Waking up at 5 am to remember you missed something.
Posted: March 2, 2023 Filed under: Analysis, submissive | Tags: Age, Annoyed, BDSM, D/s, dievca, Edward Hopper, forgot, Life, messy, perimenopause, Whitney Museum Leave a comment
dievca had tickets scheduled to the Edward Hopper showing at the Whitney Museum, last evening. she completely forgot. she’s just hoping that she can use them before the event closes or just use them for the museum. she’ll be stopping by today…
Dinner problems…
Posted: December 4, 2022 Filed under: Accessories, Body Type, Clothing | Tags: aging, awareness, Christmas, eating, Food, Friends, Holidays 2022, Humor, Life, outfit, perimenopause Leave a commentdievca had a lovely evening – but she is learning that her body changes include how much her stomach can hold. she though she was being mindful with the amount of rich food she was eating. she didn’t eat before she arrived. she had done a good amount movement throughout the day, but the amount of food and drink she consumed killed her. It might have been the full glass of water and two generous pours of wine. Perhaps one has to be even more mindful, next time.
The good news was that the rain stopped, plus dievca’s Host and Hostess had no idea of her distress.
Again, a lovely evening – not quite as formal as dievca thought, and dievca got to trim a full Christmas Tree!
Remember, dievca has a Charlie Brown Tree in her apartment…
What dievca wore:
And so it goes~ Gala Night
Posted: October 28, 2022 Filed under: Clothing, Entertainment, Neighborhood Anecdotes (NYC) | Tags: BDSM, biking, D/s, dievca, gala, Generation X, Life, NYC, outfit, perimenopause, photo, submissive Leave a commentThe Moon was rising over Manhattan when dievca set out to the show and the Gala:
she opted to wear:
dievca doesn’t know if the COVID epidemic caused her to go back to her Generation X roots of being a “loner”, perimenopause is causing her to get tired/irritated or starting work at 6 am put her over the edge by 10:00 pm – after 3 hours she wanted out. So, she left after the meal, before the awards, to hike up her skirt and bike her a** home.
Photo: dievca – Moonrise Chelsea NYC 10/2022, dievca’s bike, foot, dress, coat and bag…10/2022
Thrown into a World you remember
Posted: April 8, 2022 Filed under: Discussion | Tags: aging, dievca, females, Humor, Joy, kids, Life, Love, Memories, menstruation, perimenopause, tweens Leave a comment
12 and 13 years old can be tough ages for Kids – Girls in particular. It’s a lovely, awkward, silly, loud, insecure, sad, joyous time. As dievca is rolling towards menopause, she’s recently been thrown into the company of those new to menstruation. Both camps are riding the rollercoaster of hormones and emotions.
The funny thing is that dievca is finding patience with her own body through finding patience for the kids.
As she listens and soothes – she is soothed in return and it brings back memories of her Mom, Aunts, Cousins, and female coaches. dievca finds herself saying things that those lovely Women said to her and she rolled her eyes at 13. Now she knows why they said them and meant them to be true.
A new twist – estrogen drop
Posted: September 3, 2021 Filed under: Body Type, Musings | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, diversity, Humor, Life, Master, Nipples, pain, perimenopause, sensation play, sensitivity, submissive Leave a comment
So your female submissive is in her 40’s to 50’s and her levels of hormones have been shifting all over the place.
One bonus might be a drop in estrogen which causes the progesterone levels rise, triggering her nipples to be more sensitive. Perhaps her nipples have been a non-entity for years and now they are front and center – literally – shape and size. Something that has been numb in the past, has become incredibly touchy – which makes for another dimension in play.
Go cautiously, but the bodily change might offer diversity and delight for both Dominant and submissive!
dievca has found one positive aspect of perimenopause and Master ran with it!
A sense of release~
Posted: July 9, 2021 Filed under: Clothing, Home and Garden | Tags: Age, attachment, BDSM, Body Image, closet, D/s, dievca, Emotions, frustration, Life, perimenopause, resale, submissive Leave a comment
When your body changes and you decide that half of the clothes you have kept on-hand are out of your realm of revisiting, it is depressing and frustrating. Add that one foot has grown a size because of breakage, so gorgeous shoes that no longer fit need to be weeded out.
You push yourself to rip through the closets and try-on EVERYTHING….
1st you sell to Buffalo Exchange and Crossroads (made $200) – the “better” load goes to The RealReal (photo of boxes for pick-up). High-end pieces to Vestiaire Collective or Decades. Leftovers and rags to Goodwill – and you find a place for those good condition bras at freethegirls.org. Who knows if they actually use the bras, but you are able to pack and send then out of your apartment – rather than looking at them in disgust because they are excellent quality and you cannot figure out what to do with them.
