Think of Sex on a SundayPosted: June 4, 2023 Filed under: D/s Relationship | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Elegant, erotic, Life, Morning, Relationships, Sex, submissive, Sunday Leave a comment
confusionPosted: April 17, 2023 Filed under: Entertainment, Relationships | Tags: BDSM, coffee, coffee cup, comic, D/s, dievca, Humor, Life, Love, Monday, Morning, Sex 3 Comments
Master and dievca figured it out.
We hope you do, too.
“Cicadas.”Posted: August 24, 2022 Filed under: Poetry | Tags: BDSM, cicadas, D/s, dievca, Elegant, erotic, Life, Margaret Atwood, poem, renewel, Sex, singing, Sounds, Summer 2 Comments
Finally, after nine years
of snouting through darkness
he inches up scarred bark
and cuts loose the yammer of desire:
the piercing one note of a jackhammer,
vibrating like a slow bolt of lightning
splitting the air
and leaving a smell like burnt tar paper.
Now it says Now it says Now
clinging with six clawed legs
and close by, a she like a withered ear,
a shed leaf brown and veined,
shivers in sync and moves closer.
This is it, time is short, death is near, but first,
first, first, first
in the hot sun, searing all day long
in a month that has no name:
this annoying noise of love. This maddening racket.
This – admit it – song.
Poem: Margaret Atwood
Photo: Wil Hershberger, Annual Cicada Emergent
Swamp Cicada, Tibicen chloromea, sheeding
the last juvenile exoskeleton and emerging as an adult. Princeton, New Jersy, USA.
A vivid dreamPosted: June 22, 2022 Filed under: D/s Relationship, Entertainment, Master | Tags: dievca, Dominant, dream, erotic, Master, nude, Orgasm, Sex, Sleeping, spooning, submissive Leave a comment
does she have sex on the brain?Posted: April 6, 2022 Filed under: Accessories, Home and Garden | Tags: anal plug, BDSM, D/s, dievca, dildo, Home Decor, Humor, Sex, shape, Shopping 1 Comment
Carl Durkow Candles from SSENSE $45
Does anyone else see anal plugs and dildos in these candle shapes or is dievca just thinking SEX?
May You (we) be so LuckyPosted: February 9, 2022 Filed under: Entertainment | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Happiness, health benefits, L.E.J., Life, Love, Master, mental health, music, Sex, submissive, video Leave a comment
Great sex helps one get by in an amazing manner.
dievca’s hoping everyone is getting Lucky ~ XO
L.E.J, short for Lucie, Élisa and Juliette, sometimes Elijay, is a French band composed of three women from Saint-Denis, a city in Paris’ suburbs. They became famous by condensing numerous top songs from the summer of 2015 into a mashup performance.
female erogenous zonesPosted: December 29, 2021 Filed under: Analysis, Body Type | Tags: BDSM, body awareness, D/s, dievca, erotic, female anatomy, Human Touch, Sex, sexual arousal Leave a comment
Breaking down what partners might overlook.
One 2016 study found that the entire body had erogenous potential (happy news for Master and His dievca who love to touch). Note, there are frequent commonalities that are worth exploring.
One 2014 study found that the clitoris and the nipples are the most sensitive to both pressure and vibration (go figure). But, the areas found to be most sensitive to “light touch,” were the neck, forearm, and vaginal margin (the area just at the end of the vaginal opening and at the beginning of the perineum).
A study published in June 2020 used heat maps to show where men and women considered their erogenous zones, based on how aroused they became from appearance alone and then touch alone, as well as how the arousal changed whether they engaged in solo play or with a partner. Women consistently ranked the genital area, breasts, butt, and inner thighs high for touch, though the shoulders, hips, and the back of the neck were also shown consideration.
The study also examined what women consider to be men’s erogenous zones, and vice versa—and while most findings line up, it does show there are areas that might be missed for stimulation. Areas like the neck, inner thighs, and upper back, were ranked erogenous by women in the study, if slightly lower on the scale than the breasts, genitals, and butt.
According to a paper published in 2012, other areas include the mouth, ears, lower back, head and hair, and even—for some people behind the knee.
