dievca runs to New Jersey every couple of months to hit Wal-Mart for staples (toilet paper, paper towels, etc.) Her early morning trip is taking place after a long weekend of work – she survived.
To celebrate her time heading to NJ (and dealing with crazy drivers) plus surviving work, dievca invites you to join her with Jersey Girl, Gloria Gayner (Newark, NJ) in singing a fabulous disco-era anthem.
Good Morning! XO
Baby Shower (above – click on photos for Brands)
To a Swim
To an MRI for the knee
To a Gala (below – click on photos for Brands, note the emergency flip flops for the knee)
dievca hit the gamut of actives
dievca’s current backpack – its holding up well!
Something of Use.
(Click on the photos for a closer look)
In a past life of Athletics – dievca has been known to train in large t-shirts and shorts, cotton sweatpants, mismatched socks, etc. The training was more important than the look. That statement still holds true – but when you are no longer an adorable, in shape 20 something — you may look sad and sloppy in your 50s. This is ok for home workouts – but dievca is finding that when she cleans up a bit, her workouts become more positive, and perhaps she isn’t scaring herself or anyone.
dievca has mentioned Splits59 previously, she’s added some pieces to make the outfits layered and temperature functional:
- Splits59 Techflex Bra Ombre
- Splits59 High Waist Raquel Tights Indigo
- Splits59 Sadie Tank Indigo
- Splits59 Ribbed Turtleneck Indigo White
dievca’s second favorite workout outfit is a combination of a jogbra and shorts from Girlfriend Collective and a tank and light sweatshirt from Splits59:
- Girlfriend Collective Tommy Bra Dark Green
- Girlfriend Collective High-Rise Biker Shorts Dark Green
- Splits59 Toni Tank Dark Forest
- Splits59 Warm Up Fleece Dark Forest
Do you have a suggestion for a great workout clothing brand?
Time to carry that coffee with elegance and ease!
A leather and faux tortoise shell chain coffee carrier
will complete your look!
From Etsy shop “i am fem“
NYC had a Snow Squall yesterday.
What is a snow squall? According to the National Weather Service, a snow squall is “an intense short-lived burst of heavy snowfall that leads to a quick reduction in visibilities and is often accompanied by gusty winds.”
Why are they more dangerous than blizzards? Driving in a snow storm is difficult. Add in blowing wind and poor visibility, and travel can become downright dangerous. Driving in a snow squall is next to impossible.
The Squall was about 10 minutes long and dievca missed it all – she was working. But, she was dressed appropriately against the heavy winds for the bike ride to and from work (click on photos for details):
Back in the Day (November 17, 2013 to be exact) dievca found Lingerie Comfort with Hanky Panky – In the 8 years since – the rubber has pulled out of the lace, there are holes and many pieces of dievca’s Hanky Panky have been retired. she hasn’t bought anymore and she’s glad that she didn’t because she’s moved on to a set of Chantelle SoftStretch in Leopard Print ($54/$20):
A new level of comfort has been found!
A new “go to” brand for the 3 C’s: Color, Comfort and Curves!
That said, dievca bought three additional sets of comfort underwear- one from Chantelle in Forest Green ($58/$20), one from EBY (Empowered By You – a “do good” business) – in Blue Meadow ($48/$22) and a final set from the Canadian Brand “Knix” LuxeLift in an Anna Sui collaboration pattern ModFloral ($50/$25):
Here’s the ranking:
- CHANTELLE – The SuperSoft fabric is….super soft, yet the bra’s hold up the girls well. The bra padding is not removable, but it isn’t too overwhelming either – no strange shapes. The fabric is very smooth and very comfortable.
- KNIX – The knix set starts out awkward to put on, but then molds nicely to the body. dievca wore the set with the removable bra pads inserted, she’ll try the top without them next time. The bra pads looked fine, they did add a little bit of extra when dievca does not need it. There were a couple of seamed rubbing “hotspots” that disappeared as the day went on.
