You all are probably much more aware than dievca – sometimes she is clueless…
“Your sure are smart, but you sure a dumb.” was a phrase that her Dad used on occasion. Please don’t think it was meant meanly, it was just social commentary. dievca was in LaLa Land growing up – a bookworm and science geek. She was “test” smart. Common sense didn’t arrive until later – and despite dievca’s fierce practical streak, sometimes common sense disappears to this day.
dievca has always vacuumed her hardwood floors, lugging out the vacuum from where she hides it in the deep of a closet.
Her friends stayed in the apartment for two weeks and they find a microfiber sweeper in dievca’s washer/dryer closet.
dievca’s life is transformed.
She knew the previous renters left this flexible static duster:
It’s good for ceilings, top of the refrigerator, and that’s about it…(yes, she tried it on the floor – disaster, too flexible)
Because her friends couldn’t find the hidden vacuum, they found SOMETHING of USE!
The “Quickie” Floor Duster/ Wet Mop. (www.quickie.com)
dievca felt like an a** because she had no clue she had this available for 2+ years. It’s making her Life so much easier. The dust from NYC is easier to collect and the vacuum doesn’t have to make an appearance as frequently. Plus, the microfiber pad washes like a dream and is easier to put on and remove.
It was a quick trip to Mom, 4 days. Packed a lot into the time. POA shift, moved Mom on to hospice, need a new hospital bed – motor died (made do with a log and seat cushion to change the angles for Mom), attempted to get quality WiFi (need a new router), attempted to get the gardens/yard into some semblance of order (including picking up 15 cigarette butts on the driveway from a caregiver – what is wrong with people. Are they born in a barn? We have a cigarette repository out there.), maintenance man/snow removal man is no longer working – looking for help (Note his kid moved away and they no longer need to store his classic car in the garage…hmmm? Maybe that had something to do with being unavailable…), cleaned the odd places in the house and the upstairs as best as possible.
Grocery shopped at night and saw ⇑⇑⇑ the MOON!
It’s Full this Evening. Don’t forget to shake your wallet at the Moon!
And think of dievca flying home late tonight. XO
dievca is a huge fan of Baggu Bags and has used a couple of them until they actually wore out! She’ll replace them at some point, but as a change of pace – she ran into these recycled taffeta, embroidered totes:
The typical American family uses 1,500 plastic bags every year. But thanks to designer Lauren DiCioccio, you can cut down on waste and look really cool doing it. Her funky embroidered fabric bag was inspired by San Francisco’s 2007 plastic bag ban. She keeps the same cheerful “thank you” messages on each bag, but uses recycled taffeta instead of plastic. Take one out next time you’re shopping or offer one as a gift to pass along the Earth-loving vibes. They (the family/friends or Host/Hostess) can reuse and reduce ‘til it wears out. Made in San Francisco.
100% Recycled Polyester Taffeta Fabric Bag, Polyester Thread
20″ L x 13″ H
Machine wash, spot treat stains with stain stick or similar spray and wash, hang to dry
Less expensive and more practical than the Alexander Wang Rhinestone Bag version!
Western Belt Print Bag – and ode to Impact Play or Bondage
A bag to carry your accoutrements: thudders and stingers or buckled cuffs and collars
Paul Smith‘s Western Belt Print will offer a lot of additional room for water, towels, a change of clothes, etc. A fun, tongue in cheek nod to your pleasurable inclinations!
~Something of Use~
Update – the bag sold on August 2nd…sorry, dievca was too slow…
Yes, its ridiculous in the realm of Life and Life’s current challenges – but – dievca finally feels like she has mastered a comfortable & clean look for traveling. A personal success.
Something of Use!