Maybe we should just take time with our partners and explore their whole bodies to determine their favorite erogenous zones – it won’t be time wasted~
Further Reading – links to related studies in order:
Click to access Reports%20of%20intimate%20touch%20%20Erogenous%20zones%20and%20somatosensory%20cortical%20-%20Turnbull%20Erogenous%20Cortex%202013.pdf
A “Thank You” to Rebecca Decynzski from the Maudern
Lazy Sunday Sex PositionPosted: May 23, 2021 Filed under: D/s Relationship, Master, Musings | Tags: BDSM, comfotable, D/s, dievca, hangover, Master, Relationships, relaxation, Sex, Sunday Leave a comment
After wine, a burger and good company – dievca slept in for a lazy Sunday. Master will be stopping by in the afternoon to relax. Maybe the ‘LAZY SUNDAY’ position will come into use – dievca is really not moving too fast.
LAZY SUNDAY SEX POSITION
Find a chair or large pillow so you are both sitting at a 45 degree angle.
One partner lies on the bottom, while the other clambers on top facing upwards so your bodies are in perfect alignment.
Keep your thighs together for a more intense sensation as the lower lover enters from behind.
The vibrator verdict…Posted: March 13, 2021 Filed under: Accessories, Discussion | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Life, Master, review, Sex, Sex Toy, Shopping, submissive, vibrator Leave a comment
The Maude Vibrator had a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ on the website. dievca and Master have given it a whirl and decided that it is very good, but it comes in 2nd place to the Iroha yellow banana:
Sprinkled KissesPosted: November 4, 2020 Filed under: D/s Relationship, Musings, submissive | Tags: BDSM, cock worship, D/s, dievca, Fellatio, fun, Lips, Love, Master, Relationships, Sex, Submission Leave a comment
A lipstick ring around your cock is a beautiful way to start cock worship. But to change it up, should we try sugar sprinkled lips? A sweet taste with a light massage and lots of spit to dissolve the little balls which can be used to massage the larger balls. Envision a lot of licking and kissing. Sounds like a very nice way to brighten up the day.
Mars in … Hah, they got it right!Posted: September 13, 2020 Filed under: Discussion, Entertainment | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Dominant, horoscope, Humor, Life, Master, planets, Sex, submissive 4 Comments
“Love, harmony, and relationships take the lead when Mars is in Libra,” This placement hates butting heads and would rather be peaceful. “Mars in Libra tends to go with the flow and not take change unless pushed,” It’s all about balance.
That stability translates into the bedroom as well. “The erogenous zones that turn you on the most are your derriere and head — which is why you like to add light spanking and gentle hair pulling to your sexual delights,”
If your Mars is in Scorpio, you’re not to be messed with. “Mars in Scorpio carries out duties and tasks with power and relentlessness. You also use your intuition to win at all costs.”
You’re also a relentless seducer. “An evening in bed with you won’t be forgotten,” “What really gets you going is intense foreplay.”
For Mars in another sign, click HERE.
Taking a thought and creating Reality (NSFW)Posted: August 26, 2020 Filed under: D/s Relationship, Entertainment, Submission | Tags: BDSM, bondage, cuffs, D/s, dievca, Dominance and submission, erotic, Master, Orgasm, restrained, Sex, submissive 2 Comments
Masturbation – Master, I am really quick off the trigger.Fantasy – something to do with being restained over the side of the bed or futon. Banana vibrator playing on the outside of my pussy, hitting the clit, then you entering behind with a plug and possibly moving to my ass. Maybe my mouth is reachable for cock worship? I’ll work on my description.
dievca’s fantasies had diminished. she’s sure there are many reasons for that to occur.
Catching a hint of fantasy while masturbating was worthy of mention to Master, even if it was a snippet.
Master is creative, He had enough to work with when He returned home.
Master set up restraints across the width of the bed and placed cuffs on dievca’s wrists. He then bent His dievca face-down over the side of the bed naked and in heels, attaching her hands over her head to the restraints. There was enough play in the leather that dievca could get on to her elbows if needed, but Master pulled her back to stretch out her arms overhead.
dievca’s freshly waxed ass was open to Master’s view, He inserted an anal plug using lube.
As dievca was opened and exposed, Master took off His pants and grabbed the banana vibrator. Reaching between His dievca’s legs, Master rested the vibrator cupping her pussy and hitting her clit while jiggling the anal plug. He called for orgasms and after a number plunged into her pussy with His cock. dievca grabbed at Him with her pelvic muscles as she pulled on the restraints.
Master continued to tease dievca with the vibrator, then His hand and His cock until she squirted on the floor.
At that point, Master pushed dievca towards the bed and told her to flip over, her ass on the edge of the bed with hands restrained above her head. Holding her high heels, Master penetrated deeply until the anal plug dropped out as dievca orgasmed continuously.
