Spoke too soon~
Posted: March 12, 2023 Filed under: Discussion | Tags: BDSM, confusion, D/s, Daylight Saving Time, dievca, Life, Morning, sleep, time Leave a commentdievca woke at 8:21 am. she NEVER wakes up so late.
she’s also out-of-it.
Oh, the microwave clock says 7:21 am. Time change.
A good night’s sleep
Posted: October 6, 2022 Filed under: D/s Relationship, Discussion, Entertainment | Tags: advice, aftercare, Ass, BDSM, D/s, dievca, Harvard Medical School, health benefits, Humor, Life, Love, pillow, sleep Leave a commentSome of dievca’s best sleep is when, after Play, she is tucked into her Master’s armpit – making an earmark on His arm.
That earmark is pretty drastic.
Perhaps an earmark on an a** would be better.
Or following HARVARD MEDICAL SCHOOL’s “8 secrets to a good night’s sleep”:
1. Exercise
Going for a brisk daily walk won’t just trim you down, it will also keep you up less often at night. Exercise boosts the effect of natural sleep hormones such as melatonin. A study in the journal Sleep found that postmenopausal women who exercised for about three-and-a-half hours a week had an easier time falling asleep than women who exercised less often. Just watch the timing of your workouts. Exercising too close to bedtime can be stimulating. Morning workouts that expose you to bright daylight will help the natural circadian rhythm.
2. Reserve bed for sleep and sex
Don’t use your bed as an office for answering phone calls and responding to emails. Also avoid watching late-night TV there. The bed needs to be a stimulus for sleeping, not for wakefulness. Reserve your bed for sleep and sex.
3. Keep it comfortable
Television isn’t the only possible distraction in your bedroom. Ambience can affect your sleep quality too. Make sure your bedroom is as comfortable as possible. Ideally you want a quiet, dark, cool environment. All of these things promote sleep onset.
4. Start a sleep ritual
When you were a child and your mother read you a story and tucked you into bed every night, this comforting ritual helped lull you to sleep. Even in adulthood, a set of bedtime rituals can have a similar effect. Rituals help signal the body and mind that it’s coming to be time for sleep. Drink a glass of warm milk. Take a bath. Or listen to calming music to unwind before bed.
5. Eat—but not too much
A grumbling stomach can be distracting enough to keep you awake, but so can an overly full belly. Avoid eating a big meal within two to three hours of bedtime. If you’re hungry right before bed, eat a small healthy snack (such as an apple with a slice of cheese or a few whole-wheat crackers) to satisfy you until breakfast.
6. Avoid alcohol and caffeine
If you do have a snack before bed, wine and chocolate shouldn’t be part of it. Chocolate contains caffeine, which is a stimulant. Surprisingly, alcohol has a similar effect. It makes you a little sleepy, but it’s actually a stimulant and it disrupts sleep during the night. Also stay away from anything acidic (such as citrus fruits and juices) or spicy, which can give you heartburn.
7. De-stress
The bills are piling up and your to-do list is a mile long. Daytime worries can bubble to the surface at night. Stress is a stimulus. It activates the fight-or-flight hormones that work against sleep. Give yourself time to wind down before bed. Learning some form of the relaxation response can promote good sleep and can also reduce daytime anxiety. To relax, try deep breathing exercises. Inhale slowly and deeply, and then exhale.
8. Get checked
An urge to move your legs, snoring, and a burning pain in your stomach, chest, or throat are symptoms of three common sleep disrupters—restless legs syndrome, sleep apnea, and gastroesophageal reflux disease or GERD. If these symptoms are keeping you up at night or making you sleepy during the day, see your doctor for an evaluation.
Wiped Out
Posted: June 1, 2022 Filed under: Body Type, submissive | Tags: 1940's, BDSM, booster shot, COVID-19, d-s, dievca, exhaustion, Life, Master, sleep, tired, vintage photo Leave a comment
Master warned His dievca — she listened, but now she needs to crawl into bed.
The 2nd Booster
dievca wanted it before traveling to Europe.
Sleep.
Photo: Movie Still from Otte Akkorder (1944) a Danish film.
I’m up, I’m up!
Posted: March 30, 2022 Filed under: Discussion, Home and Garden | Tags: BDSM, behavior, D/s, dievca, friendship, Humor, Life, Morning, Routine, sleep Leave a commentdievca caught up with a friend who knew her as a “Night Owl” – they laughed, things have changed.
