Yee-Ha (causing Master to laugh)

dievca has 6 pairs of boots sitting on the kitchen table sorted for resale.  They are favorite boots that were a size 7-7.5, she now needs a size 8 to hold her right foot.

Here’s what is leaving – you’ve seen these on the blog (roll over the photos to see the brands):

dievca had success on eBay finding the Rodeo Brava Motorcycle Boots in the next size ($40), she’s eye-balling the Roberto del Carlo blue suede boots on eBay, two sizes up – nib.

she’d like to get a pair of cowboy boots and the red ones above caught her eye, they are the Free People New Frontiers Western Boots in red $148she thought they would make Master laugh. He is always entertained by dievca’s boots.

But dievca cannot justify buying those cute red boots because she owns these Chloe Rylee Python Booties in red:

Chloe Rylee Python Print Leather Ankle Boots


Ah, well.


A new twist – estrogen drop

Erect Nipple

So your female submissive is in her 40’s to 50’s and her levels of hormones have been shifting all over the place.

One bonus might be a drop in estrogen which causes the progesterone levels rise, triggering her nipples to be more sensitive. Perhaps her nipples have been a non-entity for years and now they are front and center – literally – shape and size. Something that has been numb in the past, has become incredibly touchy – which makes for another dimension in play.

Go cautiously, but the bodily change might offer diversity and delight for both Dominant and submissive!

dievca has found one positive aspect of perimenopause and Master ran with it!


Flowing water presentation

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Loup Charmant Gathered Shorty in Blue

  • Cotton gauze layers float lightly with motion
  • Deep back shows sexy shoulders and low cleavage
  • Easy access for your Sir or Madam

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dievca will Presenting for Master in a yellow version – she has a tan from traveling and its the one time she can wear yellow successfully. In a seduction manner, too. 


Kink vs. Fetish

The Velvet Underground sang, “Kiss the boot of shiny, shiny leather…Tongue of thongs, the belt that does await you” (“Venus in Furs”).

Does the song touch on kinks or fetishes? It all depends…

Kinks
‘Kink’ is a general term that describes any sexual proclivities that could be seen as unconventional. It comes from the idea that one’s sexuality may deviate from the norm—the straight line has bend in it.

Costumes, role play, BDSM—anything in that kind of area could be considered a kink, but so could plenty of accessory-free activities. One person’s standard sexual activity can be another individual’s kink. The line fluctuates from person to person.

In the past, BDSM was seen as a ‘paraphilia’ rather than a kink, grouped by psychiatrists with desires to perform non-consensual acts. There is a world of difference between consenting adults experimenting with each other in the pursuit of pleasure and people harming others against their will. Master and dievca have a relationship based upon consent – experimenting and living with a power dynamic and other activities.

Fetishes
A fetish is a sexual fixation on a certain object or act that is necessary for a person to achieve sexual gratification.

If you enjoy certain activities that are not considered the norm that might be a kink, but if you can’t get off without a certain object, process or activity – that’s a fetish. Anal sex you try every year on your birthday? A kink. Can’t get in the mood without being peed on? A fetish.

Kinks are employed to enhance an experience, fetishes are integral to them. 

Another way a kink becomes a fetish is if the other person can be removed from the equation – if you are turned on by shoes alone without anyone to be wearing them, that’s a fetish. Partialism is a sexual interest with a focus on a specific part of the body. This can be any part of the body, such as the hair, breasts, or buttocks. The most common form of partialism is podophilia, in which a person becomes sexually aroused by feet.

“Diversity, dievca, Diversity!”

Master and dievca had a conversation about Kink and Fetishes early in their Relationship. Master mentioned that His interest waned when a partner couldn’t orgasm unless a certain set of steps were followed in precise order while wearing a specific outfit. It was fine early in the relationship because it was about communication and learning about someone new – but later, for Him, it was tedious.

dievca has found that she likes to “change it up”, too.  Apparently, her getting off can happen in a variety of ways and Master delights in finding a new cause for orgasm.

That said, it is good when someone knows specifically what “gets them off”. Some people go through Life never understanding their body, needs nor have had their desires met. Having a fetish may offer a clear cut road for success!

