Loving a Man in a cozy Sweater (Jumper)

Paul McCartney Fair Isle

The Fair Isle

Submariner

The Submariner

Steve McQueen 1968 Fisherman Sweater
The Aran Sweater

Mr. Rodgers Cardigan
The Cardigan

Classics for a reason and always as handsome as the Gentleman inside. 

(Master prefers a Fairsisle Sweater Vest – makes His dievca smile)


D/s (elfje)

Ball Gag and Mask

Restrained
Spread Wide
Master Speaks His Command
Orgasm


Good Morning – or later. Um, yum?!?!

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OK, for some it may be considered an interesting mix…
dievca caught up with Master for coffee (Cortado) and she caught up with a really belated meal.
Master just laughed and said He would go for it, too.

Photo: Grumpy Cafe Cortado and Whole Foods sushi 12/2021

Holiday Hooch Coffee

dievca is heading to Master’s for Christmas Eve, as He just got back from Ireland – she knows He brought home some hooch…

OK, maybe we shouldn’t be using the word “hooch” (noun – informal)

  1. alcoholic liquor, especially inferior or illicit whiskey.

Irish Coffee is a cocktail consisting of hot coffee, Irish whiskey (excellent), and sugar, stirred, and topped with cream. The coffee is drunk through the cream. The original Irish Coffee was created by an airport chef named Joe Sheridandievca, who worked at the little Foynes airport near Limerick, according to the Ireland Whiskey Trail. He whipped it up one rainy winter night for passengers whose plane got turned around due to a storm. He later moved to the Shannon Airport, and took the drink with him.

(Note: In 19th-century France, a mixture of coffee and spirits was called a gloria.)

Irish Coffee

Main alcohol: Irish whiskey
Ingredients: 1 1/3 oz (2 parts) Irish whiskey, 1 oz (1½ parts) Fresh cream, 1 tsp. Brown sugar, 2 2/3 oz (4 parts) Hot coffee
Preparation: Heat the coffee, whiskey and sugar; do not boil. Pour into glass and top with cream by carefully pouring it over the back of a spoon initially held just above the surface of the coffee and gradually raised a little until the entire layer is floated.
Served: Hot
Drinkware: Irish coffee mug
Inventor: Joe Sheridan


Serving Master in a different manner…

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Sometimes you serve sexually, sometimes you serve domestically.
Holiday wrapping party today with dievca serving her Master.
Package wrapping elegance!
And maybe a treat afterward~


Working the stockings

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Master has been into stockings lately.  dievca has been working them with a garter belt, no garter belt (stay-ups), chemise, slip, soft corset. etc.  Is your Sir or Madame into a certain presenation mode? XO


Coffee Communication


dievca and Master went beyond that point with coffee many moons ago~
Good Morning! Have a great week. XO


30 minutes, just give me 30 minutes~

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How long does it take you to come alive in the morning?

Master wanders around in a daze for awhile and then He gets His coffee.  It takes about 2 cups.

dievca? Coffee or no coffee – needs 30 minutes.
Don’t talk to her, don’t ask questions, don’t offer pleasantries.
Just No.

And you?


Chains with Loren Stewart

14kt yellow gold baby chubbie chain earrings from LOREN STEWART featuring hinge-pin fastening, huggie hoop design, chain-link detailing for pierced ears.

A subtle BONDAGE touch.


Remember when ~ Luxury Air Travel

Luxury Travel

dievca is pretty sure that her Master doesn’t have a pair of those plaid socks – but she does know He is planning to travel in style this weekend.  Too bad with COVID-19, it won’t be quite as cozy as in the past…  Honestly, wouldn’t it just be nice to fly without wearing a mask?


Made with Love: Apple Crisp

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Master’s Birthday is coming up and dievca is gathering her supplies, the plan is:

Classic Apple Crisp recipe with fresh sliced apples, topped with crisp and buttery cinnamon oats.

