feeling chlapec – Scandinavian Eyeglasses #2

Skaga 2865 Fri Black Men's glasses

dievca’s second pair of glasses are supposedly a masculine frame.  When dievca visits the Swedish optical shop she wanders around and tries on all the frames she finds interesting, then she collects the 8-10 pairs of frames she likes best and ranks them.  When she’s wandering, she never notices if she is in the female/male/kids section.

This second pair of frames were more expensive than the 1st – about $200.  They have a mixed media component: Carbon Fiber, Wood and Metal.  dievca bought them at her friends insistence.  They are a heavier more serious look than her red metal frames.  The photos don’t do them justice.  The wood in the photo looks light – its more of a subtle grey and the top carbon fiber is black matte with a gravel texture.

Very interesting.

Skaga Fri

Style: 2865

Material number: 59288

Gender: Male

Frame size: 55-18-145 (L)

Frame material: Carbon Fiber + Wood

Temple material: Carbon Fiber

Hinge: Standard hinge

US assortment: Yes

Description: SK2865 FRI showcases high attention to detail, and is part of THE LAB special capsule. The carbon fiber rectangular front is combined with  lightweight metal temples.

You can buy the eyeglass frames in the USA online HERE.

Skaga 2865 Fri Black Men's glasses side
The brand originated from Småland (Sweden) among sparkling lakes and deep forest. Skaga, with its skilled and genuine craftsmanship, have designed, developed and at times manufactured eyewear frames at Jönköping for 70 years. Skaga has an authentic heritage, a long design tradition and history that few brands can rival.

Even if you ARE hosting a NYE party…what part of “no”~

rooballs red kangaroo balls bottle opener

Yes. Yes, it is what you think it might be. Yes, there is a whole website dedicated to this animal part harvested and processed in accordance with the Australian National Parks & Wildlife Service rules and regulations. www.rooballs.com

dievca was doing a gentle wander around the after Christmas sales and ran into this on the Huckberry website.  she didn’t believe it until she looked up the “brand” RooBalls!.

kangaroo-opponentIf someone can explain the appeal for any of the products – deivca would be grateful. (i.e. yesterday was Boxing day and Kangaroos can box…) Please note that she is always up for someone being able to make a $, Australian or otherwise, she just feels these products may be a reach. OK, obviously not.

dievca will be moving on to having that Christmas cookie with wine now…XO

Shopping Suggestions Holiday 2021

dievca shops year round for her Holiday gifts. That said, she also keeps an eye out for items that might be of interest to people of the Masculine persuation ~ or those who like practical and streamlined items. she has the following suggestions for the Holiday 2021 season (UO = Urban Outiftters, top items until the Yellow Submarine Towel – the second set of items are from Huckberry –  a great Masculine driver space, Google Image search a photo and it should take you to the item webpage, last two items from Theragun):

If you are in shopping mode – Gifts for Him

29 ideas for the Men in your Life. Click on the photo for the brand and price of the item. Some of the items are on sale with Black Friday. The item dievca bought Master for Christmas is among the mix. XO

Nicola INDELICATO exploring Men’s Lingerie

The touch of refined materials gave birth to unknown, previously unexplored sexual desires and a craving apetite for male body exploration.

(click on a style to enlarge it)

Nicola Indelicato = graphic styles that are both humorous and overtly sexual, perhaps with the extra removable cock ring as needed.

After finalizing his MA in fashion design in Florence at Polimoda, where he also shares his experience as a design teacher, Nicola Indelicato got trained at Vivienne Westwood and gained significant experience at the Italian fashion house, Roberto Cavalli. Combining cultural, applying fast sex – and testosterone elements in combination with the confrontation of historical living forms of the Italian Renaissance give him roots in Italian tailoring of oversized silhouettes and innovative cuts with the sensitivity of molding fabrics.

Masculine/Feminine (part 3) Master is back

Omar-Sharif_in_Lawrence_of_ArabiaFrom Master:

In the two previous posts, dievca and I have tried to show how difficult it is to put someone’s sexuality into a particular box. But what about D/s? How does that play into it?

