Something of a smilePosted: May 26, 2023 Filed under: Analysis, Relationships | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Dominant, fun, Humor, Life, Love, Master, quotes, retro, submissive Leave a comment
“He’s very good looking and very sexy and all of those things, but all of that goes out the window and what is finally left is, if you can make somebody laugh … And he sure does keep me laughing” -Joanne Woodward
“Laughter is the shortest distance between two people.” —Victor BorgePosted: May 17, 2023 Filed under: D/s Relationship, Entertainment | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Dominant, Humor, Life, Master, positive mental attitude, quotes, Relationships, Sexy, submissive Leave a comment
“If I can’t joke around with a guy and hold at least a decent conversation, there is no way sex will ever be on the table.” —Julia
Both genders prefer a partner with a sense of humor, believing that it is important not only in flirting and dating, but also within an enduring relationship. However, whereas men tend to look for a partner who appreciates their sense of humor, women tend to look for a man who makes them laugh. These tendencies are complementary. Indeed, research suggests that when two strangers meet and the man succeeds in making the woman laugh, the chances of her becoming interested in forming a relationship increase (Hall, 2015; Cassata, 2016).
Humor crops up in various forms between Master and His dievca – makes for diversity and is a Joy.
M is for Masturbation, N is for…Posted: May 2, 2023 Filed under: D/s Relationship, Entertainment, submissive | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, erotic, Life, Love, Master, masturbation, Orgasm, self-pleasure, travel Leave a comment
…Nipples, O is for Orgasm
Master is traveling so His dievca is flying solo. XO
Kinky Help with your Taxes!Posted: April 18, 2023 Filed under: Discussion, Relationships | Tags: acceptance, BDSM, CPA, D/s, dievca, help, Kink, Life, Master, practical, service, Taxes 2 Comments
In the USA taxes are due today, April 18
Federal tax deadline 2023
87F (30.6C) in April … whew!Posted: April 15, 2023 Filed under: Accessories, Clothing, Discussion, Home and Garden | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, dressing, hot weather, Life, Master, Outfits, Spring, submissive Leave a comment
There wasn’t much of a Winter in New York City, now Spring seems to be hijacked by Summer temperatures. It’s a bit crazy – Master broke out the fan!
They say that the temperature will drop to a high of 67 F (19C) today, so dievca’s plans to wear a light cotton dress to a birthday dinner will have to be revamped…
Here’s what she was planning to wear:
Now she’s moving on to something else:
Ducks in a RowPosted: April 8, 2023 Filed under: Body Type, submissive | Tags: aging, BDSM, body awareness, D/s, dievca, Health, hormone replacement therapy, Life, Master, menopause, Science, testing Leave a comment
Gentlemen – this post is going to talk about Women’s Health, Menopause, Hormones, etc. If you are not curious, dievca completely understands. she would suggest if you have a Lady or female submissive in your life – consider her age and what she might be dealing with via aging and read on.
Photo: of Maggie Patterson (at 20) matched up with her Grandmothers photo - Reddit 10 years ago.
So, dievca is getting her “ducks in a row”. she gone to the GYN, has a mammogram scheduled for next week. she’s written down the cancer history of her family, spoken to her female cousins (as she has no sisters and her Aunts are dead), read the research on HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy), had a discussion with three Doctors, spoken with Master (he knows her body best), her periods have been gone for a year.
Her hot flashes are not bad, she sleeps reasonably well (wakes 6 times), her brain fog is minimal, her build doesn’t lean towards osteoporosis, sexual libido is good, she has almost no vaginal dryness.
Yet, dievca is going to try Hormone Replacement Therapy.
Master suggested that she needs to have goals with the Therapy otherwise, doing it to just do it is ridiculous. dievca has two goals in mind and the therapy might help or not.
- Better sleep – may assist with belly weight loss.
- Less body aching – which may help with loss of muscle and flexibility
- dievca’s Mom was on hormones for 20+ years and was very active and “young”.
So, dievca is waiting until after the mammogram to begin her regimen. she wants a current baseline for what her breasts look like pre-hormones. dievca is writing down her current body state, so that she can document the changes as the “team” figures out the best dosage for her – and as a reality check if the whole process is worthless or not worth it.
dievca’s process begins with estrogen alone for a month to determine what changes occur – she is starting with a “middle” dose level, so that it can go up or down. Progesterone begins the following month.
Let’s see where this goes!
If anyone has any feedback about HRT or anything to share – please do. dievca is collecting as much information as possible to stay safe and to offer to other Women who may go on this journey in the future.