Prep Time: 30 minutes Cook Time: 50 minutes Total Time: 1 hour 20 minutes

Author: Natasha Kravchuk
Skill Level: Easy
Course: Dessert
Servings: 10 people

Ingredients
For the Apple Crisp Filling:
4 lbs firm-crisp apples, 11-12 medium apples*
2 Tbsp lemon juice
3/4 cup granulated sugar, or to taste**
3 Tbsp all-purpose flour
1 1/2 tsp cinnamon
For the Crumb Topping:
1 3/4 cups flour
1/2 cup packed brown sugar
1/4 cup granulated sugar
1/2 tsp cinnamon
1/4 tsp salt1 cup unsalted butter, (room temperature), plus more to butter pan
1 cup rolled oats, or old fashioned oats

Instructions
Prep: Generously Butter a 9×13 casserole dish with 1/2 Tbsp butter. Preheat the oven to 375F.

Peel core and thinly slice apples to 1/4’ thickness. You should have 12 cups of sliced apples. Squeeze 2 Tbsp lemon juice over the apples and toss to coat.

In a separate bowl, stir together 3/4 cup sugar, 3 Tbsp flour, and 1 1/2 tsp cinnamon then sprinkle mixture over apples and toss to combine. Transfer apples into the buttered casserole dish.

Make the topping – in a large bowl, use your hands to stir together flour, oats, brown and granulated sugars, cinnamon, and salt. Add the diced butter and work it into the mixture with your hands until pea-sized crumbs form throughout. Spread topping over apples.

Bake at 375˚F for 45-50 minutes or until the topping is golden and crisp and apples are bubbling at the edges. The center should register above 175˚F.


Sometimes its works – tanga panties

Backside and cuffs
Master appreciates corsets and stockings, but once in awhile things need to be changed up. Using the Tanga Panties above as inspiration – dievca pulled out her Simone Pérèle lingerie which works well with her curves. Her offering just happened to be orange in honor of Halloween! No stockings, as it was too warm – but it made a lovely offering of her a**.


Have you noticed?

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Advanced Love: Advanced Style Bill and Eva Kobus-Webb

That you or your friends are becoming quirky in your aging?

Unique outfits?
Time Awareness?
Demanding?

Stubbornness?
OCD?
Crotchety?
Bluntness? 

Between Master, dievca’s family, her friends and herself –  there are a lot of people getting older who are really BOSSY!


The First Option

Jade Johnny Was Angelo Easy Dress

See by Chloe Block Heel Ankle strap sandals red

Zimmermann 14K Aloha beaded hoop earrings

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dievca is starting to think through the outfits she might wear to Le Pavillon:

  • Jade by Johnny Was Angelo Easy Dress
  • See by Chloe Block Heel Ankle Strap Sandals
  • Zimmerman 14K Aloha Beaded Hoop Earrings
  • Jack Gomme Light Lami Cerise Backpack

This 100% silk dress is easy to throw on and works if its warm out. Master thought it was a good choice.


Doing Lunch – a (small) dievca disaster

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So, dievca met Master for lunch at a lovely rooftop restaurant. It was a gorgeous end-of-summer day in NYC and she was wearing a French Blue Raquel Allegra hammered satin Peasant Dress, nipped in with a Ralph Lauren Orange Cotton-toggle belt to match the ACNE Studios/Fallraven Backpack….with ACNE Studio sunglasses and Master’s Earrings.

The shoes were supposed to change from sneakers for walking through the city to heeled clogs, but when dievca went into her backpack to grab the clogs – only one was there….the other was found later at home, hidden.

Master just laughed at His dievca and handed her a lovely Birthday gift – which worked perfectly with the dress (Zimmermann Aloha 14K-plated Beaded Earrings) and reminded dievca of her College Days:


Yee-Ha (causing Master to laugh)

dievca has 6 pairs of boots sitting on the kitchen table sorted for resale.  They are favorite boots that were a size 7-7.5, she now needs a size 8 to hold her right foot.

Here’s what is leaving – you’ve seen these on the blog (roll over the photos to see the brands):

dievca had success on eBay finding the Rodeo Brava Motorcycle Boots in the next size ($40), she’s eye-balling the Roberto del Carlo blue suede boots on eBay, two sizes up – nib.

she’d like to get a pair of cowboy boots and the red ones above caught her eye, they are the Free People New Frontiers Western Boots in red $148she thought they would make Master laugh. He is always entertained by dievca’s boots.

