I walked to the Rio Grande

past a Middle School in the center of Albuquerque, NM.  There were balloons and flowers adorning a walkway/fence close to the entrance of the school. It reminded me of the “roadside memorials” when people have a car crash or bike crash.

I didn’t think on it further.

Then I ran into a letter on Patch.com – it was from the Superintendent of Schools and the Principal

With great sadness, I must inform you of a shooting that occurred on the Washington Middle School campus today that resulted in the death of one of our students and the arrest of another. This was an isolated incident that occurred outside the school building during lunch. No other students or staff were physically harmed, but many of us are hurting.

My heart hurt.  

15 days before in NYC:

A 14-year-old jumped to his death Thursday afternoon, July 29, from the Vessel in Manhattan’s Hudson Yards. The teenage boy became the fourth to die by suicide at Thomas Heatherwick’s 150-foot spiral staircase since it opened in March of 2019.

My heart hurt.

Middle School Feet

Middle School ages are tough for Parents to deal with – their adorable child, biddable child is turning sullen, dealing with fluctuating hormones, social awareness/awkwardness, anxiety, and confusion.

  • Approaching puberty: Big changes are going to start or have already begun to happen to a tween’s body.
  • Exposure to dangerous behaviors: Tweens face new pressures from peers including drugs, sex, alcohol, and more. Kids are curious and peer pressure is strong among tweens. At this age, tweens start learning about the dangers of the world. Many myths circulate in middle school hallways.
  • Increasing amounts of homework: The homework load alone can be a big change for tweens and parents should be ready to help if needed. Good study habits now can last a lifetime.
  • Increasing responsibilities: Tweens are often more involved in extra-curricular activities and can take on more chores and responsibilities at home.

This happens to be one of my favorite ages to be around.  Their views on the World and Life are insightful, honest and entertaining.  Please, be patient and kind to any Middle School age kid who crosses your Life.  Just listen, guide, give them attention and time – even if they are behaving ugly and being annoying. Remember, someone put up with you at that age.

Maybe then my heart won’t hurt in the future.


Prayers

Pretty sure this sucked for all parties involved.

Prayers to all, alive and lost.


Doesn’t matter where it came from, it applies~

May the sun bring you new energy by day,

May the moon softly restore you by night,

May the rain wash away your worries,

May the breeze blow new strength into your being,

May you walk gently through the world and know its beauty all the days of your life.


A close friend was diagnosed with Cancer, they began treatment this week. No form of cancer is easy to deal with but the timeline for this type is …. dismal.

Add that everyone has moved on from the Faith they grew up with and dievca did not replace hers with their new Faith, she doesn’t do their religious platitudes well.

But, I love you is good.

And, perhaps, the piece above … (or is that a platitude and trite?)

Sigh.

The piece above was written for the 1947 Western novel Blood Brother by Elliott Arnold. The fictional blessing entered popular consciousness when it made its way into the 1950 film adaptation of the novel Broken Arrow, scripted by Albert Maltz.

People think it is an Apache Blessing.

Fictional or not, the words convey positive wishes.

In the end, all you can do is pray to whatever deity you chose, send your strength through the ether, be there for any research/communication/cheerleading/venting that is needed and show up, be present and donate whatever is needed when called upon.

Currently, dievca is using Joy and Happiness through stories and memories to try to lessen the pain as well as remind that Life has components that are worthy of effort. Not sure it is working, but its all she can think to do right now.

dievca is taking suggestions~