Spring VintagePosted: April 6, 2023 Filed under: lingerie | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Elegant, I. Magnin, Master, nightgown, polka dots, Presentation Outfit, Robe, satin, Shopping, Spring, submissive, vintage 2 Comments
dieva caught up with Master and offered a Presentation outfit of blue. A vintage satin polka dot nightgown and robe set from I. Magnin. (The same set is offered at Poshmark if you are interested.) Simple elegance for Spring.
dievca remembers going to the Chicago I. Magnin stores with her Mother – very glamourous.
I. Magnin & Company was a San Francisco, California-based high fashion and specialty goods luxury department store. Over the course of its existence, it expanded across the West into Southern California and the adjoining states of Arizona, Oregon, and Washington. In the 1970s, under Federated Department Stores ownership, the chain entered the Chicago, Illinois, and Washington, DC, metropolitan areas. Mary Ann Magnin founded the company in 1876 and named the chain after her husband Isaac. The chain was liquidated in 1994.
Elaborate FantasiesPosted: March 29, 2023 Filed under: Analysis, D/s Relationship, Submission | Tags: BDSM, body awareness, D/s, dievca, dreaming, erotic, Fantasy, Life, Master, submissive Leave a comment
Don’t get all excited – dievca’s excellent fantasies have not returned…yet. she was just pondering where they went.
Were they lost with COVID?
Or taking care of her Parents?
Did perimenopause take a toll?
The knee surgery?
All of the above?
Honestly, dievca thinks that the dressing in various items of lingerie and feeling good her body helped create the fantasies and since the perimenopause/knee – she’s been more focused on getting her body to move effectively.
That doesn’t mean that the Play with Master has diminished – the Fantasies were a separate venue. dievca thinks they came with having some spare time. Maybe they will come back in the future.
Mussels with Master and Sylvia PlathPosted: March 21, 2023 Filed under: Entertainment, Master, Neighborhood Anecdotes (NYC) | Tags: BDSM, Belgian, D/s, D/s relationships, dievca, Food, Life, Love, Master, mussels, restaurant, submissive, Sylvia Plath, UES Leave a comment
Master and dievca enjoyed a an evening of mussels at the B. Cafe on the UES.
Mondays are a quiet dining night in NYC, so the experience was low-key and relaxed. The mussels were fresh and well-cooked.
Years ago, a bartender explained to dievca how you can have excellent mussels all year on the East Coast. The mussel are sourced from the Maine on down the Atlantic Coast depending upon the season. Hence, good mussels all year. At the time, dievca was confused because the mussel season in Europe was shorter (as far as she knew).
Let’s honor the joy brought by a messy job with Sylvia Plath:
Mussel Hunter At Rock Harbor
Colorists came to get the
Good of the Cape light that scours
Sand grit to sided crystal
And buffs and sleeks the blunt hulls
Of the three fishing smacks beached
On the bank of the river’s
Backtracking tail. I’d come for
Free fish-bait: the blue mussels
Clumped like bulbs at the grassroot
Margin of the tidal pools.
Dawn tide stood dead low. I smelt
Mud stench, shell guts, gulls’ leavings;
Heard a queer crusty scrabble
Cease, and I neared the silenced
Edge of a cratered pool-bed.
The mussels hung dull blue and
Conspicuous, yet it seemed
A sly world’s hinges had swung
Shut against me. All held still.
Though I counted scant seconds,
Enough ages lapsed to win
Confidence of safe-conduct
In the wary other world
Eyeing me. Grass put forth claws,
Small mud knobs, nudged from under,
Displaced their domes as tiny
Knights might doff their casques. The crabs
Inched from their pygmy burrows
And from the trench-dug mud, all Camouflaged in mottled mail
Of browns and greens. Each wore one
Claw swollen to a shield large
As itself—no fiddler’s arm
Grown Gargantuan by trade,
But grown grimly, and grimly
Borne, for a use beyond my
Guessing of it. Sibilant
Mass-motived hordes, they sidled
Out in a converging stream
Toward the pool-mouth, perhaps to
Meet the thin and sluggish thread
Of sea retracing its tide-
Way up the river-basin.
Or to avoid me. They moved
Obliquely with a dry-wet
Sound, with a glittery wisp
And trickle. Could they feel mud
Pleasurable under claws
As I could between bare toes?
