Ah, Master…

…You’ve done your submissive in.

Photo: Marilyn Monroe "A Good One" by Jeffery Yarber

You are alive because of me~

The idiom: Сенің арқаңда күн көріп жүрмін
Literal translation: “I see the sun on your back.”
What it means: “Thank you for being you. I am alive because of your help.”

Everyone needs a little help.

People have different needs.

Don’t assume because you are strong and I am strong that we have no needs.
Not True.

I see the sun on your back.
You see the sun on mine.


Gustave Adolphe Désiré Crauk, Le Combat du Centaure, 1900. Photo: 1971 Robert Doisneau

Walk side by side,
listening and sharing.

Gain strength with skin to skin contact,
comfort through olfaction.

If one cannot regroup via travel,
traveling though the mind helps.

Look at beauty with someone close.
Dream through their eyes.

If that is not possible,
just remember you are loved.

Photo: Robert Doisneau, Sidelong glance, 1948

Wishing You Were Here (Chicago/Beach Boys 1974)

Not one of Master’s favorite bands,
but Chicago is a favorite of dievca’s
and the song is appropriate after 3+ weeks of Master’s travel.

Have a good Mellow Monday.

Good Morning! Decision made~

A fully coherent Father made his choice, clearly and verbally, “I will do the feeding tube in the stomach and rehab.” I know that this elongates the process, but we were so relieved that the choice was taken out of our hands and put into the hands of the main participant. Today, after coffee, I will work with the people who will help my Mother stay in their (Mom and Dad’s) home.

All this has made me think….I have no children, I need to make these plans ahead of time for myself. I cannot wait. (But, it cannot be done today…)

Have a Lovely Morning!

Update…three choices…and a potential game changer.

1.) Feeding tube in stomach and go to rehab place.
2.) Feeding tube in stomach and full-time nurse at home.
3.) No feeding tube. Hospice in home.

I’m pretty sure some of you have been here, or somewhere close, before.

“You know those young doctors – “well, he’s 87 and had a good Life”, they don’t care unless it’s their Dad.  Then she walked in, a Geriatric Doctor, slightly older and she didn’t understand why she hadn’t been called earlier.” – dievca’s brother

There is a Geriatric Doctor?
She’s sharp?
On it?

There are two seizure meds?
It may be one too many?
Might be causing the drowsiness?
Removal might help with………..swallowing……..

And the game changes. We will see~ Crossing fingers. Knocking wood.

Seniors over age 85 are the fastest-growing segment of the population. If you or any of your loved ones are over 65, being treated by a geriatrician can make all the difference. Geriatricians are primary care doctors who have had additional training in the health care needs of older people.

PS. The staff of the facility where dievca’s Dad is being treated has been stellar. Sometimes pieces and people get tangled, you learn as you go. Sometimes you don’t know the right questions to ask – but dievca is keeping notes for herself, Master, family, etc. None of us are getting any younger.

Travel Safely

Your dievca will miss You.