Did you get the sh*t kicked out of you growing up?
Not literally, figuratively?
Did you fail?
Are you a better person for it or are you bitter?
Or are you from an ‘Everyone Gets a Trophy’ generation?
It started when dievca was thinking about Generation Z, Millenials, the Greatest Generation, and World War II. Her feeling is that we couldn’t drop everything and make a united effort to save the country. But the current World and warfare are different and require different skills – so maybe it would work out.
dievca moved on to pondering failing and recovery.
Midori Ito offers an excellent example of something going to sh*t and picking yourself up to keep going. Click the GIF and a link will take you to the better quality video.
dievca rewatched the movie Miracle to celebrate the 40th Anniversary of the 1980 USA Olympic Hockey Team winning Gold.
This flowed into thinking about the 1980’s Olympics (dievca went to watch) and she saw athletes, including hockey players, training hard. What about the people who didn’t make it through to the Olympics. What about the last two players who got cut from the 1980 USA Olympic Hockey team? Herb Brooks got cut from the 1960’s Olympics, he came back as a coach with a mission.
How did the two guys who got cut handle it?
One was devastated (UNH) and one was pissed (Harvard) – both turned out well.
The player who was devasted talked about how he got through it, with his Dad telling him about his experiences in WWII – how his daughter insisted that he watch the movie ‘Miracle’ movie with her in the theater and brought her whole University of Maryland Women’s Lacrosse team with her (35 girls) – which took the edge off the pain.
How he got an offer to play in Finland which taught him he still loved hockey and how he’s talked to kids about getting cut from an important team and helped them look forward. How he connected with Herb Brooks afterward.
The other guy just thinks Brooks had it out for him and never wanted to meet him, again. He moved on and lived his life — never saying anything bad, raising a good family, but never involving himself with the ‘Miracle’ story.
A good article about the last two players who were cut can be found – here.
dievca really believes that human beings need to know how to fail and push through adversity.
The ‘every kid gets a trophy’ mentality:
Curtails Character Development
Short-Changes Real-Life Preparation
Robs “Authentic” Self-Esteem
Devalues Real Success
Not a good start for the below-average, average or exceptional human being.
But, dievca is worrying about something as an ‘old fogie’ and the World will go on. Kids who are given a trophy and have helicopter parents/bulldozer parents will figure Life out at some point.
Those ‘latchkey’ Kids in GenX did…Uhh…maybe?
You know, the US Midwest is a really beautiful place. The photos are of the dawn of a day that is supposed to hold rain. There is a woodpecker, pecking. Geese are flying back up North. Squirrels are scrambling, a Fox found its stash and moved it (there is a fox den somewhere on dievca’s parents land).
dievca is usually very aware of her surroundings and bodily movements in space.
Master calls her, “Self Aware”, internally and externally.
That brings us to personal Health.
With older Parents, one may be hyper-aware of Mortality. And you begin to be more in tune with your body — or you will choose to ignore your body…
dievca’s Aunt fought help, hid out and passed with maggots on her legs – it was a battle – always.
dievca’s Doctor put it this way, “There are patients who check their stool and those who don’t. Those who do, pay attention to little things in their body even if they are not palatable. They know when something is going wrong.” dievca checks, dievca’s Mom – doesn’t. dievca’s Dad, does…
It’s killing dievca’s Mom that everyone is aware and checking. Perhaps even making commentary.
But, she is the one benefitting from the checks and analysis.
And it is making EVERYONE’s life easier.
Mom is a pain-in-the-a**, but not as disagreeable and nasty as dievca’s Aunt
So, dievca is an advocate of bodily and mental awareness.
It saves a lot of trouble down the line.
Don’t forget to stop and analyze the Dawn.
That’s pure Joy.
I am afraid that I am going to babble to you the next few days. It’s my way of pushing through and letting off steam. This release helps minimize my explosion of upset emotions about Dad. The meltdown will come, the good news is that you will probably be in India by then~
Airline ticket – check ($400)
Dial 7 – check ($29)
Rental Car – check ($97)
Maybe I was born in Missouri instead of Illinois~
I know I’ve said this, but I NEED to say it, again.
I have amazing friends. You included. I don’t feel alone.
Well, here we go.
He could live or he could die and I don’t have any control over the results.
Let me be calm and breathe.
This is why I kept going back so many times, I have nothing left to say – it has all been said.
My Dad knows I love him and I know he loves me.
But if he goes…I am going to miss him fiercely.
who else will give me hell and tell me that I am out of the will? d.