That called for a break, and though Master took dievca’s shoes off, He moved dievca’s cuffs to one connection point and kept His dievca’s hands restrained as she lay on her side to recover. Master washed His cock and stood at the side of the bed to place His cock in dievca’s mouth while playing with her pussy using the vibrator.
When Master removed the vibrator and He told dievca to move back diagonally and present (ass up, head down) so her arms would be pulling on the single point restraint.
He entered dievca deeply from behind, Doming her fully. After three weeks of separation, Master let go completely.
dievca was a well-used submissive.
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Master triggered the start of a FantasyPosted: June 13, 2020 Filed under: Entertainment, Musings | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Dominance and submission, Dominant, erotic, Fantasy, Kink, Life, Master, outdoors, Sex, Spring, submissive Leave a comment
Master told His dievca a story about D/s in the outdoors.
Thoughts floated around in her head for a while and she fixated on the fountains around NYC.
dievca doesn’t know where her fantasy may go during nighttime dreaming, but her practical side has acknowledged the logistical nightmare D/s play in a NYC fountain might offer: dirty water, too many people, temperature, slipping, clothing – or lack of, legalities, voyeurs – might be a bonus, etc.
Maybe the Hamilton Fountain in Riverside Park — ok, it’s a horse trough.
Let’s see what dievca dreams up this evening.
Might be fabulous – might be a dievca disaster…
Why it works (Horoscope-wise)Posted: May 10, 2020 Filed under: Entertainment, Master, Musings | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Dominance and submission, Humor, Love, Sex, submissive, Zodiac Leave a comment
Libra (Sept. 23 to Oct. 22) –dievca
In most areas of their lives, The Scales are always seeking balance, except in the bedroom where playing with power and throwing off balance becomes very erotic. These closet freaks love to play with domination and submission.
Libras are people-pleasers. Outside of the bedroom, they often spend much of their time mirroring the behavior of others, as the last thing they want is to cause any offense. Being the submissive party allows Libras to get the kind of direction and guidance they wish they could receive constantly. Slow and sensuous usually Libras are happiest when they are told exactly what they can do to make their SO satisfied. Those born under this air sign also have a difficult time making decisions, so if a dominating partner is in charge, a Libra can just relax and enjoy themselves.
Consent and trust matter above all, but in a healthy BDSM relationship, having a partner who’s particularly fond of submitting can make for an incredibly sexy dynamic in bed.
Scorpio (Oct. 23–Nov. 21) -Master
Aw, Scorpio. Don’t be fooled by this water sign — when it comes to getting it on, Scorpio can bring the heat. Intense and passionate, Scorpio is naturally dominant in the bedroom and wants nothing more than to tell their partner exactly what to do. Not one to be sheepish about toys or new positions, Scorpio will set the tone of their sexual encounters, expecting their partner to (consensually!) follow along.
There’s no surprise that the most sexual of all the signs like to take their bedroom play to the extreme.
stream of consciousness “Orange Whip”🍊 to (something of use)🍍Posted: April 17, 2020 Filed under: Entertainment, Home and Garden, Musings | Tags: BDSM, body odor, D/s, dessert, dievca, Disney, erotic, Humor, Life, Love, Master, Orgasm, recipe, Sex, submissive 1 Comment
It all started with the movie, Blues Brothers, and this scene:
How do you make an Orange Whip?
That photo prompted the thought that a Pineapple Whip might be a better choice sexually – why?
Yes, ladies — and men too, for that matter — drinking a good-sized glass of pineapple juice a couple of hours before the deed can help make your bodily fluids taste and even smell better. Fruits, in general, are good because they contain acids and sugars. May 31, 2005 NBC News
Does pineapple make your VAG sweeter?
Pineapple and citrus fruits are associated with a sweeter taste, Schmit said. … The result: Participants whose partners ate 200 grams of pineapple a day reported that the pineapple eaters did, in fact, taste sweeter. According to Schmit, vegan and vegetarian diets could also lead to a sweeter taste. Jul 12, 2016
How long after eating pineapple will you taste better?
“It doesn’t seem to matter whether the pineapple is fresh, canned or juiced,” Helmenstine explains. “The effect is not noticeable immediately after eating a few bites of pineapple. Most respondents saw a definite effect after eating pineapple for several days. Jul 10, 2018
Hmmm~so a Pineapple Whip rather than an Orange Whip
Disney’s Dole Whip was introduced to the Walt Disney World and Disneyland resorts in 1986, the pineapple soft serve has achieved a beloved status.