A bag with heart. A bag for the Beach! Entirely hand-woven with plastic recycled off the beaches of Bali and repurposed into a gorgeous tote to treasure forever. No stranger to sand and salt, the Jolene is perfect for beach days. Toss in your towel and book of Proust enjoy your day in the sun. 100% handwoven recycled plastic 14” x 10.5” . It’s $211 and available in Cherry, Pearl, Sky and Black. There is a medium size, too for $175
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dievca had two days in Santa Fe to wander the downtown area. she was having a foot issue after walking the trails in Sedona, so her choices were driven by shoes:
Outfit #1 – Museums and Shopping
Outfit #2 – Dinner and Music
dievca bought the red sneakers and two other items:
- Golightly Cashmere (Designed and Made in Santa Fe) Rainbow Wrap
- New Mexico Flag Red T-shirt
(Click on the photos to see the brands)
The backpack takes the load, the Nikes carry the load, the sweater keeps it warm, the linen keeps it cool, the spandex allows flexibility. dievca wore black incase something gets spilled on the plane, plus its forgiving on body type so she didn’t look too sloppy.
dievca ordered items from her favorite Montreal, Quebec store ssense.com. The items were on sale and she had been watching them for awhile – the total came up to an amount over $800. She bought them in one batch….bad choice. Had she made two purchases, she wouldn’t have met the US/Canada Border Customs Threshold amount and she would have not had to pay customs….
Instead, she had to schlep to the Main Post Office to pay the customs to get her items. Yep, it was a significant amount = $400+. Why did she chose to pay it rather than refusing the items?
- They were items she thought about a long time before purchase.
- They were unavailable on sale anywhere else on the web.
- ssense.com offered to put a one-time 110-120% credit towards her next purchase (s).
- dievca buys on ssense.com consistently enough to use the credits.
Visualize dievca opening the box the items in the Main NYC Post Office, stuffing the items into a carryall so she could schlepp it all back to her apartment without her arms falling off. Would it have been easier if dievca had a car? Have you ever tried to find parking in Midtown?
Photo: Glamorous items in a non-glamorous bag. XO
dievca was reading an article about when family members die, its hard to get rid of their “stuff” because of your memories attached to their items or the memories of the person who used the item. Whew – that was a mouthful. For example, dievca has her Dad’s Levi’s looped Terry Cloth Shirt from the 1970’s. With a boat neck and 3/4 sleeves in white with blue stripes it looks like a marinière-style shirt. She remembers him wearing it to the Tennis Courts or the Pool. It’s still wearable and looped terry cloth clothing is “in”.
And then there is other stuff that you keep because you think you will use it. And – shocker! – you do use it. Like a vintage Ice Cream scoop (1937) from you Aunt and her two 10″ Aires Box Fans (circa 2004 – received, new in box).
Mind you, those box fans have now been used and knocked over a number of times and because they are plastic/slighty flexible – they keep bouncing back for more. Something of Use!
All three items keep you cool in the Summer, all three items are practical and all three offer memories.
Three items that dievca doesn’t feel guilty for keeping.
After watching the chaos of two crashes on the first day of the Tour de France. dievca has complete empathy with anyone who has road rash. Between the gauze dressings, ointments, sensitivity to the sun – its can be hard to dress with Road Rash.
In the heat of the NYC Summer, dievca normally wears dresses. The loss of skin on her shin makes that an awkward dressing option. she did find an elegant and comfortable option. Plus, it will work for today’s 2021 NYC PRIDE PARADE!
- Club Monaco Jarinda Navy Blue Linen Split Neck Top $98
- Suzie Kondi Organic Cotton Terry Navy Wide-Leg Pants $225
- Tory Burch 70’s Navy Suede Flip Flops $98
- Michael Kors Pride 2021 Mask $28.50
dievca added the MACHETE Chain Collar and Anklet
Its always a challenge to carry a watermelon home from the Grocery Store – especially when you are walking.
Japanese designer, Tsuchiya Kaban, leather bag provides an elegant, luxury vessel tote around your fruit. Holding one round watermelon, the carrier was crafted by Yusuke Kadoi as part of a project titled “The Fun of Carrying”, which encouraged designers to create playful, inventive items as side projects.
The bag is just a concept – if it was put into production, there may be an audience for it!