Via the Cleveland Clinic and LiveScience:
Chronotype is determined by a combination of nature and nurture, scientists have found. On the nature side, a number of genes are known to play roles in determining whether a person prefers to be awake late at night or early in the morning, Drerup told Live Science. Hundreds of genes are associated with being a morning person, according to a 2019 study published in the journal Nature Communications. These genes influence a person’s circadian rhythm, or their natural sleep-wake cycle, which leads to their chronotype.
Your environment also plays a large role. People tend to participate in daily activities that reinforce their chronotype, Drerup said. For example, night owls feel more productive and alert at night, so they tend to exercise and socialize in the evening. These activities are stimulating and reinforce the person’s tendency to stay up late.
Because the environment is a factor in determining whether a person is a night owl or a morning person, it is possible to change your sleep-wake cycle. If you want to wake up earlier, make the change gradually. Drerup recommended slowly shifting your wake-up alarm earlier by 15 to 20 minutes every few days over the course of several weeks until you’ve adjusted to your ideal schedule.
Where do you fall?
Posted: June 22, 2021 Filed under: Analysis, Entertainment, Relationships | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Family, genetics, Humor, Live, Love, Parents, perimenopause, sleep, submissive Leave a comment
Graphic from sleepjunkie.com
Research shows we are actually genetically predisposed to be either a morning or an evening person. According to chronobiology (the study of time in living things), cells in everything from plants to people work on their own internal ‘clock’.
So, when you had a Father who woke up at 4 am every morning for years after driving the boys to hockey practice and a Mother who stayed up reading or doing chores until 1 am and would still prefer that schedule, where does a dievca fall on that genetic predisposition? Note: One brother is up at 4 am, the other is up until 2 am…
This question is lurking in dievca’s mind as she tries to get better quality sleep during her perimenopause phase…
Well~ work dictates and this Summer is asking for 6 am starts~
dievca will follow her Dad’s guidance and be an Early Bird – at least until she catches her second wind at 10 pm one night throw the best laid plans into Night Owl mode.
A grueling week has ended.
Posted: April 16, 2021 Filed under: Entertainment, submissive | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, exhaustion, Sexy, sleep, Submission, tired, work Leave a comment
Weighted Blankets helping hot flashes? (Something of use)
Posted: March 26, 2021 Filed under: Accessories, Discussion, Home and Garden | Tags: aging, BDSM, blanket, D/s, dievca, Humor, Life, perimenopause, practical, sleep, something of use Leave a commentAlthough other medical conditions can cause them, hot flashes most commonly are due to menopause — the time when menstrual periods become irregular and eventually stop. In fact, hot flashes are the most common symptom of the menopausal transition.
During a hot flash, you might have:
- A sudden feeling of warmth spreading through your chest, neck and face
- A flushed appearance with red, blotchy skin
- Rapid heartbeat
- Perspiration, mostly on your upper body
- A chilled feeling as the hot flash lets up
- Feelings of anxiety
The frequency and intensity of hot flashes vary among women. Hot flashes may be mild or so intense that they disrupt daily activities. They can happen at any time of day or night. Nighttime hot flashes (night sweats) may wake you from sleep and can cause long-term sleep disruptions.
Weighted blankets are therapeutic blankets that weigh between 5 to 30 pounds. The pressure from the extra weight mimics a therapeutic technique called deep pressure stimulation.
Deep pressure stimulation uses hands-on pressure to relax the nervous system. Doing so may help:
- relieve pain
- lessen anxiety
- improve mood
Deep pressure stimulation doesn’t have to be completely hands on. With weighted blankets, the same pressure comes from having the blanket wrapped around the body.
dievca learned about weighted blankets from a friend in Europe who is a Therapist – they issue the blankets to their patients. dievca bought one because the color made her happy, it matched her bedding and she thought she would try it while napping~
she didn’t realize that it would became important a part of her strategy to get deep sleep during perimenopause~
Numbers – as a trend, don’t lie.
Though dievca sleeps 7-8 hours a night — according to her watch, she wasn’t going into the “deep sleep” phase for very long. she could feel that she needed something more for healing and weight loss. dievca modified her eating/drinking patterns, bed time consistency, showering pattern, etc. Not working. The “hot flashes” got her at the end of a sleep cycle throughout the night, every time – and minimal deep sleep (5-10 min a night) occurred only at the beginning of the night.
