 4 seasons.  The Stuart Weitzman 50/50 boot has its place in many a small NYC closet. This versatile style has a forgiving design which allows for large calves to be hugged in comfort.

SOMETHING OF USE ~ dievca has 3 pairs squished in her closet:

The 5050 style launched in 1993, and the legendary over-the-knee boot has long garnered a reputation — and a major celebrity following — for its flawless, comfortable fit and minimalist, sophisticated sensibility. With its distinctive half-and-half construction, featuring a leather or suede front and stretch fabric back, the 5050 continues to live up to the title of “icon” in a world where that word is endlessly overused; it can be paired with any style, any occasion, any genre, any decade.

Like many fashion icons, it only gets better with time. Cut to Fall 2021, Stuart Weitzman debuts a new 5050 Capsule Collection in celebration of its 35th anniversary, featuring new interpretations of this boot, designed to match whatever mood you’re in.

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The aptly named 5050 HIGHSHINE dials up the glamour with more than 300 crystal embellishments hand-applied to each pair. Pearl embellishments give the look an ultra-feminine take with the 5050 LIFT PEARL. Silver-tone studs on the 5050 LIFT STUDS offer a punk vibe. The 5050 FRINGE with cascading fringe detail nods to the must-have cowboy boot trend, while the 5050 LIFT WOVEN boot ups the craftsmanship quotient with each pair taking no less than 14 hours to create using handwoven leather (no two are the same). The 5050 LIFT and the 5050 ULTRALIFT boot provide extra height to boost your strut — a 35-mm platform and 50-mm platform, respectively.

dievca is pondering if her closet can hold a fringe pair or the platform…

Photography: Luke Abby
Styling: Jenny Haapala
Hair: Ro Morgan
Makeup: Christine Cherbonnier
Model: Alicia Herbeth (Elite NY)
DP and editing: Olivier Lessard
Video VFX: James Buongiorno
Production: Will Foster and Peter Schwab
Styling assistants: Olivia Jakubik and Dominique Upshaw
Hair assistant: Kuki Alrawi
Studio: Highline Stages


Coming up for Air

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It was a quick trip to Mom, 4 days.  Packed a lot into the time. POA shift, moved Mom on to hospice, need a new hospital bed – motor died (made do with a log and seat cushion to change the angles for Mom), attempted to get quality WiFi (need a new router), attempted to get the gardens/yard into some semblance of order (including picking up 15 cigarette butts on the driveway from a caregiver – what is wrong with people. Are they born in a barn? We have a cigarette repository out there.), maintenance man/snow removal man is no longer working – looking for help (Note his kid moved away and they no longer need to store his classic car in the garage…hmmm? Maybe that had something to do with being unavailable…), cleaned the odd places in the house and the upstairs as best as possible.

Grocery shopped at night and saw ⇑⇑⇑ the MOON!

It’s Full this Evening.  Don’t forget to shake your wallet at the Moon!

And think of dievca flying home late tonight. XO


Desperate times call for

Desperate Measures…

You take what you can find at dievca’s Mom’s House. 

Last night dievca found this:

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Who on God’s Earth brought this over?

And this afternoon she found this:

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A staple at a Chicago Cubs Game~

Both offerings are rough around the edges – but in a pinch, they’ll do~

dievca’s running to the Grocery store late tonight – the next visit won’t be as desperate.

PS. Her Mom is doing relatively well. 


Kissy – Kissy with HotLips

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Originally inspired by four classic lipstick colors (red, nude, pink, and black cherry), the Hotlips rings are the embodiment of your perfect lipstick color on a beautiful, pouty, kissable mouth. Sterling Silver and Lacquer.
Designed by Solange Azagury-Partridge in 1995, they have since become an icon of modern jewelry design. On display at the V&A Museum and seen on the world’s most stylish women including Bella Hadid, Dua Lipa, Rihanna, Selena Gomez, Katy Perry, Lady Gaga, Adwoa Aboah, Rebel Wilson, & Man Repeller.

Color Options!

Solange Hotlips rings
Click the photo to be taken to the website ($270)!
If the rings are too expensive, check out the totes ($35).

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September Midnight

Cricket
Lyric night of the lingering Indian Summer,
Shadowy fields that are scentless but full of singing,
Never a bird, but the passionless chant of insects,
Ceaseless, insistent.