As you’ve seen, dievca’s presentation outfits are usually “hyper-feminine.” Master prefers that and dievca enjoys planning a particular costume.

Omar Sharif the eternal male book coverAnd “costume” is a relevant word for this because Master wouldn’t want – or expect – dievca to be wearing a latex skirt on the subway.

The costumes are a form of play that is part of a general moment when both Master and dievca express the masculine/feminine aspects of themselves.



Angelina Jolie TattoosHmm–there is a big difference in dievca from “before Master” and “after Master”. she’s found that she no longer worries about being too masculine or too feminine.  she is just herself.

monroe-marilyn Milton H. GreeneWithin D/s,  dievca was given permission to be hyper-feminine for Master. she delights in dressing for Him and leaning towards the 1950’s Household Kink (works with her curves, nicely). Finding feminine outfits and wearing them to be admired by Master (and others) is an aphrodisiac in of itself. But, Master really likes when His dievca changes it up, too.

So as she write this post, dievca realizes how lucky she is ~ Her Master has His preferences, but He cherishes diversity more and that allows dievca to hold on to her Masculine side.

What changed with their relationship was that she had been given permission and the opportunity to explore her Feminine side with a strong Man. It worked because her Master cherishes both aspects of His dievca’s sexuality.

In the end, you cannot really define or limit Master’s expression of sexuality, nor dievca’s.

They have the gift of being comfortable with themselves all along the sexuality spectrum.

PS. Umm, Master? BTW. dievca is actually considering wearing one of her latex skirts on the subway — not in the BDSM form, but as a part of an outfit. diversity….is that o.k.?
Or might that be a dievca disaster?

Masculine/Feminine (part two) dievca

So what about dievca? Where does she fit on the sexuality “spectrum?”

Marlene Dietrich

In Part One of this series discussing Masculine and Feminine Characteristics, Master’s activities were discussed and what they might mean to people, when perhaps reality is a bit different.

Master asked dievca to answer the question listed above for Part Two of this series.

You might think dievca is hyper-feminine because of Her choices of dress and actions as a submissive.  That is true.  But we are going to focus on the reality that dievca runs more masculine….outside of D/s.

Let’s take a look at some Masculine and Feminine characteristics:

Feminine qualities:

  • receptive
  • creation
  • instinctual wisdom
  • relating
  • nurturing
  • compassion
  • intuition
  • empathy

Masculine qualities:

  • action-oriented
  • focused
  • assertive
  • passionate
  • transforming
  • stability
  • protect
  • support
Gender Photo

Where does dievca fit?

dievca grew up in a household established with boys. Her Mother and Father were thrilled to have a little girl and they desperately wanted to dress their princess in girly clothing. dievca wanted none of it. she wanted pants, mud, sports and to be like her brothers. But her Dad insisted that if his princess was to compete in a sport, it should be a more feminine sport – gymnastics.  Looking back, dievca’s Dad might have been the 1970’s version of a Dom.

Dorothy Hamill Wedge HaircutLet’s just say when dievca cut her hair to look like Dorothy Hamill (“America’s Sweetheart”) after the 1976 Winter Olympics and people starting calling dievca a boy — her Mom was directed to let dievca’s hair grow back. ASAP.

So, dievca was a more masculine kid in a very feminine sport.  Then as an adult when dievca started to play soccer — she was a very feminine player of a more masculine sport. Her teammates would laugh at her gazelle-like gait and elegant leaps to get to the ball.

Basically, dievca is topsy-turvy — she has been told by Gay friends that the Lesbian crowd would love her because she isn’t a Lipstick Lesbian – she’s more Butch. Hmmm~any comments from Lesbian readers on that feedback?

Sports-wise? It didn’t matter because dievca was an excellent athlete and brought great skills to both sporting endeavors. No one cared about her masculinity or femininity because she could make play for either team.  It did mix-up dievca’s view of herself — she thought that she was unattractive in either venue because she didn’t fit the correct sexual stereotype for either sport.