That question ended it—I
Stood shut out, for once, for all,
Puzzling the passage of their
Order as I might puzzle
At the clear tail of Halley’s
Comet coolly giving my
Orbit the go-by, made known
By a family name it
Knew nothing of. So the crabs
Went about their business, which
Wasn’t fiddling, and I filled
A big handkerchief with blue
Mussels. From what the crabs saw,
If they could see, I was one
High on the airy thatching
Of the dense grasses I found
The husk of a fiddler-crab,
Intact, strangely strayed above
His world of mud—green color
And innards bleached out blown off
Somewhere by much sun and wind;
There was no telling if he’d
Died recluse of suicide
Or headstrong Columbus crab.
The crab-face, etched and set there,
Grimaced as skulls grimace: it
Had an Oriental look,
A samurai death mask done
On a tiger tooth, less for
Art’s sake than God’s. Far from sea —-
Where red-freckled crab-backs, claws
And whole crabs, dead, their soggy
Bellies pallid and upturned,
Perform their shambling waltzes
On the waves’ dissolving turn
And return, losing themselves
Bit by bit to their friendly
Element—this relic saved
Face, to face the bald-faced sun.
Yesterdays fun~made Master laughPosted: March 18, 2023 Filed under: Accessories, Clothing, Shoes | Tags: BDSM, Black, boots, D/s, D/s relationships, dievca, Dominant, green, Humor, Life, Love, Master, NYC, Presentation Outfit Leave a comment
dievca’s touches of GREEN in a sea of NYC black made her Master laugh. XO
Master Presenting…Posted: March 14, 2023 Filed under: Clothing, Fashion | Tags: BDSM, D/s, Dominant, Elegant, FIT museum, hip hop, Leather, Master, Men's Clothing, Presentation Outfit, snakeskin, Switch Leave a comment
Master is a quiet dresser. He will say that He likes to be the “backdrop” for His dievca. That said – Master does like DIVERSITY and Master/dievca ran into an outfit that Master said He would be willing to try!
It’s a LOOK from the “Fresh Fly and Fabulous: Fifty Years of Hip Hop Style, Pushing at The Boundaries of Fashion.” at the F.I.T. Museum.
Photos: dievca F.I.T. Museum 03/2023
Sorry – a bit out of it.Posted: March 9, 2023 Filed under: Master, Relationships, submissive | Tags: BDSM, D/s, D/s relationships, dievca, Illness, lay low, Life, Master, sick Leave a comment
Master and His dievca shared the wealth and both are under the weather at the moment.
Back in action soon.
End of Season Elegant – Faux LeatherPosted: March 3, 2023 Filed under: Clothing, Dresses | Tags: BDSM, clothing sale, D/s, dievca, downtown chic, Dress, faux leather, FIT museum, ladylike, Master, pants, Presentation Outfit, submissive, weekend Leave a comment
dievca has gotten many compliments and much use out of her Good American Faux Leather Wide Leg Pants. They are slippery and do run warm (faux leather doesn’t breath), so you need to be aware of when and where to wear them.
dievca’s success prompted her to keep an eye on an expensive faux leather dress from Proenza Schouler White Label – original price $650. The dress is sleeveless, has a full two-way zipper, drawstring waist and is currently on sale – $280 at ShopBop, but dievca was able to price match with Saks 5th Avenue for $185.
It was non-returnable, so dievca was nervous – but it has turned out to be lovely and something different – she’ll be wearing it with boots and a hat for Master this weekend to attend Fresh, Fly and Fabulous at FIT.
Old FavoritesPosted: February 25, 2023 Filed under: Collars, Dresses, Shoes, submissive | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Ease, Elegant, erotic, Go-Bag, Life, Master, practical, Presentation Outfit, Salvatore Ferragamo, Vivienne Westwood, Wolford Leave a comment
When the schedule is packed and you are rushing around –
it helps to know that you have the “old favorites” in a Go-bag.
All readily available to make an elegant Presentation for Master:
- Vivienne Westwood “Orgie” Dress in Orange
- Salvatore Ferragamo Black Leather Heels
- Wolford black Thigh-Hi Stay-up stockings
- Hartman Rose Collar and Lead in Gold Lether
- Chanel Red Allure Lipstick
Now for the real thing~ ❤️Posted: February 14, 2023 Filed under: D/s Relationship, Submission | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Elegant, erotic, impact play, Master, submissive, Valentine's Day, wishes Leave a comment
Thinking of You
and missing Your “Special Touch”
on Valentine’s Day.