- EBY – The EBY set was easy to put on, but the cut of the bra armholes is high. That is where the seams on the sides of the bra rubbed dievca, all day – she had to keep adjusting the irritation point. Was it horrible? No – just there. Maybe it will disappear with washing. The bra cups are removable and in dievca’s case not necessary – but they didn’t look strange. she will try wihtout the pads on the next round – maybe that will stop the rubbing. The bottoms were very comfortable.
Conclustion – all three (four sets) are nice, but the little bit extra you pay for the CHANTELLE set(s) is worth it.
As dievca mentioned yesterday – she’s crabby.
That spills onto dressing, as well, and she is just trying to keep it simple. she thinks she managed getting herself together reasonably well.
- Max Mara Black Cashmere T-shirt Sweater
- Machete Chain Necklace
- Tahari Black Faux Suede Pants
- Gianvitto Rossi Black Combat Boots
- Max Mara Camel Vintage Cashmere Coat
- Primecut Shearling Blackpack – multicolored
- Portolano Black Cashmere Hat
- Portolano Black Leather Grommet Gloves
- Black Cashmere Knit Scarf
- MAC Russian Red Lipstick
dievca is hoping you are less crabby and getting it together better than she is~ XO
dievca shops year round for her Holiday gifts. That said, she also keeps an eye out for items that might be of interest to people of the Masculine persuation ~ or those who like practical and streamlined items. she has the following suggestions for the Holiday 2021 season (UO = Urban Outiftters, top items until the Yellow Submarine Towel – the second set of items are from Huckberry – a great Masculine driver space, Google Image search a photo and it should take you to the item webpage, last two items from Theragun):
dievca was seeking a shearling piece of clothing or bag – nothing on eBay was catching her attention. The prime designer’s had boring offerings…except for Bottega Veneta. Their shearling bags were/are too dear ($2500). dievca stepped away from the search.
Then she ran into PRIMECUT BAGS by accident – on Black Friday!
This well-made backpack is now hers (from Urban Outfitters on sale):
The back is black leather and the interior is lined in linen.
Here are some other options:
Primecut bags are handcrafted in our Portland, Oregon workshop. Each bag is carefully constructed, taking into account the unique properties of the materials used.
Founded in 2013, deep in the confines of her basement, Lizzie began experimenting with leather bags. She was intrigued by the diversity and unique properties of hair-on-hide. Using her mother’s old Pfaff sewing machine along with an old Yamata industrial machine, she experimented with different leathers, sizes, proportions, and manufacturing techniques.
In 2017, Lizzie moved from her basement to Primecut’s current Studio. Since 2013, she has upgraded her manufacturing to include new machines, employees, and a light-filled production studio.
Our process begins with carefully sourcing cowhides and shearling from tanneries throughout the world. Each material is selected based on its quality, weight, and durability. Speaking to the nature of the material we love curating our designs with both a sense of aesthetic proportion and a bit of playfulness.
Our bags reflect our playful design aesthetic. Slight variations in pattern, color, and texture represent the uniqueness in each Primecut piece.
Green Fir Trees + Puffy Coats = Think Royln Emerald Pearl Bags
The Meg, Lafayette, and the Bar Bag might be perfect for the Holidays.
dievca is rocking the Bar Bag!
You all are probably much more aware than dievca – sometimes she is clueless…
“Your sure are smart, but you sure a dumb.” was a phrase that her Dad used on occasion. Please don’t think it was meant meanly, it was just social commentary. dievca was in LaLa Land growing up – a bookworm and science geek. She was “test” smart. Common sense didn’t arrive until later – and despite dievca’s fierce practical streak, sometimes common sense disappears to this day.
dievca has always vacuumed her hardwood floors, lugging out the vacuum from where she hides it in the deep of a closet.
Her friends stayed in the apartment for two weeks and they find a microfiber sweeper in dievca’s washer/dryer closet.
dievca’s life is transformed.
She knew the previous renters left this flexible static duster:
It’s good for ceilings, top of the refrigerator, and that’s about it…(yes, she tried it on the floor – disaster, too flexible)
Because her friends couldn’t find the hidden vacuum, they found SOMETHING of USE!
