“I have stopped trying to figure you out…”

No, Master did not give up on His dievca – he just has accepted that His dievca reacts and does things differently than He expects when she is not in submissive mode. she is a completely different personality type than what Master normally hangs out with~

dievca pointed out that their underlying value structure and overall beliefs are the same – it’s just the day-to-day view of Life, ability to function and their conclusions after processing information is different.
dievca is a fox, Master is a hedgehog.

Makes for interesting conversations, activities and occasional irritations.

Along with having similar core values, both Master and dievca are well-traveled.  Master travels more heavily internationally, 5 of 7 Continents. dievca, 3 of 7 Continents – but she visits more States.

Having different travel habits, dievca is very spacial and can pack a suitcase masterfully. Master cannot recreate the packing that dievca does for Him, so they have learned that she needs to leave Him extra space for, uh, messy packing.

Master would never use a passport cover. dievca has used one since college and just retired it after 20+ years to pay homage of being a Fox….

dievca’s retired Kate Spade 1990’s passport cover

dievca’s new passport cover 2019

As Master has given up on figuring dievca out – dievca has settled into knowing that her Master will always fascinate her with His responses (or non-responses) to certain issues in Life.

Both Master and dievca have decided to accept each other – as is.

Master beat dievca

He saw the first “Snowdrops” of the Season in the Shakespeare Garden, Central Park NYC. They saw these Snowdrops together on the High Line:

dievca spotted the Crocus’ first! On the High Line, in the rain:

The first flowers of Spring always bring a little bit of competition and a lot of Joy.

Photos: dievca- High Line NYC 03/2019

Passed out.

Have you ever had a tough week, expended all your energy and just passed out?
dievca did – she found herself in the position she started in.

Lucky? Nah, a good community. International Women’s Day

ALAMY, RAMONA ROSALES/AUGUST The World War II-era Rosie the Riveter poster and the real-life woman, Naomi Parker-Fraley, who was its inspiration

dievca was lucky. she was treated similar to her brothers…they would say she was treated better wink, wink. Actually, that’s not true – they were upset on her behalf that she received less toys for Christmas than they remember getting. dievca was fine – they were remembering their amount of toys for two kids combined.

Where this is going is that on International Women’s Day – dievca knows she is strong, she knows her opinion among Family, Friends and Co-Workers is valid and taken seriously. She hasn’t run into discrimination via her gender or if she did, she ploughed right past it – ignoring it. (Note: being female has worked in her favor occasionally – not many chemistry/physics dievcas out there. Being good at what you do, helps too.)

Why dievca is this solid? she grew up in a Family that values Humanity and Hard Work. They believe everyone should succeed to the best of their abilities – in a “get off your a** and do it” way. Gender never came in to the equation. May be it started with an Aunt who graduated University with a degree in Chemistry in 1946. Or her Grandmothers and Babuska (Great Grandmother) leading the charge on jobs that brought home wages.

Education was a big part of dievca’s background for her Brothers and for her. That might be a leveller.

Whatever it was/is — Rosie the Riverter hits dievca’s heart as a strong female, leading the charge. A symbol of strength and not failing when a Women’s Strength was called upon for the World.

Everyone knows the iconic image that, during World War II, became an enduring symbol of feminine resolve. But until recently, no one’s been sure what woman inspired “Rosie the Riveter,” the war worker of 1940s popular culture featured in the famous poster by artist J. Howard Miller. Now, as the New York Times reports, the woman who was most likely behind the Rosie poster bearing the slogan “We Can Do It!” has died.

Naomi Parker-Fraley, a Tulsa, Okla., native, passed away on Saturday at age 96 while in hospice care in Longview, Wash., her family said.

The Rosie face first became famous during the early 1940s, when millions of American women pitched in during the war, working not only at riveting, but also at welding, nursing and myriad other jobs while maintaining their traditional duties as mothers and homemakers.

Indeed, from 1940 to 1944, the female percentage of the overall workforce jumped from 27 percent to 37 percent, and by the end of the war, 25 percent of all married women had jobs outside the home.

In real life, Parker-Fraley was just as inspiring, working as a machinist at the Naval Air Station in Alameda, Calif., in 1943 when, at age 20, a photographer snapped a picture of her on the job. She was one of the first women to dedicate herself to war work.

The photo depicted a woman wearing a jumpsuit and a polka-dot bandanna while standing over a lathe. Various magazines published the image in 1943 but seemingly never captioned it with a name or a date. As a result, multiple women have been named over the years as possible models for Rosie.

In particular, a Michigan woman, Geraldine Hoff Doyle, was cited as the inspiration for Rosie. A wartime metal presser at a Michigan plant, she died in 2010. Afterward, obituaries in many large newspapers credited her as being the real face behind the image.

But in 2016, a determined Seton Hall University professor, James Kimble, published an article in the journal Rhetoric and Public Affairs asserting that Parker-Fraley was indeed the basis for the famous poster.

After years of research, Kimble had tracked down the original photo in a newspaper he purchased in an eBay auction. The caption confirmed the date, alongside this telling sentence: “Pretty Naomi Parker looks like she might catch her nose in the turret lathe she is operating.” His findings, unveiled in the article, brought journalists to Parker-Fraley’s door at long last.

“The women of this country these days need some icons,” she told People magazine in a 2016 interview. “If they think I’m one, I’m happy.”

AARP Magazine January 24, 2018


Something Stupid, maybe not

A friend sent this video to dievca:

It was in response to an awkward moment Master and dievca were having. The moment has passed. Master and dievca have grown – but the song brings her back to how some relationships start balancing on a pinhead.

Then something happens (or a number of somethings) and the relationship shifts to being hammered into the bedrock.

It’s interesting when you figure out that someone will be connected to you for the rest of your Life.

“Guests, like fish, begin to smell after three days.”

Some things are lost in translation. dievca understands that…converting from one language to another is tricky. Appropriate behavior is cultural. But, “using” someone is something else. dievca has a young person in her Life, from Europe, she has known for many years.  This young person separated from a long-term partner (8 years) and came running to dievca in NYC for regrouping.

No problem.

Deciding whether you are a Lesbian or Straight takes a more “open” atmosphere.

In the following 6 months, she has been back 3 times. Twice staying with dievca 9+ days.
dievca has a pullout bed in the middle of her open kitchen/living space. The logistics get awkward after too long.

fish and visitors stink after three days

dievca had a discussion with her about finding her own spaces if she continues to visit NYC. This trip, the young’un stayed elsewhere – but showed up on dievca’s doorstep to eat….bringing friends….expecting dievca to have food.

Which is why dievca ran into that coffee sign, above. After buying fresh fruit and pastries (the easy way to prep for a Brunch) – the sign made her smile, take a deep breath. get rid of her ire and grab a cappuccino.

Yes, there was offer of payment for the meals. It was half-hearted, but there. And the young’un thinks of dievca as a second Mother. mi casa es su casa

dievca decided to make the young’un pay via in trade. Grunt work. Get your pound of flesh via hard work. The apartment is clean, windows washed, boxes are moved to storage, dievca’s eyebrows are groomed, her make-up sorted and updated with instructions.

dievca is no longer irritated with her friend/daughter/houseguest/whatever. she’s really a sweet person and dievca got her pound of flesh.

But, dievca will be happy to have her coffee in peace, for the near future.

Psychology Today: The Trouble with houseguests

PS. Master’s opinion is that dievca is being used…

No Matter How You Say It ~ Love is Love

You may hold my hand for a while,
but you hold my heart forever.

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