Thank goodness, dievca has a strong personality…

Hot businesswoman sitting with high heels feet up on office desk, holding cigar, looking at camera confidently.

Actually, her strong personality comes into play, too.  It’s often considered a more masculine trait.  dievca does needs to be dominant in her daily life. she has to be a play-maker and get things done in a timely manner — no time to be sweet as sugar…in fact, there have been some adjectives used to describe dievca that are not necessarily nice to a Lady (but if a Man was called the adjective – it would be no problem~ so dievca will take them as a compliment….)

So, does dievca dress in power suits with a lit a cigar?

On a daily basis dievca runs more downtown chic in dress. Master calls her real-life dressing: “urban chic with a touch a wit”.

So, dievca has an eclectic closet and wears many different hats (or clothes). she takes joy in dressing masculine, feminine and androgynous and because it means she has no limits, which is quite freeing. No labels.

So to answer the question at the beginning of this post?

dievca is a strong female who runs more masculine in her daily Life.

But what about D/s?
How does that play into Master and dievca’s definition of sexuality? 


Masculine/Feminine (part one) Memory Lane

dievca started this blog as an outlet for her D/s thoughts and brought in fashion – as an interest because presentation is a large part of Master and dievca’s dynamic. The blog has merged to add essays, thoughts, poetry, lifestyles pieces – but nothing has been offered directly from Master. Until now:

1925: A chivalrous gentleman helps his lady friend onto the towpath from a punt at Richmond,

1925: A chivalrous gentleman helps his lady friend onto the towpath from a punt at Richmond

Written by Master:

If you read a summary of Master’s activities on a piece of paper, you might come to certain conclusions. Master is a journalist who has worked as a war correspondent in highly dangerous countries. At various times, he’s been involved with what he calls “the three Ms” – motorcycles, mountain climbing and martial arts.

So his resume might indicate a man with fairly “macho” characteristics – the sort of guy who flexes his muscles at the gym and likes to party with his buddies at a sports bar.

The reality is quite the opposite. Master is calm, soft-spoken and polite. He shows a great deal of courtesy to the people he meets in the city. In addition, he knows a lot about women’s fashion and regularly attends the fashion shows at the Metropolitan Museum.

It’s easy to make conclusions about someone’s masculinity or femininity by certain superficial characteristics. But sexuality for men and women can be a fairly complicated.

This thought stream was prompted from e-mails before Master and dievca met face-to-face.  It was our anniversary and Master sent the e-mail stream as a memory booster.

I’m glad that we didn’t meet immediately.
I feel that I have learned a great deal more about you during the last week.
And, I hope, that you have learned more about me.

I’m nervous.

But that’s good! You should be nervous meeting a possible Dom for the first time. I know this is a major step for you and will respect that.

I’m a fairly intense person. But not loud or vulgar. I always make an effort to be polite. A close friend once said that “***** is an Alpha Male who isn’t macho.” Quite true.

So..the reality is: you’re meeting a calm, polite man at the Club who ahhh…
is also a Dom.

I want this meeting to be a positive experience for you.


What dievca was presented with on that first meeting was a MAN.

Someone who was  Mentally Strong, Confident in His Sexuality, Capable in Life and Crisis, and Responsible.  

All wrapped in velvet, which made the iron fist so desirable. 

And created the feeling of TRUST immediately.

 A positive experience, indeed!
dievca searched for a photo of a well-known person to personify Master. Everyone she came up with didn’t toe the line with Master’s qualities…so she finally just asked Master to suggest someone He thought might personify a MAN who was a GENTLEMAN.
He offered two suggestions:
Paul Newman Venice Water Taxi Omar Sharif April 10, 1932

And she couldn’t resist this beautiful photo:

Omar Sharif with grandson, Omar Sharif Jr.

Omar Sharif with grandson, Omar Sharif Jr.

So what about dievca? Where does she fit on the sexuality “spectrum?”