XO your dievča
I’m sorry, I’ve plans for tomorrow…Posted: February 5, 2023 Filed under: D/s Relationship, Submission | Tags: BDSM, bondage, D/s, dievca, Dominant, Elegant, erotic, Life, Master, play, schedule, Scheduling, submissive Leave a comment
A long tall drink ≠ dehydrationPosted: January 27, 2023 Filed under: Analysis, Body Type | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dehydration, dievca, fluid replacement, Health, idioms, Life, Master, workout Leave a comment
OK, dievca is not long legged – nor a “hottie”. And Master isn’t that tall – though He is handsome. In this case, dievca needs a long tall cool drink to replace fluids.
dievca has been running slightly dehydrated. she thinks its because of wearing masks during Covid she got out of the habit of drinking enough fluids. That and upping her workouts in a pool setting where she doesn’t realize that she is sweating.
The U.S. National Academies of Sciences, Engineering, and Medicine recommend 15.5 c (3.7 L) of fluids a day for men and 11.5 c (2.7 L) for women. This includes all fluids — not just water — from anything you eat and drink all day. Everything from coffee to cucumbers to chicken contains some fluid, and it all adds up.
Research suggests that hydration status doesn’t differ much if someone drinks water, cola, or fruit juice, provided that they drink enough to stay hydrated. So there doesn’t appear to be a clear winner. Even caffeinated beverages, such as coffee and tea, can be hydrating, as long as you limit intake to no more than 300 mg caffeine per day (about three 8-oz cups of coffee).
Cleaning the closet for Master: “The Basics Ma’am, just the Basics”Posted: January 13, 2023 Filed under: Clothing, Master | Tags: BDSM, cleaning, closet, Curated Basics, D/s, dievca, Dominant, helping, Humor, Master, Shopping, submissive, wardrobe revamp Leave a comment
dievca found this blog title in her “drafts” file. It was from 2016.
she just went through Master’s Closet this past Monday, 2023.
The sorting/clear out is not an annual activity, but every two to three years.
The process consists of emptying everything out of the closet and drawers. Taking a good look at each piece and sorting into a keep pile, repair pile, rag pile and Goodwill pile. Master loves to get rid of items. Then there is the painful process of buying replacement items either online or in person.
dievca steps in with the second part of the process because Master tends to avoid shopping for replacement items. But if you have tossed 3 faded/stained black t-shirts that you wear on repeat – you will need to replace them.
So, a large Nordstrom’s credit dictated the shopping destination for this year. Instead of Barneys and Banana Republic t-shirts, Master will be trying Vince, Rag & Bone and Frame Denim. Apparently, dievca will be watching a fashion show of “the basics” the next time they meet.
she thinks she will love this Rag & Bone Dexter waffle -weave cotton sweater:
Nipples in the SunPosted: January 10, 2023 Filed under: Home and Garden, Master | Tags: BDSM, clouds, D/s relationships, dievca, Dominant, erect, erotic, Life, light, Master, Nipples, play, Southern Exposure, submissive, Sunshine Leave a comment
Master has an apartment with Southern Exposure.
It makes for lovely D/s play in the sun.
The nipple on the cloud looked like dievca’s nipples yesterday,
at attention for their Master.
The Brightest Thing on a Rainy Day!Posted: January 9, 2023 Filed under: Entertainment, Home and Garden | Tags: coffee, D/s, D/s relationships, Dominant, happy, Humor, Life, Master, Monday, Morning, Rain, sharing, submissive Leave a comment
Isn’t the Good Morning Coffee!
It’s catching up with your Sir or Madam. XO
Gracefully with Personality: Vivienne Westwood at YOOX and dievca’s closetPosted: December 31, 2022 Filed under: Body Type, Dresses, Fashion, Shoes | Tags: aging, BDSM, D/s, dievca, Elegant, erotic, Honor, Life, Love, Master, Presentation Outfits, Shopping, Vivienne Westwood Leave a comment
The first 7 Vivienne Westwood dresses are available at YOOX.
The second 8 Vivienne Westwood items are in dievca’s closet (starting at the 2nd green dress). she’s missing photos of her indigo “Hangover” dress that has been worn to the woof and her “go to” jersey funeral dress in a very dark burgundy.
When Century 21 was open in NYC – dievca would haunt the Vivienne Westwood racks and if they had a sample sale – she was there. The items are cut for curvy in mind and ladylike enough for Master, quirky enough for His dievca.
dievca will be wearing the sequin dress for New Year’s Eve.
Obviously dievca did not know Vivienne Westwood, but she admired her boldness in growing old gracefully with personality. May we all grow older gracefully with personality!
and a sidestep with ScandalPosted: December 20, 2022 Filed under: Entertainment, Master, Relationships | Tags: 1980's, BDSM, D/s, dievca, earworm, flashback, Humor, Life, Master, music, music videos, Scandal, submissive Leave a comment
Master was teasing His dievca about “her” music when she told Him about watching music videos on Sunday evenings for an hour because the family dievca was living with during her sports training didn’t have cable. Weekly, at 10:58 pm, this song would come on to close out the music video hour.