Release!
The closet now holds clothing you can wear IMMEDIATELY and pieces that you could wear in a pinch, shoes that don’t take 10 minutes to get on because of the foot issue.
And a few pieces you couldn’t let go of~
dievca has killed herself the past 10 days.
Where do you fall?
Posted: June 22, 2021 Filed under: Analysis, Entertainment, Relationships | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Family, genetics, Humor, Live, Love, Parents, perimenopause, sleep, submissive Leave a comment
Graphic from sleepjunkie.com
Research shows we are actually genetically predisposed to be either a morning or an evening person. According to chronobiology (the study of time in living things), cells in everything from plants to people work on their own internal ‘clock’.
So, when you had a Father who woke up at 4 am every morning for years after driving the boys to hockey practice and a Mother who stayed up reading or doing chores until 1 am and would still prefer that schedule, where does a dievca fall on that genetic predisposition? Note: One brother is up at 4 am, the other is up until 2 am…
This question is lurking in dievca’s mind as she tries to get better quality sleep during her perimenopause phase…
Well~ work dictates and this Summer is asking for 6 am starts~
dievca will follow her Dad’s guidance and be an Early Bird – at least until she catches her second wind at 10 pm one night throw the best laid plans into Night Owl mode.
In a Panic…
Posted: May 2, 2021 Filed under: Dresses | Tags: BDSM, Body Type, closet, clothing size, COVID-19, D/s, dievca, frustration, gala, perimenopause, submissive 2 Commentsdievca has an outdoor event to attend. The 1st of its kind in a year +.
Even after the never-ending process of reducing her closet – she has a number of items available to wear – IF THEY FIT WELL. Health and movement-wise, dievca is in pretty good shape. Deep sleep (physical recovery sleep) and perimenopause-wise, her body shape has shifted – a belly has appeared. Her closet hasn’t shifted to keep up with it because she wants to see what happens with menopause and HRT.
God, what to wear without looking pregnant.
Before she goes digging deep – here is what she thinks will fit easily:
Eliza Faulkner Cotton Sissy Dress
Loup Charmant Hydrus Dress Cadmium Red
Faithfull the Brand Sonja Dress
Then there is the question of a matching mask~
Cross-fingers. dievca will let you know what she finally decides to wear.
Weighted Blankets helping hot flashes? (Something of use)
Posted: March 26, 2021 Filed under: Accessories, Discussion, Home and Garden | Tags: aging, BDSM, blanket, D/s, dievca, Humor, Life, perimenopause, practical, sleep, something of use Leave a comment
Although other medical conditions can cause them, hot flashes most commonly are due to menopause — the time when menstrual periods become irregular and eventually stop. In fact, hot flashes are the most common symptom of the menopausal transition.
During a hot flash, you might have:
- A sudden feeling of warmth spreading through your chest, neck and face
- A flushed appearance with red, blotchy skin
- Rapid heartbeat
- Perspiration, mostly on your upper body
- A chilled feeling as the hot flash lets up
- Feelings of anxiety
The frequency and intensity of hot flashes vary among women. Hot flashes may be mild or so intense that they disrupt daily activities. They can happen at any time of day or night. Nighttime hot flashes (night sweats) may wake you from sleep and can cause long-term sleep disruptions.
Weighted blankets are therapeutic blankets that weigh between 5 to 30 pounds. The pressure from the extra weight mimics a therapeutic technique called deep pressure stimulation.
Deep pressure stimulation uses hands-on pressure to relax the nervous system. Doing so may help:
- relieve pain
- lessen anxiety
- improve mood
Deep pressure stimulation doesn’t have to be completely hands on. With weighted blankets, the same pressure comes from having the blanket wrapped around the body.
dievca learned about weighted blankets from a friend in Europe who is a Therapist – they issue the blankets to their patients. dievca bought one because the color made her happy, it matched her bedding and she thought she would try it while napping~
she didn’t realize that it would became important a part of her strategy to get deep sleep during perimenopause~
Numbers – as a trend, don’t lie.
Though dievca sleeps 7-8 hours a night — according to her watch, she wasn’t going into the “deep sleep” phase for very long. she could feel that she needed something more for healing and weight loss. dievca modified her eating/drinking patterns, bed time consistency, showering pattern, etc. Not working. The “hot flashes” got her at the end of a sleep cycle throughout the night, every time – and minimal deep sleep (5-10 min a night) occurred only at the beginning of the night.
Enter the weighted blanket….
Add 15 min – 1 hour of deep sleep.
“Hot Flashes” still occur towards morning – but there are less blocks of wake-up time between sleep cycles.