The grasshopper’s horn, and far-off, high in the maples,
The wheel of a locust leisurely grinding the silence
Under a moon waning and worn, broken,
Tired with summer.

Let me remember you, voices of little insects,
Weeds in the moonlight, fields that are tangled with asters,
Let me remember, soon will the winter be on us,
Snow-hushed and heavy.

Over my soul murmur your mute benediction,
While I gaze, O fields that rest after harvest,
As those who part look long in the eyes they lean to,
Lest they forget them.

Sara Teasdale — Originally published in Poetry, March 1914.

Cricket in Times Square

The Cricket in Times Square by George Selden (1960)


coffee catch-22

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noun
  1. a dilemma or difficult circumstance from which there is no escape because of mutually conflicting or dependent conditions.
    “a catch-22 situation”
    OK – maybe coffee is not dependent upon me…

Kink vs. Fetish

The Velvet Underground sang, “Kiss the boot of shiny, shiny leather…Tongue of thongs, the belt that does await you” (“Venus in Furs”).

Does the song touch on kinks or fetishes? It all depends…

Kinks
‘Kink’ is a general term that describes any sexual proclivities that could be seen as unconventional. It comes from the idea that one’s sexuality may deviate from the norm—the straight line has bend in it.

Costumes, role play, BDSM—anything in that kind of area could be considered a kink, but so could plenty of accessory-free activities. One person’s standard sexual activity can be another individual’s kink. The line fluctuates from person to person.

In the past, BDSM was seen as a ‘paraphilia’ rather than a kink, grouped by psychiatrists with desires to perform non-consensual acts. There is a world of difference between consenting adults experimenting with each other in the pursuit of pleasure and people harming others against their will. Master and dievca have a relationship based upon consent – experimenting and living with a power dynamic and other activities.

Fetishes
A fetish is a sexual fixation on a certain object or act that is necessary for a person to achieve sexual gratification.

If you enjoy certain activities that are not considered the norm that might be a kink, but if you can’t get off without a certain object, process or activity – that’s a fetish. Anal sex you try every year on your birthday? A kink. Can’t get in the mood without being peed on? A fetish.

Kinks are employed to enhance an experience, fetishes are integral to them. 

Another way a kink becomes a fetish is if the other person can be removed from the equation – if you are turned on by shoes alone without anyone to be wearing them, that’s a fetish. Partialism is a sexual interest with a focus on a specific part of the body. This can be any part of the body, such as the hair, breasts, or buttocks. The most common form of partialism is podophilia, in which a person becomes sexually aroused by feet.

“Diversity, dievca, Diversity!”

Master and dievca had a conversation about Kink and Fetishes early in their Relationship. Master mentioned that His interest waned when a partner couldn’t orgasm unless a certain set of steps were followed in precise order while wearing a specific outfit. It was fine early in the relationship because it was about communication and learning about someone new – but later, for Him, it was tedious.

dievca has found that she likes to “change it up”, too.  Apparently, her getting off can happen in a variety of ways and Master delights in finding a new cause for orgasm.

That said, it is good when someone knows specifically what “gets them off”. Some people go through Life never understanding their body, needs nor have had their desires met. Having a fetish may offer a clear cut road for success!

Photo: dievca thinks the photo can be credited to Kaushik, Gupta


Coffee and music on a Monday Morning

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Why is it always easier to get things done to Classic Rock?  At least for dievca~

Maybe its because every Saturday growing up – her family’s home had to be cleaned from top to bottom. It was the 1970’s, dievca’s brothers played Rock Music doing chores.  dievca is like Pavlov’s Dog – you put the Classic Rock on and she cranks out the work…

Here’s the last song:


Trying to catch up

Vintage photo woman runningAbsolutely not complaining – dievca is grateful.
Just a little behind…ok, a lot behind.
What was added:

  • Back to work the afternoon of the “Red Eye” flight, thought there would be three days grace.
  • Caught up with Master – always an important Joy
  • Sold three eBay items while traveling, needed to ship immediately and the printer is out of ink
  • Sold four more items last night, again, no ink.
  • Co-workers begging to cram in meetings before Labor Day.
  • Most important, trying to get to Mom

How is your weekend shaping up?