Photo: dievca thinks the photo can be credited to Kaushik, Gupta


Trying to catch up

Vintage photo woman runningAbsolutely not complaining – dievca is grateful.
Just a little behind…ok, a lot behind.
What was added:

  • Back to work the afternoon of the “Red Eye” flight, thought there would be three days grace.
  • Caught up with Master – always an important Joy
  • Sold three eBay items while traveling, needed to ship immediately and the printer is out of ink
  • Sold four more items last night, again, no ink.
  • Co-workers begging to cram in meetings before Labor Day.
  • Most important, trying to get to Mom

How is your weekend shaping up?

 


When you have a good friend who is Dutch

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The title of this book has great meaning!

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dievca thought this appropriate for Master and her meeting, she’s not sure he agrees ~


Ethnic-cool = Brunch

Actually – this outfit is “cool” temperature-wise and it will cover dievca’s road rash from the sun.

Ulla Johnson Simona Linen and cotton blouse with volume to allow air to flow. Theory Cotton black wide-leg pants.

Theory Black Wide Leg Cotton Pant

Adding Master’s Lauren Landa Sterling Silver WI Moonstone Hair Pin, Aigner Black Sandals, and Officina del Poggio Water Bottle  bag.


Got Lemons?

Lemons

Make Lemonade!


Secure, Anxious, Avoidant = Attachment Styles. Where do you fall?

attachmentUniversity of Denver researchers Cindy Hazan and Phillip Shaver were the first to study how attachment styles may come into play with romantic relationships. They published their findings in 1987. The original theory was developed by British psychoanalyst John Bowlby in the 20th century. Bowlby theorized that an infant’s access (and perceived) access to a parental figure results in how safe and protected they feel.

If you would like to determine your attachment style, please click here!

Secure
A secure attachment is an ideal in a healthy, supportive relationship, and the majority of adults fall in line with it. Hazan and Shaver’s research stated that  56% of participants identified as having secure attachments. A secure attachment means being able to accept and support partners even despite their faults and generally feeling happy and trusting of partners. If you have a secure attachment, you’re likely good at communicating—an important skill in a relationship and the bedroom. Compared to other styles, secure attachments are more likely to have longer-term relationships.

Anxious
Of the three attachment styles, anxious types are most likely to fall in love at first sight. According to Hazan and Shaver’s research, 19% of people identify as having this kind of attachment, which is prone to obsessive feelings and a need for reciprocation and higher rates than other styles. They are, however, more likely to be accepting of a partner’s faults than others—which can sometimes come at a cost. When it comes to intimacy, this type is a natural giver, but they can benefit from receiving too—they’re perfectly worthy, after all.

Avoidant
If you describe your love life as “an emotional rollercoaster,” you may be an avoidant attachment person. A quarter of participants in Hazan and Shaver’s research identified this type, which is characterized by having a fear of intimacy, and “emotional highs and lows.” That doesn’t mean that this type doesn’t feel attraction —they rate the same as secure types in this regard, according to Hazan and Shaver. They’re also likely to feel jealousy, though maybe not as intensely as those with anxious attachment styles. Learning how to put their walls down—even just a little—can prove most beneficial for this type. A little vulnerability may lead to more security down the line.


Master laughed

dievca was a vision in green with the Xirena Aiden cotton gauze dress in Juniper:

Xirena Aiden Dress Juniper

The dress wasn’t the problem – it was that she added these two items to the mix:


What grounded the Green Monster? Nike Thea Print Comic:

Nike Thea comic print white


Sticky and Wet

20210702_131229With the humidity in NYC,
one cannot escape sweating.
dievca arrived at Master’s wet and sticky.
All was solved with soap, water and shower sex.
Something to be taken carefully,
but worth the effort to beat the heat.
XO

photo: dievca - shower accoutrements 07/2021

What color is the NYC Sunset?

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Crayola Fuschia?
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Not quite~

Top Photo: dievca Sunset via a cab 06/2021
Bottom Photo: unknown

Continuing the NYC Staycation Mode:

So, dievca has stayed at The Standard, The TWA Terminal Hotel JFK and is now heading to Roosevelt Island for a stay at The Graduate hotel.  she’s never been to the Island and hasn’t taken the tram — it should be something different from work, the apartments and her Mother’s.  That’s the point of a Staycation, right? Something different without heavy travel.

Until she heads out on the 7 train, she is going to admire the Peonies Master bought for His dievca:

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Feeling submissive

Bent over stockings

Feeling flexible
Feeling risqué
Feeling the presentation


A subtle BDSM touch for your home Bar

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CB2 Brass Padlock Bottle Opener:
Upping the ante on opening a beer.
A handsome way to subtly show your BDSM leanings at your Bar cart.
One sale for $9.99, click link above to purchase.
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Working on a new position…

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Well, my boss said that if I didn’t like working under him, I should look for another position.”