You may be asking – “Doesn’t the weighted blanket make you hotter?”
dievca’s Bearaby Velvet Napper has a large weave with “holes” for air flow and she pushes it off as much as any other blanket during a “hot flash”. You do have to be careful because the blanket is heavy and one can strain a muscle if you don’t pay attention. (Yes, it happened.) But, the time underneath that weighted blanket yields longer and consistent “deep sleep” which is where a body can heal.
Something of use.
It’s TMI – so no one tells you directly (something of use)
Posted: August 7, 2020 Filed under: Body Type, Discussion | Tags: Age, BDSM, body awareness, colonoscopy, D/s, dievca, Health, healthcare, Humor, Life, perimenopause, submissive Leave a comment
No one talks about peri-menopause. No one talks about colonoscopies.
For both topics, there are “hints” and “innuendo” – interspersed with potty humor (colonoscopy) or the suggestion of mental instability (perimenopause).
dievca is looking at both topics straight in the eye. One came to the attention of the other this week….
The colonoscopy prep is tedious. Here are some things of use to help one get through it:
- Chill your prep solution as long as you can before drinking
- Don’t sniff the prep solution
- Don’t swish the solution in your mouth because you are pondering swallowing
- Use a straw to keep the texture and salty and sweet taste away from your tongue
- Take small to medium sips
- Swallow as fast as you can to limit the taste in the mouth
- Take a small sip of water/clear fluid to dilute and rinse the taste from your mouth
- If you feel nauseous, take longer pauses between sips – even if you go beyond the time limit for drinking the prep
- If you feel like you need something more substantial in your stomach than liquids, suck on hard clear candies, eat light-colored Jello, apple sauce, and Italian ice. No red or purple colors.
- Keep a cream available for a sore bum
- If everything coming out stays neon yellow – don’t panic. As long as its clear, you are ok.
- Finish the prep as best you can, but know that if you throw some up – it is not a problem as long as emissions are clear
- Your blood pressure is going to be high due to dehydration, don’t panic
- Schedule the procedure in the morning, so you don’t have to wait if someone before you has a problem and you can get to your caffeine as soon as possible after the surgery.
For the Ladies:
Perimenopause?
When dievca checked in for the procedure – they insisted on her taking a pregnancy test (!)…..on the hint that she still gets periods. That’s where perimenopause rears its head. How old are the people getting their 1st colonoscopy? In their 50’s – when does perimenopause start? late 40’s early 50’s on the average. The question, “Do you still get your period?”, can be a loaded question and awkward to answer~ Be aware. It’s tough to pee in a cup when you are dehydrated.
The procedure itself is quite simple and your a** does not hang out for everyone to see.
A side note: A close friend’s sister died at 40 from colon cancer. dievca’s friend was constantly on people to get a colonoscopy ASAP. Sadly, that friend was the one who beat gallbladder cancer only to die from pancreatic cancer at 50. dievca finally honored her promise to her friend, she knows her friend was watching. All clear.
Wearing a Man’s shirt (a dievca disaster)
Posted: March 1, 2020 Filed under: Disasters, submissive | Tags: BDSM, cock worship, D/s, dievca, Humor, Life, Love, Master, masturbation, Men's Clothing, perimenopause, practical, submissive Leave a comment
dievca looked great upon arrival to Master’s (see below).
Too bad she forgot the food and presentation lingerie…
she did remember a collar, vibrator (shmoo), anal plug, penis gag, and hood.
Priorities? Or perimenopause….
dievca asked Master for one of His button-down dress shirts
she rinsed off, inserted the anal plug, put on Master’s Collar, added lipstick, buttoned the shirt up over her naked body and sauntered out to the living room.
she then asked Master if He would be willing to watch His dievca masturbate on the chair across the room. Master was game.
dievca unbuttoned the top of the shirt to give a hint of cleavage, lifted the hem and draped a leg over the arm of the chair to give Master a clear view of her pussy. Master smiled as she broke out the shmoo and placed it on her clit.
Something was missing.
dievca strapped the penis gag to her mouth and explained to Master that she would like to imagine she was sucking Master’s Cock as she masturbated. Master’s Cock grew large as He watched His dievca.
Something was still wrong.
dievca took off the penis gag and asked Master if He would be willing to allow dievca to suck His Cock instead of watching. He agreed.
A ‘performance’ is fun, but audience participation is much more exciting.
And Master’s shirt was an excellent piece of Lingerie, dievca doesn’t understand why people think it is demeaning to wear a Man’s shirt….
Racked Article:
Do Women Actually Wear Men’s Dress Shirts After Sex?
Where does this trope come from, what does it mean, and does anyone really do it?
dievca’s arrival outfit for a cold blustery day:
dievca 