The “Quickie” Floor Duster/ Wet Mop. (www.quickie.com)
dievca felt like an a** because she had no clue she had this available for 2+ years. It’s making her Life so much easier. The dust from NYC is easier to collect and the vacuum doesn’t have to make an appearance as frequently. Plus, the microfiber pad washes like a dream and is easier to put on and remove.
It was a quick trip to Mom, 4 days. Packed a lot into the time. POA shift, moved Mom on to hospice, need a new hospital bed – motor died (made do with a log and seat cushion to change the angles for Mom), attempted to get quality WiFi (need a new router), attempted to get the gardens/yard into some semblance of order (including picking up 15 cigarette butts on the driveway from a caregiver – what is wrong with people. Are they born in a barn? We have a cigarette repository out there.), maintenance man/snow removal man is no longer working – looking for help (Note his kid moved away and they no longer need to store his classic car in the garage…hmmm? Maybe that had something to do with being unavailable…), cleaned the odd places in the house and the upstairs as best as possible.
Grocery shopped at night and saw ⇑⇑⇑ the MOON!
It’s Full this Evening. Don’t forget to shake your wallet at the Moon!
And think of dievca flying home late tonight. XO
dievca is a huge fan of Baggu Bags and has used a couple of them until they actually wore out! She’ll replace them at some point, but as a change of pace – she ran into these recycled taffeta, embroidered totes:
The typical American family uses 1,500 plastic bags every year. But thanks to designer Lauren DiCioccio, you can cut down on waste and look really cool doing it. Her funky embroidered fabric bag was inspired by San Francisco’s 2007 plastic bag ban. She keeps the same cheerful “thank you” messages on each bag, but uses recycled taffeta instead of plastic. Take one out next time you’re shopping or offer one as a gift to pass along the Earth-loving vibes. They (the family/friends or Host/Hostess) can reuse and reduce ‘til it wears out. Made in San Francisco.
100% Recycled Polyester Taffeta Fabric Bag, Polyester Thread
20″ L x 13″ H
Machine wash, spot treat stains with stain stick or similar spray and wash, hang to dry
Less expensive and more practical than the Alexander Wang Rhinestone Bag version!
Western Belt Print Bag – and ode to Impact Play or Bondage
A bag to carry your accoutrements: thudders and stingers or buckled cuffs and collars
Paul Smith‘s Western Belt Print will offer a lot of additional room for water, towels, a change of clothes, etc. A fun, tongue in cheek nod to your pleasurable inclinations!
~Something of Use~
Update – the bag sold on August 2nd…sorry, dievca was too slow…
Yes, its ridiculous in the realm of Life and Life’s current challenges – but – dievca finally feels like she has mastered a comfortable & clean look for traveling. A personal success.
Something of Use!
A bag with heart. A bag for the Beach! Entirely hand-woven with plastic recycled off the beaches of Bali and repurposed into a gorgeous tote to treasure forever. No stranger to sand and salt, the Jolene is perfect for beach days. Toss in your towel and book of Proust enjoy your day in the sun. 100% handwoven recycled plastic 14” x 10.5” . It’s $211 and available in Cherry, Pearl, Sky and Black. There is a medium size, too for $175
Click photo for link
dievca had two days in Santa Fe to wander the downtown area. she was having a foot issue after walking the trails in Sedona, so her choices were driven by shoes:
Outfit #1 – Museums and Shopping
Outfit #2 – Dinner and Music
dievca bought the red sneakers and two other items:
- Golightly Cashmere (Designed and Made in Santa Fe) Rainbow Wrap
- New Mexico Flag Red T-shirt
(Click on the photos to see the brands)
The backpack takes the load, the Nikes carry the load, the sweater keeps it warm, the linen keeps it cool, the spandex allows flexibility. dievca wore black incase something gets spilled on the plane, plus its forgiving on body type so she didn’t look too sloppy.
dievca ordered items from her favorite Montreal, Quebec store ssense.com. The items were on sale and she had been watching them for awhile – the total came up to an amount over $800. She bought them in one batch….bad choice. Had she made two purchases, she wouldn’t have met the US/Canada Border Customs Threshold amount and she would have not had to pay customs….
Instead, she had to schlep to the Main Post Office to pay the customs to get her items. Yep, it was a significant amount = $400+. Why did she chose to pay it rather than refusing the items?