Photos: Tsuchiya Kaban 2020
dievca didn’t look pregnant and received multiple compliments on the dress. Note – its been long enough since Melania Trump wore the Big Pink Dress (2017) and its still in style. Plus, it was the perfect choice for an outdoor event.
Wipe the sweat off that brow – whew!
Ok, its traveling in the mind.
A journey to grow as a Human via education and re-branding.
A journal is needed to keep the ideas and pieces together.
Especially when you are ‘old school’ and work better with paper and pen 🙄 ~
- Smythson Navy cross-grain lambskin journal.
- Features “The Only Way is Up” around the right corner.
- 144 leaves of gilt-edged, pale blue Featherweight paper.
- Dimensions: W11.2 x H16.7cm / W4.4 x H6.6″.
- Made in England.
Established in 1887, Smythson represents over 125 years of British luxury leather goods at their most refined.
Proud holder of three Royal Warrants, Smythson products encompass a wide range of elegantly designed items for men and women, handcrafted with only the highest quality, carefully sourced leathers. Inspired by Frank Smythson’s original diary design from 1908, the Chelsea collection bears the same cross-grain leather used over a century ago. Embodying a selection of lightweight handbags, business and travel accessories, this coveted collection ensures you depart in style, wherever you choose to venture.
In a Past Life, dievca received a set of melamine mixing bowls from Crate and Barrel as a gift.
The bowls have been through multiple moves, lived in Europe, have been dropped, washed, held salads and made cookies numerous times. Like everything else, 29 years of weekly wear has taken a toll. The pouring spouts are chipped, the rubber holders on the bottom are deteriorating and, yet, dievca is holding on to them.
Why? The bowl portion itself has not cracked and Melamine is categorized under Class #7 on the list of Plastic Resin Codes. This means that it is a widely used plastic that does not fit into the more commonly used #1-6 classifications and should not be thrown in your recycling bin. Melamine cannot be melted for recycling like other plastics.
The bowls are a modern classic. Created by Danish designers – Rosti in 1954, the Margrethe bowl was produced and named after then Princess Margrethe, the current queen of Denmark. The easy-care melamine mixing bowls have ergonomic handles, pouring spouts and a non-skid ring at the bottom.
dievca looked up the bowls on the Crate and Barrel website and they are still listed for sale. In fact, they now come with lids – that wasn’t available the first time around. The price? $39.95
The question is….can dievca throw away the still usable bowls and all the memories attached to them.
Gianvito Rossi‘s pair is made from smooth black leather and has gold anklets inspired by equestrian hardware.
Lovely and useful for unpredictable Spring weather.
Showing your BDSM leanings in a subtle manner.
Although other medical conditions can cause them, hot flashes most commonly are due to menopause — the time when menstrual periods become irregular and eventually stop. In fact, hot flashes are the most common symptom of the menopausal transition.
During a hot flash, you might have:
- A sudden feeling of warmth spreading through your chest, neck and face
- A flushed appearance with red, blotchy skin
- Rapid heartbeat
- Perspiration, mostly on your upper body
- A chilled feeling as the hot flash lets up
- Feelings of anxiety
The frequency and intensity of hot flashes vary among women. Hot flashes may be mild or so intense that they disrupt daily activities. They can happen at any time of day or night. Nighttime hot flashes (night sweats) may wake you from sleep and can cause long-term sleep disruptions.
Weighted blankets are therapeutic blankets that weigh between 5 to 30 pounds. The pressure from the extra weight mimics a therapeutic technique called deep pressure stimulation.
Deep pressure stimulation uses hands-on pressure to relax the nervous system. Doing so may help:
- relieve pain
- lessen anxiety
- improve mood
Deep pressure stimulation doesn’t have to be completely hands on. With weighted blankets, the same pressure comes from having the blanket wrapped around the body.
dievca learned about weighted blankets from a friend in Europe who is a Therapist – they issue the blankets to their patients. dievca bought one because the color made her happy, it matched her bedding and she thought she would try it while napping~
she didn’t realize that it would became important a part of her strategy to get deep sleep during perimenopause~
Numbers – as a trend, don’t lie.