Enter the weighted blanket….
Add 15 min – 1 hour of deep sleep.
“Hot Flashes” still occur towards morning – but there are less blocks of wake-up time between sleep cycles.
You may be asking – “Doesn’t the weighted blanket make you hotter?”
dievca’s Bearaby Velvet Napper has a large weave with “holes” for air flow and she pushes it off as much as any other blanket during a “hot flash”. You do have to be careful because the blanket is heavy and one can strain a muscle if you don’t pay attention. (Yes, it happened.) But, the time underneath that weighted blanket yields longer and consistent “deep sleep” which is where a body can heal.
Something of use.
Sexy Sleep Eyes
Posted: January 8, 2021 Filed under: D/s Relationship, submissive, Vintage | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, exhaustion, Life, Love, Marilyn Monroe, Master, Relationships, Sexy, sleep Leave a comment
Clash By Night 1952 Marilyn Monroe
Master, it’s been a long two weeks. Your dievca might just need to sleep.
After the nap, she’ll look at you with sexy sleepy eyes and ask,
“How may I serve my Master?” Read the rest of this entry »
As we FALL FWD to Daylight Savings – a sleep analysis
Posted: November 1, 2020 Filed under: Analysis, Home and Garden, lingerie | Tags: BDSM, D/s, Daylight Savings Time, dievca, nude, pajamas, Presentation Outfits, sleep, Sleeping, submissive Leave a commentWith the extra hour of sleep…
Do you sleep in the nude?
Why? or why not?
A survey conducted by OnePoll on behalf of Mattress Advisor found that no matter what their choice of sleepwear, all respondents listed their top reasons behind their choices as comfortability, temperature issues (being either too hot or too cold when sleeping), and relaxation.
Twenty-six percent of pajama-wearers said they prefer to be clothed so they don’t have to wash their sheets as frequently!
This leads to the discussion that both parties seem to keep one particular unhealthy habit – reporting they only wash their sheets an average of three times a month.
Note: The general rule of thumb is to wash your sheets at least once a week. The average person produces 26 gallons of sweat in bed each year – that’s about nine fluid ounces each night. Continuing to sleep on the same sheets night after night not only poses health risks with bacteria build-up and can also impact the quality of sleep you’re getting.
Although 36% of those who sleep nude said it’s healthier to sleep naked, the fear of accidentally being seen in their birthday suit was a concern of 24% of pajama-wearers.
Three in 10 of all respondents said they felt pressure to look attractive when hitting the hay with their significant other in the early stages of their relationship.
Fifty-four percent of pajama-wearers even said they changed their sleeping attire altogether to impress their significant other.
In fact, despite wearing pajamas or not, respondents said it took an average of three months to feel their most comfortable about their clothing choice when going to sleep with their partner.
Sleeping nude does seem to improve your sex life, however, at an average of five times a week compared to four times a week for those who wear pajamas.
At the end of the day, however, both parties agreed that losing their pajamas increases intimacy between partners – at 71%.
Faceplant
Posted: October 16, 2020 Filed under: submissive | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, exhaustion, Humor, Life, sleep 4 CommentsIt doesn’t happen often – but sometimes you end up face down, a** up at 9 pm, and don’t wake until 7:30 am. Its not COVID-19, it was just a week.
Anyone else?
The energy you expend
Posted: May 3, 2020 Filed under: Home and Garden, submissive, Vintage | Tags: 1950's Household Kink, BDSM, dievca, energy drain, Humor, Life, photo, retro, sleep Leave a comment
has to be regenerated, somehow.
dievca passed out early and hard, woke up late, and is re-energized.
Happy Sunday to you!
and sometimes…
Posted: December 6, 2019 Filed under: Discussion, submissive | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, erotic, exhaustion, Life, photo, sleep, submissive 1 Comment
…you pass out because you are just that exhausted.
dievca hopes you slept as hard as she did.
The sting in the tail~
Posted: January 20, 2019 Filed under: Analysis | Tags: airplane, BDSM, chicken noodle soup, D/s, dievca, Health, Life, NYC, sleep, submissive, travel, virus. common cold 9 CommentsSometimes traveling goes well. Easy flights, no wait at the baggage claim area, the rental car choice is excellent. That makes your trip roll along smoothly.
But, air travel can be likened to a scorpion.
There is a sting in the tail…
Catching a cold.