Disney Dole Whip Recipe
Dole Whip Ingredients:
- 1 scoop of vanilla ice cream
- 4 ounces of pineapple juice
- 2 cups of frozen pineapple
How to Make a Dole Whip:
Add all 3 ingredients to a blender, and blend it until it’s smooth. You can serve it as-is, but Disney suggests putting the blended mixture into a piping bag and piping a swirl into your bowl for the soft-serve look. Top with a cocktail umbrella for an extra tropical touch.
Something of use – a dose of Pineapple for you and your partner – a lovely treat!
D/s dreamingPosted: April 7, 2020 Filed under: D/s Relationship, submissive | Tags: BDSM, dievca, Dominance and submission, dreams, erotic, Fantasy, Kink, Orgasm, Sex 2 Comments
A hint of the dream lingers
throughout the day.
A smell, a touch,
a glimpse of satiation.
Collected wisps and pieces
solidify elusive memories.
to create an Orgasm.
Ummm, busy, please call back later.Posted: February 8, 2020 Filed under: D/s Relationship, Entertainment, Master, Neighborhood Anecdotes (NYC), submissive | Tags: BDSM, cock worship, D/s, dievca, erotic, Fellatio, Life, Love, Master, Sex, Sexy, Submission Leave a comment
Star sign = Sexual PlayPosted: January 29, 2020 Filed under: Entertainment, Relationships | Tags: astrology, BDSM, D/s, dievca, erotic, Fetish, Kink, Life, Love, Sex 3 Comments
Aquarius (Jan 20 – Feb 18)
You’re into rubber play. You love rubber in the bedroom so much that it feels like a second skin.
Best of all, it can help you have another identity when getting down to business. If you haven’t tried it before, best to start small and work your way up.
Pisces (Feb 18 – Mar 20)
With the imagination you’ve got, you’re into role play. Because of this, you can delve into any fantasy.
It makes sure that things are never boring in the bedroom, and you can tap into anyone’s desire.
Aries (Mar 20 – Apr 20)
Authority turns you on. That’s why you’re so into rough play. Think Fifty Shades of Grey in reality.
Things are intense, animalistic and you’ll have a deeper connection than your average sex session. Kinky.
Taurus (Apr 20 – May 21)
You’re all about the physical, and that’s why you’re into body play. You don’t need toys or gadgets to stimulate you, it’s all about the touch, taste, feel and smell.
You also know how to build up to things, and you know exactly where the most sensitive parts are.
Gemini (May 21 – Jun 21)
While Pisces have the imagination, Gemini is into one specific thing. Uniform play. With you, it’s about authority without the pain.
Or you also like it playful and exciting. So much choice.
Cancer (Jun 21 – Jul 23)
This cheeky star sign is into one simple thing – mouth play. While it might not necessarily be a fetish, it’s definitely something they love.
It’s not just about one simple thing either, they’re into anything to do with the mouth and they have plenty of fun doing it.
Leo (Jul 23 – Aug 23)
A fiery star sign that likes to dominate, Leo’s are into power play. They like to be submissive to their partner, and also like to take control.
It’s all about having that power over someone else, very appropriate for the lion.
Virgo (Aug 23 – Sep 23)
They’re all about the excitement, so it’s no surprise that they love toy play. Why not surprise them with your skills with tools?
Virgo’s most likely have a collection of things to play with, so you can be sure they’re never out of new ideas for sex.
Libra (Sep 23 – Oct 23)
It’s all about the response with this star sign, so no prizes for guessing they enjoy sensation play.
For this silky sign, it’s all about the different materials used. Feathers, silk, and fur will all go down a treat.
Scorpio (Oct 23 – Nov 22)
Intensity is the name of the game with a Scorpio, and they’re very into temperature play.
In a world of extremes, Scorpio’s like it either really hot or really cold – there’s no middle ground with these guys. Just don’t play with fire!
Sagittarius (Nov 22 – Dec 22)
Daring situations are the thing, and with that in mind, it’s all about outdoor play. With the chance of being caught, this only brings more excitement.
Senses are heightened and things are more immediate. So fun.
Capricorn (Dec 23 – Jan 20)
Are you a climber, or are you just a Capricorn? Because they’re really into rope play.