Though dievca sleeps 7-8 hours a night — according to her watch, she wasn’t going into the “deep sleep” phase for very long. she could feel that she needed something more for healing and weight loss. dievca modified her eating/drinking patterns, bed time consistency, showering pattern, etc. Not working. The “hot flashes” got her at the end of a sleep cycle throughout the night, every time – and minimal deep sleep (5-10 min a night) occurred only at the beginning of the night.
Enter the weighted blanket….
Add 15 min – 1 hour of deep sleep.
“Hot Flashes” still occur towards morning – but there are less blocks of wake-up time between sleep cycles.
You may be asking – “Doesn’t the weighted blanket make you hotter?”
dievca’s Bearaby Velvet Napper has a large weave with “holes” for air flow and she pushes it off as much as any other blanket during a “hot flash”. You do have to be careful because the blanket is heavy and one can strain a muscle if you don’t pay attention. (Yes, it happened.) But, the time underneath that weighted blanket yields longer and consistent “deep sleep” which is where a body can heal.
Something of use.
Something used daily.
A “table” that conforms to the arm of a sofa or larger chair. The fabric backing controls slipage and the top is easy to clean.
dievca bought her original ‘table’ in Denmark but replaced it with an Amazon product.
Here is an Etsy offering to consider:
EsserGifts – Etsy store offering of the sofa arm table (click here)
If you are like dievca, you have a bunch of zippered pouches lurking around the household ready to catch keys, make-up, masks, and other odds and ends.
If you find yourself sans mask bag and are looking for something a little more classy than a Ziplock bag – Etsy has a couple for you to look at:
dievca would love to buy a set but she can’t justify adding to the chaos in her small apartment…
so she is using a pouch from her stash:
It’s easy to find by feel in her backpack. XO
So, you are looking to got out to eat in NYC. The options are 25% interior seating or al fresco. Outdoors it is!
- What is the weather?
- What time are you eating? Is there sunlight?
- Are you in a garden or on the street?
- Are you in your own separate pod via plexiglass?
- Does the restaurant offer outdoor heaters?
Choosing something to wear shouldn’t be too hard, right?
It’s the middle of November, so dievca suggests layers. This might not be the season to wear your cutest dress with peep-toe shoes. Some form of leg covering pants/tights/leggings and toe covering shoes would be a good start. Add a long-sleeved tee, fleece or sweater, scarf, hat, and long down jacket for a blanket or a cover.
One item that dievca suggests which she doesn’t own…yet…is fingerless gloves.
(Is anyone else having a flashback to Madonna’s ‘Like A Virgin’ lace fingerless gloves?)
Something thicker than lace would work best. dievca is going for cashmere. XO
dievca was looking for one jacket to replace:
Two have zipper issues and the camouflage hasn’t been worn in awhile.
The Marissa Webb Gabby Anorak hasn’t arrived, yet, but do you think that dievca made a good choice? Sh*t, she just noticed that it doesn’t have a hood…
Are you drinking too much coffee? Wine? Gin & Tonics? more Wine?
Keeping water cool in the refrigerator and easily available on the tabletop during meals helps you drink more water.
Or maybe you need that water carafe bedside + aspirin after you drank a bit much…
dievca is using both and trying to go easier on the coffee🍮 and vino🍷. XO
dievca looked great upon arrival to Master’s (see below).
Too bad she forgot the food and presentation lingerie…
she did remember a collar, vibrator (shmoo), anal plug, penis gag, and hood.
Priorities? Or perimenopause….
dievca asked Master for one of His button-down dress shirts
she rinsed off, inserted the anal plug, put on Master’s Collar, added lipstick, buttoned the shirt up over her naked body and sauntered out to the living room.
she then asked Master if He would be willing to watch His dievca masturbate on the chair across the room. Master was game.
dievca unbuttoned the top of the shirt to give a hint of cleavage, lifted the hem and draped a leg over the arm of the chair to give Master a clear view of her pussy. Master smiled as she broke out the shmoo and placed it on her clit.