 


A final walk

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A trip to the Zoo
A rinse at a beach shower
Red Eye Home

It’s been a lovely trip, but its nice to get back to Master.


7 Bridges, Diner/Drive-In/Dive, and a Nap

San Diego 7 Bridges Walk

A lovely way to see some of the San Diego neighborhoods is to walk the 7 Bridges Urban Walk – passing the Zoo, Balboa Park,  the LGBT+ community, etc. dievca’s watch logged 5.68 miles.  With a short drive to Hob Knob Hill for brunch, the restaurant was featured on Diner, Drive-In and Dives with Guy Fieri. dievca just had a normal breakfast (eggs, bacon, waffle) and it was a like a normal diner in NYC.

San Diego 7 Bridges Walk

Afterward, dievca passed out on the Coronado Beach for two hours – sunscreen was applied!


I walked to the Rio Grande

past a Middle School in the center of Albuquerque, NM.  There were balloons and flowers adorning a walkway/fence close to the entrance of the school. It reminded me of the “roadside memorials” when people have a car crash or bike crash.

I didn’t think on it further.

Then I ran into a letter on Patch.com – it was from the Superintendent of Schools and the Principal

With great sadness, I must inform you of a shooting that occurred on the Washington Middle School campus today that resulted in the death of one of our students and the arrest of another. This was an isolated incident that occurred outside the school building during lunch. No other students or staff were physically harmed, but many of us are hurting.

My heart hurt.  

15 days before in NYC:

A 14-year-old jumped to his death Thursday afternoon, July 29, from the Vessel in Manhattan’s Hudson Yards. The teenage boy became the fourth to die by suicide at Thomas Heatherwick’s 150-foot spiral staircase since it opened in March of 2019.

My heart hurt.

Middle School Feet

Middle School ages are tough for Parents to deal with – their adorable child, biddable child is turning sullen, dealing with fluctuating hormones, social awareness/awkwardness, anxiety, and confusion.

  • Approaching puberty: Big changes are going to start or have already begun to happen to a tween’s body.
  • Exposure to dangerous behaviors: Tweens face new pressures from peers including drugs, sex, alcohol, and more. Kids are curious and peer pressure is strong among tweens. At this age, tweens start learning about the dangers of the world. Many myths circulate in middle school hallways.
  • Increasing amounts of homework: The homework load alone can be a big change for tweens and parents should be ready to help if needed. Good study habits now can last a lifetime.
  • Increasing responsibilities: Tweens are often more involved in extra-curricular activities and can take on more chores and responsibilities at home.

This happens to be one of my favorite ages to be around.  Their views on the World and Life are insightful, honest and entertaining.  Please, be patient and kind to any Middle School age kid who crosses your Life.  Just listen, guide, give them attention and time – even if they are behaving ugly and being annoying. Remember, someone put up with you at that age.

Maybe then my heart won’t hurt in the future.


Coffee before the drive

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Good Morning! Maybe a little late for the East Coast. XO
A little coffee before driving inland for phase two.
Enjoy your week!


Dog Friendly Del Mar and the Pineapple Whip

dievca finally got her Disney-style Dole Whip!


Working against the slow start

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Good Morning! Have a good week.


Octogenarian + Nonagenarian = Play Date

Elderly Ladies Chatting

dievca mentioned that her Mom is fading or depressed and her Mom’s best friend (91) immediately asked her son to drive her up to my Mom.  (God, I’m starting to cry).   deivca set up the date to coincide with the caregiver who likes to cook and is already thinking of a nice light lunch for the ladies.  Mom’s friend is bringing the dessert – a certain chocolate and raspberry cake because she knows Mom loves it. dievca’s Mom will rally to sit in the wheelchair for a longer period and see her friend –  they will lean close because neither can hear.  It’s a gift that is amazingly generous.

Never dismiss the touch of a true friend, its one of Life’s greatest miracles.

Old Friends


Dad Humor – coffee-based

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If there’s one feature that can immediately categorize a joke as a “dad joke,” it’s wordplay, especially of the unsophisticated variety. Examples: “Hey, do you know what time my dentist appointment is? Tooth-hurty.” “You know why they always build fences around cemeteries? Because people are dying to get in.” The purposeful confusion of “smart feller” and “fart smeller.”