Microbiologists have tested planes and found that germs are commonplace, and can survive for hours or days after the passenger who brought them on board has departed.
Some of the 200 or so viruses that can cause the common cold can infect people for up to 18 hours after they have left the body, and flu viruses can infect people for up to eight hours after being let loose.
As well as causing the common cold and influenza, these bugs and viruses can cause everything from skin diseases and upset stomachs. Studies have found MRSA and E. Coli can live on the plane for over a week.
Where are the dirtiest places on a plane?
- Tray table
- Overhead air vents
- Toilet flush buttons
- Seat belt buckles
A 2013 report conducted for the Federal Aviation Administration in the US concluded that while fresh air is germ-free at high altitudes, aircraft HEPA filters effectively remove bacteria and viruses, as well as dust and fungi.
However, there could be a greater risk of exposure when the plane is parked at the gate, when auxiliary power units generally provide ventilation and not the aircraft’s own system. This helps germs to spread through the cabin more easily.
Another culprit could be the low relative humidity of cabin air. The typical relative humidity on planes is around 11 per cent. Some research suggests that low humidity interrupts the Mucociliary Clearance System, which consists of a thin layer of mucus and tiny hairs in the nose. This protective system traps viruses and bacteria and moves them from the nose to the throat, where they are swallowed and destroyed by acid in the stomach.
Because this system no longer works properly, bacteria and viruses get easier access to your lungs.
Whatever way it gets to you…you run the risk of becoming sick on a flight from directly inhaling particles in the air from someone’s coughing or sneezing. You can also become sick if you touch an infected surface and then touch your eyes, mouth or nasal passages.
(Note: dievca got the armrests and toilet handle – but she missed the tray table and seat buckle with her cleaning activities. And she sat at the gate for an extra hour on the last flight. Sigh.)
dievca’s solution is this:

Photo: Guy Jacques 09/2008 Sexy Sleep
And this:
(click on the photo for the recipe)
Enter my coccon~
Posted: October 27, 2018 Filed under: Entertainment, Home and Garden | Tags: 1950's Household Kink, BDSM, bedding, cozy, D/s, dievca, Life, Love, Marilyn Monroe, pleasure, sleep, submissive 4 Comments
Entangled in the sheets.
Enmired in the depths.
Soft fabrics, cozy temperatures,
I won’t emerge soon.
10.5 hours and I’m still reading in bed….my coffee craving will kick me out.
(Photo: Marilyn Monroe by Milton Greene 1953)
Becoming the Worm~
Posted: October 26, 2018 Filed under: Home and Garden, Poetry | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Early Bird, Ethan Allen, Life, Love, NYC, Ralph Lauen, Shel Silverstein, sleep, submissive 8 Comments
Shel Silverstein Poem
~This little worm is digging in and sleeping the morning away~
You? Have a good day.
The composite elements of dievca’s bed:
Ethan Allen, Ralph Lauren, The Company Store. Hotel Collection
How’s the weather?
Posted: June 23, 2017 Filed under: D/s Relationship, Home and Garden | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, erotic, Life, Master, NYC, Relationships, sleep, submissive, Summer heat 7 CommentsM.
Starfished nude on the bed.
No covers and just a fan moving the air.
Wafting it past my moist skin, causing my nipples to pucker.
It’s hot in the City.
d.
Yes…I think I will…
Posted: January 31, 2017 Filed under: Entertainment, Home and Garden | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Life, Morning, NYC, sleep, submissive 11 CommentsDragged in by the Cat
Posted: May 15, 2016 Filed under: Disasters | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Europe, Life, NYC, sleep, submissive, travel 11 Comments
Greek Kitty Yawning
Did you know that the Brussels Airport workers went on strike last week?
(Politico: Brussels Airport Baggage Handlers On Strike)
Didn’t really make the news in the USA, huh?
Sorta made the news in Europe.
Asia?
A little.
Made big news for dievca when it caused her to miss her flight — and she had to buy another ticket home. Some good came out of it, she got to stay with a friend on the Amsterdam Canals — there was fantastic weather in the Nederlands. Beer, wine, Indonesian Food, sunsets and good company tends to ease the pain a bit.
But the cheapest flight took her on a wild ride and she fell into bed after missing a lot of sleep. dievca would like to think that she looked like Audrey — but she really doubts it.
Hope your travels have been smoother.
XO
d.