Something was missing.
dievca strapped the penis gag to her mouth and explained to Master that she would like to imagine she was sucking Master’s Cock as she masturbated. Master’s Cock grew large as He watched His dievca.
Something was still wrong.
dievca took off the penis gag and asked Master if He would be willing to allow dievca to suck His Cock instead of watching. He agreed.
A ‘performance’ is fun, but audience participation is much more exciting.
And Master’s shirt was an excellent piece of Lingerie, dievca doesn’t understand why people think it is demeaning to wear a Man’s shirt….
dievca’s arrival outfit for a cold blustery day:
Do you remember being a kid with dirty glasses?
Then she smartened up in High School and started using dish soap to wash her eyeglasses.
Finding a sink and soap is not very convenient on the fly – so dievca moved on to lens wipes.
Too bad they aren’t environmentally friendly…
- one use
Something of use that lessens the environmental impact, isn’t as messy as soap/water, can be carried in a bag and offers the cleanest vision dievca has found:
Wal-Mart’s Equate Lens Cleaner at $2.88.
This brand is dievca’s favorite. The solution is good for glasses, camera lenses, phone screens/lenses, computer screens, etc. – all at an excellent price.
An 8 oz. bottle lasted dievca about a year with a clean rag/towel doing the wiping.
Argh – dievca is out~
dievca will have to make a trip to New Jersey to visit a Wal-Mart…there’s none in Manhattan.
fluffball. Noun. (plural fluffballs)
- A ball of fluff, or a creature that resembles one.
- Soft things like animals that are cute and /or fun to pet.
- Someone who is or acts like they have their head in the sky.
- Someone who purports to have technical experience in their chosen field, but lacks a fundamental understanding of concepts beyond anything that isn’t the buzzword of the month.
The object attached to her keys so she can find them in her dark backpack interior by feel. dievca’s is real fur. Others. which are faux fur, are easily available.
Note: dievca didn’t realize how much she depends on her sense of touch for the keychain until she gave her 4-year-old messy one to the puppy adoption place along with old towels.
Faux fur options (click photo to purchase, more colors available):
Master loves garter belts and stockings. dievca has avoided wearing panties in that role because the few times she did, she put the panties under the garter belt for looks and then everything has to come off for access. Seeing the photo above….she’s been doing it wrong!
Here’s what the internet said:
Panties on top if you’re wearing them for functional reasons (to suspend your stockings). Panties beneath if you are wearing them just to look sexy. If you want to actually HAVE sex in the garter belt and stockings, panties on top. I’ve always worn my garter belts over my panties because it looks better.
I believe in the garter belt and stockings. I read some statistics, and it’s the most requested lingerie article that prostitutes hear.
Another tip I always say when wearing garter belts, you wear your underwear over your garter belt for easy access. I believe in wearing lingerie because we love it, I don’t believe in putting it on for a man. I believe that we wear it for us, and if someone is lucky enough to be in our presence and experience that, so be it. But the ultimate seductress is one who realizes in everyday practice the cultivation of your sensuality, and how it radiates to other people. That’s what makes others want to be around you.
~ Dita von Teese
Aha! An old dog has just learned a new trick. How about you? XO
dievca’s bag fell apart on her way to Europe. The zipper pull came off and dievca was worried that it would start to unzip as her trip continued via walking, subway, plane, train, car – etc.
So, she had the bag wrapped at the airport and prayed that security wouldn’t see the need to unwrap it.
When she was in Sweden, she ran out to the local luggage/bag shop in a small town and found one rolling duffle-esque bag.
Everything else was the “spinner” suitcases.
dievca stuck with what she knew and bought the roller bag.
she was super happy with the choice when she saw how much trouble people were having with their spinner bags on the cobbled streets and hills in Lisbon, Portugal.