Whether that means being tied up or being suspended from a height – or something even kinkier – it’s all about the skill with this one.
So, are the suggestions correct for your or your partner’s sign?
A “Thank You” Cosmo and to Laura Lyne of the Mirror.
Let’s talk about Sex, Baby – actually Arousal~Posted: January 26, 2020 Filed under: Discussion, Entertainment, Relationships | Tags: BDSM, body awareness, D/s, dievca, erotic, Life, Sex, sexual arousal, Sexy, Submission, submissive 3 Comments
What is happening between your legs as well as between your ears during arousal?
Desire usually refers to emotionally wanting to have sex, while arousal refers to the physiological changes in your body that happen when you are sexually excited.
During arousal, your brain is welling up with powerful hormones: dopamine and oxytocin. Dopamine, which comes first, triggers feelings of motivation. I really want to get this person naked. Oxytocin, the ‘Cuddle Hormone’, kicks in later and makes you feel bonded with your partner.
As a pair, the two neurotransmitters explain why we feel instantly — if momentarily — bonded to our partner when we start to feel turned on. During arousal, certain geography of the brain lights up like fireworks. Half a dozen parts of the brain become activated, including the amygdala (associated with emotions), the hippocampus (associated with memory management), and the anterior insula (helps process physical feelings).
Men and women’s brains don’t always respond the same way to arousing stimuli. In a study published in 2015, men and women watched a series of erotic videos while researchers examined their brains using an fMRI. Both men and women reported feelings of arousal while watching the videos, but researchers noticed that men showed more brain activity in the amygdala while women showed hardly any.
More so than men, women tend to be aroused by stimuli that they can “imagine themselves into” — like an erotic story, or an imagined fantasy. Another study that tracked eye movement as people watched pornography, found that both men and women’s eyes were locked on the woman in the film — regardless of their sexual orientation. The theory? Women need to imagine their way “into” the scene, while men are satisfied by focusing on the visual imagery alone.
Researchers also noticed that women’s stimulation of the vagina, clitoris, and nipples all correspond to the same precise area of the sensory cortex — meaning that all of those areas register as erogenous. Yes, confirming the obvious, but arousal has been difficult to measure as there is often a disconnect between what is happening in your genitals, your brain, and your consciousness.
John Bancroft, Ph.D., senior researcher and former director of the Kinsey Institute, has studied how arousal develops, and his research pinpoints something important:
We need to be aware of our own arousal before we can really feel aroused.
“In the male, sexual arousal is typically associated with some degree of penile erection. The man will become aware of this, and focus his attention on the idea of his penis being stimulated,” explains Dr. Bancroft. But, in women, the equivalent — the stiffening of the clitoris — isn’t nearly as noticeable, and “typically the woman is less aware of her genital response unless her genitals are touched.”
Cognitive components of arousal are especially important for women. Just like sensual touching can jumpstart arousal, so too can sensual thought. Reading erotica, watching pornography, fantasizing about an erotic scenario, or even just thinking about sex all trigger a response in the brain — which, in turn, contributes to feelings of arousal. The biggest sex organ in the body is the brain, talking with a lover in a loving, sexy way can cause a man to become erect, or a woman to become wet.
The mechanics of sexual arousal are well-known, but are there things that can take our arousal to the next level? There are all kinds of supposed ‘sexual aids’ in the form of herbs, supplements, and exercise methods that claim to improve libido. e.g. eating oysters, taking ginseng, using THC lube. No conclusive evidence has been found that these items do not work, but there is no good evidence that they do work either.
What is recommended and proven is communication. The sharing of one’s desires is a great arousal jump-starter. Working to shed inhibitions and opening yourself emotionally can help you get into the right headspace to feel turned on. Don’t think of ‘foreplay’ as something completed to get to a conclusive event (orgasm). Think ‘sex play’ — a menu of different activities to create pleasure between partners, sometimes with a formal conclusion, sometimes without.
More ways than one~Posted: January 13, 2020 Filed under: Accessories, Entertainment, Home and Garden | Tags: BDSM, coffee, D/s, dievca, erotic, Fellatio, Life, Love, Monday, Sex, Shopping, Slave, submissive Leave a comment
Greenleaf ClassicsPosted: January 8, 2020 Filed under: Entertainment, Vintage | Tags: art, BDSM, books, D/s, dievca, erotic, Fetish, History, Kink, Sex, smut 1 Comment
Paperback Sex Novels –
what Kindle manages to hide.