- They were items she thought about a long time before purchase.
- They were unavailable on sale anywhere else on the web.
- ssense.com offered to put a one-time 110-120% credit towards her next purchase (s).
- dievca buys on ssense.com consistently enough to use the credits.
Visualize dievca opening the box the items in the Main NYC Post Office, stuffing the items into a carryall so she could schlepp it all back to her apartment without her arms falling off. Would it have been easier if dievca had a car? Have you ever tried to find parking in Midtown?
Photo: Glamorous items in a non-glamorous bag. XO
dievca was reading an article about when family members die, its hard to get rid of their “stuff” because of your memories attached to their items or the memories of the person who used the item. Whew – that was a mouthful. For example, dievca has her Dad’s Levi’s looped Terry Cloth Shirt from the 1970’s. With a boat neck and 3/4 sleeves in white with blue stripes it looks like a marinière-style shirt. She remembers him wearing it to the Tennis Courts or the Pool. It’s still wearable and looped terry cloth clothing is “in”.
And then there is other stuff that you keep because you think you will use it. And – shocker! – you do use it. Like a vintage Ice Cream scoop (1937) from you Aunt and her two 10″ Aires Box Fans (circa 2004 – received, new in box).
Mind you, those box fans have now been used and knocked over a number of times and because they are plastic/slighty flexible – they keep bouncing back for more. Something of Use!
All three items keep you cool in the Summer, all three items are practical and all three offer memories.
Three items that dievca doesn’t feel guilty for keeping.
After watching the chaos of two crashes on the first day of the Tour de France. dievca has complete empathy with anyone who has road rash. Between the gauze dressings, ointments, sensitivity to the sun – its can be hard to dress with Road Rash.
In the heat of the NYC Summer, dievca normally wears dresses. The loss of skin on her shin makes that an awkward dressing option. she did find an elegant and comfortable option. Plus, it will work for today’s 2021 NYC PRIDE PARADE!
- Club Monaco Jarinda Navy Blue Linen Split Neck Top $98
- Suzie Kondi Organic Cotton Terry Navy Wide-Leg Pants $225
- Tory Burch 70’s Navy Suede Flip Flops $98
- Michael Kors Pride 2021 Mask $28.50
dievca added the MACHETE Chain Collar and Anklet
Its always a challenge to carry a watermelon home from the Grocery Store – especially when you are walking.
Japanese designer, Tsuchiya Kaban, leather bag provides an elegant, luxury vessel tote around your fruit. Holding one round watermelon, the carrier was crafted by Yusuke Kadoi as part of a project titled “The Fun of Carrying”, which encouraged designers to create playful, inventive items as side projects.
The bag is just a concept – if it was put into production, there may be an audience for it!
Photos: Tsuchiya Kaban 2020
dievca didn’t look pregnant and received multiple compliments on the dress. Note – its been long enough since Melania Trump wore the Big Pink Dress (2017) and its still in style. Plus, it was the perfect choice for an outdoor event.
Wipe the sweat off that brow – whew!
Ok, its traveling in the mind.
A journey to grow as a Human via education and re-branding.
A journal is needed to keep the ideas and pieces together.
Especially when you are ‘old school’ and work better with paper and pen 🙄 ~
- Smythson Navy cross-grain lambskin journal.
- Features “The Only Way is Up” around the right corner.
- 144 leaves of gilt-edged, pale blue Featherweight paper.
- Dimensions: W11.2 x H16.7cm / W4.4 x H6.6″.
- Made in England.
Established in 1887, Smythson represents over 125 years of British luxury leather goods at their most refined.
Proud holder of three Royal Warrants, Smythson products encompass a wide range of elegantly designed items for men and women, handcrafted with only the highest quality, carefully sourced leathers. Inspired by Frank Smythson’s original diary design from 1908, the Chelsea collection bears the same cross-grain leather used over a century ago. Embodying a selection of lightweight handbags, business and travel accessories, this coveted collection ensures you depart in style, wherever you choose to venture.
In a Past Life, dievca received a set of melamine mixing bowls from Crate and Barrel as a gift.
