Committed.


Master has been working out consistently.
He has left His dievca in the dust.

dievca has been cleared by her Doctor’s as healthy.
she leaves for Europe at the end of July.
It’s time to turn it on.

Some kind of physical workout every day.
Today is stretching.

Does D/s Play count?

 


Good Tired

Why are my Sir and I exhausted and rejuvenated after playing?

8. You’re Just Too Good In Bed To Not Be Exhausted 

And then, there’s always this possibility to be considered: You rock her world; she rocks yours and together, you’re rocking the bed, the table, the walls and the entire household. That’s got to explain your levels of exhaustion when all you want to do is lay like a vegetable and bask in the glory of your awesomeness as you laze around the place, going over the entire events of last night or early this morning. Phew! ~mensxp.com

That might explain it! It’s a “good tired” not stress tired.


Satin Rainbow

Follow the Rainbow – for the Month of June.
LGBTIQA+ stands for “lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, intersex, queer/questioning, asexual, ally and many other terms (such as non-binary and pansexual)”.

BDSM seems to be left on its own in the Letter Game — “K” for kink is a touchy subject as an addition to the acronym…Article from the Metro UK about it.

It’s a heavy topic and dievca cannot deal with it, right now (no extra bandwidth) …but she can enjoy the colors.

And if you are not feeling the satin — maybe Gucci will do~


Feeling like a failed submissive

Master asked for a Fantasy. Something to bounce off of – dievca is sure.
He’s back from traveling and tomorrow is convienient to meet.

But as dievca worked 9 hours, had an issue with a plumber after work, passed out on the sofa for an hour, ate spaghettios, wasabi peas and fruit for dinner. she is finally having a glass of wine – but, no BDSM fantasy is coming to mind.

Just a blog post.
A short one at that.

Merriam-Webster defines burnout as “ the condition of someone who has become very physically and emotionally tired after doing a difficult job for a long time”. As much as we s-types do love being submissive and serving, I doubt anyone is going to debate the fact that what we do can be a difficult job and is definitely a long term job.

A D/s relationship requires two individuals to Tango. One partner cannot be expected to be the one to act or plan or suggest all the time. The other partner has to step up, sometimes. Make sure in your relationships, Vanilla or BDSM that you put your time and input in — your partner might need your help. Planning and fantasies are not just the submissive’s domain or the Dominant’s domain — sometimes there needs to be flexibility, communication and a bounce-off platform from the other side.

Master asked for a Fantasy.
His dievca is just not able to produce one at this moment.
she will ask for His help.

A "Thank You" to the submissiveguide.com for voicing some of the feelings swirling around in dievca's head (above quote).

Whew~

Have you ever lost a day….or a couple of days because you are continuously moving from one thing to another?  Then you lift your head and breathe…only to realize your autopilot caused you to mix up days?

I looked back at this week’s blog posts and realized that I was off by a day.

The Thursday Lingerie post went live on Wednesday, there wasn’t a something useful post for Friday because Saturday’s strappy shoe post was running. Etc.

No emergency – its a blog.

But it threw me. What else did I screw up and was it important?
No one is screaming at me…so I may have escaped chaos.

(Note: I’m babbling in the next section)

Why did this happen?

  • I added another octogenarian to the mix and had to revamp a bathroom for their safety.
  • Needed to schedule to get back to my parents for one of the caregiver’s vacation time. Both parent’s had gone into the hospital for pneumonia (at seperate times). My brother needs a break.
  • Summer schedule changes coming up and my co-worker opened a resturant, so the planning and execution of those plans fall on me.
  • I’m considering purchasing a co-op and its a gut renovation – architect, plumber to find the gas lines, the owner passed – nothing really done since 1953…
  • Master was traveling.
  • Doctor’s appointments —  everything seems to be going well internally – body structure and exterior that can use some work.
  • Went through the storage unit to exchange winter goods for summer items. Had to do the resale craziness, again. RealReal, Buffalo Exchange, Goodwill and HousingWorks to the rescue.
  • Organization for Spring events – three happening this upcoming week.

You know…nothing keeps you in tune like children.  An alarm clock that keeps you on track.  Here’s the rest of the story with the photo above – Life Magazine followed the Life of a 1940’s Housewife from Kankakee, IL….she’s got me beat, by far:

A Series of Vintage Photos Documented a Day in the Life of a 1940s Housewife

Funny….I just ordered this dress:

Black Crane Coral Classy Dress


“I have stopped trying to figure you out…”

No, Master did not give up on His dievca – he just has accepted that His dievca reacts and does things differently than He expects when she is not in submissive mode. she is a completely different personality type than what Master normally hangs out with~

dievca pointed out that their underlying value structure and overall beliefs are the same – it’s just the day-to-day view of Life, ability to function and their conclusions after processing information is different.
dievca is a fox, Master is a hedgehog.

Makes for interesting conversations, activities and occasional irritations.

Along with having similar core values, both Master and dievca are well-traveled.  Master travels more heavily internationally, 5 of 7 Continents. dievca, 3 of 7 Continents – but she visits more States.

Having different travel habits, dievca is very spacial and can pack a suitcase masterfully. Master cannot recreate the packing that dievca does for Him, so they have learned that she needs to leave Him extra space for, uh, messy packing.

Master would never use a passport cover. dievca has used one since college and just retired it after 20+ years to pay homage of being a Fox….

dievca’s retired Kate Spade 1990’s passport cover

dievca’s new passport cover 2019

As Master has given up on figuring dievca out – dievca has settled into knowing that her Master will always fascinate her with His responses (or non-responses) to certain issues in Life.

Both Master and dievca have decided to accept each other – as is.


Master beat dievca

He saw the first “Snowdrops” of the Season in the Shakespeare Garden, Central Park NYC. They saw these Snowdrops together on the High Line:

dievca spotted the Crocus’ first! On the High Line, in the rain:

The first flowers of Spring always bring a little bit of competition and a lot of Joy.

Photos: dievca- High Line NYC 03/2019