The Artwork is Classic.
dievca is not too sure about the storylines. If you are humored here is the link to the website which has documented these …. lost classics.
Good TiredPosted: June 12, 2019 Filed under: D/s Relationship, Master, Musings | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Dominance and submission, energy, erotic, exhaustion, Life, Love, Relationships, Sex, submissive 2 Comments
Why are my Sir and I exhausted and rejuvenated after playing?
8. You’re Just Too Good In Bed To Not Be Exhausted
And then, there’s always this possibility to be considered: You rock her world; she rocks yours and together, you’re rocking the bed, the table, the walls and the entire household. That’s got to explain your levels of exhaustion when all you want to do is lay like a vegetable and bask in the glory of your awesomeness as you laze around the place, going over the entire events of last night or early this morning. Phew! ~mensxp.com
That might explain it! It’s a “good tired” not stress tired.
Wax PlayPosted: June 6, 2019 Filed under: Accessories, D/s Relationship | Tags: BDSM, candles, D/s, dievca, Dominance and submission, erotic, hot wax, Kink, sensation play, sensual, Sex, Shopping, Slave, Submission, submissive, Wax play 8 Comments
Amazingly intense, remarkably sensual, as soothing as a massage or as shocking as a solid impact play strike, wax play can be all of this and more. But anything involving an open flame offers some risks. And it can be messy.
Kinky fun with a lit candle!
Safety should always be first and foremost in your mind when doing anything BDSM-oriented.
A lit candle in your play space – whether it’s decorative or for play – involves care. All it takes is a careless backhand and that candle could tumble to the floor and create chaos – possibly even setting the room on fire.
Have a fire extinguisher handy.
Make sure your space is clean and uncluttered. No silk scarves, decorative tassels and flying bras wandering around… just a table, a lighter, your candle and a willing body.
Remember, if you have any doubts or confusion, don’t do it.
Not All Candles Are Designed for Wax Play
There is only one kind of candle that should be used for wax play.
The candles come under a variety of names but, most commonly, they are called safety candles. You can find them anywhere from pharmacies to hardware stores. They are simple, basic – dull. They have a low melting point and that is why they are the ONLY choice for this type of kinky play.
Other kinds of candles aren’t just wax. They have additives that aren’t designed for wax play, so they can be exceptionally hot and cause serious burns. No votive candles, no religious candles, no large ones, and never beeswax. Beeswax, in particular, burns very hot.
Safety candles are quite soft. Sometimes just rubbing one between your fingers will cause it to melt. The softer the candle, the lower it’s melting point. This is what makes them great for wax play – when the wax lands on someone, it won’t be dangerously hot and it will cool down relatively quickly.
Nowadays, you can buy candles designed for wax play (click above). Just always try out the candle on your own skin before using it on someone else.
Try Your Candle on Your Own Skin, but…
Test your candle on the palm of your hand or thigh. Keep in mind that everyone’s pain threshold can be wildly different. You might think it’s fine, yet it could still be too much for your partner. Communicate and if the person you are dropping hot wax on says its “too much”, listen and react accordingly.
Prepare the Skin
Something to consider – hair.
One of the unique things about hot wax is that it can, with training, experience, and skill, be put almost anywhere. Remember that when you put wax on hair, it cools and when you try to remove it, the hair tends to come off with the wax.
Hair removal might be in order. Even with clean skin, it’s always a good idea to apply a thin coat of non-scented oil. Non-scented because you don’t want to add an allergic reaction to the mix. Baby oil or coconut oil might be good options.
The distance of the Candle from the Skin
We have a safe place, a fire extinguisher at the ready, the safety candle and a person, all set and shaved and/or lubricated. Let’s get to waxing!
The distance from the flame to a person’s skin is crucial. Hold the candle a little lower than a foot from your partner’s skin, any closer and you risk the wax being too hot when it lands, any farther and it can splash.
Hold the candle parallel to your partner. If you tip the candle too far back, so the flame is above your hand, the wax is just going to hit you and not them. Holding it directly down could cause the wax itself to actually burn.
Move slowly and carefully over a small area, taking time to go over areas where you have already laid down some drops. Wax play is the most intense when it first lands but as the wax cools, the sensation becomes less intense – and as the wax builds up it gives a sensual feeling of warmth.
If your bottom reacts negatively– – along the lines of “Get this shit off me!” – don’t apply water. Rub your hand along where the wax has been dribbled. This will spread the hot wax and cool it down quickly.