Note: dievca’s Dad was working that “fart smeller” joke hard – right up until he died. Makes her smile thinking about it~

Let the Coffee Jokes begin!

  1. Barista: How do you take your coffee?
    Me: Very, very seriously.
  2. What do you call sad coffee?
    Despresso.
  3. What’s the best Beatles song?
    Latte Be!
  4. Spouse #1: Honey, this coffee tastes like dirt.
    Spouse #2: That’s not surprising, dear, it was just ground this morning.
  5. How does Moses make his coffee?
    Hebrews it.
  6. What did the coffee lover name her son?
    Joe, obviously.
  7. What did the caffeine addict name his cats?
    Cream and Sugar.
  8. How do you know if you’ve had enough coffee?
    You channel surf faster without the remote.
  9. How does the serial killer like his coffee?
    How he likes his victims—all ground up.
  10. How is divorce like espresso?
    It’s expensive and bitter.
A "Thank You" to the ScaryMommy website for the coffee humor.

My Mom isn’t eating much.

HeartAnd she is a sleeping more. Is it depression or time to go?
Its the first time dievca’s Mom wanted to sleep rather than speak with her. 

When you are the youngest of the two youngest and everyone (Dad/Aunts/Uncles) have passed.  Your last tie to an Era will soon be cut.  You can only hope that your oldest cousins can answer your questions about Family.

she knows she shouldn’t borrow trouble, but dievca’s heart is hurting.

Her Mom’s Life isn’t really a Life – so it will be good when Mom catches up with dievca’s Dad. She misses him

dievca just keeps sending Love from her mind and her heart.


Tough decision…

Popsicle

Looking for a popsicle, cock, popsicle, cock….


Thoughts on the 4th of July

Women dressed up in Washington, DC July 4 1919. GHI-Universal History Archive via Getty Images

Women dressed up in Washington, DC July 4 1919. GHI-Universal History Archive via Getty Images

The 4th of July parade was such a big deal in dievca’s hometown. People dressed up, bands played, Veterans marched.
Is it still like that in small towns?

NYC may have a parade…dievca is not sure. she’s never looked it up or gone to watch. What she really misses is the Beer and Bratwurst Tent that the Lions Club sponsored for the weekend – their bratwursts were pork.
(Is the corn knee-high by the 4th of July? If yes – its a good crop year)
In the evening of the 4th, you would sit almost under the fireworks offered at the local High School Soccer fields. It was social, yet – intimate. dievca felt like she was a part of the Earth and the Universe.

Something to ponder.

So, dievca’s hometown did host a parade and fireworks this year, but the Brat Tent is on hold until 2022…


Lusting after something ridiculous…

1227 giant floor lamp by Anglepoise is a triple sized lamp designed to celebrate the 70th birthday of Original 1227 lamp
When dievca stayed in the new hotel on Roosevelt Island earlier this month, she fell in lust with an immense floor lamp:
1227 giant floor lamp by Anglepoise is a triple-sized lamp designed to celebrate the 70th birthday of Original 1227 lamp
The lighting was amazing, the lamp is quirky, fun and would fit her 13 foot ceilings. Too bad the price was around $4000+.

Maybe, some day, dievca will get a pre-loved version.  Right now, she needs to save her $ for a new sleeper sofa.  Her current one was a floor sample, 15 years ago from IKEA. It is on its last legs, even with a newer cover. Sigh

1227 giant floor lamp by Anglepoise is a triple sized lamp designed to celebrate the 70th birthday of Original 1227 lamp yellow

Click on the photo to purchase from Design Within Reach – colorways: Dove Grey, Jet Black, Marine Blue, Crimson Red, Blossom Pink, Duck Egg Blue, Citrus Yellow and Alpine White. $4100

 


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The best fruit is the fruit you grow and collect yourself. Not a lot of opportunities to grow fruit in NYC, but the local elementary school where dievca goes to vote must have classes in gardening for the kids. There are strawberries coming into season, raspberry bushes and blueberries, too! A section for tomatoes and peppers – then what looks to be a butterfly garden. All wrapping the school in a verdant hug.

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Photo: dievca, School Garden strawberries NYC 06/2021

The best part is dievca can imagine those greedy little fingers reaching for a berry
and the joy of the attached tastebuds being hit with a burst of flavor when eaten.