The bowls have been through multiple moves, lived in Europe, have been dropped, washed, held salads and made cookies numerous times. Like everything else, 29 years of weekly wear has taken a toll. The pouring spouts are chipped, the rubber holders on the bottom are deteriorating and, yet, dievca is holding on to them.
Why? The bowl portion itself has not cracked and Melamine is categorized under Class #7 on the list of Plastic Resin Codes. This means that it is a widely used plastic that does not fit into the more commonly used #1-6 classifications and should not be thrown in your recycling bin. Melamine cannot be melted for recycling like other plastics.
The bowls are a modern classic. Created by Danish designers – Rosti in 1954, the Margrethe bowl was produced and named after then Princess Margrethe, the current queen of Denmark. The easy-care melamine mixing bowls have ergonomic handles, pouring spouts and a non-skid ring at the bottom.
dievca looked up the bowls on the Crate and Barrel website and they are still listed for sale. In fact, they now come with lids – that wasn’t available the first time around. The price? $39.95
The question is….can dievca throw away the still usable bowls and all the memories attached to them.
Gianvito Rossi‘s pair is made from smooth black leather and has gold anklets inspired by equestrian hardware.
Lovely and useful for unpredictable Spring weather.
Showing your BDSM leanings in a subtle manner.
Although other medical conditions can cause them, hot flashes most commonly are due to menopause — the time when menstrual periods become irregular and eventually stop. In fact, hot flashes are the most common symptom of the menopausal transition.
During a hot flash, you might have:
- A sudden feeling of warmth spreading through your chest, neck and face
- A flushed appearance with red, blotchy skin
- Rapid heartbeat
- Perspiration, mostly on your upper body
- A chilled feeling as the hot flash lets up
- Feelings of anxiety
The frequency and intensity of hot flashes vary among women. Hot flashes may be mild or so intense that they disrupt daily activities. They can happen at any time of day or night. Nighttime hot flashes (night sweats) may wake you from sleep and can cause long-term sleep disruptions.
Weighted blankets are therapeutic blankets that weigh between 5 to 30 pounds. The pressure from the extra weight mimics a therapeutic technique called deep pressure stimulation.
Deep pressure stimulation uses hands-on pressure to relax the nervous system. Doing so may help:
- relieve pain
- lessen anxiety
- improve mood
Deep pressure stimulation doesn’t have to be completely hands on. With weighted blankets, the same pressure comes from having the blanket wrapped around the body.
dievca learned about weighted blankets from a friend in Europe who is a Therapist – they issue the blankets to their patients. dievca bought one because the color made her happy, it matched her bedding and she thought she would try it while napping~
she didn’t realize that it would became important a part of her strategy to get deep sleep during perimenopause~
Numbers – as a trend, don’t lie.
Though dievca sleeps 7-8 hours a night — according to her watch, she wasn’t going into the “deep sleep” phase for very long. she could feel that she needed something more for healing and weight loss. dievca modified her eating/drinking patterns, bed time consistency, showering pattern, etc. Not working. The “hot flashes” got her at the end of a sleep cycle throughout the night, every time – and minimal deep sleep (5-10 min a night) occurred only at the beginning of the night.
Enter the weighted blanket….
Add 15 min – 1 hour of deep sleep.
“Hot Flashes” still occur towards morning – but there are less blocks of wake-up time between sleep cycles.
You may be asking – “Doesn’t the weighted blanket make you hotter?”
dievca’s Bearaby Velvet Napper has a large weave with “holes” for air flow and she pushes it off as much as any other blanket during a “hot flash”. You do have to be careful because the blanket is heavy and one can strain a muscle if you don’t pay attention. (Yes, it happened.) But, the time underneath that weighted blanket yields longer and consistent “deep sleep” which is where a body can heal.
Something of use.
Something used daily.
A “table” that conforms to the arm of a sofa or larger chair. The fabric backing controls slipage and the top is easy to clean.
dievca bought her original ‘table’ in Denmark but replaced it with an Amazon product.
Here is an Etsy offering to consider:
EsserGifts – Etsy store offering of the sofa arm table (click here)