Where to Wax?
The human body has all kinds of great places for wax play. The back is great, as are breasts and nipples. It can be dribbled on an ass – especially before, during, or after some impact play. It can even be used on cock and balls: be extra careful with that territory. Breasts (person lying down) can be extra fun as you can create a mold of the person’s nipple in the wax. Thighs are also good – shaving is probably a good idea.
Slowly and sensually, you’ve laid down a growing area of wax. Your bottom is feeling the warmth, the lovely intensity – but then it’s time for them to come back to reality…
Cleaning Up After Wax Play
The messy part.
Because of this, many kinky play spaces do not allow wax play. If you aren’t playing at home, be sure to ask whoever is in charge of the space if it’s allowed.
At home, an old sheet is a great thing to have under the person you are waxing. When the scene is done, you can just gently brush off the wax and have them carefully stand up. Then roll up the sheet and throw it away.
Even with precautions, wax can end up in all kinds of places. Be careful if you have a rug or carpeting, getting wax out of either can be a real nightmare. Doing wax play on a space with a wood floor can be a benefit. Just be sure to have some pillows around in case your bottom needs to sit down or gets dizzy.
That concludes a hot time with wax! Remember that you are dealing with an open flame and if you have any concerns — light the candle of knowledge (research more) before playing with wax.
A "Thank You" to Kinkly.com.
Following directions…Posted: May 15, 2019 Filed under: D/s Relationship, Master | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Dominance and submission, Dominant, Elegant, erotic, Life, Love, Sex, submissive 2 Comments
Your Sir said to ‘hold tight’.
WHERE KINK MEETS COSMETICS @ Ricky’s NYC Beauty & Pin-UpsPosted: May 5, 2019 Filed under: Accessories, Discussion | Tags: BDSM, beauty, D/s, dievca, Kink, Life, NYC, Pin-Up, primping, Ricky's NYC, Sex, sex toys, Shopping, submissive 3 Comments
“It was the funniest thing in the world to see a customer buying a shampoo, a toothpaste, and a dildo. Where else are you going to find that?” Nowhere except the famous Ricky’s NYC.
dievca has been riding her bike everywhere in the NYC and it makes stopping, shopping or wandering the City harder to do. One of the stores that is no longer in her neighborhood is Ricky’s. she hasn’t visited a Ricky’s store in a long time and she was worried that they were going out of business. Turns out they are re-organizing….
Here’s how Ricky’s describes itself:
An edgy, ultra-hip “beauty shop” specializing in unique fashion accessories, cosmetics, and beauty supplies, Ricky’s NYC has been a part of New York’s urban chic culture for nearly two decades. From style-conscious teenagers and their suburbanite moms to Hollywood celebrities and their professional stylists, Ricky’s NYC plays host to a diverse, cult-like following of clientele.
A veritable one stop super shop for everything beauty Ricky’s NYC transcends trends while inspiring and emphasizing individuality. With products ranging from professional hair care to temporary tattoos, Ricky’s NYC’s eclectic offerings make headlines and grace the pages of major beauty publications every month. Ricky’s NYC is synonymous with style, sensibility and funky sophistication.
Here’s how dievca describes it:
dievca used to be able to go into Ricky’s and buy SweetSpot Labs Grapefruit personal wipes, a Chi Hair Straightener, Spanx Tights, a Rabbit Vibrator, Penis Straws and Murad Pomegranate Extract Face Cleaner:
Following in the footsteps of his father, operator of drugstores called Love, Ricky Kenig opened the first Ricky’s NYC in 1989 with his brother Todd, who, by his own account, built the retailer to 28 stores and $55 million in revenues by 2012. Ricky’s NYC is now controlled by a private owner declining to be named. Lisa Aquilino is now the President. Her mission has been to restructure Ricky’s slowly and gently to become a better version of itself. Prior to Aquilino, the president’s role at Ricky’s NYC was occupied by Michael Long, Dominick Costello and Richard Parrott.
That said, the Ricky’s on the UWS seemed to be re-organizing its floor space and consolidating. The “sex shop” part was no longer in existence and dievca didn’t see a Hair Salon – but not all Ricky’s have hair salons. There was an extensive “sale” area which allowed dievca to pick-up some expensive skin care items for less and made her smile with this Beauty & Pin-Up Haircare line on sale:
Something excellent for the 1950’s Household Kink submissive.