Where do you fall?

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Graphic from sleepjunkie.com

Research shows we are actually genetically predisposed to be either a morning or an evening person. According to chronobiology (the study of time in living things), cells in everything from plants to people work on their own internal ‘clock’.

So, when you had a Father who woke up at 4 am every morning for years after driving the boys to hockey practice and a Mother who stayed up reading or doing chores until 1 am and would still prefer that schedule, where does a dievca fall on that genetic predisposition?  Note: One brother is up at 4 am, the other is up until 2 am…

This question is lurking in dievca’s mind as she tries to get better quality sleep during her perimenopause phase…

Well~ work dictates and this Summer is asking for 6 am starts~

dievca will follow her Dad’s guidance and be an Early Bird – at least until she catches her second wind at 10 pm one night throw the best laid plans into Night Owl mode.


Wishing you a glorious Summer Solstice


bikini choices? coffee choices = Summer

Summer CoffeeSummer Solstice is coming up on Sunday, June 20th.

What Summer Coffee options beat the heat?

We all know about the typical coffee over ice or espresso over ice drink, but if you want a twist maybe these three coffee options will rotate your stirrer.

1.) Cold brew:  Cold brew can be made using a French press by steeping coffee grounds in cold water for at least 12 hours, without pressing down on the plunger, to extract highly condensed flavors. After allowing it to steep, press down on the plunger, then serve the cold brew over ice. The result is a very condensed and delicious coffee, but it is very strong so consider diluting it a little with milk or water.

2.) Affogato: This is a traditional Italian espresso-based drink that is often found on dessert menus at Italian restaurants. It is made by pouring a shot of hot espresso over a scoop of gelato. Vanilla gelato pairs very well with the espresso, but you can experiment with any kind of gelato you want. This drink is perfect for the coffee enthusiasts with a sweet tooth who want a rich dessert drink that maintains strong coffee flavors.

3.) Espresso Tonic: This is also known in some places as café tonics or black tonics, but the concept is simple- add tonic water to espresso. The unexpected result is a slightly sweet, citrusy taste filled with effervescence and coffee goodness. Whether you are making this at home or ordering it in a local coffee shop, start with 2 ounces of espresso and then 6 ounces of tonic water on the side. Slowly pour the espresso on top of the tonic water to avoid overflowing. Enjoy!

And the bikini?

Title Nine Chameleon High Waisted Bikini Bottom and Top – Paprika Floral


Continuing the NYC Staycation Mode:

So, dievca has stayed at The Standard, The TWA Terminal Hotel JFK and is now heading to Roosevelt Island for a stay at The Graduate hotel.  she’s never been to the Island and hasn’t taken the tram — it should be something different from work, the apartments and her Mother’s.  That’s the point of a Staycation, right? Something different without heavy travel.

Until she heads out on the 7 train, she is going to admire the Peonies Master bought for His dievca:

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Taking a moment to honor your Military members who passed – friends, family and unknowns.


48F (9C) + rain on a beach + Memorial = what to wear?

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Photo: dievca NYC 05/30/2021

And now you know dievca’s BIG question this morning….
What crap weather for the start of Summer.
Practical is kicking in:


The other side of the family~

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On the other side of the family (Ukrainian), dievca is one of 22 cousins and the youngest by 10 years. she wasn’t born in the same state as the other cousins and didn’t grow up with them.  A Cousin just died –  possibly from COVID-19, her sibling is being cagy with information.  It all came out because another cousin didn’t hear from her on their regular 3rd day phone call – so another cousin called the sibling and then called dievca’s brother.  dievca’s brother is asking dievca to hunt down the 3rd sibling, who is gay, to find out more information or let them know about the death…

Are you lost?

It took dievca 5 years of asking her Mother who everyone was, trying to figure out who her cousins belonged to, what they did and their ages – a couple she has only met once.

She’s got it now.

And like every family — let’s sic the youngest on the problem.

She’s the baby and no one will get angry with her because she can play “clueless”. Plus, she was cute.

Watching the family dynamics in action is amazing.

BTW, dievca did hunt down the phone # for the gay sibling and will be calling today. That cousin likes her.

Baby bath


travel via coffee

coffee strengths

GOOD MORNING!
What’s your strength?