But dievca cannot justify buying those cute red boots because she owns these Chloe Rylee Python Booties in red:

Chloe Rylee Python Print Leather Ankle Boots


Ah, well.


A new twist – estrogen drop

Erect Nipple

So your female submissive is in her 40’s to 50’s and her levels of hormones have been shifting all over the place.

One bonus might be a drop in estrogen which causes the progesterone levels rise, triggering her nipples to be more sensitive. Perhaps her nipples have been a non-entity for years and now they are front and center – literally – shape and size. Something that has been numb in the past, has become incredibly touchy – which makes for another dimension in play.

Go cautiously, but the bodily change might offer diversity and delight for both Dominant and submissive!

dievca has found one positive aspect of perimenopause and Master ran with it!


Flowing water presentation

gathershortie Loup Charmant back blue
Loup Charmant Gathered Shorty in Blue

  • Cotton gauze layers float lightly with motion
  • Deep back shows sexy shoulders and low cleavage
  • Easy access for your Sir or Madam

gathershortie Loup Charmant front blue
dievca will Presenting for Master in a yellow version – she has a tan from traveling and its the one time she can wear yellow successfully. In a seduction manner, too. 


Kink vs. Fetish

The Velvet Underground sang, “Kiss the boot of shiny, shiny leather…Tongue of thongs, the belt that does await you” (“Venus in Furs”).

Does the song touch on kinks or fetishes? It all depends…

Kinks
‘Kink’ is a general term that describes any sexual proclivities that could be seen as unconventional. It comes from the idea that one’s sexuality may deviate from the norm—the straight line has bend in it.

Costumes, role play, BDSM—anything in that kind of area could be considered a kink, but so could plenty of accessory-free activities. One person’s standard sexual activity can be another individual’s kink. The line fluctuates from person to person.

In the past, BDSM was seen as a ‘paraphilia’ rather than a kink, grouped by psychiatrists with desires to perform non-consensual acts. There is a world of difference between consenting adults experimenting with each other in the pursuit of pleasure and people harming others against their will. Master and dievca have a relationship based upon consent – experimenting and living with a power dynamic and other activities.

Fetishes
A fetish is a sexual fixation on a certain object or act that is necessary for a person to achieve sexual gratification.

If you enjoy certain activities that are not considered the norm that might be a kink, but if you can’t get off without a certain object, process or activity – that’s a fetish. Anal sex you try every year on your birthday? A kink. Can’t get in the mood without being peed on? A fetish.

Kinks are employed to enhance an experience, fetishes are integral to them. 

Another way a kink becomes a fetish is if the other person can be removed from the equation – if you are turned on by shoes alone without anyone to be wearing them, that’s a fetish. Partialism is a sexual interest with a focus on a specific part of the body. This can be any part of the body, such as the hair, breasts, or buttocks. The most common form of partialism is podophilia, in which a person becomes sexually aroused by feet.

“Diversity, dievca, Diversity!”

Master and dievca had a conversation about Kink and Fetishes early in their Relationship. Master mentioned that His interest waned when a partner couldn’t orgasm unless a certain set of steps were followed in precise order while wearing a specific outfit. It was fine early in the relationship because it was about communication and learning about someone new – but later, for Him, it was tedious.

dievca has found that she likes to “change it up”, too.  Apparently, her getting off can happen in a variety of ways and Master delights in finding a new cause for orgasm.

That said, it is good when someone knows specifically what “gets them off”. Some people go through Life never understanding their body, needs nor have had their desires met. Having a fetish may offer a clear cut road for success!

Photo: dievca thinks the photo can be credited to Kaushik, Gupta


Trying to catch up

Vintage photo woman runningAbsolutely not complaining – dievca is grateful.
Just a little behind…ok, a lot behind.
What was added:

  • Back to work the afternoon of the “Red Eye” flight, thought there would be three days grace.
  • Caught up with Master – always an important Joy
  • Sold three eBay items while traveling, needed to ship immediately and the printer is out of ink
  • Sold four more items last night, again, no ink.
  • Co-workers begging to cram in meetings before Labor Day.
  • Most important, trying to get to Mom

How is your weekend shaping up?