Face DownPosted: February 17, 2019 Filed under: D/s Relationship, Master, Submission | Tags: anal plug, anal sex, BDSM, bondage, collar, cuffs, D/s, dievca, Dominance and submission, erotic, Life, Master, Orgasm, Sex, submissive, Sun 8 Comments
While waiting for my Master to arrive at my apartment, I fell asleep on my belly. I must have looked like a starfish, all spread out in the sun. His Collar and Cuffs were on at His request.
Master had let himself in and must have quietly connected the straps to the corners of my bed and gently connected the straps to the ankle cuffs. I didn’t wake up until he place a vibrator directly on my clit. At that moment, I tried to roll over and my spread legs wouldn’t let me, Master said, “Stay on your belly” and used the vibrator to cause an orgasm.
I felt lube drip on to my ass and Master worked it into my asshole with his finger. He popped in an anal plug, then left to wash his hands.
” Get on your hands and suck me, dievca”, I worshiped His cock in that awkward spread position until it was hard.
Master placed two pillows under my hips, grabbed my ass and plunged into my wet pussy.
Going deep and pressing on the anal plug. I shuddered once, twice and orgasmed. Master kept moving in/out and stopped to tell me to move on His Cock. He snaked His hand around my ass to my clit and played with it until I orgasmed, again. This orgasm was so hard the anal plug went flying out.
I felt Master put lube on His thumb and he started to play in my ass. I felt the larger glass anal plug replace the first plug. Stretching me open.
Master washed His hands and Cock, only to return for me to suck Him hard and put a condom on. He unclipped my ankles, removed the glass plug, added lube and guided His Cock into my ass, one inch at a time.
By now I was dripping and my asshole was opening up.
Master fully entered my ass and started to move, holding my hips. I orgasmed twice and started to ride Master’s Cock. Master handed me the vibrator and said, “Hold this to your clit.” After a bit of time, I began to buck violently with the strength of my orgasms, Master held my hips for the ride. I finally squeezed Master out and fell flat on my tummy with exhaustion. He went to remove the condom and wash His hands, then lay down to hold me.
After some time, I asked Master’s permission to suck Him. Permission granted, he grew large in my throat. He flipped me over, on to my back, and came into my pussy to orgasm. We passed out for 30 minutes, in the sun.
What’s your “O -Face”? (sex sells)Posted: January 15, 2019 Filed under: Entertainment, Home and Garden | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Life, Master, o-face, Orgasm, Sex, sex sells, Sexy Advertisements, submissive, Three Olives Vodka 4 Comments
There’s not a lot of dignity in Sex. Funny faces, awkward positions, random fluids, strange noises.
Master tells dievca that one of His greatest pleasures is causing His dievca’s multiple orgasms. she wonders what her “o-face” looks like to Master. she knows what her hoo-ha feels like ~ exquisite. And she knows what Master looks like when He orgasms – amazing.
That leads to the question:
Anywhere you want it~Posted: December 29, 2018 Filed under: D/s Relationship, Home and Garden | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, doggy style, Dominant, Elegant, erotic, Life, Master, Sex, Submission, submissive 5 Comments
The kitchen table,
the bathroom sink,
the hallway bench,
the lounge chair,
An ‘anywhere you want it’ versatile position for your Sir or Mistress.
dievca’s favorite? Looking out on to the City through floor to ceiling windows.
Master has a hint of the exhibitionist in Him.
Has this happened to you?Posted: December 8, 2018 Filed under: Analysis, Disasters, Master | Tags: accident, BDSM, D/s, dievca, Dominance and submission, Dominant, Kink, Love, Master, NYC, Sex, submissive 5 Comments
dievca and Master connected this week to celebrate the end of dievca’s Jury Duty. A simple evening: Prosecco, Dinner, Apple Crisp, Sex.
The sex got a bit interesting when dievca went all in and raised her head up to meet Master at a quick clip and Master dropped his head down to meet dievca at the same time. dievca heard a….
as her forehead connected with Master’s nose and blood dripped onto her chest. A flying leap out of the bed brought Master a towel and a dodge into the kitchen added some ice.
Master went into the bathroom to clean-up and dievca checked His nose to see what damage was done. she didn’t feel anything on the bridge of Master’s nose and he said he wasn’t in pain. The crunch might have been underneath and more internal. Master grabbed dievca’s hand and lead her back to bed to continue on, albeit at a more gentle rate.
Can’t let a little blood stop the Joy.