That said, she tried a cheap spinner when traveling to her parent’s house in the Midwest. No cobbled hills, flat surfaces, elevators, and a rental car.
Using a spinner was very easy.
Which One Should You Buy?
Getting a spinner or a roller depends largely on where and how you travel.
Spinners often weigh a bit more and the wheels stick out and are counted in the luggage measurement, so you lose precious space. Also, the more moving pieces, the more opportunities for something to go wrong.
Rollers put pressure on your joints and wrists. You’ll have a tendency to trip people behind you while walking and you can only roll in one direction. Measurement-wise the wheels are inset and do not take as much room.
If you’re an easy-going traveler, or you’re the type who often goes on business trips, spinners will be great. You can walk through miles of airport halls or office buildings without much trouble as most of the weight is taken off your burden. For as long as you will be traveling on predictable terrain, spinners will be your best bet.
Rollers are great for people who travel to many different places. Rollers are more likely to survive a rugged trip. It can survive many terrains and will be easier to pull through city sidewalks, on gravel, across train platforms, onto buses, or even onto ferries.
dievca finds herself keeping two pieces of luggage for the different types of travel she experiences. The good news is her spinner fits into her rolling duffle for storage.
Some suggestions for your future luggage purchases:
“The only fresh blankets I ever saw were on an originating first flight in the morning in a provisioning city.” ~ a Flight Attendent
Don’t be fooled by any plastic packaging over those blankets either. In the year 2000, the Union of Needletrades, Industrial, and Textile Employees accused some of its clients of repackaging their blankets without ever cleaning them, Bravo reported. A few years later, The Wall Street Journal released a report explaining that most airlines only clean their blankets every five to 30 days.
And, in 2017, comedian Nicole Byer shared the horrifying tale of her flight on Delta when she found a piece of human feces inside her first class blanket.
Moral of the story, if you really want to stay warm on your next flight it may be best to bring your own blanket. Here are three easy to pack blankets to ensure you’re only covering yourself in your own germs.
via Travel + Leisure, STACEY LEASCA
Lisa Perry Coloblocked Cashmere Travel sets in Orange and Green
(dievca has green)
Items available at Barneys Warehouse
Beyond travel? The eye mask can be used for your D/s play and the blanket for aftercare.
dievca is talented on her bike, but Fausto Coppi will always have her beat!
Considering he was an amazing Italian Cyclist who loved his espresso…
dievca spills a good amount of coffee on her rides when she’s not using her travel mugs.
This good looking Huffy Surfside Cruiser in a parking lot offered a solution.
Fun Bike, right? $150.00 on Wal-Mart….but its the cup holder that captured dievca’s attention. Something she needs for her bike.
Green for Coffee, Orange for Tea.
Try not to mix them.
dievca was gifted her green S’well bottle about 5 years ago. The orange one she bought on eBay. The bottles fit into her bike water bottle holder or in her backpack. It keeps her coffee or tea warm for hours. The bottles are bright enough to see at 5 am and also hard to lose at work. They have been dropped in the middle of 34th Street and survived traffic.
They do not leak, they can be rinsed easily, they take a beating, they come in many colors, they are stainless steel = no food staining or odors, the bottles fit in a car drink holder and they replace plastic water bottles or coffee cups.
Price point – $25 to $45 depending upon size
Something very useful!
In 2010, Sarah Kauss launched S’well with the mission to rid the world of plastic water bottles. She believed that if her company made a crave-worthy bottle that combined fashion with function, people would stop buying disposable bottles and it could cut single-use plastic consumption worldwide. It was an audacious goal, but Sarah knew the world needed S’well.
Seven years later, S’well is the fastest growing woman-owned company in the country! The fan base has been built by word of mouth, one enthusiastic user to another. S’well is making a big difference by helping keep single-use plastic out of landfills and waterways.
(click graphic to link to the full article)
Which pattern is your favorite S’well?