 


When you have a good friend who is Dutch

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The title of this book has great meaning!

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dievca thought this appropriate for Master and her meeting, she’s not sure he agrees ~


Ethnic-cool = Brunch

Actually – this outfit is “cool” temperature-wise and it will cover dievca’s road rash from the sun.

Ulla Johnson Simona Linen and cotton blouse with volume to allow air to flow. Theory Cotton black wide-leg pants.

Theory Black Wide Leg Cotton Pant

Adding Master’s Lauren Landa Sterling Silver WI Moonstone Hair Pin, Aigner Black Sandals, and Officina del Poggio Water Bottle  bag.


Got Lemons?

Lemons

Make Lemonade!


Secure, Anxious, Avoidant = Attachment Styles. Where do you fall?

attachmentUniversity of Denver researchers Cindy Hazan and Phillip Shaver were the first to study how attachment styles may come into play with romantic relationships. They published their findings in 1987. The original theory was developed by British psychoanalyst John Bowlby in the 20th century. Bowlby theorized that an infant’s access (and perceived) access to a parental figure results in how safe and protected they feel.

If you would like to determine your attachment style, please click here!

Secure
A secure attachment is an ideal in a healthy, supportive relationship, and the majority of adults fall in line with it. Hazan and Shaver’s research stated that  56% of participants identified as having secure attachments. A secure attachment means being able to accept and support partners even despite their faults and generally feeling happy and trusting of partners. If you have a secure attachment, you’re likely good at communicating—an important skill in a relationship and the bedroom. Compared to other styles, secure attachments are more likely to have longer-term relationships.

Anxious
Of the three attachment styles, anxious types are most likely to fall in love at first sight. According to Hazan and Shaver’s research, 19% of people identify as having this kind of attachment, which is prone to obsessive feelings and a need for reciprocation and higher rates than other styles. They are, however, more likely to be accepting of a partner’s faults than others—which can sometimes come at a cost. When it comes to intimacy, this type is a natural giver, but they can benefit from receiving too—they’re perfectly worthy, after all.

Avoidant
If you describe your love life as “an emotional rollercoaster,” you may be an avoidant attachment person. A quarter of participants in Hazan and Shaver’s research identified this type, which is characterized by having a fear of intimacy, and “emotional highs and lows.” That doesn’t mean that this type doesn’t feel attraction —they rate the same as secure types in this regard, according to Hazan and Shaver. They’re also likely to feel jealousy, though maybe not as intensely as those with anxious attachment styles. Learning how to put their walls down—even just a little—can prove most beneficial for this type. A little vulnerability may lead to more security down the line.


Master laughed

dievca was a vision in green with the Xirena Aiden cotton gauze dress in Juniper:

Xirena Aiden Dress Juniper

The dress wasn’t the problem – it was that she added these two items to the mix:


What grounded the Green Monster? Nike Thea Print Comic:

Nike Thea comic print white


Sticky and Wet

20210702_131229With the humidity in NYC,
one cannot escape sweating.
dievca arrived at Master’s wet and sticky.
All was solved with soap, water and shower sex.
Something to be taken carefully,
but worth the effort to beat the heat.
XO

photo: dievca - shower accoutrements 07/2021

What color is the NYC Sunset?

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Crayola Fuschia?
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Not quite~

Top Photo: dievca Sunset via a cab 06/2021
Bottom Photo: unknown

Continuing the NYC Staycation Mode:

So, dievca has stayed at The Standard, The TWA Terminal Hotel JFK and is now heading to Roosevelt Island for a stay at The Graduate hotel.  she’s never been to the Island and hasn’t taken the tram — it should be something different from work, the apartments and her Mother’s.  That’s the point of a Staycation, right? Something different without heavy travel.

Until she heads out on the 7 train, she is going to admire the Peonies Master bought for His dievca:

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Feeling submissive

Bent over stockings

Feeling flexible
Feeling risqué
Feeling the presentation


A subtle BDSM touch for your home Bar

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CB2 Brass Padlock Bottle Opener:
Upping the ante on opening a beer.
A handsome way to subtly show your BDSM leanings at your Bar cart.
One sale for $9.99, click link above to purchase.
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