Hmm~ not exactly appropriate for many reasons from a boss, but appropriate if it was your Sir/Madame.


Lazy Sunday Sex Position

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After wine, a burger and good company – dievca slept in for a lazy Sunday. Master will be stopping by in the afternoon to relax.  Maybe the ‘LAZY SUNDAY’ position will come into use – dievca is really not moving too fast.RR-SEX-POSITION-LAZY-SUNDAY-v1

LAZY SUNDAY SEX POSITION

Find a chair or large pillow so you are both sitting at a 45 degree angle.

One partner lies on the bottom, while the other clambers on top facing upwards so your bodies are in perfect alignment.

Keep your thighs together for a more intense sensation as the lower lover enters from behind.


Feel your way~

Lead and mask
While your Sir/Madame is traveling,
why don’t you close your eyes,
and feel your desire to serve.


Cross-country travel

PSA vintage photo

As dievca watches Master’s plane fly over Ohio (flightaware.com) on His way westward – she is having  an inkling of a fantasy:  Flying during yesteryear – no masks, no TSA, elegant or sassy flight attendant uniforms, meals with silverware – the Mile High Club.  Hmmm~ the Fantasy might need to be developed further.

PSA Airlines is an American regional airline headquartered at Dayton International Airport in Vandalia, Ohio, that flies under the American Eagle brand for American Airlines. PSA is a wholly owned subsidiary of American Airlines Group.


“One house, One voice, One heart”

Jeanine Payer Viv BraceletJeanine Payer 18K Gold and Sterling Silver “Viv” Bracelet

Quote:

“One house

One voice

One heart”

A quote that could apply to a slave and their Master/Madame

It is actually the title to a book:

One house, one voice, one heart : native American education at the Santa Fe Indian School.

“The Santa Fe Indian School (SFIS) is a secondary school (middle and high school) in Santa Fe, New Mexico, United States. It was founded in 1890 as a boarding school for Native American children from the state’s Indian pueblos. But in the course of its history, the school has also served as a major cultural catalyst for the Native American community throughout the United States. Beginning as a boarding school for students, the school expanded its offerings in the 1920s and 1930s.”–Wikipedia. July 31, 2013.
Jeanine Payer closed her business after 25 years on January 1st, 2014.
Finding a piece of her jewelry is a lucky moment. 
Do you feel lucky?

Taking it to the next level

GOOD MORNING!


A is for APRIL

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And for APPLE!

dievca is persenting for Master in the Baserange Ava set in Green with nude heels for Spring.

Fishnet Nude Thigh Highssalvatore-ferragamo-shoe-classic-pump-heels-heel-nude-pumps

Hartman & Rose Gold Collar

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Just Add Coffee

Good Morning!


God Only Knows


Lately, have you found yourself steeped in nostalgia?
Not saying that Life was better before _________ (fill in the blank)
Just revisiting pieces of Joy, Love, Sadness, Humor, etc.
Beach Boys, Napster, Limewire, Sonic the Hedgehog, the Muppet Show, The Blues Brothers, Jaws, and so on~


The vibrator verdict…

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The Maude Vibrator had a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ on the website. dievca and Master have given it a whirl and decided that it is very good, but it comes in 2nd place to the Iroha yellow banana:

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dievca forgot to share~

her Christmas gifts for Master.
All were a “hit” except for the Christopher Raeburn scarf – it was a bit too “hip” 😎
Master chose something from dievca’s list and added four bottles of wine:

Paco Rabanne Peter Saville Lose Youself Tee on sale $144 Net-A-Porter

Kind of a COVID-appropriate exchange – wouldn’t you say?


“Feeling a little French” inspiration lingerie


Anna Karina in Jean-Lu Godard’s 1961 Une Femme est Une Femme
White Cotton Eyelet threaded with ribbon
Something for Spring and Summer


A different time, a different age. Something.

Ran into this video and it just made me smile.
Maybe someone thinks this about you (or me).
Enjoy~


As always~


The ‘Real Deal’ is always better.


Sweet with a bit of a Bite from NYC to You!


Happy Valentine’s Day!

Photo: dievca Chocolate Covered Strawberries 02/14/2020