The next thing you know, Master is singing the “earworm” for the rest of the day…and dievca is flashing back to being 14 years old~
What you would really like — then reality returnsPosted: December 13, 2022 Filed under: Accessories, Clothing, D/s Relationship, Jewelry | Tags: BDSM, Christmas, D/s, dievca, Gifts, Holiday 2022, Master, Shopping, submissive, wishlist Leave a comment
Master asked His dievca what she would like for Christmas. A loaded question…
dievca would love these earrings as a gift for anything:
They are the 302 Fine Jewelry “Stay Flirty” Natural Diamond & Rainbow Gemstone Graduated Dangle Earrings 14K Yellow White Rose Gold at a whopping $3714.99
Which brings us to the Reality part of dievca’s Christmas Wishlist (click on the photos for descriptions):
Other options dievca offered to Master:
- A Facial – the average price of a facial in NYC is $150
- Cafe Grumpy or Dunkin’ Donuts/Starbucks gift card for traveling
- Dinner/Lunch out after seeing the FIT Shoes: Anatomy, Identity, Magic exhibit
- Nike Air Max 97 or 98 (either model works) size Women’s 7.5 – open to any color. Works for the knee. On sale is good.
Knowing Master – it will be something completely different and just as awesome.
Coffee as a Stimulant….Posted: December 5, 2022 Filed under: Entertainment, Master | Tags: BDSM, bowel movement, coffee, D/s, dievca, Humor, Life, Master, Monday, Morning, morphine, submissive 1 Comment
A few years ago Master had major surgery — the morphine was lovely, but it had consequences…
If dievca is ever stuck – just give her coffee. Leaded or unleaded will work.
It wasn’t so easy for Master…
And they popped out…Posted: December 1, 2022 Filed under: Body Type, D/s Relationship, lingerie | Tags: BDSM, boobs, Chemise, D/s, dievca, disaster, Dominant, erotic, Humor, Lace, Life, Master, Presentation Outfit, Sexy, submissive, Undergarments, Voluptuous 2 Comments
dievca caught up with Master for their Anniversary. she was keeping it simple with a Blush Lingerie “Sweetest Sin” Chamise. The only problem was it was a bit small on the top so her breasts were — lets say— a bit “unrestrained”.
It was a dievca disaster in the making except for fact that Master loved it!
Expect the UnexpectedPosted: November 30, 2022 Filed under: Master, Musings, Relationships, submissive | Tags: Anniversary, being open, D/s relationships, dievca, Dominance and submission, gift, Joy, Life, Master, sharing Leave a comment
Your Knight in Shining Armor can come in many different shapes and sizes. They may be what you are looking for or they may be something completely different. All dievca can suggest is to “be open” and your gift may fulfill your Life more than you could imagine.
XOXO-OOOOOOOPosted: November 29, 2022 Filed under: D/s Relationship, Dresses | Tags: Anniversary, BDSM, D/s, dievca, Dominant, Elegant, Humor, Life, Loewe, Love, Master, Shopping, submissive Leave a comment
The Loewe “Hug” Dress
Are you covering your assets or is your Mistress giving you a hug from behind?
dievca will be giving Master a HUG and more – its their anniversary.
Sensual BananaPosted: November 22, 2022 Filed under: Entertainment | Tags: Banana, BDSM, cock worship, D/s, dievca, erotic, Fellatio, Humor, Master, Sexy, submissive, youtube 1 Comment
Classic Moment of falling into the YouTube Rabbit Hole.
dievca hates to be photographed or videoed – but she thinks she could do this with panache!
(she just practiced on Master, yesterday…)
Master is back!Posted: November 8, 2022 Filed under: lingerie, submissive | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, grooming, Life, Master, OPI, Pedicure, Presentation, Purple Leave a comment
The temperature hit 76 F (25 C), dievca’s back was sweating from her backpack while cycling to the Dermatologist. After getting a clear Skin Cancer Screening – dievca stopped by a Nail Salon for a Mani/ Pedi to pretty up her tootsies for Master.
Now, dievca doesn’t always follow the season’s “hot” colors – she chooses what speaks to her in the moment. This color was created by OPI in 2012: Suzi and the 7 Dusseldorfs.
We’ll see if Master appreciates the grooming or the lingerie. XO
Top Photo: dievca’s tootsies 11/2022
Bottom Photo: Blush Lingerie Demi-Chemise, ash grey with purple.